On apps like Grindr, do you block guys you are not interested in or just don't respond?

You'll have to move to another city once you blocked almost everyone

OP, R1 is correct. Just don't respond to guys you don't like. If the guys constantly send you messages after you've ignored them, that's a different story.

Most guys move on quickly when they get no response. They're trying to get laid not inviting you to brunch.

FYI, it's Grindr. No one owes you anything. Not a response, not a block, not sex, not anything. If you are one of those guys that takes Grindr that seriously, go seek professional help.

I block anyone who isn't white, big-dicked, and a top.

I block the trannies. Besides being annoying as fuck to look at, they take the space of someone I potentially may have sez with further down the grid.

I sometimes block people that message me who I am not interested in - but it's usually when they keep sending messages. I think it's just as useful to block people who ignore me so I don't message them again.

Apps used to be a lot easier to get laid on in the past. Now it's 90% flakes and fugs.

sez what, R6?

I like that, even more than my Grandma's old kids-in-earshot euphemism, 'x-e-s'. I'm keeping it.

So where do you go to get laid, R7?

If the guy just has a body shot and sends me his face pic and I'm not feeling it, I will block.

Most of the time there's a reason they don't have a face pic, but every so often it's a pleasant surprise

I still get laid from apps, but it's a lot less than in the past. In the last year, maybe 3 or 4 people total. When they first came out - I think it was 10x that number in a year.

No femmes, no fats, no Asians, no OP

R6 I do that, too, sometimes.

I only block people who are annoying with constant messages. If you are blocking men for any other reasons, I think you are probably a douche.

This guy said he liked BB in his profile, and then I asked if he would use condoms - his answer was "neg undetectable". And I said "what's that?" - and he blocked me.

Seriously, wtf is "neg undetectable" - it's either "neg" or "poz undetectable" and I don't trust anyone's viral load to begin with, particularly if they can't decide if they are poz or neg.

It's wise to assume that anyone you meet on Grindr is poz and carrying a host of other STDs, R15

Most are not, but you can't trust anyone to tell the truth, so better safe than sorry.

Yeah, so far I've only gotten crabs off grindr (or that was probably scruff). Mama is so proud.

[Quote]Seriously, wtf is "neg undetectable"

Maybe he was trying to say "no" to your condom request (by saying neg[ative]), but saying "undetectable" to assure you that you can't catch his HIV from him. Then he probably assumed you would reject him, so he blocked you before giving you a chance to do so.

Guys without face pics are still using the "I've got to be discreet" excuse in 2016.

There are guys on ManHunt still using 15-year-old photos.

My three automatic deal breakers: No Asians, redheads or uncut.

Blocking doesn't even stop some of the more aggressive sex fiends. They'll just log on from a different device and try to contact you again.

No one gives a shit what your closed minded quirks are, r20.

Actually, R19, I've found those "I've got to be discreet" guys are just as likely to be out gay men in a relationship who are cheating on their boyfriends/husbands as they are to be closet cases

Grindr Schmindr .... give me a secluded men's room where horny men hang out without a lot of interruptions occurring.

Why are personal preferences considered closed minded quirks?

To each his own, R-22 . . .

Oh maybe that was it R18. It was one of those situations where I randomly woke up at 4 am and went on there just to kill time before I could go back to bed. The strangest guys are on at that hour. I posted this two weeks ago - i met someone late at night, and when kissing him, my whole mouth and lips went numb. I was like - wtf is that, did you just do coke? (My limited experience with coke suggested that was the case.) He denied it... but there's nothing else in the world that would've caused that effect....lidocaine gum? (Someone should invent that for dental procedures).

I am more turned off by this lately than ever before. It used to have some fun adrenaline quality about it... but now it's just tiring to deal with people's 500 questions and endless pic requests (that I put up with because they are hot) but of course they later disappear. Maybe the other problem is age, aside from not being hot enough . It was fun at 28-29... when the apps first came out. Now I am old and I don't lie about it or send pics from 2008.

