Hello and thank you for being a DL contributor. We are changing the login scheme for contributors for simpler login and to better support using multiple devices. Please click here to update your account with a username and password.

Hello. Some features on this site require registration. Please click here to register for free.

Hello and thank you for registering. Please complete the process by verifying your email address. If you can't find the email you can resend it here.

Hello. Some features on this site require a subscription. Please click here to get full access and no ads for $1.99 or less per month.

Do you bareback?

State yes or no, your age, and situation. If yes: with a long-term partner, with a relatively recent boyfriend, with fuckbuds, occasionally, poz and always, etc.

by Anonymousreply 199December 9, 2019 5:19 AM

No

30

by Anonymousreply 1July 13, 2013 11:17 PM

Yes with a long time partner. No with some glory hole cock,one night stand or a regular pouncing from my straight fuck buddy!

by Anonymousreply 2July 13, 2013 11:19 PM

Have not barebacked since the early 80's. Yes, I still have an active sex life, sometimes very active at 67

by Anonymousreply 3July 14, 2013 1:06 AM

side saddle

40

by Anonymousreply 4July 14, 2013 1:09 AM

fist

by Anonymousreply 5July 14, 2013 1:10 AM

I go bareback in order to breed all the little twinks who deserve it.

by Anonymousreply 6July 14, 2013 1:13 AM

We must remember that AIDS is still prevalent.

If you bareback you take your life and the life of your partner in your own hands.

Be Safe.

by Anonymousreply 7July 14, 2013 1:13 AM

Yes, always. Same partner, 23 years.

by Anonymousreply 8July 14, 2013 1:30 AM

I just did last weekend. We both took the Ora-quick. We talked about our sexual history. And we agreed not to use a condom. Stupid? I don't know. I've had some second thoughts, to be honest. He wants to do it again tomorrow. I know about the 3 month latency period. So yeah, I have to trust he's being honest with me about his sexual history. But it wasn't like this was a guy I just met. I do know something about him -- he's not a stranger.

by Anonymousreply 9July 14, 2013 1:40 AM

r2, you seem to have a full and varied sex life. Is your relationship an open one with long time partner?

How does this work with the married f.b.? Does he consider himself straight or bi?

by Anonymousreply 10July 14, 2013 1:40 AM

Stupid? Yes. And you do know.

by Anonymousreply 11July 14, 2013 1:42 AM

He is not a stranger r9 however he may not know about all the folks he has slept with or if they were up front and honest. Play safe.

by Anonymousreply 12July 14, 2013 1:45 AM

I never have anal, top or bottom. So no.

by Anonymousreply 13July 14, 2013 1:50 AM

Condoms don't always work. Nobody is 100% safe all the time - hardly anyone. The highest incidence of new HIV infection these days is among men who are in relationships. Lots of met get infected by their partners/husbands/lovers, whatever you call them. Marriage is not a prophylactic. Whenever you put someone's penis in your rectum without a condom, there's a possible risk. Learn to talk more about what you like to do sexually. Get information about pre-exposure and post-exposure drug treatments. In New York State, Medicaid covers the cost of PEP - post-exposure prophylactics, which are supposed to be available at all city hospitals and clinics, though, sadly, they are not. Nonetheless, if you go to an Emergency Room within 36 hours of maybe-getting-exposed to HIV, and if you are willing to make some noise, the hospital is required to give you HIV post-exposure prophylactics drugs.

Learn more about the risks involved in various kinds of sex, and make an informed decision.

Talk about what you like to do, and what you want to do, and what you do in fact do, sexually - talk not just to your sex partners (it is sometimes really difficult to have this discussion with sex partners!), but with your friends, your gay guy pals.

We need to be more open about our sex lives, you all. Because: new HIV infections have flat-lined in every demographic except: among gay men. Particularly among gay men aged 13-24, but also 25-34.

There is still an AIDS crisis. One way to protect yourself it to talk about sex, to be more open with yourself and your friends and sex partners about what you like to do, and what kinds of precautions you take in order to stay negative.

Talk about sex.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 14July 14, 2013 2:02 AM

State yes or no, your age, and situation. If yes: with a long-term partner, with a relatively recent boyfriend, with fuckbuds, occasionally, poz and always, etc.

Yes, 30 and rarely

by Anonymousreply 15July 14, 2013 2:07 AM

R9 is an idiot.

by Anonymousreply 16July 14, 2013 2:09 AM

I'll own it: I bareback. Exclusive top, will top poz fuckbuds if they are known quantities and undetectable. I decided take this risk last year after SF Health Dept and all the major HIV/AIDS MD's in the city changed their policy to treatment immediately upon diagnosis in 2010 had time to "take". Anyone here who is positive and has medical care is prescribed the meds. I take full responsibility.

by Anonymousreply 17July 14, 2013 2:28 AM

Single Man. No. Never I'm not interested

by Anonymousreply 18July 14, 2013 2:31 AM

r18, do you like other forms of sex?

by Anonymousreply 19July 14, 2013 2:35 AM

Never

37

by Anonymousreply 20July 14, 2013 2:37 AM

I have topped bareback, and currently HIV-. Condoms desensitize me and it was hard to keep it up but I decided to stop taking chances with my life and the life of my sex partners. Also, I started having too many experiences with unclean guys and that would stop everything.

I limit myself, and love, mutual oral play and frottage. Unfortunately, most guys don't apppreciate the awesomeness of frottage. Everybody needs an insertion of some kind. Zzzz!

by Anonymousreply 21July 14, 2013 2:44 AM

I'm with you r21.

by Anonymousreply 22July 14, 2013 2:49 AM

No

51

coming of age in the '80s when AIDS hit changed everything

by Anonymousreply 23July 14, 2013 2:50 AM

I'm 37 and never have. I'm a bottom. I didn't think I ever would, but I'm thinking of doing OraQuick with a FB.

