Is it ever okay to use this term, meaning: is it ever NOT derogatory? My mother has used it and says that she's not saying that homosexuality is a lifestyle, as in chosen, but "lifestyle" as in going to gay bars, gay clubs, etc. I'm just curious. Give us your take, elders.
"Gay Lifestyle"
by Anonymous | reply 17 | August 16, 2020 12:08 PM |
The word didn't exist until the late 60s early 70s. Try to write a definition for it with out using the word life or style. It is used as a brand name of condoms and as a euphemism for what was once known as wife swapping. Open air shipping centers are now being referred to as lifestyle centers. The word needs to die in a grease fire. Now get off my lawn.
by Anonymous | reply 1 | July 11, 2015 11:30 PM |
OP would your mother ever refer to the "heterosexual lifestyle"? No? Then yeah its always derogatory.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | July 11, 2015 11:43 PM |
Honestly I think it started when we "came out" in all our glory and they needed to attach a label to drag queens, muscle boys, lesbians on Harleys, dudes in Daisy Dukes, guys in cowboy boots and Wranglers, girls in white dresses... wait a second! Normal people. Who knew?
by Anonymous | reply 3 | July 11, 2015 11:44 PM |
It is only ever used with negative connotations attached.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | July 11, 2015 11:46 PM |
The gays just love to have style In their lives.
by Anonymous | reply 5 | July 11, 2015 11:49 PM |
I've always thought of it being used pejoratively to say that being gay is a choice and/or it's just disgusting. Either way they hate us, except for your mom, OP, but now you can explain the subtext to her.
by Anonymous | reply 6 | July 12, 2015 12:32 AM |
It's almost as naff as 'the gay community' though that tends not to be used so pejoratively.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | July 12, 2015 12:40 AM |
What I lived over the years wasn't a "lifestyle," it was my life.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | July 12, 2015 12:53 AM |
It's very AARP
by Anonymous | reply 9 | July 12, 2015 1:06 AM |
I agree it's a derogatory term, but it could be a useful one. Is there another way to get across the same idea that's not derogatory?
by Anonymous | reply 10 | August 15, 2020 11:49 PM |
R10 I always thought “scene”/“non-scene” was the PC way of saying it.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | August 16, 2020 4:09 AM |
I think the “gay lifestyle” distinguishes the “gay closet” but whether through ignorance or outright contempt, yeah, it’s pejorative.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | August 16, 2020 4:17 AM |
OP, how would your mom refer to straight people who go to straight bars and clubs a lot? Would she say they have a "straight lifestyle?" Doubt it. There's no singular "gay lifestyle" just like there's no singular "straight lifestyle." If one goes to bars/clubs a lot, they live a "party lifestyle" (or they're just a drunk) gay or straight. "Gay lifestyle" is an other-izing term. Which is a negative connotation.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | August 16, 2020 10:46 AM |
I find it fairly offensive. It's usually used with a vague connection to the word "choice".
by Anonymous | reply 14 | August 16, 2020 10:55 AM |
Neither gay lifestyle nor gay community are terms that make any sense. They are meaningless and misleading.
by Anonymous | reply 15 | August 16, 2020 10:56 AM |
Maybe in the right historical context, say in describing the emergence of a visible gay lifestyle in post-Stonewall NYC, or advertisers targeting a perceived as gay lifestyle market. But to describe people, or to diminish people by referring to them as a lifestyle (Jewish lifestyle, Black lifestyle, WASP lifestyle, immigrant lifestyle--stereotype fits as well in any of those instances, and likewise for gay lifestyle,)
by Anonymous | reply 16 | August 16, 2020 12:02 PM |
[quote]It's almost as naff as 'the gay community' though that tends not to be used so pejoratively.
I'll take "the gay community" over "the LGBTQ community."
by Anonymous | reply 17 | August 16, 2020 12:08 PM |