What are your experiences with dating bisexual men?

Oh, hot and cold.

When he finally makes time for you, and his cock has dried pussy juice on it, you KNOW that you made the right choice in dating a bisexual man!

Just think how hot it will be when you're out with him and he sees some girl, grabs his crotch and goes, "Damn! I'm so hard thinking about titty-fucking her!"

A little on-and-off.

Don't even think about it. No, Just NO!!!!! If you are gay, leave the bisexuals to women and other bisexuals. You'd be better of dating an alcoholic or a drug addict.

R5, My goodness, are they that bad?

If it makes you hot to think that while he's fucking you he's really thinking about fucking a girl, then this sad, one-sided relationship will be perfect for you.

It. Will. Never. Work.

Move along.

We've had our ups and downs.

Does the search function not work for you, OP?

This board is stuffed with anti - bi stories dear, so there was really no need to start a new thread.

OP, it probably feeds your Tireless Victim self to be crying to your friends about his need for pussy and how much you love him but you can't fully satisfy him.

You want the drama. Go for it.

Don't date bi dudes, just fuck them.

r7 sums it all up.

Oh, stuck my cock in his ass, jizzed all over his face. Right after the rodeo was over told him I had an important appointment that I'd forgotten, and that I would be leaving in less than ten minutes. He took off and I slept a while.

bump

R8 why

My husband identifies as bisexual but settled down and married me. Almost 5 years. Being bisexual doesn't mean he's going to run around on you. Being a JERK means he'll run around on you so avoid jerks.

R17 Exactly being bi doesn't mean he is going to cheat or screw you around.

r17, are you a man or a woman?

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bi guys are hot

fg

They are often hot and mAsculine

You will drive them away if you get too clingy

I snag em because I am a normal masculine dude. They rarely feel comfortable about effeminate or professional gay types. They want to blend in with the mainstream and not be part of some subculture. Just be a normal dude.

I only date straight-identified and bi guys. Military, athletes, and college students. Gotta be 100 percent masculine and one of the "bros."

I second reply 25. They only go for other masculine types and are many times straight-identified. They also tend to be better in bed than gay men as they are more sensual (women taught them that).

I tried going out with a Gay-identified guy, but he didn't mesh well with me or my straight male friends. He seemed so uncomfortable with my friends.

hggg

Run, don't walk, away ASAP.

Run straight onto his dick

bisexual men can go fuck themselves

Worst people in the world.

there are all sorts of bi's, i don't think you re going to get helpful suggestions unless you describe yours.

You'd be better off dead.

The bi guys I've dated had too many issues. They ended up marrying women whom I don't think know the extent of their past.

Bi guys are good for sex only. Don't date one.

Do bisexual men really marry women or is that a myth? It's so had to tell which is real or made up on Datalounge, especially with the straight guys having gay sex and gay for pay shit. I'm just not sure it's fantasy.

Bisexual guys are better in bed

As a young stupid half-way out to myself gayling, I was a third wheel in married couple relationships twice. The husbands were bottoms both times.

Since I'm self centered, it's tempting to think they stopped halfway.

I just think of myself as a sex toy when it comes to bi men. I'm done with that.

bi men are more manly

I got to fuck him while he fucked a gal, just like in the pornos. It was fun. I wanted more. He moved out of town.

Bi man are the best. I get fucked by one regularly.

R42 Good for you, but they are still batshit crazy

Sex in the closet? No, thanks.

As long as you don't fall for him the sex is fabulous. More uninhibited than gay men.

Just don't expect anything more and you'll have a wild ride.

This will end in tears.

It's nothing but a passion pit.

R45 more biphobia

"Bisexual guys are better in bed"

Nope.

"bi men are more manly"

They certainly like to think so.

"They also tend to be better in bed than gay men as they are more sensual (women taught them that)."

That is... hilarious!

My ex was bi and still pretty effeminate. Also very into the gay scene. I reasoned that if he was gay, he'd just be gay. This macho narrative is bullshit.

He was a nightmare, though. That much is true. Mentally ill and a drug addict. Dynamite in bed though.

Maybe don't make it your first choice.

My experience has been great. Mostly because THEY'RE ALL GAY TO START WITH!!!!!!!

R50 tell us more

R51 so much biphobia

r53 so much stinky pussy.

r54, man up!

R54 Shows how childish gays really are

Bisexual men are hot, crazy but hot.

R50 How was he a nightmare?

