Gay Men Still Wearing Mall Clothes In Their 40's

Having a bad day, OP...???

I see. So, after 40, all gay men should just dig a hole and bury themselves in it...???

I've recently found in my mid 30s that when I look at clothes I like in the shop, my first thought is "mutton" so have changed my style accordingly. You can still look good and be age appropriate.

No one should be wearing A&F at any age.

I was agreeing with you OP until you added that they go clubbing three times a week.

How could you possibly know that? You can judge their clothes by looking at them but once they leave your sight you have no idea what they do or don't do.

Really undermines your post...

Girls just wanna have fun.

Oh please, not every 40 something gay man has a six figure income and wants to run around in a suit all day. What a hetero cliche. Sounds more like the OP is afraid to get old.

R5 Did you not read what I wrote? I said I KNOW them. I should've made it clear that SOME of the ones I know (acquaintances, friends of friends, etc.) still go clubbing three times a week by their own admission.

R7 Nobody said anything about having to wear a suit and tie all day. This is about how you can look good and be comfortable without looking like you're desperately trying to look cool to the twinks.

Just what exactly is sophisticated? Tommy Bahama Hawaiian Shirts? Or full suite and tie on hot summer days? Neither is a great option.

Why isn't the world exactly the way I want it to be?!

whaaaaaaaaa....

OP needs to get a life and stop meddling on everyone else's.

OP what should I wear? I'm 65 and still wearing A&F

OP sounds like a complete fool. He probably is a waiter, too.

LMAO! Looks like I touched a nerve with a lot of the old gays who apparently wear the same shit!

Thanks for proving my point!

Hissssssssss

LOOK! R14 just said, "LMAO".

I guess that tells us all we need to know about him.

I shop there, OP, because I am not like other middle-aged guys. I look much younger than I really am (everyone tells me I look 28).

My caftan was at the dry cleaners. Sorry to offend such a delicate flower.

"OP, what should I wear? I'm 65 and still wearing A&F...???"

You should just...disappear from the planet!!! Ewww!!

-- OP

I dont know any queens over 40 that go clubbing 3 nights a week. Most of the guys I know gave that up years ago and meeting at a gay bar for a drink is like pulling hair. Do you live in NY? Those queens are delusional so I could see that happening there. But thats no different then all the rich Fraus there that have a ton of plastic surgery and wear the same clothes as their daughters so they will get the " you look like sisters" fake compliment.

OP = gay men over 40 should heard not seen.

The OP is jealous that these other guys wearing the same cloths he dose brings down the "exclusive" look he has shopping off the rack.

That's a 3 oh dearer, R22.

OP, you are a twat.

Pret a porter, bitches.

If you are not dressed like this OP then you are not in fashion. Pot meet Kettle. You shop at a mall? Really? You seem to know the brands.

R26, they dress funny for waiters.

[quote]LMAO! Looks like I touched a nerve with a lot of the old gays who apparently wear the same shit!

Once again, OP is casting extremely shallow judgement on others based on pure conjecture. How old is he?

The truth is, as you get older you stop caring about superficial things like clubbing, buying music, and the latest fashion trends. Most older people do not pay attention to fashion like younger people. There is a reason for this, its not that they dont care, it that they realize worrying about fashion is just as ridiculous as clubbing. Its something you learn when you grow up OP. You buy clothes that fit you, are comfortable and look nice. You dont need to impress anyone including younger twinks who think specific brands are for them and only them.

I have a couple of pairs of Johnny Ramone Vans. I know I'm too old to wear them, but I can't make myself get rid of them. I could see as time goes on and I begin to slip a little, you might see me out and around in them.

I wear my old cha cha heels to feel young again.

I should add, apologies in advance, OP.

[quote] I have a couple of pairs of Johnny Ramone Vans. I know I'm too old to wear them, but I can't make myself get rid of them. I could see as time goes on and I begin to slip a little, you might see me out and around in them.

Aww, no one is too old to wear Ramones anything. I bet you can name more Ramones songs than half the young people wearing their t-shirts.

I got too fat for my caftans.

Thanks, R33. I always wonder about kids wearing rock legend t-shirts. I doubt any of them know who those guys were.

R20 are you kidding? What you clearly described is every gay bar in West Hollywood, not to mention every other delusional fool in LA.

I think I'm in love with R29 .

For you R36, New York socialite Jocelyn Wildenstein AKA Catwoman

More Manhattan beauties

And its not just the women!

Straight guys wearing the same clothes they wore as toddlers, with their trailer-trash tattoos, and nasty, ecoli-braided beards don't look too much better.

I wish bell bottom jeans would come back. *sigh*

OP, just because you have an old and small mind doesnt mean everyone else should too. If they want to wear youthful clothes and do youthful things, cool for them. When I get their age, I want to be ageless and not care about notions that you should act old just because of your age. I am anti=ageism already, and could not care less about living up to someone's expectation about age. I say more power to the youthful people.