I just installed Grindr and Scruff, mostly out of curiosity. It's interesting. The PrEP guys kind of repel me.

[quote] The PrEP guys kind of repel me.

And that's a good thing.

^By "old" I mean, old relative to the app population & what people seem to want. And, it is funny to read younger guys' discussions of the "old creepy guys" who message them...and those guys are 35+ . Ironically, I am not into younger at all, and they always message me and ask if I am a top and sometimes ask if am into "daddy role play". Maybe it's a tall / hairy thing... but that came on fast and slapped me in the face like a fat schlong.

Yes, I agree R27 - the Prep guys also annoy / repel me bc they refuse to use condoms, and 1. I am not gonna trust your adherance to prep. 2. There are other STDs I don't feel like getting even though they are treatable. And 3. the PrEP bottoms insist on BB...absolutely will not bottom without a condom.

I also wonder how many guys they are fucking to justify taking a combo HIV drug every single day. 20 a month? I tried asking this to a bunch of PrEP queens, and they got so offended at the question... I was like, wtf...simple question.

Why do people seek dates amongst a group of strange people with some of the highest STD infection rates on the planet? Grindr is a cesspool.

R30, I guess we ran out of nice gentlemen to fuck from church socials.

Seriously though - why do you think that STDs are not curable (aside from HIV) or that people who are posting here (who use Grindr) are having unsafe sex?

I, admittedly, went overboard with hooking up online around 2000-2001, using Gay.com and Manhunt.

I was in my mid-forties, in the best shape of my life and constantly craving sex with guys.

Got into a few dangerous situations, but no harm, no foul.

Thankfully, I did not contract the HIV virus or any STD's.

[Quote] Why do people seek dates amongst a group of strange people with some of the highest STD infection rates on the planet?

Bad news, babe. You can also get a STD from those you know and trust. It doesn't matter if you meet them on Grindr or at church services.

[quote]Seriously though - why do you think that STDs are not curable

Because hepatitis, herpes and HPV are not curable. Some of the antibiotic treated STIs are becoming resistant. It's not that difficult. You don't really think STDs aren't curable do you? You aren't actually out among us, that stupid, are you?

[quote]Thankfully, I did not contract the HIV virus or any STI's.

Unless you were fully screened, how do you know? So many of the STIs can be asymptomatic. It's not just whoring, it's failure to screen.

If not the apps where are you meeting you men these days?

Any Whole Foods is packed with hot guys around the lunch/dinner hour.

I don't care if it's just a hook-up app to some people, not replying to a legit message is just plain rude. On Scruff, it shows "insights" as to how often people reply to their messages, aka Rude Meter. Greggy Bennett from RHONJ has a 2 out of 10. What a douche. You're not that hot or important.

I block more Asians than the wall of China - TYPICAL GAY GRINDR

[quote]If you are blocking men for any other reasons, I think you are probably a douche.

But what if their black?!

I would NEVER use such a trashy app as Grindr to meet other men. If you are on Grindr, you are desperate piece of trash.

I'm polite and simply decline - blocking is very very immature - but then again, most people on the internet are immature cunts.

R34. It's funny how idiots like you love to call other people idiots. Let me ask you: do you ever get laid? How would it be possible without taking your partner to a std clinic and testing him for every std and then making him stay in quarantine for 3-6 weeks (for any incubation period) then testing again...and then having sex ?

You said hepatitis isnt curable? First of all, hep C is curable with simeprevir, and Ive been vaccinated against hep B. And you claim you are a doctor? Not to mention, Hepatitis c is transmitted through blood only, and I do not come into contact with blood during sex. The contageon risk is virtually zero.

Herpes and hpv are a calculated risk. Let me ask you,dear doctor, how you avoid them without doing the testing I mentioned above?

