Cruising for Dick

No, but a guy at my gym does it and has for years and years. He's almost 40 and he told me he was straight about five years ago (he's flaming), I still think he's closeted. From my observation, closeted gay men are exceptionally promiscuous.

Is he 100 years old?

OP = I find it to be very sleazy. Not being judgemental.

Grow up you puritan prisspot.

I love that on Datalounge not wanting to fuck in a park or public toilet makes one a "puritan prisspot."

R4 Can you not read two consecutive sentences, and see the delusion?

OP Your friend needs a life and a good psychiatrist.

I got fisted at the Piggly Wiggly.

Husband has a friend who is like this. He will blow at least one guy a day in person by going to parks or whatever, but even that's not enough. While he is cruising, he'll be on the Internet trying to find guys to do phone sex. So, basically, he sets in his car and jerks it while he is waiting to find some guy to blow. He is very proud and vocal about this and will choose cruising instead of other activities. I think it's a bit disturbing, but the husband stays friends with him because they experienced some trauma together.

Clean up in aisle 7!

Finding men in the woods....at least you're spending time in the outdoors not sitting at home watching soaps.

Guys who constantly cruise for dick in public are creepy, no one wants to watch you fondle yourself while they're playing with their kids in the park.

Hisssssssss

R5's favorite word is "delusion" - she's posted it over and over again in half a dozen threads. I think someone needs her Haldol!

This is what happens when you don't hook up in a normal manner and feel the need, even in this day and age, to fuck strangers in parks.

You know that we have bars and apps and websites galore for you to look for dick? We also have these things called houses and hotels that we can fuck in. Does that not register with certain people? Sex addicts make the GAY AND LESBIAN community look bad.

IDIOTS.

A buddy of mine was harassed in Marie park by a cop and all he was doing was sitting on a bench and watching his phone. When some woman walked up and confronted the cop he fucked off. They're targeting anyone they assume is gay even if they're just sitting there minding their own business. Division 22 is the most corrupt station in Toronto so they probably figure this will make them look good. If you're a single man or a male couple you will be harassed. If you're an opposite sex couple or with children you'll be left alone.

Good to know, R15.

How does anal cruising work when there's no lube around? Serious question.

it's called spit

Mother always used to say that a good bottom generates his own lube.

This is a beautiful way to show appreciation for god's creations.

Guys who have sex in public places are obviously disturbed somehow.

In Trump's America, police forces will be stepping up sting ops with hot cops to fill privately run prisons with" lavender perverts."

I don't understand people like this. Don't they have skin desease gotten from this behavior or other forms of decease?

Yes R1, I've noticed that the more closeted, the hornier. This is very puzzling, but there you have it.

I used to do this in my 20s. Good times.

Couldn't get dick via the standard methods, R25?

It's just Gridr in public ya nervous nellies

Yeah, whipping your dick out in public is just like using a phone app R27.lol

You're fucking disgusting, R27. You give gay men a bad name with your public shit. Washrooms are for SHITTING, public parks are for WALKING AROUND IN, not FUCKING.

Pathetic. Do you have your balls hanging out during pride so a bunch of kids can see them too?

So is it mostly older guys at these cruising places?

Or is it just guys so closeted they won't set up a Grindr?

It's usually older guys and bug chasers judging from the videos that pop up on xtube.

Great, the aids infected populace that needs to die off is fucking everyone else over again.

Install a gay app on my phone? Wouldn't that make me gay?

AIDS is a whore's disease.

Thanks R31

I honestly would have not idea what to do or where to go. I mean I've seen shit about foot tapping in bathroom stalls or guys in parks stroking it, but I'd probably just laugh.

In 20176, cruising for park sex supports the closet or sexual compulsives who need to make minor adjustments to cope with their disorder appropriately. I'm amazed anybody defends it.

The last time I cruised in a park or a T room I was in my teens. I only did the baths a handful of times as well. I was lucky I suppose,I never had to "work" at getting laid very much. Being openly gay and good looking to boot made it seem like taking candy from a baby . Of course,those days are gone forever,but they sure were fun while they lasted.

Before apps, public places like bathhouses, parks and bookstores and bathrooms and bars were the only places you could find somebody to have sex with. For a few years, this mixed with online chat like AOL and Yahoo and Gay.com, and things were still pretty fun. The guys you met at these places were motivated and horny and in most all cases ready to have sex right away. Going for a walk and being on your feet is enlivening, and the fresh air and sunshine can contribute to the enjoyment of sex. Nevertheless, the perceived convenience of websites along with Craigslist became so popular that business dropped off at the public places, causing many to close.

