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Could you share an apartment with a Hot Straight Guy?

As a gay man, would you be able to stand sharing a place with a hot straight guy?

Would you be able to put aside your attraction to him, or would it drive you crazy?

For example, would you be able to withstand the site of seeing him in his underwear, smelling his manly scent wafting through the air, seeing him get out of the shower naked etc. ?

Or would it be such a constant sexual distraction that it would disrupt you from being able to concentrate on your job, own life etc.?

by Anonymousreply 19604/15/2017

I couldn't when I did. I was constantly sniffing his underwear and socks when he wasn't around or in them.

by Anonymousreply 101/04/2012

Me too, r1... and I'd fish out his used condoms from the wastebin. So hot.

by Anonymousreply 201/04/2012

How young were you guys then?! I would hope back when you were babygay virgins and couldn't handle your hormones.

Anyway, yes of course I have and can. Sure a couple glimpses of him undressed could be distracting but so what? It was just a pleasant sight to see and never caused a problem.

by Anonymousreply 301/04/2012

You do realize that this thread plays right into the hands of the pro-DADT people. There are plenty of gay men in the military who share bunks with very hot straight guys and are not attracted, and if they are, certainly don't act on that attraction. It's called being an adult and having self-control. How old are you people?

by Anonymousreply 401/04/2012

As long as he's clean and pays his rent on time.

by Anonymousreply 501/04/2012

There's an expression, "Familiarity breeds contempt."

Well, that's exactly what would happen. You-and he--would get sick of, very tired of or view each other him as a sibling and would eventually avoid the sight of each other. And even if you became friends, the "ick" factor would take over, and you'd respect each other's privacy--or at least keep your distance.

by Anonymousreply 601/04/2012

This is the situation I am in at the moment. Good buddy from college who knows I'm gay. He still sits around in nothing but his underwear, and we are both comfortable with it.

by Anonymousreply 701/04/2012

I had a hot straight roommate who knew how hot he was and enjoyed teasing me. He seemed to get a kick out of turning me on and I happily played along. He'd appear in my bedroom doorway naked (just out of the shower) and stand and talk for a few minutes. Of course I couldn't keep my eyes off his big cock. He'd see me looking and smile slyly.

He'd also shower with the bathroom door open and talk about his sex life and his "family jewels" a lot.

He started dating a friend of mine and they eventually got married and had a bunch of kids.

by Anonymousreply 801/04/2012

I did, a really sexy Spanish guy. He was achingly nice too.

The only difficult times were if we both got drunk at a party, then I'd occasionally say stupid things but depending on the guy I could do it again

by Anonymousreply 901/04/2012

[quote]You do realize that this thread plays right into the hands of the pro-DADT people

What are they doing here on DL reading this thread?

by Anonymousreply 1001/04/2012

[quote]He still sits around in nothing but his underwear, and we are both comfortable with it.

Go on.

by Anonymousreply 1101/04/2012

So asks Cathy of the hypotheticals.

by Anonymousreply 1201/04/2012

I was a college student at the time. No, I wouldn't do it now.

College students and young folks, regardless of sexual orientation, do stupid shit, push boundaries and make mistakes.

by Anonymousreply 1301/04/2012

[R11] Just saying thats how good of friends we are. Our sexualities don't bother each other. I don't get turned on by him because we are such good friends.

by Anonymousreply 1401/04/2012

When I first moved out on my own, I got a roommate. I ended up being roommates with three different guys over the following years and I was closeted. At no time were we in the bathroom together where one got out of the shower in front of the other. In fact we had two bedroom apts, which usually had two bathrooms. If not, we took turns. I've never noticed anybody's musky stench wafting throughout the apt either. Maybe if I put my face in his ass, but I didn't. Anybody that has musk you can smell from 6 feet or farther away, obviously isn't taking showers in the first place.

Nice fantasy though. Not reality.

by Anonymousreply 1501/04/2012

OP has clearly never moved out of mommy's house.

by Anonymousreply 1601/04/2012

R15, you do realize your circumstance doesn't describe everyone's, right? It varies depending on the structural architecture of the apartment, the guys involved, and a variety of other factors.

Most guys who share a place usually see each other changing, or in their underwear or naked at some point or another.

by Anonymousreply 1701/04/2012

Is it the same guy that I can blow while he watches straight porn?

by Anonymousreply 1801/04/2012

I have. It was not an issue.

by Anonymousreply 1901/04/2012

No, R18

by Anonymousreply 2001/04/2012

I used to share an apartment with a really hot straight guy. We're talking scorching hot. And he was always horny. He knew I was gay. On the off nights when he was particularly horny and didn't return home from some bar or club with some slut, he'd let me blow him. He'd call me "Megan" as I serviced him. I never actually found out who Megan was and we never ever discussed our activities. He asked to fuck me one time. I was a little apprehensive, because he was extremely thick. Enormous girth. I let him do it, and just thinking about the loud moans he let out as he fucked me are getting me hard now. I found out a few years later that he was also fucking some trannies.

by Anonymousreply 2101/04/2012

So he was bi, R21 - not straight.

by Anonymousreply 2201/04/2012

Interesting point, R4. But, of course, there's a huge difference between living one-on-one in a private apartment with a guy you find attractive and living in a military barracks situation with a whole bunch of guys including some who are really hot. Don't you agree?

by Anonymousreply 2301/04/2012

R21, R22. Sounds like your "scorching hot" roommate was a big ol' GAY closet case. He wasn't straight or bi. He was gay.

by Anonymousreply 2401/04/2012

I did it for years. He was a good friend and sex was never an issue, any more than it would have been with me living with a straight woman, which I also did when I was young.

He was a total pussy hound but loved gay humor and was hilarious. His only anti-gay thing was: "NO DRAG music!" by which he meant divas like Streisand, Midler, etc., which only happened when the two of us lived with two other gay men. Poor guy, living with three big queens.

At any rate, I loved him dearly (he died a few years ago) and I will miss him for the rest of my life.

