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Found Out My Boyfriend Is Watching Straight Porn

I'm actually really upset and really worried. It cannot be a good sign, he must be at least bisexual right? Why and how would a gay man be turned on by straight porn? It just doesn't make sense. I tried to watch it once and it was gross.

I was using his computer, totally innocently, I wasn't snooping. I've seen him use his passcode over his shoulder a 100 times so just logged on looking for a document and found the folder, 100s of pictures and videos of all types of straight porn. Women solo, with other girls, with guys and groups, it was gross. I'm just fucking so pissed and upset and confused.

I bet he is cheating on me with girls, I just know it, some of them look like them looked pretty amateur, like from hook up sites. I thought he was gay if I knew he was bi I would never have dated, now I'm with him for the best part of two years and my heart is in it, and it is about to be broken.

I think it is best if I end it and just. I don't know, I'm heartbroken.

by Anonymousreply 13505/24/2020

not necessarily. most of the porn I watch is stuff I'd never want to do in person (nothing filthy, bitches. just types of guys that id never want anything to do with in reality)

you're making a fuss I think.

by Anonymousreply 106/22/2015

OP writes like someone who has never actually had sex with another human.

Try harder, OP.

by Anonymousreply 206/22/2015

My bf looks at all types of porn, OP, and he's still gay as a goose. Porn is not evidence of your bf's real-life activities. Don't be such a frau.

by Anonymousreply 306/22/2015

Still r1 it was straight porn, videos of guys eating muff, why would a gay man get turned on by that if he were not in some way attracted to straight sex and women. There has to be a very thin line between watching straight porn and having straight sex, maybe curiosity will get the better of him, maybe he'll see a chick that turns him on and he goes for it., that if he hasn't already.

I don't get how a gay guy can get sexually turned on by not just guy on girl, but solo and lesbian stuff. And there was a lot of bi stuff too.

Maybe you are naive one r3, how do you really know he is gay as a goose, how do what he gets up to behind your back. He is obviously sexually aroused by women and straight sex if he jerks off to it. If you are not sexually turned on by something why would you jerk off to it?

by Anonymousreply 406/22/2015

Many gay guys watch straight porn.

There are a lot of hot guys in straight videos.

by Anonymousreply 506/22/2015

Are you guys openly dating? Even if he's into women, he probably prefers men if he's in a relationship with you. It's probably nothing to worry about.

by Anonymousreply 606/23/2015

I'm not sure I buy that r5, there are lots of hot straight guys in gay porn too.

by Anonymousreply 706/23/2015

You sound like a real piece of work, OP. Don't worry about the porn. You should worry about his reaction to you finding the folder.

by Anonymousreply 806/23/2015

Yes end it, OP. You are such a tight-ass sex-negative control freak.

I am gay and watch all kinds of porn. Hey I was bi for a couple of years, too. LIKE HALF OF THE GAY MEN I know, we've had hetero sex. Some of us even enjoyed it! Yes, we enjoyed PUSSY and yet identify as gay. CLUTCH YOUR FUCKING PEARLS!!!!

by Anonymousreply 906/23/2015

OP reads like a parody post or coming from a female. I've recently read a few gay romance books from female writers and OP reminds me of those doll like gay characters female gay romance writers create. Then again anything is possible.

Some gay men like straight men and the only guaranteed place to see men having straight sex is in straight porn. Of course not all guys in straight porn are straight but at least they play one.

OP's boyfriend, if real, could very well be bi. He might actually be straight and is imagining OP is a woman when they fuck. If he's bi then so what? Most men are bi and not all gay men are Kinsey 6.

by Anonymousreply 1006/23/2015

I understand you're confused OP, but if I were you, I'd be more concerned with what was happening in those videos. Some people have very weird fantasies, but liking straight porn isn't one. Some straight women watch male gay porn, some straight men watch lesbian porn... Your bf may be curious or find straight sex interesting but that doesn't mean he's attracted to women. And if he is it doesn't mean he's cheating on you. You two should talk about it, it's probably nothing :)

by Anonymousreply 1106/23/2015

If he's mainly watching hot guys fucking chicks then that's understandable I do enjoy that too. But it's the scenario of watching a hot guy doing it rather than the chick herself. I think many gay men get off on this as an extension of the straight man fantasy. However, if as you suggest, he is also watching a lot of solo girl, and girl on girl porn too, this may indicate that he is bi-curious to an extent. May be just fantasy, on the other hand he may be seriously becoming interested in actualizing these fantasies by fucking a woman at some point. You may have something to worry about. He may ask for a bi threesome OP!

by Anonymousreply 1206/23/2015

[R9] If you are attracted to women then you are not gay, you are bi by definition. Why do people like you deliberately confuse the issue by claiming to be 'gay'! You are not. I don't care if you only go out with guys, you are attracted to both , so you are NOT gay! OWN IT.

by Anonymousreply 1306/23/2015

Poor Op. are going to talk to him about it? Sexuality is funny like that. Might just be looking for the sake of looking. Maybe he is bored in bed. Maybe you should get creative.

by Anonymousreply 1406/23/2015

Communication. If you care about the relationship. Obviously he is not comfortable talking to you or just talking about it in general. Stay calm. Maybe he is looking at these girls being abused and liking the misogyny aspect of straight porn. Ask him.

by Anonymousreply 1506/23/2015

And then there are the gay men who watch straight porn to identify with the girl and the things being done to her.