There was a real downside to this though. The added privacy and simplicity of app use made people impossibly choosy. Rather than being able to size somebody up by seeing their entire body in public, and taking note of their body language, and perhaps making some brief small talk, now all you have are 640 X 480 pixel pics of shirtless torsos and pimply buttocks, accompanied by retardred millennial tropes like "sup?" and "N 2?" Closeted married shut-ins use apps as a form of surrogate sex and troll online sites continually. Many of the people online are already exhausted by hours of private masturbation and/or meth use, and are thereby indisposed to having sex, frustrating those of us who are actually looking to get laid.

Moreover, getting one's sex education by watching hours of porn have destroyed people's ability to have real sex, by filling them with unrealistic expectations of what an acceptable sex partner is, and simultaneously causing them to believe that odd fetishes, positions, and non-sex things like ejaculating on asses and faces and using masturbatory devices constitute sex.

Fortunately the tide is turning to the benefit of people who enjoy real sex. My city has seen a resurgence of public sex places. There are two bathhouses and over 20 ABSes. Reports are that business is great with a wide variety of guys in attendance, all united in their sexually frustrated disgust with apps. Guys are even having sex in bars again. Although I don't partake, I hear many men are meeting in parks again too.

It was disgusting in the 1950's and it is disgusting now. Public toilets are for taking a shit with Larry Craig. Bath house, gay bar is where the action should be.

[quote]Guys who have sex in public places are obviously disturbed somehow.

Bitch, some of us are just out walking our dogs.

BTW, are you in London? Are you hot?

I'm leaving this thread. It is not meeting my needs.

Enjoy the Renaissance of public sex R38, just be sure to bring bail money for when you get busted.lol

A guy I worked with was always beating the bushes for public sex in Prospect Park, and one day he was murdered while doing it.

Another guy I know was beaten to within an inch of his life in The Ramble in Central Park. He got one of his legs broken while at it. I saw him with his crutch four months later hobbling across CPW at dusk! Sexual compulsivity is a sad compulsion. You should see some of the guys they have to sleep with and blow if you need fresh kill on a daily basis. No thanks.

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Only a FOOL would hook up with a young black man these days. Not even taking into account the hiv stats, the fact they are responsible for so much of the crime rates should be deterrent enough. Sorry,I know how that sounds,but its reality. Hook ups in general are dangerous,better to hire a pro !

R45 is about 87 years old.

Fuck off, you racist trash.

And to answer the obvious questions: I'm white.

Did you just buy some riverfront property on DENIAL,R46? Read some statistics,facts are facts and all of the liberal apologists cant change them. I have nothing against black men,I dated and enjoyed them during my life,but they have changed in the last 30 years,and no one convinced me of that,I witnessed it. Id date a 40-50 year old black man in a second,but a young one? Not on your life.

[quote]Fortunately the tide is turning to the benefit of people who enjoy real sex. My city has seen a resurgence of public sex places.

Is your city in Narnia?

Cruising for sex in public places is a dying scene, everyone knows this. It barely even exists that much anymore.

It made sense in a different era. Most guys were closeted, many had a women at home. There was no easy way to meet other gay men.

Now? There is no excuse for having sex in public places were your could disturb other people.

And I'm no prude, I've done things at The Cock I wouldn't like to advertise.

But actually out in real public?! Hell no.

r47

But you're stereotyping them...

Oh well, more young black dick/ass for me!

Yes, r47, the overwhelming majority of young black men are criminals. No, you're not racist at all.

Not my style to cruise for dick outside. I would just be happy to sneak a peek at dick while pissing at public urinals. Goddamn ban those horrible urinal dividers.

If you have sex in public you're a creep, accept it and get some help.

i'm not a creep i'm retro

So an old creep?

I'm getting a little tired of this, guys.

Cruising for sex is on the wane, I'm sure. But public sex? I don't think so. If anything it's on the rise with the simultaneous increase in exhibitionism spurred by social media and tube sites.

A FWB and I regularly hookup in his car. We're neither closeted nor whores. We just like banging in his car.

There will always be gross people with boundary issues, hopefully they'll become fewer and further between.

Straight closeted cock, sometimes very hot cock, are most available in the spontaneous locations for getting your dick sucked: department store bathrooms, parks, adult bookstores, etc.

If you are hot for drunk straight bros, these are the places to lurk.

