Have you ever had an affair with a married man?

I had an a family affair.

Define "affair."

Nope. I follow the advice of Black Devereaux:"Usually they feel so guilty, they end up giving the expensive presents to the wife!"

Yes, and he had a big uncut cock but it wasn't worth it- I ended up with a scorching case of herpes.

I was the married man. Not anymore. I only do men now. What's ironic is now I'm single after two LTR's with men and the guy who I had the affair with is now married to a man. Now he's the married man and I am single.

Once, it was hot until I met her, then it was not.

Yes, though I always thought I would never do that. But he lied, and did not disclose he was married until two weeks or so in. He came on very strong and bombarded me with emails for those two weeks, he was not physically my type but he was very persuasive and seemed genuine so that's how it began.

And after we fucked it just became more and more obvious something wasn't right. Then when I asked point blank what his situation was I heard every cliche in the book, how he was with his wife just for the sake of their kid, he didn't sleep with her, she didn't want sex anyway, he couldn't come because it would kill his mother who was Catholic and blah blah.

To cut a long story short I eventually wised up and ended it. His wife has now left him and he still emails me, I don't reply. The lies these guys tell to cover up affairs should be a big red flag to anyone involved with them.

Yeah a few. Most were co-workers. There must be something irresistible about me when I work because that's where most of my boyfriends come from too. I had an emotional affair with an old friend who I was reunited with by chance and once with a married guy I met online.

r8 is a callgirl.

I can show you on the doll where he tried to touch me

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Link please.

Sure.

A guy I was sleeping with rented me an apartment in his house. His wife turned out to be nicer than he was.

Then at work, several of them over the years.

And no, I don't feel any guilt. The whole "exclusive possession model" of marriage is a crock of unethical shit.

[quote]And no, I don't feel any guilt. The whole "exclusive possession model" of marriage is a crock of unethical shit.

No one asked, you seem a little defensive.

Soooooooooo many (more than 20) I honestly don't know which one to share. I'm from the South so try to imagine upper middle class white men from that region.

hmmm... my longest one was with a guy I slept with from 2002 -2014 . He wasn't married until 2009. Him I don't feel like sharing about much. He was a jock, homophobe. He played semi-professional basketball around 2002-04 and I saw him off and on. Then his damn drug habit got him in trouble and he moved back to our hometown ( i was still in high school). He was about a 8/10 in the looks department. Currently he's like 6/10. He is incredibly shy, extremely loyal, has very weird "love me complex", kissed a lot, and loved to explore my body. We had a lot of sex in public places and sometimes while is wife and child were sleeping upstairs. I once fucked ( back in 2004 in October - I will never forget b/c of the weird ass Halloween decorations) him down stairs in the living room while his friends were gang banging this girl upstairs. Like I said most of my rendezvous with him involved people being near or in public places. When we were not in public, it meant he wanted to be very lovey dovey and all that frottage and kissing. Stopped seeing him when I lost my phone at his place , he found it, kept it, and used it. I was actually just tired of him but it seemed like a good enough "violation" that he would no longer seek to continue our whatever-the-hell-you-wanna-call-it (it wasn't much of a relationship).

Stats: 5'11,150 lbs (yes he is very skinny) 6in uncut, black/white mix, brn/brn. Romantic inclined top.

The second man I ever slept with was a serious sex addict whom I slept with for like 8 years. HE did this very weird thing where he would stalk myself his 2nd wife, and his 3rd wife by driving pass our houses before he went to work each morning. The only reason I knew was b/c I did a 2 mile jog every morning and sometimes on occasion would hop in and hook up.

He almost made the SEC draft in the 90's but had a knee and heart condition. He looks like the guy who played Karl Meyer on Desperate Housewives. He was not much of a talker/sharer but good lord was he viciously emotionally possessive . Abusive to all his wives. He had 11 children. He also was a homophobe publicly which is so comical b/c everyone and I mean everyone KNEW he slept with the elder gay from his graduating class. I mean he didn't even try to deny it and even once drukenly let him suck him off in the alley @our local sleezy bar ( this lead to wife#2 divorcing him circa 1993). He slept with nearly every man/woman in the county and neighboring ones who would give him the time of day. He was however very funny and generous so long as u were not one of his lovers or family ; then he turned into a possessive/violent maniac.

I mainly slept with him out of curiosity. His penis was no longer than 5 inches on hard, he came quick (always less than 15 minutes usually within 8) and it was curved to the right. His blood flow down there made him unbearably hard that it hurt to fuck him sometimes.

