Cat sleeping boundaries

It's the cat who sets the boundaries, not you. If he wants to sleep in your bed, he's going to and there's little you can do about it.

One of my Bengal cats sleeps curled up with me almost every night and I wouldn't have it any other way.

[quote]It's the cat who sets the boundaries, not you.

Cat people are so weird.

R2 Says the queen who carries his dog around town in his murse.

In the winter, my cats went under the covers with me. In the summer, they slept on top of the covers.

My cat has several cat beds as well but at night she prefers to sleep as close to me as she can get. I usually wake up with a face full of cat.

There's no health risk from having a cat in your bed, unless you're allergic.

I'm in bed with my iPad. I have my 2 hellions asleep at my feet.

The only problem is they hog the bed.

My cat tracks errant specks of litter onto the bedspread sometimes but that's easy enough to clean. Dogs, if they drool, will muck up your sheets or blankets faster than the average cat.

In the winter there's no keeping him away from us overnight. If the door is closed he'll cry until it's opened.

My lab slept in my bed for 13 years until I had her put down this summer. My cat now sleeps by me. She wakes me up by pressing her nose against my back. Its cold and usually freaks me out. I love her but really miss my dog.

My cats sleep with me too. They each have small blankets to burrow in so they don't try and crawl under my covers (I end up with claws in my leg if I accidentally kick one in my sleep). I've always had cats on my bed. My ex-husband didn't mind it, except when he wanted to cuddle - the cats would sleep in between us.

I had a super soft doublecoat Russian Blue that refused to stop sleeping on me each night. Closing the bedroom door was no help; she'd just squeeze her little paw under the door and make a fuss. My alarm was her breadloafing on my chest, staring into my face. Kitty was hungry!

Face it, that cat is going to plop down next to you whether you like it or not.

Mine likes to be nearby. I'm too restless a sleeper, tossing and turning, for him to sleep near my legs. There is a big bolster behind my pillow. He'll often sleep on the bolster, above my head, where I can't accidentally kick him off.

I've had my cat for eight years now and she wakes me every night, usually more than once. I think the trigger is when I turn over and/or snore. I've rarely slept through the night since I got her. Now that she's older it doesn't happen as frequently, and with it being so cold where live she sleeps on a bed in the corner of the bedroom right next to the heat.

I usually don't mind when she wakes me, if it's really cold in the bedroom she'll climb under the covers and sleep.

[quote]It's the cat who sets the boundaries, not you.

Says the poster totally whipped by his pussy.

My cat usually sleeps next to me for a while after I go to bed. Then at some point she hops off and wanders to the super soft pouf that she loves to sleep on. She very rarely sleeps the whole night with me but sometimes I do find her pressed against my boner. She obviously loves its warmth but I find it weird and have to get it away from her.

My cat's been dead for nine years now and one thing I regret is not letting him sleep on my bed more often.

[quote]sometimes I do find her pressed against my boner

The only time it's ever been near a pussy.

He's in the bed and I won't kick him out!!!

I was with women when younger so no, R17. Don't know why it bothers me so much to have any kind of sex near animals. Having sex or wanking in the same room with animals has always seemed wrong. I even hate to watch porn with people fucking in the barn with cows or horses watching. I doubt my cat views my boner sexually but I just don't like her being close to it.

My (male) cat either sleeps in the middle between me and my husband or curls up next to me like we are spooning. Occasionally he will sleep at my feet. We just got a new electric blanket that is like catnip for the 2 cats (the female still sleeps in her 'cat bed' but is becoming friendlier). Both are tuxedo cats and they are the best!!!!!!!

[quote]Don't know why it bothers me so much to have any kind of sex near animals

Because animals are judgmental, especially cats.

Maybe not dogs, though.

A friend said he was having sex with a guy, his dog walked into the bedroom and saw what was happening, and jumped on the bed barking and wanting to play.

[quote]Don't know why it bothers me so much to have any kind of sex near animals.

That is not weird. I refuse to have sex if there is a cat or dog in the room, that is awkward as hell.

I had to shut him out of the bedroom because I was afraid he'd drop a mouse on my face in the middle of the night.

This is bullshit. Cats are readily trainable. If you don't want a cat to sleep in your bed, you can train it not to.

If you have a cat in your bed, it's because YOU want it there or you're too lazy to properly train it.

My cat has the run of the house with kitty beds placed in strategic locations near heat vents or south facing windows - he sleeps on my bed, always. The kitty beds are a short term daytime thing, night time he has a little blankie on the bed to sleep on to protect the bed clothes from hair. He may or may not use it. He's a cat, such things as boundaries (stated or implicit) do not apply to him.