No such luck R42, men are now buying women's skinny jeans. Since when did men's legs start looking like a set of chop sticks?

They look ridiculous, R44.

And R43 is correct. Who cares what this little schmuck OP and his minions think? We own, we have money, we have fabulous vacations all around the world with our friends---while OP still struggles to come up with the rent every month. We look ABOVE him.

When I am an old woman I shall wear purple

With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.

And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves

And satin sandals, and say we've no money for butter.

I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired

And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells

And run my stick along the public railings

And make up for the sobriety of my youth.

I shall go out in my slippers in the rain

And pick flowers in other people's gardens

And learn to spit.

You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat

And eat three pounds of sausages at a go

Or only bread and pickle for a week

And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.

But now we must have clothes that keep us dry

And pay our rent and not swear in the street

And set a good example for the children.

We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

But maybe I ought to practice a little now?

So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised

When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.

I always thought in the future we'd where uniforms. I want a wrap around pastel like in Logan's Run.

Not if you're over 30 r47.

The Carousel turned long ago for most of the people on this board. Gaylings would love it though. No one over 30, sex shops, instant laser makeover, rug rats kept in quarantine parts of the city, pink drugs, and an in home transporter used as a grinder-esk hook up device. LOL Imagine, when this movie was made, the internet didnt exist, let alone cell phones and apps of any kind. Yet ironically, they predicted what kind of bullshit would exist in the future. Oh, and Caftans were cool.

Did I wake up in 2004? There are still threads about "men over ___ can't wear _____"? Who gives a shit.

"Grinder-esk," R49?

You have rocked my world, and not in a good way.

Oh, dear...

That was one hell of a nap R50. Apparently the future is all about men over a certain age cannot, I repeat, cannot wear certain cloths as deemed by the millennial-stapo.

[quote]Just what exactly is sophisticated? Tommy Bahama Hawaiian Shirts? Or full suite and tie on hot summer days? Neither is a great option

Yes, because these to extremes are the ONLY options. Dope.

R53 it's two.

^two not to

No straight man or straight acting man would be caught dead wearing one single thing from the link @ R26.

What do you fashion mavens think of Old Navy Couture on middle age men?

That was nice r46, thank you.

Aren't brands like A&F and Hollister very early-2000s? These unfortunate men are probably just going with the clothing habits they acquired in their first great moment of personal authenticity, back in their 20s—they might even be wearing some of the same items, not having yet worn out that notoriously durable apparel. It's hard to see that one is in a rut, let alone break out of it and betake oneself to a J. Crew or Banana Republic or whatever is more age-appropriate. Just like changing one's hairdo.

A real man wears what he wants to, at any age.

Dressing age-appropriate is a delicate balancing act.

If you want to be realist R53, older men are mostly relegated to those two types of clothes. Suites, and tacky island wear. Everything else is marketed to younger men. And yes, there are cool things out there beside those two options or trying to look 20, but then again, I am buying cloths that twinks consider off limits, just for them ageist attitude. You are probably the snotty clerk in the mall that thinks his job is a social event and not a business establishment trying to make a profit.

Gramps @ R62, you need to learn about some appropriate options for older men. Let me help you. I don't mind walking little old ladies across the street. This is a good place to start:

LL Bean? Someone has a lumberjack daddy fetish.

Really R46? I'm 99% sure that whoever posted that cringe inducing "red hat" poem intended it as satire. At least I hope so.

Any sane person would cross the street to avoid some old, obese, bag lady wearing a purple caftan and a red hat with mismatching gloves and satin sandals---who begs for food samples and eats them while sitting on the pavement when she isn't walking around town spitting in the street and running her cane along public fences.

What a frightening image.

^Reply meant for R58 not R46

R63 just updated the official clothing options for older men, Suite and Tie, Tropical Island and now Lumberjack. Glad none of that is a conservative stereotype.

I'm in my forties. Casual dress for me are pretty much Ralph Lauren, Banana Republic, some Burberry shirts, Johnston Murphy shoes . Nothing real expensive but stuff that lasts. When I was a kid I was a Guess, Generra, Esprit, Bennetton Queen.

I would dress like this if I could afford it

But right now this is all my budget can handle.

R69. That look is douchey unless you look like him too.

As long as these oldsters leave their tiaras and Depends at home let them go out. They provide an endless stream of entertainment to the twink set. There is nothing less sexy than seeing a botoxed up/Hair Club for Men member ripping up the dance floor to the latest Gaga track. It is far funnier than anything that loathsome Lena Dunham has ever done in her entire career.

