Double standard: how do you deal with it

How old are you? Do you live with your mother? What the hell are you doing still depending on your mother to dry clothes?

In the meantime, maybe you can ask her if you can go to the junior prom.

OP, can you get into R rated movies?

Don't be a fucking weenie. Go ahead and do things, and don't ask for permission first.

[quote] Anyway, can't wait until the day I become independent. Have my own place which is some distance away from her.

Remember to ask my permission first!

Did you brush your teeth?

How come you have a roommate and still live with your parents? Get a place of your own with your roommate.

I live in an apartment. The laundry room is not allowed to be in use after 11:00 PM. If you move out and move to a major city and get an apartment you will have to deal with much worse laundry drama. Trust me.

I was brutally murdered that is how I dealt with it

OP, congratulations to you if this is the biggest problem in your life.

You live in your mom's house. You cannot be afforded, nor should you claim, dignity.

Shut your mouth and get an apartment.

While you live with her, she'll continue to treat you a a child.

John / OP, I'm begging you : JUST FUCK OFF AND LEAVE THIS BOARD.

Move out and develop your business of reselling used textbooks.

Don't worry, OP. In a few years you'll graduate high school and will become a legal adult.

On DL you'd be more popular if you lives in a homeless shelter than with your parents.

Hey John ..........when is your test ? Are you ready for it ?

R17 I moved the nclex to November 27, I think I will be ready in 2 more weeks.

This is why millennials need to be exterminated.

Didn't you say your dad was moving, OP, or am I remembering that wrong? I want to say you talked about anticipating missing him after he leaves.

R20, my dad is leaving and for good. But he promised me to stay with me three months after the exam. After that he's leaving me. He told me the other day after the three months, we will try to find each other in the future but it is goodbye for now.

Ewwww you talk about your Dad like he is a romantic lover. I'm leaving you now......we will find each other in the future....goodbye for now........

John, this isn't your personal therapy board. You are just so excruciatingly awful and dull. It's bizarre that you have a roommate AND live with your parents. It's all so nonsensical. Everything you write, every last awful vomit of your brain that you feel so compelled to share just doesn't make sense. Are you dirt poor? The melodrama about everything, the "goodbye" to your father, the controlling mother,your strange obsessiojs with SO MANY THING, the fact that you have a roomate in your parents' house, the fact that you are so ill-prepared for human life, that you STILL HAVEN'T TAKEN THAT DAMN TEST...it's all so sad and sick. You are the equivalent of rusty nails hammered into the eyes. I speak for many when I say...FUCK OFF.

Why is he leaving? Sorry if that's too personal. I hope you move out right after he leave so you're not stuck with your mom. Good luck.

He's leaving because he doesn't want to be with my mom and because he wants to make something of the very few years he's got left. Since he's married my mom, it's been nonstop trouble for him. She keeps digging holes while he's behind filling them. So he hasn't had much time for himself and for he wants.

Norman, stop making such a racket!

What would you do if you knew a man who looked like a double eye-lidded Tom Hardy? Would you take him to the high school dance? I would. My mother rents rooms in our one bedroom Canada apartment to Tom Hardy impersonating door-to-door makeups sellers. They do. They will not let my father use the dryer and keep him in the basement with the tins of Vienna Sausages that my mother serves me through the slot in my door. I do. I keep my collection of scalp skin and hobo shoes in the basement where my father lives. Do you know where I can find a used book about making bars of soap into keys and Tom Hardy masks. I will. I use my nursing skills to return to my high school and hide in the locker room. When is American Halloween? Do your high school friends wear soap masks? I postponed my NCLEXIEIEO exam so I could make a map of England from the mashed potatoes and dryer lint my father gives me when I visit him in the furnace. He said I am great big boy. What would you do? I might. Why do the babies always turn away from me? Is it that they are high school babies like in America? What is it like at night in American basements? My roommate makes grilled sandwiches on the Canada radiator. I will use the stove one day. What is coffee like? Does it go through pipes? I am.

FANK you R27, I couldn't contain my laughter.

With the Canadian Radiator, R27 has hit a new high.

John, the longer you keep on posting this stuff the more annoyed DLers are going to become with you. We have told you a million times - you need professional counselling to support you in moving ahead with an independent life, posting here is not a substitute for that.

"She keeps digging holes while he's behind filling them"

For what, dead pets?

The really icky part is that he, his partner and his parents all live in a house together with one bathroom.

WTF - your father says he's leaving and DOESN'T PLAN TO MAINTAIN CONTACT WITH YOU... and it's your mother you're complaining about???

Dude, normal divorced fathers and decent human beings do everything in their power to maintain good relationships with their children during and after a divorce, and your father is not behaving normally in this! Your mother may be annoying but at least she's willing to keep a roof over your head and do housework so you can study, while your father is behaving like a monster.

[quote]If you move out and move to a major city and get an apartment you will have to deal with much worse laundry drama. Trust me.

Why? There are plenty of apartments with a laundry room in them. Elevate your standards. Sharing laundry machines is absolutely disgusting.

