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Flirting with a straight man

I took a cooking class and I thought the chef was a hottie. I saw him in his t shirt before he put on the white coat and felt lust in my heart. He did not really flirt back but seemed receptive with smiles etc.

When he left the room for a minute one of other students who knew him told me that he was straight and very married.

After the class I apologized and he said that one should never apologize for being complimentary and kind. I think he meant it.

I wish everyone felt this way.

by Anonymousreply 267Last Saturday at 9:16 AM

He's totally whooping on you after class.

by Anonymousreply 104/20/2011

What does it mean to be whooping on someone?

by Anonymousreply 204/20/2011

You apologized for flirting?

by Anonymousreply 304/20/2011

What the hell did OP do? Flit her eyelashes and twirl her hair?

by Anonymousreply 404/20/2011

Was the "other student"'s name Cheryl?

by Anonymousreply 504/20/2011

OP, for gods sake you didn't do anything wrong.

You are way to hard on yourself. I'm sure a good looking man like that gets flirted with a lot. He's a grown up and works as a chef. Put two and two together. He is probably around gay men and woman all day long.

Don't feel guilty.

by Anonymousreply 604/20/2011

I was going to type the same exact thing as R3.

by Anonymousreply 704/20/2011

Probably Tammy.

by Anonymousreply 804/20/2011

He sounds like a nice guy. Maybe you can still trick him into bed with you. Bribes are also an option.

by Anonymousreply 904/20/2011

Buttering your bundt pan like that was probably a little over the top, OP.

by Anonymousreply 1004/20/2011

Totally hawt men are always a little gay, OP.%0D %0D Keep at it, and at the least, you'll probably get to blow him.

by Anonymousreply 1104/20/2011

Unless you grabbed his junk while flirting, there was no need to apologize.

by Anonymousreply 1204/20/2011

He's the epitome of bi.

by Anonymousreply 1304/23/2011

Well, maybe you are just too...ugly...for him, OP?

by Anonymousreply 1404/23/2011

R12 is right.

by Anonymousreply 1504/23/2011

[quote]He's the epitome of bi.

Oh, god, the "epitome of bi" troll has escaped from his "home" and is back online. :-(

by Anonymousreply 1604/23/2011

"Totally hawt men are always a little gay, OP.'%0D %0D No they're not, Noodles. %0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 1704/23/2011

Did we lose responses during the downtime?

by Anonymousreply 1804/23/2011

Have straight men/women ever flirted with you?

by Anonymousreply 1905/03/2012

I almost only flirt with straight dudes.

by Anonymousreply 2007/02/2013

He just likes attention, OP.

Alot of people who are a little narcissistic or have a career based on pleasing others thrive on attention, compliments, and praise. So OP, if u were giving him compliments on things other than his cooking, he probably really appreciated it for a change, instead of praise about his food.

by Anonymousreply 2107/02/2013

I'll scramble your hole after class, OP.

by Anonymousreply 2207/02/2013

Flirting = Muumuu lift.

Cooking class = "Yum."

by Anonymousreply 2307/02/2013

lmao @ R10

by Anonymousreply 2407/02/2013

[all posts by flame bait troll #11 removed (violent racist homophobic right-wing misogynist), ISP notified with full text of all posts.]

by Anonymousreply 2507/02/2013

[quote]He did not really flirt back but seemed receptive with smiles etc.

I think most men seem receptive with paying customers.

by Anonymousreply 2607/02/2013

Your flirting was so blatant that third parties intervened? You sound like a real class act.

by Anonymousreply 2707/02/2013

Lust is typically felt in one's loins and love in the heart.

So which one was it?

by Anonymousreply 2807/02/2013

Putting lipstick on your asshole in full view of the class probably wasn't the best way to go about flirting.

by Anonymousreply 2907/02/2013

He was nice about it because he sees you as easy cash. He knows you think he's eye candy and you'll keep coming back just to stare at him. He's hoping you'll also bring some of your gay friends so he'll be able to afford that vacation he's been promising his bitch they'd go on.

by Anonymousreply 3007/02/2013

As a straight male preyed upon by closet cases forever, I'd say don't do it.

We don't want gays, we're not gay, we don't need your sex-addicted mnd trying to convince us otherwise, we don't hate you, we're not afraid of you, and if you think we aren't tolerant, women have other men beat the living shit out of men who can't take a hint from them.

