I found this comment on the 'Is staying in the closet to have a career ethical?' thread:
"From a sports perspective. I know an NHL player. He's not only closeted but he has a fake gf. He even says shit like "I'll just fake it till I make it" because at the end of the day he wants to "settle down, get married and have kids", he knows he's gonna stay with her, and she's okay with everything because she enjoys the lifestyle. While in the NBA, NFL, players are more independent from the team, teammates, have their own posse and many are single or leave their WAGs at home or have scandals, NHL teams have "WAGs associations", stuff like WAGs doing charity work, watching games/travelling together, 'playoff jackets', weddings and babies every off-season... There's a lot of pressure to fit in, find your girl, be like everyone else... hockey players have zero sense of individuality and they are encouraged to basically have no desire to stand out or have a personality because "you play for the crest on your chest, not the name on your back", it's a fucking cult. Keeping appearances is everything, you can have fun on the side, cheat, suck dick, drug, pop pills-- it's like hiding broken bones and concussions, they protect themselves then their teams protect them then hockey media protects them- turn a blind eye and we're ready to go. The NHL has this "Hockey is for everyone" campaign where they have to BEG/drag players to participate on because most of them HATE it and want nothing to do with it but it's really just a couple 30-second videos, a PR-redacted two or three-line statement for the press, rainbow tape on their sticks for warmups once a year then they're done with it, through gritted teeth and all. While some genuinely don't want to touch LGBT issues with a ten foot pole, I think most realize that campaign is a fucking joke, who if not them know hockey is NOT for everyone. So, of course even closeted players have to come out and say "the league would accept a gay player", and people would say it's okay- even if they're in the closet with fake gfs, at least they're showing some sort of support, but that's fucked up, a repressed coward saying "we'd be okay with a gay teammate" is laughable, you or your team or the league are clearly not okay with a gay player because you are a gay player and you are saying shit like that while knowing full-well you are never coming out-- "we'd be okay with a gay player because there's never gonna be a gay player". While other leagues have had players coming out - even if they were bums or they played ages ago, they have them - the NHL has ZERO, no one wants to be the first at this point, you have hockey culture, clearly there has to be something bigger, again, the crest on your chest- "can't distract the team", it's a fucking cult, yet having cheaters, wife-beaters, alleged rapists, druggies... is fair game, also you just can't mess with the chemistry and the homoerotic banter by being literally gay, let's keep going to titty bars and spitroasting puck bunnies... Then another thing, even if people say "it's 2019, who cares" you all know full-well everybody would jump on that story, even if it's a benchwarmer or a jouneyman nobody cared about before that, and like it or not, athletes want people to focus on their game, that one is a valid point, the thing is no one seems to have the balls to come forward and say something like "I don't owe 'straightness' to narrow-minded people and I don't owe being a 'LGBT activist' to queer people. I play sports, I like dudes, in that order. Judge me as a 'role model' by the things I do on the ice, it's you who have to educate your own children, and you can perfectly be an activist without having to force someone else to be, geez can't a man put pucks in a net then go home and suck a dick without people having to feel entitled to tell you what to do with your personal life..."