He's the hottest, smartest, sweetest guy I've ever slept with, and he dislikes condoms. He said he gets "lazy about condom use" with his off-again, on-again ex, and I want to show him how great sex with me can be, so I can get him for my own.

I'm also curious about how the cum feels.

by Anonymousreply 24July 14, 2013 2:53 AM

r24, play safe. Use a condom. Esp. since your FB is sleeping with at least one other guy bareback.

Many people I know are dead because of AIDS and not having a chance to use protection against then unknown killer disease.

by Anonymousreply 25July 14, 2013 2:58 AM

r24, what do you mean, how the cum feels?

Have you ever had slighly wet shit dripping out of your asshole?

That's how it feels.

What makes people think it's like this new and wondrous experience that no one has ever had?

You don't exactly feel it shooting up against the walls of your anal passage.

You do feel it sliding drippily out of you.

Try not to get all magical thinky about something that you already know all about.

by Anonymousreply 26July 14, 2013 2:59 AM

RE: I'm also curious about how the cum feels.

Have a colonic or an enema instead of bareback.

by Anonymousreply 27July 14, 2013 2:59 AM

Seriously: can you gay guys actually feel semen shooting against the walls of your anal passage or rectum or whatever? I call bullshit (as it were).

There's a sticky feeling afterwards, but nothing so direct and specific as, "I felt his spunk shoot against my sugar walls," you know?

by Anonymousreply 28July 14, 2013 3:13 AM

r28, RE: "I felt his spunk shoot against my sugar walls,"

Thank you! LOL!!!

by Anonymousreply 29July 14, 2013 3:16 AM

Nope, 49 and HIV negative. I've been out since I was 13.

by Anonymousreply 30July 14, 2013 3:17 AM

Yup.

by Anonymousreply 31July 14, 2013 3:35 AM

r9 is sero-converting as we speak. He will no doubt bill himself as an "AIDS Activist" by next week, and write many posts about how we all have to "get rid of the stigma" around Poz people!

Yawn.

See you at the ADAP office.

by Anonymousreply 32July 14, 2013 3:44 AM

You've gotta wear a condom. You've gotta.

by Anonymousreply 33July 14, 2013 3:55 AM

No. 51. Non-monogamous relationship for over a decade.

by Anonymousreply 34July 14, 2013 4:36 AM

I'm a bottom and I've never barebacked. My top needs to bag it if he wants to get anywhere near my pudding pack.

by Anonymousreply 35July 14, 2013 4:41 AM

I'm 33. I barebacked with my two LTR, only after extensive talks about trust. I don't regret the first boyfriend. He was trustworthy. The second cheated on me and scared the fuck out of me.

Never, ever for a one night stand or a FB or even someone I'm dating. Ever. Even with my LTR, I was paranoid (I was the bottom in both relationships). I don't get why anyone would bareback unless it was with a husband. And even then...

by Anonymousreply 36July 14, 2013 4:49 AM

[quote]if he wants to get anywhere near my pudding pack.

Disgusting.

by Anonymousreply 37July 14, 2013 5:02 AM

56. I bareback with a married fb I've had for the last 8 years. I top. He loves to get fucked and I love the way it feels fucking him without a condom. I don't fuck anyone else, bare or with a condom. He is, without a doubt, the most handsome man I've ever fucked. I know it's dumb for use to do it, but we do.

by Anonymousreply 38July 14, 2013 5:49 AM

23. Yes. Single. Negative.

by Anonymousreply 39July 14, 2013 6:14 AM

My best friend became positive 5 years ago when his "beloved" gave him HIV. The whole thing turned really ugly when my best friend confronted the scumbag and the boyfriend accused HIM of giving it to him to try and deflect. My friend later found out that this guy had a secret Grindr account and was slutting himself out all over town. Sick and sad. Luckily he is in a much better place now.

by Anonymousreply 40July 14, 2013 6:57 AM

Never have. I think I would with someone I trust (though honestly can you ever really trust another person?). But at this point, I always need a condom if anal is going to happen even though I am almost always the top.

Just couldn't do bareback, I am sure it feels better but mentally I couldn't be okay with it unless I really thought I trusted the person. It isn't worth the risk.

by Anonymousreply 41July 14, 2013 7:04 AM

I ride side saddle.

by Anonymousreply 42July 14, 2013 7:36 AM

In the middle of the flu season, I doubt anyone would want someone sneezing in their face. Yet, some idiots take the chance by letting a fuck buddy shoot infected cum into their ass. It doesn't make sense.

by Anonymousreply 43July 14, 2013 2:17 PM

R24. You are out of your mind. Stop the reckless behavior.

by Anonymousreply 44July 14, 2013 2:18 PM

With my right or left hand with Eros Lube.

Otherwise...safe only

by Anonymousreply 45July 14, 2013 2:29 PM

Only when reducing calories

by Anonymousreply 46July 14, 2013 2:49 PM

if you want to feel something warm and sticky in your ass may I suggest a warm pudding enema. Don't risk your life on stupid shit.

by Anonymousreply 47July 14, 2013 3:45 PM

Total tops are least likely to get it.

by Anonymousreply 48July 14, 2013 4:17 PM

No

47

by Anonymousreply 49July 14, 2013 4:35 PM

R47 - EWWWWWWW!!!

by Anonymousreply 50July 14, 2013 4:48 PM

If you bareback, or have a slip up, just make sure that the top pulls out. Or work your hole really well beforehand to make sure there are no tears or anything.

by Anonymousreply 51July 14, 2013 4:54 PM

I don't have any problems with BB since I can't get laid, even if I were to put a gun to someone's head.

by Anonymousreply 52July 14, 2013 5:02 PM

My man gotta wear a condom if he wanna take a drive in my pink cadillac.

by Anonymousreply 53July 17, 2013 1:51 PM

Yes. I am 30 and bareback with fuck buds all the time

by Anonymousreply 54April 9, 2014 2:13 AM

No. Never

Forty and single

by Anonymousreply 55April 9, 2014 2:19 AM

People who are negative and bareback frequently should happily avail themselves of PrEP: pre-exposure prophylaxis. There is no shame in it.