Have a nice queer day.

by Anonymousreply 3107/02/2013

Who cares. Your gay/the chef straight-BTW: does he have a wedding ring?

If so, keep stepping. Find someone who is available. And not pining after someone who isn't-or if available, doesn't meet the fantasy ideal of him you've concocted.

Point blank, you don't know him. Get to know him first, then pine after him if he is receptive and available.

Plenty of fish in the sea.

by Anonymousreply 3207/02/2013

And yet r31 finds himself on a gay message board, you know, just hanging out.

Poor guy! "Preyed upon"! Usually the guys who think all the gay guys want him is a hideous troll who takes great pains to hide his junk when changing in the locker room, when in reality NO ONE wants his ugly ass.

by Anonymousreply 3307/02/2013


You do know this is a gay commenting board, Right?

I sense a recurring trend here.

Based off your visit, and the post you left for us sickly/perverted/hyper sexual-aggressive predators- I'm left with a a certain impression:

That, you troll nightclubs and other establishments for gay men...only to be insulted when they make a pass at you. That is sound logic there.

Yes. YOU ARE VERY HETERO! STRAIGHT-GUY/TOUGH-GUY; Manly-man. And us "fag" predators can't have you!


by Anonymousreply 3407/02/2013

[quote]We don't want gays, we're not gay, we don't need your sex-addicted mnd trying to convince us otherwise, we don't hate you, we're not afraid of you, and if you think we aren't tolerant, women have other men beat the living shit out of men who can't take a hint from them.

You are deeply disturbed.

by Anonymousreply 3507/02/2013

I think R31 is likely an actor, a model or an altar boy. Who else would be in a position to be constantly preyed upon by closet cases?

by Anonymousreply 3607/02/2013

Mental illness runs in families.

R31's family.

by Anonymousreply 3707/02/2013


by Anonymousreply 3807/02/2013

R31 has a point and this is coming from a gayan. Why would gay guys go after guys that they know are straight and then cry homophobia when they're rebuked?

A straight guy will never ever ever hook up with another dude, shit they would pay a gorgeous call girl if they were desperate enough for no strings attached sex

Queeny delusional gay who flirt with amd try to hook up with men that they know are straight embarass me and set the gay rights movement back 50 years.

And if they take it one step further by touching a straight guy in an inappropriate way, they DESERVE to get the shit beat out of them.

by Anonymousreply 3907/02/2013

[quote] Why would gay guys go after guys that they know are straight and then cry homophobia when they're rebuked?

They wouldn't and they don't. Where is the fantasy that this happens coming from?

by Anonymousreply 4007/02/2013

R39, homophobic about yourself much?

Deserve to get the shit beat out of them?

No one deserves to be assaulted unless you are in fear for your life. Woman get flirted with all the time by men. I am sure not every unwanted touch ends in violence.

If you are straight or gay it dose not matter. Push the guys hand away and say you are not interested. He will get the hint.

As for you R39, Please seek some therapy for that internalized homophobia and self hate.

by Anonymousreply 4107/02/2013

R41 look asswipe I said if a guy sexually assaulted another guy (like grabbing his junk) without consent, they deserve to get a beatdown and most people would agree with me

If a dude groped a woman and the woman hit him with her purse or even got a good punch in that would be OK wouldn't it? She is defending herself

by Anonymousreply 4207/02/2013

Apparently, R42 has not sought counseling yet as I suggested.

Look at the rage and anger in his response. Clinical example of projection of self hatred.

He obviously has never been around women in a straight bar. They do not clock off guys left and right with their purses. If anything they call the bartender and have the guy kicked out.

How old are you? This is not 1950, get a grip.

by Anonymousreply 4307/02/2013

What is a "gayan," R39 R42?

by Anonymousreply 4407/02/2013

A citizen of Planet Gay, duh.

by Anonymousreply 4507/02/2013

No, not "duh," R45. He might have been a bro. Or a goy. Or one of those other ungay gays. HTF do I know what a "gayan" is?

by Anonymousreply 4607/02/2013

[quote] No, not "duh." . . . HTF do I know what a "gayan" is?