There are plenty of reasons for gay men to watch straight porn.

by Anonymousreply 1606/23/2015

Maybe he's using the pictures of women to trick straight guys on chat/cam sites?

by Anonymousreply 1706/23/2015

OP you will hate my answer, but hey you have to take the good with the bad.

So what has happened is you have used his password ,logged onto his computer,justified this betrayal,by saying you were looking for a cough "document ". Then felt angry and hurt when you found something you were not meant too?

It is not enough that he has been with you for two years and that you believed in that relationship. Now you have to control his inner life as well.

Who the fuck cares if he has a folder full of pussy photos. It means nothing. Did you read that nothing.

Pornography is fantasy, just that. You are about to make this more than it is.

You have two mature choices,which I doubt you will take,as you are asking an anonymous backstabbing bitchy board for advice,rather than the person you should be,your boyfriend..

The first is to drop it. The second is to talk to your boyfriend about it. Admit you fucked up by going through his things and then ask him why he has pictures of girls. Be open to what he says. At the moment for all you know ,this is fantasy and one of the hard things to do about fantasy is open up about them.

Good luck

by Anonymousreply 1806/23/2015

I am thinking though if woman finds her boyfriend or husband is watching only gay porn, I think she would be valid on being worried or confused or questioning. It is the same for guys, gay guys just want it to be different or tell themselves it is different., I don think it is.

The truth is I am afraid to ask r18 because I am afraid of the answer. Now I'm thinking every girl I saw him look at, was he checking her out, every night away was he hooking up with girls?

I know it sounds like I'm uptight, but still it is just flooding my head.

by Anonymousreply 1906/23/2015

OP at first I was willing to give your concern the benefit of the doubt, but your post at r19 reflects an obsession that at best makes you a possessive jealous type, and at worst borders on ticking-bomb psychosis.

Don't ruin what seems to be a perfectly conventional relationship, don't bring up your recent discovery with your bf, and get outside help that doesn't involve him, to process your feelings and and channel out a potentially dangerous outcome.

by Anonymousreply 2006/23/2015

I'm getting trollerina vibes from OP.

by Anonymousreply 2106/23/2015

Op, it seems like you must have other reasons to be suspicious. Did you have some suspicions already--before you found this stash?

by Anonymousreply 2206/23/2015

I'm gay and I much prefer straight porn OP. I do have bi leanings, but they're WAY outweighed by my attraction to guys. IRL I only look at guys. I would never be in a relationship with a woman.

You're overdoing this. The reason it's different from the other way around is that if he's gone all the way against society's heteronormativity to be in a gay relationship you can bet he doesn't really like girls. Man who have significant attractions to girls date girls, and openly flaunt their attractions. It's the culture we live in.

by Anonymousreply 2306/23/2015

Oh [R23] you are another one confusing things. You say you have 'bi leanings' then go on to say you are 100 per cent gay?? wtf? do you fancy women or not???

by Anonymousreply 2406/23/2015

I don't fancy women. At all. But I could probably have sex with one if the mood was right.

Ok, not 100% gay, maybe 90%. The point is I'm gay and not going to run off with a woman anytime soon.

by Anonymousreply 2506/23/2015

[R25] you said you had bi leanings which does not mean that you 'don't fancy women at all' it suggests to people that you find some women arousing, to the point of wanting to take them to bed and slide into their pussy. Am I right? lol

by Anonymousreply 2606/23/2015

OP is.definitely trolling, no gay guy would actually react this way people. We all have enjoyed straight porn.

by Anonymousreply 2706/23/2015

Yes [R27] BUT have you ever enjoyed women solos ? huge juggs bouncing before the camera? women playing with their mounds? there's the difference, you either like straight porn, or STRAIGHT porn get me?

by Anonymousreply 2806/23/2015

R26: sexuality isn't black and white despite what some people say. I've never looked at a woman and been attracted, but the idea of actually having sex with a woman arouses me somewhat. Nevertheless when I was trying to be 'straight', every date fell flat, I was always looking over the woman to the hot guy in the corner, I am attracted to masculinity not femininity etc...

by Anonymousreply 2906/23/2015

[R29] Interesting. what would you do if a busty hot woman came up to you in a bar and said she wanted you to take her home? would you get horny?

by Anonymousreply 3006/23/2015

Actually most gay men don't get off on straight porn.

