FUUUUUUUUCK... I think I might be in love with someone I shouldn't

Boy oh Boy.

Tarzan would have strangled him with a rope vine just to shut Boy up.

Same old story, indeed.

Clearly you didn't drink enough vodka, you should have finished off both bottles and all your problems would be solved.

Grow the fuck up!

I'm 23! My right to be a dysfunctional whiny little bitch hasn't expired yet, and I intend to milk it till it's dry.

Grow up. Mentally.

You bitter old queens are so judgmental.

They probably just think you were embarrassed by PDA. Tell him at work you had a "conservative upbringing" and continue crushing. Eventually you'll et a three way.

When on the spot, deny, deny, deny. They can't prove anything. Then sue them!

You're 23, just go get laid by someone else. Sheesh.

You in danger gurl

OP is where the boys are.

The crush is clearly just a but of theatre to justify your alcohol abuse. Stop manufacturing drama and crisis as an excuse to get drunk, perhaps.

And they say lesbians are full of drama.

R12 I don't even like alcohol. Just couldn't think of another way to feel better tonight. Weed doesn't work for me.

Here's how to feel better, OP. Put down the booze. Go out. Meet people. When you find someone you like, let them know you are single. Date. Fuck. Have a good time. Repeat until you meet someone special. etc , etc.

OP, I can sympathize with you because I'm on the other end of that, often. Whenever my husband makes a new gay friend, they inevitably fall in lust with him and want him. They basically aren't allowed around him anymore so instead they'll send him lewd messages on facebook saying how they want his big dick or whatever the fuck they want since they're pathetic and needy. One of his friends, who was a friend of ours as a couple, said he was falling for him and created this whole dramatic thing out of it too. Anyhow, at least you didn't do that and haven't yet. These guys I'm talking about are all in their 30s, so class doesn't necessarily come with age. Just realize you can only be friends with him and kill your emotions toward him and find someone single that you can get with.

No one has a right to be whiny and dysfunctional regardless of age. The "I'm only 23!" Excuse just makes you seem all the more pathetic. And, frankly what the fuck did you expect when you posted this here if not judgment? Sympathy for some prissy little fuckwit who is so ill-suited for the world that he can't categorize his own feelings and maintain adult boundaries? Fine, you're 23! At this stage a dick is a dick is a dick. If you want to revel in being immature, no one will take your feelings seriously since you admit you are willfully a drama queen. Since your feelings are just theater, go find another dick. The one with which you're so "in love" belongs ro someone else for now. So, stop being a little asshole unicorn. You're not special and neither is anything you do or think.

R16 what are you and your beau's respective ages?

And the big question here is:

Which boy is an immature, whiny cunt? (who is likely hamster hung)

R17 Jesus fucking Christ. I haven't done a thing to anyone. You, on the other hand, losing your shit like this on the Internet, what's your excuse? You should really look into getting your anger issues under control.

Oh boy, boys....

R16 Thanks for the supportive response. No worries. I'm the type of person who constantly drives himself nuts internally, but has enough sense to never act out on anything. I know what I should do and will do just that eventually. Just getting it out of my system on the anonymous web.

They made out with each other in front you during dinner? Maybe you should be angling for a three-way...

Is this the first time you've fallen in love?

I'm with R23. You missed your chance (presuming you're open to such things).

You should have said, "Whoa, guys. It's not fair to get me worked up unless I get to join in."

[R18] I'm 30 and my husband is 29. He's foreign which I think is a lot of the appeal to other gays, but he also is very attractive with a great body. Most gay men we've interacted with (even some of my friends) find themselves attracted to him/developing "feelings" for him which are often just lust, I feel. It's so odd to me because I've never, ever had an attraction to anyone in a relationship since my brain just categorizes them as not available and so it doesn't even cross my mind to develop anything there, but it seems to happen over and over again to my husband.

Also, I'd add to the OP that it was really fucking tacky for them to be making out in front of you. My husband and I would NEVER do that in front of company. It is kinda revolting, to be honest. We might do a quick peck on the cheek or lips here and there but making out, etc. is reserved for when we are alone.

R26 Well I hope you can develop a circle of trustworthy friends. It can be stressful in many ways to be too closed in...

Oh, we have plenty of straight friends and lesbian friends. It's the gay guys that are saying to hell with friendship and thinking only with their dicks.

Yeah, they were definitely baiting you for a threesome.

It's not too late - get back in there and work it. But don't wait much longer or the window will close.

This never happened.

OP, I have to say, your response at R20 was.... perfect.

He really told you about yourself, R17. Damn.

R17, come sit next to me.

I'm in the same boat OP.

I'm 58 and this boy at my gym thinks I'm 25 and crushes hard on me but I'm not single. So it's the same old story and this is how it goes...

Boy asks boy for a spot. "Sure, bro". Boy smiles at boy after sets. Boy asks boy where he goes to college. Boy says "Ohio State". Boy says some of his boys go there and if belonged to any frats? Boy says he's a Sig Ep. Boy says boy's arms are huge and asks boy what supps he takes. Boy says just a whey isolate. Boy asks boy if he'd like to chill sometime and come out to a house party up at State. Boy's in. Boy has plans with boy this weekend but boy needs to figure out how to tell his boyfriend...who's also his fraternity brother living in the same house. Things are gonna get awkward.

If you're good looking enough to steal the coworker away, then just go for it and stop whining.

If you're 58 and still referring to yourself as boy, you should probably kill yourself.

Oh look, R36 is embarrassing himself trumpeting his total lack of ability to detect the 'I'm 65 but look 25, it must be my good genes!' DL meme.

Honestly, OP, the boy with whom you've fallen in love is common trash to make out with his bf at dinner in public. You're so young. Take a few days to feel heartsick, let him go, and go out and enjoy your life! Just tone down on the vodka just a bit.

Doesn't one grow out of that falling in love with unavailable men thing around 16 or so?

If they started making out in front of you, you should have grabbed your dick while saying : "hey guys, you're making me hard".

But he does not love you .

You're EXHAUSTING, OP. Men who refer to themselves as "boys" are sort of scary. There, fix those two things, and we'll find you a date!

He's mad about the boy, I'd wager.

Is R34 what passes for humor around here these days?

This is why I ignore every gay man under the age of 35.

Might be but you might not be. That's how it works with a word like might.

Fuck off r12, that's the stupidest arm chair psychology I've heard in a long time. Clearly you're a recovering alcoholic in AA.

That's gross that they made out at the dinner table in public. So disgusting. A little peck is fine and more than enough from any couple on the planet.

Agreed with R12. You don't need to ever be drinking that much vodka at once. You're an alcoholic, OP.

R17 Crushed it !

How many boys are involved in this? Sounds like an orgy.

OP, How did you explain your femme, over the top departure from the eatery to the object of your misdirected affections at work the next day? Nobody wants to 3-some with an emotional stunted.