Hint: There is no Planet Gay.

by Anonymousreply 4707/02/2013

LOL R3 and R10

by Anonymousreply 4807/02/2013

Sorry, meant R5

by Anonymousreply 4907/02/2013

That was Julie in OP's class. The chef is gay as a goose but Julie thought it would be fun set the trap and sit back and watch.

by Anonymousreply 5007/02/2013

R42 only if it's been clearly defined they don't want it. Straight men often flirt with gays and only go into the "oh no, not that" routine later, after their orgasm.

by Anonymousreply 5107/02/2013

whatever, r51. straight dudes don't do gay dudes.

by Anonymousreply 5207/02/2013

How do you know for sure? Did you try to do one?

by Anonymousreply 5307/02/2013

[quote]felt lust in my heart

Who are you, Jimmy Carter?

by Anonymousreply 5407/02/2013

I love it when flirt dudes flirt with me first. Hot

by Anonymousreply 5507/13/2013

You never know what will get bumped two years later.

by Anonymousreply 5607/15/2013

I only flirt with straight, bi, or DL bros.

by Anonymousreply 5707/18/2013

If you think that anyone is going to flirt with a swishy effem-inate, then you have another think coming.

by Anonymousreply 5807/18/2013

How embarrassing for you, OP. You actually openly flirted with the instructor during class, in front of everyone, to the point where a classmate had to point out that you weren't going to get anywhere?

You sound like a hot mess.

by Anonymousreply 5907/19/2013

[quote]and if you think we aren't tolerant, women have other men beat the living shit out of men who can't take a hint from them.

Who? Who has "other men beat the living shit out of men who can't take a hint from them"? Who are these people? How do you know of them? Because it sounds like the plot of a bad TV movie, not an actual "thing". Bull-fucking-shit, "straight guy". No ones buying that.

Here's a clue, straight asshole who hangs out on gay websites bemoaning attention from closet-cases while channeling Lifetime movie plots for added drama: gay bashing IS a thing, it's something many gay people have experienced first hand and it happens everyday from playgrounds to boardrooms. So don't come here and spin some bullshit yarn about mafia princesses or "women on the verge" hiring hitmen to beat up unwanted suitors. You are a jackass of the highest order if you think such bullshit is relevant on a thread about actual, cool straight people who don't mind the occasional gay flirt.

Also: everyone knows you're gay. Your repressed homosexuality can be seen rom space.

by Anonymousreply 6007/19/2013

Death to R31.

by Anonymousreply 6107/19/2013

[post by racist shit-stain #3 removed.]

by Anonymousreply 6207/19/2013

tragic, dude

by Anonymousreply 6307/21/2013


by Anonymousreply 6407/22/2013

So OP who was it?

by Anonymousreply 6507/25/2013

flirting is only fun if the other person reciprocates

by Anonymousreply 6607/30/2013

Op didn't do anything wrong. This is the way people should react. Tons of people get hit on by people they're not in to, it's only apology worthy if you keep doing it even after finding out someones not receptive.

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by Anonymousreply 6808/02/2013

Don't view your straight male friends as objects of lust or flirtation. Respect people for who they are.

by Anonymousreply 6908/15/2013

or just grab their asses

by Anonymousreply 7008/15/2013

tell us your true stories, dudes

by Anonymousreply 7109/03/2013

If someone had to tell OP that the man was straight and married to get it to stop than OP made an ass of himself.

by Anonymousreply 7209/03/2013

"Death to [R31]."

Oh leave the poor dear alone. R31 is a 15 year old girl with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome playing on the computer while diddling herself thru her cotton panties.

by Anonymousreply 7309/03/2013

It's flattering if someone flirts with you. Don't apologize.

by Anonymousreply 7409/03/2013

Another example of the demise of DL. Why would someone bump a two year old thread that wasn't all that interesting when it originally appeared.

by Anonymousreply 7509/03/2013

In my experience, a 100% "straight man" is a rare find indeed, As rare as a Macedonian dodo bird.

Keep at it, OP. If he smiled at you while you flirted, he's open to having you suck his cock after a few beers.

That nosy bitch in your class is just jealous and has no idea that Hot Chef enjoys the occasional meat dish.

by Anonymousreply 7609/03/2013

What if he doesn't drink beer?

by Anonymousreply 7709/04/2013

OP: You are a CUSTOMER, paying for his time.

by Anonymousreply 7809/04/2013

[quote]What if he doesn't drink beer?

Then drink whatever he's drinking. And ask him a lot of questions about himself; they love it when someone wants to make the evening all about them. And it helps a lot if you pay at the end.

Then invite them over for some weed (or to watch some straight porn, or whatever game is on that night).