Seriously, do people know what the word bisexual means? The guys here who say from one corner of their mouth they are gay and from the other side say they enjoy sex with women, are they morons? They must be, either that or they simply don't know what the word bisexual means.

R26 bisexuality is the grey area. If you are sexually attracted or aroused by sex with both men and women, regardless of your emotional preference they you ARE bisexual.

R9, I don't think it is gay men that are uptight, I think it is just you are a massive bisexual whore.

by Anonymousreply 3106/23/2015

I like looking at hot chicks, dude. Why would this upset you, bro?

by Anonymousreply 3206/23/2015

Any hot gays on here had bi three ways with straight couples, or even a woman and a gay friend?

by Anonymousreply 3306/23/2015

2 / 10

by Anonymousreply 3406/23/2015

R30: yes I would get horny. But I get horny pretty easily. As long as it's a sexual situation, really.

But I'm not bisexual. I'm incapable of forming a real romantic relationship with a woman, nor am I visually attracted to them.

Bisexuals can form relationships with both sexes.

by Anonymousreply 3506/23/2015

R31, you shouldn't say these things with such authority with no facts to back them up.

I'm 100% gay and have always loved watching str8 porn. I also watch a lot of gay porn; in fact, that's mostly what I like watching. But I definitely get in my moods where I want to see a hot guy pound a girl and cum on her tits, for example. I love the close-up shots of the cock going in and out, I love to see his ass and leg muscles working for that nut. And for these reasons, I have absolutely no interest in girl on girl. That's just gross LOL!

by Anonymousreply 3606/23/2015

[quote]Actually most gay men don't get off on straight porn.

I don't know about that.

In the nearly 15 years I've been on DL, I've seen quite a number of threads about hot straight porn stars.

Some think the guys in straight porn are hotter than their gay counterparts.

If a performer is that hot, it's really easy to mentally block out any women who appear in scenes with him.

by Anonymousreply 3706/23/2015

[R35] hmm not sure I am convinced by that. If you got horny, then it follows you would be physically attracted to her ie you are somewhat bi right? why is it so hard for you to say?

by Anonymousreply 3806/23/2015

These kinds of threads always end up revealing that 'gay men' are often somewhat bi, so I end up feeling that labels really are useless at the end of the day. But we seem to need them. Paranoia and sexual jealousy play a part in the need humans have for sexual catagorizing. At most labels merely suggest preference. I recall being in a gay club once and this camp hottie I was chatting too saw a girl giving him the eye, he totally went for her kissing groping, and they left together!! he also told me he had a boyfriend too, I stopped being shocked by sexuality and its greyness ages ago.

by Anonymousreply 3906/23/2015

In fact nowadays when a guy tells me he is gay I mentally assume he isn't 100 per cent !

by Anonymousreply 4006/23/2015

Gay men watch straight porn for the hot guys. Don't wet your panties.

The world of gay porn is too small and you get sick of the same models.

by Anonymousreply 4106/23/2015

If you dump somebody for being bi, even though you have great sex and there's no evidence of cheating, you're the biggest douchebag in the world.

Porn is for fantasy.

by Anonymousreply 4206/23/2015

OP you sound like the silliest fag who ever fagged. Obviously your BF likes to watch men fuck who look like real men, not the over processed gym queens in gay porn who look like they're having about as much fun as a trip to the dentist. Mind your manners and you'll keep your friends.

by Anonymousreply 4306/23/2015

Was it gang bang stuff? If anyone should be worried about a guy watching that stuff, it's a woman, because it's a definite sign that the guy is at least somewhat gay. Yes, it's "straight" but the focus is on the sexuality of the men, as, I'd wager, is the focus of the stuff your bf is watching.

Oh, also: STFU you whiny bitch.

by Anonymousreply 4406/23/2015

R31 is the one who doesn't understand bisexuality.

The science shows that the overwhelming majority of bisexual people are oriented more strongly toward ONE gender, not both.

The OP's alleged bf sounds gay-oriented, even if he is bi.

That's why so many gay guys who've had sexual relations with women still identify as "gay" -- so that people in general get the gist.

by Anonymousreply 4506/23/2015

R45 bisexuality is a valid sexuality. Just b/c you favour one gender has nothing to do with it. If you are sexually attracted by both sexes regardless of the % go preference then you are bisexual. And it is unfair a deceptive to misinform potential partners by telling them you are either gay or straight.

This is a really homophobic thread, but the passive aggressive homophobia of bi guys is nothing knew. Suggesting all men are either bi or straight, therefore all men are inherently sexually attracted to women and if you are are not into straight sex you are an "uptight fag" with dangerous issues.

