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Straight guys discuss man hugging their guy friends;they seem obsessed about possible gay implications

Back slaps are mandatory. Straight guys may not hug unless they are hitting each other as well, that's how they keep the gay off.

I give them the ultimate man hug. I get real close and whisper in their ear, "Our dicks are touching." No homo.

Unless you're making out with them or trying to penetrate their anus I can't really think of a display of affection that would be classified as gay.

Man hugs make people uncomfortable that are unsure about themselves and their sexuality - mostly if you are under 25 and have not yet found out who you really are.

One of my friends is kind of sensitive and he does it.Another friend is the "No-homo" douche type and he don't like being touched.I'm right in the middle so I go both ways.

Generally a handshake will suffice, unless it's one of my guy friends mocking my homophobia.

I remember a comedian talking about how men always have to hit each other on the back while they hug. Something about counter-balancing the 'feminine' hug with masculine agression- "I'm huggin ya, but I'm hittin ya!"

by Anonymousreply 7512/30/2013

Sounds like your typical Canadian conversation.

by Anonymousreply 208/14/2010

[quote]My straight male friends don't have a problem with me and they certainly don't mind a hug.%0D %0D They hug you like this?

by Anonymousreply 408/14/2010

Take notice, straight guys hug at the shoulders.

by Anonymousreply 508/14/2010

My personal favorite is when I see a guy at a urinal who is standing on kind of an angle so that any other guy who might happen to come in can't get a look at his penis.

by Anonymousreply 608/14/2010

[quote]Take notice, straight guys hug at the shoulders.%0D %0D Wha???%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 708/14/2010

I love that too R6. Or they go pee in the stall to avoid it altogether.

I was in grade school and jr high in the 80s...and back then it was the "pussies" and the "fags" who peed in the stall. It was considered manly to piss at the urinal.

Now these insecure straight fucksticks are just TERRIFIED that another man will see their penises.


by Anonymousreply 808/14/2010

I know what you mean, R8. I'm probably a few years older than you, but I remember that way of school age thinking from that era.

by Anonymousreply 1008/14/2010

The correct way to hug a guy, if you are straight: You shake each other's right hands while at the same time embracing each other with the left around the other's back. The hug lasts as long as it takes to make contact and then there is immediate release. Also, groins must not be touching at any point in time. If you don't believe me, watch (unrelated) str8 guys hug.

by Anonymousreply 1308/14/2010

I know a lot of straight guys for whom this isn't an issue. But, obviously for many it is.

There's an accepted straight guy hug - basically shake hands, lean in, head slightly over the other guy's shoulder, the clasped hands in between the bodies. Back slap often, but not always.

It's not a romantic or affectionate hug where the arms are around the persons body and the head is resting on the other person.

I see many guys do this without worrying about homo implications. But, again, I guess many do.

by Anonymousreply 1508/14/2010

R14, you know the very few extreme (nay radically) gay friendly straight guys in the country. They are in the less than 1%. Most straight guys do not hug, at all. In business they shake hands with other guys. In personal friendships, they usually don't touch at all or sometimes, IF they are life long friends or brothers, they friendly-punch the other guy when he is leaving. The pat on the back is sort of a rear version of the friendly-punch. Straight guys also DO NOT talk to others guys in the urinal, unless they are pissed drunk. Sometimes I wonder if some DLers have ever left NYC and met a genuine straight guy. Maybe these hugging and kissing guys are closet cases, still telling you they are straight. Straight guys do not hug or kiss other guys in North America. Sorry to ruin your fantasy.

by Anonymousreply 1608/14/2010

1. Straight guys who hug and kiss other guys are called "Metro" which really means: will have sex with the right guy. 2. White Collar or Blue Collar makes a different. If you think you can pop down to the local truck stop, country music bar or rifle range and see straight guys hugging and kissing, you are on drugs (that's you R18 - stop spending so much time with Crystal and Tina).

by Anonymousreply 2108/14/2010

So do we think the guys @ r4 are gay?

by Anonymousreply 2408/14/2010

"Unless you're making out with them or trying to penetrate their anus I can't really think of a display of affection that would be classified as gay."%0D %0D How about air kisses? %0D %0D Or since there's no physical contact, is that manly now?

by Anonymousreply 2508/15/2010

This has become a "straight guys will have sex with another guy under the right circumstances" thread. Just like a gay porn movie.

by Anonymousreply 2808/15/2010

R16, I've heard another thing is that straight guys won't talk to each other while showering. I never understood that. Where do they think the gay connotations come in if you talk to a guy while urinating or showering? Or is it because they're just afraid that the other guy will try to sneak a peek at his penis?

by Anonymousreply 2908/15/2010

"NYC straight" is not really straight. So, yeah I'm sure "secure straight guys" are always hugging other guys in NYC, well in Manhattan. I'm sure these NYC "heterosexual guy hugging guys" also like to dance and spend a ton of money on clothes too, you know because they are so secure about their heterosexuality.

by Anonymousreply 3108/15/2010

"The straight guys at work, however, are constantly chatting you up at the urinal..."%0D %0D I have seen this occasionally, but I don't think it's the norm at all. If anything, straight men are pretty reticent at urinals, unless they're next to someone they feel [italic]really[/italic] comfortable with.%0D %0D I do agree, though, about never seeing any gay men talk to each other at urinals.

by Anonymousreply 3308/15/2010

I give air kisses to all my best buds. I especially like to lean in and compliment them on their fragrance. Then I'll hook my hand into the back pocket of their skinny jeans and we'll walk to the Pottery Barn.

by Anonymousreply 3607/11/2012

I'm gay and in my 20s and I hate to hug. Some people just like their personal space.

by Anonymousreply 3707/11/2012

At my work straight guys who know each other talk at the urinal. At my gym they carry on with small talk in the showers.

by Anonymousreply 3907/11/2012

You can blame women for this: "Stop that. Did I marry a man or a girl? You're touching too long... quit!".

by Anonymousreply 4208/12/2012

I'm gay and always have been out, and I don't like hugging. If we are not intimate, don't touch me. (Except for a handshake in an appropriate situation. If you must.)

by Anonymousreply 4408/12/2012

[quote]Straight guys also DO NOT talk to others guys in the urinal, unless they are pissed drunk.

They most certainly do. And I live in Texas. They will carry on inane conversations for the duration of the piss. They will also call people and talk on the phone while taking a shit.

Personally, I think it's disgusting, especially the talking on the phone while taking a shit. If I'm talking to someone on the phone and become aware that they're on the can, I will hang up the phone. Anyone who knows me knows this.

by Anonymousreply 4508/12/2012

Do women talk to each other through the stalls while they're doing their business?

by Anonymousreply 4608/12/2012

[quote]One of my friends is kind of sensitive and he does it.Another friend is the "No-homo" douche type and he don't like being touched.I'm right in the middle so I go both ways.

Oh yeah, I can see which way you're going, pal.

by Anonymousreply 6301/09/2013

There's a percentage of men who get all weird about this stuff because they're gay and can't admit it.

It's probably a small percentage, but it's there.

by Anonymousreply 6401/09/2013

Oh, dear. Someone needs to learn how to use the quote box.

by Anonymousreply 6701/11/2013

R62: I am from the South, too, so I suspect that you a member of one of those evangelical Protestant denominations found so commonly throughout the Alabama, Georgia, etc. We do NOT hug in my church. You should not extrapolate broader meaning from your own narrow perspective.

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