52, in a committed relationship, no bareback.

Had a fling in my mid-30s to 40 with a guy, we both got tested and fucked each other without condoms. A lot of fun. When that relationship ended, I imagined it would be "impossible" to go back to protected sex. But it was simple as pie.

And no, you can NOT feel somebody's cum inside your ass, just the pulsation of his cock if he's big enough.

by Anonymousreply 56April 9, 2014 2:37 AM

Yes, on occasion. 52, negative, and I have a few fuck buds I've been seeing for years that prefer I fuck them bareback. Also have buds who play safer and I'm always happy to use a condom. Almost always top, and when I occasionally bottom, I insist on a condom. Recently started PrEP, which adds another layer of protection. Intellectually I know it's best to always use a condom, but being negative, and fucking my (self-described) neg buds without one doesn't seem hugely risky

by Anonymousreply 57April 9, 2014 2:44 AM

"The highest incidence of new HIV infection these days is among men who are in relationships."

That is utter, absolute bullshit but probably seemed plausible as you were making it up.

by Anonymousreply 58April 9, 2014 3:02 AM

No.

I am 49 and I barebacked once with a porn star I hired in 2001. He inserted his uncut penis on 2 separate occasions - without asking - but I welcomed it. The sex was hot.

The waiting for the test results was not hot.

It was tense beyond belief. The fact that I was negative was not even much relief because I felt embarrassed by my own stupidity.

My brief barebacking days were over.

Have you ever done a sort on GRINDR by the POZ Group? It is truly mind-boggling - and sad - to see how many guys - some even half my age - listed themselves as HIV Positive.

by Anonymousreply 59April 9, 2014 3:07 AM

Would you prefer they lie about it?

Sex is complicated. Pretending it's easy to make a rule for yourself and always stick to it is no help at all.

I think it's great some guys are brave enough to disclose like that.

by Anonymousreply 60April 9, 2014 3:14 AM

Of course not R60 - What I meant was is depressing (to me) to see people half my age HIV+, after so many years of awareness and education as to how it should be prevented. Believe me I am fairly certain more than a few of the "DDF" guys are lying and/or just don't know their status.

So I applaud the courage and honesty of those who join that "POZ Tribe".

In any case, Grindr in general can be so infuriating, I wonder if those who identify as HIV+ have an equally miserable GRINDR experience as those not in the "POZ Tribe", despite their honesty.

by Anonymousreply 61April 9, 2014 4:38 AM

Yes.

55

Beef curtains ahoy.

by Anonymousreply 62April 9, 2014 4:48 AM

Nope

by Anonymousreply 63April 9, 2014 4:57 AM

I’m vers and in an open relationship. When I top I bareback occasionally. I know it’s risky, but it feels so much better, than with a condom. When I bottom I insist on him using a condom. My bf and I always bareback, but we’re both on PreP and neg.

by Anonymousreply 64April 9, 2014 9:10 AM

Yes - occasionally

44

Fbuds

Negative

I know it is odd, but in my relationships, I've always made sure we bag (I was a top, then got together with another top and realized what I was missing - bottom since lol) yet with two different fuck buddies (at two different times) we went bare. With one we were just going at it, he was hot dogging me, kinda knobbing the hole while we were making out and it popped in, and we didn't stop. That was the only time we ever barebacked. The other fuck buddy, he was wearing a condom, we were really going at it (we're talking bed moving as we rolled and switched positions) condom came off at one point, I reached down and guided him back in - and away we went. We've barebacked several times since.

Poor judgement? Yes. Risky? Hell yes. No excuses, it is what it is.

by Anonymousreply 65April 9, 2014 9:44 AM

[quote] I don't get why anyone would bareback unless it was with a husband. And even then...

Do you think women say this too? Do wives say they completely trust their husbands and let them bareback her? It seems like it isn't even an issue with women.

by Anonymousreply 66April 9, 2014 10:35 AM

R66 To bareback or not bareback is just not an issue with straight men or women. My straight friends are only worried that a woman gets pregnant. HIV or AIDS is a complete non-issue with them. Although it is 2014 and not 1984, it’s still a “gay disease” to them.

by Anonymousreply 67April 9, 2014 11:08 AM

Gay or straight, no one should ever bareback.

by Anonymousreply 68April 9, 2014 11:20 AM

Never. 45.

by Anonymousreply 69April 9, 2014 11:24 AM

Never . 49

by Anonymousreply 70April 9, 2014 11:42 AM

A DL Glossary of Terms:

Pudding Pack

Sugar Walls

Hole

Mangina

Mussy

by Anonymousreply 71April 9, 2014 12:06 PM

Never. 49. I think those of us who survived the AIDS bloodbath of the 80's and 90's know better. I've grown to prefer condoms for multiple reasons, but HIV is a serious bug folks. It's lethal, even with the drugs.

I also don't stop using condoms with long term partners. I've seen too many instances where seemingly monogamous partners cheat on and infect each other. No way.

by Anonymousreply 72April 9, 2014 1:29 PM

yes

by Anonymousreply 73April 9, 2014 1:33 PM

"It's lethal, even with the drugs."