Bi guys are incredibly offensive in their anti gay poisonous superiority and when we call them out on it, we are biphobic fags.

by Anonymousreply 4606/23/2015

R38: it's hard for me to say 'I'm bi' because, apart from the fact that I'm attracted to MEN almost exclusively, gay men would chew me up into little pieces if I said the b word. Gay men (and straight people) don't want to think that even the most legitimate bisexual is bi. They like to think that bi men are pathetic closet cases. Why would I open myself to that kind of abuse over 5% of my attractions? Even if I were actually bi, I think I would just pick a side to avoid the stress of the bi identity.

by Anonymousreply 4706/23/2015

OP, I don't think it's anything unusual. When a beautiful person is sexually objectified, men tend to react to it. I see a gorgeous girl on the beach with a flawless body and a beautiful face in a bikini, and I do find myself aroused. However, as soon as her hot boyfriend shows up, my attention is diverted elsewhere.

I've occasionally watched lesbian porn when the two women are staggering beauties and especially if they do "gay" things(like dildos, anal activities, etc). And I've watched straight porn if the guys are hot(I won't waste my time with Ron Jeremy type stuff, because he physically repulses me, even if I think he's a funny guy).

What I'm basically saying is that it's probably no big deal, so unless he tells you he's breaking up with you to date an Eva Greene lookalike, you're good to go.

by Anonymousreply 4806/23/2015

Do gay men find straight porn DPs and DA/DVs especially homolicious? I have always thought that, even though they are a part of "straight" porn, they are very very gay.

by Anonymousreply 4906/23/2015

Yes r48, but you are openly bisexual and not hiding your love of straight porn from a guy you are dating that thinks you are gay .

by Anonymousreply 5006/23/2015

[R48] you are another one who mask bisexuality beneath this 'I am more into guys' bullshit. If said hot girl on the beach came on to you you would doubtless tap it right? so you are deffo bi!

by Anonymousreply 5106/23/2015

Well, lots and lots of lesbians watch gay male porn.. maybe this is the inverse of that?

by Anonymousreply 5206/23/2015

[R48] with your comments you may have kind of confirmed the OPs fears lol rather than alayed them.

by Anonymousreply 5306/23/2015

That's how Boyfriend remembers his mother, OP.

When OP's Boyfriend's mom discovered she had a prosthetic cancer of the nymphlodes, she humbled herself and filmed scenes of herself before a live audience.

Each dirty Sanchez was an extra semester banked for OP's Boyfriend's college fund. Each Cleaveland steamer was a new outfit from Express. Each pony show was an itunes giftcard delivered in time for Christmas.

Now, OP's boyfriend has the strength to bear witness to his mother's stretchmarks in action - those on her lips, her ass, her tits. This! This is the can-do spirit that made America strong!

OP, no woman can compare to your boyfriend's mom's mesmerizing sphincter. You can't replace her. Nobody can.

by Anonymousreply 5406/23/2015

R48 here. Didn't think my post would cause such a firestorm. On the Kinsey scale, I'm gay with more than incidental bisexual tendencies. I haven't had sex with a woman in years. I haven't rubbed off to anything other than guys for a very long time. But if I'm watching a commercial and some perfect looking woman in a bikini walks out of the water, yeah, I think she's attractive. Would I bang her? Well, lets put it this way- the last time I had sex with a female)(who had a pretty face and a killer bod) I couldn't even get it up until I started thinking about Brent Everett fucking Brent Corrigan.

So I would say I'm as gay as can be, but I do appreciate the beauty of a woman, and they can arouse me. But once the sex starts, the arousal ends until I imagine I'm with a man. Is that gay enough for you guys, or do I have to say that I think Rodney Dangerfield is hotter than Bo Derek during her 10/Tarzan the Apeman period to qualify as 100% gay?

by Anonymousreply 5506/23/2015

[quote]This is a really homophobic thread, but the passive aggressive homophobia of bi guys is nothing knew.

R46, nonsense. I've never understood why some people are so hell-bent on starting wars between gays and bi guys. Gays saying bi men are disgusting are the reason many gay people don't say out loud that they are not Kinsey 6. It's like those gays are demanding 100% homosexuality for a bi/gay men to be even accepted as being queer. That's just fucking insane. Racial purity, anyone? Well guess what OP and other biphobes: life is not black and white, many gay men are not Kinsey 6 and if that makes you hate us then I guess it's better you stay away from us. I feel sorry for your boyfriend for making the mistake of finding a gay purity freak like you.

Still think it's a troll thread, though.

by Anonymousreply 5606/23/2015

But that is every gay men, I'm a k6 gold star gay, but of course I look at women and think they are very beautiful and attractive, but if am not sexually attracted to them.