I love bisexuals dudes, but I partly agree that they should date each other. Most bisexual dudes are mainstream and don't want to be part of the gay subculture or identity. They tend to be very uncomfortable with openly gay guys, especially non-masculine ones. They tend not to mesh well with openly gay guys because they perceive openly gay dudes as less masculine, weird, or annoying. A lot of openly gay guys are into things that are anathema to other males, and bisexual males likewise often view openly gay guys are less manly or embarrassing to be associated with.

Another echo of the good for sex/bad for dating meme. Let them date one another.

But bisexual dudes are often the hot ones!

R59 I'm bisexual and gay dudes are generally weird an annoying. R54 Proves this.

When was the last time you slept with a woman r62?

I wish gay dudes would drop the effeminate and flamboyant stuff.

I don't have any sexual/romantic interest in bi men, I tend to view them the same way I do straight men: cool as friends but I don't want anything more.

R65 You wouldn't even fuck them?

Gay men seem to either have a fetish for bisexual men or they hate them.

I don't get why gay men hate bisexual men so much. Grow the fuck up.

R62

Yeah, that must be why your posts are all over this gay thread - and the whole Datalounge forum. Nerve = struck. Let me guess, you also are on Grindr, Scruff, and every gay dating app known to mankind trying to lure gay men with promises of sex with a hot "straight masculine guy"?

R37 It's not a myth.

Yougov UK found that 50% of bi men were in relationships with women and only 3% with men. No wonder, the vast majority were also in the closet. The Pew Research Center had a similar finding on US bisexuals, with 84% of those in a current relationship being with someone of the opposite-sex. They did not break down bisexuals by sex, but if Yougov is anything to go by, the straight bias in relationships is even stronger among bi men than among bi women. Bi men are also more likely to oppose gay rights than any other sector of the LGB community.

After three and a half years together, he wanted US to get a girlfriend. I've been with girls, but I definitely do not want a girlfriend. He was probably fucking girls while we were together, I didn't mind, because we were "together". I fucked other guys too. It was a "keep-it-to-yourself"/open relationship. The girl was in love with him and I was dismayed when she called me crying and sobbing. I told her she could have him. We broke up after that. I've no idea what happened to them. He came back to me a couple months later, but I had torturously moved on.

Thanks for those stats, r70. Not surprising in the least.

Do bi men go on dates?

Most of the ones I've met were into "discreet" hook-ups and were looking for "a regular buddy" someone who "no one would know we were into this stuff."

They sure as hell were not looking for a dinner or movie companion.

There are men I've dated who qualify as bi in that they'd had sex with women and still found them attractive, but their primary attraction was men and they did not date women.

R70 is right bisexual men are more likely to oppose gay rights. They are the most likely group out of gay men, lesbians and all bisexuals to oppose gay marriage.

The bi guys I know love the effeminate types and the trannys.

Seriously R75?

The bi guys I know recoil from effeminate types as if they were poisonous tree frogs.

R76. Bi guys prefer boyish girls and girly boys.

r71, why did you choose to date him over guys? What was so special about him?

R75 I'm bisexual and I hate effeminate men.

Bis:

- Almost exclusively have committed relationships with the opposite sex. - Rarely out to parents or at work. - Almost no community identification or involvement whatsoever. - Much more likely to be conservative and support conservative parties. - Do not consider their sexuality of importance in terms of personal reflection and their standing in society. - Much more likely to view their sexual orientation to be a choice or involve a decision-making process. - The amount who were in committed same-sex relationships was so low and statistically insignificant, they had to completely skip the question regarding marriage.

So much for "stop generalizing!". I guess facts hurt.

In a word, self-loathing closet cases.

Also more religious.

I will say the sample in that erred in not having any bisexual men over 40. That may have skewed some results, although the conservatism and religiosity are probably understated.

R52/R58, he was a nightmare in the sense that he would be constantly going out to gay bars, flirting and being all over other guys, even though he was the one who wanted the committed relationship, and then when I would call him out on it, he'd lash out and say I was being possessive. There was some major identity issues that may be BPD-related. He was a giant whore in bed though, and into some weird shit, which at the time I enjoyed, but I always knew deep down to keep it wrapped. Turned out my suspicions were true, and he contracted HIV a few months after we split up.

I can't speak to the veracity of some of the demographics at R80 since he was only one guy and the only bisexual I'd ever been with. But he did enter into committed relationships with the same-sex, even though he couldn't stay faithful. His parents and co-workers knew he was bi. Knew his sexual orientation was biological and I honestly don't think he was secretly gay and pretending to be bi. He associated and lived in a community with a lot of gay people and was still sleeping with women pretty consistently.

weird shit = wild shit, sorry.