R58 Thats such a classy site

On a related note, this is how I got my stage name.

I've enjoyed outdoor cruising for years. The places I have frequented are discreet and serve as social meeting places as well as hook up areas for the gay men who go there. Yes, there are some married or closeted men who go there but most people I know are not judgemental about that. I know that hook up apps are popular but I would rather not invite a stranger into my home or waste time going out of my way to meet a stranger who may not, after all, be attractive to me. I find the exaggerated moral repugnance to cruising that some here express to be puzzling. Is there really a moral difference between hooking up in a cruising area and hooking up in a gay bar or on an app ? Not to me. I do avoid cruising in public restrooms and the like because I don't want to be arrested. I wish that some of these people with harsh things to say would let us know how and where they meet other men. Are you all celibate or monogamous ?

Most of these people are unfuckable, R61, which is the real reason they are so angry. Were they to show up at any public sex spot, everybody would flee like a fire in a movie theater.

I used to cruise in parks in my area, and occasionally meet somebody at a safe bookstore in the next town. As online stuff took over, these places became empty. In the beginning, hooking up online was fun and easy, but it's neither anymore. Everybody is too picky and they demand a bunch of unclothed pics and endless one-line chit-chat. It's too much work.

Now the offline places are taking over again. I just checked CL M4M this morning. It's a wasteland of bag whores, obvious crazies, "massage therapists," super-kinky types, super-picky types, and the super obese, posting their ads over and over again. Nobody flags ads here.

There's a state park north of Boston that has been a popular cruising site for years. I've hooked up with countless quality guys there, some of whom became longtime fuck buddies.

Have fun waving your willy in public R61. lol

[quote]I got fisted at the Piggly Wiggly.

"I Got Fisted at the Piggly Wiggly" sounds like one of those novelty songs that Betty Hutton would record in the 1940s and 50s.

Sex addiction is a real thing.

People like R66 only have sex in order to get something in return, like a promotion or a steady boyfriend. They don't have sex for its own sake.

[quote] I got fisted at the Piggly Wiggly

Well that would just make you a piggy piggly wiggly!

I used to. From the mid 70's to the mid 90's I sought cock wherever I could find it.

I love these threads where old homos wax poetic about the good old days.

R61, disdain for your behaviour has nothing to do with moral repugnance. For me, it's just kind of skeevy.

[quote]I do avoid cruising in public restrooms and the like because I don't want to be arrested.

That's considerate. You should cruise Time... they're always on the lookout for a man of the year.

The old days were much more fun than today when things are just shoved out there in front of you and made so easy. The thrill of the chase made the resulting capture all the more exciting. There was nothing better than seeing a stud come into the next video booth and watching a 10" bull cock come sliding through the glory hole to be serviced. Ah, good times.

You could get arrested and professionally ruined if you were caught cruising in public spaces. "Tearoom" is a video that secretly filmed men cruising and engaging in sex in a public restroom in Mansfield, OH, back in 1962. Of course, the identifiable men were later arrested.

Guys who come onto you in restrooms are just gross.

moralistic pisspots

Having sex in bathrooms? That's just sick. Think of all the innocent men in there, just humming and tapping their feet and not bothering anyone

Follow-up to the post about the park arrests in Etobicoke (Toronto).

Hampstead Heath is fantastic for cruising and the police just leave it alone. When I stayed in London with my friend, we went there three times and found quality dick each time. Fucking under the huge trees there felt just like being out in the middle of the countryside. No lights at all.

You youngsters have no idea how things were done back then. There were few to no "innocents" in the cruising spots, including restrooms. People went to these places for one thing and one thing only, dick.

They also posted this.

Some who were arrested in r74

Who would go cruising in a public park? That's so wrong

I don't cruise of dick. I cruise for male companionship and sexual sharing. And by "cruise" I mean at times I'm more aware of the people around me in situations where meeting someone is possible, and available for an adventure.

Dick is only part of it. You know, for human beings. Even those just looking for sex.

It's insane that guys go to places like saunas, looking for sex with strangers

Only creepy sexual deviants cruise for sex in public places.

Hampstead Heath at night does not feel public. The public know it's a gay cruising ground and they steer clear of it at night.

So straight people have to avoid the park at night so creeps can roam around with their cocks out?

Yep, R88.

It's not so much a park as a huge area of trees and grassland and natural ponds. Although in the summer, straights go there to shag too. Young couples around 16-18, still living at home, like to go there and fuck in the long grass in the summer. It's a pretty wild place considering it's quite close to central London.