Works 9/10 times for me.

by Anonymousreply 7909/04/2013

Outside of the gym context, or any other place where men get nude, do straight men check out other men's package?

by Anonymousreply 8009/04/2013

R80, I'm a gay-identifying asexual man, and I never check out other men's packages.

by Anonymousreply 8109/04/2013

A 100% gay man is a rare creature as well, r76, despite what many gay men want to believe!

by Anonymousreply 8209/04/2013

I'm a 100% gay man.

by Anonymousreply 8309/04/2013

r76, you sound desperate, thirsty, and slutty, bro.

by Anonymousreply 8409/04/2013

Why thank you, R84. I live to pleasure!

by Anonymousreply 8509/04/2013

uh ok, dude

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by Anonymousreply 8709/27/2013

Flirt dudes straight with me.

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by Anonymousreply 8911/18/2013

I love lightly flirting with attractive straight dudes. It boosts both our egos.

by Anonymousreply 9011/26/2013

If a hot straight guy notices you looking at him in the gym, and then keeps adjusting his package and flashing his abs, knowing quite well that you are staring (and salivating!), does that mean he wants you? Please say that is what he intents.

by Anonymousreply 9111/26/2013

Any Youtube videos of this?

by Anonymousreply 9212/06/2013

Yestreday at zgym this superhot guy in late teens went to water fountain before goign to shower. He had a mouthwatering upper body. My locker was right next to fountain so I took in an eyefull. i know he saw me oogling him, and he pretended not to notice, but he started flexing his pecs. I think he liked the attenton.

by Anonymousreply 9312/06/2013

[quote]Why would gay guys go after guys that they know are straight

Because straight guys are real men, and that's what we all want. I'm only attracted to straight guys. The minute a guy says he's gay, or I get any inkling of such, my dick goes limp.

And who doesn't love it when the straight guy gets a little rough? It's part of the attraction.

by Anonymousreply 9412/06/2013

[quote]Because straight guys are real men..

When did Kordell Stewart start posting on Data Lounge?

by Anonymousreply 9512/06/2013

If a straight guy is horny enough, he'll at least let you blow him.

by Anonymousreply 9612/06/2013

That's been my experience, r96. And those times when you get the privilege of blowing a straight guy, it's just amazing. Again, it's a real privilege.

by Anonymousreply 9712/06/2013

I especially love when a straight guy calls me filthy names when he cums on my face.

by Anonymousreply 9812/06/2013

tmi, r98

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by Anonymousreply 10012/23/2013

I like to flirt with random hot dudes on subway who appear non-gay.

by Anonymousreply 10105/02/2014

I don't think r31, is a straight man at all. The language reads like a straight woman. Pay attention to the language and sentence formation people. I think she either has a man that has made her question his sexuality or she actually is with a closet case. No way this reads like a man wrote it. This coming from a woman, frauen, if you like.

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by Anonymousreply 10506/19/2014

Ugh that sux! MWC. Married with children.

Of course that doesn't neeeeeeccccceeesssssaaaaarrrrrriiiillllyyyyyyy mean...

by Anonymousreply 10606/19/2014

[quote]When he left the room for a minute one of other students who knew him told me that he was straight and very married.

Wow. You must work some kind of subtle.

by Anonymousreply 10706/19/2014

[quote] I like to flirt with random hot dudes on subway who appear non-gay.

I completely undress them with my eyes

by Anonymousreply 10806/19/2014


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by Anonymousreply 11006/28/2014

If a dude identifies as straight, I always let him initiate and lead the flirting.

by Anonymousreply 11107/11/2014

I'm the opposite. I flirt shamelessly with a avowed straight guy. He's of course off the hook as far as reciprocating.

by Anonymousreply 11207/11/2014

R108 Me too and the way they know I am undressing them. I mean only the hot guys, who seems to like and enjoy it.

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by Anonymousreply 11607/28/2014

Only flirt with people who flirt with you

by Anonymousreply 11707/29/2014

:complimentary and KIND"?!?!?!?

]bold] MARY!! [/bold] [italic] YOO HOOOOOO!!!! [/italic]

Ya wanted to suck his cock, Miss THANG!!!

