What is your type?

stocky guys with ruddy complexions.

If only my generation had a Stephen Sondheim....

I like handsome and not too bright. Live is so much easier when we both know who is always right. You might call that a control freak but I am cool with that. Controlling hot guys, why not : P

R3, I hope your guy points out your spelling mistakes since you think you are always right.

Dark hair, light skin, blue eyes, freckles on shoulders, small nose.

(Basically, Irish or Scottish)

Breathing.

According to the evidence, nerdy boys with glasses, usually tall and dark-haired. Often with protruding ears and other oddities. "Adorkable" seems to be my thing.

Suit and tie all the way.

Stocky brunette, smart, soft-spoken, considerate, and not full of himself.

I like a taller man with dark hair, dark eyes, and is not too in shape. I like 'em with a little meat on his bones. I like a nice guy that is nice to others as well as me. And there is something about a guy that can own a room without saying a word. A stoic, soft spoken, hardworking man.

R10 sounds like a frou

White.

R12 = Asian

Shorter than me/ sense of humor and play/ dorky /nerdy /sweet

Cute Asians with great smiles

Bisexual. Which always ends in thears (mine).

Physical traits: Dark hair, dark eyes, toned arms, masculine ass, beards (not hipsters ones)

Personality traits: direct (but courteous), boldness, curiosity (especially about other cultures),

Handsome guys that are shy and a little awkward. They never knew how good looking they are.

Handsome=handsome

Every guy has something that makes him stand out to me.

Thin with dark hair. No tattoos, no piercings, probably no facial hair. Never blonds. Jewish/Irish/Italian preppy.

Ideally, they're not hairy, though that's not that important. Height is irrelevant, though ideally, I like short guys more than tall.

Good sense of humor, intelligent, honest, caring with good mental health. As for physical traits - I like guys built like Tebow. That said, I am old enough to understand the first grouping is more important.

Where is he?

5'8", beefy (or fit-fat), red head, green eyes, goatee, hairy chest, big dick, bottom, tattoos. Dumb is a plus. I found it once and my ex (totally different type, lol) saw us hanging out and accused me of ordering out of the catalog. The guy didn't get it.

Variety.

The more hair the better.

A wallet he can fall off of and a big fat cock

Caucasian, stocky, hairy chest, preferably bearded.

But kindness and a sense of humor go a long way, too.

(And, you know, he really doesn't have to be riding a white horse...!)

Intelligent, kind, liberal, cultured.

Fit or fit-fat, dark eyes (the darker the brown the better), no tattoos, no piercings. Love ski-jump noses, but not necessary.

Tall , thin, pale , dark hair dark eyes. Intelligent ,sense of humor polite big cock

I can't believe the # of posts that mention a big cock. Of all the traits, that's what comes to mind first for half of you? Wow.

Big Cock = Big heart.....or was that big hands?

Tall, skinny guys with dark hair. Beyond that a nice guy, preferably with a good sense of humor. I love guys that can make me laugh.

another vote for fit/fat

Sane. Smart. Handsome. Modest.

& and funny as hell!

guys with full lips and pretty eyes, preferably tan or black guys.

I like guys that are docile in bed.

No blacks, red dot indians, fems

Penised

preferably cut, but if the rest of you is remarkable, a foreskin can be overlooked.

Anything that's warm and secretes.

[quote] I can't believe the # of posts that mention a big cock. Of all the traits, that's what comes to mind first for half of you? Wow.

I'm a bottom and I prefer an average/small cock, preferably uncut. One of my exes (Asian, so much for that tired stereotype) had a big, cut dick and it tore me up. My current partner is uncut and average size and it's so much more pleasurable.

But, to respond to your comment, for me at least, dick size is way down the list of important traits. As long as he has one, we can work with it.

Are we talking about for a fuck or bf?

I don't have a type for a fuck. My bf's have to be brilliant and broadly educated and have catholic tastes. I also appreciate lovers who are cheerful especially in the morning.

