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Ladies, does it ever hurt when you''re getting fucked?

This is something that I've been curious about. Can you provide details. This, of course, excludes your first time. I'm looking for responses from you seasoned pros.

by Anonymousreply 29904/19/2015

meant to type 'supposedly', not supposed

by Anonymousreply 1011/16/2010

John Cougar knew what he was singing about.

by Anonymousreply 1111/16/2010

r8 sounds boring as all hell.

by Anonymousreply 1211/16/2010

I have a small cyst on one of my ovaries, so it occasionally hurts (the cyst dries up and comes back). I wish the BF would curve towards towards the good ovary, then it wouldn't hurt at all. I suppose it's akin to someone poking you repeatedly in the ball with the end of a flashlight very hard and fast.

by Anonymousreply 2111/16/2010

It is often uncomfortable for me. It used to hurt a lot and I even asked a doctor about it. I think it was b/c neither myself nor my partner were that experienced. It is better now but never really feels great

by Anonymousreply 2211/16/2010

Hey [R5]!Thanks for the vid, but it looks like she's getting plowed in the pooper and not the vageen. Anyone else agree?

by Anonymousreply 2311/16/2010

'would bring up' not 'which bring up'%0D %0D 'hardly ever having intercourse' not 'hardly every having intercourse'%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 2611/16/2010

r25, rape isn't rare at all. Someone is sexually assaulted in the US every 2 minutes and I'm not counting TSA groping.

by Anonymousreply 2711/16/2010

Yes, if a guy is too big, he's too big and if he hits the top of your cervix...yes, it can hurt.

by Anonymousreply 2811/16/2010

Lube is your friend.

by Anonymousreply 3111/16/2010

1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men report have been raped.

by Anonymousreply 3311/16/2010

[quote]your pathetic overly dry vagina

There's an insult you don't hear that often on DL. *tee hee*

How much cock is too much cock for a woman's ladyparts? Will a vagina stretch to accommodate a 12 incher? Am I wrong to assume that there is a lot of "give"?

by Anonymousreply 3411/16/2010

Um, who is going to be able to answer this on DL? A lesbian who gets fucked with a cucumber?

by Anonymousreply 3611/16/2010

Yes it can hurt. It can hurt a damn lot if you have a selfish lover who doesn't bother to get you ready. Unfortunately that happened to me A LOT when I was younger and had inexperienced, selfish, over eager bf's. They would plunge right in with very little (or no) foreplay. Why do you think foreplay is so important to women? %0D %0D No, you don't walk around dripping. It's just moist---kind of like your eyes are moist all the time, but you're not crying tears. When you get turned on it gets wetter and makes everything smooth as silk. %0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 3911/16/2010

R29 has stated her boundaries.

Over and over and over again.

by Anonymousreply 4011/16/2010

I know a woman who leaves fucking puddle after getting screwed. Puddles.

by Anonymousreply 4111/16/2010

What a delicate little fragile flower R39 is.

by Anonymousreply 4211/16/2010

All sex is rape.

by Anonymousreply 4311/16/2010

Jesus -- I can't even read through this crap.%0D %0D %0D Yes, it hurts me. It did when I was young, and I did not enjoy any kind of penetration until I hit my mid-thirties. And not only am I a lesbian, but I'm a bottom (in whatever way you wish to interpret that).%0D %0D %0D No woman speaks for ALL women, R8. And yes, I get fucking soggy wet. But I still can't take more than a finger. ONE finger. ONE.%0D %0D %0D And you know what? I don't give a fuck what anyone else has to say about it. I have great sex.

by Anonymousreply 4411/16/2010

It can hurt a little when he's first pushing himself inside, but only until he gets it past a certain distance. But I actually like that feeling, when he's working it in, knowing that very soon he'll be totally inside me thrusting away. If he knows what he's doing, he'll slide it back and forth and gradually increase the distance. I only experienced tearing once, when the guy was really thick. It hurt, and I was rather alarmed at the sight of the cuts. I was surprised that it didn't take longer to heal. Oh, it can also hurt if they're long and slam the whole dick inside you. I had a guy do this to me who was 8 and a half inches.

by Anonymousreply 4511/16/2010

What a lousy lay R42 is.

by Anonymousreply 4611/16/2010

Have you not read my blog??? Don't get me started OP!

by Anonymousreply 4711/16/2010

Why was rape even brought into this discussion? It was directed towards women who have been fucking for awhile. %0D %0D I've always heard that size does matter, in regards to girth, not length. %0D %0D Ladies, is a dick ever too thick?

by Anonymousreply 4811/16/2010

Did you not read my post, r48?

by Anonymousreply 4911/16/2010

A long dick is lovely for aesthetic purposes but when it comes to physical sensation, girth is the more important measurement. I have yet to encounter a dick that's too thick.

by Anonymousreply 5011/16/2010

It is huge fallacy that size does not matter.%0D %0D The 'size does not matter' idea was propagated strictly to protect the egos of men.%0D %0D A wider girth is much better for physical sensation of a woman than a skinny dick is.

by Anonymousreply 5111/16/2010

It's all about hardness.

by Anonymousreply 5311/16/2010

I was with a guy that was so huge that there was some discomfort as it felt like he was slamming against my ovaries or something. I wouldn't call it pain but it was discomfort.%0D %0D I've had a bit of pain during anal in the beginning but once that initial pain is experienced it doesn't hurt anymore.

by Anonymousreply 5411/16/2010

You dumb bitches take the bait every time.

by Anonymousreply 5511/16/2010

R7 and R36, bi chicks exist. Hi!%0D %0D R8, you sound oddly defensive. Younger women have issues with lubrication, too.%0D %0D And R28 hit on something else. While R8 is correct that girth is usually not a problem (but can be) length is, ironically, a problem of compatibility. Most women would prefer shorter and thicker, as others have stated. The actual length of a woman's vaginal canal has less to do with her height than you'd think, and yes, hitting the cervix HURTS. R54, that's what happened to you.

by Anonymousreply 5711/17/2010

Straight women are humans too....well, Republican straight women, not so much.

by Anonymousreply 5811/17/2010

[quote]Goddamn, is this still a gay site?%0D %0D Nope it stopped being that a long ass time ago!

by Anonymousreply 5911/17/2010

My sister, who I would call a seasoned pro, has told me that it can indeed hurt sometimes, but usually not. Yes, if a guy is simply too big, but that's usually not solely the problem. She has told me she has no problem with width. But, she described poor angles of penetration and a guy with a long dick ramming into her cervix wall.

More common is general uncomfortableness that really isn't too painful.

And, more common still is simply not that it's painful or uncomfortable, but simply not fulfilling.

So, according to her, definitely yes, but usually not.

by Anonymousreply 6011/17/2010

What about that little dab of spit the guy puts on his dick before he goes in (in porn). Is that really all the additional lubrication you need?

by Anonymousreply 6111/17/2010

[quote]And the pain during rape with be extreme FEAR and TERROR rather than physical pain%0D %0D WRONG

by Anonymousreply 6211/17/2010

[quote]A wider girth is much better for physical sensation of a woman than a skinny dick is.

