Enjoying bottoming psychologically but not physically

First lets deal with the prostate. Refer to the illustration. See where it is? Not take your bf's dick shape into consideration + angle of entry. Plan how his dick must enter massage your prostate. Enact. Enjoy.

It's not a myth to me. It feels awesome.

No tips. Sorry.

Now let's deal with you getting your ass slowed. See the illustration. Locate the rectum and the next step up, the sigmoid colon. Do you see the bend. We will call this the second door. How long is your BF's dick. How deep is your rectum? If your bf is about 6 - average, and your colon is 5 deep, then his dick is going to ram the bend. If your colon is 5 deep and his dick is 7, with practice, you and he can learn how to get his dick to massage the bend and open that "door" into the sigmoid colon. It takes a good top and relaxed and eager bottom. Ever see a porn with a pint sized "pocket gay" get plowed by size meat? The bottom has exercised that bend to let in the size meat. Ever see the guy with size meat cleverly fake plowing to the balls? Because the bottom has exercised the bend. Or because the top doesn't know what he's doing, to open it, pass through, with his dick.

You are probably not feeling you bladder being pushed around. You are feeling the dick hitting the end/bend of your rectum. If you want ecstasy, learn out to take it some what up the sigmoid colon. Feels great.

Learn how to empty your colon. Douche it out. The left colon. No need to go deeper. Its not supposed to be healthy to douche often, everyday, but you could learn to at least empty the rectum and the left colon if you want to be relaxed and shit free for fucking with a healthy sized dick.

Experienced fisting bottoms learn how to empty their entire colon. Which is required for non-scat fisting. There preparation become very elaborate.

Through trial and error you will know how to empty out the proper length to anticipate the size of the dick and the expected intensity of the fuck.

If you bf has small dick and/or you have a deep rectum, none of that may be required and you can enjoy a scat free fuck with no rinsing or douching. Just a good dump before the fuck.

It's all in the breathing. It will help you relax down there. Take numerous deep breaths before commencing. Have him go slow the at first. The top has to win your trust.

sorry for all the spelling mistakes and typos, but I think you get the general info required.

Dang.

R3, thank you for that very clear explanation. I too have the same issues with bottoming as Op and now I understand why.

R3, -- Good gracious! How unlike the home life of our own dear Queen.

I got your tip right here, OP.

Ok. Thank you R1/R3. I think it will be difficult in the heat of the moment to implement. I just want to feel good when he's pounding me.

Gay sex is too complicated, I feel like a need a PhD in anatomy.

Don't ask me, OP, I hate it.

I totally agree, I Love being entered, violated. once he's in me it should be rough, I like feeling degraded.

It's always a bit painful, I often don't cum, the nicest part is feeling the soreness later.

Non-anal sex can be different, but getting fucked is all about hardcore violation for me

R12, That’s nice, dear.

Old ladies need not apply

See your corner drug dealer

"Better Living Through Chemistry"

I've always been weirded out by the idea of letting someone else enter my body.

R16

You ain't getting no 2nd date !!

I can't wrap my brain around wanting to top. Sorry. You seem like a spoiled little brat wanting it all.

"... can just about take his dick with little discomfort."

I can't decide if this is a humble brag or showing privilege.

[QUOTE]How deep is your rectum?

If the Bee Gees were still recording, this would have been a good follow up for their hit " How deep is your love".