R84 What kind of wild shit.

R83 What makes you think he had borderline personality disorder

Why are there no good stories in this thread about the waking nightmare of dating bi? All I read is a bunch of hit and run ad hominem trashing bisexuals.

Sorry, R87, all my bi experiences were in college, and hit & run sexual escapades, and then I grew up.

Bisexuality is a JOKE... It's the last stop on the way to "RICKYMARTINVILLE"!!

R87 It stops being just a coincidence or bad luck as bis like to say, when gay people can make threads in the hundreds about how particularly bad their experiences have been with bisexuals - closet cases, homophobic, abusive, manipulative, cheaters, etc.

I have seen them excuse their behavior and attitudes by saying it's a result of society's treatment of bi people. As always, they portray gay people as a uniquely privileged group (see: "monosexual privilege"), with bisexuals being the poor martyrs that have to endure the hardships of being in a perfectly socially-normative relationship and living a completely socially-normative life with their opposite-sex partners, or as they like to call it, "bisexual erasure".

R90 Like R87 says where are the good stories?

R25 DL is no longer a GAY site.

It is a right wing political site with some gay posters left over from the old days.

Most of my time on DL is spent sifting through political threads and pressing the ignore thread button.

[quote][R65] You wouldn't even fuck them?

r66, no. I seem to have the opposite response to most gay guys who apparently are super turned on by bisexual men. For me, I just lose all sexual/romantic interest when I know a guy is bi, it't the same response I get when I know a guy a straight. I assume it's some psychological block where I instinctively realise I could never fully satisfy this man so that part of me just shuts down. I lose interest when I find out a porn star is bi too.

Had a bi BF 15 years ago. We "dated" a few months, and even though we were very strongly attracted to each other- physically and sexually- it just wasn't working. We remained friends but when he got married and his wife found out we had been together it was the end.

My partner was married for 15 years before we hooked up, and he slept with one of MY female friends while we were split for a few months. It helped me understand why my exes wife wanted nothing to do with me. Needless to say, the bitch he schtupped is no longer on our Christmas card list!!!

Fortunately I am a one man man, and cannot handle an open relationship, and my partner is the same.

Although I believe that Bisexuality is a thing I have yet to date one who I genuinely believed was bi, I have encountered a few Gay guys who were so conflicted they would call themselves bi. I don't have much positive to say about them.

r94, I'm just curious, I assume you don't consider the sex your partner had with the female friend to be cheating because you guys were broken up at the time, right? So why cut her out of your life? Are you afraid he wouldn't be able to resist her? It's not like she'll be the only woman he's attracted to in the future.

R96

It was the betrayal- she knew I was torn up about our split and used it to get him into bed. Once we reunited he told me about it (while she pretended to be on my side) and we realized she was a sneaky cunt. She lied to him too, telling him I was already fucking around with someone else.

She was toxic.

Thank you, R97. So for now the only specific betrayal written about in this near 100 post thread is by a woman. I'm wondering if the real deal isn't projection ... Gay guys pre emptively dumping bi guys because that's what you expect him to do to you. Perhaps the gay guys are the ones doing the using, because after all, bi guys are such wretches that they are good for nothing more than brief sexual affairs. Yet there is no shortage of the cray among gay identified guys, is there? I have endless cray gay stories, but my only bi guy experience was one of the better relationships I've had.

Besides straight guys, they are the most masculine and attractive, but least likely to want a relationship with a male. Tragic.

R98 Lets hear about your relationship with a bi guy. Seeing as all the post is negative lets hear your positive story. Also why did you break up?

R99 What is attractive about straight/bi men? The fact they're not into you?

R98 Nope. Sorry, but bisexual men - when talking amongst themselves - are very upfront about the fact that they don't want anything serious with a guy. They will lead you on for a few weeks without making their intentions explicit, then they'll dump you. There are enough such stories that we can say there's a pattern here. It couldn't be different - they're overwhelmingly closeted and want to keep it that way. And there's nothing in the stories you've read on this thread showing it's the other way around.

The bromos and bisexuals are finding each other these days because of social media. Now, they can self-segregate.

R102, I don't think you're interested in an answer that doesn't reenforce your own personal belief and experience. There are some bisexual guys that are really just gay and incredibly insecure about it. Those are the ones that mostly don't want anything to have to do with a long term relationship with a guy.