Not for me!

by Anonymousreply 6311/17/2010

I prefer length to width.

by Anonymousreply 6411/17/2010

>>And the pain during rape with be extreme FEAR and TERROR rather than physical pain,%0D %0D And you know this how? I can tell you that rape physically hurts.

by Anonymousreply 6511/17/2010

This will only hurt for a couple seconds.

by Anonymousreply 6611/17/2010

lol, r55.

by Anonymousreply 6711/17/2010

So, some of us are doing a public service by not fucking women.

by Anonymousreply 6811/17/2010

The last guy I brought over to see if he was FB material.. good lord. I'd never experienced "Coke Can Cock" before that night. I couldn't even get my hand around it.

Yes, it hurt so bad that I didn't bother to designate him as a FB. That was the only time I've ever had painful sex (and I've had a lot of it).

by Anonymousreply 6911/17/2010

Only when he is in my popper doing his business.

by Anonymousreply 7011/17/2010

Sometimes I wish men had vaginas and penises. Vagina sex seems better than ass sex. I just don't like everything else that comes with the vajajay.

by Anonymousreply 7111/17/2010


by Anonymousreply 7211/17/2010

Vaginal penetration of a willing woman doesn't hurt, it feels good.%0D Only ass fucking hurts.

by Anonymousreply 7311/17/2010

R71, I feel the same way.

by Anonymousreply 7411/17/2010

I think this has been an informative thread. I like the weekly "ask the straight ladies" segment. It builds bridges and understanding between our two groups.

by Anonymousreply 7511/17/2010

[quote]The OP specifically said we are NOT discussing 'the first time'.%0D %0D Thanks R24. We need more people like you to act as hall monitors to keep everything under control. Please to to the John Denver thread and state the rules for some of those thread hijackers who have been invading.

by Anonymousreply 7611/17/2010

No! I have a HUGE vageene!

by Anonymousreply 7711/17/2010

R75 if you are being serious, amen! It actually does..

by Anonymousreply 7811/17/2010

^ I don't think R75 is being serious.

by Anonymousreply 7911/17/2010

R44 you need to go to a doctor and get that checked out. It's not normal to only be able to take one finger.

by Anonymousreply 8011/17/2010

R48 some feminists consider any form of penile penetration rape. That's why it was brought up.

by Anonymousreply 8111/17/2010

What? I've never heard that before, R81.

by Anonymousreply 8211/17/2010

R44, you may have an enlarged womb. A friend of mine was never comfortable during sex. She finally had to have a hysteroctomy but things are normal now.

by Anonymousreply 8311/17/2010

An enlarged womb? How does the womb become enlarged.

by Anonymousreply 8411/17/2010

R84 I would guess fibroid tumors or some such problem.

by Anonymousreply 8511/17/2010

No, but it hurts not getting fucked.

by Anonymousreply 8711/18/2010

The last thing I want to be is trapped on a huge ocean liner in the middle of a severe storm.%0D %0D Plus I don't want to be stuck in one of those tiny little cabins as my 'suite'.

by Anonymousreply 8811/18/2010

I believe R88 should have made a left toin at Albukoykee.

by Anonymousreply 8911/18/2010

Should I upload a photo of the offending member?

by Anonymousreply 9011/18/2010

This thread is useless without photos of what is too big.


by Anonymousreply 9111/18/2010

It hurts when my gf fucks me with a strap on. Go figure

by Anonymousreply 9211/18/2010

It hurts when the guy takes too long, contrary to pop culture.

by Anonymousreply 9311/18/2010

I used to have a bf with a dick that slightly curved to one side. Sometimes if we were going at it too long, I could get sore on one side.

by Anonymousreply 9411/18/2010

Sounds like R44 may still have an intact hymen.

by Anonymousreply 9511/18/2010

[quote]STRAIGHT WOMEN USUALLY EMIT MOANS AND EXCLAMATIONS OF PAIN WHEN GETTING FUCKED IN PORNOS.%0D %0D No, they do not. You are unfamiliar with female sexuality. Nothing wrong with that, but you're obnoxiously leaning on the CAPS lock to make statements about a subject you clearly know nothing about.%0D %0D R86, what you are reading as pain is not pain. I'm a woman and I've seen a lot of porn, and the expression of pain during vaginal sex in porn is pretty rare. No, it is not painful to "accomodate" the dick, unless the guy has an ENORMOUS girth, like in R69's situation. %0D %0D Lack of lube can be painful, but for the umpteenth time, the vagina stretches easily and naturally. Infants fit through this canal, and it's not the stretching that's painful; it's the uterine contractions. You are describing it as if it's similar to the rectum, and it's not. Stretching *may* be uncomfortable the first couple of times a woman has sex--if she hasn't stretched with a dildo/vibrator before. But after you've had sex even a few times, it's a non-issue unless you're too dry.%0D %0D And of course porn actresses often exaggerate or fake their noises for male consumption. They're actresses, and straight men are their primary demographic, obviously.

by Anonymousreply 9611/19/2010

Yes, and 7 pound to 8.5 pound baby fits thru the vagina, so a penis can certainly fit without pain and havoc.

by Anonymousreply 9711/19/2010

My boyfriend's dick is really long and sometimes when he thrusts really deep it hurts, like he's poking something.

by Anonymousreply 9911/19/2010

Oh, pain, oh, pain; the wonderful, joyous pain of birth or girth.

by Anonymousreply 10211/19/2010

OP is getting off picturing females going through sexual pain.

by Anonymousreply 10311/19/2010

[96] Contrary to popular belief, the pain of childbirth has little to do with the vagina stretching; its the contractions - muscles in the womb that pull the cervix open, that cause the pain. The head sliding out the door is not the bit that hurts

by Anonymousreply 10411/19/2010

Nan Michiganwomyn has a blog - where is Nan's blog??

We (HEART) Nan!

by Anonymousreply 10511/19/2010

What the fresh fuck, R101? It's not the VAGINA that hurts during childbirth; it's the UTERUS contracting and the cervix dilating, you ignorant asshole.%0D %0D I do not understand how people get through high school without this knowledge. Are there hick parts of the country where biology is not required?

by Anonymousreply 10611/19/2010

I wonder how many of the answers in this thread came from clueless men?

by Anonymousreply 10711/19/2010

BTW, unless you've had enough foreplay to get lubed, it does HURT.

by Anonymousreply 10811/19/2010

Luckily, we addressed that about four hundred times, R107 / R108. Did you read the thread?

by Anonymousreply 10911/19/2010

Can a strap on hurt??

by Anonymousreply 11011/19/2010

Of course it can, R102. Worse if it isn't somewhat pliable like the real thing.

by Anonymousreply 11111/19/2010

R108, it doesn't hurt for most women even when not lubricated. Most woman have enough natural lubricant even without foreplay to make the insertion easy.%0D %0D R108, your statement that 'unless you've had enough foreplay to get lubed, it does HURT' is not only not true and exaggerated, but it is also a flat-out fallacy and blanket statement which does not apply to most woman.%0D %0D R111 seems to be talking about non-pliable dildos. Even if not, this discusssion is NOT about dildos. The OP wanted to know if woman feel pain during intercourse with a penis.%0D

by Anonymousreply 11211/19/2010

To the person who asked about porn, the women in porn are faking.