In addition to being cluelessly selfish, the author of the piece referenced at R81 writes like a dinosaur gay... and Google him... he is. Left over from the sixties and seventies... and in his sixties or seventies.

Have fun with that R89.

It may be hard to imagine that gay life was once about living life as an adventure-unmoored from prudish societal proscriptions governing social conduct. These spaces represented somewhere apart from work and home life and allowed men who sought contacts there to actualize a yearning to connect with other searching souls. These meeting places, frequently in natural settings, were where men from all classes could interact without pretense of social obligations or etiquette. The results of these couplings and harmonic resonances cannot be adequately measured or easily replicated with the advancement of technology.

Are you being serious R92? It was about guys with poor impulse control getting their dicks out and getting off in public with other pervs.

OP is judgemental, and ugly.

R94 is old and diseased.

Prisspots and prudes clickbait.

R95 Grandma with sticky fingers, pretending to be young.

R97 55 but looks 65 claims online to look 25.

R98 << interesting! Just your age!

It's people like the OP who keep my email full every day

Spin it how you want, having sex in public places is gross and creepy.

Ripe cheese under lace curtains is an excellent natural lubricant, and of course no rubbers!

I guess it's to be expected, but the young gaylings of today are as repressed sexually as house fraus were back in the 60's. I can see why though. We didn't have AIDS to scare the shit out of us 40 years ago. The worst thing we had to deal with was an occasional case of the clap which was easily taken care of. And no one is saying what we did 40 years ago should be done now. There are simply too many diseases out there now that will either kill you or make the rest of your life a living hell. if I was a 25 year old gay guy today I wouldn't even consider doing the things I did in the 70's.

[Quote]the young gaylings of today are as repressed sexually as house fraus were back in the 60's.

That's because today's gays have been normalized into straight society. The fact that "Gays for Trump" exists is telling of that.

It's funny how a certain Las Vegas Chamber Maid is all over this thread. Seriously, what is your fascination with men and gay sex?

So this is Hampstead Heath...

So a lot of cruisers really are bug chasers huh?

I go alot just for a quick blowjob.

I did a lot of things back in the day that might shock the gay boys of today, but one thing I can say is I was never a bush queen. I always preferred to keep it indoors and as private as possible.

In the Trump era there will be a resurgence in outdoor cruising by the closeted. "Hey, if I'm a white "straight" guy, I can do what I want!"

"Gays for Trump" are basically nonexistant - Trump did even worse with gay voters than McCain, Bush, and Romney did. It's basically just a few dumb Milo wannabes.

This is one of the reasons why I'm proud to be gay

So are they repressed, R103, or sensible? Because you seem to be going both ways and I'm pretty sure you're an unreconstructed, hardcore throwback whore gay.

Has it ever occurred to any of the dinogays that we don't have to live like you did? We don't have to scramble around looking for sex in the bushes? We're in a position just to be gay, not to be ashamed of it, not to have to hide it, just able to live life, meet guys, have sex and see what happens? We're not living with the fear and shame and secrecy you lived with.

We owe that in part to you - probably in large part - but what we don't owe you is that we have to be you.

Who the fuck asked you to be "us" you uppity little twat. You and those like you, the snot nosed, ill mannered little bitchy queers of today need to check yourselves, or someone will grab you by the pussy.

LOL... relax, Gramps, you'll have a stroke. Everyone of you calling us prisspots or repressed about sex asks us to be you... because you confuse thoughtless promiscuity back in the day with freedom to choose today. So many of you are incapable of seeing the progress you made. Sorry if times have changed, but guess what: times have changed.

I knew some good research came out recently showing Millennials aren't having nearly as much sex as the 3 generations previous to theirs did. That doesn't sound like "freedom to choose," R115. It sounds like something else.

The attached article nails it. Millennials, being the spawn of the narcissistic, angry, greedy Boomers, are damaged goods. They really don't know how to have sex or even casual relationships. They are terrified of any sort of intimacy, which is why NSA, FWB, BnG, no-strings, DL bullshit is so common among them.

They sit with their apps all day, not getting any. I knew there was something more to their so-called choosiness and standards that they claim. The article puts a word to it, and that word is "anxiety." All the lack of stats in their profiles, all the ass and torso selfies, all the aggressive non-conversation. They're constantly hiding. They're terrified of connection. I'd add the article fails to mention they probably beat off too much while watching porn, and don't manage to get around to having sex.