Actually, no it's not. It's not even transmissible if the infected person has an undetectable viral load (recent data proves this).

I too came of age during the first wave of the epidemic and it has taken effort on my part to research how things have changed and to know the what is known about HIV instead of spouting off things that were true in 1988.

by Anonymousreply 74April 9, 2014 1:36 PM

R68, you wouldn't be here if your mom wasn't a cum dumpster.

by Anonymousreply 75April 9, 2014 1:43 PM

[bold]NO[/bold]

by Anonymousreply 76April 9, 2014 1:46 PM

r74, that's exactly what Michael Lucas recently espoused when he explained why he is letting his performers go bareback, and why he barebacks with his poz partner. Yes, the potential for transmission is lower if the poz partner has a low viral load, but not to the point of impossible. Please show us your data, because I've never seen any study results that illustrate your point.

by Anonymousreply 77April 9, 2014 1:49 PM

I sero sort. I never fuck a poz guy, not even with a 10 foot pole, and that includes the 'undetectable'.

I fucking hate condoms, they kill all sensation. I can never cum with a condom. Yes I have tried all the 'sensitive' shit and it is all crap. Fucking raincoats.

I will pull out on the first date, but after that you are my cum dump bitch.

by Anonymousreply 78April 9, 2014 2:23 PM

How about if the pill keeps you negative?

by Anonymousreply 79April 9, 2014 2:31 PM

Ah dear sweet naive R79

by Anonymousreply 80April 9, 2014 3:11 PM

No

33

Would only consider it (on a non-regular basis) with a partner I absolutely trust with my life

by Anonymousreply 81April 9, 2014 3:23 PM

Yes, 34, total top, negative. Live in NYC, have done it with total strangers. The anxiety I sometimes live with afterward is not fun.

by Anonymousreply 82April 10, 2014 5:15 AM

No

39

Versatile

by Anonymousreply 83April 10, 2014 12:34 PM

I let the top decide. If he puts one on great, if not that's fine too.

34

Bottom

Negative

by Anonymousreply 84April 10, 2014 12:54 PM

r85, you left out "Suicidal" in your description.

by Anonymousreply 85April 10, 2014 1:22 PM

R85 is a fucking idiot

Although the responses shouldn't really shock anyone. Low self esteem is rampant in the gay community. Some of the tiny-brained losers in this thread probably think they deserve HIV.

by Anonymousreply 86April 10, 2014 1:41 PM

No, and I don't care if someone's in a committed, loving relationship. Men stray no matter how in love they're supposedly are with you.

by Anonymousreply 87April 10, 2014 1:57 PM

Actually, r87, research as far back as the late '80s showed a strong positive sense of self often brings out a sense of invulnerability that minimizes risk aversion. It's probably true that not a lot of daredevils walked around feeling bad a bout themselves.

One thing that REALLY doesn't help when adults are having conversations about the complicated topic of sex is to shame people for being honest about their behaviors.

R85 and R83, if what you're saying is true, you might be excellent candidates for Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis. I'll link to the CDC fact sheet on the issue, be sure to read it before a Republican gets elected president and removes all references to such things as W did with condoms in HIV prevention.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 88April 10, 2014 2:02 PM

Booty BUMP

by Anonymousreply 89August 27, 2014 11:26 AM

Yes 49 I left bb in my ass no cum inside with strangers

by Anonymousreply 90November 28, 2014 12:50 PM

So let me get this straight... many guys here bareback with total strangers and are not concerned with AIDS or STD's.

by Anonymousreply 91November 28, 2014 10:41 PM

Never.

Single, Neg. Top, 51 years old.

by Anonymousreply 92November 29, 2014 2:36 AM

Mid 30s. Newly on Truvada. Can't wait to reclaim a real sex life from the AIDS fear that has paralyzed me since puberty.

by Anonymousreply 93November 29, 2014 2:40 AM

Can exclusive tops get infected by topping a HIV+ bottom?

by Anonymousreply 94November 29, 2014 2:43 AM

The Truvada whores amaze me. Assuming people actually take the medication every day at the same time (which few do), they act like HIV is the only thing they have to worry about.

STDs are always going to be a risk for sexually active people, but people like R93 who think Truvada gives them a license to whore are going to find out quickly that they're not invincible.

by Anonymousreply 95November 29, 2014 3:00 AM

I bareback because the condom could break, so why bother?

by Anonymousreply 96November 29, 2014 3:06 AM

Never.

Versatile.

50.

by Anonymousreply 97November 29, 2014 3:07 AM

Well, R95, everything else is curable with a prescription.

And as for the idea that AIDS will just repeat itself, consider that it may not.

Take polio. There has not been a paralytic virus that you can catch from a swimming pool since the early '50s.

Consider also that gay men will never again have sex with complete impunity the way they did before AIDS. In 1981, it was incomprehensible that anything hopelessly fatal could be transmitted sexually.

by Anonymousreply 98November 29, 2014 3:08 AM

For some reason straight people manage to handle other STDs just fine. Who are you who are so delicate that a bout of crabs is some traumatic event. Calm the fuck down.

by Anonymousreply 99November 29, 2014 3:12 AM

Yes. Age 48. Ten years partnered.

by Anonymousreply 100November 29, 2014 5:23 PM

[quote]The highest incidence of new HIV infection these days is among men who are in relationships. Lots of met get infected by their partners/husbands/lovers, whatever you call them.

r14, please back up that statement. I agree with the poster who said you made it up. You think you're being responsible and helpful but your statement is actually deeply antigay.

by Anonymousreply 101November 29, 2014 5:33 PM

No

42

by Anonymousreply 102November 29, 2014 6:54 PM

I am blown away by the amount of barebacking people admit to. Wow.