by Anonymousreply 11311/19/2010

R108 is absolutely correct. Every woman is different. For some, sex is uncomfortable. For others, it's not. To assume blanket statements is just ridiculous. For me, it is uncomfortable and has been since the very first time. More lubrication makes is better but it is by no means something I enjoy doing. I have never had an orgasm via penetration. I do enjoy oral and the emotional aspects of sex. The physical act is more for his pleasure.

by Anonymousreply 11411/19/2010

What I've learned from this thread is that women need to be worked up and nice and wet and they can take anything up there. %0D %0D The key is lots foreplay or a really big bank account.

by Anonymousreply 11511/19/2010

r112, I call bullshit or small penis men you are used to, but I need foreplay to have the penis enter with ease.%0D %0D So stfu because we don't get enough foreplay as it is to be ready without you added your nonesense. What's good for you isn't good for every woman.

by Anonymousreply 11611/19/2010

Does it help to play 'stink-finger' first?

by Anonymousreply 11711/19/2010

R116, you should know that R108 is the world's foremost authority on what all women feel. She knows everything. %0D %0D R108--just because you're juiced up and loose 27/7, don't assume the rest of us are. Maybe you're just a whore darlin'.

by Anonymousreply 11811/19/2010

Oops---R108 should be R112 (sorry 108)

by Anonymousreply 11911/19/2010

Not only does it hurt if there hasn't been much foreplay, it can't go in. Many of tofay's hooked-on-porn men don't get this.

by Anonymousreply 12011/19/2010

Quite a few frigid women who also have an aversion to penetration by men on this thread along with mentally unbalanced lesbians who have an aversion to penetration by men.

by Anonymousreply 12111/19/2010

Why is the unusual freak at R114 trying to pass her off her inability to find sexual intercourse comfortable as 'normal'?%0D %0D In no way is R114 normal. It is a rare, abnormal woman who does not find sexual intercourse normal.%0D %0D Also the nother abnormal freak up thread who posted that she can take only 'one finger' in her vagina is very abnormal and a medical case.

by Anonymousreply 12211/19/2010

meant to type 'it is a rare, abnormal woman who does not find sexual intercourse comfortable'

by Anonymousreply 12311/19/2010


Does it hurt when you're getting plowed?


Does it hurt when you're getting jack-hammered?



Shagged, screwed, or nailed?

Does it hurt when you're getting shagged, screwed, or nailed?

by Anonymousreply 12411/19/2010

R125, you have a comprehension problem - I was not saying that childbirth causes no discomfort.%0D %0D I was saying that the vagina is expandable.%0D %0D Your cognitive abilities are weak.

by Anonymousreply 12611/19/2010

VERY expandable, and able to easily accomodate most every size

by Anonymousreply 12711/19/2010

r126 is an idiot. It most certainly does have something to do with squeezing that huge baby through that much smaller hole. What do you think causes pain with sex when a woman is tight?

by Anonymousreply 12811/19/2010

And yes, it's expandable-duh! But it still causes pain while it's expanding.

by Anonymousreply 12911/19/2010

Actually, that was meant for r104.

by Anonymousreply 13011/19/2010

I never said that childbirth is not painful and I clarified that at R126, saying that I never said childbirth causees no discomfort.%0D %0D You have reading and cognitive and comprehension disfunction.

by Anonymousreply 13111/19/2010

No I don't, but apparently you do unless you were posting from another computer. In which case, you really are the idiot. (see r130.)

by Anonymousreply 13211/19/2010

meant to type 'dysfunction'

by Anonymousreply 13311/19/2010


And you have a spelling dYsfunction.

by Anonymousreply 13411/19/2010

[quote]What do you think causes pain with sex when a woman is tight?%0D %0D I don't understand why we have to keep saying this over and over again, but mostly lack of lubrication. Because inexperienced women are more likely to be nervous and less turned on. It's a myth that the tightness of the vagina is the primary problem. Yes, there might be mild discomfort with the stretching the first few times--MIGHT be. But it's not searing pain. The breaking of the hymen usually isn't either, mostly because the degree of pain is a myth to begin with, and because girls break it themselves during masturbation and inserting tampons and even horseback riding. So it's often not intact when they have sex for the first time. Frankly, either mine was totally painless whenever it broke, or I never had one. That's possible, too.%0D %0D [quote]More lubrication makes is better but it is by no means something I enjoy doing.%0D %0D Fine, but the question was as to whether it is [italic]painful[/italic].%0D %0D R86/R101/R125, you're really insane. Measurement of the nerve endings? They don't do studies like that as far as I know, because women are intelligent enough to know what they're feeling, and fortunately there are few deranged queens demanding scientific proof that the insertion of a Q-tip into the vagina doesn't cause excruciating pain. Besides, the uterine contractions are so painful that if the vaginal stretching is uncomfortable I can guarantee you none of us notice.%0D %0D We've pretty much established that it's lack of lube or hitting the cervix that hurts, unless there's sexual dysfunction involved--which is actually relatively common and calling women abnormal freaks is not going to help them. R122, I realize you're defensive because you don't want the myth perpetuated that women don't enjoy sex, but viciously attacking women who have sexual problems and increasing the social stigma attached to that is worse. Nice "feminism."

by Anonymousreply 13511/19/2010

sorry, I think they are abnormal freaks, R135

by Anonymousreply 13611/19/2010

Why does are you labeling women who do not enjoy sex freaks? Do you know how many women I know who are in sexless marriages? It is extremely common. Probably more so than not. In general, women just do not have the sex drive that men have. Sure, some women enjoy sex but many, many do not. It could be because they have a selfish partner. It could be because they just don't.

by Anonymousreply 13711/19/2010

R137, the women I know in sexless or almost sexless marriages say it's because their husbands piss them off so much they can't think of having sex with them. It's not because they don't enjoy sex; they just take care of themselves.

by Anonymousreply 13811/19/2010

"But I still can't take more than a finger. ONE finger. ONE."

R44, I had a friend with the same problem, she couldn't even use a slim tampon. Do you find painful getting a pap test, when the gynecologist inserts the speculum?

by Anonymousreply 13911/19/2010

R136 do you label everyone with a medical problem an "abnormal freak?" Somebody's projecting.

by Anonymousreply 14011/19/2010

Excuse me, r135/know-nothing

Sex the first time not only hurts the female, but it also hurts the guy who deflowers her, too. Sometimes it hurts so much that the girl can't continue and they have to try again another time. If you don't know this, then you either don't have a pussy or have never had any penetration whatsoever. Either way, you need to keep your mouth shut because you have no clue what you're talking about.