[quote] There are some bisexual guys that are really just gay and incredibly insecure about it. Those are the ones that mostly don't want anything to have to do with a long term relationship with a guy.

No, honey, they're not the ones. You're making that up. You have this need to believe gay men are the bad guys in this story. The ones who want nothing with a guy are those who say they're incapable of falling in love with a man, that men are just meat for them. And I'd expect these guys to lean more straight than gay.

And yet, 99 posts and not a single actual story. DL has more dirt on Aaron Rodgers than on this topic.

R106 is right where are the stories

R98, my story is positive in its nothingness. We met at a bar after a concert. I joked about his t-shirt. We went to my place, had sex. Got together again and again for companionship as well as sex. We obviously liked each other as we spent a lot of time together. We were together a bit over a year, when I had to move for work. He was a rancher and couldn't go with me. I was his second male sexual experience, first boyfriend. He was 46 at the time, I was 35. He dated men only after me, said he had a better time overall. At the beginning of our relationship he expressed some doubt about being steady with a guy, but again, we were having a great time together and he felt and I felt that was good enough. He wasn't worried about what others thought of him, yet he was private and didn't tell people we were in a relationship. He was comfortable with my gay and straight friends. We said we were good friends. Good character is good character, regardless of sexual orientation.

bggjj

bi men are hot

Dating a guy now who dated women for a large part of his life. I like him a lot. I asked him if he was bisexual and he said "I guess I have a bi-sexual history". That was fine with me. We met on a dating (not sex) site and he identified as gay.

Really, I don't care. I live in the present. If we evolve into a relationship- I don't want him to date women, or men. But I'm not very focused on that right now.

[quote]Really, I don't care. I live in the present. If we evolve into a relationship- I don't want him to date women, or men. But I'm not very focused on that right now.

I prefer monogamy in a relationship, which is one of the reasons I only date other gay guys. Truth is I could never satisfy a bi guy's desire for women.

R112 How do you know a gay guy is going to be monogamous?

R112 Yeah because gay men are known for being monogamous.

When I was in the military I worked with a good looking in shape mid-30s jock type who talked constantly about pussy. I mean ALL the time. But he'd say stuff like he didn't care who sucked his dick male or female and he loved being rimmed. He was big into mfm scenes. I once asked him what the other m did and he got all red with a sheepish smile. Later he confessed he was okay with guys but he had to be top as nothing bigger than a chapstick was going up his ass.

I didn't know if he meant that there had to be a female involved. It was very strange and he became practically hostile if you even suggested he wasnt 100 percent straight. I don't know if he was just playing games or what.

R98 R106 Three people have gone into specifics regarding their relationships; one was a crazy drug addict, the other wanted a polyamorous relationship with a woman and the last one was a cheating nutcase. Two studies have been posted reinforcing so-called bi "myths", like overwhelmingly choosing to remain closeted, conservative, homophobic, opposes gay rights, etc. Why are gay people not allowed to stay away from this? Why do gay people have to be labelled "biphobic" because of this? Biphobia is not even an actual form of oppression, since it was pretty much concocted to present gay people as privileged and oppressors of bis. At most, what bis experience is Homophobia Lite; never the sheer reality of being exclusively attracted to the same sex in a world built for opposite-sex partnerships.

R113 R114 You can absolutely find gay cheaters, but actually finding yourself in a committed same-sex relationship with a bi guy? Better cross your fingers hoping that you are part of that ~5% as per R80 vs. 40% of gay guys.

If you really want to get stories, you can check "Gay Man Dating A Bisexual Man".

bi men > gay men

Why do gay men find bisexual men so threatening?

R118 THEY DONT

This thread is like a nightmare factory

Gay men are a nightmare R12O

r118, "threatening" isn't the proper word. Good for them. Identify as whatever you want. I just don't want to date them. BIs can date each other.

R70 that's BS.

Try meeting more bisexuals. I know more than a few bisexual men who have relationships/partnerships with men, or who even wound up marrying men; but only casually date/have casual sex or hook ups with women.

But I'm not surprised that a lot of gay "men" here are biphobic hypocrites which is just as bad as being homophobic.

R123 So many gay guys are massive hypocrites, they cry about homophobia but think it is perfectly acceptable to shit all over bisexual men.

(R71) He was super cool (I'm not superficial now) and was really into the same music as I was. Music is a big plus. Too many gay guys aren't cool or into cool music (Taylor who?). It's a fact. He was also VERY relaxed about displaying acts of affection, holding hands, and even kissing, in public. He got along great with my gay and straight friends and I, his. Sexually, I was the mostly the top, and we were wildly sexual with each other. We were really in love and connected immediately.

bi guys are mentally ill freaks

pkk b

The Bi-phobia here is interesting.

