"I'm not mad at you, I'm just disappointed"

Yes.

I'm disappointed in you, OP.

I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at the dirt!

Buck never would have been in the hospital.

Olivia Benson told this to an alleged rape victim on "Law & Order: SVU." I forgave her when Lynda Carter showed up soon after as the rapee's mother.

I'm not always right, but I'd bet my life on the fact that this has nothing to do with Norma Shearer.

Fuck 'em. Tell theM dogs get mad, people get angry

Yes. It's a bad parent cliché.

If there's something to be disappointed about, I'm guessing the person saying this is just a lil' bit mad too.

[quote]I was mind-fucked as a child

Who wasn't?

You're not my special little guy anymore, OP.

Is that you, dad?

I overheard my kids one day, one saying to the other 'don't worry she won't get mad, she'll just be dis-a-POIN-ted' (mimicking me with a really sappy voice).

Left me only one option.

'Children begin by loving their parents; as they grow older they judge them; sometimes they forgive them.'

Oscar Wilde was on to something. Condescending disappointment is available to everyone.

Nope. My parents said much worse, and they did all their shit talking in Spanish.

It's just a flavor of passive aggressive cuntery.

Sometimes you'd rather be yelled at. When the person gets all quiet and you realize you've hurt them, that's what really stings.

I don’t see what’s wrong with letting someone know they’ve disappointed you.

I WISH my parents would have said, "I'm not mad at you, I'm just disappointed." Ask any kid who was subjected to corporal punishment and worse. That's a walk in the park. Pfft.

I want you to know that I did my best, OP. I struggled and sacrificed and did all I could for you, but it's clear to me now that I failed you. I failed as a mother. I'm so sorry.

R20 knows how to mom.

Better to have a pet. You know where you stand with a pet.

I thought you were serious about getting in shape.

2015 Bump troll at R17 is used to being a disappointment.

Usually kids are raised to crave other people's approval. Disappointment is a way of withholding your approval. Like with money. Giving money = Approval, Withholding money = Disapproval.

Most of us are raised to be controllable, obedient slaves working hard for people's approval pushing aside our own approval of ourselves. So the few can control the masses with God being so disappointed in you for being disobedient and caring more about yourself than to please others, for example.

Even though this is a five year bump, this is the first time I've seen this thread. The first time I heard this was in the 70s during the first cast of SNL. When Lorne Michaels was away, several cast members went through his office and found out that the show was making a lot more than they thought and wanted to be paid accordingly. They went to Michaels who just slammed his door. When asked about if he was mad, he delivered "not mad, just disappointed." That same line would later appear in a sketch about the Carters.

R23 it’s impressive how you can work that in to really any topic.