And I'll quote for you what my boyfriend said to me the day after he fucked me for the first time, which incidentally was our 2nd time trying BECAUSE IT HURT TOO MUCH FOR ME: "My dick never hurt from fucking a girl before."

by Anonymousreply 14111/19/2010

R141, did you see a doctor for your problem? That doesn't sound normal. Most cooches will open up to receive a dick even with minimal foreplay. And who says deflower?

by Anonymousreply 14211/19/2010

Why are you extrapolating your abnormal freakiness and problem to ALL other women, R141?%0D %0D Your first sentence applies your abnormal freakiness to ALL women by saying 'Sex the first time not only hurts the female, but hurts the guy....'%0D %0D Speak for yourself and ONLY YOURSELF. What you describe certainly does NOT apply to ALL women and applies to only a tiny few women.%0D %0D What you experienced is in no way prevalent.

by Anonymousreply 14311/19/2010

And as a side note I'd just like to say that my bf also said: "You weren't bad for a virgin."

by Anonymousreply 14411/19/2010

R141: Oh, honey. You couldn't be more wrong about me. Not a dude and not inexperienced.%0D %0D Were you 13? I'm genuinely sorry you had a difficult time, but unless you were very young, it's unusual.

by Anonymousreply 14511/19/2010

[quote]And as a side note I'd just like to say that my bf also said: "You weren't bad for a virgin."%0D %0D ...Which implies he'd been with other virgins before, yet somehow those experiences didn't hurt him. Hmm.

by Anonymousreply 14611/19/2010

Why are psychological freaks who have sexual problems which apply to no one else showing up on this thread?%0D %0D The psychological damaged people giving their experiences are not helpful. This is a thread for people with normal sex lives and for women without psychological problems.

by Anonymousreply 14711/19/2010

I think you, r143, are a man that's getting off on pretending to be a woman. I think you enjoy people believing you're a woman here because you wish more than anything in the world that you had a pretty little pussy and that you knew what it was liked to have a pussy with a big cock sliding in and out of. Well, you don't and you never will.

To the men on here: Ask any woman you're able to whether or not it hurt her first time. She will tell you yes. It's not the worst thing in the world, but it does hurt.

by Anonymousreply 14811/19/2010

No, it doesn't, r146. A guy would expect a virgin to not be such a great lay whether he'd been with one before or not, dumbass. Hmm.

by Anonymousreply 14911/19/2010

"Oh, honey."??? Oh, you're definitely a man!

by Anonymousreply 15011/19/2010

[quote]To the men on here: Ask any woman you're able to whether or not it hurt her first time. She will tell you yes. It's not the worst thing in the world, but it does hurt.%0D %0D ...Because of lack of lubrication. Which can be remedied by using artificial lube.%0D %0D And that does derail the thread a bit, because I think OP was asking about more general experiences than just first time experiences.

by Anonymousreply 15111/19/2010

Sweetie, if your vaginal spasms crushed his dick, attacking me is not going erase that memory for you.%0D %0D [quote]"Oh, honey."??? Oh, you're definitely a man!%0D %0D Believe what you like, but no I'm not.

by Anonymousreply 15311/19/2010

Anyone that tight has a problem. If not physical, then mental.

by Anonymousreply 15411/19/2010

Only gay men use pet names. Straight women never do this.

by Anonymousreply 15511/19/2010

R148, why are you insisting that the first time hurts for all women or almost all women?%0D %0D The first time does NOT hurt for the vast majority of women.%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 15611/19/2010

[quote]And that does derail the thread a bit, because I think OP was asking about more general experiences than just first time experiences.

Um, yes, it does, considering that this line is in the original post:

[quote]This, of course, excludes your first time.

So I would have to say that the chick shrieking about how her vag was made of concrete when she first tried to have sex with a man is derailing the thread.

by Anonymousreply 15711/19/2010

The Concrete Vagina

by Anonymousreply 15811/19/2010

I think OP originally asked the question because, for most gay men, getting fucked does hurt, and he wanted to see if maybe women felt the same type of pain. And this has been an interesting thread. But to make a valid comparison, it would help to hear from women who have also been fucked in the ass. Assuming women feel the same type of "pain" that men feel when getting fucked in the ass, these women can then offer a real comparison of the "pain", if any, of being fucked in the vagina.

by Anonymousreply 15911/19/2010

That's a good point, R159.

by Anonymousreply 16011/19/2010

R156. I would ask you the very same. How do you know what "the vast majority of women experience?" Clearly, you are a freak who's been playing with dildos since you were 12. That's why you felt nothing your first time.%0D %0D Real virgins get hurt and they bleed. It's a well known fact and has been written about for centuries and in every culture. It's really not something that needs to be debated here.

by Anonymousreply 16111/19/2010

That is a huge fallacy R161 - a falsehood which is perpetuated without accuracy.%0D %0D It is a myth.

by Anonymousreply 16211/19/2010

[quote]Real virgins get hurt and they bleed. It's a well known fact and has been written about for centuries and in every culture. It's really not something that needs to be debated here.%0D %0D And completely debunked by books like Our Bodies, Ourselves and the entire women's liberation movement. But you know, who was paying attention to that?%0D %0D There's a third choice beyond pain or feeling nothing, you know. Otherwise, no one would do it. You owe it to yourself to see a doctor and find out why that doesn't happen for you.%0D %0D Scroll down to the Frequently Asked Questions and read them.%0D %0D [quote]Is there pain in tearing of the hymen?%0D No. Normally, in her first sexual intercourse, if the person does not tighten herself up, the intercourse will be very comfortable, without bleeding and without any pain. However, the prejudices and the unnecessary fears embedded in the subconscious cause the person to tighten up and have a lot of blood and pain.

by Anonymousreply 16311/19/2010

University of California, Santa Barbara.

by Anonymousreply 16411/19/2010

Some women posting here think it is still 1957.%0D %0D They are relics.

by Anonymousreply 16511/19/2010

This thread surpasses the Food With a Key thread for surreal stupidity.%0D %0D A normal vagina in normal everyday sexual use hurts no more than a penis does when used. It doesn't hurt like an ass can. For most women, using their vagina feels neutral to exquisitely multi-orgasmic. It's what a vagina is designed for.%0D %0D Enough already.

by Anonymousreply 16611/19/2010

What??? I am female and the first time hurt and I bled. The same is true for EVERY woman I've discussed this with. I don't discuss it with every woman I encounter, but over the course of the last 30 years, I imagine I've heard the same thing from about 20 woman.

by Anonymousreply 16711/20/2010

Same for me. My first time was painful, then I felt a snap, then I bled. It was awful.

by Anonymousreply 16811/20/2010

Were you both very young at the time?%0D %0D Some hymens do bleed, for sure. But many do not. As for the pain, nerves and fear cause women to tighten up and prevent lubrication; that's why it hurts for so many. It doesn't have to be that way...of course, it's worse if you're younger.

by Anonymousreply 16911/20/2010

No! I had an orgasm when I gave birth! The first time! Underwater!

by Anonymousreply 17011/20/2010

Only women bleed!

by Anonymousreply 17111/20/2010

Kathy Greaves, PhD.%0D %0D [quote]For some women, the first time they have vaginal intercourse, their hymen is ruptured. For many other women, however, the first time they have vaginal intercourse, there's no cherry popping going on. Many hymens are torn by a finger, a tampon or some other object that has been inserted into the vagina. And yes, a dildo would do the trick as well. Also keep in mind that some hymens are particularly thin - thin enough to be ruptured at first intercourse without bleeding - so do not assume that bleeding is a given upon first intercourse. Many individuals and cultures are incorrect in their belief that bleeding during first intercourse is an indication that the female was a virgin prior to the act. For some women, the first time they have vaginal intercourse, their hymen is ruptured.For some women, the first time they have vaginal intercourse, their hymen is ruptured.Second, even if she does bleed, it's not like it's a pint of blood. IF, and that's a big IF, she does bleed, it's a very small amount.

