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The word "eldergay"

Does it wound?

by Anonymousreply 6707/17/2014

Elder in many communities is a term of respect. If you're disrespect age, it doesn't come from the word. Two cliche's come to mind: it beats the alternative and sooner or later, with good fortune, all of you will be an elder.

by Anonymousreply 111/06/2011

[quote]Elder in many communities is a term of respect.

Yes, but eldergay is almost always used disparagingly.

by Anonymousreply 211/06/2011

I suppose nothing could be worse than being called an Eldergay Cunt.

by Anonymousreply 311/06/2011

a 13-year-old is an elder of an 11-year-old. The term is relative, unless you mean "elderly."

by Anonymousreply 411/06/2011

ElderBitch to you, squirt

by Anonymousreply 511/06/2011

Only if you are one and in denial about it.

by Anonymousreply 611/06/2011

I always take into consideration who is saying it, and it doesn't bother me at all.

by Anonymousreply 711/06/2011

I only find it annoying when directed at a 32 year old or something. Bitch, please.

by Anonymousreply 811/06/2011

r2 needs to review her punctuation.

by Anonymousreply 911/06/2011

It's appropriate to direct to those liars here who claim they don't think young guys are hot.

by Anonymousreply 1011/06/2011

R10, you arbiter of all gay honesty, pardon us for not sharing your passion for boys who look like they should have the word "Perdue" stamped on their little pimply bottoms.

by Anonymousreply 1111/06/2011

Retarded word.

by Anonymousreply 1211/06/2011

r11, your exaggerated bullshit gives away your dishonesty.

by Anonymousreply 1311/06/2011

It's alright. When did it begin, very recently?

by Anonymousreply 1411/06/2011

I like it, and I'm old. It sounds respectful, even it if isn't meant to be. It also sounds like pig latin.

by Anonymousreply 1511/06/2011

I made it up and first used it in a Lady Gaga thread.

by Anonymousreply 1611/06/2011

i think it's funny, I'm almost there (sobs).

by Anonymousreply 1711/06/2011

I'll be 42 at the end of the month, so I guess I'm entering "eldergay" territory (particularly since I love to post on Falcon Crest threads).

I like it. I'll wear it proudly.

by Anonymousreply 1811/06/2011

Wait? What's the cutoff point? Does a "Best If Used By" date appear on your forehead alerting everyone to your expiration date?

by Anonymousreply 1911/06/2011

I thought 30 was the cutover date to eldergay. That's what other threads have claimed.

by Anonymousreply 2011/06/2011

Lesbians don't have an issue with it, with all that croning bullshit from Michfest, right?

Also, without Elderdykes, who else would provide each season's fresh new crop of emotionally shattered babydykes ready to try their second serious realtionship?

by Anonymousreply 2111/06/2011

If I was a straight republican, I'd be so happy reading this thread.

by Anonymousreply 2211/06/2011

I turned 30 this year and am proud to be an official eldergay!

by Anonymousreply 2311/06/2011

My answer is a simple "no" which is not offered above as a choice.

by Anonymousreply 2411/06/2011

[quote]Yes, but eldergay is almost always used disparagingly.

Not true.

by Anonymousreply 2512/07/2011

30 is only eldergay if your 13. Get a grip bitch!

by Anonymousreply 2612/07/2011

We just had a thread on this. Nonetheless, I like the term and I like R1's response: if don't respect age you're not going to like the term.

Lesbian culture embraces the wisdom of the elders, once you get through the hot and heavy hormonal years, and women are seen as viable partners well into their older years. Trust me, I know.

Sadly, gay male culture doesn't share this view, although I'm sure many of my fellow DLers are exceptions to this rule. Not putting down the guys, just an observation.

by Anonymousreply 2712/07/2011

I believe this word is now banned on DL.

More proof they are ruining this place.

by Anonymousreply 2802/21/2013

I prefer "Old Queen", brah.

by Anonymousreply 2902/21/2013

I think it's meant to hurt. The kind of gays here on DL are terrified of getting old and also fear lack of acceptance. I think a lot of gays feel ugly inside so they have a HUGE obsession about other people's looks (too fat, too ugly etc.) & tell themselves that this generation (whatever that is- 20? 25? 35?) is different and that all their problems will disappear in time. Especially when elders gay & straight die. But the attitudes are often backward, narrow minded thinking.

by Anonymousreply 3002/21/2013

People who get upset being called names ON AN ANONYMOUS MESSAGE BOARD have more issues than a newsstand.

by Anonymousreply 3102/21/2013

I don't think we can use this word any more here. Thanks, elderly assholes!

by Anonymousreply 3205/11/2013

So far 51% prefer the term and they belong to the group.

by Anonymousreply 3305/12/2013

Elder Lesbians should be honored with "Doyenne" as part of a special name. Any suggestions?

by Anonymousreply 3405/12/2013

It empowers!!!! You dig where I'm coming from

by Anonymousreply 3505/12/2013

There must be a 90 day time limit on banned threads because, I believe, that this thread was given the "no longer exists" treatment but it has been successfully resurrected.

