Odd personalities
Today I was talking to my father, and he revealed to me that my mom once told him that if he succeeds, what will she get out of it? I always had suspicions that my mom didn't want my father to succeed but today what he said cemented the idea. How horrible. Because somehow she doesn't get any glory from something, she wants to destroy it. one would think that in a relationship, you would want your partner to succeed.
I also got the feeling that she doesn't want me to succeed either, but to lesser extent because I am her flesh and blood and plus it would look bad if her son was unsuccessful, so she is unhappy when I succeed but even more unhappy if I fail because that would mean trouble and also a blow to her reputation because she can't brag to her friends, the fact that I made it through nursing school, and none of her coworkers' children have is now currently bragging material for her. Although, how that could possibly be something to be proud of, I'm not sure considering that THOUSANDS of nurses graduate each year.
Isn't that the most peculiar personality ever to feel unhappy when the closest people around you succeed?
| by Anonymous | reply 21 | July 8, 2020 8:14 PM
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Get off the cross, we need the wood
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | October 27, 2015 2:44 PM
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This is the same mother from another thread who dares to run the dryer at hours you are forbidden to do so, right?
You're beginning to sound like Norman Bates.
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | October 27, 2015 2:51 PM
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It's entirely easy to end up with cunts in one's family. It's equally easy to understand that, make adjustments, and move on without being too bothered. Curious from a psychological standpoint, yes, but that requires a step or two away and an understanding that you are unlikely to change things so there's no point in getting too wrapped up in other people's problems.
As your mother might say of your father's success, "What's in it for you?" to worry over a rather mean-spirited woman with seriously misplaced priorities.
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | October 27, 2015 3:05 PM
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I hate to ask OP, but are you of Irish heritage by any chance? A friend of mine used to say Irish parents certainly didn't want their kids to starve, but didn't need or want them to become too successful, as it would overshadow the parents. I found that an odd observation, yet...sort of true.
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | October 27, 2015 4:26 PM
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R4 hasn't been reading very carefully to ask that question!
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | October 27, 2015 4:57 PM
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Yes, my son. The male nurse.
Could I be any prouder?
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | October 27, 2015 5:03 PM
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Christ, get some therapy! Get it before you start hands-on nursing! You'll never be able to cope with other people's problems if you have so little insight into your own!
Your father's the real problem, not your mother.
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | October 27, 2015 5:08 PM
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The OP is John / Program Major Book Resale Troll and DL regulars who can recognise his posts in an instant are heartily sick to fucking death of him.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | October 27, 2015 5:10 PM
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Is this the guy whose mother locked him in his room?
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | October 27, 2015 7:35 PM
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I have a narcissistic mother too, OP, but now I live 2300 miles away from her, I have a good therapist and my entire outlook on life has changed. I used to feel so worthless because she made everything about her: how things made her feel or how she thought things would made her look to other people... on top of that, I would feel guilty for resenting her selfishness & negativty... now I couldn't care less.
Venting on DL is not going to change your situation. Move out of her house and find a good mental health professional to talk to. Move on before you get sucked into the abyss.
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | October 27, 2015 7:35 PM
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That sounds like the vast majority of people . There are not many people who are generally happy (or even slightly) with others successes. Get over it, move on and be successful for you..not some old bag. I have found this to be the best way
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | October 27, 2015 7:37 PM
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[quote]I hate to ask OP, but are you of Irish heritage by any chance?
You must be new here. This is John ("The Program Troll"), who is Japanese-Canadian. He didn't even try to hide that it was him.
Why don't you just start signing your posts John?
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | October 27, 2015 7:37 PM
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[quote]Why don't you just start signing your posts John?
I thought John and the controlling mother guy were two different people.
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | October 27, 2015 9:55 PM
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No, they are the same. There was one poster who was a 14 year old kid who posted once ,complaining about his mom giving mangoes to a lodger, that people thought was PMBT / John, but it wasn't.
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | October 27, 2015 9:59 PM
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I hope you are better at selling used textbooks than you are composing threads.
| by Anonymous | reply 16 | October 27, 2015 10:56 PM
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John, I've grown to hate you because of your incessant whining. Datalounge is not your own private bitching blog.
| by Anonymous | reply 19 | October 29, 2015 1:27 AM
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Sounds like a classic narcissist to me. Make sure she dies alone. That'll get her.
| by Anonymous | reply 21 | July 8, 2020 8:14 PM
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