If someone does not have an active outbreak then their viral shedding is pretty low (as it is with hpv). Even if it is contracted, 90% of people never have more than one breakout either. And, while there is no cure, Valtrex does work for suppression and shortens the breakout period. Finally, the body usually clears HPV in heathy adults. And if you do get warts, you can get them frozen off. Can you read the CDC's website? "Most HPV infections go away on their own without causing problems". Also, condoms reduce the risk here again - though not entirely.

There's no way you are a doctor. You are a bitter old Kween who can't get laid and now tries to scare other people (who can get laid all the time) away from sex with false facts (hepatitis) and misleading contageon risks. Having sex w someone on Grindr isn't going to give you a lifetime of Herpes and wart breakouts, Doctor.

^ OMG, you seem like a box of chocolates, Debbie Downer! Go to Match.com!

Oh and the ceftriaxone / azirhromycin combo is fully effective for now. This is the only area where there is a genuine concern because this is the last line of dense,but it works for now. I haven't been able to find any statistics on resistance from this combo.

I usually just don't respond and the guy will take a hint. Sometimes they'll send a few more messages after that, like a week or more later.

There is one guy though that kept sending me messages multiple times each day, every day. I wouldn't respond and he would just keep at it. The biggest turn off was what he was saying. Anyway, I finally blocked him and thought that was that. A few days after I did though, he somehow managed to send me messages again. I figured he must have created a new account or had another phone or something. He's done this 2 or 3 times so now.

I get my warts frozen off.

I quit all the hookup apps and sites a few years ago. I cruise in real life.

It's easier when guys prove that they're assholes in person before I'm even thinking about sex.

R42 is right-on. Fuck you, weary 'physician'. Your entire post was bullshit. Especially for chiding someone for not getting "fully screened"—how do you know he didn't? Asshole.

That said, Grindr does mostly suck. I'm in the best relationship of my life right now with someone I met on Grindr, but otherwise it's a huge waste of time. And blocking people with no warning when all they've done is say hello to you, is rude and abrupt.

I much preferred to cruise in real life as well. Ironically, THAT is where I caught syphillis a few weeks ago, from a random hookup in the gym sauna. No Grindr necessary! What do you think of THAT, weary physician asshole? (By the way, I did get "fully screened" after that, and I was negative for everything but syphilis. This was after literally hundreds of hookups with men over the past 9 or 10 years.)

I heart you r43!!!

I was thinking EHarmony or Christian Mingle. You know where ALL the closet cases riddled with every disease known to man hang out.

Bottom line: Presume EVERYONE IS POSITIVE or has some other STD up front. Make your decision from there. There should be no surprises. Zero. Many guys lie like a rug. Age, status, weight, being tops, etc. Know this up front and you won't be disappointed.

[quote]I much preferred to cruise in real life as well. Ironically, THAT is where I caught syphillis a few weeks ago, from a random hookup in the gym sauna. No Grindr necessary! What do you think of THAT, weary physician asshole?

I think you're a fucked up slut with little self respect who lives his life with so little discrimination or thought that he's a vector for disease. That's what I think. I also think you're too stupid to understand you're not arguing from a position of strength. Keep going. You're a real example. Your self esteem must be off the charts.

I love you, R50. Tell that slut where to get off!

I block all trannies. Not interested.

R50, What kind of physician doesn't know there is a cure for Hep C and a vaccine for Hep B?

Also, where do you meet people, assuming you leave the house?

R53, that Hep C cure you speak of is not 100% effective 100% of the time. Last I heard it left 15% of the people taking it unaffected and still having Hep C.

Just because you see a commerical on TV, doesn't answer all of the questions.

Fine, then how much blood do you expect to encounter during sex w/ a condom? How likely his Hep C transmission during sex? Do you just stay in a saran wrap bubble, head to toe, for your whole life?

It's weird to me that the "doctor" is the same person who posted the following things:

[quote]So where do you go to get laid, R7?

[quote]If not the apps where are you meeting you men these days?

