How old were you when you realised you were same sex attracted?

It was an ah-ha moment. I was 17 and possibly the last one across the finish line. My parents knew, so did my best friend, his parents, hell, even his grandparents!

I was at my locker and the lightbulb went off...being a small town and being ever practical the next immediate thought was, "Well, I'll deal with this in college."

It was a long, painful journey that started when I was 12 and ended when I came out at 15.

The doctor that delivered me held me upside down, smacked my bum. I opened my eyes, looked at him and thought "He's HOT!!" Right then.

Riding the bus in Kindergarten with another kid in the neighborhood and getting a thrill showing our peepees to each other.

14. I realized because I was interested in a girl I found otherwise stupid. And I kept falling in love/lust with randomly every girl I met/knew that year. Good times.

I was about 7. During the late 1970s there was a show on really early on Saturday mornings that taught English to migrants. I would get up before everyone, including my mother, just to watch that because one of the English language tutors was hot. He had longish hair and wore tight pants. My mother would often get up towards the end of the show and laugh at me "you funny kid, wouldn't you rather watch cartoons? She had no idea my real motivation until I told her in my 20s. I was blown away when she said she remembered the guy I had a crush on because she used to think he was good looking too.

I was furiously attracted to boys and girls in elementary school. But I think it wasn't until 4th or 5th grade that i got the cultural message that the attraction to boys was wrong. This was the 60s. in jr. hg I repressed my physical desire for boys usually most successfully by playing lots of sports and thus being around them lots and having lots of contact. I remember bing a sophomore in college and still on jr. varsity soccer and the physical attraction really started to poke me in the eyes and gut again. This perfect Sicilian god freshman on the team had his locker above mine and he would stand on the bench naked with his amazing mind-blowing male jewels in my face. So I finally put it together from my boyhood crushes, I was attracted in every way to men. It was such a gut feeling. Until it was all resolved successfully a few years later my stomach was was always aching with desire.

I remember hearing of a beautiful girl in my school who was kissing her girlfriend behind the toilets. I instantly thought, thats what i want and proceeded to fall in deep lust with her. I was about 9 then and realised i had an attraction and sexual freedom i guess.

typo - "being a sophomore in HIGH SCHOOL (not college) and---- and that was by then the 70s... So finally a few years later it was 1980s and came out in college.

so in a nutshell - boy in the 60's, probably knew then gets repressed though the 70's. But then comes out in college in the 80's.

If I had lived in the city I wonder if I would have come out in HS in the 70's. Maybe.

It just took a while form the big city trends to reach suburbia.

Kindergarten, and frankly my taste and type haven't changed one bit.

Age 5 or 6.

13 and I wanted to kill myself. It was 1982 and gays were diseased abominations. Now I love being gay and wouldn't change my life for anything. So much has changed.

I remember having mild crushes on guys when I was 9 and 10. It was when I was 11 or 12 that I realized, "Holy Fuck, I'm gay...and no one just ever know."

It took me 20 more years to officially come out. Looking back, societal pressures can be so awful for a vulnerable young boy to have to hide who he is for fear of violence and rejection.

I was 17 and it just kinda clicked for me. I think my biggest issue was equating these feelings against growing up in a southern Baptist household.

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r7, just to clarify, are you bisexual then?

As for me, I've never been sexually attracted to women. I remember thumbing through my uncle's Playboy/Hustler porn stash and going straight to the pics that had both men and women so I could focus on the men. I didn't put a word to it until later.

Looking back, I can see signs of it as early as 6th grade. But it really didn't click in for me until I was 19.

Originally, I wasn't attracted to the same sex. When I was a child, I just adored girls. I loved being close with them physically. I could develop strong emotions for them.

I also loved drawing naked pictures of women. When I was 11-12, I had a deck of nude girl cards that I had purchased in Vegas (the clerk was an elderly man who didn't notice what I was buying).

Then, when I was 13, when I started masturbating regularly, I started fantasizing about what it felt like to be a girl and being fucked. I was watching "Dynasty" reruns at the time, and I started fantasizing about the different "Dynasty" characters.