BTW, his widow and son are still good friends of mine.

by Anonymousreply 2501/04/2012

um no he was straight. He was drunk when I blew him, and absolutely drunk off his ass and high when he fucked me. He called me Megan every time, so he was obviously fantasizing about women, or one woman in particular, when we had sex. I think he just was a very sexual straight guy who needed a warm wet hole every night, and on the off nights when he didn't bring back some whore, he turned to my very willing hole(s). Dating trannies doesn't make someone gay or bi. It was obvious he wanted a woman, or when he was sober, someone who for all intents and purposes was a woman.

by Anonymousreply 2601/04/2012

It might be different now but invariably, the roommate situation would melt down over "Odd Couple"-type issues.

Who was neat, who was a slob, who wanted to "decorate" and who wanted to watch TV and drink. These roles would often belie stereotypes as well, so people expectations would get blown out the window, also increasing tensions.

by Anonymousreply 2701/04/2012

I shared a dorm room in grad school with this muscle guy. His calves were the size of my thigh, his thighs the size of my waist and his waist was still the size of my waist.

At the time, I was 5'10 and 178lb. He was 6'4 at 265lb.

It was too much for me. I moved out of the dorm as soon as I could. We remained good friends. I just could not deal with the distraction and arousal.

by Anonymousreply 2801/04/2012

It's a great experience to have. I have lived with straight guys and their gf's, a closeted guy, and a gay guy. They have all been different and fun experiences.

by Anonymousreply 2901/04/2012

I suspect r21 and r28 are lying. Muscleheads don't go to grad school and r21 just sounds like something from a bad porno.

Funny how so many people have stories about living with "hot" straight guys and no one lived with fat, homely, smelly, messy straight guys. I lived with straight guys in college and they were all fug. But the straight guy fetishists want to believe all straight guys are big muscled guys or male models when nothing could be farther from the truth!

by Anonymousreply 3001/04/2012

I roomed with a sexy blond str8 guy in one of my first places after college. He was achingly nice as well. He moved to NYC to pursue modeling but was too midwestern wholesome to get anything editorial. He ended up doing a bunch of soap work. His body was amazing with a smooth tanned chest with pink nipples. It was very distracting. When he moved out, he left his workboots. I ended up taking them with me when I moved out.

Come to think of it, I have lived with three very sexy straight guys. One was in college and he was studying screenwriting at NYU. He was a sexy NYer type with a Long Island accent. His body was stacked and lean in the way only someone in their early 20s can pull off. He was shirtless ALL the time. He came to be a bit annoying but I did enjoy catching glimpses of his pubes when he walked around in boxers.

And once when studying abroad at age 16, I remember stupidly trying to pull my sleeping French host brother's boxers down. I was one horny fuck.

So yes, it can be very distracting.

by Anonymousreply 3101/04/2012

"I remember stupidly trying to pull my sleeping French host brother's boxers down."

Details please.

by Anonymousreply 3201/04/2012

I have had straight roommates. I lived in Ireland and had a Dutch guy for a roommate - rough face but a great body. He liked to walk around nude but I never bothered doing anything but glancing. That was in Dublin. Later, up in Ulster I had English and Irish roommates. The English was a jerk and a soccer player who had the same name as I - very weird. He was shy and had huge legs and a little cock. The Irish guy had broken up with his girlfriend and would get drunk and all weepy and snuggly - he'd want to cuddle - I am not kidding - saying he missed his mates and was lonely. And he'd fall asleep in my arms. He was darling but too fractured. After I moved on I checked back with him and he had gotten married and fat and had several kids.

I had college friends before that who weren't roommates but dorm mates who supposedly were straight but time proved otherwise. The "straight" ones always ended up bottoming when we had our orgies. I am thinking of three guys specifically, as opposed to the out gay guys who were always more flexible. It was like once the straightish ones broke down their barriers (stoned) what they really wanted to try was anal, and they wanted to be taken by more than one guy. We gay guys were glad to oblige but it got kind of funny by the time number three was being pounded.

Just for the record, two of the three ended up marrying. One got himself a boyfriend who had been married, but committed suicide (hanged himself) within a year after graduating.

by Anonymousreply 3301/04/2012

I smell sitcom.

by Anonymousreply 3401/04/2012

r26, please tell me this is meant as a parody post?

Cause your denial is F-U-N-N-Y.

by Anonymousreply 3501/04/2012

R30, he was a grad student in sports nutrition. He was also an avid bodybuilder. I was in EE (electrical engineering). The place was Buffalo, NY.

by Anonymousreply 3601/04/2012

I roomed with a hot straight guy in college, but I looked at him like a brother so anything sexual was out of the question. Even though he was physically attractive, there was no way I could have had any intimate feelings for him - it just would have been too weird.

by Anonymousreply 3701/04/2012

Why is this question just about a hot straight guy. What if the guy was gay and hot and just your roommate? Wouldn't that be just as much of a challenge?

by Anonymousreply 3801/04/2012

Possible, R38, but if the guy is gay, it can obviously lead to a relationship, whereas with a straight guy the desire can never be satisfied.

That is the dilemma, so that's why I posed the question. : )

by Anonymousreply 3901/04/2012

I lived with a straight friend I had a crush on (who didn't know I was gay) for a year. Big mistake. Aside from how sexually frustrating it was, I was perpetually disappointed that we weren't closer -- in other words that he didn't act more like my boyfriend, or even a best friend. My feelings were hurt every time he went into his room and shut the door. It was stupid to move in with him and I'd never make that mistake again (although I think now that I'm older I'd probably be more mature/sensible about it).

The perfect roommate relationship is one where you hang out if you feel like it, and you don't if you don't, and both of you are happy with it. I had that right after and it was great -- better than living with my boyfriend in some ways!

by Anonymousreply 4001/04/2012

There's no such thing as straight according to DL, sillies!

by Anonymousreply 4101/04/2012

I could barely share a Super SHuttle ride tonight with a hottie.

by Anonymousreply 4201/04/2012

I cannot handle it! I never could. I have one now who is hot. I can't even mention the word sex around him (no joke!). He's very uptight. I'm afraid of him, because he really hates gays. It's a long story how we ended up rooming together. But I definitely want to take Ivan into his bedroom and do some nasty, obscene things with him. But then, I would die shortly thereafter. That would suck!