I am the "my Bi-BF fucked my female ex-BFF and I'm bitter" poster.

The "men aren't Bi" posters must be clueless.

Men aren't bisexual? Shit someone better tell the ancient greeks

bi guys are pigs

I agree with r116 and r122.

I am attracted to bi dudes

I think this is the 30th time I've ignored this thread. WTF?

R123 R124 Give me a break, it's called being realistic. Bis cry biphobia all the time yet remain walking, talking stereotypes; opposite-sex partnered, see men as just for sex, etc. They want the comfort of a heterosexual relationship while also getting their fix of gay sex.

R131 That guy you just linked to is a rapist sociopath who teaches people online how to "stealth", i.e. remove condom during sex without the guy bottoming noticing. Should be locked up in jail and/or completely removed from society.

R134 One more time?

I am a bi guy who decided a couple years ago after breaking things off with my on-again-off-again girlfriend, to focus on relationships with guys. At that time I had a friend/mentor, a gay married with adopted Chinese children guy, who said to me, "Be careful; they're gonna eat you alive."

And they have. Despite near constant sexual opportunity, I have not had one successful dating relationship with gay guys. I have been lied to about so many things, like the fact they're already in relationships, or their HIV+ status, or their meth use or their florid mental illness or their recent incarceration for smuggling drugs across the border. I get a lot of attention from girls and guys. I'm fortunately good looking, muscular, blond (a twunk as you'd say on here). Guys I meet near my age (40s) are almost universally already partnered, or looking for ... something ... with people half their age.

I have had relationships with bi guys. I had one long-ish-term one that was very positive. I have had bi fuck buddies, knowing full well that was all it was going to be. I've had bi guys fall for me then bail because they couldn't handle the emotion. And I've had gay guys do all these same things. And since (trying to date) guys more, it has been gay guys who have displayed most of the poor behavior. Bi guys don't lead me on, claiming to want something they don't; but in my experience, gay guys do this frequently, and/or hide important negative facets of their personalities and circumstances from me until I'm blindsided.

And gay guys are much more focused on appearances than most bi guys. I don't care if I wear a belt or not, or if my hair is combed, and I don't wear stylish clothing. The attention I get is because I'm objectively good looking and muscular. This attention has a huge downside, because (a) it is almost entirely sexual; and (b) one cannot really control who tries to get your attention - and this was the warning from my friend about being eaten alive. You spend a lot of time deflecting attention from unsuitable potential friends and partners.

Character is the defining characteristic of what makes a relationship work or not. I can be bi or gay and not do any of the shady things that you've talked about. The so-called bi horror stories mentioned above sound more like addiction and mental illness anyway. But gay guys have displayed no more good character to me, than you claim bisexuals have shown you in this thread.

r136, I would assume from your poor experiences with gay guys that you've decided to focus your attention on other bi men and women? Is that correct? If that's the case then what is wrong with gay guys acknowledging that, by and large, we have had poor experiences dating bi guys and we would prefer to date other gay guys? Bisexuals and homosexuals can and should support each other, but there's no rule saying we have to date each other.

R137 He is just severely deluded, as is the case with most bi guys. Notice how he calls himself an irresistible "twunk" yet lets it slip that he is "in his 40s" (a few decades too late for that word). He goes on to tell us about those foolishly superficial gay men who are just groveling at his feet begging to have sex with him.

This is just hilarious.

I am dating a bi college football player. Loving it!

r136, would a bi dude ever use the word "twunk?"

How old are you r139?

I only date very masculine dudes. Therefore, I have only really been involved with bi or straightish dudes.

My fuck-buddy of the last couple years is bisexual and yes, the good times we have (about once every week or two) are hot but what's been said upthread is true -- 1.) I'm his secret shame & I guarantee nobody in his life knows about me whereas I've told friends about him, 2.) He's pretty masculine compared to the gays in my life (tow truck driver, tacky tattoos of his kids names, gun-owning, Camel-smoking, Obama-fearing, & really into trashy blonde women), 3.) Is seeking a woman to date publicly while craving a nice weekly facial from me (I've seen his ad on Plenty of Fish which describes him as "strait" [and a non-smoker]), 4.) Gets texts from the women he's hooking up with while I'm in his ass to which I'll often make some snarky comment like, "she can wait." 5.) is pretty passionate compared to the gays I fuck in that he's a great kisser, sucks like a vacuum, and enjoys getting fucked on the patio, in the shower, and even in bed.