He's a bit of an asshole but I love him.

R24's bed is cold and cat-free, I take it.

Yes, my cat gives us dirty looks after he's watched us go at it. Then he finds a comfortable on the bed.

Simon's cat

Of course my cats slept in my bed. I brought my first kitten home and he slept with me every night I didn't have someone over (he really wanted in the room though, always).

R23 that happened to me in the middle of the night. I have a cat door so my cats can come and go but the problem is that they can bring in toys without me knowing. Middle of the night I get woken up with something landing on my bed, it's a dead mouse that Dolly brought in and tossed around.

Nothing says I love you like stepping on a hairball at 3am on your way to take a piss.

Anyone who shares his/her residence with a cat knows that the cat runs the household, and will instruct you as to you proper place in that household, and exactly what he need you to do for him.That's just the way it is.

And we love them, even with their control issues.

And if your really good, they will allow you to sleep in your bed.......with them, of course.

But change anything and expect to explain it, in CAT language.

I wish my cat would sleep with me but she has no desire to. Sometimes when I am reading she will nap on the bed for an hour or so but she does her serious sleeping on the couch.

R34, did you get her as a kitten?

Yes she was a 7 week old kitten when I got her. She still has a little kitten face, tiny nose and big round eyes. She's solid black and her name is Little Woo. She was four this past July.

Did she ever sleep with you? I think my cats both did because I started them the day I brought each of them home.

Cats are pretty amazing, miraculous creatures. I marvel every day at how intelligent and self sufficient mine is. I am also amazed at how much he likes to get close, snuggle, and fall asleep in my arms like a baby. Despite that independent streak, they really need and appreciate the love we give them. And they certainly do give it back! It would be a sad life without our kitties.

A cat will only sleep with you if he/she chooses to do so. Real cat people know this, and will never try to force the issue.

No R37 she never did.

My parents trained their cat NOT to come into their bedroom, let alone sleep on the bed, so it is doable.

By the way, a friend of my mom's inhaled a car hair and it somehow traveled to her lungs. She was hospitalized and, I believe, there was surgery involved. I'm sure this is super rare, but I would not want to sleep anywhere with dog or cat hair near my head.

My cat came into my life after her family (my former neighbors) moved to a different house about 2 miles away in the same town. They went to their new house and opened the car door, thinking she would run in, she didn't, she came back to her old yard. They came back here and got her from the yard twice, each time she escaped and came back to the old yard. (They had small children who used to carry her around pretty roughly, she must have been sick of them.) The family gave up. I started to give her food and water regularly outside. After a few months, she turned up at my door and she couldn't put any weight on her front right leg. I knew that other stray cats in the area might try to fight with her, so I brought her inside. I sat her down on my bed and said, "you'll be safe here." Two days later I took her to a vet who treated what turned out to be an infection from another cat's bite on her shoulder, under her hide. She's all better now, and she usually sleeps with me at least part of the night, either next to me with her head on my arm or on my pillows wrapped around my head. The bed is absolutely hers during the day while I work, she usually goes to my warm spot every morning when I get up.

R41 Inhaled a car hair? OMG, I bet that thing was huge, and long! Did she survive the surgery?

This is why many people refuse to own cars.

R41 The minute your mommy and daddy leave the house, that cat is ON THAT BED!

Two shelter cats. The first slept close the first night and then was fine in the living room by himself at night. The second knows when it's time for bed and usually is there when I'm ready, but after getting a cuddle he retreats to the other side of the bed.

Awwwwwwwwwww, R42.

As was posted upthread, with cats, you pay the bills, the cat makes the rules. Cat owners are the ultimate in pussy-whipped. Don't like it? Get a dog!

In winter, my chocolate-point Siamese and Himalayan slept under the covers with me, with their heads on my arm. In summer, on top of the covers up against my legs. Sometimes, they'd burrow under the covers and sleep up against my legs. Always worried they'd smother.

When I had bed company, both cats would perch on a bedside table, volubly expressing their disapproval of the usurping of THEIR sleeping quarters. Banishing them and closing the door ensured even louder displeasure. The cats won out, of course. I simply went to their place rather than ruffle feline fur.

Why do you think they're called "pussy"cats?

My cat can open the door to my walk-in closet, and he loves going inside to hang out. Is he gay?

I posted this earlier in a different thread but speaking of cats......

My 90 year old grandma died in her home. She wasn't found for several days. During that time, her cat had eaten the skin and flesh off several of her fingers.