Fuck buddies - I like testosteroned alpha males of any ethnicity or body type. They can even be bottoms, But they have to have wolfish energy.

Dark skin (preferably black), tall, thin muscular build, athletic, great sense of humor, good thick dick sucking lips, smart and politically aware.

[quote]they have to have wolfish energy.

I wouldn't know "wolfish energy" unless it caught my foot in its trap.

White , dark hair , smart , kind funny good breath

Dark eyes

Dark skin

Black hair

Hairy

Nice full eyebrows

O-negative. Why?

Handsome face and a big sturdy ass.

You really wanna know

What I want in a guy?

Well, I'm looking for a dream on a mean machine

With hell in his eyes.

I want a devil in skin tight leather

Who's gonna be wild as the wind.

And one fine night

I'll be holding on tight.

Less hot than me but more successful than me. Zach Quinto and Miles McMillan remind me of me (I'm the MM) and my boyfriend (he's the ZQ)

Upper middle class demeanor. There's a nice way about that softness, which comes from affording to take the serious things lightly and the light things seriously.

Physically, I prefer thin with a full head of light hair, light eyes, and nice hands and feet. Weird, I know.

Majority of you bitches are going to remain single for loooong time or suddenly become open minded for other types when you hit 50, which is 252 in gay years.

Verdana, sometimes bold, sometimes italic.

I like a broad range, but often drawn to darker men. Love a thick head of hair, especially on a guy who likes having his head rubbed. It may seem weird, but I find myself turned on by guys with smaller ears.

Slim, thick, or muscled are all good - but well-proportioned is a real turn on. I'd prefer a very skinny guy to one who's a hulk from the waist up and looks looks like a stick figure from the waist down. I see that a lot (especially in the summer) and it depresses me.

Most important is a guy's demeanor. The way he treats waiters and bus drivers and shop clerks means a lot to me. Arrogance, rudeness and gratuitous vulgarity are deal breakers. An easy smile and an effortless manner turn me on.

Oh, and a guy who can seriously deepthroat gets extra points.

Christopher Reeves pre-pony show

Howie Long around 1998

Mitch Pileggi around 1997

I should wake up hacking like a cat.

Like 'em straight and DRUNK

French model and actor (The Bastard Executioner) Matthieu Charneau is my choice for physical ideal.

If he could also discuss in depth the causes of World War I, the different schools of international cinema, be familiar with the novels of James Gould Cozzens and Wallace Stegner, and be willing to jump in a car at a moment's notice to go touring the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, I'd be in love.

[quote]Majority of you bitches are going to remain single for loooong time or suddenly become open minded for other types when you hit 50, which is 252 in gay years

Very open minded here, yet still single ... By choice.

Yellow skin and a wide ass.

Blond and boyish with All American disposition. Neither a hetero bully nor a homo pissy queen -- but one of those nice guys who seems to have no idea just how cute they are (though of course they do).

R49, there's your ideal type and then there's what you go back to all the time.

I'd like black Irish, but I always end up with pale Italian. The temperament is different.

R57, my type personified. And I know him and he fits the nice kid bill too. The Perfect Boy.

O+..

R59, that kid knows he's pretty. Calculated hair, clothes ... And knows how to work the lens.

Yeah, the boy at r59 is hardly unassuming or unaware.

Are there really any handsome guys that don't they are handsome?

*don't know*

Well hung Italians or Jews. Hairy a plus.

Thank God I live in New York.

Don't compromise on the personality traits, but definitely go outside the usual type. I ended up meeting a big, redheaded, bearded, shy computer geek Scotsman. Not my typical physically (except for the big cock) as I usually went for the slender "pretty" blondes and brunettes. Best decision I ever made -11 years ago.

I have a thing for the dark hair, scruffy beard,and glasses nerdy guys. Especially when they get nervous when you walk up and talk to them. When I say nerdy, I mean a smart bookworm, not plays video games all day nerds.