I love Ralph Lauren as and older guy. Especially the custom fit Polos. I am in still in decent shape so it show off my muscles without being over the top or obvious about it. Only works though if you dont have a belly. But even the cheapest shirt is almost $90. Banana Republic if case you didn't know is just a marked of version of the Gap. Same company, same factory, same child labor.

I dont know about that R72, watching gay twinks first stab at what they think is hot is also quite amusing. In what planet did you hear tight silver daisy dukes looked good on a man? I am not exaggerating, drive down Santa Monica Blvd through West Hollywood some time around 10:00PM on a Saturday night. You can't tell which boys are doing drag, and which ones dont know they are doing drag.

Here in the Midwest we all dress like the cast from "Oliver". I'd kill to see some age inappropriate wear just to make sure they are in shape.

I know he's only in his mid 30s, but there's no denying David Gandy looks like he's in his 40s, and he always manages to look well dressed without dressing like a teenager.

Can I wear zara?

R74 Seeing doddering old queens trying to desperately act 18 again is so pathetic,humorous and ugly all at the same time. The difference between twinks and the old timers is that the twinks are being young fools whereas the tired old things are "acting" like young fools.

Can I wear Forever 21?

OP, you are a jerk, dude. An ageist jerk. Wear what you want, fellas! Good for you!

I'm with OP. It's only one step from "Wear what you want!" to those slobs dressed in sweatshirts and sweatpants at the airport.

Fully aware of the fact that the older I get, the less age appropriate my clothing tastes become.

What OP thinks of anyone older than he:

Men wear SUITS, r62, not SUITES. Oh, dear.

Who cares what someone wears?

It's what you wear from ear to ear

And not from head to toe

That matters…

Can't go wrong with western wear no matter what age you are.

Leisure suits are where it's at.

Or you could try some Eastern wear if you are particularly bold.

K.I.S.S. (Keep it simple stupid.)

I much prefer K Mart clothes. I find every thing I need in the means department, the latest fashions and the fit is perfect.

Let's get a move on, we've got some shoppin' to do.

[quote]I'm in my forties. Casual dress for me are pretty much Ralph Lauren, Banana Republic, some Burberry shirts, Johnston Murphy shoes . Nothing real expensive but stuff that lasts. When I was a kid I was a Guess, Generra, Esprit, Bennetton Queen.

The other guys who are 40+ on this board should take notes from you on how you can look good without looking ridiculous.

I think we should make a list of stores that the over 40's should check out that would help them look a lot better and let them see that there is life after American Eagle and Aeropostale.

There was a poster here by the handle: abercrombiestud1947@yahoo.com who was in his 60s and wore abercrombie and Hollister but I heard he passed away. He was the only datalounge poster I knew who had died.

You bitches talk about this here all the time. In reality most gays over 40 do not wear "mall clothes".

Look mod in a lightweight turtleneck.

Ees next - day vear!

I'm 50 and I still wear terrific fashions from the Gap!

From the 1990s!!!

Ees next - svim vear!

Ees next - evening vear!

Once again, ees next - evening vear!

[quote]You bitches talk about this here all the time. In reality most gays over 40 do not wear "mall clothes".

As R36 said, you have obviously never been to West Hollywood, have you? Or Palm Springs. Or Fort Lauderdale.

Ees next - sport vear!

R91 Is there a means department? Is that where all the bitchy oldsters go to buy Ed Hardy and A & F ?

Ees next - athletic vear!

Ees next - deesco vear!

Tank top, board shorts, flip flops 10 months of the year here in FL and I'm 61. Hope to be doing the same at 81.

Ees next - night vear!

Is that Press Your Luck's Peter Tomarken (RIP) 2nd from left at r108?

Who is the retard that keeps posting "Ees next" bullshit thinking they're funny? Lame.

Gap Fashions are timeless!!! #Timeless

From these great 2002 looks (modeled by Will Kemp) to now!

I get judging old queens who go out clubbing all the time. I got tired of that back in my early 30s, and prefer going to the theater, nice restaurants, or hosting dinner parties. I would rather surround myself with close friends than go out to those loud, crowded clubs. And I love beer and a couple of cocktails, but getting wasted holds no interest for me anymore.

When it comes to clothes, though, who fucking cares? Just wear something comfortable that fits properly in any style you want. What would you have us wear, OP? Grampa slacks and a tweed jacket? Black orthopedic shoes with white socks?

Get over yourself, OP.

Quality, Value, and Style are Always In Fashion at Gap!!!

Check out these timeless looks from Holiday 2003!

Bite me r110/OP. You're just upset that no one is siding with you or taking your ridiculous thread seriously. Now run along and continue dick-tating what others should wear and/or making fun of people's choices, while we continue to make fun of YOU.

Is this how we oldsters should dress?

Fall 2004 from Gap's "How Do You Wear It?" successful campaign! Josh Duhamel!