People seem to live in a constant hyper sexualised state. Straight men look at a man and know he is a handsome man but it doesn't mean they want o have sex with them. I can see a gorgeous woman walking down the street and be totally aware and appreciative of her beauty but it does not mean I want to have sex with her or any woman because you know why? I am gay.

And if you are gay, why have sex with a woman. If you have to think of a guy to manage it? Because you are try to prove something? It is interesting that most gay men's bisexuality doesn't appear until social landmark ages.

by Anonymousreply 5706/23/2015

OP, if it helps, you sound like a total chick.

by Anonymousreply 5806/23/2015

I'd watch gay porn if the guys didn't have gayvoice (huge turnoff) Unfortunately, this doesn't exist.

by Anonymousreply 5906/23/2015

This thread is full of comments, by people not getting Ops point, sure some gay guys like watching straight porn,focusing on the guy & not the girl at all. But solo women porn, that's a horse of a different color. Ops boyfriend has some splaining to do !!

by Anonymousreply 6006/23/2015

Have a field day (NSFW)

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 6106/23/2015

How long have you been together?

All files have information saying date created, date added, date last opened, etc. How recent is the lesbian/solo girl activity in the folder? Did you even check?

by Anonymousreply 6206/23/2015

R61 That is the nastiest shit I've ever seen. WHO would ever be aroused by an old fat fuck schtupping a chick?

by Anonymousreply 6306/23/2015

If it's mostly straight porn he's probably bi or latent bisexual. Im turned on by pussy and download vids specifically focused on that. I dont care for seeing the rest of the woman's body, especially women's faces in porn, they turn me off. Its a plus if the guy is hot. I love men and could never be in a relationship with a woman, but the vagina (especially the wetness) and the female orgasm is hot for me. If he is calling your hole a pussy when you guys have sex that is a clue as well. A lot of bi guys are pretending it's a vagina when they are fucking.

by Anonymousreply 6406/23/2015

I watch straight porn. The guys are hot and it's nice to see them genuinely like fucking their partner instead of the gay for pays that concentrate on staying hard and to not look directly at their partner.

by Anonymousreply 6506/23/2015

[quote]OP reads like a parody post or coming from a female.

That was my first thought too, R10.

by Anonymousreply 6606/23/2015

OP, get the fuck over your silly prissy self. Your boyfriend can watch any porn he wants it doesn't matter. I watch lesbian porn because I really love thinking about what it be like to be a complete bottom like that. It makes me a little bit weird but it doesn't make me bisexual. Your boyfriend could watching hot guys with big dicks, what's wrong with that?

Get over yourself!

by Anonymousreply 6706/23/2015

OP, what do you think straight people do when they watch straight porn? They aren't attracted to the same sex, yet their porn, by definition, features 50% of what they are NOT attracted to. So, when a straight guy is watching straight porn. he is not focused on the guy. He's focused on the woman, and in his fantasy he IS the guy. Your bf is fantasizing about the guys in straight porn, or he is imagining being the girl and getting fucked by the straight guys.

by Anonymousreply 6806/23/2015

OP "there was women having sex ....it was gross" LOL LOL LOL What a queen.

by Anonymousreply 6906/23/2015

Closet bisexual 's worst. This thread 's full of them.

by Anonymousreply 7006/23/2015

It wasn't just straight porn with guys and girls, which is don't buy a guy guy would be into anyway but still, there is 100s and 100s of solo girls and lesbian stuff. Plus a lot of pictures of just women, and a lot of it looked amateur, almost like these women where sending him pictures of themselves?

I'm not an uptight queer, I've been around the block, well most of it. And I'm not an idiot, if any of you saw his porn collection there is no way you'd say it was a gay guys porn collection, no way. Also there is no way he is fantasizing about being a woman, well I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be , he is a top.

.

by Anonymousreply 7106/23/2015

OP did not earn any sympathy points with me for stealing his boyfriend's password and snooping around on his computer. WTF? Major RED FLAG in the relationship, right there.

I agree with what R9 and R56 said. We won't be bullied into rigid notions of what is and isn't gay. Sexuality is on a continuum, and it's complex. Most Kinsey 5's identify as gay. We're primarily attracted to the same sex. It doesn't buy us any cred; we're still a minority. Deal with it. And no, I'm not biphobic.

by Anonymousreply 7206/23/2015

Complex my ass. It's just complex when you made them complex.

by Anonymousreply 7306/23/2015

Complex, yes, because what attracts and turns a person on is unique to that individual's life experience. At some level we're all outliers. Ask any shrink.

by Anonymousreply 7406/23/2015

Well, at least you didn't find his blog about being the last Rhodesian and posing in shirtless pics, squatting on the American flag.

by Anonymousreply 7506/23/2015

Most Kinsey 5's identify as gay actually are bisexual or closet bisexual.

by Anonymousreply 7606/23/2015

So wait he can lie and deceive me? If we are in a relationship, surely he should be telling the truth about who he is, why is hiding it? Why is he not telling me or being honest that he potentially bisexual or finds women sexually attractive? It seems to me that Bi guys are so selfish, they always play the victims.