R59 is officially the best looking guy I know -- and I know a LOT of pretty boy actors. Because he knows to let you supply that admiration, doesn't supply it himself. The classic "aw shucks" thing is still attractive, certainly in a guy.

Remember the old quote when a reporter asked Debra Winger if she liked Kathleen Turner and Winger said, "She doesn't NEED me to like her." That always struck a nerve when it came to physical attraction.

Physically, Matthew Modine in Vision Quest. Big hands, big shoulders, great hair, tall.

Emotionally, of course, it's all about humour, kindness, and comparability.

What do you mean by comparability, r69? What should you be able to compare him to?

I am always attracted to guys with what I call "Disney eyes." This includes guys from every race/color -- the eye shape is not as important; the prominence among the rest of their features is, however -- whose eyes express everything with intense clarity.

Post introduction, it's rare that their personalities clash so much with mine to cause a loss of interest. Common interests only carry so much value for me. Even Wonder-Twin-level compatibility will overcompensate for a lack of eyes that electrify me.

Sorry, I meant, "will NOT overcompensate for a lack of eyes that electrify me."

R72 is attracted to guys with thyroid conditions. Seek Germans from Iowa- lots of buggy-eyed freaks.

I like short and hairy, but not the shaved head goatee clone monsters.

Blonde, dark, red, matters not if they have nice body hair and are nice men who are total bottoms.

My current celebrity obsession is Jai Courtney. I love that hairy, butch hunk of man.

two balls, a hole and a heartbeat

My boy at R59 gives all of you, even the non-believers, an early Christmas present here.

r77, does he really have those awful tattoos? That would be a dealbreaker for me.

Yeah, it does suck, sorry. Deduct a few points for that, bonus points for that ass and blonde pubic hair so almost evens out.

They ALL have those goddam tattoos these days. And the same ones! Man, they're going to be sorry one day when they are faded and sagging.

Short guys and sweet-natured prison thugs. Esp when one person embodies both.

Someone that likes being the big spoon.

While I'm not someone who is fixated on type, at all, Blondes always make me turn. Usually your typical Scandinavian/American looking guy, light almond shaped eyes, usually green, upturned nose, broad mouth. Medium tall, sort of lanky but not anemic looking, light tan skin. I find some redheads very hot as well and oddly enough, Filipino guys, with shiny dark eyes and smooth features.

Personality; calm. Laid back but not lazy. Not too obsessive about anything but principled. A good man.

I like the hopeless romantic types. The ones that want more than just sex. I want someone that talks about marriage, a home, and perhaps kids. Some think it's a heteronormative way of thinking, but i think everyone can one day hope to have a spouse, and a happily ever after... hopefully with a tall, dark, and handsome bear of a man.

I like men that are tall, I would like them to at least be able to go on a bike ride with me, and not get tired or winded after five minutes. So athletic and if he has a bit of a belly, that's fine with me. No hang ups on other physical features. Personality wise, I like someone who is openminded, is courteous to everyone,intelligent,and funny is a definite plus. Also have a soft spot for nerdy guys.

Tall, dark, and handsome, charming with a great smile. If a guy has a nice smile, I'm gonna swoon. I love manly men. I love guys who can't help flirting and probably don't even realize they're doing it. I also love men who love Jesus.

Not loving Jesus is a prerequisite.

Beefy, rugged men between 40 and 60.

Must be highly intelligent, have a great sense of humor, like to play tennis, physically fit, truthful, hair or no hair on head, I don't care. Hairy chest a plus. Nice plysique, not plump. Med to large "attribute", Financially comfortable. No illness, veneral or otherwise. Intellectually curious and interested in music and broadway plays and concerts. Drinker or smoker just fine. Not particularly religiouos but spiritual OK Thats all!

