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Have any lesbians here tried dick later in life?

I'm curious if any lesbians who never were with a man before, decided to give dick a try after having been with women their entire lives, perhaps curious to see what it was like, or maybe got drunk and did it with a friend.

I knew two guys who tried sex with women late in life due to the two scenarios listed above.

I'm curious if this has happened to any of our resident lesbians.

by Anonymousreply 7702/21/2015

r9 MARRY ME!!!

by Anonymousreply 1109/08/2013

Lately I've been curious.

by Anonymousreply 1409/08/2013

R13. Yes, I could do it if you were going to pay me. But without a substantial amount of money, there is no incentive or desire for me to want to have sex with the a woman.

by Anonymousreply 1509/08/2013

R12, that's basically it.

I'm a lesbian, but in my 20s even after I started identifying as a lesbian, I did sleep with a handful of men over the course of a decade or so. It was always largely unsatisfying, not just physically (some of it physically wasn't thaaaat bad, though none of them could go down on a woman worth a damn) but emotionally it was such a disconnect. I just don't enjoy socializing with men, or being intimate with them, or forging deep romantic relationships with them. I strongly prefer doing all of that with women.

One of my best friends, an ultra lipstick femme lesbian who is very conventionally attractive, does have sex with men once in a while because she's bored and they hit on her a lot and she figures it's better than nothing. She doesn't consider herself bisexual - she has no desire to have any kind of relationship outside of occasional sex with men. I'm sure peope here may disagree with her. The men themselves are totally inconsequential to her. I assume it's not unlike the phenomenon of men who fuck women because it's just another hole they can come in.

by Anonymousreply 1709/08/2013

I tried it many times in my teens and early twenties before I knew I was gay. It was okay, nothing special. Not revolting, but incomplete.

Straight men like to think fucking is so wonderful for you that they neglect everything else. They're ignorant about the female body and not terribly willing to learn. I hear the same thing from straight women, it's not just lesbians who've had straight experiences that think this.

by Anonymousreply 2209/08/2013

r22 You've never had the Love Master, baby.

by Anonymousreply 2309/08/2013


R23, you're all over this thread. It must mean a lot to you.

by Anonymousreply 2509/08/2013

Actually, I have had some amazing male lovers who were all about pleasing me. I just don't get emotionally connected to men

by Anonymousreply 2609/08/2013

R17, I'm the same as your friend...except there have been a couple times when I just couldn't do it with the man, even though I thought it would work at first. Lol.

But yeah. Some people find such practices very scornful, even though I don't care for men in the life-partnering sort of way.

by Anonymousreply 2709/08/2013

R17, I'm the same as your friend...except there have been a couple times when I just couldn't do it with the man, despite thinking it would work at first. Lol.

But yeah. Such practices tend to garner scorn, even though I don't care for men in the life-partnering sort of way. R12 and R26 resonate with me.

by Anonymousreply 2809/08/2013

r12, I could have written what you wrote. That is probably where the similarity ends between you and I. I don't have a problem with butch women - live and let live.

by Anonymousreply 2909/08/2013

R20, I couldn't wager a guess.

In my experience, purely anecdotal, the younger (25 and under) lesbians are more likely to have never been with a man; the older ones (30+ like me) are more likely to have either gone through a denial phase where they slept with a few or were more fluid in their sexuality at some point.

Kids are coming out in middle school these days, so my guess is that people who feel the need to have sex with a gender they're not attracted to in order to keep up appearances is going to be on a steady decline. People like me who had sex with men out of curiosity or a desire to experiment, or people like my best friend who don't necessarily see a direct correlation between how they get off and how they sexually identify, I'd wager will probably stay about the same.

by Anonymousreply 3009/08/2013

A friend of mine is a lesbian, a butch, loves-girls-to-death lesbian, but she went on a college trip last year, without her girlfriend, and this guy in her class had been after her for the past year, so they got drunk, and she slept with him. She still loves girls, and she isn't attracted to guys, but when she's in the mood she'll sleep with a guy that offers her the attention she's craving. She's not attracted to them, and she doesn't want anything more than sex, but she'll do it anyway. She saves all the love and romance for the ladies.

It's so easy to separate love from sex, that if you're drunk enough, or horny enough, you'll do what you need to do. Plenty of people have sex with people they aren't attracted to, and humans are curious. I don't think I have ever met a "goldstar" lesbian, or a guy that has only slept with men. They exist, but promiscuity isn't rare nowadays.

by Anonymousreply 3109/09/2013

Hell yes baby!!

by Anonymousreply 3209/09/2013

[quote] I don't think I have ever met a "goldstar" lesbian.

I would guestimate that about half the lesbians I currently know--and that includes myself--are what are so charmingly called "gold star" lesbians, and I'm in my early thirties.

But if you had compared the group of lesbians I know now to the group that I knew in college, the goldstar number would plummet because many of my friends/acquaintances who considered themselves gay in college have since straightened out and married men, so the herd has been thinned out.

by Anonymousreply 3309/09/2013

Bitch, please. When I am really horny I'd let my cat lick my snatch so I could get a relief.

by Anonymousreply 3609/09/2013

Define "male hating dykes", r35. A lesbian who has no interest in penises? A lesbian who finds it offensive when she's asked why she's not interested in penises?

by Anonymousreply 3909/09/2013

How about fags who have an irrational hatred of lesbians? That would include at least half of the gays on the Datalounge.

by Anonymousreply 4109/09/2013

"a guy that has only slept with men."

