Have you been in a long distance relationship?

It'll drive you nuts in due time.

Don't do it.

Give it the college try for a few months and see. Don't torture yourself if it doesn't pan out.

For me, 6 months into something I want SEX SEX SEX.. i wouldn't put up with no sex because of distance. Only maybe if I was already convinced it was a great love and worth sacrifice. Is it?

Yes. It didn't.

I was on the east coast of the U.S., he was in Berlin. It lasted two years.

Probably wouldn't have been that long if he didn't have 8 weeks per year time off.

I enjoyed it, but I have many things I enjoy doing on my own. It was nice to see each other when we could.

It probably depends on whether you and your partner are committed to making it work, and whether your personalities and needs can allow it to happen.

NBC anchor Tom Roberts had an LD romance for five years with the man who eventually became his husband.

Long-Distance relationships are fantasies. Find a boyfriend within twenty miles.

Yes. Dated a submariner for about 5 years. No longer together. I like LDR's. We both have our own lives, and make it work.

It's like dating an inmate.

I say that while he's away remain friends and pick back up when you are near him again. You all already have a foundation with each other so don't stress yourselves out trying to do the impossible.

"It's not a relationship; it's the promise of a relationship."

Agree or disagree?

OP, why don't you quit your job and just move with him? Just tell him that you will make the sacrifice for him, but he has take care of you since you won't be working. See if he will go for it.

Yes. But only at close range.

Yes. I dated a man in the military. We were separated several times for a year, tho we did see eachother during the time we were separated. We had an agreement/understanding that we would be emotionally monogamous but understood that because of the distance involved we probably wouldn't be physically monogamous. It worked for us, we've been together for twelve years now.

In my experience, long-distance relationships work if you are willing to travel at least once every 3 weeks to see each other. It's very doable: if each partner travels once a month, you'll be spending every other weekend together. IMO this can only last for a while (a year or so), but it's definitely a test. There are many advantages to a long-distance relationship - you become more organised, more focussed, and you mostly get the "good" parts of the relationship, like an extended honeymoon.

I had an LDR that lasted nearly 3 years. I grew to hate the sound of the phone ringing. He would call me three times a day, every single day. I felt like I was being kept on an invisible leash. These long-distance arrangements are largely based on fantasy and 'what if'. There's a lot of planning: 'won;t it be great when we can live together?' etc and a lot of planning trips together to 'make up' for all the time you spend apart.And a lot of frantic sex when you do get together. None of it is anything like a normal, real life relationship. It's probably only for people who don't really want to be in a couple but who want to be able to talk about their ''boyfriend' .

I was in one for nearly five years. Don't do it unless the separation is for a short period of time.

No. I don’t think I could deal with all the phone calls. I hate talking on the phone.

I don’t see the point. If one of you isn’t willing to follow the other, or turn down a far away job, there’s no important connection.

Move on.