by Anonymousreply 17211/20/2010

R169: I was 15. I was able to use tampons after that, but not before.

by Anonymousreply 17311/20/2010

[quote]Love how she's backing off now and saying that, "yes, it can INDEED hurt if you are young, tense, not lubed enough...on and on."%0D %0D You do realize people have been saying that throughout the thread, right? And that more than one person has responded to you, right?%0D %0D And that the first time was never supposed to be the topic of the thread, right?%0D %0D And that PhDs who study human sexuality probably know more than you do, even if you talked to TWENTY WHOLE WOMEN, right?%0D %0D They often do write for college newspapers because it's usually younger women who need advice. If that's not this point, nothing would surprise me.%0D %0D Nobody said the first time never hurts. Just that it's not inevitable and it has little to do with stretching, and the only reason anybody was talking about it in the first place is because your insecure ass brought it up even though the OP specifically said he wasn't asking about the first time anyway.

by Anonymousreply 17511/20/2010

[quote] conclude, for most normal women who haven't been sticking dildos up there since the age of 12 (like this crazy nut) it hurts like a bitch the first time.%0D %0D Oh. My. God.%0D %0D People are trying to [italic]help you[/italic], you of the concrete vagina. Just do yourself a favor and go to Amazon, buy the latest version of Our Bodies, Ourselves and Dr. Ruth's Sex for Dummies, and read them. If you can't handle that, then shove them up your cunt to "stretch it out."%0D %0D But of course, taking a poll at your fucking knitting club that's full of women who are as clueless as you are will provide better scientific evidence than the experts who contributed to those books; what was I thinking? Those people with doctorates--especially the women with doctorates--are filthy liars!%0D %0D [quote]Well, yes moron, most of us WERE young the first time and tight as a drum. %0D %0D Really? Because in your little anecdote there, you had a pretty mature, sexually experienced boyfriend, considering he not only had the gumption to stop when you couldn't handle it the first time, but he announced later that it was the first time his dick hurt from fucking a chick. Doesn't sound like the description of a teenage boy to me, so it sounds more like you were at least 18-21 (which is how old I was, and it didn't hurt!). Unless you were fucking your biology teacher in the ninth grade or something, which would explain why you weren't paying attention to the textbook.%0D %0D I'm thinking you haven't had illumination on this issue before because you jump down people's throats every time someone tries to give you information.%0D %0D It's not everyone else's fault that you have convinced yourself that it's excruciating for all women the first time because it was for you--and you [italic]clearly[/italic] have problems--and because Desdemona bled.%0D %0D [quote]we're done now%0D %0D Yeah, we are. See a shrink, you frigid, Victorian bitch.

by Anonymousreply 17611/20/2010

R174 If you're not ready to have sex, then don't! I felt ready at 20, not before, and my first time was good. Not great, but good. It didn't hurt, I didn't bleed.

And no, I didn't used dildos before. I guess you and all your friends were 12 when you had sex, probably because your boyfriend wanted to and you were afraid he might leave you.

Different women, different experiences.

by Anonymousreply 17711/20/2010

Actually, speaking of Dr. Ruth...R177, she says that nothing permanently stretches the vagina until childbirth, so it wouldn't matter if you did use dildos. The concept of being "tight as a virgin" is a fallacy created by straight men and their fantasies.%0D %0D Youth makes a difference because you're smaller overall, you're more likely to have an intact hymen merely because you've had less time to break it--whether accidentally or on purpose--and you're more likely to be nervous and scared (so you tighten up and have less lubrication).%0D %0D So even if someone was "shoving dildos up there since she was 12," it wouldn't make a bit of difference. Women don't get "loose" after years of having sex. Men made that up.

by Anonymousreply 17811/20/2010

I think the lady with the concrete vagina should become a regular DL character.

by Anonymousreply 17911/20/2010

R179 / Cheryl is right. Time to welcome a new member of DL: "the lady with a concrete vagina".

by Anonymousreply 18111/20/2010

Should the lady with the concrete vagina have superpowers? Should she fly?

by Anonymousreply 18211/20/2010

I'd read all that stuff about it not hurting, the hymen probably already having broken, and I'd been using tampons with no problems for years. And I don't see why lubrication should be a problem, if you've been snogging a guy you fancy for hours beforehand. But it did hurt, and I did bleed. So many people pontificate, when apparently there's a huge variation in the shape and thickness of the hymen and nobody's ever done a proper survey.

by Anonymousreply 18311/20/2010

This thread is arousing!

by Anonymousreply 18411/20/2010

R121 and R165 (same person), you're the one from 1957. Your sound like my great-grandfather.

by Anonymousreply 18511/20/2010


by Anonymousreply 18611/20/2010

Did any lesbians have a painfull first time with a woman? For some reason *I* did. Not sure why. When she fingered me (three fingers) I bled

by Anonymousreply 18711/20/2010

It sounded like it was her first time also, R187. People think what they see in porn movies is what their partners want all the time. Who wants to be jack hammed all the time:)

by Anonymousreply 18811/20/2010

lubricants are available to heighten intimacy between men and women as well, and less necessary than they are for gay fucking, in most cases they can effectively counter the rare instances where straight fucking might be painful.

by Anonymousreply 18911/20/2010

[quote]But it did hurt, and I did bleed.%0D %0D %0D Of course it did. The first time hurts everyone who hasn't busted their own cherry with toys like the kooky gaping vag who keeps posting her nonsense here.

by Anonymousreply 19011/20/2010

R8 you're a whore darlin.

by Anonymousreply 19111/20/2010

hurts so good?

by Anonymousreply 19211/20/2010

Wasn't this a question for seasoned pros? After you've fucked a lot does it ever hurt when you're getting fucked?

by Anonymousreply 19311/20/2010

About five years I had sex with someone who earlier in the day picked me up at a Blockbuster (don't laugh-it's true) store nearby. I hadn't been with anyone in quite a long while beforehand. The guy was very well hung, great body and VERY energetic (he was about 10 years younger than me). It went on for quite a while. And even though I was definitely not a virgin and had been with men whose cock sizes varied, I did experience some pain and discomfort. The next day when I was at work I kid you not, I was so sore I had to take friggin advil!! I told a close pal of mine at work (still a close friend/confidante of mine even though we no longer work together) and she couldn't stop laughing the entire day. But really I was in pain afterwards.

by Anonymousreply 19411/20/2010

Remember the Duke girl who had the PP presentation? One of her comments after a night with a hung guy was "could.not.walk." She repeated that a couple times.

by Anonymousreply 19511/20/2010

I was 17, R169.%0D %0D And R176, you can justify your gaping pillar-accommodating cunt all you want with your Our Bodies, Ourselves rhetoric, but it doesn't make you the norm.

by Anonymousreply 19611/20/2010

R196 is completely DESPERATE to think of herself as 'normal', but everyone knows she is not normal.

by Anonymousreply 19711/20/2010

troll bar is your friend, r176. You don't even know who has written what and who you're addressing, not to mention the fact that you make an awful lot of assumptions.

by Anonymousreply 19811/20/2010

r190: the person being contrary is either a man, or a woman with a head full of rocks who probably does have a gigantic snatch because that's all guys use her for.

