Help me process the meaning of this gay wedding

Guest, guests... sorry.... typing without my reading glasses.

We've made a terrible mistake with gay marriage.

No we haven't, r2, I think it's a terrific idea whose time was long overdue.

Sounds cheap, low cost, low stress, low effort. Maybe everyone had a good time, including themselves, and maybe they are busy guys. Sounds like a wedding that 2 straight men would plan if they had to marry each other.

Men are men.

Just sounds like a guys wedding to me.

I meant to say cheap or low cost, sorry for the repetition.

Perfect for a couple that's been together for many years already.

I love it!

Women, OP.

Women.

Unfortunately, the scenario OP described could be applied to too many gay couples I know. They have no business getting married, but since they can, they do. After they've exchanges vows and opened the gifts, they resume the separate lives they had before the engagement.

I like it - the alternative is the over-the-top, start-your-marriage-with-crippling-debt frau wedding. What OP described could easily be the weddings most of our grandparents had (minus the selfie, obvs.). Ceremony, drinking, dancing. What more do you need?

Oh, ok. R8 is the one we must ask to make sure we don't "have no business getting married". Then we may proceed with our lives.

What a churl.

Gay Bed Death even before the wedding. Looking to "spice up" the nuptial bedchamber with a third.

We wound up at a gay bar after our wedding. The after-party was basically a bar crawl and the 3rd and final stop was a gay bar. I've been to lots of straight weddings that ended the same way (bar crawl). Ours just happened to end at a gay bar because we and many of our friends are gay.

Yes, I know, I type fat, poor, low class, etc.

Sounds lovely,, actually.

Were they supposed to have a huge, bridezilla style wedding that cost thousands of dollars to make you happy, OP?

Why spend more than a grand on a wedding if you don't have to?

Spend the money on a trip of a lifetime.

I've always thought if I ever get married it'll be a low key affair. Registry office with a couple of witnesses and then either home or the pub.Big weddings are for women that want to be a princess for the day. I have no desire to be a princess for a day and I wouldn't marry someone who did.

To be honest, I'm surprised we havent' seen more Bridezilla Gay Weddings but even queenier men into labels and hoopla and being "fahncy" have seemed to have avoided going down that rabbit hole. Most gay weddings around here (Seattle) are pretty lowkey. Even lesbian weddings are relatively simple. I've only been aware of a couple over the top celebrations and both were from neurotic "look at me!" type fags with money to waste and terrible taste...(an outdoor wedding in Palm Springs at the end of May when it's 110? Really? Maybe that's why they got such great deals....sane people avoid PS from May through October.)

The Bigger Than I Can Afford Wedding seems to be primarily a straight woman's fantasy.

Well I recently met a young lesbian couple in the 'hood who are going to be married next spring and they are doing the whole tradition thing complete with showers, bachelorette parties (2!), the whole ball of suburban chic wax.

Mazel tov to the happy couple! Nice that they have a fun social life together unlike most marrieds

Were they trying to pick other men up at the gay bar?

R17 are they both wearing ostentatious wedding gowns?

Which is more important, the wedding or the marriage?

This wedding is brought to you by Truvada.

Lol, R22.

You dug up this shit from five fucking years ago to do a "Lol", R22. What a cunt. You should ask R8 for permission to live.