by Anonymousreply 103November 29, 2014 8:07 PM

Yes I bareback.. I prefer to only bareback with other, poz, undetectable guys but I get topped by lots of negative guys who understand that there is a very minimal risk for seroconversion with an undetectable bottom. I get tested frequently for STDs and, fortunately, have not contracted any STDs since I became HIV positive over 20 years ago. I travel a lot for work and I hook up almost every night i am on the road. I am, frankly surprised that i have not contracted any STDs. I may just be lucky. I am 45.

by Anonymousreply 104November 29, 2014 8:32 PM

Yes... 38... Undetectable... With fuckbuds...

by Anonymousreply 105February 16, 2015 5:25 AM

I'm 45 and 100% top and I prefer guys 18 to 25 or so. A few years ago I was BBing almost every guy I fucked (mostly at their request). I'm still negative thankfully and put an end to barebacking a few years ago. I realized I was putting myself at some degree of risk even though total tops supposedly have minimal risk.

by Anonymousreply 106February 16, 2015 7:05 AM

Yes, always. 24. Never had sex with a condom before. Not even sure how a condom are applied since I've never seen guys use one in porns like Sean Cody or Corbin Fisher, lol. Is it like a sticker that provides a barrier?Or more like a sock? How do you fuck with a cock sock, lol?

by Anonymousreply 107February 16, 2015 7:07 AM

What had been my 24/7/365 life, especially the miracle of the buttfuck, instantly became revolting when AIDS arrived. I up and quit sex cold turkey. That was 31 years and 11 months ago. I still love looking at men but I don't want to touch one. Pretty extreme? Yeah, I'm aware that it is.

by Anonymousreply 108February 16, 2015 7:41 AM

I would if I knew I wasn't putting anyone at risk and the hot fuck was willing. I just made myself horny.

by Anonymousreply 109February 16, 2015 8:02 AM

39. Never.

by Anonymousreply 110February 16, 2015 8:13 AM

40, yes a few times when I was an exclusive top. Since I started bottoming have always used condoms.

I've used tons of drugs with sex but never never never have taken a cock bareback. I doubt there is any difference in the feeling for the bottom.

by Anonymousreply 111February 16, 2015 3:46 PM

45. Originally bareback bottomed with guys I was dating until my mid 30s, now I almost exclusively top and often bareback (but only top unless I'm dating the guy -- I know). Most guys don't even mention a condom, especially guys under 35. 20-something guys beg for loads and get pissed off if you can't come inside them. I do say I'm negative and ask if they are too.

Yep, I'm stupid and at some point, if I don't stop I'll seroconvert eventually. Worse would be if get somebody else sick. With topping, I've never learned how to stay hard with a condom. I know, boo boo.

And I've gotten syphilis, ngu, the clap and HPV from bareback topping. Also, this undiagnosable urethral burning that's lasted months. I'm an idiot. I do get tested after every new bareback encounter (I don't get around all that much).

by Anonymousreply 112June 11, 2015 2:24 AM

Always, neg, top.

by Anonymousreply 113June 11, 2015 11:43 AM

Me. Too. Always bb. neg. top. love to breed.

by Anonymousreply 114July 11, 2015 12:07 AM

I do not bareback. People seem to forget that its not just HIV you have to worry about. You also have to be concerned about Hepatitis C which can be eventually fatal, and Herpes, which is forever.

by Anonymousreply 115July 11, 2015 12:34 AM

Top. Haven't wrapped it this century. Like to breed escorts or whoever I random with. No partner. 45+. Negative. Wouldn't bottom without condom, but rarely bottom, until I went on Prep. Now I'll bottom raw. Member BBRTs.

Don't judge. The campaigns have always advocated that individual could decide for themselves their own habits, as long as they are informed. I'm informed.

by Anonymousreply 116August 1, 2015 8:14 AM

I was absolutely religious about condom usage and then at 46 had my stupid moment. It's hard to explain as I had plenty of sex with guys who I could have in theory been swept away by but there was something in the moment and I was inside of him. I feel lucky to have not gotten something from it.

I have to say from a topping perspective the feeling was undeniably more intense. I could see why people prefer it, but I would never do it again.

by Anonymousreply 117August 1, 2015 9:17 AM

Always. 40. You are so wrong about it not feeling better for the bottom, r111.

by Anonymousreply 118August 1, 2015 10:33 AM

Agreed, R118. I did both for years only with a condom, then went bareback with my partner how husband... totally different, it's the heat from the body, the cock, the contact ... it's inexplicably more intense. It's the same reason straight men hate wearing condoms with the vagine.

by Anonymousreply 119December 14, 2015 7:45 PM

self-righteous navel-gazing sanctimony

by Anonymousreply 120December 14, 2015 7:48 PM

who is that directed at r120?

by Anonymousreply 121December 14, 2015 7:57 PM

Pearl Clutching school marms operating on 1990's science, such as R7

by Anonymousreply 122December 14, 2015 8:23 PM

My partner and I don't do analysis sex. We do not, however, use protection for oral sex. I'm 43.

by Anonymousreply 123December 14, 2015 8:29 PM

Sorry...anal, not analysis.

by Anonymousreply 124December 14, 2015 8:30 PM

Really amazing how different the responses are from 2 years ago before PrEP hit its tipping point. I'm on it now, I don't even think I was aware of it when this board was started. And yet I still see a response from a 45 year old in 2015 who barebacks and says "I know if I don't stop, I'll get (HIV) eventually). Shows just how steep the educational/learning curve is.

Technology is increasing exponentially and society is evolving fast too. If you told me that there would be a HUGE difference in the amount of guys wanting to bareback between 2014 and 2015, I would have never believed it. In 2014, I was turned down by more guys in the six months for requiring condom usage than in the previous six years.

