Not on the first date

Sex on a first date is called a hookup. And that includes anything beyond a simple kiss.

My policy is no sex on first date. The farthest I'll go is holding hands and a quick kiss (no making out).

Why buy the cow if the milk is free?

Didn't your mother tell you how to get that second date OP? Slut it up or stay home ALONE. All alone :(

I won't do butt sex until I genuinely have feelings for someone. On a first date or a hookup, never.

I think I love you, you may have my arse.

Not even kissing?

Kissing, yes. Sex, no.

To thine own self be true ... don't do anything you don't want to.

I never even have SEX on the first date. if he can wait, he's worth it, sorry. and anal, that waits for later in ANY case.

Ugh...what's the point of being being gay if you're just going to follow prudish heterosexual traditions? Embrace your freedom!

Jesus Christ, when did this turn into iVillage?

Yeah really no one gives a shit if some frau wants to keep it in her pants until date one and a half.

Does you give your mother the key to your chastity belt, OP? Yikes, what a bunch of prudes.

[quote]And I am a top/ vers

A kiss on the lips at the end of the date only if he earns it. I love the anticipation of leading to that moment. He has to be the one to lean in for the kiss though. I just tell him I want it with my eyes.

I would never not have anal sex on a first date.

Prudes, time wasters, and wankers need to be quickly dispatched to the "never again" list.

I only go on dates with the anticipation of having a wild, sexy night. If we click beyond the deed, lucky us. 2020 is showing us you only live once and you could croak at any moment.

OP, I'm in my 20s. I've had more than one guy think that I wasn't really into them because I didn't sleep with them on the first date. This was news to me because we usually end it with a kiss and follow up text thanking them for hanging out and stating that I want to meet again. I didn't date or come out until I was out of college so I admit that I may have an outdated idealized view of dating.

It's hard out there, good luck.

R15 "A kiss on the lips at the end of the date only if he earns it." EARNS IT? Is he in charge of impressing you? or is a date 2-way?

R19 I’m the bottom. It’s my job to be coquettish, not to make moves.

What's a 'date'?

What's "Gen Z"?

No restrictions on sex on first date. I think it can be good to gauge sexual chemistry - to decide if just friends or partners.

Anal sex is just way too complicated for a first date. Even with a LT partner, it’s often too complicated to bother with. Maybe because I grew up in the AIDS oral-only era, but I’ve never been a big fan of anal.

I've certainly never had SEX!!! Men, beastly things!

“Honey, before you buy a car, you take it out for a test drive” -Samantha Jones

Will someone please shoot the 2015 thread troll??

This isn't the 2015 Troll's first date with us, it's okay to fuck him...

Seriously, though -What's with creating hard and fast rules about how many dates you have before you do X, Y, or Z? To me, that just seems cold and calculating -along with those degrading adages about cows and cream. If you're turned on and both agreeable, have sex! Do whatever you like. If you don't want to, then don't. If you have something more than just a hook-up on the horizon it will survive the orgasms. Withholding sex that you actually want in order to force another date is manipulation.

I would love to know the ages of the men who are reluctant to have sex on the first date - is this a younger gay issues??

I don’t think immediate sex messes up a potentially great relationship. All that waiting does is reduce the number of people you sleep with that don’t lead to anything. Depending on how you see things these are missed opportunities or dodged bullets.

Kissing making out, all kinds of hot things but no sex. I want to touch and feel the body against mine. A kiss on the lips and we won’t meet again. You like me, show it.

I tend to be more uninhibited on the sexual encounter (rimming). I always wondered if guys think this is turn off for a relationship because I was so quick to do that???

Oh my god R19. I just threw up a little bit in my mouth. If I wanted to date women I would.

Isn't that the point?

^^^^R20

gay men date? it was always some kind of sex initially, and then if you connected you do stuff after

[quote] I probably sound like a prig but on a first date I never have anal sex.

My grandma always say. Anal sex on first date is only for customer who pay double.

Hey, who let the "classy" broad in here!!! This place is for floozies, harlots, grifters, and WHORES!!!! Take you cotton gloves and tea sandwiches and scram!!!

[quote] Hey, who let the "classy" broad in here!!! This place is for floozies, harlots, grifters, and WHORES!!!!

Your words is not very Best. There is room for all kind of lady even lady who is classy.

I’ve only ever dated people that I’ve first slept with. If we’re not sexually compatible, then they move to the potential friend category. If the sexual chemistry is good, then I pursue it as a potential dating relationship Works for me, and I’m not lacking partners, so it can’t be all that unusual.

I met my partner at a bar and he was visiting my town and had a nearby hotel room. I had sworn off dating because I had gone on a serious of depressing dates. Neither of us wanted anything. But we had sex that very same night and there was a such a good connection that we are still together 25 years later. And still have good sex.

The guys wanting to be chased sound like a lot of work...they’d better be crazy hot to be that high maintenance .

Well, I'm both the cow and the milk so I'll fuck however and whenever I want R2. You can stick with your frau policies for the men you meet off of ChristianMingle.