Flirting with a straight man
I took a cooking class and I thought the chef was a hottie. I saw him in his t shirt before he put on the white coat and felt lust in my heart. He did not really flirt back but seemed receptive with smiles etc.
When he left the room for a minute one of other students who knew him told me that he was straight and very married.
After the class I apologized and he said that one should never apologize for being complimentary and kind. I think he meant it.
I wish everyone felt this way.
|by Anonymous||reply 163||01/02/2017|
He's totally whooping on you after class.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||04/20/2011|
What does it mean to be whooping on someone?
|by Anonymous||reply 2||04/20/2011|
You apologized for flirting?
|by Anonymous||reply 3||04/20/2011|
What the hell did OP do? Flit her eyelashes and twirl her hair?
|by Anonymous||reply 4||04/20/2011|
Was the "other student"'s name Cheryl?
|by Anonymous||reply 5||04/20/2011|
OP, for gods sake you didn't do anything wrong.
You are way to hard on yourself. I'm sure a good looking man like that gets flirted with a lot. He's a grown up and works as a chef. Put two and two together. He is probably around gay men and woman all day long.
Don't feel guilty.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||04/20/2011|
I was going to type the same exact thing as R3.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||04/20/2011|
He sounds like a nice guy. Maybe you can still trick him into bed with you. Bribes are also an option.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||04/20/2011|
Buttering your bundt pan like that was probably a little over the top, OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||04/20/2011|
Totally hawt men are always a little gay, OP.%0D %0D Keep at it, and at the least, you'll probably get to blow him.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||04/20/2011|
Unless you grabbed his junk while flirting, there was no need to apologize.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||04/20/2011|
Well, maybe you are just too...ugly...for him, OP?
|by Anonymous||reply 14||04/23/2011|
[quote]He's the epitome of bi.
Oh, god, the "epitome of bi" troll has escaped from his "home" and is back online. :-(
|by Anonymous||reply 16||04/23/2011|
"Totally hawt men are always a little gay, OP.'%0D %0D No they're not, Noodles. %0D %0D
|by Anonymous||reply 17||04/23/2011|
Did we lose responses during the downtime?
|by Anonymous||reply 18||04/23/2011|
Have straight men/women ever flirted with you?
|by Anonymous||reply 19||05/03/2012|
I almost only flirt with straight dudes.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||07/02/2013|
He just likes attention, OP.
Alot of people who are a little narcissistic or have a career based on pleasing others thrive on attention, compliments, and praise. So OP, if u were giving him compliments on things other than his cooking, he probably really appreciated it for a change, instead of praise about his food.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||07/02/2013|
I'll scramble your hole after class, OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||07/02/2013|
[all posts by flame bait troll #11 removed (violent racist homophobic right-wing misogynist), ISP notified with full text of all posts.]
|by Anonymous||reply 25||07/02/2013|
[quote]He did not really flirt back but seemed receptive with smiles etc.
I think most men seem receptive with paying customers.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||07/02/2013|
Your flirting was so blatant that third parties intervened? You sound like a real class act.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||07/02/2013|
Lust is typically felt in one's loins and love in the heart.
So which one was it?
|by Anonymous||reply 28||07/02/2013|
Putting lipstick on your asshole in full view of the class probably wasn't the best way to go about flirting.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||07/02/2013|
He was nice about it because he sees you as easy cash. He knows you think he's eye candy and you'll keep coming back just to stare at him. He's hoping you'll also bring some of your gay friends so he'll be able to afford that vacation he's been promising his bitch they'd go on.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||07/02/2013|
As a straight male preyed upon by closet cases forever, I'd say don't do it.
We don't want gays, we're not gay, we don't need your sex-addicted mnd trying to convince us otherwise, we don't hate you, we're not afraid of you, and if you think we aren't tolerant, women have other men beat the living shit out of men who can't take a hint from them.
Have a nice queer day.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||07/02/2013|
Who cares. Your gay/the chef straight-BTW: does he have a wedding ring?
If so, keep stepping. Find someone who is available. And not pining after someone who isn't-or if available, doesn't meet the fantasy ideal of him you've concocted.
Point blank, you don't know him. Get to know him first, then pine after him if he is receptive and available.
Plenty of fish in the sea.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||07/02/2013|
And yet r31 finds himself on a gay message board, you know, just hanging out.