And btw fucktard at r176, who can't keep track of who they're talking to, I was 17 and he was 18. And why you would assume what his sexual experiences had been before me is unbelievable. And I don't need "illumination" on my own experiences and what I have come to understand from talking about this with other females. You are fucking crazy. AND you are a man. I am convinced of it.

by Anonymousreply 19911/20/2010

So I gather the consensus on this thread is that sex with normal, sexually active women is "not usually" painful unless it's the first time, the man's penis is too huge for her or the man is extremely selfish (on a scale of Greedy to Rapist).

Only unusual circumstances or health problems seem to cause an experience that rates "painful" overall, or leaves an impression that it mostly "hurt."

But I always expected women to rate sex as mostly PLEASURABLE. My theory is that it usually accompanies a LOWER, manageable degree of pain or discomfort to accommodate the dick, and this discomfort is drowned out by overwhelmingly pleasurable feelings, especially when the clitoris is stimulated.

The emotions women convey through screams and moans in porn videos suggest this to me.

I don't buy the notion that areas of the human body with nerve endings are indifferent to the sudden introduction of new mass, or can effortlessly accommodate any size, speed, direction or way.

by Anonymousreply 20011/20/2010

When is ole concrete pussy coming back?

by Anonymousreply 20111/20/2010

R200, no the below that you write is NOT accurate.%0D %0D 'My theory is that it usually accompanies a LOWER, manageable degree of pain or discomfort to accommodate the dick, and this discomfort is drowned out by overwhelmingly pleasurable feelings, especially when the clitoris is stimulated.'%0D %0D The above is NOT accurate. Just friggin' forget your PAIN theory. %0D %0D Having PAIN WITH INTERCOURSE IS VERY RARE.%0D

by Anonymousreply 20211/20/2010

Correct, r200. Like I said in r45, it can hurt a little when he's first pushing himself inside you, depending on his thickness and your tightness. It won't actually hurt once he's gotten fully inside. That 1 time for me with the really thick guy did hurt a bit when he was entering me, but the actual discomfort and pain was on the outside where I was getting tears. I could handle it, but it burned.

by Anonymousreply 20311/20/2010

R178 is right. Years of sex and/or dildos may break the hymen, but it doesn't loosen the vagina. So the idea that someone who enjoyed sex her first time must have been plowing herself with dildos for years doesn't make any sense.

[quote]When is ole concrete pussy coming back?

See R199.

[quote]And I don't need "illumination" on my own experiences and what I have come to understand from talking about this with other females.

Anecdotal evidence doesn't beat statistical evidence.

[quote]Wasn't this a question for seasoned pros?

Before concrete pussy showed up squawking about virgins and first times, that was the original question, yes.

by Anonymousreply 20411/20/2010

And I should add, r200, that it won't hurt if you go for a 2nd round of fucking when he pushes back inside you.

by Anonymousreply 20511/20/2010

Troll-dar *is* your friend for this thread, and as far as I can tell R176 was talking specifically to one poster. The lady with the concrete vagine.%0D %0D Some other women reported bleeding, but it doesn't sound like R176 was addressing them. She was talking to the one who keeps insisting that sex is bloody and excruciating for every woman the first time unless you mutilated yourself with sex toys in middle school.%0D %0D [quote]And btw fucktard at [R176], who can't keep track of who they're talking to, I was 17 and he was 18.%0D %0D That's not "very young."

by Anonymousreply 20611/20/2010

Why is R203 trying to pass off her slight difficulty as the 'norm'?%0D %0D R203 is not the norm.%0D %0D Just because R203 had slight difficulty does not mean that the vast majority of other women have any slight difficulty.

by Anonymousreply 20711/20/2010

But the fuck out, r206, since you obviously can't keep up either. What are you, his lawyer? Or are you just posting from another computer? He/or you was responding to someone else's comment when he thought he was talking to me. And who the fuck knows what your point is about 17 and 18 not being very young.

by Anonymousreply 20811/20/2010

So, if I'm reading this thread right, in about 200 posts, we've been arguing about whether penetration can be painful for a woman?%0D %0D And in 200 + posts we haven't agreed that if she isn't wet and stimulated enough it can be painful?%0D %0D All of you get an F.

by Anonymousreply 20911/20/2010

Whoa, whatever, sorry. So there are two crazy bitches on here.

Unless [italic]you[/italic] are posting from another computer.


Should the lady with the concrete vagina be a private eye?

by Anonymousreply 21011/20/2010

Word, R209.

by Anonymousreply 21111/20/2010

It's not necessary to be wet and stimulated to make it not hurt.%0D %0D There NO HURTING for the vast majority of women - whether wet/stimulated or not.%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 21211/20/2010

meant to type:%0D %0D There is NO HURTING for the vast majority of women whether wet/stimulated or not.

by Anonymousreply 21311/20/2010

Did someone on this thread actually claim that rape doesn't cause physical pain?

Fuck you, bitch.

by Anonymousreply 21411/20/2010

The question was DOES IT EVER HURT. And the answer is, yes. Lets' ignore rape, because that is an unforgivable act on it's own.%0D %0D If you're not excited by your partner and they penetrate you, it's likely to hurt or feel major discomfort. Especially if you're gay and have mostly been involved in oral sex; you may not like penetration.%0D %0D Doesn't matter first time or not, if that's not your thing, you move to another partner.%0D %0D Don't assume everyone gets immune to it...

by Anonymousreply 21511/20/2010

Who keeps trying to bring this thread to rape?

by Anonymousreply 21611/20/2010

[quote]I don't buy the notion that areas of the human body with nerve endings are indifferent to the sudden introduction of new mass, or can effortlessly accommodate any size, speed, direction or way.%0D %0D R200, puff your cheeks out like Louis Armstrong really fast. It doesn't hurt, because the inside of your cheeks stretched, right? It's kind of like that.%0D %0D If women have trouble their first time, it's because they have a thicker hymen than average and they're tightening up due to nerves--assuming they're not pubescent and tiny. Most women really don't have that difficult a time. They've either already broken it, were born without one, or it's thin enough that they don't even notice when it breaks. It has nothing to do with tightness because the vagina doesn't permanently stretch to a different size until you push out a kid. Then some ladies try to put a stitch or two in there to tighten it back up to what it was pre-childbirth, but I really don't know if that's wise.%0D %0D If at 17 you are in so much pain that you have to stop, you either have an abnormally thick hymen, which hey, some people do, or it's purely psychological, sorry.%0D %0D To the actual thread topic--after experience, it's all about lube and relaxation.

by Anonymousreply 21711/20/2010

"Who keeps trying to bring this thread to rape?"