So, during the age of 13, the object of my lust shifted from the female body to the male body. During high school, I'd check out different guys and imagine what it would be like for a girl to be fucked by them. I didn't have a lot of sex dreams as a teenager, but when I did, they involved girls, and I enjoyed them. I only had one gay sex dream about a guy I knew, where I was the top. I was surprised by how much I enjoyed it.

When I was 14, I did have a friend I was play wrestling with. I didn't have any feelings for him, didn't have any crush on him or anything, but I was surprised and embarrassed when I started to get sexually aroused during the wrestling. I quickly turned him around onto his stomach just in case so he couldn't see I was getting aroused because I was behind him.

When I was 14, I speculated about the possibility of bottoming with a guy, but only speculated, nothing really serious.

When I was 16, there was a guy in my choir and drama department who got all the solos and lead roles and was popular. I was jealous of him, but I noticed that I started to adore him. I didn't want to do sexual things with him, but I developed strong emotions for him, and I wanted to be emotionally close with him and cuddle with him.

I was at a boarding school. On my last day of high school, when I was saying good bye to everybody, I gave one boy a hug in the bathroom. He was wearing nothing but a towel. It was just a friendly hug, but I got turned on hugging his bare torso.

I didn't really start entertaining the idea of doing anything with another guy until I was 20-21. I guess my first male TV crush was Vincent Kartheiser on "Angel". I just sympathized with him and I wanted to hold him, cuddle him and lay down with him. I finally hooked up with a Paul Rudd doppleganger when I was 21.

I was 10 when I had a suspicion, and hoped it was just a phase.

By the time I was 11 knew I was homosexual.

Didn't tell anyone else until I turned 18.

I spent much of age 11 spanking the monkey trying to get to orgasm. In the end, I only got there by imagining a boy in the middle of my girl fantasy. I still had girl fantasies occasionally although mainly guys. When I was 14 I decided I was just going to be homosexual period, but I still had fantasies about girls until 16. I've had maybe two about girls since then, and many thousands about men.

R16 yeah I guess you could consider me bi. I think I'm gay to keep it simple. I had sex with girls, and then women in college, a lot, and I liked being with women and the sex but it wasn't the tug of men. When I was finally in a relation with a guy I knew I was mostly gay but I guess bi in practice. Not really bi in my heart.

I was 3 or 4. Couldn't really articulate what I was feeling, but naked boys attracted me. There wasn't much more too it for a long time, but when I was 14 or 15 I realised boys interested me a lot more than girls. It took until I was around 25 for me to admit to myself that I was doing more than "experimenting".

Around 12. Thanks Kevin Costner.

I can’t remember the exact moment, but I was around 12. I definitely had crushes on boys before that, but I didn’t realize it.

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Here's some gay for ya: I used to try to jackoff to my Madonna "Desperately Seeking Susan" poster knowing but hoping I wasn't gay. Aidan Quinn always seemed to sneak into those fantasies...

When the sexy doctor delivering me of my mother touched my umbilical cord, and I got baby goosebumps.

R24= Defacto

R28 Clever one, able to read my signed post.

R28, R24 literally signed his post as "Defacto". Do you not understand how that works?

[quote] 13 and I wanted to kill myself. It was 1982 and gays were diseased abominations. Now I love being gay and wouldn't change my life for anything. So much has changed.

I'm glad you stuck it out R12.

Sadly, although much has changed, for too many young people, things haven't changed enough.

It was always there for me - long before I had any idea what sexual attraction was.

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In kindergarten. The army veteran gym teacher had a muscular body and a crew cut. One day he took his shirt off in class. Those nipples were thick and popped from his chest. There was a triangle of hair on his pecs. He also had a treasure trail, and I wanted to see where it went. I didn't concentrate for the rest of the day in school.

He married a first-grade teacher and they moved away. I can only imagine what treats he had in store for her. I wouldn't have slept for a couple of weeks.

R34 what a vivid memory you have. He does sound like a hunk.

3 or so---got erctions watching wrestling on TV with my grandmother...she told me it meant I had to pee (Swear!)

I was 12 when I realized I preferred looking at pictures of swimmers in Sports Illustrated instead of football players.

I was 11 and got a massive erection at the local pool looking at all the 18 year old guys changing into their street clothes.