Poor guy! "Preyed upon"! Usually the guys who think all the gay guys want him is a hideous troll who takes great pains to hide his junk when changing in the locker room, when in reality NO ONE wants his ugly ass.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||07/02/2013|
You do know this is a gay commenting board, Right?
I sense a recurring trend here.
Based off your visit, and the post you left for us sickly/perverted/hyper sexual-aggressive predators- I'm left with a a certain impression:
That, you troll nightclubs and other establishments for gay men...only to be insulted when they make a pass at you. That is sound logic there.
Yes. YOU ARE VERY HETERO! STRAIGHT-GUY/TOUGH-GUY; Manly-man. And us "fag" predators can't have you!
|by Anonymous||reply 34||07/02/2013|
[quote]We don't want gays, we're not gay, we don't need your sex-addicted mnd trying to convince us otherwise, we don't hate you, we're not afraid of you, and if you think we aren't tolerant, women have other men beat the living shit out of men who can't take a hint from them.
You are deeply disturbed.
|by Anonymous||reply 35||07/02/2013|
I think R31 is likely an actor, a model or an altar boy. Who else would be in a position to be constantly preyed upon by closet cases?
|by Anonymous||reply 36||07/02/2013|
Mental illness runs in families.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||07/02/2013|
R31 has a point and this is coming from a gayan. Why would gay guys go after guys that they know are straight and then cry homophobia when they're rebuked?
A straight guy will never ever ever hook up with another dude, shit they would pay a gorgeous call girl if they were desperate enough for no strings attached sex
Queeny delusional gay who flirt with amd try to hook up with men that they know are straight embarass me and set the gay rights movement back 50 years.
And if they take it one step further by touching a straight guy in an inappropriate way, they DESERVE to get the shit beat out of them.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||07/02/2013|
[quote] Why would gay guys go after guys that they know are straight and then cry homophobia when they're rebuked?
They wouldn't and they don't. Where is the fantasy that this happens coming from?
|by Anonymous||reply 40||07/02/2013|
R39, homophobic about yourself much?
Deserve to get the shit beat out of them?
No one deserves to be assaulted unless you are in fear for your life. Woman get flirted with all the time by men. I am sure not every unwanted touch ends in violence.
If you are straight or gay it dose not matter. Push the guys hand away and say you are not interested. He will get the hint.
As for you R39, Please seek some therapy for that internalized homophobia and self hate.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||07/02/2013|
R41 look asswipe I said if a guy sexually assaulted another guy (like grabbing his junk) without consent, they deserve to get a beatdown and most people would agree with me
If a dude groped a woman and the woman hit him with her purse or even got a good punch in that would be OK wouldn't it? She is defending herself
|by Anonymous||reply 42||07/02/2013|
Apparently, R42 has not sought counseling yet as I suggested.
Look at the rage and anger in his response. Clinical example of projection of self hatred.
He obviously has never been around women in a straight bar. They do not clock off guys left and right with their purses. If anything they call the bartender and have the guy kicked out.
How old are you? This is not 1950, get a grip.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||07/02/2013|
What is a "gayan," R39 R42?
|by Anonymous||reply 44||07/02/2013|
A citizen of Planet Gay, duh.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||07/02/2013|
No, not "duh," R45. He might have been a bro. Or a goy. Or one of those other ungay gays. HTF do I know what a "gayan" is?
|by Anonymous||reply 46||07/02/2013|
[quote] No, not "duh." . . . HTF do I know what a "gayan" is?
Hint: There is no Planet Gay.
|by Anonymous||reply 47||07/02/2013|
That was Julie in OP's class. The chef is gay as a goose but Julie thought it would be fun set the trap and sit back and watch.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||07/02/2013|
R42 only if it's been clearly defined they don't want it. Straight men often flirt with gays and only go into the "oh no, not that" routine later, after their orgasm.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||07/02/2013|
whatever, r51. straight dudes don't do gay dudes.
|by Anonymous||reply 52||07/02/2013|
How do you know for sure? Did you try to do one?
|by Anonymous||reply 53||07/02/2013|
[quote]felt lust in my heart
Who are you, Jimmy Carter?
|by Anonymous||reply 54||07/02/2013|
I love it when flirt dudes flirt with me first. Hot
|by Anonymous||reply 55||07/13/2013|
You never know what will get bumped two years later.
|by Anonymous||reply 56||07/15/2013|
I only flirt with straight, bi, or DL bros.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||07/18/2013|
If you think that anyone is going to flirt with a swishy effem-inate, then you have another think coming.
|by Anonymous||reply 58||07/18/2013|
How embarrassing for you, OP. You actually openly flirted with the instructor during class, in front of everyone, to the point where a classmate had to point out that you weren't going to get anywhere?