Ben, well he was just one very horny, straight, young guy who was very protective of me. I used to spy on him through a hole in the bathroom. The hottest thing I've ever seen in my life--him spanking that thing every single day!

by Anonymousreply 4301/04/2012

Javier/OP, I see you have a new hot roommate for spring semester! Maybe you wont scare this one off.

by Anonymousreply 4401/04/2012

I room with a hot straight dude who is my best friend. I have self-restraint and respect for boundaries for my roommate. I am not some impulsive animal who can't control my impulses. He's my bro, not some piece of meat. And, I have never seen any of my roommates naked. It's not like people walk around naked when they have roommates. Boundaries and respect are a great thing.

by Anonymousreply 4501/05/2012

R31, who is the blond guy who wanted to be a model but ended up doing a lot of soap work? What time did you know him- 70s, 80s, 90's? Also, I share another poster's curiosity for details about what happened with your French host brother. Please share!

by Anonymousreply 4601/05/2012


by Anonymousreply 4701/05/2012

"He's my bro, not some piece of meat."

Do you say that with a lisp?

by Anonymousreply 4801/05/2012

[quote]Boundaries and respect are a great thing.

and also very boring.

by Anonymousreply 4901/06/2012

R31 here.

The blond guy who ended up doing a lot of soap work was a day player, under five type. He never had a major role. This was in the late 90s. I forget his last name, but I have his comp card somewhere and will look him up on facebook one of these days.

My French host brother was just sexy as hell to me. Dark hair, loved to play basketball, but also loved to write, Nico, very sweet guy. We actually shared the same room, our beds right next to each other. We were both 16 at the time. One night I remember being so desperate to see him naked, I tried to slide his boxers down his hips while he slept, or at least catch a glimpse through the fly. It didn't work and I just probably retired to my bed and beat off.

by Anonymousreply 5001/06/2012

Yes, OP. Both of us gay men shared a house with a Hot Straight Guy.

by Anonymousreply 5101/06/2012

No, I would make a fool of myself.

by Anonymousreply 5201/06/2012

r49, are you are rapist?

by Anonymousreply 5301/13/2012


by Anonymousreply 5401/18/2012

I did with an ex-Marine. We knew each other in college, when I fell in love with him, and we corresponded when he was in service. When he got out, three years later, we ended up sharing an apartment.

I wasn't out at the time, so our relationship was always ambiguous. I was so fucking hot for him, and I think he knew it and he kind of enjoyed it, but it also created a lot of tension. Sadly, nothing ever happened between us, except a lot of misery for me.

He eventually got fat, moved away, became a Border Patrol agent, and got married. But I still jack off thinking about him in his heyday as one of my hottest fantasies.

by Anonymousreply 5501/18/2012

"nothing ever happened between us"

Well, if he was straight that would make sense.

by Anonymousreply 5601/18/2012

I would spend every second of every day thinking, planing and plotting a way to induce him just "to try it once," whereupon he would discover how great it was and we could live happily every after.

In the process, I would abandon every aspect of my former life and end up a total ruin.

by Anonymousreply 5701/18/2012

R56, it wasn't that simple. I think he knew that I was gay, and he was intrigued by the possibilities, but we were each too chickenshit then to make the first move.

We connected on an almost a spiritual level. He was inventive, creative, and lusty. "If only you had tits...," he said to me once when we were walking home after getting drunk together.

For that one time, I wished I had them, just for the chance to get into his pants.

by Anonymousreply 5801/18/2012

When a group of straight guys live together, stuff like this (see link) usually happens. You'll enjoy it.

by Anonymousreply 5901/18/2012

These stories all seem to end with "and then he moved away and got fat".

by Anonymousreply 6001/18/2012

My current roommate is a hot straight guy and it's working out fine.

As we became friends, I started thinking of him as more like a brother so renting a place together wasn't that weird.

One time, When Harry Met Sally was on cable and he jokingly said that if I were a woman, we would have fucked by now.

My reply was that if he were a man, I would have fucked him by now.

by Anonymousreply 6101/18/2012


by Anonymousreply 6201/19/2012

I dont view my friends and roommates as sex objects. Boundaries are good.

by Anonymousreply 6301/31/2012


by Anonymousreply 6402/04/2012

I'm in a similar (though we're not roommates) situation with a gay friend of mine. I was very much in love with him for quite a long while but nothing ever happened between us (not even a kiss) because he's never been even remotely interested in me. We did, however, manage to become very good friends over time and now, for the first time, we're about to go on vacation together and will be sharing a room. Thankfully, I've since gotten over my romantic feelings for him and, like R61, have actually come to think of him more like the brother I never had, which makes being with him (and listening to him talk about his sex life) no longer hard to take.

by Anonymousreply 6502/04/2012

r65, you sound mature and moral.

by Anonymousreply 6602/14/2012

I just got a new hot straight dude roommate who plays football in college. Cool!

by Anonymousreply 6702/20/2012

If he knows your gay then he might be bisexual the way he's acting.

by Anonymousreply 6807/22/2012

[quote]How young were you guys then?! I would hope back when you were babygay virgins and couldn't handle your hormones.

I had an Adonis for a roommate when I was still in college and a virgin. I handled it. Unlike some of the obsessives on this thread, I don't go apeshit in the presence of attractive men and start compulsively smelling jockstraps or something, nor did I when I was younger.

[quote]For example, would you be able to withstand the site of seeing him in his underwear, smelling his manly scent wafting through the air, seeing him get out of the shower naked etc. ?

I have to agree with R4: you're playing into the most offensive stereotype of gay men, that we're all uncontrollable sex pigs. Seek help.

by Anonymousreply 6907/22/2012

Yes. I see houses I'd like to own all of the time, too, and have never once attempted to roust the occupants and move in. The world is full of things --and people-- that, in the right circumstance, I'd like to have (in one way or another), but not having them doesn't drive me crazy.

Exercise a crumb of self control.

by Anonymousreply 7007/22/2012

I can see r69's point, but he needs to lighten up a little.

by Anonymousreply 7107/22/2012

[quote]He'd call me "Megan" as I serviced him.

This seriously had me laughing out loud for about 5 minutes. I'm laughing as I type, for realz! That's some funny shit.