When I was at the beach at about eight years old and discovered that some men's cock and balls fall out of their bathing suits while hanging out on their blanket. It created a perfect opportunity for me to take a walk away from my family in the afternoon and look at daddy crotches. Those wear the days when men wore trunks (not board shorts, and surprisingly, some suits didn't have a net or the net got all stretched out and old mister floppy would fall out while the men were sitting cross-legged having lunch on their blanket. Sunny days, boner days.

5 or 6, loved my Uncles hairy legs and pits.

I was about 5, we had this neighbor (his last name was Babcock) who was tall, dark, very handsome, very hairy, barrel chested. I'd see him at pool parties & used to fantasize later about tying him up/being tied up & tickling him/being tickled. Kinda weird for such a young age, & I'm NOT into S/M or anything, & didn't know what sex was back then, didn't think of his private parts, just that massive chest. I still prefer brunettes/black hair to blonds, don't like them very hairy (I'm now extremely hairy myself), & don't really have a thing for bears...

Bazinga!

Same sex attracted? Is OP James Dobson?

I can recall that when I was 7 or 8, I had a big crush on a girl I played softball with (I know). But being that I was a kid, I didn't register this as anything but normal. When I got older and watched people making fun of lesbians, I would kind of feel icky because I knew it was "wrong" but at the same time, being with boys never felt right to me. I grew up in the 70's and 80's when being gay was a joke and not something anyone really talked about. I was about 21 before I kissed a girl for the first time. And then of course, I wasn't gay, just "in love with the person." HA! Now I'm totally out and proud. This is why I think people doing the whole "I'm non binary or I'm trans" thing should give themselves some time before they alter their bodies. You don't really know yourself until mid 20s or so and even then, the person I was then is not at all the same as the person I am now in my 50's.

R38 Lol, that’s cute.

Hot r40.

I just felt different. That feeling different prob was right when I started school I was really into play-acting and making crafty things. As far as an attraction to the same sex. I was about 13 yrs old I recently made reference to it on another thread being in ceramics class and my instructor named Randy was blowing the dust off a clay piece and like seeing the white light I saw a vision of me taking his cock out and jacking him off. When I was 14 I loved to go see my cousin's husband then-boyfriend for a little male bonding. big huge muscles just a blonde-haired Lil Abner he would work out and id look at the guys in his Hustler mags. I always got the ok from my mom cause she thought was going to visit his kittens.

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11 was the moment it all clicked for me. Looking back there were signs earlier than that, but I used to swim and all of a sudden the locker room scenes I was seeing after swim practice were flooding into my head at night as I lay in bed. I'd imagine the older boys noticing me, surrounding me, all of us naked. I remember lying on my stomach and suddenly jumping up and standing next to my bed, bent over almost in pain. I thought I was going to piss myself. Turns out it was just a 'dry run', and suddenly what my parents and school had told me about sex all clicked with what was happening to me.

Funnily enough, it wasn't for a few more years til I internalised that it was considered a 'bad' thing by others and not to talk about it.

R49 Dry run?

Yeah, R50, I meant it in terms of like 'practice run' really. My first few orgasms were dry, ie, no cum.

I was about 4 1/2 & saw our neighbor, shirtless, at a pool party. He was really burly & hairy, which is now totally not my type! After that I knew I was “different” but didn’t know what the wording was.

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It was earlier this morning

My roommate caught me eating my boyfriend's ass on the living room sofa

When I was 11 years old. Our family was on vacation in Maine the summer before sixth grade. I was just coming out of my latency period where I had no interest in sex. While at the beach that summer, I could not stop staring at the older men, particularly if they had hairy chests and a lot of them did. It was a sexual awakening. After that vacation, I continued to get turned on by guys with their shirts off and hairy chests made me do a double-take every time.

I repressed that for so long, but when I masturbated it was only men who got me excited. I tried to fantasize about women, but it didn't work. Finally when I was 19 and a sophomore in college, I came out to myself. I then slowly came out to friends and family. By the time I was 24, I was just out to everyone. I never hid it anymore.

12 or 13. It was the moment my hormones kicked in.