[quote]Mall Clothes In Their 40's

I try to see that my Mall Clothes retire by 25 or so

Linen lasts forever. Before my 2005 linen pants comes back into season, I'm thinking of taking in the lower legs for a more fitted appearance.

OP My friends were the people you describe until one night in a club a group of young gays made fun of them. Frankly, I knew they were way past their expiration date in the clubs, but they enjoyed dancing and talking to people. They stopped going to dance clubs then and there, but they never discussed why (a mutual friend told me what happened). I guess knowing when to act and dress your age is paramount.

Any gay who wears mall clothes must be, well, lower class

Luving my sweats & track suits!

One of the best parts of getting older is not giving a fuck what anyone thinks.

Who needs to get dressed up to go to the store?

Who needs to get dressed up to walk their dog?

Who needs to get dressed up to pick up their kid at school?

Who is even looking at you that you would give two shits about? If I see someone dressed up to do something mundane I think to myself either, "Wow you must not have a lot of free time on your hands" or "You really still give a shit! Bravo!"

I'm not saying wear a t-shirt and shorts all the time. There is a time and a place to dress up. Relax. No one cares what you look like when you're picking up a script from Duane Reade or CVS. Shit.

So where should i go shop for clothes u bitches!

R19 visiting mum and Aunt Greg:

OP is right.

I'll agree with OP only to a certain point, I guess. It is a bit jarring to see men over (pick an age--35? ) wearing certain things: branded logos aimed at youth culture being one, the latest graphic tees being another.

I stopped advertising brands on my clothes when I hit about 35. I still wear some polls with little animals on them, but that's about it.

Having said that, a well-made sweatshirt or tee or pair of jeans from a mall store still works for me, as long as it doesn't scream out where it's from.

Mostly, I'm a jeans and blazer or khakis and button down type.

[quote] There was a poster here by the handle: abercrombiestud1947@yahoo.com who was in his 60s and wore abercrombie and Hollister but I heard he passed away. He was the only datalounge poster I knew who had died.

Of what, R94, embarrassment?

R119 thinks anyone who doesn't wear a tuxedo while running household errands is a slob.

I don't see what's so bad about R123.

I still wear my Gap Inline Cargo Pants and Graphic Ts from 1998!!!

That's part of why everyone laughs at you

I still have clothes my Mom bought me when I was a teenager, and I have lost some weight since then so they look like potato sacks on me now.

OP will be sad when my DKNY and Williwear suits come back into style!

Way before Steve Harvey, there was Donna Karan and Willi Smith.

My Men's Crazy Stripe Sweater from Holiday 2001 at Gap is still in excellent condition and I get compliments on it every year still!

Gap = Quality, Value & Style!

Those compliments come from the blind seniors at shady pines

I never liked graphic Ts even when I was young, why should I pay to advertise your product. The only exception is a Polo, I buy those Ralph Lauren mostly for the fit. Not all polos fit the same, theirs are the best. Unfortuanly, they jumped on the bandwagon a few years ago and stated making them with a giant pony. I mean really giant!

I'm confused-are the gay men in their 40's or are the mall clothes in their 40's? I still have some underwear that I bought 40 years ago, but I don't think it was at the mall.

Tom Ford dresses nice for a man in his 50's but he wants you to wear a fucking suit every fucking day. Plus he is rich, so unlimited clothes budget.

Hipster Daddy

OP thinks this is how we should dress. Listen to this douchey straight guy giving fashion advice. Look like Hugh Hefner and buy an iPhone. And damn it! Society has expectations, CONFORM!!!!

What are mall clothes?

Oh, dear. Let's just worry about what you decide to wear today. Obviously, worrying about everyone else is just too much for you. If you simply cannot resort yourself to just worrying about yourself then I suggest looking down when you walk down the street. Perhaps just never leave your house, pumpkin.

Ugh. These judge queens worrying about everyone else... Someone else's age appropriate wardrobe couldn't possibly make your super life better, could it? Silly bitch

R102 - Let me point out the obvious. The combined population of West Hollywood, Palm Springs and Fort Lauderdale is 253,958. Even if they are all gay men over 40 dressed as OP describes - that wouldn't be most or really even many.

I'm pulling this off grandly, you jealous queens!

I agree with you that it'd look ridiculous but at the end of the day it's just clothes. if it makes them feel better about themselves wearing that then I'm all for it (unless it's "shorts" that display butt cheeks then hell no).

I have been to Palm Springs many times, yes lost of daddies there but I didn't see any on mall clothes. They pretty much dressed like every other straight man there since most of people that live there are retired with lots of money. So that's what most of the stores cater too. Some of the bars there are specially for older gay men. They young gays stay out as they should.