What were you thinking when he called you "Megan"??? Did you think that was hot? What the FUCK.

by Anonymousreply 7207/22/2012

I shared an office as a grad student with another GA who was hot as hell. He never want for pussy, but he never had to work hard for it. He never had to work hard for anything. The Dean, old, straight, wrinkled fuck, had him for a golden boy. Mind you, he wasn't stupid but he wasn't the sharpest knife in the drawer and he had unbelievable opportunity thrown at him.

He ended up moving back home because he couldn't keep a regular job in the real world. I hope he is in a basement, somewhere, with Cheetos dust on his fingers with his diploma over the washer.

Fuck hot straight guys.

by Anonymousreply 7307/22/2012

[quote]But, of course, there's a huge difference between living one-on-one in a private apartment with a guy you find attractive and living in a military barracks situation with a whole bunch of guys including some who are really hot. Don't you agree?

You've been watching too many WWII movies. Military barracks, especially Stateside, have moved far beyond what you see in the movies. Even in Iraq, guys are often two to a room and showers are typically private. Afghanistan is quite a bit more "rustic" and more closely resembles what you're thinking of.

by Anonymousreply 7407/22/2012

Why would you ever wish such a thing, r73? Unless he was a prick to you in some way, you are just being a bitter, salty queen. Not a good look, honey.

by Anonymousreply 7507/22/2012

r75, it is the premium that Western society puts on tall, white, good looking, fit, christian men that pisses me off. When I see a recipient of unearned benefits as a result of it, it pisses me off.

Haven't you ever worked for a tall idiot and wondered how the hell he got the job? The tall, good looking bias is the other end of the lookism spectrum. How many brilliant leaders have been passed up because they were short or unattractive? Hubert Humphrey.

Ever wonder why someone as stupid as Sarah Palin was picked as McCain's VP? McCain is short. A rule in politics is never have a #2 taller than #1 unless they are BOTH over 6 feet tall. Every acceptable male for McCain VP TOWERED over him. Palin, in high Heels, was about the same height. Bingo.

Both Obama and Romney are -1s on the big scale; Obama is multicultural, Romney is non-Christian (non-Trinitarian).

Prediction: No Bobby the monkey Jindal, no Rob Portman (not a Christian on the ticket). Probably Marco Rubio.

I return yopu to the Hot Straight Roomate Guy Thread

by Anonymousreply 7607/22/2012

Good post, r76.

by Anonymousreply 7707/22/2012

Of course. I am doing it now.

by Anonymousreply 7810/07/2013

My best male friend is straight; we've known each other for 20 years. He is just as hot now as he was when we met. I admit when we were younger I desperately wanted to get in his pants. I even tried some drunken seductions that never amounted to anything, I'm embarrassed to say.

He is 100% straight, but will go to gay bars with me, hugs me, tells me he loves me, and would drop anything if I needed him. He tells all the other gays who throw themslelves at him that I'm the only guy he'd be with if he was gay. He is an only child and had a fucked up childhood, so I think I'm that brother he never had. Last year, he was having trouble with his wife so he moved in with me for a few weeks. I do think of him like a brother now, and don't really think about wanting to have sex with him anymore. But while he was living here, I did start having sex dreams about him. We've never been shy around each other --we've skinny dipped, pissed next to each other--but I started acting all nervous when I'd even see him in a towel or boxers. He knew I was acting strange. I was relieved when he moved out, even though we never did anything but in my dreams.

Honestly, the thought of really doing anything still weirds me out, but I had another HOT sex dream about him last night, and I haven't seen him in weeks!

by Anonymousreply 7910/07/2013

-I was perpetually disappointed that we weren't closer -- in other words that he didn't act more like my boyfriend, or even a best friend. My feelings were hurt every time he went into his room and shut the door. It was stupid to move in with him and I'd never make that mistake again-

I'll second this, having had the same experience. It's like a really hot woman living with a guy she has no sexual desire for, or is actually turned off by. Something is going tp sour, despite the best of intentions.

If you do this, have zero expectations. Most men aren't very nice people to be around.

Never saw him nude, either, but always with the damned hand in his shorts watching football. Always distracting. Frustrating.

Friendship fizzled after he could afford his own place. Don't miss the sound of the slamming door at all.

by Anonymousreply 8010/07/2013

i live with a hot straight guy right now. he's tall and lanky, and that's not my type at all, so not into him in the slightest.

by Anonymousreply 8110/07/2013

How many times do we have to do this before we realize that the straight male is a very complex, baffling creature. Him want food and pussy. When not hungry and no pussy, him try anything handy.

by Anonymousreply 8210/07/2013

Many of these stories could be my own. When I was in my 20's I shared an apt with a want to be actor in LA. We even shared a room. He was gorgeous and sweet and dumb dumb dumb. I wanted him so bad and made a fool of myself for awhile. But soon, like most of my relationships you find those things that bug the crap out you and know what the bathroom smells like after he's been in there awhile and his jokes get old and were never really that funny anyway, it's easy to lose those early fuzzy feelings.

by Anonymousreply 8310/08/2013

I've had a variety of straight roommates, some super hot, and never had a problem...except for the one guy, whom I am convinced was not straight.

One "straight," a tall computer genius with a smoking bod, used to exercise in front of me dressed only in a speedo. No reaction, although in hindsight probably not straight. Another, a rugby player, would tease me incessantly making suggestive remarks. Two guys in my suite had a sleeping loft and they had me up there one time when they touched each others hard-ons dressed only in underwear. I was able to resist. Straight men love to tease the gays.

But then there was the ONE. Manner as smooth as the finest gelato, mind as sharp as a mandolin slicer, heart as big but sometimes as cruel as Africa, and his crotch smelled like ham cooked in cinammon and brown sugar with cloves and orange peels. He could have been a serial killer and I couldn't have resisted him.

by Anonymousreply 8410/08/2013


by Anonymousreply 8510/12/2013

Why do SOME gay dudes treat straight guys like they are some foreign or other-wordly specifies? Stop mystifying other dudes and act normal.

by Anonymousreply 8610/13/2013

In college.

Had three roommates every year after freshmen year.

Ended up living with two straight crushes the year after the crush started.