"complimentary and kind" OH MY SIDES!!!!

by Anonymousreply 11807/29/2014

Frankie on Big Brother is embarrassing trying to get dudes who clearly do not identify as gay to have sex with him. Have some self respect.

by Anonymousreply 11908/04/2014

You can't bake your cake and eat it, too.

by Anonymousreply 12008/04/2014

I'm an old gay guy over 50 and we have a young straight guy that is so hot it's ridiculous. I thought I was impotent for the last ten years, but when he was around I had to hide my shame and run in the bathroom.

And he has no idea he is even hot, which makes him all the more hotter.

He's only 22, but man I am so grateful when he's not around so I can go back to being old.

by Anonymousreply 12108/04/2014

dude flirting

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by Anonymousreply 12208/16/2014

As more bi/gay dudes are open to their straight bros, I wonder how prevalent romantic overturns between the groups.

by Anonymousreply 12308/20/2014

I like to flirt with straight Arab and Hispanic dudes.

by Anonymousreply 12409/07/2014

I was just to post about Arabs, R124. I was just in Middle East recently and it's so funny how easy it is to flirt with most of them.

I guess being sexually repressed and frustrated, they are ready to flirt back to any foreigner who has shown any interest with them.

by Anonymousreply 12509/07/2014

I love heteroflexible brahs

by Anonymousreply 12610/26/2014

I do it everyday

by Anonymousreply 12701/07/2015

r125, are they being flirtatious or platonically friendly or curious?

by Anonymousreply 12801/15/2015

There's a guy at my office who is, to be honest, perfection. He's warm, funny, good-looking, charming and an all-round decent guy. And yeah, I started by thinking he was gay. Turns out he's not. I was embarrassed, told him this and he got angry with *me* because I was apologising to him for flirting. He's probably my biggest ally in that office and definitely one of the loveliest, sweetest guys I know - except when you steal the last chocolate Hob-Nob. Not all straight guys get offended when you flirt with them - I've often found them to respond either by flirting back, or taking it as a joke, or a compliment, or just as harmless banter. Just don't expect them to always replace the biscuits.

by Anonymousreply 12901/15/2015

Gay men flirting with obvious straight dudes, is painful to watch. Why do gay men embarrass themselves that way?

by Anonymousreply 13001/15/2015

More painful are straight dudes flirting with lesbians.

by Anonymousreply 13101/15/2015

And straight women flirting with gay men.

by Anonymousreply 13201/15/2015

I know a lot of lesbians that flirt hard with straight dudes, particularly lipstick ones.

by Anonymousreply 13301/15/2015

I flirted with a str8 guy once. He kicked me in the face. Son of a bitch.

by Anonymousreply 13401/15/2015

Is having sex with a straight man, an honestly straight man, the ultimate power trip for a gay man?

by Anonymousreply 13501/15/2015

"You have awfully big FEET for a master chef!"

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by Anonymousreply 13701/29/2015

i think it was nice you apologized, but heres my question, would you have apologized if he had been bi. you cant justrandemly compliment people

by Anonymousreply 13801/29/2015

Why can't you randomly compliment people? Most people like to be complimented.

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by Anonymousreply 14003/02/2015

I don't understand why gays humiliate themselves by flirting with obvious straight men. It's seriously cringeworthy.

by Anonymousreply 14103/02/2015

any Tumblrs with pics of this?

by Anonymousreply 14205/12/2015

So, there is this hot buff, tall dude at the gym. I think he is a former athlete or something. I never sensed he was into dudes or anything over the many years I have seen him at the gym. A couple of months of ago, I was in the gym minding my business, when he walked over to me and asked me to spot him. He seemed to be giving me some flirtatious signals with his eyes, but nothing unmistakable. Over the weekend, I saw him leaving the gym. I assume he is gonna just walk by and not acknowledge me. Instead, he strikes up a conversation about how late I was for the gym. His demeanor was very playful and his eyes were checking me out. I was sort of playfully matching his banter, but I didn't want to do anything that presumed he was flirting with me. I am interested in seeing what happens the next time we meet.

by Anonymousreply 14305/26/2015

The chef sounds like a homosexual to us, Mary OP.

Try putting $500 in an envelope with a note saying that there is more where that came from if he will 'visit' you for an hour!

by Anonymousreply 14405/26/2015

After he said all that syrupy dialogue, you should have groped his crotch and said, "Since my flirting is OK, can I suck your dick now?"

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by Anonymousreply 14605/26/2015

This thread is still around?

It's 2015 for Christ's sakes. Move on! There's plenty of gay fish in the pond

by Anonymousreply 14705/26/2015

I love it bro

by Anonymousreply 14805/30/2016

Chef is a fairy who is not interested in you, OP.