West Hollywood on the other hand is a whole different story. Its full of vapid queens. When those vapid queens get older, they dont change. So you end up with young superficial narcissistic queens being mad at the older superficial narcissistic queens because they are taking up their space in the mirror. It's quite comical if you dont have to live there. Of coarse, they dont get the joke. They all think they are going to be the next big movie star, fashion designer, hairdresser to the stars just working at the bar until they get discovered.

Also the most pretentious group of gays in any city I have been to. Travel 5 miles east to Silver Lake or south to Long Beach and you get a totally different set of gay men. None of which shop at the Beverly Center Mall.

Reading the hostile responses in this thread makes me realize there are a lot of men 40+ who obviously are angry that someone suggested they need to get rid of their Aeropostale clothes.

The question, R146, that in retrospect---why did anyone buy Aeropostale clothes in the first place?

No R146, the men 40 plus are angry that men who are 21 think they know everything and the wold should therefore abide by their rules. Just like a 14 year old thinks they know more about the world then their parents. Its annoying and when you are actually older, you see how ridiculous that attitude is and how little you actually know. You expect a guy in his 20s to be a little more adult and level headed.

And by the way, who the fuck shops at Aeropostale? Is that chain store even open anymore?

This question is moot unless you are a retail queen. Not all gay men give a rats ass about fashion. I know lost of young and older guys who dont get hung up on brands and labels. I usually steer clear label queens at parties. They are easy to spot even if you dont know fashion. Sooner or later they will start dropping names like LV, Gucci, Prada, TAG, and various luxury car brands. Then they proceed to tell you how they are not shallow and pretensions are because they just like these products for their good quality....which just happen to have a big label. OP sounds like a retail queen.

Let's all become nudists and be done with it.

No sorry, I dont want to see your saggy ass at 50 or 60.

I'll wear whatever I like and screw everyone else. OP needs to realise that people spend most of their lives above an age that makes millennial twinks uncomfortable.

Mink at any age.

You have too much Caftan money R154. Men of any age have not worn since 1930. How old are you? 105?

Bright colors and tight-fitting clothes look ridiculous on anyone over a certain age. I wouldn't wear most of what I see in Hollister and I'm 27. High school's long over.

I saw a queen today who was at least 60 wearing an Aeropostale baseball cap (with dyed hair peeking out, of course) and an American Eagle t-shirt. And yes, I judged him for it. I admit it.

Do you verbally assault him R157?

Did you...

Just last night I answered some guy's Craigslist ad. He said he was 45, which is fine by me. But then he sends one of those chopped off head pics, and he's wearing a Volcom tshirt. I wrote him back, attaching a picture of his mascot, explaining that 45 year olds do not wear Volcom. He actually wrote back, defending his decision by saying "Why can't they?" and added a second question, "Why did you send me a picture of a bear?"

What's Volcom -- I've never even heard of that.

You girls don't get any shallower!

Like Conrad Murray here.

You girls get worked up over what your Grinder hookup is wearing in their pic? Really? What an odd place to throw shade about fashion tips. = QUEENS!

Hollister, Abercrombie, AE, Aeropostale, etc. cater to the late teen/young adult to early 30s demographic. Not to say that as an older person you couldn't find something mature looking, but by and large it's not fashion for older adults. I'm in my late 20s and I wouldn't wear a lot of that stuff to be honest.

Really, if some queen starts making remarks about whatever the fuck I may or may not be wearing in a hook-up site pic, I will very quickly find an excuse to terminate the conversation.

"I'm into FF, BDSM, water sports and ...OMG are those opera-length latex gloves you're wearing with that Aereopostale shirt??!!!

Literally the ONLY good part of getting old is that you can do whatever the fuck you want without giving a fat damn what anyone thinks. If you young ones only knew how incredibly freeing that is!!

Some days I will wear a vintage Led Zeppelin concert tee(which was purchased and worn in the early 70s) and the next day I might put on a St. John knit. And when it comes to shoes??? Honey, it could be bedroom slippers, Tod's driving mocs or vintage 80s jellies depending on my mood.

But, as I said, it's the only good thing about being an old fart.

Richard Linklater said that when he was shooting "Boyhood" from 2002-2013 that fashion and clothing changed so little that he needed to show time passage in other ways.

Ees next...

The train wreck that is patty arquette's face wasn't enough to show the passage of time?

Bring back shorter shorts on men. Get rid of these ridiculous below the knee board shorts and their cousins.

Men wear fur in Dallas, R155. Anytime the temps dip below 45, those Dallas Nair cowboys break out the mink caftans!

R166 wears Garanimals at age 54.

Why the f would you wear fur in Dallas of all places? God, I swear, those Dallas gays put the Q on Queen. Do they even get that its not a turn on and gay men are not women?

Dallas gets to ZERO F in the winter, dolt asswipe. Take some lessons in school./

OP:

[quote]I know so many gay men over 40 who are still wearing logo t-shirts from mall stores like Hollister, American Eagle, A&F, etc.