[quote] same sex attracted

Fuck off with this shit. Nobody says that except for self-loathing evangelical Christians. I’m a gay man. I’m not “afflicted” with “same sex attraction.”

I think it was when I was 12 and my cousins huge bare soles were right there in my face, and I tickled them and he nearly jumped out of his skin.

I got hard as a lead pipe and hand an explosive wank that left me incredibly sensitive for an hour down there.

^^^ had, although hand works too lol

More of a moment rather than an age. It was back in the late 60s and I was looking at a Time magazine photo of two men under arrest being accompanied by police. It had an explanatory caption underneath containing the word “homosexual”.

I asked my older sister, who just happened to be around at that particular moment, what it meant and she told me. My heart imploded. I was at the tender age of eleven, and I recently had been sexually experimenting with my best friend.

I enjoyed what we had been doing intensely, but never considered, even for a moment, that what we had done was viewed as a major crime that people went to jail for. I felt like crawling under a rock and hiding forever in shame.

It was my first experience in dealing with depression, because after that day I had become sullen and withdrawn. My sister, who was my second mother of sorts, tried to pry out of me what was going on, but I could never share the deep shame that was swirling around inside. I’ll never forget that.

I was about age 10, in 4th grade, and couldn't take my eyes off of Scott, who was several inches taller than the rest of us. I didn't give it much thought until high school, when I had a large number of crushes on guys. I tried inviting a girl out to lunch (I actually thought maybe I was just in a phase), but we ended up talking the whole time about burly senior Robert, who we both had a crush on.

It wasn't until I was in college that I was able to say, "I am gay".

I was 7…didn’t know what was going on, but loved hanging out with my older brothers friends, and never cared for girls.

Nothing clicked or was painful--I was attracted to guys as far back as I remember, and it seemed as natural as could be. It was when I realized that that meant I was GAY....hoo-boy.

10 years old. 1975. Was hoping it was a 'phase' for a year or so before finally admitting it wasn't when I was 11 (sixth grade).

Didn't come out to anyone until I turned 18, in 1983.

Those were not fun years.

21 ish. Although when I look back, I had crushes on girls from grade 7 on.

The lesbians on here are confusing things. Or are you gay guys who first had crushes on girls?

I specifically remember being attracted to boys in about 4th and 5th grades (age 9 or so) but didn’t understand it meant anything until about age 11, when I read about homosexuality.

My first thought was that’s weird. My second thought was, Fuck, that’s me!

It's never too early.

Born in the 50s, R7 strikes a chord here. This is not the current normalized answer (see what I did there?, but as a kid I thought (pre-rational, I never would have been able to articulate this) that everybody liked both genders. I did childhood curiosity touch and show with both boys and girls. The first time I had an orgasm I had found a porn novel my older brother hid. I got hard reading the sex scenes, humped the bed to the image of Lance penetrated the red bush and wet sex of Brenda. For some time I masturbated to images like that. I did eventually imagine Paul McCartney lying in front of me with his pants off and I rubbed on his ass and came. I had no idea anal was actually a deal. I then read in "health manuals" about homosexuality...I looked in indices under "H" to see if there was anything on homosexuality. This about the time the LIfe magazine "expose" on the homosexual criminal lifestyle. I just assumed, well, I like men's bodies but I'm not homosexual." I had girlfriends, mutual petting to mutual orgasms, then my first sex was with a girl I really did love. This was late 60s early 70s and I was very counter-culture - I didn't accept anything of "mainstream culture", and again assumed that everybody wanted to fuck everybody. I resisted actually doing anything about it though until I was 26. Once I actually did it, it seemed clear that I had a strong preference.

So, in the close until 26? I guess. But the culture, place and time did obscure the issue. I thought everyone should fuck everyone. I guess I still do... just that I'll start with Harris Dickenson...maybe stop there for a while.

I was a zygote

When the aliens from told me from space.

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OP, I learned the truth at seventeen

My dick's not meant for beauty queens

Eight years old. I had a crush. I didn't know I was gay until I was in high school. By that time, I couldn't conceal my attraction. If you know what I mean?

4 years old. Which is pretty much the age that I remember every thing.

After being felt up in church by a much older Sunday School teacher. The old fool, he was NEVER gonna get it!

