Passion Pit’s Michael Angelakos Comes Out as Gay

Who ? Never heard of him before. Just googled him . Is he really famous ? Why I never heard of him on DL ?Did you knew him before OP ?

Did people really not know this? Really?

DUH!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sorry but no one knows who this is.

He's cute.

"I just wanted so badly to be straight" = "I just wanted to dine out on the tab of the sacrifices of the openly gay folks, and hold on to my privilege in the music world as long as I could"

Hottie!

He has Perfect Boyfriend Face.

Too bad he's batshit crazy.

Nah. He has good enough for a fuck at closing time face.

Are you the people who bash the openly gay men on this site, are they the anti-transgender conservative people who have taken over this site? The Federalist people or something?

Bland face.

totally called it 5 years ago!!!

are the nazis on this thread or are they having a wank over the Egyptian air line disaster?

I love this band and honestly never would have guessed!

Interesting. I loved his/their first album, but kinda lost track of them after that. I'm sorry, OP, I'm not going to listen to the full podcast, but can anyone tell us if he said WHY he remained in the closet for so long? Was he raised in a super conservative family? Is he claiming he didn't know he was gay when he pursued his girlfriend and then married her and wrote intensely personal love songs about her?

Good for him, of course. I'm just curious about why this is still happening to a successful indie musician in the 2010s.

who?

We get it, everyone asking "who?" How hard is it to Google? The guy has been a very successful indie musician for several years now and even if you don't know his name, you've probably heard his somewhat giddy, shiny romantic indie pop music. His first album was actually self-produced as a Valentine's Day gift to his girlfriend who eventually became his wife. Given that history, his coming out is somewhat notable.

Lyrics to "Hideaway". It's obvious.

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Who could love you in the way that you love you? You're alone darling and there's nothing to argue If your life evolves into ruin Everyone's watching all that you're doing Say your head's turning, maybe you should start running

Hideaway, hideaway Where they'll never say you cannot stay Come and play oh, my hideaway Someday everything will be okay

You're not strong so you, you can hurt so badly You don't mean to, hurting her is too maddening When you do it's a war in your head What you mean to say isn't always worth saying Take a deep breath as soon as you let go

Hideaway, hideaway Where they'll never say you cannot stay Come and play oh, my hideaway Someday everything will be okay

What's the point to this, feeling happiness in life? As we fade off all the lines Oh well, as we play into its lines, oh honey

Hideaway, hideaway Where they'll never say you cannot stay Come and play oh, my hideaway Someday everything will be okay

He's the lead singer of an indie sensation, Passion Pit.

Hipster music.

To his credit, he's a greasy Greek. Hope his poppa is understanding (although those Greeks practically invented the gay)

Awww, you poor dear. It's OK, you're not the first groupie-turned-wife to end up marrying a gay man.

now i can come inside him!

I guess he's a Log Cabinitte, given the person's show he's on.

He's a cutie, for sure.

Hot indie bro

Shit! Even AFTER googling his ass, l STILL don't know who the fuck he is!

Bret Easton Ellis is so smug - he needs a punch in the face.

Love how he spent most of that interview with Michael talking about himself and his "struggle."

Same here, R24. I'm not even THAT old.

Who? What? Why?

Meh.

Hipster douche face

I love this band. Great for him.

All the "who?" posters are 50+ and haven't bought new music since Phil Collins' last album.

Wow, you mean the crotchety Flyover shut-ins of DL are unfamiliar with an indie pop act that's been successfully releasing popular music for almost a decade? And they're proud of that ignorance? How not-even-a-little shocking! It's almost as non-surprising as vicious, gay-on-gay homophobia in a thread about a newly-out gay man.

R30 is one of those hipsters!!! He probably has a blog and takes selfies with his iPhone!

I enjoy Passion Pit's music, but there's no way in hell I'm about to listen to an hourlong Brett Easton Ellis podcast. As for Michael's revelation: BFD. He's an indie musician so I assumed he's at least bi.

Yep R30. I knew when I saw this headline it would be a bunch of old queens at the DL who of course haven't heard of them.

Trust me people, Passion Pit is a name well known among young people who are even somewhat "hip" lol.

How might a refined, elegant homosexualist of means be familiar with the music of this young man? I would love to cheer him on but I wouldn't know him from the cashier at Whole Foods.

[quote]I'm sorry but no one knows who this is except the people who change my diapers.

Fixed it for you, R3.

i would love to cum all over that cute indie-twink face of his.

And what did old Miss Ellis have to say?

R30 Maybe our elders would be happy for him, if he didn't marry a woman first. They kind of look down on people being pussies in 2015.

Mercedes de Acosta implies homosexuality in "Here Lies the Heart"!

Eldergay here.

Love PP.

W&W for that signature, R40!