Seriously, just those over 40? I'd question the taste of a freakin' 20-year-old wearing that silly garbage. That's teenage crap.

Yup I know gay men who are in their 40s and 50s who wear clothing that teenagers wear.

Why would anyone know gay men in their 50s?

R174, it gets that cold is some parts of California too but you dont see a bunch of retail queens prancing around in mink coats scaring off the wildlife. Just sayin. Cold weather is not a justification for you feminized mink coat fetish from Needless Markup.

Sorry, post above was for R175 queen who thinks it cool to wear fur because shes cold. Dallas Queens are so over the top! Shopping and a world that revolves around women's clothes. Please stay there, if we are lucky you will actually secede from the Union.

Right ON, R180.

[quote]I saw a queen today who was at least 60 wearing an Aeropostale baseball cap (with dyed hair peeking out, of course) and an American Eagle t-shirt. And yes, I judged him for it. I admit it.

That's just sad. I see so many old queens like this that I cringe when I see them, yet also feel sorry for them that they are so deluded that they think wearing that shit makes them look cool.

Did it ever occur to you that a baseball cap is just a baseball cap? Those are things most guys, especially straight guys keep for years, or decades. They are not gay fashion devices. Unless they are bedazzled with gold or something.

I though only women worried so much about who wore what and when and for what occasion. I had a friend once that told me I was wearing the same thing to two different parties. I said "that is a woman thing, I am a guy, we dont worry about that, I am not a woman I am a gay man. I can wear the same thing 5 times in a row if I want". Of coarse that blew his mind that not all gay men think like women. Looking back I should not have been surprised, he was probably the queeniest thing that ever came into my circle of friends. Never the hot muscular manly guy.

On my way to the beach.

I'm wearing mid-length bikini briefs topped with cut-offs, flip flops, and my Princeton football jersey.

I graduated 33 years ago.

Dallas has the best Gap in the world at Northern Center!

I still wear several items from the Flagship Premiere of the 1969 collection from January 2000!

NorthPark Center, of course, in R186. Auto-correct is awful!

Dallas! Gap!!!!

What the hell makes you think that all women worry about that shit, R184? I'm part of a group of women who rarely worries about fashion choices. My wardrobe consists of cargo pants/shorts, t-shirts, button-down oxford shirts, hoodies, jeans, boots, and sandals (NOT Birkenstocks).

As an old gay man, I wear a full burka and pretend it's just a caftan.

If anyone tries to talk to me in public, I simply give the Xena warrior call and waddle away.

Give it up R186, Dallas is not a place any gay man would move to by choice unless forced to by some job relocation. Sorry for you queens that were born there. But your feminine wiles are NOT turning it into the next gay resort. Or even a stop over. If I wanted to meet the type of guys that live there and obsess over fur, I could just as easily go into Hollywood and pic ups some SheMales.

[quote]Is that Press Your Luck's Peter Tomarken (RIP) 2nd from left at R108?

I think it is!

The guy to the left of him looks like a hunkier version of Alan Autry.

Don't be discouraged OP. I love a good petty post! I can't stand that shit either.

I think the backlash against OP tells us that the older guys on this site are keeping Hollister in business.

R46, I know I should know this; please forgive my abject ignorance, but who is the author of what you posted? Thanks!

Opener of American psycho, r194.

Sorry, you're referring to Jenny Joseph and the Red Hat Society

When I'm out in my Hollister T-shirt and Aeropostale cap, I often ask the Millenials why they are wearing old man clothing.

Certain articles of clothing are timeless staples for gay men - the shorty robe, the poncho, the buttless chaps.

I've mentioned this on similar threads, but for a good example of a man who dresses well, and age appropriate, check out 'George Clooney fashion/images'. And eldergays, please take the advice given in this thread, as you may be thinking you look youthful, and cool, but, you're just being laughed at, and considered an 'old fool'. Everyone wants to feel validated, and desireable, but, there comes a time when you have to face the reality no one wants your saggy old ass. Try to look sophisticated, and well groomed, not 'cool'. And no, you don't look much younger than your number age. . .

I respectfully disagree R199, and I am not an eldergay. When I see an older dude in a jersey and ball cap I think to myself, "That's cool. He still has a young heart and soul. I bet I'd enjoy hanging with him." It has nothing to do with him "fooling" me about his chronological age.

Some of y'all are harsh judges.

Yep, I agree with R200. I have seen a few older guys that look good or "cool" even for their age. Why? Because they break the norm and dont ware old lady slacks and blazers. I dont buy this sophisticated crap line. And mall cloths have never been cool by the way.