I didn't snoop around his computer, he uses my computer all the time.

by Anonymousreply 7706/23/2015

[quote]Most Kinsey 5's identify as gay actually are bisexual or closet bisexual.

And black is white.

by Anonymousreply 7806/24/2015

call yourself whatever you want, but if you fuck both men and women, you're bisexual or closet bisexual.

by Anonymousreply 7906/24/2015

OP, you looked where you weren't supposed to and found your boyfriend's porn stash; you snooped, and the ends don't justify the means. I had friend who snooped on my computer and read some of my private writings; major breach of trust.

Look, you're assuming that just because he likes straight porn he's fucking women. Do you have any actual evidence that your boyfriend is cheating on you?

by Anonymousreply 8006/24/2015

[quote]call yourself whatever you want

Thank you, R79, that's very gracious of you.

[quote], but if you fuck both men and women, you're bisexual or closet bisexual.

I'm monogamous, so I am only fucking my boyfriend. You're welcome to view me as bisexual if you want. Knock yourself out.

by Anonymousreply 8106/24/2015

You honestly can't tell if he's bi or not OP? Has he ever had sex with a woman as an adult?

by Anonymousreply 8206/24/2015

K6 is gay. All gay men are K6, while they maybe have tried to have sex with women out of fear or hopes to be "normal", all gay men have no sexual attraction to women. Anything between K1 and K6 is bisexual. If you are not K6 you are not gay, you are bi, if you are not K1 you are not straight you are bi.

Most of us have tried so hard to be attracted to women, but it is not possible, Ya think when I was growing up and being bullied and treated like shit everyday I didn't try to have some degree of attraction to women, and if I had any, no matter how slight, I would grabbed it and ran with it, we all would.

by Anonymousreply 8306/24/2015

Does he eat tuna fish with his tongue?

by Anonymousreply 8406/24/2015

Unless a woman was blowing him while he warched then your probably ok. Time to be paranoid about something else.

by Anonymousreply 8506/24/2015

If your boyfriend is jerking off to lesbian or solo female porn, he's not gay. He can think what he wants, but he's deluding himself or is confused.

by Anonymousreply 8606/24/2015

When was the last time the files were opened?

by Anonymousreply 8706/24/2015

[quote]I didn't snoop around his computer, he uses my computer all the time.

Then maybe he wanted you to see it.

by Anonymousreply 8806/26/2015

Well I finally asked, I was trying to drop it, but I couldn't. Of course he went hyper batshit when he found out I had logged onto his computer, we had a massive fight, he stormed out and came back hours later, calmer. We sat and we talked and he said he was bi curious, he had been for a while but his feelings have been getting stronger the last 4 or 5 months and while he said while he hadn't cheated on me yet he couldn't promise he wouldn't.

So we decided, or he decided, we should have a break while he works through some "stuff" about his sexuality, he is 30 in October for fucksake, you'd think he'd have figured it out by now. Anyway he packed an over night bag and went to stay with, get this, a "friend". What friend do you arrive on their doorstep at 2.30 in the morning I don't know. He couldn't even break up with me honestly. The minute he walked out he door I knew where he was headed.

So that's it, I have till Saturday night to move out. I was so stupid I should have known all along. All those little things you add up in hindsight.

I don't know if I'm heartbroken or relieved, I think both, mostly relieved. like I said I think I always knew something was off, that's why when I found the straight porn, I over reacted, I guess it just confirmed what I was worried about deep down and refused to register. At least now I can move on, it'll probably hurt like a fucker in the next few weeks, right now I just want to take a deep clear breath and get out of the situation.

by Anonymousreply 8906/26/2015

I'm really sorry for your situation, OP. It just goes to prove that you never can really get to know anyone. Sadly, this time you have come to know that your boyfriend isn't a trustworthy person, and doesn't care about you enough to not only be honest about his feelings, but also the way in which he is going to handle the situation.

However, you are lucky up to a certain extent. Better to find out now, than when he decides to leave you for somebody else, or you realize that he has been cheating on you constantly over a long period of time, and only stayed with you because he wanted the security of a relationship, or else out of inertia and absolute disregard for your feelings.

Well, this goes to show that you can never fully trust people, especially a bisexual man. Still, I admire your integrity - if I were in your situation, I would be looking for someone to pay him and his "friend" a visit, and send them to hospital with so many broken bones, the doctors would think they are dealing with human rag dolls.