And, to top it off:

[quote]I just installed Grindr and Scruff

Seems like someone really really needs to get laid... but with that full suit of lead body armor, I'm not sure that you're going to find a partner.

R16 and R49 have the right attitude: assume that everyone on there is both poz and carrying every STD known to man. If there's a connection you've got plenty of time to disprove that theory, but on first meeting it's always a good idea to keep everything super safe, and if the guy suddenly insists that barebacking is cool, it's fine to develop a stomachache or urgent appointment and cut and run.

I use block pretty extensively-- saves a lot of hassle, and prevents my phone from blowing up. I'm in a big city though, near a bunch of hotels-- I'm sure it's different in areas with limited gay population.

R55, I wrote those posts so I know what I intended, which is not what you suppose.

It's possible with self esteem and self respect to have a satisfying sex life that isn't the equivalent of being a human drive through. It's possible to be curious just out of curiosity about alternatives to the apps given the predominance of apps in ours lives today. It's perfectly legitimate to cite HEP C as an incurable STI because it can be spread sexually - in a limited risk category but not an eliminated risk category.

Yes, Hep C can be cured - in 95% of sufferers - and if you can get access to a very expensive treatment, upwards of $100K. You could be one of those people who runs merrily along though life thinking how it doesn't matter about this or that because there's a cure. There is not one serious condition known to medicine where health care professionals don't advocate prevention, first and foremost. Find a herpes sufferer - above or below the waist - and ask if they'd prefer never to have had it or to be managing it. Or an HIV sufferer. It is better to be new than good as new. But facts seem very upsetting to you so I won't add any more.

I don't advocate don't. I advocate know. Know what's around you, make your decisions based on what is known. You don't seem to know much. But you won't know that, because you gotta love that ignore function, don't you? You wouldn't want to do anything but get very upset and flounce at a point of your different from your own.

R57 is the only person making sense on this thread of whores.

R57 - All that long trifling mess and you didn't answer: How does someone get Hep C during sex where they are NOT EXPOSED TO BLOOD (through condom use or simply not biting each other and bathing in their blood)?

R58 = shut in fat pig who hasn't seen his dick since the 70s.

[quote]Hepatitis C is usually spread when blood from a person infected with the Hepatitis C virus enters the body of someone who is not infected. Today, most people become infected with the Hepatitis C virus by sharing needles or other equipment to inject drugs. Before 1992, when widespread screening of the blood supply began in the United States, Hepatitis C was also commonly spread through blood transfusions and organ transplants.

[quote]Can Hepatitis C be spread through sexual contact? Yes, but the risk of transmission from sexual contact is believed to be low. The risk increases for those who have multiple sex partners, have a sexually transmitted disease, engage in rough sex, or are infected with HIV.

As I said. It's not really an STD. It's spread through blood and rare sexual contact that is "rough" enough to draw blood. Thanks for the link proving yourself wrong.

I am genuinely curious though: How does the doctor have sex partners? The test + quarantine + test method is the only way to know, reliably. Even partners can cheat. And, I don't know how you'd convince a partner to have a full STD panel, abstain for 6 weeks,and then do it again - before touching you (kissing can spread Herpes-1 after all).

Is there even a test for HPV? I think I asked two doctors and both said it's not done "clinically" but it is done for research. I cannot seem to find an answer online.

Sooooo.... all this tread does is reaffirm that most gay men are shallow beyond belief.

R63 Your comment is worthless. Why did you even bother to write it?

I block on Grindr and Scruff very rarely, usually people who send me multiple messages.

I don't answer 80% of the messages. If it's not a match, I don't want to waste to time.

Hehe

I use the block feature all the time. I look at someone’s profile and decide whether they’re even worth talking to based on their description. Of course their picture plays a part as well. But let’s face it if someone isn’t attractive to you what’s the point of leaving their profile visible. And it’s true in some places you’ll run out of options. So be it