Misery. Mainly because they were themselves, and once I realized nothing was ever gonna happen, their annoying habits were no longer cute quirks.

That was then.

This mistake seems very much a function of age and (lack of) experience and maturity. Never had this issue since.

The one upside: I did get to see one of my crushes with an erect cock many a morning when he first got in the shower. I loved those morning erections, even when I couldn't get close to them. Great jo material.

by Anonymousreply 8710/13/2013

Lived in a dorm. I was out and one of 3 openly gay on the floor. Fuck, the place always smelled like cum. I left with 2 others to rent a house. Then the house started to smell like cum.

by Anonymousreply 8810/13/2013

Lived with a self-proclaimed straight. Big drama because he was obviously gay (might as well have had "Faggot" tattooed on his forehead) but resented me for treating him as gay and not going along with the charade. Years later he comes out, fucks around with all my friends, but refuses to even meet or talk to me because I wouldn't play along with his charade when he was proclaiming himself straight. I didn't rape him or anything. I just refused to acknowledge his straightness and continued talking about gay things around him. And even though he was not in fact straight, he felt my treatment of him was "out of bounds" and disrespectful, things I have been accused of by nobody else ever. I'm easy going, tolerant, and easy to get along with, but I just have never been able to abide the closet. You'd think it would be different now that he is out and proud, but no, that just makes the "principle" more jealously guarded. That he and only he gets to decide what he is and to whom.

by Anonymousreply 8910/13/2013

I didn't "out" him either.

by Anonymousreply 9010/13/2013

Ugh breeders. Revolting.

by Anonymousreply 9110/13/2013

My roommate and best friend is a straight dude. We are bros. It is not a big deal, dudes.

by Anonymousreply 9210/13/2013

Interesting story, R89. But, honestly, I think the reason he won't talk to you still is because he felt bullied.

Think of it this way, maybe not the best analogy but...oh well, here goes. What if you knew that a good friend of yours had a cheating bf but was in denial about it? What if you told him you saw his bf sucking some other dude's face, but your friend was still in denial, saying you must have mistaken the bf for someone else? Would you go on badgering him relentlessly until he saw the light of day? Or would you just leave it alone and let him come to the truth on his own?

by Anonymousreply 9310/14/2013

A. Don't shit where you eat.

B. See A.

I've lived with several straight guys, all attractive. Not an issue. As someone upthread remarked, familiarity breeds contempt. Or, not contempt, exactly, but indifference.

I also used to play rugby on a city team. Most homos, when they find out, will start asking dumb questions about how sexy the guys were and what they looked like without their clothes and which one I most wanted to sleep with, etc. Sure, many of these guys were objectively attractive. Many had great bodies. Some had great glutes or amazing quads or big dicks. I mean, these are attributes even straight guys notice, but these are your teammates, too. You just quit giving a shit. If you spend time with a bunch of straight guys, the attraction just vanishes -- if it was even there in the first place. I never had a problem, but then I also go to the gym to work out and not to cruise and perv out on guys (gay OR straight).

by Anonymousreply 9410/14/2013

I'm perfectly fine with hot straight guys, as long as they're "cool" straight guys who are unfazed by and completely comfortable with homosexuality, and supportive of us politically.

I have straight male friends, some of whom I find very attractive, but, since they're straight and I value their friendship, I can put aside that physical attraction and just enjoy the platonic aspects of the relationship. On some level I might notice his brilliant blue eyes or furry chest or muscles or whatever, but it's just a fleeting observation. The longer you know them and the more familiar you get with each other, the less likely these things become distractions. You start to see his faults, his annoying habits and his entrenched heterosexuality, and he just becomes another "dude".

In the end, this is no different than having a hot gay platonic friend. Yes, you are aware of his attractiveness, but because of whatever reasons (non-reciprocation or just romantic incompatibility), he's just another friend who happens to be good-looking. You compartmentalize your attraction, focus on the platonic aspects of the relationship, and mentally "move on". Lots of times this all happens within minutes of meeting for the first time. If a guy is either out if your league or you're just "not his type", you accept that and redirect your feelings in a platonic way.

Most of us call this "maturity". Self-respect and self-control are also factors.

by Anonymousreply 9510/14/2013

So OP, do you envision all this this happening in a studio apartment?

by Anonymousreply 9610/14/2013

Good post, r95. As for r94; I think he is talking to himself more than to the other posters!

by Anonymousreply 9710/14/2013

As a closeted dude, I've done it. It gave me ton of JO material, just talking with him about pussy. And after a while I was stealing his underwear out of his room and jerking off with it.

Also I would steal his tee shirts and smell the under arms.

by Anonymousreply 9810/14/2013

I don't care how gorgeous/handsome a guy is. If I know he's porking a pussy, I have no interest in him. There's no straight guy that is more handsome than any gay existing gay man. Never will happen either.

by Anonymousreply 9910/14/2013

I could if he would accept blowjobs.

by Anonymousreply 10010/14/2013

WTF, r97? I was addressing the issue at hand. To wit, is it possible to exist in close quarters with a hot straight guy and not lose your shit? The answer is yes. I gave two answers (living together and playing sports together). General consensus from prior responses indicate that this is an issue for younger guys; my experience also indicates that this is an issue for homos who have few straight male friends or have never shared a non-soul-destroying communal experience with straight guys (since, you know, they comprise like 95% of the male population and shit).

by Anonymousreply 10110/14/2013

Been there. Done that. It was right after college and a fraternity brother and I shared an apartment. He was lean with dark hair and really hairy, muscular legs. He always wore running shorts with no underwear around the apartment, with or without a shirt, and half the time one of his hairy balls was practically hanging out. A really nice guy and definite eye candy. On the other hand, however, he whined all the time about everything and spent most of his time lying on the couch watching one sporting event after another, which drove me crazy. From my experience, it's very possible to live with a hot straight guy and have absolutely no attraction to him.

by Anonymousreply 10210/14/2013

Why wouldn't a gay guy be able to share an apartment with a hot straight guy? Do some people lack self-control and respect?

by Anonymousreply 10310/20/2013

of course

by Anonymousreply 10412/17/2013

I've also lived with hot men and my experience is the attraction completely disappears and they just become beasts who eat your shit and annoy you with their humanity.

by Anonymousreply 10512/17/2013

So you jerk off with his underwear when he's not looking, and he helps pay the bills. What's so difficult?

by Anonymousreply 10612/17/2013

I have at least several times if you include college and military roomies. Daily exposure nullifies any attraction.

by Anonymousreply 10712/17/2013

Those of you who talk about how living with someone diminishes or even nullifies any attraction must have bad luck keeping boyfriends/partners. After all, wouldn't your attractions to them diminish with some familiarity?

