Has anyone met their partner on Grindr, Scruff or other apps?

Why don't you meet a cutie at a library?

The internet is filled with good-looking, successful, and social people with great lives.

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Oh, honey, 39 is nothing. Don't count yourself out yet. I mean it.

I met a boyfriend on grindr, and one on growlr

Yes, I did.

I was 30, he was 40.

Met my partner online. Started out as a hook-up, we discovered we had a lot in common, started dating and will celebrate 10 years this Fall.

OP, are you in the DC area? I know a senior government official who met his significantly younger boyfriend on a hookup app.

Youre 39. Youre a hung top. You don't seem to mind not being settled down. If you don't mind or even encourage the infidelity, it sounds like it would be a good way to meet men. Those sites are full of married guys. Just sayin...

PK Creedon met Mike van Reekum on Tinder.

39 is considered eldergay? Damn, gays have a really short shelf life.

You don't find a "partner" on an app like Grindr; you find a fuck-buddy. So, if you are really "handsome, in shape, good job, hung top" go make human contact and find someone you are worthy of and who is worthy of you. You don't find that on your i-phone.

but i am too shy too sheltered

You're very unlikely to meet "the one" on a sex based hookup app.

Join a hiking club or The Audubon Society bird-watching group.

[quote]You don't find a "partner" on an app like Grindr; you find a fuck-buddy.

This is really not true. While it is certainly designed for hook ups and that is what most people use it for, I know couples that met on those apps. But really OP, if you are a hung top you will have no end of guys messaging you for a hook up lol, so I wouldn't advertise that unless that is what you want.

Trying using OKCupid and Tindr as well OP, they are more geared towards actually dating and not just fucking.

Tindr is for the gays too?

You're far too old to be using hook up aps or sites. By 40 you should be stable with a half paid for house and car, a good job and be able to meet homosexuals of your equal.

If you have to resort to this, I would seriously question why you have to and perhaps a few sessions with a therapist will help you.

[quote]By 40 you should be stable with a half paid for house and car, a good job

None of these things have anything to do with meeting other gay men. What a dumb post.

R18

Few sessions with a therapist? OMG, you're so mean.

OP here and funny you should mention a therapist, since he's the one who suggested social apps as a ways to meet a potential husband. . .outside of the bars. And yes, my house is nearly paid-for, my car is paid and I have over $2M in my 401(k). I've got all my shit together, but have the damnedest time meeting men who are interested in more than a hook-up.

[quote]'ve got all my shit together, but have the damnedest time meeting men who are interested in more than a hook-up.

Be honest. What's wrong with you?

OP I don't mean to be shallow. But can you describe your appearance?

Well helloooo why haven't we met yet?

but realistically 60% are about hooking up, 30% are fakes, 5% are probably too ugly/not dating material and the last 5% are what you're looking for.

Met my young husband on grindr after 4 years still going strong. Im 48 hes 24.

It's amusing that R6, R8 and R25 all felt the need to throw in that the other person was so much younger(!!!). Because of course, god forbid trying to date someone your own age.

And sorry, what does a 20 year and a 44 year old have in common? I'm guessing your bank account was one of your more attractive qualities in that match...

R26 20y /44y is perfectly fine, but when 20y turns to 40y, they may have a problem

OP, are you in the DC area? Attractive and successful 37 y/o bottom guy here. In great shape, good job, own a home. I'm up for a date.

I'm not even quite 30 yet and I wouldn't date a 20 year old. Someone that can't legally drink? Someone that is still in college? We are at completely different places in our life. Not to mention I'd be embarrassed bringing this kid to meet my friends and family and they would rightfully make fun of me for it. I can't fathom someone over a decade older than be actually wanting a "relationship" with someone barely out of highschool.

But I am looking for a serious life partner, an equal, not a play thing.

What ^^ they said. Those are for hookups. Most dudes on there aren't looking for a relationship and if you bring it up, they will flee.

Go somewhere else if you want to find a relationship. Hell, try craigslist. They have a M4M dating section. Not just casual encounters.

Do NOT try craigslist. You do not want to meet the guys who are on craigslist.

I think we have a new troll: I've got my life together, but can't find a boyfriend! LT/NoBF?

They should make a gay rom-com about a guy like the OP.

You definitely seem like husband material on paper. So are you dead on the inside or something?

R32 "I'm a perfectly fit, ex-fashion model, multi-billionaire, published author, that rescues dogs and gives them a home in my country estate, where I propagate trees that I plant in poor, urban communities on the weekends but I can't find a man who wants me! Help!"

While I don't think it's impossible; I'm not sure it's the best place to look OP.

A lot of guys I talk to on Grindr have boyfriends/husbands/partners and are either cheating, looking for thirds or open.