Stats: 40', 6', 230ish, 5in cut, brown hair/green eyes

Another married man of note is the Willem Defoe look alike who had a lisp that made Richards Simmons' voice seem like Patrick Warburton. How any woman could blind herself to the glitter that spewed from his every word, I will never know. Hooked up a few times, met him through running in the morning. Stopped seeing him b/c he barebacked me once when I thought he had a condom on.

Stats: 40's going on 50. 7 inches cut, strawberry blond/blue, avg thickness, verbally aggressive, very good lay.

Yup, and I'm real proud of myself. And, I don't feel guilty. Not even in the slightest. I've slept with over 25,000 guys. I fit every stereotype that gay men are faced with and them some darlin'. But, I don't have the AIDS!

What? I'm me.

To the guys who sleep with married men...are you closeted? Fully or partially?

1) Early 1980's. I was in college and during a holiday break went back to my parents' boring small town's only gay bar.

A handsome, hairy, masculine, older gentleman picked me up. We went back to what turned out to be an apartment he rented with another closet case for the purpose of hook ups! He also turned out to be a power bottom who rode me hard. While on my back, I looked up and noticed a picture of him with a wife and six kids on the wall, some of whom were clearly older than me. I was VERY confused and VERY horny. It was weird but exciting.

The next morning, I drove home, hungover. My sweet Mom made me breakfast and thanked me for not driving home drunk in the night and asked where I stayed. BOTH of my parents were friends with the man! I was totally in the closet at the time. We hooked up a few more times before I left town, but I didn't spend the night.

Many years later -- at a wine-soaked Thanksgiving dinner after I'd come out (my Maw had no clue; bi-curious Dad was suspicious) I revealed in front of my entire family what happened that night. Mom said she'd sent him a Thank You card for "taking care of my son". Dad bumped into him at the Elk's Lodge, mentioned me, and said "congratulations"! It was funny, but awkward given that my nieces and nephews were at the table.

2) Guy I was introduced to by a mutual friend who could only meet me at 6:30am on Saturdays and would leave after 30 minutes and wouldn't give me his phone number. All the signs were there. But I'm a slow learner... he was so passionate and sexy. A simple Google search was revealing. He was married to a man. We're still seeing each other sporadically 2 years later. He is not husband material.

3) Two guys I met online. Both had marriages of convenience to produce children. The wives knew. But the kids did not.

I ended up ending a 25 year LTR because my partner was a chronic cheater. I don't want to be part of someone else's dishonesty, but have eased up about genuine, open relationships.

Yes. Hot irish cop. Gave me herpes. Thanks.

Female here, I had an affair with a married lesbian in a sexless relationship. We met at work. It lasted for a few months. She wanted to leave the wife over me but that wouldn't have worked out and I was ready to move on. I also had a brief fling with a 'straight' engaged coworker. Ended badly, but we are now friends. Both of these scenarios don't make me feel good, certainly. I'm currently single and pining for someone else in a relationship.

No. Several have tried but I've said no. One guy offered to let me live in his Sarasota beach front house and drive his Bentley. I lost all respect for him. He'd been sleeping around with random guys so I asked him how he'd explain giving hiv to his wife if she tested poz. He got scared but I'm sure he is out getting fucked bareback anyway. Idiot.

Yes, several. Fun at first; heartbreak ultimately. Once, we were going at it in his car and his wife drove by in her car(this in a small Northern California town). Oops.

Three. The first for the experience of fucking a married man, the second because it felt like a good idea at the time, and the third because he restricted his secret sex life to the road, wanted a travel/sex companion and I enjoy travel. Each lasted about 6 months to a year.

Two of the three marriages broke up. I've sworn off the married as being way too much drama and being interrupted or ignored at inopportune moments while he deals with his family.

Yes. Four or five.

r19, we're supposed to believe that some closet case set up an apartment for trysts and displayed photos of his family there?

Really?

No, but I'm planning on it

I almost fucked around with a married guy who works with my boyfriend but we stopped before anything happened. We used to hang out and watch movies, just the two of us, and get trashed and we'd move closer and closer and closer on the couch til our arms were touching. The sexual tension was crazy, but we both chickened out in the end. It was best we chickened out. But I still jerk off thinking it every so often.

I picked up on that too R26 - if it's a fuckpad, why are there family photos in it?

I wouldn't call it an affair. More like I woke up underneath one once.

Is there a difference between having an affair with a man married to a woman and one who's married to another man?

R16 = trash. A gang-rape? Gross.

[quote]Is there a difference between having an affair with a man married to a woman and one who's married to another man?

