Does it wound?
The word "eldergay"
|by Anonymous||reply 67||07/17/2014|
Elder in many communities is a term of respect. If you're disrespect age, it doesn't come from the word. Two cliche's come to mind: it beats the alternative and sooner or later, with good fortune, all of you will be an elder.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||11/06/2011|
[quote]Elder in many communities is a term of respect.
Yes, but eldergay is almost always used disparagingly.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||11/06/2011|
I suppose nothing could be worse than being called an Eldergay Cunt.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||11/06/2011|
a 13-year-old is an elder of an 11-year-old. The term is relative, unless you mean "elderly."
|by Anonymous||reply 4||11/06/2011|
ElderBitch to you, squirt
|by Anonymous||reply 5||11/06/2011|
Only if you are one and in denial about it.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||11/06/2011|
I always take into consideration who is saying it, and it doesn't bother me at all.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||11/06/2011|
I only find it annoying when directed at a 32 year old or something. Bitch, please.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||11/06/2011|
r2 needs to review her punctuation.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||11/06/2011|
It's appropriate to direct to those liars here who claim they don't think young guys are hot.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||11/06/2011|
R10, you arbiter of all gay honesty, pardon us for not sharing your passion for boys who look like they should have the word "Perdue" stamped on their little pimply bottoms.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||11/06/2011|
|by Anonymous||reply 12||11/06/2011|
r11, your exaggerated bullshit gives away your dishonesty.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||11/06/2011|
It's alright. When did it begin, very recently?
|by Anonymous||reply 14||11/06/2011|
I like it, and I'm old. It sounds respectful, even it if isn't meant to be. It also sounds like pig latin.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||11/06/2011|
I made it up and first used it in a Lady Gaga thread.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||11/06/2011|
i think it's funny, I'm almost there (sobs).
|by Anonymous||reply 17||11/06/2011|
I'll be 42 at the end of the month, so I guess I'm entering "eldergay" territory (particularly since I love to post on Falcon Crest threads).
I like it. I'll wear it proudly.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||11/06/2011|
Wait? What's the cutoff point? Does a "Best If Used By" date appear on your forehead alerting everyone to your expiration date?
|by Anonymous||reply 19||11/06/2011|
I thought 30 was the cutover date to eldergay. That's what other threads have claimed.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||11/06/2011|
Lesbians don't have an issue with it, with all that croning bullshit from Michfest, right?
Also, without Elderdykes, who else would provide each season's fresh new crop of emotionally shattered babydykes ready to try their second serious realtionship?
|by Anonymous||reply 21||11/06/2011|
If I was a straight republican, I'd be so happy reading this thread.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||11/06/2011|
I turned 30 this year and am proud to be an official eldergay!
|by Anonymous||reply 23||11/06/2011|
My answer is a simple "no" which is not offered above as a choice.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||11/06/2011|
[quote]Yes, but eldergay is almost always used disparagingly.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||12/07/2011|
30 is only eldergay if your 13. Get a grip bitch!
|by Anonymous||reply 26||12/07/2011|
We just had a thread on this. Nonetheless, I like the term and I like R1's response: if don't respect age you're not going to like the term.
Lesbian culture embraces the wisdom of the elders, once you get through the hot and heavy hormonal years, and women are seen as viable partners well into their older years. Trust me, I know.
Sadly, gay male culture doesn't share this view, although I'm sure many of my fellow DLers are exceptions to this rule. Not putting down the guys, just an observation.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||12/07/2011|
I believe this word is now banned on DL.
More proof they are ruining this place.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||02/21/2013|
I prefer "Old Queen", brah.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||02/21/2013|
I think it's meant to hurt. The kind of gays here on DL are terrified of getting old and also fear lack of acceptance. I think a lot of gays feel ugly inside so they have a HUGE obsession about other people's looks (too fat, too ugly etc.) & tell themselves that this generation (whatever that is- 20? 25? 35?) is different and that all their problems will disappear in time. Especially when elders gay & straight die. But the attitudes are often backward, narrow minded thinking.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||02/21/2013|
People who get upset being called names ON AN ANONYMOUS MESSAGE BOARD have more issues than a newsstand.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||02/21/2013|
I don't think we can use this word any more here. Thanks, elderly assholes!
|by Anonymous||reply 32||05/11/2013|
So far 51% prefer the term and they belong to the group.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||05/12/2013|
Elder Lesbians should be honored with "Doyenne" as part of a special name. Any suggestions?
|by Anonymous||reply 34||05/12/2013|
It empowers!!!! You dig where I'm coming from
|by Anonymous||reply 35||05/12/2013|
There must be a 90 day time limit on banned threads because, I believe, that this thread was given the "no longer exists" treatment but it has been successfully resurrected.