But I don't deny that it is a tiny bit disheartening at the same time. He's shown me, at my request, the vids and pics he takes of his women, nude shots of them or a vid of him cumming on her tits, and it stings a little. That's his world of hetero-normative respectability in which I'll never travel, but then again I don't want to, I'm an out homo. Having been burnt badly the last time I had a boyfriend, I'm not looking to date a guy guy now, or be monogamous, and this certainly is sexually great. But I do have to check my attitude occasionally so as to neither get butt-hurt nor appear butt-hurt. I'm fucking other dudes and one day may get back to "serious" dating but this remains a fun, easy relationship by and large.

There, that's my current bi-sexual experience.

I don't get the extreme hatred against bisexual men

R144 Me niether

R137, you may as well have told R136 to date people of his own race. He never said anybody was required to date him.

R123

It's cute you like your bi acquaintances so much you think their experiences count more than the findings of nationally representative samples. But they don't.

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[quote] But gay guys have displayed no more good character to me, than you claim bisexuals have shown you in this thread.

In other words, "Your anecdotes about bisexuals have hurt my feelings and I'm getting my revenge by making up a lot of resentful crap about gay men".

Want a good reason, a really good reason, to avoid bi men? They're big perpetrators of domestic violence.

[quote]He's shown me, at my request, the vids and pics he takes of his women, nude shots of them or a vid of him cumming on her tits, and it stings a little. That's his world of hetero-normative respectability

The word "respectability" seems like a stretch here.

big.mistake.

R150, the "study" you "cited" only includes Hispanics. So, Hispanics are big perps of domestic violence.

And please cite a study that people don't have to pay over $50 to read, k?

R150 that is the most pathetic post I have ever seen

They sneak to see you. The girlfriend or wife gets suspicions and tries to intervene. They get caught in lies. You become a second level priority.

The sex can be awesome, but if he is in a relationship with a woman, pass on it. Family, straight friends, careers, are always going to favor the straight side, so don't look at them as partner material.

My partner is definitely bi, and somehow he flipped to a full commitment the last several years after I broke it off for a long period. But all the bullshit that went on beforehand, I would not go through that again if given the choice.

R155 I want to know more

Bisexual men are better in bed.

[quote] the "study" you "cited" only includes Hispanics. So, Hispanics are big perps of domestic violence.

That's great logic right there.

When I hear bi men discuss their interest in men it always sounds as if they are describing a fetish rather than a genuine attraction.

bi men > gay men

Actually, I've found them to be very good lovers. They're so used to satisfying women that when they get cock, they bend over backwards (no pun intended) to satisfy you.

R161 Shhhh the bi haters won't like that. It's a shame really they don't know what they are missing.

Yeah, and when they get their fill of bareback dick, they get back to pussy, if they ever left it in the first place.

I dated a bi guy once. He told me that he only liked guys and was pretty much gay. I broke up with him because I wasn't into that.

Like any relationship is really just depends on the specific guy/person. A bi guy certainly wasn't my dream or fantasy but it's worked out great. It works because we're extremely honest and trustworthy with each other. Turns out we're just a great fit for each other and the fact he occasionally get's off on str8 porn doesn't bother me. But i get i'm with a very rare one in that once he decided he loved me the rest of the bs faded away and his mom STILL hates me in her mind for turning her baby boy gay. That is comedy at this point

as with any person it just depends on who that person is. The key is to be open and honest about it and if you fall in love or not. My hubby is bi and it's not been a big issue. He even has permission to go hook up with a women but hasn't yet in 5 years because that would feel like a betrayal. the fact he has permission is actually part of the secret. I took all that fun out if it for him apparently. Porn has become his substitute and it gets him really worked up so i'm not going to complain about that

Let's be honest here, the guys who fetishize bisexual men are ultra-feminine transvestites and drag queens who like to wear pink panties, heels, and a cheap wig while getting fucked by " straight" men. Poor bi guys have to deal with that. I feel for them.

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Bi dudes are more like normal dudes

any Gingers?

R169 I agree. More masculine.

They a lot more giving sexually than gay men, because they're so glad to get cock especially when they're married or have a girlfriend.

R167 Speaks the truth.

Run for the hills, OP. Never date anyone who isn't 100% gay. Trust me on this.