That is boring to me. Not saying I want to see some older guy in spandex with butt cheeks hanging out but that looks tacky on everyone. I can relate to an older guy who wears Jeans and a t-shirt or if he is still muscular even a wife beater looks good. But then I am attracted to masculine guys, so usually they are not the time to be obsessed with mall clothes to begin with. If they are in really good shape, they can wear anything and it would look good.

All my suits have pleats. You don't want to see pleats, do you?

Excuse me-pleats are back!

[quote]That's just sad. I see so many old queens like this that I cringe when I see them, yet also feel sorry for them that they are so deluded that they think wearing that shit makes them look cool.

You don't get it - the underlying basis for this whole discussion is that younger guys wear stuff to be cool and older guys wear stuff because they like it, not in order to be cool.

As someone above said, the best thing about getting older is that you don't care about what people think about your choices. So, to a millenial, clothes are a vehicle to say something about yourself, but to older guys, clothes are something to put on your body so you don't get arrested once you leave the building. We wear certain clothes because we like them, not because we are trying to "look cool".

How many hot daddies post on DL?

R + 1. You said it better than I could. Younger guys dont have the perspective of time to get that. Its all about looking cool to them. they dont understand that need goes a way as you get older and personal style is not tied to that concept.

Hollister, Abercrombie, and Aeropostale all stopped being cool in like 2007.

Oh really, R207? Like? You sound really coooooool!

As long as this shriveled ass can fit into my old $400 jeans, I'm wearing them.

Mr. DJ, play "Music"

R208 doesn't understand when someone is joking.

Muscle daddies can wear what they want. All else, dress age appropriate.

I used to work in an industry helping these big chains get set up across the US. 5 years is the maximum expected "cool" factor you can plan on, and that's only if you are lucky. Most of these brands mentioned are about 15 years past their expiration date. So no no one at any age is cool wearing these. They merge and re-brand, remodel and Bam! new brand. But its really just the same old shit from the same old companies from the same Chinese factories. Mall shoppers are fickle and not too bright. Retailers bank on that fact.

I'd love to see what some of you fashionistas dress like!

Wise words from R212. More proof that we are in control of the Illuminati and the 1%!

To many men on this site are like the guy in the link. . .

I was in Florida last year and saw a fat old queen with bleached hair wearing a skintight t-shirt with a huge Aeropostale logo on it and tight shorts.

It wasn't a pretty sight.

At least he served his country, ya take-it-up-the-pansy ass tranny.

R217 - Yea, sacrificing your life for Exxon and BP to keep the oil flowing in the Middle East is so patriotic and noble.

Young men dont have any better sense of style over elder gays. Merman hair invented by the Millennials is not exactly what I would call in good taste or even attractive for that matter.

I’m 28 and I wear Hollister because I’m so skinny that their XXS clothes are some of the only clothes that don’t look too big on me.

Once you're out of high school it's time to STOP wearing t shirts with writing on it.

I will never buy A&F and Hollister because of A&F’s long racist history with its workers and advertisements. Fuck them

OP. What's worse than men over 40 wearing teenage t-shirts are those men over 40 who wear tattoos they purchased as teenagers.

R219 Ethel Merman never had hair like that.

Levis and RL polos and that’s pretty much it since Ralph started making them 50 years or so ago. LaCoste shirts before that. Like Steve Jobs, wearing the same thing simplifies getting dressed. And wearing those two items - that last forever and never go out of style - simplifies shopping.

This from someone who started working in the 1970’s when “casual” was defined as a sport jacket, dress shirt, and tie instead of a suit jacket, dress shirt, and tie and was maybe OK to wear on Fridays.

earrings?

CAFTANS!????

I will be in the US next week and I fully intend to shop at Urban Outfitters. But not A&F, the music is too loud.

Isn't Urban Outfitters anti-gay?

Clothing from the mall is not cool, or original. It is consumerist, not cool. It is crap from corporations made most likely by exploited workers. You have been had. Do you enjoy being a slave to the system? Well, you do you....

What's your damage, Heather?

I think the more interesting question is why R220 bumped a thread that is over five years old.

[quote] I see. So, after 40, all gay men should just dig a hole and bury themselves in it...???

A few are very rich, or can pass for "hot"; otherwise, pretty much, yeah.

You can never go wrong with smart casual.

People should wear whatever fits their lifestyle and personal style, at any age. For example, if you grew up in a beach town and surfed all your life, there's no reason why you shouldn't continue to wear that style of clothing (i.e Volcom) as you age if that's still your lifestyle. But if its not authentic and you're just trying to pull it off as a "look", it appears even more ridiculous on someone older.

As far as clubbing, its a shame many people in the US are so shallow, judgemental and narrow minded. In Europe and most of the world, people of all ages go to nightclubs, most of which are multigenerational, and dancing is something that people do all their lives.

Everything after 1850 was a mistake when it comes to gents' fashion.