Your post is very funny, r106! Thanks!

by Anonymousreply 10812/17/2013

Living around people decreases attraction. They are demystified by the familiarity.

by Anonymousreply 10912/17/2013

Absolutely not, but I could absolutely share a house or some other domicile fitting for people over 22 years old.

by Anonymousreply 11012/17/2013

I have shared a ROOM with hot athletic straight dudes. It is not a big deal. Boundaries, dudes...

by Anonymousreply 11112/23/2013

Could you share a bed with a hot straight dude?

by Anonymousreply 11201/25/2014

My new roommate is 25 and almost could be Chris Evans identical twin (great muscular hairy pecs; Irish-Italian South Boston boy). He's totally cocky, knows he's hot and rarely is wearing a shirt when I get home from work. Instead, he's just sitting on my couch, in his old ratted up boxer shorts, drinking beer and watching ESPN sports central.

He's been working from home and also lifts weights in his bedroom during the day while I'm at work. So when I sit next to him on the couch, pass him in the hallway etc his ripe stench of man sweat is usually apparent.

Every time I've jerked off since Jan 4th ( day he moved in ), I must admit that my new straight roommate has been the focus of my thoughts while busting a nut.

by Anonymousreply 11301/29/2014

[quote]Those of you who talk about how living with someone diminishes or even nullifies any attraction must have bad luck keeping boyfriends/partners. After all, wouldn't your attractions to them diminish with some familiarity?

You have to wonder whether someone who asks this has ever been in love.

by Anonymousreply 11401/29/2014

Does he know you're gay, R113?

by Anonymousreply 11501/29/2014

[R-115] it's not been mentioned or asked.

I think that when he first replied to my Craigslist post (about needing a roommate / room for rent ) he assumed I was probably heterosexual. However, as he's home during the day, alone, with my bedroom door sometimes left open, he could easily snoop and find evidence to the contrary. Combine that with my lack of interest in sports whatsoever, and the way I begin to stutter and turn red when he's speaking to me (without his shirt on or just wearing a wife beater etc) and he begins to nonchalantly squeeze on one of his pecs or biceps; uhm, yeah ... I think at this point he has a pretty good idea

by Anonymousreply 11601/29/2014

When I was in college, I spent nine months living with a guy I totally had the hots for.

I really enjoyed his company and we had fun together. He didn't know I was gay; at least, I never told him so in words. But I know he caught me checking him out when he was changing clothes, and I was always so tempted to make a move on him.

What was I thinking? He was totally straight.

That said, my fantasy relationship with him started because we took a trip together in college -- you know, one of those trips where the guys have to share rooms and share beds. He and I were in the same bed and I loved that. Every one of the nights we shared in the bed, there was naturally innocent touching that would happen when two people sleep together. But one night that I will never forget was when I had my hand on my bent knee and it maneuvered up into his crotch. I could feel that he had a hard on, and it twitched against my hand. I was so tempted to jerk him off right there. I always wondered if he was awake and what might have happened.

What was I thinking? He was hopelessly straight.

by Anonymousreply 11701/29/2014

A friend of mine put in an ad once looking for a roommate. He put in it that he was gay and was looking for a male roommate. Quite a few straight guys turned up. Of course he asked them why they'd contemplate living with a gay guy and unanimously they said they'd like a nice, clean, well kept place to live in without the hazzle of a woman. He shared with a pretty hot straight guy for a couple of years, but according to him they were more like brothers and it never occured to him to put the move on the straight guy. I tried once when we were all in the apt watching football and being quite drunk. But the guy turned me down - in a very nice manner though.

by Anonymousreply 11801/29/2014

R113 You should send that precious little story to Nifty!

by Anonymousreply 11901/29/2014

I used to do some modeling in the 80's. We'd go to Europe for 4 to 6 weeks on junkets during the fashion season. Almost all of us were gay but there were always some straights in the group. We shared rooms, suites, etc... we were all naked around each other at some time or another - really wasn't a big deal for them or us... of course all the gays wanted to convert the straights but it never happened...

by Anonymousreply 12001/29/2014

[quote]Daily exposure nullifies any attraction.

Daily exposure (to straight, lazy, filthy, inconsiderate, loud, boring men) nullifies any attraction.

by Anonymousreply 12101/29/2014

After I left college, my first apartment was a share with two hot straight guys. They were alpha men adonises (or is it adoni?) who would always walk around shirtless. They practically reeked of testosterone. Drove me crazy. I'm a gay guy, not particularly good looking or outgoing, and it got to the point where I couldn't take it any longer and finally had to move out. I think they got clued into my lust when they'd catch me just staring at them.

by Anonymousreply 12201/29/2014

Apparently they do not have clean holes...

by Anonymousreply 12301/29/2014

A few interesting stories in this thread but it seems that most have no problem sharing with a hot straight guy.

by Anonymousreply 12402/04/2014

[quote]Of course he asked them why they'd contemplate living with a gay guy...

They seriously asked the guys why they would want to live with a gay guy? Do some gay guys really see themselves as Lepers to be avoided? Good lord.

by Anonymousreply 12502/04/2014

I do already. I don't find straight men attractive because I'm not a masochist.

by Anonymousreply 12602/04/2014

I have shared and I fell in love. It wasn't that he was just a 'hot straight guy' but because his personality just clicked with me. It didn't help that he felt the connection, too, and it became habit for us to watch tv having legs in other's lap or sometimes even spooning. I'd say he was slightly curious but he didn't want to do anything too gay, and he did have girlfriends during the time we lived together. It didn't end well because I wanted more, and many times I've wished I would've just kept my distance because he really was a great guy and a good friend.