I like the term and find not only no offense but it represents the graying of the gay population.

Contrary to much crap put out that the unhealthy gay "lifestyle" leads to early death, plenty of us are marching into older age quite well.

by Anonymousreply 3605/12/2013

It doesn't bother me, and as a term I find it somewhat respectful and endearing. It's often used on DL to be nasty, but in that context, it just sounds ridiculous and makes the person using it look like an asshole.

by Anonymousreply 3705/12/2013


by Anonymousreply 3805/12/2013

It's used as an abusive term on DL.

by Anonymousreply 3905/12/2013

As R39 said. Fuck you, OP, for adding to the shit.

by Anonymousreply 4005/12/2013

[quote]The kind of gays here on DL are terrified of getting old

Of? By.

by Anonymousreply 4105/12/2013

WTF happened to the ban on the word? Webbie's system would turn in into some other words. Was it a temporary ban?

Is effem-i-nate still a banned word?

by Anonymousreply 4205/12/2013

I tried to use the two banned words in a sentence to see the result, but the test wouldn't post.

by Anonymousreply 4305/12/2013

I thought that the e-fem word was replaced with something like [immature word used by srt8 acting prolapsed anus' who used to bully out gay kids to hide their inner ballet dancer while sucking cock behind the football field dumster] when it was posted.

by Anonymousreply 4405/12/2013

They are now called velocifagtors and tricerbottoms.

by Anonymousreply 4505/12/2013

If you attempt to post with the elder-gai word, the post gets rejected.

by Anonymousreply 4605/12/2013

I guess it's better than troll.

by Anonymousreply 4705/12/2013

Elder lesbians are referred to as owls. Older, wiser lesbians.

by Anonymousreply 4805/12/2013

I like the "owl" description. Eldergai isn't a bad word, however, nasty people at DL ruined it by turning it into an attack word.

by Anonymousreply 4905/13/2013

R45 - that is fucking hilarious.

We should add Triceritops as the "ultra butch"

by Anonymousreply 5005/13/2013

I'm 48, and thought the elder gay thing was amusing and harmless, and it seemed to be embraced by many of us oldies. Not sure why the webbie felt he needed to ban its use.

by Anonymousreply 5105/13/2013

[quote]Not sure why the webbie felt he needed to ban its use.

Maybe the banned words had been used to attack the webbie at one time.

by Anonymousreply 5205/13/2013

I hate it because it's used as a lazy way to knock down anyone who knows anything that happened before 2000.

by Anonymousreply 5305/13/2013

ElderG does NOT wound! Webby should lift the ban. It is a perfectly appropriate created word.

by Anonymousreply 5405/13/2013


by Anonymousreply 5505/26/2013

It's hiss or miss.

by Anonymousreply 5605/26/2013

r56, too funny. Now I do not like the hisssssing elder gay. That is only a small percentage of the group no matter how over represented they may be here.

by Anonymousreply 5705/26/2013

They deserve this term. Such a whiny bunch they are.

by Anonymousreply 5803/04/2014

It's a word unique to this board and some people got overly sensitive, when the truth was that it was a word used mostly by older gay men.

by Anonymousreply 5903/04/2014


by Anonymousreply 6007/17/2014

I think it was banned after that "An e ldergay hissed at me" thread. I think that one got kind of nasty. I like the word and don't think it's generally used as an insult here.

by Anonymousreply 6107/17/2014

[quote] If you're disrespect age, it doesn't come from the word. Two cliche's come to

Jesus, R1, please repeat this to yourself 1,000 fucking times:

[bold][italic]Plurals do not require apostrophes![/bold][/italic]

As to "you're disprespect age" I have no fucking idea what you intended.

by Anonymousreply 6207/17/2014

The first time I saw the word used in a gay context was when I read about SAGE. Their name stands for "Services & Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transexual" Elders. I understand it is a very well respected organization with headquarters in New York and satellite office in several other major cities. It does not support individuals but rather does organizational and leadership development work.

by Anonymousreply 6307/17/2014


by Anonymousreply 6407/17/2014

Now now, one must have a sense of humour about such things. Now where are my reading glasses?

by Anonymousreply 6507/17/2014

I'm 31. Am I also an "el dergay?"

by Anonymousreply 6607/17/2014

Most of the time it's not offensive. At DL it's mostly used as an attack/insult.

by Anonymousreply 6707/17/2014
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