I've never been able to transition from fuck buddy to boyfriend. Yes, I know people do it, but it's never worked for me.

op you sound like a bragger and very narcistic. you hould just hire rent a date cause you will always be alone.

Work on the inside. Inside your heart. Polish that up.

OP, what's really wrong with you? You're leaving something out and we can all tell.

r37 should date a spelling and English teacher.

OP, find the very best looking fuck on Grindr.

Fuck his brains out and suck his balls through his dick. Let him whine about his exes.

Then hook up with one of those exes.

Not on it. Friends are. They say most Grindr guys just want sex. Immediate sex. I'd rather have that at a bar or rest stop or gay beach. In a bar you stand around, connect, go home with them. If there is a connection you might date. Could be the same with any sex app.

I get a lot of uncreative flaky people on Grindr. You really want to meet up, you live across the street, but have to pack for a trip. Bitch please, you're not interested or you're hoping something better comes along.

No one needs more than 15-20 minutes to pack for any trip ever. What a bullshit excuse.

Everything about this thread and the OP is annoying. First of all, 39 is not "eldergay" - what a sick worldview. Second of all, your value as a human being has nothing to do with paid-off mortgages or car purchases. This is just a very unevolved way of looking at human worth. So piss off, all of you dumb airhead, low EQ and low IQ queens.

You are a terrible traveler, R44, and browsing takes a lot less time than washing lube and cum off my back. Besides, what am I supposed to do with dirty dirty towels and sheets while I'm away? It's not as if I want to haul your jizz through airport security and I'm not leaving stained linens behind.

No, actually, I'm not, R46. I'm just a quick packer and not overly fastidious. This include packing for work trips or vacation, btw.

I'm not sure what your jizz-filled towels have to do with packing. This isn't about laundry (which most people do regularly, not all of sudden when they are about to take a trip.)

R44/R47 (if that's his REAL name), wads his travel clothes into an Aldi's bag.

I wouldn't trust him to look after low-maintenance pets while I'm away - much less a clean quick fuck. Way. Too. Chatty.

You actually couldn't be more wrong, but whatever!

"...and I have over $2M in my 401(k)."

Is your name Elmer Fudd? Do you own a mansion and a yacht?

not only is he a hung handsome top millionare but he owns a mansion, yacht and has a great bod with a super personality and he can pack quickly.

OP, do you have hairy facial moles that your mom says "add character?"

Do you have a weirdly curved wang or oddly shaped belly button?

"I'm totally husband material. Handsome, in shape, good job, hung top."

THIS is why you are alone. Describing yourself this way, identifying as this....tells all, you fucking Rhodes Scholar.

OP, I am 50 and I got hit on by so many damn teens, young men and hustlers hit me up here in Brooklyn and Manhattan I finally had to put the following in my post "It's flattering, but if I'm old enough to be your Dad, I probably won't respond."

Though I have yet to find the right guy for several reasons; it made my Grindr life much easier to handle.

Nobody on grindr or any of these sites is looking for you OP. Don't waste your time. I'm surprised someone with your stated qualities has trouble finding men.

Finding men is no problem. It's finding quality men who are looking for more than a one time hook-up.

bump

sure they did r55, maybe if you had left out the part about "have lots of cash and wanting to be their sugardaddy". sicko

Once again shut-up r59, though I can see how nobody would be attracted to you because whatever age you are, you come across as common.

Of course you can meet someone on Grindr. If you're on there, there are other guys like you too. Most all are looking for hookups, but if you find you have something in common, love can happen. I know a couple of guys who met that way.

Three things I don't get about Grindr:

1. GUYS WHO ARE JUST LOOKING FOR "FRIENDS" -- WTF? It's a hookup app. I get that it's a way of screening, that if they find a hot guy they're not going to ask him out to a movie, but why the subterfuge. Even weirder is couples, "new to the area. Looking for friends" No you're not. Again, why the BS?

2. GUYS WHOSE PROFILES ARE A LIST OF DONT'S: You know the ones: No femmes! No fatties! Don't contact me unless you have a clear, recent photo! You better look like your photo or else! -- again, WTF? You come off as a neurotic freak and even though I probably meet all your criteria, I'm blocking you because I know that when I get there you will have a long list of rules about what you will and won't do and will freak out if I take off my shirt before you or something equally irrational.

3. GUYS WHO WITHHOLD THAT CRITICAL DEAL-BREAKING PIECE OF INFORMATION UNTIL YOU'RE WAY INTO THE CONVERSATION: You know, like that they're 5' 8" and weigh 275 lbs or the they're poz or that they don't have a car so can you come pick them up. Shit like that.

Sure this crew has others for that list.

DLers only like anonymous sex. No intimacy.