I've had some straight roommates who I didn't fancy at all and some that I did fancy to different degrees. But he was the only one that went wrong because I fancied him AND acted upon my feelings. I'm not sure I ever want to share an apartment with anyone else but with a lover anymore, though. But if I had to share with someone I'd say no to hot straight guys after having been through all the pain from the earlier.

by Anonymousreply 12702/04/2014

Why not?

by Anonymousreply 12802/05/2014

"My Gay Roommate" is a web series currently in its third season that follows the life and experiences of a gay man named Nick as he navigates the ups and downs of his young adult years.

In its first season, the series followed Nick during his freshman year of college, along with his straight roommate James, through defining moments such as losing his virginity and exploring the world of Grindr. Their relationship heavily mirrors that of co-creators Austin Bening and Noam Ash, who lived as roommates throughout four years of college.

by Anonymousreply 12906/19/2014


by Anonymousreply 13006/22/2014

yeah bro

by Anonymousreply 13110/12/2014

A hot straight man?

Only if he were straight to bed!

by Anonymousreply 13210/12/2014

I live with two hot straight dudes. Big deal

by Anonymousreply 13310/13/2014

Oh please. I have had several straight roommates that I would otherwise find attractive. When a friendship or roommate situation sets in any sexual attraction is long gone.

by Anonymousreply 13410/13/2014

Was this posted by a teen deep in a red state or a young fellow deep in a red state still living at home? What kind of gay man sits around at home pining over his straight roommate?

by Anonymousreply 13510/13/2014

I've lived with several hot straight guys, and I much prefer being roommates with a straight guy than a gay guy, and it's never been an issue.

Like R134 said, once that roommate relationship kicks in any sexual feelings usually go out the window. Hard to lust after the guy after he's left his dirty dishes in the sink for two days or forgets to take out the trash!

Still, in cramped NYC apts, a straight guy is always the smartest way to go.

by Anonymousreply 13610/13/2014

[quote]I live with two hot straight dudes.

Get photos of their cocks and post them here.


by Anonymousreply 13710/13/2014

[quote]I had an Adonis for a roommate when I was still in college and a virgin.

Back in 1972, when fey gay men were still using the term "Adonis"

by Anonymousreply 13810/13/2014

My Adonis roommate turned out to be anything but by the time spring quarter rolled around. Hunks are like anyone else, they can be slobs, inconsiderate, and tiring.

You get over their looks after the first week, then you get to know the personality.

Had he been a truly cool and nice person inside, it might have been frustrating. But I doubt it, because if there isn't a mutual connection, there is no spark.

I was happy to get a nw roommate in the Fall.

by Anonymousreply 13910/13/2014

I would seduce him eventually.

by Anonymousreply 14010/13/2014

Sure, I could even share an apt. with a hot gay guy without having sex.


by Anonymousreply 14110/13/2014

The question is, could he stand sharing an apartment with you?

by Anonymousreply 14210/13/2014

R139, did you bring home "tricks" when you were sharing living quarters with your "Adonis hunk?" Were you "femme" and into "rough trade" or were you "butch" yourself? What color bandana did you sport coming out of your back pocket?

by Anonymousreply 14310/13/2014

No. I work with a guy who's so hot. He doesn't know he's hot either, which makes him all the hotter.

He is "too much," to handle. I like to just look at him. I have to leave the room, he's almost like porn.

by Anonymousreply 14410/13/2014

I share an aptment with one now. Easy dude.

by Anonymousreply 14511/30/2014

I can't share a [italic] gym [/italic] with a hot straight guy I know.

He doles out those extra little tidbits of affection to me (the way Brian Kinney used to with Michael), just enough to get me where I'm thinking "maybe...[italic] someday [/italic] !"

I'm actually considering switching gyms to avoid him.

by Anonymousreply 14612/03/2014

I never ever saw any roommate of mine in his underwear or in the shower.

by Anonymousreply 14712/03/2014

r146, Brian Kinney was gay and I'm guessing the guy you're talking about is, too

by Anonymousreply 14812/03/2014

R146, I wish. And you never know.

Divorced twice, single dad, but he can't stop making gay jokes, gay references; he confided in me once that he 'tried it' (recently even), but it wasn't for him.

He's freakin' mid-30s. That's a little late to be experimenting.

by Anonymousreply 14912/03/2014

The OP's premise is a movie by Gregg Araki called KABOOM:

by Anonymousreply 15012/03/2014

In college I shared a house with three hot straight guys. Was it frustrating? A little but I was getting plenty of action elsewhere so it wasn't like I didn't have any outlets. I did develop a little bit of a crush on one of them but it didn't last. I'm still very close with two of them.

by Anonymousreply 15112/03/2014

I did once but ended up jacking off sniffing his work boots and jacking off on his sneakers.

by Anonymousreply 15212/03/2014

I have, but I was closeted and kept my distance.

The most excruciating was when he asked me to help him house sit for a friend and got in the hot tub.

He unloaded all his girl problems on me ;)

by Anonymousreply 15312/06/2014

Don't stop now, R153. Tell us more about the unloading.

by Anonymousreply 15412/09/2014

Why couldn't you? The only people who could not are people who do not comply with boundaries or who are compulsive.

by Anonymousreply 15501/24/2015

I am doing that now

by Anonymousreply 15603/03/2015

I would sniff his underpants, but worry about skidmarks

by Anonymousreply 15703/03/2015

It would be nice if he was bi-curious and got touchy feely after a few drinks...

by Anonymousreply 15803/03/2015

Yes, in general. I think the only part that would be a problem was when one of us wanted to bring someone home to fool around with. I would feel bad about him having to hear the sounds of me and another guy hooking up. At least in my case it would be kind of hot to hear him hooking up, but for him, it would just be gross across the board when there are countless other straight guys he could be rooming with instead. I wouldn't want to listen to two lesbians going at it all night.

by Anonymousreply 15903/03/2015

It would only be a matter of time.

by Anonymousreply 16003/19/2015

I do, bro

by Anonymousreply 16105/01/2015

I only room with straight hot dudes. My thing

by Anonymousreply 16209/01/2015

Why would you see him naked in the shower? I have never seen anyone naked in the shower in my life. There is a thing called a lock and privacy. Look into it.