College frat boy with dark hair.

bonus points for the sleazy cock ring worn only on the huge cock

Short (5'7" or less), stocky, beefy and solid with a big thick butt. Low body fat isn't necessary - just no huge gut or giant cankles. I could care less about the dick as long as you have one (ass is my priority). No preference on eye or hair color (or hair in general), but teeth matter. Any ethnicity welcome.

Skinny and fem. Preferably smooth, tall is a plus but not a requirement. Nice skin, clean and well groomed, pretty face or at least gay face. Prissy queen.

Dick size over 4 inch, beyond that I dont really care. Preferably cut.

Very affectionate, needs and gives a lot of touch and cuddles.

Has a job of some sort, self sufficient, has common sense. Clean living, doesnt smoke or drink (or at least not much, doesnt do drugs. Health conscious. Religious / spiritual OK as long as they arent too OTT about it. A bit of life experience and maturity

Examples Frankie Grande

R54 don’t miss this

R92 you’re attracted to Frankie Grande?

Any ethnicity, attractive but with a nice perky ass. Yowza. Overly tweezed eyebrows and long fingernails don't make the cut.

Pale-skinned guys with dark eyes. A nicely hairy chest. Strong thighs. Pepperoni nips.

Personality: smart, quiet, and a sense of humor. Kindness.

Hairy body. Usually that alone is enough

G r10 - Sounds like your trying to convince a divorce consular.

R94 yes. I know he's not everybody's cup of tea. Thats the great thing, we is all different and we got different types

It’s interesting that many (most?) gay men don’t care that much about height and, where a preference exists, it’s often short that’s preferred. This is unheard of among women. Height is the single most important trait by far. A dude can be hideous and jobless but if he’s 6’4 the ladies will love him. A hot 5’6 guy with a great job will still have a tough time with the ladies.

Young dumb and full of cum

Dark and hairy, basically the “missing link.”

Smooth twinks

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Funny guys that can piece together a full sentence without mentioning Madonna

Quiet and smart.

Naturally slim, lanky guys with nice hair, beautiful faces, deep voices, no tattoos, sweet but reserved personalities.

Basically the opposite of bulky tatted body, shaved head bitchy and loud.

I'm kind of a slut. I like so many different types of men it's not funny. Things I definitely have a thing for are tattooed thug looking Asian guys especially Filipinos, dark hair, tattooed guys of any race, beards, Well put together older men, I also have a thing for super tall guys and an air of intensity.

Who makes me look twice? Someone who looks like Henry Golding but doesn't necessarily have to be Asian . Nice smile, dark hair but not hairy, and multi-ethnic. Age range: 30 - 40 and medium build. They get a second date if they can carry a conversation, can make me laugh and has good manners. Another type of guy who I find attractive is someone like James McAvoy because I have a thing for Scottish men.

Fortunately, this describes my current bf who is Japanese. Though he doesn't have Henry's good looks, he's amazing in bed. True, he isn't hung but I don't care.

Him. Handsome man-next-door Kyle Chandler.

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r110

phat assed white bottoms. i like when their asses jiggle when i slap them. i like when they are aggressive too. sit on my face and wiggle.

Well groomed dark haired men with a nice closely cropped beard, & hairy chest and forearms.

Well built curly headed dirty blonds with a hairy chest.

Rugged looking guys, who are fit. They take care of themselves...well-groomed, exercise regularly. I like a guy with a nice butt. I could care less about cock size. Just get hard. But muscular hindquarters make me weak in the knees. I like men with well trimmed beards.

Intelligent and confident. Kind to all...he treats all the same: with kindness and respect.

A great sense of humor: can laugh at himself.

Interestingly, I have actually rarely had sex with my ideal type—handsome, hairy, bearded, tight, not overly muscular.

A few years back, I did spend the night with one who exactly fit this description and it was like fireworks

Mediterranean. Olive to brown. Italian to Middle Eastern. Thinish.

My ideal type for dating would be a clean-cut, slim/fit (a tight body is my biggest turn-on) NJB around my age. Must love musicals and be passionate but vanilla/safe in bed. Dick size and position are irrelevant as long as his dick gets very hard and he is willing to give and receive oral.