The guys are back out at bars, bookstores and parks because you've ruined the apps with your paranoid judgey nonsense, Millenitards. Gen X had apps first. And AOL and Gay.com were a lot more fun 15 years ago for meeting people and getting laid - before you came along and ruined it with demands for shaved pubes and "dark room, no talking."

You're not more discerning, Millennials, you're frankly way more uptight and self-involved, the darkened reflections of your parents overbearing personalities. Move on, get out there, have conversations, make a phone call, go out and get laid already.

Well no matter what we're not gonna have sex with somebody as old as you, R116.

Is that the best you can do miss priss?

You want to hear something weird & sick? When I was 5, I would have fantasies about what I now realize were glory holes. I had never heard of them or been exposed to them. I knew nothing about sex. In my fantasies, I fast forwarded my age to 11 since I figured that was old.

"I knew some good research came out recently showing Millennials aren't having nearly as much sex as the 3 generations previous to theirs did."

I've seen good research showing the opposite. 3 generations ago people were getting married at 20. Just another excuse for the elderly to bash young people who are getting laid.

True, R116 - a lot of millennials are scared off sex by watching too much online porn. They feel inadequate and decide to give it a miss altogether and achieve this by deciding that they're asexual, or greyromantic or demi-sexual or non binary...all that Tumblr crap.

From my own experience, they are having less, but the freaks among them are full on professionals - they've got IGs and Snapchats and Periscopes they are working for $ at a ridiculously young age.

OTOH, the regular middle class kids who will grow up to be professionals? Naw. Totally freaked by the porn, though very exposed to it.

Yeah, they seem to go one way or another - either mega slutty and sending dick pics, or retreating from it altogether into transdom or asexuality.

[quote]I knew some good research came out recently showing Millennials aren't having nearly as much sex as the 3 generations previous to theirs did.

And this is why most of them are always in such shitty moods. The hate everything and everyone. They just need to some dick.

"They feel inadequate and decide to give it a miss altogether and achieve this by deciding that they're asexual, or greyromantic or demi-sexual or non binary...all that Tumblr crap"

Please, the number of millennials who identify as "asexual" is tiny. And true asexuals don't look at porn and aren't interested in it. That's what makes them.....asexual.

Like I said, you guys are grasping at straws for any excuse to attack millennials.

R124, They have an abundance of quality Internet porn to jerk off to, we didn't.

The data from then vs now is not really applicable since I doubt people were reporting true figures. People got married very young in the past and I'm sure many of those marriages became miserable and essentially asexual but no one would admit that if being polled. People don't change. Whatever the figures are now, it's probably on par with the actual figures from the past.

That's true R126, but this is why so many of them are socially retarded. They are unable to even engage in normal conversation with others face to face. It's as if they're terrified of having someone speak to them in public. They only want to email and engage in conversation via internet chat rooms. I have to wonder how so many of them even get jobs. Or are companies so desperate these days they're willing to hire the autistic?

What does sucking a stranger's dick in a restroom or an adult bookstore have to do with "socializing" or "connecting"?

Do adult book stores even exist any longer? I haven't seen one in ages. All I see are porn video shops and they all dispensed with the smut mags years ago, mainly because most of the companies that published them went under.

Cruising often is a sex-only activity. But you'd be surprised at the number of people who socialize in these contexts. It's no more or less an opportunity for socializing or connecting than online options are. You see the same people (just like on the apps!) and sometimes they talk to one another. I met a few long term fuckbuds through public sex. We started meeting at home rather than out wherever. Online is all about the search and never about choosing - if you manage to hook up, everybody always disappears after a fuck or 2 or maybe 3. Of course sometimes in public contexts you have chatty Cathys who ruin the sex mood with endless queening it up. Like most socializing, aspies find it hard to get it right.

Many, even most people, like having sex. For the doubter in R127, the data is long term, large N and reliable. It is meaningful. It shows that the drop in sex activity is significant with the Millennials. Reasons/causality are harder to figure out, but it always begins with observation.

Sorry, I'm just not turned on by the idea of sex with strangers in public places.

Would any of you prisspots feel more comfortable if we just referred to cruising spots as "Lovers' Lanes" which is the more traditional code used by heteros?

We're ankle deep in used condoms down near the beach where straights go to "watch the submarine races".

[quote]Sorry, I'm just not turned on by the idea of sex with strangers in public places.

Fine, then stay home locked away in your dark room trolling the internet.

