Children who were scapegoats in the family.

I was the Truth Teller. Still am. I went no contact with my narcissist father when I called him out on all his bullshit. Best decision ever.

I also was the first to go NC with him, but when my siblings saw that it was OK to no longer be manipulated by his bullshit, 3 out of the 4 of them also decided to end contact. It's interesting being the one to break free of generational trauma.

I was the rebel. A juvenile delinquent, an angry person.

OP Whining Cunt.

Where is the option for Pass-Around Bottom?

[quote] I also was the first to go NC with him, but when my siblings saw that it was OK to no longer be manipulated by his bullshit, 3 out of the 4 of them also decided to end contact. It's interesting being the one to break free of generational trauma.

R1, are you now in contact with your 3 siblings?

I was molested.

I was the caretaker AND perfectionist/achiever

The fag.

I think these are less discrete categories than spectrums of adaptive response. None of them exactly fit me and how I responded to the conditioning I grew up as the son of a narcissist.

I had perfectionist tendencies especially with regard to academics until my twenties as a result of the unrelenting criticism and lack of recognition, and later went into a kind of decade long shut down that fits some aspects of the collapsed response category.

Regardless, the damage growing up with a narcissist as a primary caregiver is pretty terrible, lasting and deep. And whatever my dad suffered in his own childhood which caused him to develop such a personality must have been truly shitty indeed.