It doesn’t sound like it would be hard to find, but I don’t think I have ever met anyone who entirely fits that description let alone returned interest.

Nice smile, good heart, sweet nature, ability to admit mistakes, imaginative but not necessarily intellectual, good dresser, socially presentable. Also light hair, my height, stocky, round face, bottom, uncut - European I guess.

This thread can nauseate a bulimic! I would think I'm listening to a bunch of Beckys and Karens stating the qualities they most desire in men: "a kind heart, shy and soft-spoken, nerdy, intellectual, a guy who makes me laugh."

Unreal! Just admit you know you want the ripped abs, iron pecs, and tattooed Lous who wouldn't give you the time of day. The porn wannabes and rentmen haranguing the private parties this weekend to which you'd never warrant an invite. Or the self-adoring, malignantly narcissistic Instagram sluts who couldn't love if it came with a training manual. Or the dominant, verbally-abusive monoliths who will fuck you to high heaven and forget your name, if they ever bothered to learn it in the first place.

Just ask any truly "kind" or "sensitive" guy how far those qualities got him in any gay bar or dating app, if he was a fattie, a fug, or both. The sad reality we're arrived at today is that the nicer you are to someone, the more likely you are to get fucked, and not in the way you'd want it. For all those Tiger Beat Nellies who say they want a "guy that makes me laugh," remember there's nothing funnier than being in bed with Bozo!

Part of emotional maturity is resigning what you believe you want with what you actually want. Those without that maturity will never discern the difference. However, before you decide on any type, do verify the following and save yourself potentially copious amounts of woe: Health status. (Physical, mental, and emotional). Active employment. Level of education. Type of career. Self-supporting. Personal and professional goals and achievements. Owns own home or rents a leased apartment. (Not mama's basement boys). Credit rating. Past marriages, children, debts, child support, lawsuits, bankruptcies, etc. Criminal background. (More common than you'd care to know).

And most importantly, ask yourself this question: Is this the type of man you'd want to appoint to be your healthcare proxy?

Happy Reflections and Happy Pride.

R119 I've never heard someone argue so passionately for the idea that everybody has the same priorities and desires. You're articulate but immature. Deeming "attractiveness" as an objective standard, and then judging it by success at gay bars? It's a limited perspective at best and full-on ignorance at worst. The advice at the end is good, but get out of your social bubble!

Intelligent, but not a know-it-all. I find intelligence very sexy.

Monogamous. Experience has taught me that I can't deal with open relationships or cheating.

Someone who can be my best friend, as well as my lover/partner/husband.

Probably not American. I don't want to start a flame war, but in general, I prefer uncut guys, and they tend to be from other countries.

Thin/medium build. I've struggled with being overweight all of my life, and I find that being with someone who eats reasonably and exercises keeps me nearer to my goal weight.

Someone to whom I'm genuinely attracted. I've been with guys who check off all the boxes, but unless there's a real spark, it probably won't work in the long run. Conversely, I've met guys who ignited the spark in me who met none of the arbitrary criteria above, and yet we've had a great relationship. So my type is not written in stone.

Handsome Latino dorks.

Poncho Herrera in ‘Sense 8’... perfection.

[quote] My ideal type for dating would be a clean-cut, slim/fit (a tight body is my biggest turn-on) NJB around my age. Must love musicals and be passionate but vanilla/safe in bed. Dick size and position are irrelevant as long as his dick gets very hard and he is willing to give and receive oral. It doesn’t sound like it would be hard to find, but I don’t think I have ever met anyone who entirely fits that description let alone returned interest.

Isn't that literally every gay many in NYC?

A friend once told me "you like 'em intellectual and scrawny." I guess that's it.