[Quote]Would any of you prisspots feel more comfortable if we just referred to cruising spots as "Lovers' Lanes" which is the more traditional code used by heteros?

YES

Pardon me R134 but Fuck You! I don't do that either you dick trolling creep.

Awwww, somebody's having a wobbly. Boooooohooooooo!

LOL Go change your diaper R137 and leave the wit to those who can manage it.

R138 "Having a wobbly" is HILARIOUS!

I miss The Olden Days before the 21st century when cruising culture was alive and busy.

You still see it in gyms, but many fewer guys do it. The ones who do are usually very old, closeted trolls. Before internet social networking, EVERYBODY did it.

Grindr and internet hookups are anti-social, dangerous and full of phonies who misrepresent their looks and intentions.

In-person you can tell what a person or his genitals REALLY look like before agreeing to anything with them. In-person, nobody was looking for "later tonight," "next Sunday," "mid-July" or "The Second Coming." And nobody was "just looking for friends." You could bring your friends with you or make friends, but everyone knew everyone was looking for someone to fuck immediately.

I can't stand all the bullshit with hookup apps or social media. People don't match their pics, you have to invite strangers into your home where they can steal, identify you, stalk you or other crimes.

People have to ditch or turn away ugly guys when all the hassle and pain could have been avoided if they had just seen each other in-person FIRST.

Some people's pics even obscure how doable they are -- they're much better-looking in-person.

I get more success just going directly to escort ads -- and even some of those assholes use false and misleading pics.

Cruising kept it real, everyone was there and it was MUCH MORE FUN. The internet killed it.

People bring their own lube, condoms and drugs to cruising areas, r17.

I've even seen guys bring that stuff into coed steam rooms and saunas at the gym.

Also, most people didn't go all the way to anal sex in cruising areas, r17. There is jerking off, blowjobs and voyeurism.

r29 is why I hate straight people and prisspots.

ff r32 and don't tell me anti-gay, anti-progressive operatives don't invade Datalounge to injure, defraud and manipulate gay people.

R143 Prisspots are the worst, tiny-meat clutchers.

R140 you were raised right!

R116, R117 BTW, Millennials HAVE THE WORST TABLE MANNERS. I'm not talking about which utensil to use bullshit, I mean BASIC TABLE MANNERS.

LOL Get off my lawn!!!

HEY! You can't park there!!

Geez, the useless bitching in this thread.

Excuse me R150 but bitching is never useless on DataLounge.

I thought useless bitching was what Datalounge was founded upon.

"The data from then vs now is not really applicable since I doubt people were reporting true figures."

If anything, it's the opposite. People who took sex surveys in the past were probably more liberal than others and were likely to be oversampled, there's no reason to lie in a voluntary anonymous survey.

"BTW, Millennials HAVE THE WORST TABLE MANNERS. "

People said the same thing about your generation and the one before (and the one before that...). Some of you lack self-awareness.

Millennials don't sit at tables to eat, they eat on the move, while driving or at cinemas, or lying on their beds watching TV.

r154 is hilarious. I love how eldergays think only millennials eat in their cars. It's really funny how you need to demonize everyone under 35. It makes you seem older than Methuselah.

"Well no matter what we're not gonna have sex with somebody as old as you, [R116]."

It's a common misconception among the youth that their youth alone makes them desirable. It doesn't. I'd rather be with someone older who has other qualities such as humor, personality and empathy.

Younger guys have bloated faces and acne. I hate that 20-something fat faced look.

[quote] Would any of you prisspots feel more comfortable if we just referred to cruising spots as "Lovers' Lanes"?

No, Miss Nasty 1970s Perv, it's just that a lot of gay guys don't enjoy relentless, risky outdoor sexual compulsivity. Is that so difficult to accept without your nasty name-calling?

Yet you enjoy spending endless energy chasing dick on hookup apps. What a strange outlook. It's like sex catalog shopping. All the labels and joyless mannequin poses must turn you on. The real thing is messy and a great risk to your assumptions. Get out and live. Grab life by the balls!

At the advanced age of 55,I gave up cruising ,either online or in person,years ago. Now,when I feel a little frisky,I hire a rent boy ,no muss,no fuss. Since Im not looking for love,or even friendship,I find the clinical,business like aspect of it all most refreshing. Ive got one that Ive been "seeing" on and off for about 10 years now,in fact he only sees me and 2 others since he got married and settled down about 8 years ago. I do sometimes miss the thrill of the chase,but not enough to actually deal with it all again.