You sound like a hot mess.
|by Anonymous||reply 59||07/19/2013|
[quote]and if you think we aren't tolerant, women have other men beat the living shit out of men who can't take a hint from them.
Who? Who has "other men beat the living shit out of men who can't take a hint from them"? Who are these people? How do you know of them? Because it sounds like the plot of a bad TV movie, not an actual "thing". Bull-fucking-shit, "straight guy". No ones buying that.
Here's a clue, straight asshole who hangs out on gay websites bemoaning attention from closet-cases while channeling Lifetime movie plots for added drama: gay bashing IS a thing, it's something many gay people have experienced first hand and it happens everyday from playgrounds to boardrooms. So don't come here and spin some bullshit yarn about mafia princesses or "women on the verge" hiring hitmen to beat up unwanted suitors. You are a jackass of the highest order if you think such bullshit is relevant on a thread about actual, cool straight people who don't mind the occasional gay flirt.
Also: everyone knows you're gay. Your repressed homosexuality can be seen rom space.
|by Anonymous||reply 60||07/19/2013|
[post by racist shit-stain #3 removed.]
|by Anonymous||reply 62||07/19/2013|
flirting is only fun if the other person reciprocates
|by Anonymous||reply 66||07/30/2013|
Op didn't do anything wrong. This is the way people should react. Tons of people get hit on by people they're not in to, it's only apology worthy if you keep doing it even after finding out someones not receptive.
|by Anonymous||reply 67||07/30/2013|
Don't view your straight male friends as objects of lust or flirtation. Respect people for who they are.
|by Anonymous||reply 69||08/15/2013|
tell us your true stories, dudes
|by Anonymous||reply 71||09/03/2013|
If someone had to tell OP that the man was straight and married to get it to stop than OP made an ass of himself.
|by Anonymous||reply 72||09/03/2013|
"Death to [R31]."
Oh leave the poor dear alone. R31 is a 15 year old girl with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome playing on the computer while diddling herself thru her cotton panties.
|by Anonymous||reply 73||09/03/2013|
It's flattering if someone flirts with you. Don't apologize.
|by Anonymous||reply 74||09/03/2013|
Another example of the demise of DL. Why would someone bump a two year old thread that wasn't all that interesting when it originally appeared.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||09/03/2013|
In my experience, a 100% "straight man" is a rare find indeed, As rare as a Macedonian dodo bird.
Keep at it, OP. If he smiled at you while you flirted, he's open to having you suck his cock after a few beers.
That nosy bitch in your class is just jealous and has no idea that Hot Chef enjoys the occasional meat dish.
|by Anonymous||reply 76||09/03/2013|
What if he doesn't drink beer?
|by Anonymous||reply 77||09/04/2013|
OP: You are a CUSTOMER, paying for his time.
|by Anonymous||reply 78||09/04/2013|
[quote]What if he doesn't drink beer?
Then drink whatever he's drinking. And ask him a lot of questions about himself; they love it when someone wants to make the evening all about them. And it helps a lot if you pay at the end.
Then invite them over for some weed (or to watch some straight porn, or whatever game is on that night).
Works 9/10 times for me.
|by Anonymous||reply 79||09/04/2013|
Outside of the gym context, or any other place where men get nude, do straight men check out other men's package?
|by Anonymous||reply 80||09/04/2013|
R80, I'm a gay-identifying asexual man, and I never check out other men's packages.
|by Anonymous||reply 81||09/04/2013|
A 100% gay man is a rare creature as well, r76, despite what many gay men want to believe!
|by Anonymous||reply 82||09/04/2013|
r76, you sound desperate, thirsty, and slutty, bro.
|by Anonymous||reply 84||09/04/2013|
Why thank you, R84. I live to pleasure!
|by Anonymous||reply 85||09/04/2013|
Flirt dudes straight with me.
|by Anonymous||reply 88||11/18/2013|
I love lightly flirting with attractive straight dudes. It boosts both our egos.
|by Anonymous||reply 90||11/26/2013|
If a hot straight guy notices you looking at him in the gym, and then keeps adjusting his package and flashing his abs, knowing quite well that you are staring (and salivating!), does that mean he wants you? Please say that is what he intents.