Whenever I see anyone, at any age, wearing anything that is clearly and blatantly branded with a big logo, I view them as insecure and not knowing who they are. But that is more normal and acceptable in young people who are still finding themselves, and since I think people should become more mature and secure with themselves as they get older, that's why it probably seems more tragic on older people. But if an older man wants to wear an A&F or Hollister, etc. item that is not branded (advertising on the item that it is from that label), because they like the fit or comfort, etc, then that's totally understandable and fine.

I mostly wear the Hollister clothes (shirts) with the small bird logo.

Straight men do it too

R237 - agreed. I was at a party recently, and I commented on the (apparently) new design of the Tampa Bay baseball cap.

Nope - it was the Burberry monogramed baseball cap. $390 (not including tax) for this ridiculous piece of shit.

I couldn't help but feel sorry for this guy - what a fool.

OP wears grandpa gym shoes

I'm not understanding the problem.

[quote]I’m 28 and I wear Hollister because I’m so skinny that their XXS clothes are some of the only clothes that don’t look too big on me.

R220 bumper. Why not start a new thread? Bumping old threads is annoying...or is that your intention?

R243

Sorry, I don’t usually bump really old threads. I just googled “Hollister DataLounge” to see what DataLounge thinks about this because I’ve been buying a lot of Hollister online lately and it’s been on my mind.

R244 Thank you for responding, you are a sweetheart. It's probably just me but I don't understand why people bump old threads. Wouldn't it be better to start a new thread and link to the old one? Whatever the reason, you are a doll for responding.

One of my straight male friends is approaching 40 and he won't wear anything that doesn't have a logo and it has to be the right brand. As he has told me several times, "Chicks won't date guys who don't wear the right brands."

Maybe he should be looking in other nests for his chicks?

Aaaaaand we have a winner for the "Eldergay of the Month" at r224, ladies and gentlemen! Actually, "Paleogay of the Month" is probably more accurate.

He knows what color hair Ethel Merman wore.

Hair dyed cartoon colors is not new. It has been done in other decades.

I’m over 40 man and I have a Michael Kors bag that says Michael Kors all over it, and I wear a fedora and shredded jeans from American eagle. My top is usually a blouse from forever 21.

R230 All clothing from all retailers is made by exploited workers in India, China, Malaysia, Taiwan, etc. etc.

They make Ralph Lipschitz too.

I wear old jeans, one of my 25 or so different colored polo shirts and my Tommy Hilfiger baseball cap. Every day. I don't care.

Wait-- this is still a thing in Flyoverstan?

Mall stores?

Shirts with A&F logos?

Is Britney Spears still cranking out number one hits on KFLY?

Is George Bush still president?

[quote]I know so many gay men over 40

I see so many straight men doing the same. I don't see you complaining about them.

Worry about your own inadequacies, fool!

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It’s far sadder that you’re posting about it,OP. Seriously.

^Not the case, defensive one. What’s sad are you and the other morons who throw tired insults instead of contributing something thoughtful.

In the U.S., men used to dress for maturity and beauty. All the crap about “conformity” aside, they cared enough to take the time. Even poorer people did this. There’s more to appearance than comfort. It’s a reflection of self-worth and so many just seem to have given up. That’s at least part of what the OP was saying so long ago. R81 had it right, too.

You can never go wrong with a caftan!

"Gay Men Still Wearing Mall Clothes In Their 40's"

Who gives a flying fuck in the age of covid?

This post is six years old, r260. It wasn't the age of COVID then.

"It wasn't the age of COVID then."

But it is the age of covid, Blanche.

It is.

some people dont know how to dress. Period. Some of the wealthiest people i know dont know the difference between a gym/exercise sneaker and a fashion sneaker.

Rhinestones ?

I see what’s happening. OP has shares in the kaftan industry and believes this is the ideal to which we should aspire.

Stop judging and bitching and wear whatever the fuck you want to wear!!!

Not defensive, R258. I'm not a man, and I haven't been in a mall in decades, so I can't say that I wear mall clothes either. I just find it sad that you care about what other men wear. I think someone feeling this way is shallow and insecure. And I find that sad.

I really miss the original A&F......... The clothes were quality, rugged and preppy. We have a bunch of A&F pieces that my grandfather had & probably bought in the 30's & 40's...... I love them & they still have a slight smell of old leather & tobacco. We keep them @ the cabin he left us as its where he wore them most on walks, fishing & hunting on his amazing property....... Now its Gap shit clothing...... No memories.....

-Tip

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I have some black t-shirts with horrifying skulls. I bought them at WalMart over a decade ago in my 40s, and I carted the haul back to Europe and they were a hit with all my old gay friends. Mine have held up well. I realize they are for teens and I treasure them. Everything in moderation. They fit my mood sometimes.

R268 do you have Chris-Crafts at your camp at Lake Clear, and old Yale crew pics of your great great uncle?

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