I was friends with this girl in college. About 15 years ago, she "broke up" with me. I recently reached out via this new thing called the Internet, and then we started talking by phone. I thought she was a little passive aggressive, but whatever, an old friend is a special thing. I invited her to visit since we were having a 35 year college reunion.
She came for a few days. She was so lazy, she didn't want to walk anywhere. Even a matter of 10 feet. She was pushy, demanding, domineering, a Republican, angry, controlling, insulting, a complete mental case. She refused to help me identify the correct exit off the highway to get to the reunion, not that she was preoccupied with anything else, she was just too lazy and passive aggressive. At the time, she had "broken up" with her brother and they weren't speaking. It was so bad that it occurred to me that I could just tell her at the reunion that she had to get her own ride back to the airport because I wasn't putting up with it any longer.
I am mortified that she might have been that way in college, and I put up with it. I don't think she was that bad, though. She got worse with age, and boy did she get worse. And then she died. How horrible for a mother to have to call her kid's friends to say her kid, though now an adult, had died. And her brother, they hadn't spoken for a year, how sad for him. At her memorial, he told me the events she claimed she went to on her Facebook page were fictitious, as were some other things she had long told me about herself.
I'm really pissed that she died, but only so I could periodically tell her off. She lived longer than her preacher dad did. I think she mixed opiates with liquor, but her brother said it was her heart (like their dad). I still think it was opiates, which I knew she was taking. The bigger question is whether or not it was suicide.
I never called her after the reunion, though I think I did send her a card. She died about 4 months later. Oh, get this - she died Dec 6 in New Mexico where she lived. Her mom had a memorial service on Dec 23 in Connecticut where the mom lived. I went to the memorial, then to my family's for Christmas. The next day on Xmas eve, I was having lunch with my siblings, at lunch, I GOT A TEXT FROM HER! It was just a "heart". All the blood drained to my feet. I almost fainted. WTF?