Guys not at all into anal sex

How old are you? Don't you ever talk to people about sex? Haven't you had a few partners in life. Your sex life is common enough. You are not special.

Of course it is a thing OP. It's rare but there are still plenty of guys that feel this way.

I am a reluctant top because most gays expect anal, but given the choice I'd rather not do it.

I don't know many other gay guys since I live in a very rural area but among them I seem to be the only one that doesn't enjoy anal, hence my asking the question.

If I'm bigger than a guy I like to top; if I'm smaller, I like to bottom.

Though lately, I've had no drive at all.

It's all so fake.

Ok. well just assume your preferences.

And when you say "not into it" - have you tried it a few times, both ways? Maybe its just a psychological block or your body doesn't know how to do it. I wasn't "into anal" until I was 25 and did it a bunch top and bottom, and discovered I liked it a lot both ways.

You're all missing out, and that's pretty sad. The human body didn't evolve into a mass of nerve endings in specific parts just randomly. I'd say the block you're experiencing isn't physical, it's psychological, and if you'd give yourself the time and space to explore your body, you'd enjoy it a lot more (both your body and anal sex).

Rimming and getting rimmed, also great. Try it, if you haven't. You might develop "a taste" for ass.

I've tried anal play and it did nothing for me, I got no pleasure from it.

You people are disgusting

Well, just an old whore's advice, but trying some sex act once, (and acts which are well within the standard gay sex repertoire), is a recipe for disappointment and missed pleasures.

You're a teenager, right?

I've tried fingers and being rimmed and I felt nothing, I guess that area of my person is just not wired for pleasure.

No R11 I'm far from a teenager.lol

I love fingering a guy, I've gotten a guy off by doing only that.

R9 Wrong site honey

[quote] I guess that area of my person is just not wired for pleasure.

If you have a healthy prostate, yes, your ass is wired for pleasure. I understand that some guys consider anal intercourse far more trouble than it's worth, but guys who refuse all ass play are just neurotic.

Oh, the humanity! "La humanité!"

I wouldn't say that I'm not into anal sex but I don't have the drive for it that most of the guys I encounter have. It kind of fucked up my last relationship.

I don't understand why we need to penetrate each other at all. It's so messy.

It' s much nicer to just cuddle.

During sex, I don't like anal in either form - receiving or giving. In fact it's a big turn off. However. . . .i love watching it in porn. Weird, but true. I love oral during sex, both giving and receiving, but find it boring to watch in porn

OP, never pay any attention to anyone who tries to dismiss or belittle you for your own preferences (like R6).

I'm 40. I've tried anal plenty. Both ways. I just don't care for it. There is no "psychological block." It just doesn't turn me on. And I get tired of gays who center their sex lives around the whole top/bottom dynamic.

There is nothing wrong with you. You like what you like. And anyone telling you that mutual wanking/frottage/cocksucking alone is inferior sex is no better than a homophobe telling you that only penis/vagjna sex is normal.

Why anyone feels the need to judge the sex lives of other consenting adults is a mystery to me.

for gays who dont like anal. they are more straight but a little gay. i think they are called gaits. so if someone asks if your gay you can say no. cause your gait

Isn't anal sex between men, outside of the pleasure some feel, really a power play and an imitation of straight sex? I have been both top and bottom and was bored by both. There is no real intimacy and you have to prepare so much for it that the danger outweighs the limited pleasure. And often guys use it as a way to say I am the man and you are the woman( all in a gay way). The history of anal sex points in that direction. When FDR, as Secretary of the Navy, created that hunt for gays in the navy, a great many of the exposed men were bottoms who had had sex with naval spies who were straight and topped them. And in porn it is so boring to just see the act go on forever and ever. Maybe the real message is that anal sex is outdated. And now that we don't have to do in the alley or Aunt Mary's attic, we should explore other pleasures that only men can feel between men- like rimming, fingering, etc. Maybe anal sex is a leftover from our days of self- hate. Look how many died from that one act? Maybe it just isn't good enough for us? and for all you people who claim it feels great is that because you have gotten use to the pain of it or you fear that a closer sexual touching would reveal your shallow nature . A good fuck is always better than a real feeling.