Don't spout such nonsense r174. Now if they are a closeted bi sure you may have a point ( as the same applies to a closeted gay) but it's a different story if they are open and honest about it. Just hasn't turned out to be an issue in my relationship after some initial hesitation on my part. It's not like i'm not attracted to other dudes on an almost daily basis so it's no big deal he can get all worked up by a women sometimes ( and i can always tell when he is and take full advantage). Now i understand i'm probably lucky is he's rather evolved about the whole thing at this point which often isn't the case. It's all in choosing well.

R171 Yeah, they do more macho stuff, like beating up their partners.

bi men are fit as fuck

Rotten fish smell everywhere.

You'd better looove passive-aggressive bullshit, op.

I love it, I love it, I love it!

R180 Then you'll have lots of exciting, melodramatics, op. Enjoy!

R178 why are gay men so childish. 'Fish smell' really? R181 yeah because gay men are known for being 100% drama free aren't they.

two-faced liars and cheats, always married.

other than that, they are nice guys who hang out with a have a beer with.

R183 care to elaborate? All I ever hear from gay men is how awful bisexual men are but with no evidence to back it up.

R184 "No evidence", lol. This thread is full of anecdotes, even of scientific polls, showing that bi men don't go with gay men.

'two faced liars' R185 Evidence?

Gays, when they’re not eagerly cruising bisexual men in lay-bys, saunas and chat-rooms, are too often keen to denounce the ‘dishonesty’ and ‘double lives’ and ‘repression’ of bisexual men – because they have the temerity to not be just like them, and instead lead ‘normal’ lives that happen to include a discreet, ‘deviant’ sideline, rather than order their lives and their wardrobe around their deviation.

In fact, the fetish might be on the other foot. The very existence of male bisexuality threatens to put exclusive homosexuality into a negative rather than a positive light: perhaps you’re not gay because you love men but because you don’t love women.

Interesting article on male bisexuality. Agree or disagree?

Disaster. Worst year of my life. Their egos demand that they're seen with a woman in public, with friends, at work functions, etc. If you want to use them as a fuck buddy, I say go for it, but DO NOT get romantically involved with these assholes.

R188 What happened?

bisexual men are more masculine

I am only attracted to strictly masculine mainstream guys, so I pretty much only date bisexuals. Not compa

Well r167 that's generally what real bi dudes are attracted to. Especially black ones.

We were dating a horse-hung hot number who also liked stinkfish.

When we discussed marriage he said that he could not as he was in love with his stinkfish.

Cowards, each and every one. Even if their wife knows they are bisexual, they never cop to their interest in this or that man, this or that male image, etc. They might say a male on t.v. is attractive, but no dirty "lustfulness" attaches to it - indeed he usually will not be that attractive to him, and she might be aware of this or that gay porn movie he watched, but he will NEVER NEVER NEVER expose her to a man that he wants (except the best man at the hetero wedding can be assumed to be one of them).or share with her an actual fantasy he has.

And as far as their relationship with gays goes, nobody is keener to use someone gayness against them in the workplace than these guys. They think they can "handle" gay guys by teasing them, all the while trashing them behind their back.

Most numbers, regardless of 'persuasia', who have anything going for them will eventually be captured by a stinkfish

R196 How childish. Seriously grow the fuck up.

R187 I agree 100% with this

What's with the no labels bs? This is something I will never understand. Why can't they just say they're bisexual?

Not all bi guys are "straight acting", R165. I know of many bi men who are actually quite feminine. Some of the most feminine men I've met have turned out to be bisexual instead of fully gay. It's weird.

R200 Those guys are probably gay

They will enjoy fucking with your mind and your heart.

R202 Awwww was a bi guy mean to you boo hoo.

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bisexual men are hot

It's been great actually in the now over 6 months we've been together. Great guy who just also happens to like pussy. But he's decided relationship wise he's a better with another dude rather than managing a women daily. But he's not closeted about being bi either.

R206 is probably Milo impersonating his imaginary boyfriend.

Too much peroxide Milo. It's affected your brain.

R206 What about if he wants kids

I always have trouble getting along with their wives.

He doesn't R209. He's 35 and very clear on that issue at this point in his life.

Its already been said repeatedly, but can't be said enough: Bisexuals are for fucking, NOT dating.

On every bisexuality thread, there's always a troll (it's one) who leaves messages like R190 and R191 over and over again.

R198

[quote] R187 I agree 100% with this

Because it was you who posted it. Weird bi is weird.