Me. Who else ?

by Anonymousreply 21811/21/2010

r219 is getting awfully upset. Why? Are your nerves tightening up dear?

by Anonymousreply 22011/21/2010

When I had sex the first time, I didn't bleed (used tampons for 5 years). It didn't hurt during sex, but afterwards had the worst cramps. The sex itself was meh.

by Anonymousreply 22111/21/2010

I wish men would not answer this question. Info based on what you've read or what you're heard is irrelevant.

Women should provide answers that explain their experience, not make general statement for all women, like all women have the same experience.

Answer to the question, does it ever hurt when you're getting fucked, is:

IT CAN in my experience.

by Anonymousreply 22211/21/2010

No, of course it never hurts. There's only a ton of nerve endings there, but they are proprammed simply to register the immense pleasure only a penis can provide. That's why every woman's vagine is in a constant state of lubrication and arousal, so we can be every-ready to receive the pleasure of your glorious dick.%0D %0D Is that what you want to hear?

by Anonymousreply 22311/21/2010

R223, you should make it clearer that you're JOKING.

by Anonymousreply 22411/21/2010

Yes it was painful. We had to use lubrication to get his penis in. I was 25 and had used tampons since I was 15. And yes I bled for about a day; like I was on my period.

by Anonymousreply 22511/21/2010

Actually, R224, I should proofread my posts. Proprammed=programmed and every=ever.

by Anonymousreply 22611/21/2010

I still can cramp a little after sex sometimes, either with a man or a woman using a dildo. I think (don't know, never really looked it up), it's air getting caught up there. It's definitely what it feels like, gassy bloating.

Other than that? The guy I'm with right now is very long, not really thick. Can't give exact measurements, I'm not pulling out a ruler in bed, but it takes both of my hands to cover his entire cock. He absolutely hits my cervix, which can be a little painful when we first start, and only if he immediately starts going for the hard slamming action (he's very rough with me). Our first time together was a little uncomfortable.

If he starts slower with little taps I get a bit more used to it, and the bumping starts to feel really good. I never had an orgasm from vaginal intercourse until this...there's gotta be something to it.

Oh, and I'm 5'10, so height does not seem to relate to the length of a woman's vagina, which I kinda thought it would. I think that's neat.

by Anonymousreply 22711/21/2010

Lots of tough hymens on this thread. Horseback riding should be required for girls. Heh.%0D %0D I don't think men are answering the question, R222. Concrete vag just kept labeling posters who didn't tell her what she wanted to hear as male, when they're clearly not. Straight men don't post here, and no gay man would have gotten that pissed at her over vaginas.

by Anonymousreply 22811/21/2010

[quote]Straight men don't post here%0D %0D P6Esq. is a straight man who posts here.%0D %0D Female here. Sometimes it is uncomfortable if: I am not lubed. I am not sufficiently swollen to accomodate his size. He is too large. He is unable to follow the direction of my vaginal canal.%0D %0D When none of the above are happening, which is MOST of the time, it is a little uncomfortable for about a minute and then very enjoyable.%0D

by Anonymousreply 22911/21/2010

Any women have 2 dicks in their pussy at once? Please describe the feeling and also how it happened, the men's penis sizes, etc. I want stories, ladies!

by Anonymousreply 23011/22/2010

The bigger the cock the greater the pain. The first couple of times there is some discomfort yet the first time my god that shit hurts...but after you get pass that than the pleasure kicks in all the woman have to do is relax and b calm and inform the guy as to whether or not its her first time and he should be gentle when beginning to penetrate her then after the first 5-6 thrusts she should feel the pleasure...just ensure that shes wet and stimulated and there should be no problems...oh yeah foreplay works well too.

by Anonymousreply 23101/03/2012

Fucking depressing how long (and obnoxious) this thread is.

Proves we really don't need the straight women.

by Anonymousreply 23201/03/2012

I hope a monster eats the concrete vagine!

by Anonymousreply 23301/03/2012

I have the same experiences as r21- I have a very short canal (I think it correlates with having a short waist and neck), so it's easier to hit the ovary with the cyst, that's why I prefer thickness over length. And also the same as r221- started using tampons for 5 years before having sex. Sex didn't hurt, no bleeding, but horrific cramps after.

For those who say it's just the contractions that hurt during childbirth- do you know that most of the time, vaginas actually rip and have to be sewn up again? Tell me that wouldn't hurt.

by Anonymousreply 23401/03/2012

If blood and uterus lining hurt coming out of the cervix, imagine what a body feels like coming out of the same place.

by Anonymousreply 23501/03/2012

r44 Bravo!

by Anonymousreply 23703/08/2012

Bigots have low intelligence as evident by r236's rant with glaring punctuation errors.

by Anonymousreply 23803/08/2012

Yes, thank you R8 for sharing your knowledge of the sore, dry vaginas of 80 year-old women. You really should be on Jeopardy!

by Anonymousreply 23903/08/2012

fuck you

by Anonymousreply 24004/03/2012

I forgot all about Miss Concrete Vagine. How you doing girl?

by Anonymousreply 24104/03/2012

this got to 241 really? make that 242.

by Anonymousreply 24204/03/2012

It didn't hurt, but my first time was uncomfortable. It don't anymore. My pussy stays wet because I finger myself every chance I get. Also, love me some dildos when I can't have the real thing. And I ALWAYS swallow!!!!

by Anonymousreply 24304/10/2012

Yes, after I haven't done it in awhile.

by Anonymousreply 24404/10/2012

Nope, can't say that it does. They only time I can think of would be after many times a night at it and thank god for lube and we could keep on going.

Any more questions?

by Anonymousreply 24504/10/2012

Fuck the morons who want to make hymens un-pc and women who have hymens (almost every woman) freaks. It's completely normal to have a hymen that bleeds (and tears painfully) during the first time of penetration. For most women this happens only once and it doesn't bleed too much. Some women have no hymen or a very thin one that doesn't even bleed or hurt. Some women have a think hymen that bleeds a lot and maybe several times. This stands in no correlation to her ability to knit, you fucking crazy bitches.

And horse back riding does not take care of hymens. It only CAN theoretically. It MAY have happened sometimes, it's not something that usually happens. So stop with this ridiculous myth.

Oh, topic of the thread: Cervix or dryness.

The moans in porn are not about pain, as already said. It's meant to show discomfort of so much sensation, but not quite coming yet. Isn't it like that for men as well? Like you couldn't stop because it would be almost painful to not continue until orgasm?

by Anonymousreply 24604/11/2012

How about in the ass?

by Anonymousreply 24704/11/2012

no it doesn't hurt because I'm not taking it up the arse. thank you for your concern.

by Anonymousreply 24804/12/2012

I had a hysterectomy. We should have a hysterectomy thread. I would contribute.

by Anonymousreply 24904/12/2012

Anal doesn't hurt for me. And I enjoy it very much.