by Anonymousreply 16309/01/2015

I'm doing it now bro

by Anonymousreply 16411/07/2015

As long as I got to see his dick at least once, then I'd be okay. Maybe twice.

by Anonymousreply 16511/07/2015

The whole thing assumes hetero-superiority, the idea that straight men are more masculine/attractive. Which just gets back to internalized homophobia. There are many sites that cater to that fetish, with allegedly straight guys posting pics of their bare feet so you can imagine licking them. I'm totally open minded about kinky fetishes and have numerous ones myself, but I do think they're pathetic when based on internalized homophobia.

by Anonymousreply 16611/07/2015


by Anonymousreply 16701/06/2016

For sure

by Anonymousreply 16801/26/2016

I did it for a year with my college roommate. He would parade around in the nude in front of my gay friends when he came back from the shower. He loved every minute of it.

by Anonymousreply 16901/26/2016

I did, fortunately at the time I was getting all kinds of sex so didn't ever feel the need to make a move on him and his tight perky butt.

by Anonymousreply 17001/26/2016

My roommate is a hot straight athlete. No big deal. Almost all my friends are straight jocks. Stop acting so weird about hanging with normal dudes.

by Anonymousreply 17102/27/2016

I like living with straight guys - laid back, no drama. One was a former football player who, whenever we'd go out drinking, would come home to snack on peanut butter. I'm allergic, so he called it Gay Kryptonite. In return I'd point out that, having smelled his farts, I would NEVER go near his butt. I did crush on him emotionally, but there was no sexual interest, even when drinking.

by Anonymousreply 17202/27/2016

I would become too obsessed with his anus

by Anonymousreply 17302/27/2016

R33 - I totally agree that the "straight" boys want to bottom when it comes to anal - just my experience. Not my roomates - but roomates of friends - and I was happy to fuck them too. They usually blamed it on drugs -pot or tina - this is LA after all.. And YES - there are many gorgeous ones and YES they do fart and have dirty buttholes often. I overlooked it because they were/are so damn sexy..

by Anonymousreply 17403/09/2016

I would offer to take his selfies

by Anonymousreply 17503/11/2016

I room with two hot straight athletes. No problem at all. They also are very close friends, so it's no temptation. More like bros

by Anonymousreply 17606/03/2016

mysteriously missing jockstraps and underpants

by Anonymousreply 17707/07/2016

I've been in this situation. Of course you want to fuck him at first. That is natural. But very quickly you don't really see him that way anymore. At least, that was my experience. I'm hoping these posts about underwear or not being able to handle it are a joke.

by Anonymousreply 17807/07/2016

I already do

by Anonymousreply 17907/09/2016

I share a condo with a hot straight buff jock who walks around in tight boxer briefs and shirtless. My friends go wild when they see him, but I'm unphased because he's just my friend.

by Anonymousreply 18007/29/2016

I did this for 6 months, and nothing ever happened. But to be honest, I will say now that if nothing will happen, I would prefer living with another guy that I feel no attraction to. That would be better than living with a guy I feel an attraction to, but nothing could happen. It would just be more relaxed and comfortable if there was no attraction.

(The odd thing is that the guy still contacts me and still wants to get together and drops subtle hints. And I saw him at a family party over the holidays and he was kind of drunk and all over me. It was strange, but I didn't mind it. If he was interested he should have initiated something while he actually lived with me.)

by Anonymousreply 18107/29/2016

Of course I could. i understand the concept of boundaries and respect people's sexualities. Besides, I'd be far too busy being distraught that I was so poor as to have to share a rented domicile as an adult. That would be too much for me to handle.

by Anonymousreply 18207/29/2016

I would completely respect my hot roommate's privacy.

by Anonymousreply 18307/29/2016

[quote] smelling his manly scent wafting through the air,

What if he smelled more feminine, like lilacs, or jungle gardenia?

by Anonymousreply 18407/29/2016


by Anonymousreply 18508/12/2016

I am probably not the first who post this, but nothing can kill a crush on a hot straight guy faster than sharing an apartment with him. Messy and smelly pigs who don't bother cleaning up after themselves or too cocky where they fully intend to rely on their good looks (and charm) to get what they want (aka. you being their servant).

by Anonymousreply 18608/12/2016

Would be great

by Anonymousreply 18709/22/2016

I lived with superhot lacrosse and football players. No big deal because they were just bros.

by Anonymousreply 18802/05/2017

Don't lust over your roommate, man.

by Anonymousreply 18903/19/2017

If you're that into him, get him drunk and seduce him. All "straight" guys are a 6 pack away from going gay. But fucking your roommate ends up fucking yourself. Now that you've hooked-up the whole dynamic changes and he'll probably regret what he did (especially if he has a GF), become totally distant and try to avoid you. Hard to do when you're living under the same roof. Lust, but don't act upon it. Unless you 2 are going to become house bunnies for the foreseeable future.

by Anonymousreply 19003/19/2017

R190, what a vile creepy predatory thing to say.

by Anonymousreply 19103/19/2017

Obviously you can't fucking read R191. I advised restraint and NOT to sleep with the guy because of it's long term ramifications. Get your reading glasses out granny dear.

by Anonymousreply 19203/19/2017

I share one with a hot straight personal trainer who likes to walk around the house shirtless. He's a friend, so I don't cross the line

by Anonymousreply 19304/15/2017

OH yeah bro

by Anonymousreply 19404/15/2017

I shared a flat with my now-best friend for a few years when I started Uni. He was impossibly handsome and, yeah, the sight of him wandering through from his bedroom (which I nicknamed the Swamp, purely for the *smell*) in his CKs, scratching himself? Distracting. Thing is though, he knew that I fancied him and he didn't think anything of it. Put it simply: he was confident enough in his own skin not to be freaked out or intimidated or cruel enough to say or do anything. He was a damned good flatmate too. I had a pretty fucking terrifying experience with a guy I picked up at a bar one night and if my flatmate hadn't come home early from work, I'm damned fucking sure I'd have been either assaulted, or worse, raped.

by Anonymousreply 19504/15/2017

Dang dude

by Anonymousreply 19604/15/2017
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