I can't listen to that log cabin Republican's podcast, but did our PP guy say WHY he'd been in the closet for so long? He's a successful indie musician in the west. Is he the product of a Mormon or Southern Baptist or Catholic upbringing or something? Even so, he was apparently deeply in love with his wife. He's not claiming he's bisexual, so is he saying that he was faking with his girlfriend-and-then-wife for years? Or is he claiming that he recently "discovered" that he's gay? Who are these men who, in the 2010s, "discover" that they're gay well into adulthood? So over all this internalized homophobia.

[quote] Is he the product of a Mormon or Southern Baptist or Catholic upbringing or something?

Even worst: He's Greek. I assume his family is Orthodox. He's been very cagey about talking about his parents, in the past, regarding his mental illness. If that is such a big deal, I can't imagine they're too thrilled about the gay thing.

Michael is still a self-loathing pos. He claims that he couldn't come out because he couldn't connect to those nelly fags he saw growing up on tv. He blasts stereotypes and all that cliched bullshit. This is the guy who is going to have "straight-acting" listed on his dating profile.

R43, many many dudes say the same thing

R41, so over you telling other people with whom you have no connection how to live and identify

The IGNORE BUTTON really does wonders!

I click ONE poster. The Alex Forrest of this thread insisting anyone who doesn't know this person is an Ancient Age Gay.

From 46 to 36. Just like that! Impressive.

he still sounds like a cunt, like most of his fans

I love Bret Easton Ellis and I love how he doesn't allow his opinions to be dictated by the gay agenda. As a gay man, he's my hero.

Passion Pit is one of my favorites

Bret Easton Ellis is garbage.

Wow, Angelakos' interview really spoke to me. The two of them talking about how 20 years ago, he only identifiable gay men were very femme clowns and how they didn't feel they belonged in that world, and how different it is now with gay pro athletes. And also about being bi enough to be able to have relationships with women and wanting really badly to be straight and convincing yourself you were... I know that's not a popular narrative here on DL, but it was exactly how I felt.

The thing I always wonder about people like r51 is why weren't they able to act however they wanted, belong wherever they wanted, fuck whomever they wanted . . . without lying? And continuing to do so. 20 years ago, in 1995, there were loads and loads of gay men who were not femme, as there were throughout the 20th century. The lies are a dark, corrosive thing.

I never said I was closeted R52. I just said that when I was in my teens/early 20s, I very much felt like I didn't belong and that there weren't any other gay people like me. It' as a common enough experience for men my age-- I've had enough conversations about it over the years. The other piece, which the interview also touches on, was the hysteria over AIDS that made it seem that every gay sexual act could lead to a painful death, which made the sex a whole lot less fun.

Why it's so hard to understand that different people have different experiences and that people's sexuality is not easily fit into a box is one of the reasons I don't come to DL very often

Bret Eason Ellis is the fucking BEST. He doesn't fall in lock step with the gay agenda. I adore the man, even if I don't agree with him 100% of the time.

[quote]And also about being bi enough to be able to have relationships with women

R51, can you elaborate on this? So, are you claiming it's possible to change your sexual orientation by free will? Doesn't that fit quite neatly into the narrative of far right, homophobic Christian fundamentalists? That your orientation is merely a choice that, with enough determination, you can alter? If he's gay NOW, is he saying he was BI then? And that he's no longer bi? Call me closed minded, but that sounds like such bullshit. Being bi doesn't mean one is evenly attracted to men and women 50/50, but being gay doesn't mean you're "mostly" attracted to men while maintaining some attraction to women. If that's the case, why isn't he coming out as bi? Sounds like a confused man who's still in denial.

Sounds like R55 is a Gold Star Gay who doesn't understand shades of sexuality.

R56 - yes, I am a gold star gay. I also happen to be fortunate enough to be young and to have never felt the need to be closeted or deny who I am as an adult. I recognize that that is a form of privilege and that not everyone has that experience. I'm not really talking about gay people entering into opposite-sex relationships with people they have zero attraction to. I understand that happened and continues to happen to gays and lesbians who experience enormous societal, institutional and family pressure to conform to a heteronormative expectation.

I'm talking about men who experience attraction to both genders yet describe themselves as gay. Even though I'm, as you say, a gold star gay, I have a bit of an issue with biphobia and bi-erasure. If he's saying that he DOES experience attraction to women - including with his ex-wife - but that he's generally more often attracted to men, how does that make him gay?? Surely, that means he's bisexual. Or is he claiming that he once did experience attraction to women, but now he does not? Again, I'm not talking about the actions he took (sleeping with women, marrying a woman etc), but about his actual attractions and orientation.

I'm not into Passion Pit, but I always thought he was hot. He's kinda dreamy actually.