[quote]. And often guys use it as a way to say I am the man and you are the woman( all in a gay way).

I just can't believe any of this was written by a man.

Anal is deadly!!! fucks up your rectum. stretches it out where u need diapers . Also, more importantly AIDS!!!!!

R23 wrote one of the strangest things I've ever read on datalounge and I've been reading this site for years.

R23, NAILS IT!!!

R21 Agreed. There's nothing sexier than frotting after mutual & a BJ. Anal takes too much prep & no spontaneity.

Hey, you like what you like, OP. Listen to R21. It's fine to try new stuff, but if you don't enjoy it, there's no reason to continue to do it.

Never got into it except in the abstract and thank God because that's how I survived the early years of the plague. I didn't have to adjust what I did in bed because I wasn't into doing it in the first place,. So don't push the issue, OP, there are plenty of other ways to show affection and/or get off (I am still technically a virgin in terms of receiving -- no fucking way that was going to work -- but I found even giving to be somewhat painful. And more and more gross as I got older).

The thrill of getting caught, of course, and a sense of control as well; "Watch, I can do this." I've been tempted before and, yeah, even pulled it off once or twice (holding items in my hand even while paying for something else) but I know it's a game that one eventually loses so have stopped. When I see an expensive bottle of Gucci perfume sitting out of its box, no sensor, ready to be taken -- my first thought is "Trap. It's a trap."

howl, wrong thread but hilarious how it reads. Sorry. I was aiming for "Real Housewife shoplifter". Didn't get close.

[quote]When FDR, as Secretary of the Navy, created that hunt for gays in the navy, a great many of the exposed men were bottoms who had had sex with naval spies who were straight and topped them.

WTF? Then the "spies" were every bit as gay.

OP, you have issues!

This is a weird thread.

I tried anal both ways, off and on, up until I was 33...and it wasn't fun for me. Then, at that point, I met my boyfriend, and we tried it, and I loved it (as did he). Something about the intimacy involved in it between two partners really turned me on. Then, when I was single again, I found I did enjoy it in a casual sex context, but not as much as when partnered. When I repartnered again many years later, it became amazing again.

Anal seems to be a more psychological thing for a lot of guys,dominance and submission play.

[quote]Anal seems to be a more psychological thing for a lot of guys,dominance and submission play.

I think that has been my problem. I don't get off on dominating someone in bed, I don't get off on submitting to someone in bed. I do feel like part of the appeal of anal intercourse are those mental states.

I don't either, I'm not a domineering person and if someone were to try and dominate me it would just piss me off.

Domination/submission might be part of it for some but not all. The best anal sex I had was with a guy who was as unassuming in bed as he was out of it. He fucked really well - the kind of person who works to find your sweet spot, and waits for you to come before he does. A gentleman. He was an awful kisser, though.

That's not weird OP.

Anal is in my repertoire, but it's certainly not the be all and end all of gay sex. And I agree with those who feel that too much emphasis is put on it, especially the whole top/bottom thing. The most significant relationships in my life have been with men who are versatile. And anal has typically been the exception, not the rule -- with things like mutual wanking along with deep kissing, 69 that might include some finger action and rimming, and heavy frot being far more standard, and often more satisfying.

But even if you're not into anal sex with other men, I would definitely recommend taking the time to get in touch with your p-spot at some point in your life. Just find the right size vibe that you're comfortable with. Prostate massage during masturbation can give a mind-blowing orgasm.

Feels great to me. Maybe I have tons of nerve endings back there but it feels so good.

Age takes the appeal away, considerably. Flexibility and all.

no dicks, only fingers and toys!!!!

Why no dicks?

r45, numerous reasons. it's the # 1 reason for HIV and STDS. NOT healthy !!!! suck a dick!!!! best!!!

It does seem like [italic]everybody[/italic] is into. Look at xtube, xHamster, Pornhub, Tumblr, all the mainstream sites, etc., and it's nothing but guys fucking each other up the ass. Mostly bare these days, too. And so many seem to be experts at it. Huge dicks entering without fuss and banging, banging away, while the bottom moans in rapture. Seemingly spontaneous fucks here, there and everywhere with nary a turd remnant in sight.