Deal with it.

by Anonymousreply 14905/30/2016

So, did you finally get something from him? And I mean SEXUALLY!

by Anonymousreply 15005/30/2016

Old threads never die.

by Anonymousreply 15105/30/2016

Keep pubic hair out of the food at all times.

by Anonymousreply 15205/30/2016

R152 Pubic hair is extra.

by Anonymousreply 15305/30/2016

Ewwww dude

by Anonymousreply 15405/30/2016

He wants your money, OP.

Of course he was still friendly.

by Anonymousreply 15505/30/2016

It's fun flirting with straight men, especially when they get all nervous at first. Then after awhile, it's funny to see how most of them end up becoming comfortable with it and flirting back.

by Anonymousreply 15605/30/2016

He was being nice to you because you were paying for the class not because he liked you especially.

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by Anonymousreply 15805/31/2016

Don't be desperate dude

by Anonymousreply 15905/31/2016

Lony Pizarro

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by Anonymousreply 16101/02/2017

R9 is why they hate us.

by Anonymousreply 16201/02/2017

Just don't do it in front of other people. Keep it one on one. His bros and girl can't be around

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by Anonymousreply 16407/29/2017

Uh huh

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by Anonymousreply 16608/04/2017

I'm dealing with a situation at the gym wherein this dude at the gym has been increasingly flirting with me at the gym, and now I learn he has a girlfriend. I pulled back and started ignoring him, and now he seems to be upset at me.

by Anonymousreply 16708/23/2017

Get drunk with him and offer to blow him OP. His wife probably hasn't done it for ages, so there's some chance he will let you.

by Anonymousreply 16808/23/2017

You have no morals r168

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by Anonymousreply 17008/23/2017

I've been flirting with this hot Latin or Middle Eastern dude at the gym all year. He apparently has a girlfriend, so I got upset, and ignored him all week. Now, I feel guilty.

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by Anonymousreply 17311/26/2017

I went to a gay bar with a straight female friend, who was very hot. She felt that, in a gay bar, we could have a nice long talk in peace, as straight guys wouldn't be hitting on her and disturbing us. Turns out that some of the lesbos in the bar were htting on her, sending notes etc. She laughed it off and felt very flattered.

by Anonymousreply 17411/26/2017

I hope the posters that ignored their gym buddies after finding out they had girlfriends are either trolling or are teenage girls.

by Anonymousreply 17511/26/2017

I hope the posters that continue to flirt EVEN AFTER finding out the person is straight get smacked in the face. That's annoying - gay or straight.

by Anonymousreply 17611/26/2017

Only if it’s not mutual

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by Anonymousreply 17911/26/2017

I've become good friends with a former co-worker who, at 30, is 30 years my junior. Very nice, I like him very much, but he's not someone I've fallen for (as an aside, I've fallen for maybe a handful of men in my life). When we first met, he was in a long-term relationship with a woman & he told me then they would soon be engaged. The engagement never came, & the relationship ended this year. I enjoy his company, which, outside of work, has consisted of exclusively of attending sporting events together. At our first such event, he made a point of leaving a seat between us, saying something to the effect of 'bro rules.' Note that I've never said I'm gay (my gay bona fides aren't great, as gay friends over the years have doubted that I'm really gay). Once, when we worked together & others commented on how close we were to the extent that there was talk of us being together, I looked at him with faux puppy eyes & he said "that would never happen."

Well, last night we went to another sporting event (I bought him a ticket for his birthday) & we were joined by my friend of over 40 years, who, btw, after nearly 30 years of marriage to a woman, came out to me a few years ago. This was this friend's first time meeting my young friend. My older friend confided in me that based on the way my young friend looked at me it was obvious he had feelings for me. I'm now torn about what to do.

by Anonymousreply 18011/26/2017

Judd continue chillin with him, no pressure or expectations

by Anonymousreply 18111/27/2017

Just continue

by Anonymousreply 18211/27/2017

This thread turns me on 🔥

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by Anonymousreply 18402/09/2018

Just keep it lowkey, subtle, and G-rated

by Anonymousreply 18505/28/2018

Flirt like this

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by Anonymousreply 18607/17/2018

You have to keep it low key and discreet

by Anonymousreply 18708/04/2018

This is his uoir

by Anonymousreply 18805/15/2019

THIS is how it’s done. Be masculine, say “bro,” “dude” a lot and any physical compliments must be done in brospeak such as “your calves are sick,” or “yo, I like your style, bruh.”

