The word "eldergay"

Elder in many communities is a term of respect. If you're disrespect age, it doesn't come from the word. Two cliche's come to mind: it beats the alternative and sooner or later, with good fortune, all of you will be an elder.

[quote]Elder in many communities is a term of respect.

Yes, but eldergay is almost always used disparagingly.

I suppose nothing could be worse than being called an Eldergay Cunt.

a 13-year-old is an elder of an 11-year-old. The term is relative, unless you mean "elderly."

ElderBitch to you, squirt

Only if you are one and in denial about it.

I always take into consideration who is saying it, and it doesn't bother me at all.

I only find it annoying when directed at a 32 year old or something. Bitch, please.

r2 needs to review her punctuation.

It's appropriate to direct to those liars here who claim they don't think young guys are hot.

R10, you arbiter of all gay honesty, pardon us for not sharing your passion for boys who look like they should have the word "Perdue" stamped on their little pimply bottoms.

Retarded word.

r11, your exaggerated bullshit gives away your dishonesty.

It's alright. When did it begin, very recently?

I like it, and I'm old. It sounds respectful, even it if isn't meant to be. It also sounds like pig latin.

I made it up and first used it in a Lady Gaga thread.

i think it's funny, I'm almost there (sobs).

I'll be 42 at the end of the month, so I guess I'm entering "eldergay" territory (particularly since I love to post on Falcon Crest threads).

I like it. I'll wear it proudly.

Wait? What's the cutoff point? Does a "Best If Used By" date appear on your forehead alerting everyone to your expiration date?

I thought 30 was the cutover date to eldergay. That's what other threads have claimed.

Lesbians don't have an issue with it, with all that croning bullshit from Michfest, right?

Also, without Elderdykes, who else would provide each season's fresh new crop of emotionally shattered babydykes ready to try their second serious realtionship?

If I was a straight republican, I'd be so happy reading this thread.

I turned 30 this year and am proud to be an official eldergay!

My answer is a simple "no" which is not offered above as a choice.

[quote]Yes, but eldergay is almost always used disparagingly.

Not true.

30 is only eldergay if your 13. Get a grip bitch!

We just had a thread on this. Nonetheless, I like the term and I like R1's response: if don't respect age you're not going to like the term.

Lesbian culture embraces the wisdom of the elders, once you get through the hot and heavy hormonal years, and women are seen as viable partners well into their older years. Trust me, I know.

Sadly, gay male culture doesn't share this view, although I'm sure many of my fellow DLers are exceptions to this rule. Not putting down the guys, just an observation.

I believe this word is now banned on DL.

More proof they are ruining this place.

I prefer "Old Queen", brah.

I think it's meant to hurt. The kind of gays here on DL are terrified of getting old and also fear lack of acceptance. I think a lot of gays feel ugly inside so they have a HUGE obsession about other people's looks (too fat, too ugly etc.) & tell themselves that this generation (whatever that is- 20? 25? 35?) is different and that all their problems will disappear in time. Especially when elders gay & straight die. But the attitudes are often backward, narrow minded thinking.

People who get upset being called names ON AN ANONYMOUS MESSAGE BOARD have more issues than a newsstand.

I don't think we can use this word any more here. Thanks, elderly assholes!

So far 51% prefer the term and they belong to the group.

Elder Lesbians should be honored with "Doyenne" as part of a special name. Any suggestions?

It empowers!!!! You dig where I'm coming from

There must be a 90 day time limit on banned threads because, I believe, that this thread was given the "no longer exists" treatment but it has been successfully resurrected.

I like the term and find not only no offense but it represents the graying of the gay population.

Contrary to much crap put out that the unhealthy gay "lifestyle" leads to early death, plenty of us are marching into older age quite well.

It doesn't bother me, and as a term I find it somewhat respectful and endearing. It's often used on DL to be nasty, but in that context, it just sounds ridiculous and makes the person using it look like an asshole.

Edrusgays.

It's used as an abusive term on DL.

As R39 said. Fuck you, OP, for adding to the shit.

[quote]The kind of gays here on DL are terrified of getting old

Of? By.

WTF happened to the ban on the word? Webbie's system would turn in into some other words. Was it a temporary ban?

Is effem-i-nate still a banned word?

I tried to use the two banned words in a sentence to see the result, but the test wouldn't post.

I thought that the e-fem word was replaced with something like [immature word used by srt8 acting prolapsed anus' who used to bully out gay kids to hide their inner ballet dancer while sucking cock behind the football field dumster] when it was posted.

They are now called velocifagtors and tricerbottoms.

If you attempt to post with the elder-gai word, the post gets rejected.

I guess it's better than troll.

Elder lesbians are referred to as owls. Older, wiser lesbians.

I like the "owl" description. Eldergai isn't a bad word, however, nasty people at DL ruined it by turning it into an attack word.

R45 - that is fucking hilarious.

We should add Triceritops as the "ultra butch"

I'm 48, and thought the elder gay thing was amusing and harmless, and it seemed to be embraced by many of us oldies. Not sure why the webbie felt he needed to ban its use.

[quote]Not sure why the webbie felt he needed to ban its use.

Maybe the banned words had been used to attack the webbie at one time.

I hate it because it's used as a lazy way to knock down anyone who knows anything that happened before 2000.

ElderG does NOT wound! Webby should lift the ban. It is a perfectly appropriate created word.

paleobump

It's hiss or miss.

r56, too funny. Now I do not like the hisssssing elder gay. That is only a small percentage of the group no matter how over represented they may be here.

They deserve this term. Such a whiny bunch they are.

It's a word unique to this board and some people got overly sensitive, when the truth was that it was a word used mostly by older gay men.

Hisssss!

I think it was banned after that "An e ldergay hissed at me" thread. I think that one got kind of nasty. I like the word and don't think it's generally used as an insult here.

[quote] If you're disrespect age, it doesn't come from the word. Two cliche's come to

Jesus, R1, please repeat this to yourself 1,000 fucking times:

[bold][italic]Plurals do not require apostrophes![/bold][/italic]

As to "you're disprespect age" I have no fucking idea what you intended.

The first time I saw the word used in a gay context was when I read about SAGE. Their name stands for "Services & Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transexual" Elders. I understand it is a very well respected organization with headquarters in New York and satellite office in several other major cities. It does not support individuals but rather does organizational and leadership development work.

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Now now, one must have a sense of humour about such things. Now where are my reading glasses?

I'm 31. Am I also an "el dergay?"

Most of the time it's not offensive. At DL it's mostly used as an attack/insult.

Am I an eldergay?

You know the difference between eldergays and younger gays?

Younger gays use "eldergay" as an insult...

And elder gays simply don't care because most of us were called a lot worse while growing up and learned basic coping skills.

We wouldn't have survived if something as trivial as "eldgargay" even hit the radar.

It's better than "queer."