R160, What's the most you've spent for one hour with a rent boy?

Millennials only fuck with rubber gloves, dental dams, and condoms. If they fuck at all. Most of them that I know just do phone sex since they're so socially inept in person. And even then they have trouble carrying on a good jackoff session on the phone.

R161...$500,but he was exceptionally hot. The average here in florida is $300. The guy Ive been seeing for a decade or so only charges me $100 an hour,but hes made 1000s off me over the years so I guess I get the discount rate!

R162 Is obviously an old poz guy that regularly attends anonymous bareback sex parties.

Towel Dancing

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[quote] They hate everything and everyone. They just need to some dick.

Most of them are so socially awkward, or have so many hangups, that they're just not able to function at that level, at all.

It's a rite of passage to be enjoyed by all.

It must really hurt R162 to be invisible to every guy under 50.

It must be sad to be R169, who has to bathe with a rag on a stick

It must be pathetic for R170 to lock wits with a 23 year old and lose.

Misty jism covered memories, of the way we were.

"Millennials only fuck with rubber gloves, dental dams, and condoms"

Gotta love the DL - they'll attack other gays for being promiscuous and spreading AIDS, then attack people for using condoms.

All the old men here are just bitter that no one under 35 will have sex with them, and they are stuck with a bunch of Miss Lindsey lookalikes in their 50s.

I always call it 'the aids'.

You're right. Millennials never have sex. That's why things like STDs, abortions, and unwed pregnancies are a thing of the past! Oh, wait....

Millennials go one of two ways - they either choose a sexual identity so obscure it practically guarantees they'll never have sex (hello, Arospike people), or they go all out taking Prep and barebacking with dozens of partners every weekend.

So much energy invested on all sides in tearing the other down. Is there no way to note the generational differences without then judging them as inferior?

We are entering an era where Trump and his toadying stooges are going to try to devalue us and strip away whatever rights we've gained. His mouth breathing followers are harassing us already, and you can count on anti-gay violence to erupt and hateful physical attacks on us to increase.

So, given this reality, why the fuck are we going for each other's jugulars? If you don't like this thread, then ignore it. If you like the thread, but don't like what someone has posted, then ignore them! Jesus Christ, save your venom for the real enemy.

R177 you do realize where you are, no?

Girls, Girls...You're all homely sluts.

R177: MEGA SPAZ who thinks DL is all about playing nice.

We hate each other!

I had to try.

You're right. This is a luxury borne of boredom and frustration.

The 98% have GOT to stop their feuding over shit like this that doesn't matter.

The feuding and hate wouldn't go on if there weren't so many mentally deranged queens on this board who go around looking for a reason to be aghast at nothing. When there's nothing to get crazy about they just invent something. They're our deplorables.

It must be sad for R171 to think he's winning a battle of wits when he's completely fucking unarmed.

Keep scowling at everyone, though. You'll have squinty-eyed, pinched up gayface before you're even 30.

Ugh...Why do so many gay men have to be gross unsafe idiots.

I don't cruise for dick, I cruise for mouth. I just want to get sucked off.

I'll suck you off, r186.

SHRIEEEE EEEEEEEEE EEEEEEEEE EEEEEEEEEE EEEEEEEEE EEEEEEEEEK!

Why live when I can cower in fear of everything in life? Let me hide in the corner in my windowless room, clutching the hem of my skirt in fear forever.

Interesting thread - it explains why I have seen some recent GRINDR requests to "blow me in my car?"......I was like WT?

Still I would MUCH raher have an anonymous encounter in a place like an adult bookstore than bring them into my private home.

So along those lines, on my way to Whole Foods in Brooklyn I have seen a few adult book stores, just like the ones I used to know in Times Square. Now I am 52, and the idea of going to one on Thanksgiving intrigues me. Anybody ever been?

They are on 3rd avenue in the thirties, I think.

The bookstore near me just got shut down for bedbugs.

I shit you not.

The concept seems hot but in reality it's far to risky.

Oh it was hot, very hot, in the 70's and 80's, but there are too many nasty things floating around today.

[quote]I got fisted at the Piggly Wiggly.

R7, wasn't that supposed to the be the sequel to "Driving Miss Daisy".

ANIMALS!! roaming the wilderness and mounting any receptive orifice. wordless, nameless, random couplings. wandering off without a care or a look back. governed only by gonadal urgings. Ejaculation your only raison d'etre. Soulless, mindless, primal penis-based lives. In short, the essence of masculinity minus the competition.