Oh please. We did a poll about a month ago, and 51% of gay men were 'gold star'. The poll had over a thousand respondents. I have met many 'gold star' gays, and you likely have too, so don't lie.

by Anonymousreply 4209/09/2013

Thanks r40, but what does that have to do with this thread? Are you suggesting that if a lesbian has no interest in penises then she has "an irrational fear of men"?

by Anonymousreply 4309/09/2013

r34 I never said or thought that women who never wanted to have sex with a man are wrong or not normal (the same applies to gay men who feel the same).

by Anonymousreply 4409/09/2013

After 15 years of only having intimate sexual relations and relationships with women I have not had the slightest inclination to have sex with a man. I don't see that ever changing.

by Anonymousreply 4509/09/2013

Of course, everyone has their weak point- impossible to resist!

by Anonymousreply 4609/10/2013

I tried it. It didn't hold a candle to bread pudding.

by Anonymousreply 4709/10/2013

yes, I LOVE dick. Especially when it's attached to my girlfriend. :D

by Anonymousreply 4809/10/2013

Who is that, r46?

by Anonymousreply 5009/10/2013

[all posts by ham-fisted troll a removed.]

by Anonymousreply 5109/10/2013

I don't disagree with her, r17. I understand exactly how she feels.

Some people identify their sexuality by how they interact sexually with others.

Some people identify by how they relate in relationship/romantic terms.

I think it should be up to that person to decide — even if, like DiBlasio's wife, she's writing essays on lesbian power one day, and marrying some upwardly mobile, ambitious dude the next. That's life. There are no guarantees, even with labels. And no one has the right to be the sexual identity hall monitor.

Having sexual interactions with men confirmed two things for me:

1. Dick can be fun. And men can be lovely, gracious, hot and respectful partners.

2. I have no romantic feelings for men whatsoever, and no desire to date them or even see them again after we've hooked up. Or even kiss them. It strengthened my understanding of myself as a lesbian.

(Some angry, hall monitor lesbian reading this will have her head explode in 3 ... 2 ... 1 ...)

by Anonymousreply 5209/11/2013

De Blasio*

by Anonymousreply 5309/11/2013

I don't understand threads like this one on a gay slanted website.

Why on earth would a lesbian ever want to engage in sex with man simply for a penis? I'm a gay male and no matter what happens in my life, I will never have an interest to become sexually intimate with a female.

I've seen these low IQ questions posted on DL many times and I can't believe so many of us stoop to respond.

by Anonymousreply 5409/11/2013

I'm really sorry for the lack of respect and lack of true affection for our lesbian DL'ers. There are many of gay guys alive today that owe our very existence to our lesbian sisters. I will never forget what you gals did for us guys back in the 80's when no one would touch any of us with HIV. Feeding, washing, house keeping not to mention the blood donations and physical soft touch so many sick guys rarely received from even their own fellow mo's.

You're the greatest! I will love all of you until I die.

by Anonymousreply 5609/11/2013

[all posts by ham-fisted troll a removed.]

by Anonymousreply 5909/11/2013

R54, But that's you and your perspective. I've conversed with several gay friends who think vagina feels better than anus. As one of them put it, "my penis itself has no sexual orientation." But they are still only attracted to men.

Agreed that it's weird to emphasize that oneself is "lesbian in the meantime." I don't know why you just wouldn't consider yourself sexually eclectic.

by Anonymousreply 6009/11/2013

R61, OP's question is about whether lesbians suddenly become interested in penises in later life. As a lesbian, it's addressed to me. I'm giving OP honest answers and also addressing some aspects of his (I doubt OP is a her) question. My answer to OP's question and response to some of the other posts on this thread are entirely legitimate. Unless you are suggesting that only certain answers are permitted and other ones should be shut down.

And just because lesbians don't want to have sex with penises, doesn't mean we have "issues with men".

by Anonymousreply 6209/13/2013

As I've said many times, it's not who you fuck who makes you gay -- it's who you fall in love with. I could lay on my back with my legs spread for a man all day long, but that won't make me straight.

by Anonymousreply 6409/13/2013

r63, and r64 spot on

by Anonymousreply 6509/13/2013

People should fuck the people they want to fuck and everyone should mind their own damn business.

by Anonymousreply 6712/25/2014

It's all chemistry, not shapes!

by Anonymousreply 6812/25/2014

What R67 said

by Anonymousreply 6912/25/2014

"Sex is sex/Forget the rest"

by Anonymousreply 7012/25/2014

"and that little V part is nice. I've only slept with one woman who had one."

Wait, what?

by Anonymousreply 7201/01/2015

Dick...that thing you have hanging there like an obscene pickle... spare me your anatomy!

by Anonymousreply 7301/01/2015

I hope our lesbian DL'ers take this post with a forgiving grain of salt. We gay goofies are generally well meaning, but even the best intentions can't compesate for our shallow awareness of gay women, especially your feelings. We guys have tens of ideas occurring in our heads per month and a few of us even keep them to ourselves. Unfortunately this post does not reflect that type of fortuitous thinking.

Why would any well balanced lesbian ever consider sex with a man? The same for us mo's, who among us would seriously consider sex with a female? Granted there are those among all of us (males than female) who might consider sex with any number of objects let alone the opposite sex.

by Anonymousreply 7501/01/2015

R63, bullshit

by Anonymousreply 7601/02/2015

i would think that some lesbians would like sex with a male once in a while...or maybe that would be bi sexual ....but i know some females that like women for the most part....but still like a dick once in a while.

by Anonymousreply 7702/21/2015
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