I like the term and find not only no offense but it represents the graying of the gay population.
Contrary to much crap put out that the unhealthy gay "lifestyle" leads to early death, plenty of us are marching into older age quite well.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||05/12/2013|
It doesn't bother me, and as a term I find it somewhat respectful and endearing. It's often used on DL to be nasty, but in that context, it just sounds ridiculous and makes the person using it look like an asshole.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||05/12/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 38||05/12/2013|
It's used as an abusive term on DL.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||05/12/2013|
As R39 said. Fuck you, OP, for adding to the shit.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||05/12/2013|
[quote]The kind of gays here on DL are terrified of getting old
|by Anonymous||reply 41||05/12/2013|
WTF happened to the ban on the word? Webbie's system would turn in into some other words. Was it a temporary ban?
Is effem-i-nate still a banned word?
|by Anonymous||reply 42||05/12/2013|
I tried to use the two banned words in a sentence to see the result, but the test wouldn't post.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||05/12/2013|
I thought that the e-fem word was replaced with something like [immature word used by srt8 acting prolapsed anus' who used to bully out gay kids to hide their inner ballet dancer while sucking cock behind the football field dumster] when it was posted.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||05/12/2013|
They are now called velocifagtors and tricerbottoms.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||05/12/2013|
If you attempt to post with the elder-gai word, the post gets rejected.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||05/12/2013|
I guess it's better than troll.
|by Anonymous||reply 47||05/12/2013|
Elder lesbians are referred to as owls. Older, wiser lesbians.
|by Anonymous||reply 48||05/12/2013|
I like the "owl" description. Eldergai isn't a bad word, however, nasty people at DL ruined it by turning it into an attack word.
|by Anonymous||reply 49||05/13/2013|
R45 - that is fucking hilarious.
We should add Triceritops as the "ultra butch"
|by Anonymous||reply 50||05/13/2013|
I'm 48, and thought the elder gay thing was amusing and harmless, and it seemed to be embraced by many of us oldies. Not sure why the webbie felt he needed to ban its use.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||05/13/2013|
[quote]Not sure why the webbie felt he needed to ban its use.
Maybe the banned words had been used to attack the webbie at one time.
|by Anonymous||reply 52||05/13/2013|
I hate it because it's used as a lazy way to knock down anyone who knows anything that happened before 2000.
|by Anonymous||reply 53||05/13/2013|
ElderG does NOT wound! Webby should lift the ban. It is a perfectly appropriate created word.
|by Anonymous||reply 54||05/13/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 55||05/26/2013|
It's hiss or miss.
|by Anonymous||reply 56||05/26/2013|
r56, too funny. Now I do not like the hisssssing elder gay. That is only a small percentage of the group no matter how over represented they may be here.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||05/26/2013|
They deserve this term. Such a whiny bunch they are.
|by Anonymous||reply 58||03/04/2014|
It's a word unique to this board and some people got overly sensitive, when the truth was that it was a word used mostly by older gay men.
|by Anonymous||reply 59||03/04/2014|
|by Anonymous||reply 60||07/17/2014|
I think it was banned after that "An e ldergay hissed at me" thread. I think that one got kind of nasty. I like the word and don't think it's generally used as an insult here.
|by Anonymous||reply 61||07/17/2014|
[quote] If you're disrespect age, it doesn't come from the word. Two cliche's come to
Jesus, R1, please repeat this to yourself 1,000 fucking times:
[bold][italic]Plurals do not require apostrophes![/bold][/italic]
As to "you're disprespect age" I have no fucking idea what you intended.
|by Anonymous||reply 62||07/17/2014|
The first time I saw the word used in a gay context was when I read about SAGE. Their name stands for "Services & Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transexual" Elders. I understand it is a very well respected organization with headquarters in New York and satellite office in several other major cities. It does not support individuals but rather does organizational and leadership development work.
|by Anonymous||reply 63||07/17/2014|
|by Anonymous||reply 64||07/17/2014|
Now now, one must have a sense of humour about such things. Now where are my reading glasses?
|by Anonymous||reply 65||07/17/2014|
I'm 31. Am I also an "el dergay?"
|by Anonymous||reply 66||07/17/2014|
Most of the time it's not offensive. At DL it's mostly used as an attack/insult.
|by Anonymous||reply 67||07/17/2014|