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by Anonymousreply 19005/15/2019

I do it daily

by Anonymousreply 19101/31/2020

OP is weird for apologizing. Way to make it super awkward.

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by Anonymousreply 19302/11/2020

I like the tips in r189.

by Anonymousreply 19404/27/2020

Gay guys often the mistake of trying to flirt with nongay when in public

by Anonymousreply 19505/08/2020

“mistake?” “trying?”


by Anonymousreply 19605/08/2020

So what do you do when gay guys dare to flirt with you in public, R195?

by Anonymousreply 19705/08/2020

OP you are a paying customer so he has to be polite if he wants to continue in his profession

by Anonymousreply 19805/08/2020

R197, it depends if I think he’s hot

by Anonymousreply 19905/08/2020

Give us both scenarios. If he's hot, and if he's not.

by Anonymousreply 20005/08/2020

I flirt with hot dudes unless married

by Anonymousreply 20105/08/2020

I don’t understand why straight men don’t flirt with gay men more often, just to get stuff.

by Anonymousreply 20205/08/2020

How about baby daddies, R201?

by Anonymousreply 20305/08/2020

This is embarrassing.

by Anonymousreply 20405/08/2020

R202 must order everything online because straight men do that ALL THE TIME.

by Anonymousreply 20505/08/2020

R203, almost all dudes I mess with are unmarried baby daddies

by Anonymousreply 20605/08/2020

Y’all have no chill

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by Anonymousreply 20709/03/2020

I’m a straight 20-something male and I’ve only had sex with women.

But I haven’t been with any women in a while because I’m a pretty picky dude.

Recently, I’ve been going on Grindr and talking to other men with no intention of ever meeting them. I just like flirting with the people on there.

But one time, I decided to meet up with one of the men. It was great at first, but things got sexual and when I saw his penis, I freaked out and immediately left. Why did I react that way? Am I definitely straight?

I feel so uncomfortable asking these questions, especially since I see myself married with a wife and kids in the long run.

Why do I like going on gay dating apps when I’m horny?

[RELATED: “Mostly Straight” Guy Falls for Roommate While on Lockdown]

Dear “straight”,

First and foremost, I totally understand your predicament as a picky dater. It’s quite common, actually. There are some men who can only date blondes, or geeky girls, so for you to desire one with a penis, is also fine!

But hold up… men actually flirt on Grindr? Honey, you can’t fool a seasoned hoe. Unless one word conversations and hole pics are what you consider flirting?

There’s a good chance that what you like about conversing with other men, especially in a sexual manner – is the fact that they can be very forward when it comes to their wants or needs.

However, the simpler answer as to why you go on dating apps when you’re horny, is because you’re sexually attracted to them.

The freak-out you’re describing is known as “gay shame” (although isn’t exclusive to gay people), and it’s a thing that most of us encounter during the first sexual interactions with other men. Only pure cock sluts are exempt. It’s because society has taught us that our attractions to the same-sex are wrong and something to be ashamed of.

It’s not. Unless you have ‘no fats, no fems, no asians’ in your profile text. Then yeah, you can be ashamed.

The fact you have to question your sexuality, means that no, likely you’re not straight… but is that so bad? It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re gay either, (there’s an entire alphabet of identities now!) or that you won’t end up with a wife and kids…

But don’t be afraid to let go of that traditional family brainwashing we all experienced: I thought I was gonna become a doctor. You know what I became? A slut.

Embrace and explore your identity, even if you’re not sure what that is yet.

Happy cruising! Xoxo

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by Anonymousreply 20909/03/2020

I love straight men. I was dating a straight man once but he left me for another straight man.

by Anonymousreply 21009/04/2020

I prefer mostly straights and heteroflexibles

by Anonymousreply 21109/04/2020

If your chef-teacher went to cooking school, he's probably being around gay guys.

by Anonymousreply 21209/04/2020

I flirted in the most innocent way I know how by grabbing my junk, licking my lips and shouting "yum."