Ugh. It's fun to watch but has never been pleasurable to do. Maybe I just haven't met the right guy yet.

Marry me, OP. I have no interest in it either. Zero.Nada. None.

How old are you R46?

What are your other reasons?

And, why would you fear HIV/AIDS? Aren't you monogamous?

I dated a guy a while back who wasn't into it. It was fine for a while but i ended up dumping him. Just wasn't going to work for the long term if we were never going to have anal sex. Just one of those things you have to compatiable on. Now i'm married to guy who goes crazy for a great dicking so it all worked out.

pounding a rectum without being in a monogamous relationship is deadly!!!!

R32 Hilarious!

i am not into anal, giving or receiving. never have been 51

Another issue is that I have a strong sense of smell and I know the instant I smelled shit I'd be ready to bolt.

Dear Lord in Heaven!

[quote]Another issue is that I have a strong sense of smell and I know the instant I smelled shit I'd be ready to bolt.

R54 @ link

R54, if you can't put up with a little shit, you have not business being gay.

FUCKING YAWN

So tired of these veiled homophobic threads.

PERMANENT IGNORE

R58 has stated her boundaries.

"PERMANENT IGNORE'

Don't be ridiculous...then you wouldn't see funny links like the hilarious one I posted.

I fucked a guy once and he gave me total shit dick,thank God I insisted on a condom, that put me off fucking for quite awhile.

Frottage is for autistic, sexually undeveloped ten year old homophobes, like r28. No adult gay male does this, and if they do they are derided and laughed at.

I liked it once. Now it's too deathy. Oh, I hate safe sex.

I'm glad I never got into anal.

I bet all you guys are really the life of the party back home. Fuck much? Oh yeah, right........Forgot.

Anal sex is one of those things you gotta know what the hell you're doing on both ends of it. If you do you avoid most people's aversion to it. Hell the same is true of vaginal sex too. If you get all hung up on just what comes out of those holes no one would screw and we'd go extinct.

well said.

Sorry, not into anal. I'm sure for the most part that make me a pariah in gay culture....just not into it. Jack off, oral, ect....the end results the same, orgasm.

It's all good R68 you just narrow the field of potential bf's/partners. We all have our thing. Sucking dick isn't my favorite thing in the world either generally but i still do it occasionally. Oddly it's not my hubby's most favorite thing to get usually either since it makes him cum in like 2 minutes. So it kinda all works out for us. Now munching ass i'm a master.

Same here. Top but haven't done anal in 10 years and don't plan on it. Email me nickreyesnyc@gmail.com, You might be the husband that I'm looking for man! Hit me up bro!

Not rare at all. But J. Farone does not approve.

That fool in the video at R71 is nails on a chalkboard incarnate

My ex was a bodybuilder who ate zero carbs and sugar or whatever (it was a long time). He had really lose stools and it disgusted me. Probably killed the relationship.

What I hate are guys who won't kiss.

I'm not into anal at all and it made me an outcast. I still get told that if a guy can't fuck me, I'm not worth his time.

I had a guy tell me I wasn't a real gay because I'd never been fucked.lol

And and for God's sake, leave rimming to the pros. Maybe get good and drunk and try it once, but you can get really sick. I think it's the norm to get sick.. Can anybody name the diseases you can get?

Hepatitis A, B, C Warts Amoebae Giardia Syphylysis Gonorrhea Yuck

You can also get most of those things from giving or getting head to. As always the key is picking your sexual partners well.

Not only am I not into any form of anal sex, I actually get turned off just from seeing guys from the rear on all fours, something about the way the junk dangles reminds me of a dog, even the swollen look of taints makes me queasy . Hairy assholes are the work of the devil. I would literally pay not to have to deal with that.

R73, wtf? How did you even know what he dumped in the toilet & why the fuck would you care.

Is it possible to make oneself be attracted to a part of the body he feels no attraction to? Like, is it possible to manufacture a foot fetish or an interest in pits or even piss if you currently find these things disgusting? It would be an awful lot easier if we could. But then I guess a number of you might even opt for the strictly straight route.