Yes thank you R50. It's cool that you are finding so many threads to gross us out. :). Kisses

You were an asswipe then, R50, and you are still an asswipe now. I hope granny's cat comes to finish you off. They do have nine lives, you know.

My dog has a dozen options when it comes to sleeping at night, but whenever I go to bed, she follows right behind.

Its not gross. Its reality. Animals will eat you if you are dead and they are without food for any length of time. My cat is welcome to nibble me like kibble if that situation should occur. I love her that much. Meow.

My bossy tuxedo cat is curled up on my arm right now. He will probably move down by my knees later, and will likely wake me up at some point during the night. He can't stand for any doors being shut, so locking him out won't work; he will just howl all night. He makes me nuts but I love him. Also, I let him get away with a lot since I stay over at my allergic boyfriend's house a lot and feel guilty about it.

R30, my cat always liked to present me with whatever he caught. I've had a rather large rat and a snake dropped off at the back door. It was rather startling when I stepped out. The mice were small enough that they could be hidden in the cat's cheeks although sometimes the tale hung out. So, yeah, I didn't want any of those surprises in my bed.

tail not tale

I have four cats (long story - only ever had one cat at a time. Four is kind of hard). One goes in to bed before me and will snuggle under my arm with her head on my chest for about 15 minutes while I read. Then another comes in and lays on my chest and cat number 1 leaves. I sleep on my stomach and Cat number 2 usually makes a little nest in the blankets between my legs. Cat number 3 will sometimes sleep at the foot of the bed. Cat number 4 doesn't come in my room at all. In the mornings, Cat Number 1 comes back for a morning snuggle after the alarm goes off.

R30, according to zoologist Desmond Morris, who likes cats and has studied and written about them, they think there's something wrong with us that we are unable to hunt. Because we're part of the family, they bring us things they've hunted. It's a very special gift they're bestowing upon you.

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I had a cat that instinctively knew when a homo had the AIDS. She'd hiss at the AIDS boy.

One day I took her to a Broadway musical and she died from hissing.

It never ceases to amaze me what passes for "humor" among the wingnuts.

[quote]she died from hissing

Yet you somehow managed to live.

I had two tuxedos and a queen sized bed, of which I was delegated a 10 inch sliver on one edge to sleep. I had a heating pad at the foot of the bed over which each night they would fight, and the cat who lost had the job of keeping me in the sliver space while the rest of the bed stayed unused.

Now we have Bengals, who think it is fun to walk on sleeping people's faces.

If your cat likes to sleep with you, consider yourself lucky. Nothing better than being blessed by a cat.

Well, some pussies are more sanitary than others.

My cats do not sleep with me at night, due to a dust allergy but every day when I come home, there's a cat toy placed on the bed, like a turn down service.

My cat is eight years old. I would love for her to sleep cuddled up next to me, but she has always only wanted to constantly run her body up and down my legs while I try to sleep;it has been the same way since she was a kitten.

I have to shut her out of my room or else I will never get any sleep.

Funny how cats are. My cat, in particular, prefers to sleep during the day and to be active at night.

You can limit it somewhat by putting up a shelf high up. Cats love to be high up and will spend a lot of time up there sleeping. However for the main overnight sleep they want to be next to someone as it's warmer. A space heater will assure your cat sleeps next to that instead of you. An electric blanket turned on is also likely to keep the cat on it, and not you.

[quote]The family gave up.

I fucking hate people like that. No doubt their children will one day do the same to them.

R32 summed it up perfectly.

Unless you're allergic there is no harm and it's good for you and the cat. Same with dogs.

Taking a nap with a cat or a small dog is a wonderful thing. I highly recommend it.

Animals know they are vulnerable when they are asleep, and seek a place that is safe. When your cat or dog wants to sleep with you, that shows how much trust they have in you. They like you and want to be with you.

I posted wayyyyy back on this thread (just realized that a posting was by me)..my tuxedo cat who would freak if I locked him out has gotten over it. I'd love to let him sleep,with me all night, but I just can't handle him waking me up all night. Some nights he's calm, but I can't risk it. Once I'm awake it takes me forever to fall back asleep.

If I don't have to wake up early, or if I'm not at my boyfriend's, I will let him sleep with me. I usually give him a couple of hours snuggled with me on the couch before I go to bed. I also just happened to find "his" blanket. It's a cheap cotton quilted throw, and he LOVES it. I leave it on the couch and he borrow into it and hides/sleeps.

Tuxedo cats are the best.

Jeez, lots of typos in that. Please forgive me.