[quote]Straight guys are the most insecure group of people on the planet.
Women call it sexual harassment when they wind up insulted for the "crime" of not being attracted to someone. This is dancing near that line.
[quote]Then again, I'm usually incline to think
[quote]...anyone insecure enough to refuse to hug, pee at a urinal, or be friends with a gay dude, probably is a closet case with a lot of baggage and something to prove.
Or he's just someone who is physically repulsed by the idea of having sex with men. Sometimes the "baggage" comes from having been the target of one or several closeted gays "orbiting" them, hoping to catch them vulnerable, all the while operating under the cloak of a presumption of heterosexuality. One could easily use your logic to say gays have issues when it comes to "normal" gender roles or relations with women.
How convenient of you to have a readymade insult for any man who won't let you watch him piss in a public urinal, hug you, or spend time with you as a friend.
[quote]My straight male friends don't have a problem with me and they certainly don't mind a hug.
Sampling bias: you're dealing with men who could be anything from ignorant and brainwashed, to naive, to closet cases themselves. Ignorance and brainwashing hits early, but boys usually break through that (some men are equally brainwashed not to go for women based on looks, or even to raise another man's child). Naive is when they just assume their friends are straight, usually until one makes a move on them or it becomes obvious they're gay. The closet cases are likely just testing the waters.
Having found out years or even decades after the fact that various males from my past (everything from bullies to teachers to friends) were gay, I speak from experience. The bullies wanted an excuse to touch me, the teachers were pervs, not concerned about my studies, and I had no problem with my closeted friends because they fed my ego, took more shit than my straight friends, were always around and available, willing to help with anything ("good friend" right), and it's just a LAZY way to avoid hitting on beautiful women, since some hard-up closet case isn't going to reject my invitation to hang out on a weekend.
Any gay who says he doesn't believe gay men ever prey upon straight men in this manner, is lying. Women have no problems with gay men because gay men don't hit on women. Not a fair comparison.