R196, that was so moving...

L I K E I S A I D The best sex is nasty sex! Furtive and forbidden!

Some of the guys here must be posting from the late 70's when cruising was actually necessary.

[Quote]Some of the guys here must be posting from the late 70's when cruising was actually necessary.

There's a certain nostalgia for it, just like one for crime-ridden 1970s and 80s New York. You remember the good moments, and forgive the bad ones. Twenty years from now, today's generation will lament the passing of their current social apps, because looking and hooking will take another form in 2036, and today's youths will be loathe to adapt to it, especially if they consider it inferior.

HISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

[quote]Some of the guys here must be posting from the late 70's when cruising was actually necessary.

Well, don't you have an amazing grasp of the obvious.

[quote] Some of the guys here must be posting from the late 70's when cruising was actually necessary.

Not everyone lives in the same little NPR/Grindr big city bubble that you little delicate snowflakes do.

Now, go eat your fucking feelings already.

r203, you sound like a Milo clone, with your lame "delicate snowflakes" talking points. You right-wingers are the ones who think members of the military are too delicate to handle being around gay people.

I'm a bleeding heart liberal, R203, so keep clutching those pearls.

For a bleeding heart liberal, you sound a lot like the Milo trolls

I want to beat Milo with a baseball bat.

But I can still call out bitchy prisspots. The world isn't so fucking yes or no, black or white.

We are actually animals, what is so wrong with public sex? I know it's "illegal" but it actually isn't that disgusting if you think about it. We humans are ANIMALS just like the rest of them.

It's basic decency not to have sex in public, r208.

It all comes down to it isn't nice to whip your dick or ass out in public where people who don't want to see your goods might.

[quote]From my observation, closeted gay men are exceptionally promiscuous.

If I ever find a rash on my inner thigh I'm doomed.

I used to do cruise with a friend of mine back in the late 80s/early90s. Parks, rest stops, ABS, xxx theaters...anywhere. It was nuts.

It was fun too, wasn't it. Admit it R212. LOL

Public sex seems to be for men that just want the dick without any of the work i.e. dating or spending money. I guess the fact that they could be arrested is like compensation for the lack of work performed to get the dick.

If you're good looking and look gay you can still get sex just about anyway. I pulled on the tube just today. We got out at the same time, headed down an alleyway and he blew me. That happens at least once a week for me at the moment.

Oh yeah...totally. R213.

R214, you can get just as much action without strings on any decent cruise site like adam4adam

The great thing about cruising is that if you don't like their look or their smell or their voice, or if something just seems off, you can back off really easily, no hard feelings. Whereas if you've arranged a Grindr hook up based on aesthetics, and then you meet and something's not right, you have to go through an embarrassing spiel and you've wasted time.

Let me check...Yep still creepy.

And let me check the checker...yep, still judgy.

SHRIEEEK

Public sex is a fetish like any other. There's a thrill and excitement to it that hookup apps will never replace. I must say it turns me on to catch it, but I've never done it out of fear of being caught. And straight trade will never be on Grindr or scruff. And super hot curious will let just about any gross thing suck on them because they just want the experience and their time is limited. So that's good news for a 50 something fit/fat horny gay dude. A 50 yo gay man is not going to score the equivalent of a young fit str8 identifying guy in the gay world unless he's filthy rich. This I know from experience. Not 50 here, but 40, attractive and have fucked younger curious str8 guys WAY out of my league.

I reserve my semi public play to more acceptable venues like the Cock, or steam rooms, or a quiet gym locker room. But I've seen things go down in a Club Monaco dressing room, or a quiet subway platform at night. I'd never do it but it's good bate material.

One of the hottest things I saw didn't even involve sex. This super cute dark haired guy caught my attention on the subway platform, so I made sure to get on the same car as him just to observe. It was crowded and the train quickly filled up. This hot blond guy with a nice bulge in a tailored suit got on at the next stop. He immediately pulled my attention. As the train rocked back and forth I noticed the blond guy was sporting a noticeably bigger bulge in his suit. When I looked closer I noticed he was discreetly running his finger against the first Guy's ass, whose back was to him. For the rest of the trip I watched as the cute dark haired guy found any opportunity to push his ass up against the blond Guy's hand, never looking back. It was so hot and discreet.

[quote] I reserve my semi public play to more acceptable venues like the Cock

Finally, a slut with a moral compass

What can I say R220, I go with my talents.

Shame on all of you.

Sure beats cruising for putty.