Relationship Stress

Do the right thing and leave him, you don't have the life experience to be in a relationship yet.

I don't get this. All dicks are the same, just that some are smaller or bigger. All asses pretty much feel the same. The only difference is the guy that they're attached to and most guys end up being jerks anyway. Why risk a good stable relationship just for some imagined fun elsewhere?

You complain a lot ("me, me, me") and are short-sighted. Buy a circus ticket and get on the next ride - while doing your partner a BIG favor.

End the relationship with him. It's obvious he's too good for you. Go lead your slutty little life, but don't come back here complaining how men are assholes and you're all alone.

Play the field. You will regret it if you don't later on.

What R1 to R4 said. Ignore R5

How old are you?

R6 - What's wrong with breaking out on your own and being young and single and enjoying yourself?

OP, if you are mainly thinking about all the ass you're missing, maybe you need to reassess whether you need to be in a LTR in the first place.

OP here- there are things that led me to feel this way, it didn't just sort of spring up. I should have probably included that. He has a lot of anger issues which has been driving a wedge between us and I should have noticed it when we first started dating. Sometimes it is like dating a toddler due to the tantrums. The thing that worries me though, is that he is so invested in me that if I broke up with him I'm worried about his safety, and I don't want to hurt his feelings because I DO love him. I'm just not sure I'm IN love with him anymore.

OP - You've been given good advice. Hop to it.

1. Seek therapist to validate/discuss situation on your own

2. Get a good lawyer, financial and put all your affairs in order (your legal rights are critical)

3. Schedule discussion with partner away from the house to keep distractions at bay

4. If partner gets upset, just say "I need time and space to further reflect."

5. This way will ease the "theatrics" on both sides

6. Find another place or give him notice and have someone close by as protection and to desescalate potential intimidation tactics that may arise

7. Schedule dinner with a friend(s) and relax, your nightmare is over - his has just begun (hard lesson but he'll survive)

8. Change locks immediately and cell phone if need be. Be prepared to take out restraining order.

9. Plan your holiday and celebrate.

^ wtf ?

Ok OP. You made it seem like you just wanted some extra ass on the side, but if he's being difficult now and making things unpleasant then he won't be any better 10 years from now. Take care of yourself, he's a grown man and can handle his own life.

This is why straight relationships are not the same as gay ones. Gay people cheat and it's expected to have hundreds of affairs while you're married and you don't have cover it up. Do you think NPH isn't boinking every good looking guy he chooses too. And his husband was too, before he got fat.

I'd fool around on the side. Maybe being with other guys will make you appreciate your partner more. Or not.

Better Call Saul than R11!

R15 slut.

Noticeable that after getting mostly negative feedback, OP pops in to shit on his boyfriend.

Listen to R1, and pray to god you never meet R2.

So it's two separate things. He sounds like a hard guy to be with, so why would you? And if even if he wasn't, you're ill suited to a settled relationship, at least at this time. Get it done. You're in a pointless situation.

I’m going on four years. I’m over it.

When one is gay, one is suppose to live a life of celibacy. Therefore, this really shouldn't be an issue to begin with.

I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for six years and I think phases like this where you want some strange are normal. Talk to your partner about it, and if you’re not comfortable doing so you probably should t be in a relationship with him.

I find it so strange that sexual monogamy is part of gay relationships. But everyone is different. In any case, it’s absolutely illogical to commit to monogamy until you’ve had enough experience. You will regret it and hold a grudge against your partner - it creates a whole dynamic that is unhealthy. I’d say 35 is a starting point for that kind of commitment - but all depends on experiences.

OP, it's been 5 years since you alerted us to your intentions; we're waiting with bated breath. What happened?

OP, you sound normal and young, and not so self aware. You make a commitment after only 4 people? Why? You probably had an idealized view of yourself, your partner and your life. Now that you see the reality, you're thinking about another fantasy, 3 ways and such. Ok. It's normal, but it might be equally disappointing. Or not. Talk to a therapist to understand your motivations, but also, Tell your partner you want to talk about opening up your relationship. He's probably just as unsatisfied as you are. Good luck.

I agree with r24, no settling until after 30 or so. A lot of people that think they are in a monogamous relationship, are not.

Leave him. Sounds like mentally you already have and he deserves better.