In many previous threads, I have said "Straight men consider parenting to be optional".

To support my point, I present OP's post at R21.

R35, you use the post of a fucking loon to back your opinion?

A grease fire wouldn't even want your pathetic ass

Is it true that sometimes people take up secret residence in the laundry room and that is why you always find them there?

Spooky, man, spooky.

R27, that was beautiful.

My mother was also extremely overbearing at times although she also hated me. Most of the time she completely ignored me. I thought her intermittent control freak behavior was the reason I was a loser. It wasn't. I was just crazy. I thought when I moved out it would be different. I just became a slutty, drunk loser.

Thank you R27 for helping me start the day with a true laugh out loud.

R33...really? Don't you realize there probably are no parents?

R32...not a partner. John has no partner. He's a virgin, never touched, never kissed, by his own admission. It's a roommate. Even ickier.

She is currently using both washingmachine and the dryer and it's almost 2am. When I asked her of its too late, she said my father had his earphones on. Lol. He was in bed sleeping two hours ago without earphones. Oh well.

Her house, her rules. As long as you are dependent on her, you do not have an equal relationship and you don't get to annoy her the way she annoys you.

And from what you've told us, she is willing to maintain a relationship with you and support you, when your father is not. Try to appreciate that, and forgive her for all her irritating little ways, there are more important things going on. In other words, shut up and study!

[quote]I postponed my NCLEXIEIEO exam so I could make a map of England from the mashed potatoes and dryer lint my father gives me when I visit him in the furnace. He said I am great big boy.

lmfaoooooooooooo

THIS is your double standard? Eek. Your life is so difficult.

[quote] the fact that you have a roomate in your parents' house

I suspect this roommate is really a caregiver.

I smell a program.

R47 No, this is someone much younger. He essentially had to reveal that he was thirteen ot fourteen in one of his earlier threads because posters were calling him out for being a pathetic piece of shit when he was going on about living with his mommy and some guy she had living with them.

Dear OP, Sorry, you're not my type. Try getting trapped outside in a blizzard instead. That's probably closer to possible.

This woman's husband is leaving her and is sticking her with the next Adam Lanza here, and he doesn't have a fucking clue why she's a bit cranky!

No! I tell you no! I won't have you bringing some young inferior Thai in for supper! By candlelight, I suppose, in the cheap, erotic fashion of young Japanese-Canadians with cheap, erotic minds! And then what? After supper? Re-sold books? Whispers?

OP--if you are serious. You need to move away from Mommy. Figure out how the rest of us wash our clothes.

I don't blame OP's father. I would want to get away from both of them too.

I hate to think that OP is an actual person. I am imagining a story.

Isn't one of the first things you learn, when you get out on your own--how do I get clean clothes. AND, how do I feed myself?

Just do your laundry in the morning, afternoon, or evening. Problem solved.

[quote]my dad is leaving and for good. But he promised me to stay with me three months after the exam. After that he's leaving me. He told me the other day after the three months, we will try to find each other in the future but it is goodbye for now.

Wow, that is extremely fucked up.

Yeah, R56, and what's especially fucked up is that he still says his dad is a wonderful guy, and constantly bitches about the mother who's going to support him for the rest of his life.

"Leaving you" - what the hell does that mean. He announces in advance that he is disappearing from the family, forever, no contact.

1) That is extremely weird

2) I don't believe it.

3) I think John, you are very fucked up and need that therapy.

4) If it is true, John, you need therapy to deal with your own special psychology and also a lifetimes living in a very odd family. I would say you are aspie, or OCD, or something. And growing up in that family only made it much worse.

[quote] 4) If it is true, John, you need therapy to deal with your own special psychology and also a lifetimes living in a very odd family. I would say you are aspie, or OCD, or something. And growing up in that family only made it much worse.

Agreed.

The mother, at least in this thread, sounds like a textbook narcissist by not letting her darling learn how to do laundry, so that he's dependant on her. And also setting rules [such as "No laundry after 11 pm"] that she herself then immediately breaks, because "it's different for me!"

R48 is confusing to me -- is John only 14 years old, or is s/he referring to some other poster?

Where's the op? Does he always abandon his threads?

R61 yes when people discuss his mental illness or special personality, whatever it is.

Poor OP. I think your mother likes controlling you. This may be the reason you’re gay as well. Overbearing mother made you subconsciously fear and hate women. I hope you will grow wings and fly away soon, OP.

Ignore her. Wear earbuds in the house. Duh.

0/10

I’m pretty sure this is a repeat.

Alert: Spazzy weirdo @ R63 bumping 2015 threads.

This is an old John/PMBT thread.

Just agree to it if she agrees not to do the same, OP.

This isn't rocket science.

R19, eldergays who make generalizations about "millennials" should be exterminated.

R63, are you quoting from a psychology textbook in 1945? Most straight men hate women more than gay men do

I'm too lazy (and uninterested) to wade through all these comments.

How old is OP?

Has John/PMBT posted at all recently? I haven't seen him around here in a long time.