Yes, the former is an affair, the latter is a Wednesday.

i've been having a long distance email affair with a married man.. we discuss EVERYTHING and share pretty much everything EXCEPT?...

i am never allowed to ask him in our emails about his wife and their relationship (and why he is married) he made that a point when i first brought it up...

now, here's the thing. If it's a open relationship or a marriage of friendship and the wife is and would be okay with this then everything is good. however, if the wife has no clue of her husband being the way he is and having a email "affair' on her, then i would feel very awful. i still have morals..not to mention husband is NOT faithful to her either as i've been told (or that is that i have read).. this bugs me. if like i said the wife knows how he is, and is okay with it, fine.. but if not? and the whole "i'm not allowed to even ask about it?"

r3: Black Devereaux? Is that Blanche's half-sister, the love child of Big Daddy and Mammy Watkins?

The majority of the guys I have been with are married to women.

I dated a lot of married-to-women gay men when I was in college. The reason? They went home. They had such an urgent need to be with a man and experience male to male intimacy. There were plenty of dentists in that mix. So unusual. But I loved them, they loved me and they went home.

Cue the clown with a tear and a red balloon.

I'm not exactly proud to say that I post on Craigslist for sex every so often, and many of the guys I've slept with are married. It's just a one-time-thing with most of them, and sometimes it evolves into a longer-term fuck buddy relationship. One guy has become a friend, and, although his wife died -- MS -- we no longer have sex; we're just friends.

As for affairs, I assume you mean of the heart Although I've slept with several married men, I only fell in love with one. We were fuck buds for 8 years. He claims I was the first guy he slept with, and I'm inclined to believe it's true. I emailed him on a straight web site, after seeing a pic of his body and cock. I persuaded him to try sex with a man. He's married, has two kids, he's a one-percenter, and is the most handsome man I've ever seen in my life. Just freaking gorgeous. And he has the biggest cock I've seen, too. He's a leather bottom, which is fine with me, because, although Im not really into leather, I am a top. I wear the leather for him. When we first met, he would tell me how much he didn't like his wife and how he wanted to leave her. When we became a little closer, though, he would no longer talk about his wife, which, in a weird way, I give him credit for. He never tried to hint that he and I could be a couple, in fact he did everything to dissuade me of that notion, but I fell in love with him anyway. He moved away about a year ago, and we email sporadically . He comes back to visit friends every so often, and we fuck when he's here, but I harbour no illusions that I'm the one for him. In the world he lives in, he could never be with a man, but it doesn't stop me from being in love with him and wishing things were different. I don't kid myself about our prospects, but I still wish we could be together. I probably always will.

r26 and r29, I was kind of baffled by the family picture, too. And a bit creeped out.

He was divorced or separated from the wife and had his own, non-fuckpad apartment. Perhaps I should have stated that he was formerly married and still kinda closeted, maybe to his kids. But to a young, naive me, I think he was only marginally closeted because he said he came down to SF frequently.

To me, he was "married". I felt like we were doing something naughty. He was clearly proud that he'd had a big family. I think it was more a statement to the guys he brought home and/or to himself that he was otherwise "normal and masculine".

Maybe he was a "self-hating type"? This was c1982 or '83. Who knows, but he certainly was a pig bottom (which I did not understand at the time... he was maybe the fourth or fifth guy I ever had sex with) and lectured me a bit about bottoms vs. tops.

Fast forward to 33 years later. Was in what I thought (falsely) was in a monogamous relationship for 25 years. Was cheated on many times. Been single for a few years and have been dating all kinds. I prefer single men, formerly married to women or men. Cheaters are unavailable drama queens. Too much work. Am even uncomfortable with the "totally open relationship" types, because it never really is.

I'm in one now, have been for three years.

I get what I need, he gets what he needs. And he doesn't get all clingy and demanding. He doesn't stay long enough for me to get sick of him.

He knows I fool around with other guys and I know he fucks his wife once In a while. We're happy. We have fun.

This isn't the first time for me.

@ [R32] Never did I say gang rape. I said gang bang. There is a difference. They had one of the town pumps upstairs. I know b/c I recognized a few people's cars when I sneaked in the basement, and months later the rumor circulated around town she had a train ran on her ( it was one of many rumors about her).

Yes, I did.

He was gay and admitted that he was with his wife because she was of the upper-class. She was apparently related to the American founding fathers on both sides of her family.

He was great in bed and treated me to some great meals.

I didn't kmow about his background until the third date. By then I was hooked. We had an affair for four months. It was amazing.

A married man wanted me, but I backed off before we did anything. I told him to just be honest with his wife about it, and he told me he was, but I was 99% sure he was lying.

Sometimes I regret that it didn't go further, but I don't think I would have been able to live with myself. They had kids.

I think I've ONLY had 'affairs' with married men. I'm attracted to masculine, over-40, suburban dad-types with some bulk and pudge.

But not since the Million Mommies closed Craigslist Personals down.