Anyway, stay strong. Hopefully you will be able to find someone worthy of you in the future.

by Anonymousreply 9006/26/2015

I'm gay too but appreciate the Sasha Grey ca. 2009/exotic and girl-next-door types in commercial and amateur porn. I also like CFNM.

by Anonymousreply 9106/26/2015

I'm so sorry, OP. Obviously I was wrong about my analysis of your situation. The fact that he says he can't promise he won't cheat is annoying. Where do you think he's gone?

This situation is so common the other way around. But a guy in a gay relationship wanting to explore women for the first time? I've never heard of it.

by Anonymousreply 9206/26/2015

Don't move out. He'll be back.

by Anonymousreply 9306/26/2015

I keep thinking he is gone to a some girl, I think he was cheating on me but didn't want to admit it, I just keep thinking that. I guess it takes all situations to make the world go round. I just don't get how his sexuality can change in a few months, aren't we born gay and straight and bi? How can a person change at 29?

I took the day off work to move out, I have two years worth of stuff, going through it is sad, but still it's ok, I keep thinking of that line from a song, And life has a funny way of helping you out when You think everything's gone wrong .

Anyway better get back to it...thanks guys for the ..you know... kind words. See this'll place isn't too bitchy.

by Anonymousreply 9406/26/2015

I'm sorry, R89. It sounds like you had a nagging worry about your boyfriend even before you found his porn. It was good that you confronted him; that took courage. Breakups are always a fucker, the first couple of weeks being the hardest; time heals. You have a chance to start over and find someone 100% committed to you. I wish you the best.

by Anonymousreply 9506/26/2015

Wanting to cheat is not the same as cheating. Regardless, you don't like him for him at this point. Move on.

by Anonymousreply 9606/26/2015

I usually dislike EST accusers but OP and once again R89 reads completely like fiction from a female.

by Anonymousreply 9706/26/2015

I don't get too wrapped up in whether or not OP is telling the truth. This scenario has happened and will happen again. The comments section of Dear Abby is often better than the actual question and response.

by Anonymousreply 9806/26/2015

There are homophobic bi trolls on this site, and self loathers and it is super alarming to me that so many of you play right into it.

by Anonymousreply 9906/26/2015

Like this is among the fakest thing I've ever seen written on DL, it sounds like a fucking fanfiction.

by Anonymousreply 10006/26/2015

you should marry your boyfriend - then take him to court for damages to your fragile psyche

by Anonymousreply 10106/26/2015

Honestly, and I know it's f'ed up, but some gay men are actually bisexual, they say they're gay because it's easier. My friend's BFF claims he's "gay" yet he had sex with her and is now in a relationship with another woman. The guy is clearly bisexual. I find it incredibly messed up that he still claims he's gay. He not only comes off looking like an idiot, he ruins it for everyone else, especially because the homophobes think it's possible to "change" and become straight. Truth is he was probably bisexual all along, but the bigots will claim it was just a phase or something.

by Anonymousreply 10206/26/2015

Honestly R102 do you think you're fooling anybody. Are you fucking kidding me, it's easier to be gay, than like the opposite sex? Does it really bring you joy to troll a gay website?

by Anonymousreply 10306/26/2015

I Love manuel Ferrara!

by Anonymousreply 10406/26/2015

R102, I thought the ex-gay movement was pretty much dead in the water, ever since Exodus International folded and Alan Chambers publicly apologized for all the pain and suffering he'd caused.

by Anonymousreply 10506/26/2015

R103, sometimes it's just easier to say that you're gay than bi. How is that so hard to understand?

by Anonymousreply 10606/26/2015

Our lives are just the fiction we live r100.

by Anonymousreply 10706/26/2015

Sorry to be obtuse, OP, but I just wanted to know how you're holding up? I hope everything is going well with you.

by Anonymousreply 10807/03/2015

Wow! This situation sounds messed up... The world really is a crazy place.

by Anonymousreply 10908/11/2015

Interesting

by Anonymousreply 11001/28/2016

My bf watches str8 porn all the time ..but i knew going in he's bi. Don't really mind since it get's him all worked up for sex with me so it's all good

by Anonymousreply 11101/28/2016

UPDATE: Just found out through a mutual friend he got engaged to his girlfriend only two weeks ago while on holiday in Corfu. They only began dating in February, 7 months and they are engaged. Doesn't bother me I don't care. They live in Miami now. I checked out her FB page, just out of curiosity, he doesn't have one. Sorta pretty I guess, well if you like the Playboy look, which he obviously does.