Stay educated. And if sexually active, get tested every THREE MONTHS.

by Anonymousreply 125December 14, 2015 9:04 PM

a big YES

by Anonymousreply 126December 14, 2015 9:15 PM

I will never admit to barebacking.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 127December 15, 2015 12:20 AM

I only bareback bottom if i have can feel the shit inside my anus

by Anonymousreply 128December 15, 2015 1:16 AM

56. On PREP. Have not topped or bottomed bareback yet...

by Anonymousreply 129December 15, 2015 1:36 AM

I have never fucked a woman or man without condoms.

by Anonymousreply 130November 20, 2019 8:58 AM

28, if I decide to bottom its going to be bareback. I'm on prep but even when I wasn't I would only take loads. Its no fun when it smells like an autozone while getting pounded

by Anonymousreply 131November 20, 2019 9:14 AM

'If you bareback, or have a slip up, just make sure that the top pulls out. Or work your hole really well beforehand to make sure there are no tears or anything. '

Um, you don't need tears to contract HIV, the lining of your butt just absorbs it straight into your bloodstream

by Anonymousreply 132November 20, 2019 9:25 AM

You ignorant dicks who think bb is safe because you're on Prep don't realise the high incidents of HPV that cause cancerous cells and subsequently anal cancer from BB, even decades later. HPV causing anal cancer will be the next AIDS

by Anonymousreply 133November 20, 2019 9:29 AM

I do now (40) but I was pretty irresponsible through my late 20s and 30s. I'm actually very lucky to have not contracted anything. I'm on the market for a LTR so I've cleaned up my act in this and other ways.

by Anonymousreply 134November 20, 2019 9:32 AM

Rephrase: I _don't_ bareback now

by Anonymousreply 135November 20, 2019 9:33 AM

I did

by Anonymousreply 136November 20, 2019 10:31 AM

We did too!

by Anonymousreply 137November 20, 2019 10:33 AM

The Prep guys will be the origin of the next killer megavirus. They are very, very deeply in denial about this.

by Anonymousreply 138November 20, 2019 3:03 PM

No. I'm 58 and I consider myself single, although I have a boyfriend, and we love each other. We just don't have sex any longer.

by Anonymousreply 139November 20, 2019 3:29 PM

I am 36, bisexual, and have never done it bare/raw with women or men. I also avoid having sex with someone who wants it raw/bare or who is on PREP/Truvada.

I don't use condoms or dental dams for oral-who wants to lick or suck on rubber besides latex fetishists; but I no longer give oral sex to random men or women like I did when I was ages 19-28. I was never into rimming had it done one time and did not ever want to get it done again, and I have no desire to rim anyone and never have. Now if other people want to eat all the ass they want that's fine, it is not for me.

by Anonymousreply 140November 20, 2019 3:33 PM

Yes I do, 63 years old. With the same man for 35 years. We have always been monogamous. We are both negative. But, even before we met, I always barebacked. I am fully aware that I dodged a huge bullet. But I came out in the '70s and it was the norm.

I have a straight friend who has a gay son. When the son came out when he was a teenager and swore he was practicing safe sex. But voila - he caught syphilis. The rather straight-laced parents were horrified and didn't know what to do, so I took him to STD clinic, got him treated for syph, and got him on Truvada. He and I had the heart-to-heart talk about fucking, which neither of his parents could ever do. He is now happily married and very grateful that someone "talked the talk" with him.

by Anonymousreply 141November 20, 2019 3:48 PM

God no

by Anonymousreply 142November 20, 2019 3:52 PM

yes, 36, My husband is the only person I had sexual contact with for nearly 15 years. we fuck bareback

by Anonymousreply 143November 20, 2019 3:56 PM

All the time. 45 years old. Of course it helps that we're married and we're both devoted to each other. And to those people out there that believe all married couples cheat, I disagree. Some of our friends have open marriages/relationships, but they are a small minority. Most couples we know are not playing with others and are not interested in such activities. It's a gross generalization to say that gay men are not monogamous.

by Anonymousreply 144November 20, 2019 7:17 PM

R141 How do you know he got infected with syphilis from unprotected anal? I know men who were infected with syphilis from oral sex.

His parents are idiots. When I was 14 or 15 they bought me condoms and said that when I had sex with a man or woman to always use them.

I would never take PREP or Truvada, it is toxic, and has very bad side effects. A friend of mine was on it and the drug fucked up his liver and he got horrible nausea from it. Another guy I know that is on it uses it as an excuse to get fucked bare and I have met potheads who have better memories than he does.

by Anonymousreply 145November 20, 2019 8:54 PM

That should read, 'when I was 14 or 15 my parents bought me condoms' but I already knew about safer sex before then, and how to have it.

If a man or woman wants it raw or is on Truvada or prep sorry no thanks, we will not be sleeping together or dating. I am HIV neg, have never had any sexual diseases and want to stay that way.

by Anonymousreply 146November 20, 2019 8:57 PM

r145. In an ideal world, I agree that his parent's should have been better about talking sex with him. But they didn't. Not every gay child parents who can deal with this. When I found out he had anal sores, it was pretty obvious what the cause was. And he admitted to me. Would I take Truvada? Probably not. But I felt that it was better for him to be on it, rather than ruin his life by catching HIV.

by Anonymousreply 147November 20, 2019 9:03 PM

144 that certainly is your experience, all the couple's I know cheat or in open relationships. So speak for yourself. Many THINK they are monogamous but they are not.

by Anonymousreply 148November 20, 2019 9:25 PM

No

Fifty

No way

by Anonymousreply 149November 20, 2019 9:36 PM

r148 all your friends are trash

by Anonymousreply 150November 20, 2019 9:41 PM

R150 no they just don't lie like yours..

by Anonymousreply 151November 20, 2019 9:57 PM

When I was single I was always amazed by all the bottoms I'd meet on Grindr who were up for bareback.