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by Anonymousreply 21409/07/2020

Watch and learn

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by Anonymousreply 21509/15/2020

I love the way straight-identified dudes flirt with dudes. Testosterone and bravado is so attractive

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by Anonymousreply 21709/17/2020

Coochie drips for straight dudes

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by Anonymousreply 22111/22/2020

just grab him by the pussy, when you're famous you can do it

by Anonymousreply 22211/22/2020

R219 This is why they hate us. Poor guy.

by Anonymousreply 22311/22/2020

That cop is hot

by Anonymousreply 22411/22/2020

Like this

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by Anonymousreply 22511/24/2020

I am paying a husband and father of 3 to stuff his feet and cock in my holes

by Anonymousreply 22611/24/2020

Those TikTocs are great!

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by Anonymousreply 22811/24/2020

This dude is teaching masteclass on luring bros

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by Anonymousreply 23111/27/2020

R223 they don’t hate us they just hate you and I can’t blame them since you obviously hate yourself

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by Anonymousreply 23612/05/2020

Almost this exact thing happened to me once, with one exception. After he reassured me, he unzipped and finagled a massive, throbbing erect prime from his pants and then pointed at it, looking at me and making O shapes with his mouth.

I said, oh, thanks for the reassurance, and left, because I wasn’t certain he was flirting with me or not. What do you think, DL?

by Anonymousreply 23712/05/2020

prime = penis, but actually I like the idea of a penis being called a “prime”.

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by Anonymousreply 23912/08/2020

When your bro has questions....

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by Anonymousreply 24012/30/2020

OP, you sound thirsty. Did you stand on your work station, drop your pants and present hole? With a little ribbon on it.

by Anonymousreply 24112/30/2020

Oh wow bruh 😯

by Anonymousreply 24212/30/2020

I flirted shamelessly with a straight guy at a banquet. He loved every minute of it. His wife wasn't quite as enthusiastic, but she hated me anyway, so I had nothing to loose. This was when I was much younger and wilder.

by Anonymousreply 24312/30/2020

Flirting with straight men depends on the straight man in question. Some are attention whores who will enjoy it, some are fragile about their sexuality and will kick your cunt in. Not worth it.

by Anonymousreply 24412/30/2020

I just noticed in R243 that I had nothing to LOOSE. I had nothing to LOSE, either. Blah!

by Anonymousreply 24512/30/2020

“I like your vibe bro.”

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by Anonymousreply 24601/02/2021

How does Joel fit into this scenario?

by Anonymousreply 24701/02/2021

I saw him in his t shirt before he put on the white coat and felt lust in my heart.

That could be from one of Taylor Swift's songs.

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by Anonymousreply 24901/29/2021

[quote] "I saw him in his t shirt before he put on the white coat and felt lust in my heart."

Honey, that wasn't lust. That was angina.

by Anonymousreply 25001/29/2021

You have to know the vernacular

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by Anonymousreply 25101/30/2021

So romantic.

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by Anonymousreply 25201/30/2021

I love it when straight dudes call me “boss,” “baby,” Or “King.” Turns me on

by Anonymousreply 25302/14/2021

Straight men <3

by Anonymousreply 25402/14/2021

Gen Z hits different bruh

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by Anonymousreply 25502/17/2021

Straight guys never speak to me. So when one is cordial to me, I know he wants some head.

by Anonymousreply 25602/17/2021

That’s outrageous bro. Using you as a sex object

by Anonymousreply 25702/17/2021

Even lusting in your heart is a SIN!

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straight guys are cheap bitches

by Anonymousreply 26002/23/2021

I love it when a hot straight bro puts his hands around my waist

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by Anonymousreply 261Last Thursday at 3:01 AM

Leg hair

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by Anonymousreply 262Last Saturday at 7:38 AM

I was a in sitcom class and there was an impossible Abercrombie & Fitch type cutie in the class.

this plain middle-aged frau with a horrible body snarked once to me: "He's ours! He's straight! He's OURS!"

Well, he may -- or may not -- be straight. But he's far from 'yours'

by Anonymousreply 263Last Saturday at 7:42 AM

I once apologized for flirting with a straight man. I told him I was sorry for insinuating that I’d like to tie him up and drink his blood.

by Anonymousreply 264Last Saturday at 7:47 AM

[quote]I was a in sitcom class and there was an impossible Abercrombie & Fitch type cutie

You were in WHAT?

by Anonymousreply 265Last Saturday at 7:50 AM

Sitcom class?

by Anonymousreply 266Last Saturday at 8:07 AM

a sitcom writing class

by Anonymousreply 267Last Saturday at 9:16 AM
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