|by Anonymous||reply 91||11/26/2013|
Any Youtube videos of this?
|by Anonymous||reply 92||12/06/2013|
Yestreday at zgym this superhot guy in late teens went to water fountain before goign to shower. He had a mouthwatering upper body. My locker was right next to fountain so I took in an eyefull. i know he saw me oogling him, and he pretended not to notice, but he started flexing his pecs. I think he liked the attenton.
|by Anonymous||reply 93||12/06/2013|
[quote]Why would gay guys go after guys that they know are straight
Because straight guys are real men, and that's what we all want. I'm only attracted to straight guys. The minute a guy says he's gay, or I get any inkling of such, my dick goes limp.
And who doesn't love it when the straight guy gets a little rough? It's part of the attraction.
|by Anonymous||reply 94||12/06/2013|
[quote]Because straight guys are real men..
When did Kordell Stewart start posting on Data Lounge?
|by Anonymous||reply 95||12/06/2013|
If a straight guy is horny enough, he'll at least let you blow him.
|by Anonymous||reply 96||12/06/2013|
That's been my experience, r96. And those times when you get the privilege of blowing a straight guy, it's just amazing. Again, it's a real privilege.
|by Anonymous||reply 97||12/06/2013|
I especially love when a straight guy calls me filthy names when he cums on my face.
|by Anonymous||reply 98||12/06/2013|
I like to flirt with random hot dudes on subway who appear non-gay.
|by Anonymous||reply 101||05/02/2014|
I don't think r31, is a straight man at all. The language reads like a straight woman. Pay attention to the language and sentence formation people. I think she either has a man that has made her question his sexuality or she actually is with a closet case. No way this reads like a man wrote it. This coming from a woman, frauen, if you like.
|by Anonymous||reply 102||05/02/2014|
Ugh that sux! MWC. Married with children.
Of course that doesn't neeeeeeccccceeesssssaaaaarrrrrriiiillllyyyyyyy mean...
|by Anonymous||reply 106||06/19/2014|
[quote]When he left the room for a minute one of other students who knew him told me that he was straight and very married.
Wow. You must work some kind of subtle.
|by Anonymous||reply 107||06/19/2014|
[quote] I like to flirt with random hot dudes on subway who appear non-gay.
I completely undress them with my eyes
|by Anonymous||reply 108||06/19/2014|
If a dude identifies as straight, I always let him initiate and lead the flirting.
|by Anonymous||reply 111||07/11/2014|
I'm the opposite. I flirt shamelessly with a avowed straight guy. He's of course off the hook as far as reciprocating.
|by Anonymous||reply 112||07/11/2014|
R108 Me too and the way they know I am undressing them. I mean only the hot guys, who seems to like and enjoy it.
|by Anonymous||reply 113||07/11/2014|
Only flirt with people who flirt with you
|by Anonymous||reply 117||07/29/2014|
:complimentary and KIND"?!?!?!?
]bold] MARY!! [/bold] [italic] YOO HOOOOOO!!!! [/italic]
Ya wanted to suck his cock, Miss THANG!!!
"complimentary and kind" OH MY SIDES!!!!
|by Anonymous||reply 118||07/29/2014|
Frankie on Big Brother is embarrassing trying to get dudes who clearly do not identify as gay to have sex with him. Have some self respect.
|by Anonymous||reply 119||08/04/2014|
You can't bake your cake and eat it, too.
|by Anonymous||reply 120||08/04/2014|
I'm an old gay guy over 50 and we have a young straight guy that is so hot it's ridiculous. I thought I was impotent for the last ten years, but when he was around I had to hide my shame and run in the bathroom.
And he has no idea he is even hot, which makes him all the more hotter.
He's only 22, but man I am so grateful when he's not around so I can go back to being old.
|by Anonymous||reply 121||08/04/2014|
As more bi/gay dudes are open to their straight bros, I wonder how prevalent romantic overturns between the groups.
|by Anonymous||reply 123||08/20/2014|
I like to flirt with straight Arab and Hispanic dudes.
|by Anonymous||reply 124||09/07/2014|
I was just to post about Arabs, R124. I was just in Middle East recently and it's so funny how easy it is to flirt with most of them.