Anyway, It was a year ago and I don't care,I've moved on and much happier. He was just a negative energy anyway. It's best to let things like that go. Moral of the story; don't trust a gay boyfriend who looks at straight porn. I never will again.

by Anonymousreply 11209/15/2016

Thanks for the fake/est update op. That said it sucked try harder.

by Anonymousreply 11309/15/2016

I am Stuart Duffy from New Orleans, Louisiana. I am 42 years old, but look and feel 32. I am married with no kids and work with a consumer relations firm.

I have been a Brady fan, or "Buncher" as I like to phrase it, since the 4th season, when I discovered the angelic eyes (and yes, very nice legs too) of Maureen McCormick. And I have added an extra heartbeat for her ever since. I have 95% of the original series on video, along with some aspect of all the other incarnations the family took, along with a video collection of Maureen with two of her movies from the 70's, rare TV interviews from the early 90's, the Barbara Mandrell Story, her appearance on Touched By An Agel and all but one of her "Teen Angel" episodes.

Among my favorite Brady episodes would be all the musical ones, the episode when Alice sprained her ankle and the kids tried to run the house, Father of The Year, Love and The Older Man (Mrs. Marcia Dentist), Alice Doesn't Live Here Anymore...to name a few.

I would love to hear from any and all true Bunchers, male OR female.

Stay groovy!

by Anonymousreply 11409/15/2016

I agree with R21. OP reeks of vagina. This is a Frau masquerading as a gay man.

by Anonymousreply 11509/15/2016

And I agree with R114.

by Anonymousreply 11609/15/2016

Whatever if you don't believe me, what you think things like this don't happen in life?

by Anonymousreply 11709/15/2016

he could just be looking at the guys

by Anonymousreply 11806/18/2017

So many closeted Bisexuals in here. Jesus!

Anyway, most men have seen straight porn, whether because there was nothing else or because it was more accessible (like a straight friend showing the other boys at school a porn magazine he found in his dad's garage, but it is something completely different having a whole folder of straight porn and female solo images and videos.

If a straight married man keeps a folder of gay porn and men solos in his computer, he is definitely not straight. He may never be interested in leaving his wife for another man, but he still not straight.

OP, if he loves you, don't ruin a relationship that is working. On the other hand, that he keeps you in the dark about this could spell trouble in the not so near future. What happens if later on he wants to try what, until now, he has only enjoyed in photos and movies?

For now just let it go, allow some time to see how it goes.

by Anonymousreply 11906/18/2017

Update

by Anonymousreply 12008/04/2018

if your sex life is good with him and you feel he is really into it and you , then ignore it. People and relationships are complicated dear. Besides I guarantee you he isnt going to like to know you snooped no matter how it happened.

by Anonymousreply 12108/04/2018

My boyfriend and I have been together since 2002. He has a big thick Latin dick and a slim, hairless body, still amazingly sexy. I was a real hound dog in those days, but he was so hot I pretty much got off the treadmill of casual sex and never looked back. We still have sex 3-4 times most weeks. I am tall, slim, with a medium dick. Now here is the weird part (at least to me), he only watches and gets excited by porn with large/fat guys. Chubs is the porn term. We can't do a 3 way, because guys that are in shape have no appeal to him and I have no interest in Chub guys. How we are still together is a mystery to me, because I know I am not his physical type, but he is mine. I always feel a bit guilty about it, but he seems content overall, go figure.

by Anonymousreply 12208/04/2018

I watch a lot of straight porn because lots of gay porn the men are too effeminate and that's a turn off. There's no other way around it. Now I discovered macho fucker and don't need that anymore.

by Anonymousreply 12308/04/2018

We need a update OP are you still with the closeted bi loser?

by Anonymousreply 12408/04/2018

Throw on a bra and panties and win that man back!

by Anonymousreply 12508/04/2018

It's not straight if you are looking at the guy during.

by Anonymousreply 12605/24/2020

2015 Troll!!! Here we go again!!!

by Anonymousreply 12705/24/2020

OP gave his final update at R112. Why would he ever post about this ever again?

by Anonymousreply 12805/24/2020

Gays r more attracted to straight men . Also gay men want to be straight. They practice being straight etc. Watching straight porn is practice. Lots of gays are in marriages with women

by Anonymousreply 12905/24/2020

Good grief, OP, get a grip. I'm a lifelong lesbian and I watch gay porn, straight porn, and lesbian porn. I have zero attraction to men and zero interest in having sex with a man.

by Anonymousreply 13005/24/2020

What's wrong with that, op?

by Anonymousreply 13105/24/2020

THIS IS TROLL POST PEOPLE!

by Anonymousreply 13205/24/2020

Yeah, what is with the 2015 troll?

by Anonymousreply 13305/24/2020

R126 loves Man Coulter in the Man Coulter threads. Because R126 is an asshole.

by Anonymousreply 13405/24/2020

If you want to keep him, go Caitlyn minus the penis.

by Anonymousreply 13505/24/2020
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