How bizarre that you bumped a thread 5 years to the day after it was last active.

R45 That was not intentional! I have my browser tabs filled with thousands of DL threads and I never know when I will get to them.

A lot of herpes here today!

I have had a few. Mostly in my youth at the "sex park' that we all knew about but never spoke about. A few friend's dads. Oops.

The hottest, who I still fuck with a few times a year is K. Black guy with the biggest dick ever. Yeah, cliche. But damn that man knows how to fuck. He's got a wife and two kids.

Three affairs. All ended badly (for me). I got too attached instead of just fucking and forgetting. I was so desperate to be part of a couple, I didn't realize these guys were not going to give up their perfect straight lives to play husband with a man. All three of them wanted to be topped and dominated. I totally misread this. What they wanted was to be fucked once a week and then go back to their 'real' lives.

I have sucked off a married man but I don't think that qualifies as an affair. We were hanging out and drinking a little beer. He let his guard down I guess and started talking about sex with his wife. She didn't enjoy giving him head and evidently wasn't good at it. I got brave and offered. He got brave and accepted. I was determined to show him what good head was so I didn't just blow him. I worshiped that dick, his balls, his taint and his ass hole. When I knew he was about to cum, I would let go of his dick and blow breath on it until he cooled down. I did this several times and by the time I was done, he was trembling and begging to cum. I decided the time was right and started to suck with everything I had. When he began to cum, I moaned loudly and sucked harder and faster. He was standing up and his knees were buckling and he was trembling all over. I think I amazed him or at least a good blow job amazed him. He said he couldn't do that to me but I told him that was okay and that I had a great time just having him and his cum in my mouth. I think it shocked him that someone could actually enjoy giving head.

Hot, R49. What happened next? Did you ever see him again?

Yass, gurl!

"Keep yo' legs closed to married men."

[quote]Hot, [R49]. What happened next? Did you ever see him again?

I'm going to lo out on a limb here and guess that he came.

Once.

r50 He lived 3 doors down so I saw him fairly frequently but never again did anything sexual happen.

[quote] I have sucked off a married man but I don't think that qualifies as an affair.

Are you Bill Clinton, R49?

Slightly off topic, but I've always wondered how anyone can feel secure in a relationship/affair with a married man. He cheats or cheated on his spouse to be with you. What makes you think he'll remain true to you?

Yes, I was a student at Auburn and he was a sales rep from Atlanta. Former college football player, very handsome and a tiny dick ! He would get a hotel room when traveling but would stay with me. I was just exploring my sexuality and so was he! I was 22 , he was 34 and married with kids. He had finally reached a sexual crossroads and decided to explore. We had a great time together both sexually and socially. I was going to Atlanta a lot on weekends and met someone that I guess you could describe as dating, but not a big deal. I told him about it just in conversation not thinking anything about it. I mean he was married with kids! HE BLEW THE FUCK UP!!! Went storming out of my apt and I never heard from him again. I saw him several years later at a gay hangout in Atlanta from a distance. I didn't approach him and immediately wondered if he had worked out a resolution or was still perpetrating his double life.

I am too ugly for even married men :(

[quote]I told him about it just in conversation not thinking anything about it. I mean he was married with kids! HE BLEW THE FUCK UP!!! Went storming out of my apt and I never heard from him again.

Dang, it would have been so much hotter if he had gotten all possessive/stalkerish and forced you to dump the other guy. Just storming off like that after getting all hot and bothered makes him a tease :(

I had a friend who used to pretend to be a straight married guy in order to score hotter guys from Craigslist. He even had a fake wedding ring.

One night when he was drunk he was telling us about it, how the guys would all ask him to fuck them in the same position he fucked his "wife" in and if he told them he had kids they would call him "Daddy" (he was early 30s) and tell him how hot he was.

Gay men can be pathetic.

Yes, definitely

This Russian guy from Brooklyn. I honestly believe I was the first guy he ever had sex with. He wanted to get together with me again as a threesome. The third being a woman.

I’m in the middle of one now. He’s my bf and my bff.

I had an affair with a guy who was in a relationship. He complained that their relationship had gotten stale. I was in it for the great sex and illicit thrill. He stroked my ego telling me how exciting it was to cheat on his partner with me. I suppose their sex life improved as a result. Everybody wins!

[quote] I had a friend who used to pretend to be a straight married guy in order to score hotter guys from Craigslist.

I think this is the case with the majority of guys claiming to be straight/married on craigslist (and now doublelist), especially the ones who say they are only looking for other straight guys.

The ads are always so typical and cliche. One guy in my town posted the same ad for so long about his wife being out of town and he wanted to experiment that someone publicly responded "She has been away quite some time now, have you notified her family that she is missing?"