In 5th grade there was a boy in my class named Daniel. I started to develop feelings for him. He'd say "I dare you to walk up to this person and say (whatever vulgar thing came to his mind)" and I'd do it. I knew it was stupid but I liked the attention he gave me afterwards so I did it anyway.

But up until then, I thought I liked girls so I was confused as to why I was feeling this way about another guy. Then I started to notice more and more guys were attractive to me until I never thought of another woman in that way again. Apparently everyone knew before me. When I came out to my mother, she said she always knew. As did my gay uncle.

R77 haha, u wanted to serve the bad boy. I had quite a few friendships like that myself, but only got to blow one of them.

"Same sex attracted"? WTF? What's next conversion therapy?

R79 I think it’s appropriate, because as a young boy realizing you like the same sex you may not necessarily be “gay” yet as the attraction may not have become sexual yet.

I remember being 5 years old in kindergarten and having a crush on this blond boy who sat in front of me. I was curious about what he looked like naked. When I was 8 or 9, there was this blond kid next door who would run around shirtless most of the summer and I couldn't stop thinking about him. In high school, I tried to convince myself these feelings were just a phase and it was more about being envious of their bodies and wanting to be like them or look like them. It wasn't until college that I finally started acknowledging to myself what was going on. When I finally got to the place in my head where I could say to myself "I'm gay" and got past the religious guilt and truly felt like it was ok, it was like this enormous weight was suddenly lifted and I was on this extreme high. There was this crazy energy high related to now seeing all the adventures and possibilities ahead, without having to pretend anymore.

R81 don’t feel guilt for being who you are ❤️

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Which threads are you trying to bury today, DeFecto? Some bad news about your beloved DeSantis maybe?

Cunt.

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Kindergarten!

15, 16 ish

R1, Aww your cute.

I’d always had unstated crushes on male celebrities during my childhood. When I was 13 (in 1979) and stated to masturbate, I realized the focus of my masturbation fantasies were male. I vividly recall sitting in the bathroom and saying to myself “I’m gay. I’m gay.” I knew enough to hide it in my homophobic community until I went away to college, though I did have a couple of tea room BJ experiences. . Came out my freshman year in college.

When I was kindergarten age I would up with games, always away from prying eyes of adults, that would get my male friends to take their clothes off. In our rooms with the doors closed, behind open closet doors, in the school bathroom. Around third grade I decided I was "straight" and had a string of non-serious girlfriends through middle and high school. Privately, I'd fantasize about the boys. I had myself convinced that I'd go through my life as a straight man until I started sexting guys after high school graduation and realized that was the way of life for me. I came out to myself, friends, and family at 19.

I always thought I liked girls but when I was about 11 years old there was a boy in my 5th grade class who was nice to me and I started to develop a crush on. He'd dare me to walk up to people and say the most vulgar things to them. I knew he was making a fool out of me but I let him anyway because it was better than not getting his attention at all.

Then from then on I'd notice another guy was cute and then another. And the next thing I knew, by the time I was in 7th grade I didn't think of girls at all and haven't since.

Same sex attracted is a sexual orientation. Gay is also an identity, a culture, a personality and a community. Queer has no meaning.

About 8 or 9. But only accepted it about 15

It was freshman year in high school. I thought I liked girls, but there was a boy in theology class who I felt attracted to. He was chubby but had a really cute face. I was confused by that. I also had a good friend who was Italian. He had a hot body with hair on his chest, and one day we were working out together and I just couldn't get over what a nice body he had. Next time I masturbated, I was thinking of a girl whose picture I saw in a porn mag. But as I got closer to orgasm, my.fantasy changed to me.fucking his ass..I exploded and was still confused, but I knew I liked his tight body. Then at school I started to notice the other boys who wore tight pants and would spend whole periods of classes looking at the asses and crotchs of the boys. There was one boy in particular who wore silky.tight shirts and I could see his chest and arms, which were gorgeous.

. Masturbation soon became an all male exercise in my mind, always jacking to male classmates. In sophomore year, I found my first fuck buddy. We both collected comics which is how we started our friendship, but soon realized that we had other mutual interests.

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