I guess being sexually repressed and frustrated, they are ready to flirt back to any foreigner who has shown any interest with them.
|by Anonymous||reply 125||09/07/2014|
I love heteroflexible brahs
|by Anonymous||reply 126||10/26/2014|
r125, are they being flirtatious or platonically friendly or curious?
|by Anonymous||reply 128||01/15/2015|
There's a guy at my office who is, to be honest, perfection. He's warm, funny, good-looking, charming and an all-round decent guy. And yeah, I started by thinking he was gay. Turns out he's not. I was embarrassed, told him this and he got angry with *me* because I was apologising to him for flirting. He's probably my biggest ally in that office and definitely one of the loveliest, sweetest guys I know - except when you steal the last chocolate Hob-Nob. Not all straight guys get offended when you flirt with them - I've often found them to respond either by flirting back, or taking it as a joke, or a compliment, or just as harmless banter. Just don't expect them to always replace the biscuits.
|by Anonymous||reply 129||01/15/2015|
Gay men flirting with obvious straight dudes, is painful to watch. Why do gay men embarrass themselves that way?
|by Anonymous||reply 130||01/15/2015|
More painful are straight dudes flirting with lesbians.
|by Anonymous||reply 131||01/15/2015|
And straight women flirting with gay men.
|by Anonymous||reply 132||01/15/2015|
I know a lot of lesbians that flirt hard with straight dudes, particularly lipstick ones.
|by Anonymous||reply 133||01/15/2015|
I flirted with a str8 guy once. He kicked me in the face. Son of a bitch.
|by Anonymous||reply 134||01/15/2015|
Is having sex with a straight man, an honestly straight man, the ultimate power trip for a gay man?
|by Anonymous||reply 135||01/15/2015|
"You have awfully big FEET for a master chef!"
|by Anonymous||reply 136||01/15/2015|
i think it was nice you apologized, but heres my question, would you have apologized if he had been bi. you cant justrandemly compliment people
|by Anonymous||reply 138||01/29/2015|
Why can't you randomly compliment people? Most people like to be complimented.
|by Anonymous||reply 139||01/29/2015|
I don't understand why gays humiliate themselves by flirting with obvious straight men. It's seriously cringeworthy.
|by Anonymous||reply 141||03/02/2015|
any Tumblrs with pics of this?
|by Anonymous||reply 142||05/12/2015|
So, there is this hot buff, tall dude at the gym. I think he is a former athlete or something. I never sensed he was into dudes or anything over the many years I have seen him at the gym. A couple of months of ago, I was in the gym minding my business, when he walked over to me and asked me to spot him. He seemed to be giving me some flirtatious signals with his eyes, but nothing unmistakable. Over the weekend, I saw him leaving the gym. I assume he is gonna just walk by and not acknowledge me. Instead, he strikes up a conversation about how late I was for the gym. His demeanor was very playful and his eyes were checking me out. I was sort of playfully matching his banter, but I didn't want to do anything that presumed he was flirting with me. I am interested in seeing what happens the next time we meet.
|by Anonymous||reply 143||05/26/2015|
The chef sounds like a homosexual to us, Mary OP.
Try putting $500 in an envelope with a note saying that there is more where that came from if he will 'visit' you for an hour!
|by Anonymous||reply 144||05/26/2015|
After he said all that syrupy dialogue, you should have groped his crotch and said, "Since my flirting is OK, can I suck your dick now?"
|by Anonymous||reply 145||05/26/2015|
This thread is still around?
It's 2015 for Christ's sakes. Move on! There's plenty of gay fish in the pond
|by Anonymous||reply 147||05/26/2015|
Chef is a fairy who is not interested in you, OP.
Deal with it.
|by Anonymous||reply 149||05/30/2016|
So, did you finally get something from him? And I mean SEXUALLY!
|by Anonymous||reply 150||05/30/2016|
Keep pubic hair out of the food at all times.
|by Anonymous||reply 152||05/30/2016|
R152 Pubic hair is extra.
|by Anonymous||reply 153||05/30/2016|
He wants your money, OP.
Of course he was still friendly.
|by Anonymous||reply 155||05/30/2016|
It's fun flirting with straight men, especially when they get all nervous at first. Then after awhile, it's funny to see how most of them end up becoming comfortable with it and flirting back.
|by Anonymous||reply 156||05/30/2016|
He was being nice to you because you were paying for the class not because he liked you especially.
|by Anonymous||reply 157||05/30/2016|
Just don't do it in front of other people. Keep it one on one. His bros and girl can't be around
|by Anonymous||reply 163||01/02/2017|