On my 23rd birthday, I attended singing camp run by Michael Jackson's vocal coach. I met a 19 year-old guy there, and I was smitten at first site.
We kind of became friends during the 10 days of the camp, afterwards, we went to Disneyland together. I certainly got no gay vibe off of him, nor any vibe that he was interested in me. It was just wishful thinking on my part that he could be bisexual because he was an aspiring actor and singer.
After Disneyland, he stayed in Orange County, and I returned home to Seattle. There was really no reason for us to keep in touch or see each other ever again. But I became obsessively enamored with him, I kept in touch with him. I learned about Myspace afterwards, and I obsessively stalked his Myspace page. I looked up his actor profile. He had been planning on attending the American Academy of Dramatic Arts, so I decided to apply there. I ended up moving down to Los Angeles the following year.
In the meantime, I started visiting him a few times from Seattle before I moved down to Seattle. We became pretty much best friends. At some point, he did get drunk and hook up with a guy, which gave me hope, although he maintained that he was straight afterwards. He admitted to me that he used to like to watch gay porn. He had a series of girlfriends that he'd fall head over heels with and then break up with after awhile. I thought because we were so close, he would eventually let his guard down with me.
For a few years, I was having huge swings between happy optimism and devastating disappointment. It was a complete waste of time.
What I learned is that there is something seriously lacking in my own foundation if I was in a position to put someone else on a pedestal like that.
I've never been in love since. I'm 34. The problem is, nobody ever measures up to how he was during that time I was enamored with him.
Fortunately, we are still good friends today, although we had a very tumultuous friendship for awhile.