I don't get posters like [r49]. They spout so much hatred against the lesbian community and then wonder why they are not accepted.
Nothing in your post is convincing in the 'love women' department - a lot of nice words about men (which is fine) but not a single nice word for those of the female persuasion. Interesting no?
Queer women across the spectrum all have different experiences, like different things and face different pressures - and that's fine.
But this whole 'this might make some lesbians head explode'. Please.
Fake lesbians (aka bisexuals) have been saying stuff like what you just said for years - behaviour like what you described has been lauded and applauded since forever in pretty much every movie and tv show featuring supposedly gay female characters. 'She's a lesbian but she'll still fuck repeatedly the male hero/anti-hero and love it! Just like in porn!'
Pretty much all stereotypes about lesbians, used by society to dismiss us as a group, rest on exactly what you describe as your 'unique experience'.
You can't see why actual lesbians might find it strange and maybe a bit offensive that you acknowledge that you are sexually attracted to men on one hand and then still call yourself a lesbian (aka a female homosexual) on the other? Why not just call yourself queer? Or nothing at all if you prefer.
Any why does questioning something that doesn't make sense = "some angry, bitter lesbian has clutched her puka necklace and yelled that I'm not really a lesbian because I didn't hate giving a man head." How do you even yell in a message forum?
Have you considered that what you are saying just doesn't make sense to a women who actually has zero attraction to men? you know, an actual lesbian? Have you considered that alleged puka necklace clutcher is actually right?
And just something to think about: for a number of lesbians, myself included, I felt a lot of pressure to try a dick because from what I could see, that's what lesbians are suppose to do right? All women have fluid sexuality, right? If I just tried it I'd see that it can be actually fun, you know, on the side!
That's what everyone said straight, bisexual, gays and some 'lesbians' (all of which later went on to marry men or become men in stranger circumstances).
Um just no, not if you're actually a lesbian. It was NOT a nice experience for me, even though he was lovely and perfectly decent looking, and I wish I had never thought that I should give it a go. Love my male friends do not like men sexually, at all, simple as that. And I know I'm not alone in this.
In a way I admire gay men for their strength in being true to who they are, sexually.