"suburban dad" has been my type since I was a young teen obsessed with Major Nelson, Larry Tate, Buck Rogers and Porter Ricks

R123, you would think that, wouldn’t you?! But it’s shocking how rarely those qualities intersect among NYC gays. I do know *of* guys that have all those qualities but haven’t actually met them. Off the top of my head, only two guys I know come close- one is technically not Jewish (his father is Jewish; his mom is not) and not really clean-cut; the other is quite a bit younger than me and almost definitely not interested.

Big and hairy and bearded.

I like big dicks and fried chicken

Tall (at least 6’3”) with lean muscles

Light eyes (blue or green)

Medium length blond hair

Surfer attitude with a good job

Bears. Always has been.

First BF: Israeli. Hairy. Dark hair, green eyes. Soldier. Hot Bottom. Second BF: Calif. boy. Blonde hair on head, arms and legs. Bottom for me. #bestsexever. Third BF: Skinny/swimmer build. Nerdy/sexy East Coast boy. Funny. Dark hair, green eyes. Bottom for me.

Guess I don't have a type.

I like SLIM guys with NATURAL bodies, NOT muscular,no TATTOOS, no PIERCINGS, no RINGS, no SHAVED PUBIC HAIR.

I am a sucker for brown eyes and.. don’t know any other way to say it... a kind face.

R133-It's funny you say a KIND face. There's a guy who works at my Trader Joe's who I've seen for years. I'm attracte to him. One of the things that I find attractive about him he has a look of sincerity on his face.

R134... my current crush is Dr. James Phillips on CNN. Exactly that face...

Daddies.

Dear R119: You must be a real hit at parties. Do you cast a pall everywhere you go? Are you a divorce lawyer, per chance?

Leaving all your considerations aside, what is your type?

I just want a handsome, muscular total top who will be faithful to me, and in return I'll give him everything.

The most beautiful man on my TV when I was a young gay boy was Gardner McKay from Adventures in Paradise. Even at age 7 I wanted him. He was sooooo gorgeous. Definitely my type . . . not that I'd ever have a chance in hell to hook up with him or someone who looks like him. He was discovered by the "totally straight" Nick Dunne who spotted him in LA and cast him in AIP. Dunne said he made sure that McKay took his shirt off at least once an episode. But then he walked away from Hollywood and became an artist, playwright, and yachtsman. Oh Gardner!!!!!

Aquarius, Gemini or Sagittarius

-Libra

K-pop

Dark hair. Twenties or thirties. Slender verging on muscular, but not overly muscular. Garrett Neff, Julian Morris, Max Emerson, and Topher Grace are very much "my type." But so are Ben Whishaw, an ice dancer named Anthony S. Currie, and Mark Grossman.

Incredibly wealthy with no family and well over the average life expectancy in the US.

Two words. Brick. Shithouse.

A slim ( NOT muscular or fat) good looking guy with a natural body ( no tattoos, no piercings, no rings and no shaved pubic hair).

Yes he’s legal.

All American, white skin, light brown hair, blue eyes, full lips, real swimmers body on someone who actually swims, 5'11+, big cock, tight ass with some muscle & Jewish preferably.

My cat.

R147 you did a better job of describing my dream man than I could (though I don’t care as much about height and cock size)!

Red head, fitfat bottom, uncut.

[quote] Handsome guys that are shy and a little awkward. They never knew how good looking they are.

Sounds like male equivalent of Hooker with a Heart of Gold.

He is presenting not just ass, but hole... next to his famous porn star twin who is promoting the pic on his hardcore porn twitter page and suggesting that maybe they will do a scene together. How dare you sexualize that, perv?

R152 wrong thread obvi

Maybe pre social media and online dating there really was that elusive dorky hot guy who didn't know how hot he was. Maybe he'd hide in the corner in a bar or not go out, but you would just happen to bump into him and life was good. The amount of attention whoring even by uglies is over the top. I was going to accuse young millennials and gen z, but quarantine has shown us 50 y/o old men in hot pants doing cheerleading routines. So anyway, video killed the radio star.

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