Fuck Buddies or Lovers: Is there a difference?

If you are using the word lover (which is a terrible word IMO), it obviously implies a deep emotional connection. You are "making love".

Fuck buddy has a simple connotation. It is someone you have sex with, no commitments, no emotional attachments, you guys just like to meet up so you can get off.

Also if you are friends, then you are friend with benefits. Someone you first think of as a friend is not a fuckbuddy, they are a buddy that you occasionally fuck, there is a difference.

"Lover" is so 70's.

I've always thought of "Lover" as creepy ("This is my lover, Dan.")

I've always wanted to take a lover.

But never could figure out where to put him.

I don't recommend friends with benefits. It gets way too messy.

This person is your good friend, when of you you starts dating someone else it can be complicated that you guys also have this sexual relationship. Can make the person they are dating jealous and worry about you two hanging out together. Also can ruin a friendship if one person develops feelings (as OFTEN happens) and the other person doesn't feel the same way.

Don't shit where you eat, if someone is a good friend avoid having sex with them IMO.

Yes I agree, they are different.

Yes I have fuck buddies. No lover at the moment and no bf.

I have had lovers who were not boyfriends.

I had a LTR and we were both allowed fuckbuddies. But my bf's fuckbuddies eventual morphed into lovers.

The challenge was that he didn't easily find a regular rotation of fuckbuddies, and I did. I had too many fuckbudies and he ended up too involved with one lover after another, sometimes get 2 lovers! Lord were we jerks.

Its all so silly really.

After I turned 45 and was single, I set a rule to deny myself the option of fuckbuddies who I KNOW are lying to their partners. This radically limited my options and helped step down the whole merry go round, which I consider to be age appropriate. Instead of the 2 dozen names on my rotation list in my late 30s early 40s, I have perhaps 6 fuck buddies now. I don't see any of them as viable lovers, let alone boyfriends, but we have fun as fuckbuddies and I hope eventually to meet a new bf candidate.

No a fuck bud is NOT your BF. I thought we figured all that out in the 80s. He can fuck you silly and you love it but sometimes that's all it really is.

R6, You're a whore, darlin'.

Yes, there is a difference. A fuck buddy is someone you have sex with but no emotional commitment or relationship ties, and "lover" is a ridiculous word that most people stopped using 40 years ago. People now say "boyfriend" or "partner," or, if they're married, "husband."

A lover is not a boyfriend or partner, or a fuckbuddy! A lover is like what straight married men have when they have a mistress!

What do you call it when one of you is in love, and the other is only a fuckbuddy?

R10 is obviously not old enough to know that Lover was the common gay term for boyfriend. Implying, of course, that they weren't just dating, but were having SEX - regardless of whether it was short-term or ongoing.

Fell out of fashion in the 80's.

I liked the group Loverboy back in the day. But they now need to rethink those leather pants touring now in their early 60s The whole thing isn't really working

Its meaning morphed, dear. It no longer means what it did in your prime.

What R12 said. I don't recall any other term than "lover" or "boyfriend," and at that time "lover" implied a more serious relationship than "boyfriend."

The word "lover" can be used to describe a casual fuck but it isn't generally used that way.

A fuckbuddy is purely about the sex. No strings, very little emotional involvement, no romantic relationship, no future as a couple.

A lover carries a more romantic, emotional connotation.

A "fuck buddy" sometimes i haven't even known their last names so clearly they were not a lover. Such details are just not that important is such an arrangement. Drop those pants and we'll get busy

A lover can borrow money, a fuck buddy cannot.

"Fuck buddy" is so impersonal.

WHO IS DREDGING UP ALL THESE POSTS FROM 5 GOD DAMN YEARS AGO?? STOP IT!

Kinda sad that people settle for fuck buddies, rather than being grownups, and having a committed relationship.