I'd always tell them no, I don't even know your real name, why would I believe that you're on Prep or that you have no STDs, let alone HIV.

Though TBH, at that point in time there were enough guys on Grindr that I could just stop answering and find someone who was smarter about sex.

by Anonymousreply 152November 20, 2019 10:03 PM

But i'm safe, i'm on Prep

by Anonymousreply 153November 20, 2019 10:07 PM

Yeah I was on scruff and Growler apps since friends of mine told me about them, and said they were better than the bars, gay.com, bisexual.com, bear411, etc. I found lots of crazy men on the apps like you described who wanted it bare, male hookers, profiles with zero pictures who wanted to meet up so they could get fucked bare, and lots of liars as well such as men in their early or mid 20s who claimed they are medical doctors. I am top/giver and I would also get messaged by lots of "tops" who wanted me to fuck them raw. I never met up with anyone and deleted my profiles and the apps.

by Anonymousreply 154November 20, 2019 10:49 PM

Seventy five percent of you are lying through your teeth or there wouldn't be 40k still getting infected each year. Gay men lie all the time. Get the hell on prep.

by Anonymousreply 155November 20, 2019 10:56 PM

R155 HIV has always been in very high rates where I live and where I grew up. I would never take PREP but I use condoms, and do not even fuck male or female partners raw, but almost every man and woman I have had a relationship with has cheated on me and lied. So I am cautious. I have gay friends in their mid and late 50s and they said how in their experience, most men who are HIV+ either lie about it, or do not tell until after you and they have had sex without condoms.

by Anonymousreply 156November 20, 2019 11:17 PM

R148 that has been my experience too. I have friends who say they are monogamous but one or both are hooking up with other men on the side, or they were monogamous, one or both cheated and now they have an open relationship/marriage. It is not just gay and bi men who do this hetero women and men cheat on each other all the time.

by Anonymousreply 157November 20, 2019 11:24 PM

R138 no the next megavirus will something like SARS but I'm sure you will blame all the gay men for it. You're a bitter old queen that doesn't bareback because your old self hating sex negative ass can't get laid anyway.

by Anonymousreply 158November 20, 2019 11:31 PM

r158 oh dear, such naivety will only end in tears. Ask Farrah Fawcett how she got anal cancer

by Anonymousreply 159November 21, 2019 12:14 AM

R159 there's a sudden climb in oral cancer among young straight men due to the popularity of oral sex. But not females they have determined that it is older women carriers infecting young men so the hets are pretty nasty too. Your mammy was a barebacker and got spunked and we know she was always faithful to your nasty daddy right. Why is she better than you? That's right, she's straight and you're gay and gays are lesser people. No naivety here but there is your self hate.

by Anonymousreply 160November 21, 2019 6:58 PM

[quote] there's a sudden climb in oral cancer among young straight men due to the popularity of oral sex. But not females they have determined that it is older women carriers infecting young men

What is the difference between an older woman and a 'female'? They are both women and female, or did you mean younger women in their 20s and 30s?

by Anonymousreply 161November 21, 2019 9:29 PM

Look it up please older females infecting young men with HPV from oral sex. So the straights spread shit too. Fatal shit at that.

by Anonymousreply 162November 22, 2019 4:56 AM

Fuck no. 60.

by Anonymousreply 163November 22, 2019 11:03 AM

poodle ball

88

by Anonymousreply 164November 22, 2019 11:13 AM

Yes, 46, single, always.

I don't care anymore.

by Anonymousreply 165November 22, 2019 11:43 AM

Last night with a buddy I've had for 10 years. I'm on prep. I'm in my late 50s! I cleaned 2 hours before the fuck but he's long and thick and I was so excited, 10 minutes into the fuck, I was no longer clean. And the down side of no condom is, well, you know. So that killed it for the both of us. Hasn't happened in quite some time. Oh, well. Next time.

by Anonymousreply 166November 22, 2019 11:44 AM

R165, what do you mean you don't care anymore?

by Anonymousreply 167November 22, 2019 11:04 PM

[quote] State yes or no, your age, and situation.

Quite the little bossypants, aren't we?

I don't bareback, but I'm giving you no other information, Miss Nosy.

by Anonymousreply 168November 22, 2019 11:10 PM

let's paint shame R166

by Anonymousreply 169November 23, 2019 1:54 AM

I did about 8 years ago and then , well, ya know, IT happened, Sealed shut now!

by Anonymousreply 170November 23, 2019 2:21 AM

What happened R170? You were infected with anal warts or HIV? Or herpes in your ass? Or you forgot to clean out?

by Anonymousreply 171November 23, 2019 3:43 PM

R171 HIV

by Anonymousreply 172November 23, 2019 3:53 PM

Hugs and my condolences R172 I hope you are on meds.

by Anonymousreply 173November 23, 2019 4:42 PM

R173 yes on meds, but honestly I rarely think about it, esp since I am vol cel

by Anonymousreply 174November 23, 2019 7:23 PM

I bareback all the time since I started on prep

Medical science is dope

by Anonymousreply 175November 23, 2019 7:27 PM

R24 types ravenous needy bottom

by Anonymousreply 176November 23, 2019 7:53 PM

R25 I too have friends who are HIV+ or who are no longer alive and were infected by FBs, boyfriends, partners/husbands. Your advise is good.

by Anonymousreply 177November 23, 2019 10:14 PM

[quote]play safe. Use a condom. Esp. since your FB is sleeping with at least one other guy bareback.