R212 Why shouldn't you date them

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bisexuals be crazy

I fucked him, then asked if I could watch him fuck a gal.

He never did.

From what I've heard of others: most of them run hot and cold. They don't know whether they should like or hate you, even if you're every bit of stereotypically masculine as they are. You're their dirty little secret: when you're alone with them they're kind and almost shy, but as soon as a straight guy or woman shows up, they start behaving like assholes.

[quote] "They also tend to be better in bed than gay men as they are more sensual (women taught them that)."

Whoever wrote that has never really had sex with a bi guy. Bi men hate being touched and kissed by men. During gay sex, they discard all the more tender elements of physical intimacy - the ones women could teach them about. How could they be more "sensual"? They're way less.

My first time was with a bi guy. It was a downer all the way through.

Eldergay here...experiences with bi men have varied. Been with a few married/divorced blokes who identified as bi and who were good company and great sex. Didn't expect anything more from them and we had good times. Both the divorced ones had had really bad marriage experiences, been burned financially and just didn't want the baggage again. Still hook up with one when we get the chance ( long distance ).

However, also met a couple who were way too hung up about 'being found out ' and I found their fear tedious. I won't live my life like that so...separate ways. So, yeah, there are those who have a conveniently revolving door on their closet. Way too much trouble.

Almost all these came later in life ( 35 plus ) and far from what would be considered anything to do with the 'gay scene'. Like it or not a lot of what that entails is off putting to more people than it may seem. I think the Internet has allowed many men who were bi-curious to get off on looking at other men online and then contemplate taking it further.

My first time was with a guy that I think was bi. I didn't know him enough to know or ask - but he was married, so perhaps he wasn't exclusively gay. (And btw, he didn't know that I knew he was married.)

I didn't like "it". I had explained to him that that was my first time, so I was sort of trusting him to take the initiative, but he didn't. He didn't for anything other than oral or anal. He didn't kiss or lick me, he didn't do anything to make me aroused. I did kiss him but it was so messy I didn't even feel his lips. But I did feel his stubble. I also licked his chest, but as I did it, I had to ask myself, "Why is this supposed to be hotter than licking a piece of cloth?"

In the beginning, I was hard due to all the anticipation. But as things went on, I lost my erection and couldn't gain it back. He tried to suck me but it didn't work - having my dick taken control of by someone else made me nervous.

He fucked me a little and then bent over so I could fuck him. I rubbed my dick against him but it didn't get hard. So he started fucking me again, telling me that I would get hard by taking it up the ass. Eventually he came inside the condom and as soon as he finished he went to check my dick. Still soft.

He was hyperventilating for several moments later, so at least one of us came.

So yeah, I know that the idea that men who have sex with women are more sensual is bullshit.

Nothing wrong with bi guys imo, but you have to know that eventually, 99% of them will marry a woman.

And, then continue to hook up with guys R223. So, what's the problem R223? I think gay men fuck married men, right?

Bi is just Gay let out to play!

They treat their males sex partners the same way they treat their female sex partners. This was a big turn off to me not being treated as an equal.

I’m Dating a biracial bisexual with three different baby mamas. He’s so hot and macho!

I think the notion that “bisexual” men marrying women is a turn on for gay men are really into men married to women.

*because gay men are really into men married to women.

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If they settle down they'll have to choose with a man or a woman. Right?

Avoid at all costs.

Cheaters. Liars. Users.

Oh goody. Another of these threads.

More masculine

I never dated one, but I’ve fucked quite a few...

I like urban down low guys with multiple baby mamas.

Again, RUN!

"Run, Run, Run."

I only date bisexual dudez

Hot

Dating bisexual men has been exactly the same as dating gay men in my experience.

Dating one??? Hell, I married one!

R243, bless your heart. Just wait for the time when you finally find that out he's fucking your blonde neighbor's wet pussy, the kind that he always craves, whenever you're away. The divorce is going to be messy.

Complex

Run and do not look back. They are sociopathic liars and cheaters who care about nobody but themselves.

Not true bruh

If you meet a same-sex attracted male who makes it a point to regularly remind you he’s attracted to females also, don’t continue. Sex-wise, ok, maybe. But don’t get involved emotionally. Think about it, he’s constantly reminding you that he’s “better” than you. That’s not healthy (psychologically). Just move on. Top here, the sexual experiences were decent. My dating experience with the bisexual-reminder guy, was my “first love”. Ugh. Older guy who quickly tired of me. He’s old now so no one cares if he’s bisexual or not

Better than you? How so?

Girlfriend snooping

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