But I don't do it unless the guy suggests it first. I don't want to look like a whore.

by Anonymousreply 25004/12/2012

it doesnt cunt is always wet and when stimulated it drips.i like fingering myself when im alone.whenever i see a man my pussy starts 'dancing' and wish to fuck him.i never feel the pain,only pleasure.ladies,finger fuck yourselves nw nd then.and u wont feel the pain,im as wet as a damp cloth right now

by Anonymousreply 25104/13/2012

What about those pron stars that routinely fuck huge cocks. They must prepare using toys, right? What about DP? What does that feel like?

by Anonymousreply 25204/13/2012

Ashley walker

by Anonymousreply 25305/29/2012

Thank u

by Anonymousreply 25405/29/2012

Wow, DL chicks are just like DL dudes. A small majority of considered, reasonable responses, shouted down by an insanely loud minority of one-note psycho freaks with axes to grind.

by Anonymousreply 25505/29/2012

Aside from my first time, I never really had any pain until a few months ago. It was a one time thing with one guy and the sex I had inbetween then didn't hurt. But then tonight I had sex and it hurt really bad. I'm trying to figure out why it has hurt me just these two times, and I suppose I can understand why it hurt me today...the guy was pretty huge and he was pounding me and I hadn't done it in like a month. I mean it hurt like worse than ever. Then I tried to compare it with the other time it hurt a few months ago and the only thing I can think of about why it might have hurt that time was because it had been like 6 months since I had last done it. It's weird because I've had sex hundreds of times because I was in a 3 year relationship at one point, and we did it all the time, but it never hurt. So I'm trying to figure out why it's hurting sometimes now.

by Anonymousreply 25606/01/2012

r256 it could be age, hormonal changes, fribroids, etc. Ask your doctor.

by Anonymousreply 25706/01/2012

As someone who identified as mostly lesbian until recently, I have had a lot of discomfort with intercourse, but maybe that's because of nerves? I get terribly nervous and am always self-conscious throughout. Also doesn't help that most of my male partners have been young and rather selfish lovers.

by Anonymousreply 25806/01/2012

yes, it can hurt a little when you haven't done it for a while. and if they guy is really huge and/or bumps against the cervix whilst fucking you.

by Anonymousreply 25906/01/2012

"Mostly lesbian" R258? Do us all a favour and call yourself bisexual from now on. Lesbians don't fuck men, and you know it.

by Anonymousreply 26006/01/2012

Use lubricant don't salivate the pennis

by Anonymousreply 26307/30/2012

overuse? mine hurt tonight, but i've been doing it a lot. a friend in college had bruising inside once after a few bouts of rough (consensual) sex. how long until my vagina feels better enough to fuck again? not sure... guess i'll just have to test it out myself.

by Anonymousreply 26510/25/2012

Only if it's exceptionally big and he goes too fast.


One time, a really large guy banged too hard on my cervix and uterus, and leftover lining from my last period seeped out for 2 or 3 days. His fault, not mine.

by Anonymousreply 26610/25/2012

I blame you r266

by Anonymousreply 26710/25/2012

Haha. The only thing I'll take the blame for is grossing you out!

by Anonymousreply 26810/25/2012

AS i seen if u had longer foreplay with your girl,she get wet and she never fill pain.....but u come and just fuck her without foreplay den she fill like hell but we enjoy cause we fill tightness in her vagina......

by Anonymousreply 26912/06/2012

where was the first cock you ever touched?

by Anonymousreply 27012/06/2012

Yes the first it go in it is bigger and harder and your getting spread wide to be able to put something 3to4 bigger they that hole he'll.yes it hurts. But only for a minute. Then he feeling and finger and you go with it and enjoy:):)

by Anonymousreply 27102/01/2013

I am also mostly into girls, but sometimes I just need a hard cock!!!

by Anonymousreply 27202/01/2013

if sex was not made to be pleasurable, making it hurt to haves ex, half the human race would have not been born

by Anonymousreply 27306/28/2013

You're naive, #273. It's all about the men. Up until quite recently in human evolution, women were treated like livestock.

by Anonymousreply 27406/28/2013

When I lost my virginity I was very wet so it didnt hurt that much... Ladies be wet

by Anonymousreply 27501/01/2014

NO, but a lot of black men like to think it does(because they're just so big, don't ya know).

I still remember former NBA player John Salley bragging out loud that he's sent women to the hospital.

I mean, really, what a fucking idiot.

by Anonymousreply 27601/01/2014

Really? 276 posts on a gay site? Also, WTF is wrong with r262 who likes to screw 80 year old women? How the hell did he get here?

by Anonymousreply 27701/01/2014

Ehat the hell is this? A gay site?

by Anonymousreply 27801/04/2014

R104, of course not, especially when the woman has just been cut so the head comes out.

by Anonymousreply 28204/09/2014

r86, yes porn actresses are hamming it up. I like to make a few moans to make my man feel like he is doing a good job, yes I am usually faking it for his benefit. And no it doesn't hurt.

by Anonymousreply 28304/09/2014

My husband is bigger than average and I'm smaller so certain positions are very uncomfortable to the point of displeasure. However now that I'm edging into menopause, I've noticed that it's becoming truly painful. I guess it's time to hit the lube! Also, I've not had any children if that means anything (some say it does; most say it doesn't - who knows)

by Anonymousreply 28404/09/2014

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by Anonymousreply 28505/12/2014

[quote]When I lost my virginity I was very wet so it didnt hurt that much... Ladies be wet

I'm very wet, I even female ejaculate. But it hurts when my gf is fucking me with her fingers. It's a pity, sex is not really that fun for me.

by Anonymousreply 28605/12/2014

She won't do oral, R286? Dump her now.

by Anonymousreply 28705/12/2014

I've always had pain.

by Anonymousreply 28901/19/2015

No it feels good. Women like a good hard fuck. Especially doggy style. We like it fast and tough too. It does depend on how you thrust though, slowing down after a really fast fucking makes us climax quicker. We like begging you to take us faster, harder and deeper. I don't know what it's like for other women, but a quick thrust in the ass is much appreciated too, then slipped back into my pussy. Then you can have the satisfaction of a women saying, fuck me in the ass. We love it.

by Anonymousreply 29003/10/2015

When your bladder falls then yeah, it can be uncomfortable.

by Anonymousreply 29103/10/2015

R290, vaginal after anal is an excellent way to give yourself a pelvic infection.


by Anonymousreply 29203/10/2015

Yes, it can be painful depending on the position used and length of the penis.

A cervix isn't a trampoline. If something bangs up against it, generally it's going to be uncomfortable.

by Anonymousreply 29303/10/2015

It does when he first put it in but after that it's just amazing.!!!!

by Anonymousreply 29404/11/2015

You should try so that you yourself can find out what happens in that black mysterious hole

by Anonymousreply 29504/18/2015

I sometimes get sad when women are fucked

by Anonymousreply 29604/18/2015

I just started getting into anal

Two weeks ago it was my 22nd birthday & I went to the baths with my bf

I got into a sling & got punch fisted by a bunch of guys.

It was super hot, but my ass has been sore for a week!! Not sure I would do it again

by Anonymousreply 29704/18/2015

Yeast infection makes it hurt. And 97% of women have yeast infection.

by Anonymousreply 29804/19/2015

I miss the days when this was a web site where only the gays came.

by Anonymousreply 29904/19/2015
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