Sometimes R81 attractions (or repulsions) can be all about the person. Or something can turn from a repulsion to eh for you alright I'll give it a go and why you may not love it may not be that bad afterall. It's like Dan says..a great lover is GGG

R82, THIS! SOOOOOOOO THIS!!!!!!!!

OP, you're not special, dude

It's kind of scary to think how many gay guys have died and how many are living with a deadly virus just because of anal sex.

R23 Fuck off and die in a...well you know. A man's ass is the closest thing he has to a pussy and of course getting fucked up the asspussy is like seeing the face of god. So fuck off with your anti-anal sex propaganda motherfucker.

I need a good fucking about two times a year, otherwise I'm a giver.

I love being a bottom, but I seem to have a difficult time getting clean back there. I've been a vegetarian for 20 years and often it gives me loose stools. No matter how much prep work I do to get clean, sometimes there will be a little shit. Makes spontaneous anal near impossible and even though I really love it, I find that's it's usually more trouble than it's worth.

R79, you cracked me up. I am a member of the sexually fastidious club as well.

loose stools terrify me!

To each his own. Topping (with condom) gives me the most intense and satisfying orgasms. Hate those bossy loose-booty, over-worked power bottoms. Trying to bottom, for equality in the relationship,(per Dan Savage-GGG) not for me. It hurts and kills my boner and drive.

No, OP. I am totally into mutual oral and have always been. Tried analysis a few times after I first came out. Hated it, no desire to ever do it again.

Sorry...anal, not analysis...fucking spell check.

Wasn't this a plot point in that Russel Davies show, that the main character had never had anal sex and never told his partner about it?

I think a lot of gay guys have issues around it because of AIDS, either fetishizing it or being freaked out by it

When my first real boyfriend and I decided to be exclusive, we got tested and all that. But it took me a while to be able to fuck him with abandon because it had been so ingrained in me that unsafe sex was bad and cumming in your partner (even in a condom) was bad.

I personally find anal sex pretty disgusting.

R6 That teleological fallacy deserves to be shoved back up your arse

I like it but my hemoroids do not.

I find EVERYTHING about guys hot ..BUT ...seeing theim on all fours with their taints & anuses presented renders me nauseous and wilted of dick. I have no control over this. Conversely women mostly disgust me but seeing a women on all fours from the rear --even a ugly fat one (short of a land whale) -- makes me harder than a motherfuker. I have no control over this either. Nature, eh!

I find the whole thing emasculating and thus a turn off

It's gow you get da AIDS you know

I just do not like the shit factor. Never been able to get over that. The smell. The visual. It turned me off so many times that it has not seemed worthwhile to try this again.

With anal shit sometimes happens.

For you tops, If you wanna dominate a guy..or if you just wanna penetrate..why not throat fuck that bitch..surely that's a sexier sight than a puckered brown asshole. And if you claim you're about that "giving pleasure" kumbaya shit ...give em a nice watch or a spa voucher instead.

And for bottoms and your hallowed golden prostrate that comes into play any way any and every time you come..and especially strongly if you edge and prolong the urge to nut it to the point of fucking madness...but no you lazy fuckers don't want to work for your nut and just lie back like the lazy cunts you emulate.

A brown poop dick is nothing...

Try yellow or green dick with black micro seeds on it yuck I tells yous yuck

And try sucking the shit off and craking those seed

Interestingly, only a couple of years ago I saw a study of around (I think) 1800 gay men. Study was done by either UCLA or UCSF. There were a number of topics, including one about sexual behavior, likes, dislikes, etc. At least in this study, when asked about sexual preferences, a good majority responded with oral sex.

Nope...I'm a child of the 80's and had it drummed into me from an early age that anal=AIDS so I never got into it. I've never been fucked and I've never had any interest in trying it.

I've never liked anal either way and I believe that's what got 'me through the 80's unscathed by HIV. Because I had a LOT of sexual partners.

I love it but my hemoroids do not.

OP it is safe to say, if you can think of something sexual you can definitely find people who are into it.

Tried it when younger, hated it, never did it again. Sticking with oral sex through the 80's most certainly saved my life.

Apparently it's called being a "side"