[quote]I can't listen to that log cabin Republican's podcast, but did our PP guy say WHY he'd been in the closet for so long? He's a successful indie musician in the west. Is he the product of a Mormon or Southern Baptist or Catholic upbringing or something? Even so, he was apparently deeply in love with his wife. He's not claiming he's bisexual, so is he saying that he was faking with his girlfriend-and-then-wife for years? Or is he claiming that he recently "discovered" that he's gay? Who are these men who, in the 2010s, "discover" that they're gay well into adulthood? So over all this internalized homophobia.

That's what I want to know as well.

You're getting tripped up on semantics, R58.

Technically he is bi. But to many people, "bi" means dating women with an occasional fling with guys on the side. Or at least a 50/50 split. So if you're going to be exclusively dating guys, it's easier to say you are gay.

I suspect most gay men are not Kinsey 5s or Gold Star Gays. Angelakos probably realized he's more attracted to men than to women, and it's easier to say he's gay. That doesn't mean he won't find a woman sexy, just that he is not actively seeking women out for relationships or for sex. He likes cock better. Add in the fact that few women actually want a relationship with a guy who is more attracted to men.

So the answer to your question is "technically he is bi, but for many bi men who are more attracted to men, it's just easier to say he's gay."

Or he's gay like he said, R60.

Again semantics, R61 -- there are many on DL who argue that anyone who is not a Gold Star Gay is bi. So the handjob you got from your high school girlfriend while fantasizing about young Rob Lowe makes you bi in their book because it was still a female hand.

I suspect he's 100% gay but only claiming some weak attraction to women so as to not entirely alienate his legion of hipster girl fans... If you've been to a Passion Pit concert, you know who those screaming bitches are..

I'm good enough to be straight, let me make that perfectly clear, but sadly, I've had to come to accept I'm not. I wanted to be rich, straight, white, male, and only turned out to be one of them. I've been denied my whitey male birth right!

His poppa is less than understanding.

Sorry, but it's not just semantics. If you're attracted to BOTH genders, you're bi. Even if it's 25/75 or whatever ration you wanna come up with. Being a "gold star" gay is not about attraction, but about action. You can be 100% gay and have slept with a woman in the past to experiment or "find yourself" or whatever. But if you were and still are attracted to women as well as men? You're bi. Why is this so hard to understand? Who you're currently dating/sleeping with doesn't matter. Yes, gay men who are in deep denial enter relationships or sleep with women. But if you're actually attracted to women and not just doing it because of deeply internalized homophobia, then, you're still bi. Now I see why bisexuals get so frustrated. They're either vilified for being "greedy" or have their very existence denied by gays and straights alike.

I love all the gay and bi Dudebros coming out. Bromos are surging!

I love bromos.

r66, I completely agree with everything you said. The only way to combat biphobia and bierasure is for bisexuals to stand up and be counted, they can't wait for straights/gays to acknowledge them. This includes the guys who hide behind the 'straight' label, of course, but, as you said, it also includes those who misidentify as 'gay'. Just because a guy is mostly attracted to men this does not make him gay, he's still bisexual. Seriously, if a guy said he was attracted to men but insisted he was 'straight' because he was more attracted to women and only had relationships with women, wouldn't the vast majority of rational thinking people regard this man as bisexual, regardless of how he self-identified? So why is the reverse so readily accepted? Why would a man who is attracted to women but is more attracted to men and has relationships with men only be considered gay? They are one and the same, they are both bisexuals.

I think many bi guys misidentify on purpose because they know that a good percentage of gay men will reject them right off the bat for anything more than just sex if they admit to being bi. Also some gay men fetishize bi men ( again for sex) and these gay men aren't exactly desirable. Then you have the many, many people who don't believe that bisexuality even exists. So I think many intentionally misidentify while others think they can redefine the meaning of words at will.

R70 - those are fair points. I certainly can understand the purposeful misidentifying for the reasons you stated. I don't agree with it, but I at least understand the motivation. The other subgroup you point to - those magical wizards of sexual identity who can will themselves into a new orientation? Those ones still bug, though.

WILL SOME MAN PLEASE RIM MY HAIRY, GREASY GREEK HOLE??

If the guy says he's gay, then he's gay. Let the bisexuals deal with their erasure on someone else's time.

Yes, of course, R73. If the guy says he's gay, he's gay. If he says he's gay AND still attracted to women? He's in denial.

And everything is going to the beat

And everything is going to the beat

And everything is going

What R73 said. He says he's gay. He's gay. What more do you want?

Lol r8. Used to being the last one in the bar, are we?

If women are still an option the fucker is bi, mostly straight is still bi, mostly gay is still bi, if the ratio's are 95/5 still bi. The people talking about 50/50 split are beyond stupid.

What if you came out as gay and it did NOT help your career?