If a guy admits he barebacks with others but says he's willing to have condom/safe sex with you, would you fuck him or still say no thanks? Would just knowing he goes raw with other guys be a dealbreaker for you?

by Anonymousreply 178November 23, 2019 10:39 PM

For me R178, yes because even though I am a top, and always use condoms, I do not want any diseases. I have friends who are bottoms or versatile who have gotten herpes or anal HPV. I also don't get with people on PREP/Truvada as they are doing it bare/raw.

by Anonymousreply 179November 23, 2019 11:43 PM

I always bareback. I won’t let a guy use a condom on me. I’m 47. I love going to the bath house and taking multiple loads. When the guy is cumming I squeeze down on the guys cock and hold him in to me.

by Anonymousreply 180November 23, 2019 11:57 PM

Are you on Truvada or HIV+ R180? I am a decade younger than you and having bareback sex with a woman or man is not something I would ever do. But I live in an area where HIV and Hep C are common. I am also much more into oral sex, fetish based sex such as sex in leather, and S/M than anal sex. I'm not sex negative, a prude, or a MARY!!! I just have had way too many friends become HIV+ or get other diseases.

by Anonymousreply 181November 24, 2019 3:01 PM

Biktarvy r181 undetectable. Bottom only.

by Anonymousreply 182November 24, 2019 8:43 PM

What are all you sex negatives going to say when they come up with a vax? They will eventually.Only whores get the vax? That would be so irresponsible but I guess thinking that your life less than the straights and beat down by your families you will probably do just that. No one ever wants to answer that.

by Anonymousreply 183November 25, 2019 7:38 PM

R183 If they make a vaccine for HIV that would be amazing. I would probably get it provided it did not have any negative long or short term side effects, and I would not want to be a trial patient for it. I'm not sex negative. I have practised various consensual and mutual kinks/fetish sex/BDSM with women and men for almost two decades. Speak for yourself about your own family. Mine have always known I am bisexual and it's never been an issue for us. I do not take PREP as it is expensive, and it has not so good short and long term side effects.

If other people like you want to go out and have bareback sex with all of the men you want to, that's your choice. Just keep in mind PREP is not some magic pill.

by Anonymousreply 184November 25, 2019 9:30 PM

Half the people on this thread are liars. They want to sound all goody two shoes because they don’t want to tell anyone that they either cum or let others cum up their asses.

by Anonymousreply 185November 26, 2019 3:01 AM

Well reply 184 you've been triggered hate it for you obviously it hit a nerve. And yes they do lie or we wouldn't have all the new infections each year. They cum whether they're on Prep or not.

by Anonymousreply 186November 26, 2019 3:36 AM

R186 nope, I'm not triggered. I am just honest, and you did ask or wrongfully assume things about people here.

by Anonymousreply 187November 26, 2019 4:36 PM

However, R186 it is probably true that some versatile/bottom men probably do either get horny or don't care if a hook up, FB/FWB, or boyfriend/husband fucks them raw. There are also tops who will fuck raw/bare if they are horny or have regular sex with a FB/boyfriend who they think is monogamous. I am much, much more into oral sex and fetish/kink sex, and BDSM. Anal sex as a top/active/giver is fun and enjoyable to me but I prefer oral sex to it. I use condoms for anal sex always because some versatile/bottom men do not know how to clean themselves out.

by Anonymousreply 188November 26, 2019 11:11 PM

R188 why don’t you just shut up

by Anonymousreply 189November 27, 2019 8:01 PM

No, as in “no, I won’t be directed by an OP who’s barking out orders.” Are you a TSA worker, OP?

by Anonymousreply 190November 27, 2019 8:05 PM

This thread is from JULY 2013. It is over 6 years old. It died, then got resurrected in 2015, the re-died again for years until someone posted to it in 2019. And people are screaming at OP? He might not even still be alive.

by Anonymousreply 191November 27, 2019 8:17 PM

Didn’t even notice. Revived in November 2019 starting with R130. How the hell is it in trending threads?

by Anonymousreply 192November 27, 2019 9:35 PM

I'm married to another man. We're in our early 40s and have been together more than 10 years.

We've actually never had anal intercourse, though we've tried. We've both got skin sensitivity issues to chemicals, so most lubes burn, even natural ones. Also, his (beautiful) asshole is just impossibly tight, so he just can't without experiencing a lot of pain. It's not worth it for either of us if it hurts.

So, we do a lot of oral and manual stuff instead. Sometimes he ties me up and blindfolds me, and then he does wild things to me for hours that result in fountains of cum. I've got no complaints.

by Anonymousreply 193November 27, 2019 11:11 PM

Nobody needs to hear about that kind of filth r193.

by Anonymousreply 194November 28, 2019 7:11 AM

No, Total top here but I don't fuck anyone bare and if they insist then I move on.

by Anonymousreply 195November 28, 2019 3:08 PM

R193 that sounds hot, what sort of wild things does your husband do you to while you are in bondage? A friend of mine who is a bottom is allergic to latex and they make condoms that are not latex. Agreed R195

by Anonymousreply 196November 28, 2019 5:23 PM

Fuck no. I don't fuck any idiot who wants it raw/bare either or who is in PREP.

by Anonymousreply 197December 6, 2019 4:43 PM

No, I don't.

by Anonymousreply 198December 9, 2019 5:19 AM
Loading
Need more help? Click Here.

Yes indeed, we too use "cookies." Take a look at our privacy/terms or if you just want to see the damn site without all this bureaucratic nonsense, click ACCEPT. Otherwise, you'll just have to find some other site for your pointless bitchery needs.

×

Become a contributor - post when you want with no ads!