Serving up this steaming pile of
Celebrity Gossip
Gay Politics
Gay News
and Pointless Bitchery
Since 1995

Boyfriend keeps getting spam invites to join eharmony and

WTF? He isn't registered at the sites, but how do they get his e-mail for ads? Is it because he is surfing those sites? grrrrrrrrr

by Anonymousreply 3705/01/2014're peeking into your bf's email.

Trust--it's wonderful.

by Anonymousreply 107/06/2010

Yes OP. I get spam all the time from Russian mail order bride services and penis enhancement drug companies because I surf for that sort of thing all day...

by Anonymousreply 207/06/2010

r1 - that's right I don't trust him, now this is making me more suspicious. And yes I know it's wrong looking at his e-mail, have never done this to previous boyfriends so I obviously know something is not right here.

by Anonymousreply 307/06/2010

Either you're brand new to the internet or you're an idiot, OP.

by Anonymousreply 407/06/2010

I never get Spam, so that's why I am asking

by Anonymousreply 507/06/2010

Wow...jealous over your BF's spam...that's a new level of crazy, OP! And why are you privy to his email?

by Anonymousreply 607/06/2010

He uses the same password for everything. He has had me send e-mails and Facebook messages out for him before because he is a super slow typist and terrible speller. %0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 707/06/2010

I get spam for christian singles groups and pussy porn all the time...hundreds of them. OP must not be very familiar with how many millions of spam messages are sent out everyday.

by Anonymousreply 807/06/2010

You are truly an idiot, OP

by Anonymousreply 907/06/2010

That doesn't explain why you were snooping in his email. How, yes. But not why. Are you gay? You sound like a crazy straight chick. Eharmony doesn't allow gay profiles.

by Anonymousreply 1007/06/2010

r10 - Boyfriend is bi. Yes, I know...

by Anonymousreply 1107/06/2010

If he uses the same password for everything, check to see if he does have an eharmony account or check his internet history.

by Anonymousreply 1207/06/2010

OP, why the fuck would he be getting invites if he were a member? Looking at websites does not give them your email address.

Once an address is harvested somewhere -- maybe it was listed out on the open on some website or guestbook somewhere or who the fuck knows what, maybe he signed up for a free astrological reading or entered a contest, maybe somebody just guessed that that combination of letters is a working address -- it will be inserted in an extremely impersonal fashion into a program that sends out extremely non-targeted spam. Spammers send their shit to millions of addresses. They don't care how many of those people can't even use the product. They make money if some ridiculously low percentage goes for it. Like 0.02 percent or something. You can actually buy databases of addresses that you can send spam to.

by Anonymousreply 1307/06/2010

I'm gay and I get eHarmony spam. And I've never, EVER been to their website. It happens.

Also, you're fucking nosy and ignorant, which is a dangerous combination.

by Anonymousreply 1407/06/2010

I get spam messages telling me I've won the lotteries of various countries most often Nigeria. I've never been to Nigeria OP - it's in the nature of spam. Sadly I'm still waiting on my millions...oh the pain!%0D %0D Now grow up, split up with the boyfriend you don't trust and please go away

by Anonymousreply 1507/06/2010

"have never done this to previous boyfriends"

sort of says a lot, hon... not able to make any of them last are you?

by Anonymousreply 1607/06/2010

He could've registered with any site which then sold his email address to the spammers. A lot of places do that.

by Anonymousreply 1707/06/2010

[quote]how do they get his e-mail for ads? Is it because he is surfing those sites?%0D %0D His address could be gotten from a friend or relative who belongs to one of those groups. Some stupid people who join social networking groups open their total e-mail address list to the group. Thus your b/f could get mail from them.

by Anonymousreply 1807/07/2010

R12 has a good point. See if he has an eharmony account. When you sign in its your e-mail address you use, not a screen name.%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 1907/07/2010

misshelenbedd - so you have only dated one person in your lifetime? Give it up.%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 2007/07/2010

OP is his email address posted on Facebook?

If so then THAT is why he is getting spam emails. Data miners continually target sites like that for information.

Also, many companies sell email addresses (like mailing lists are sold by them for snail mail addresses), so if he's ever bought anything online, chances are his email has been sold to other companies.

by Anonymousreply 2107/07/2010

Right now, it appears that eHarmony® is being spamvertised by the unrepentant jackwagon spammer Kevin Kirkpatrick and his "Wise Choice Media," or "cooplabs." He sends crap for everything from AT&T Wireless to FreeCreditReport to "Platinum Cards." The big companies really should sue his sorry ass for costing them more customers than it brings in. He sends the crap as images, so if a SpamCop report is sent to the spamvertised company, they can't see the content. He uses throwaway domains with silly-assed names like "," and sends to "undisclosed recipients," which apparently includes every Yahoo address in existence. So don't break up with the BF over some spam. Just find the spammer and break his fingers.

by Anonymousreply 2209/28/2013

OP, you're dating a bi guy? You're expecting him to be faithful to you?

You get what you asked for. Enjoy the ride!

by Anonymousreply 2309/28/2013

Isn't eHarmony primarily a Christian dating site?

by Anonymousreply 2409/28/2013

It sounds like you WANT to find some bad news.

Google his email address. Merry Christmas!

by Anonymousreply 2509/28/2013

OP says he doesn't get spam. Now I know he's a troll.

by Anonymousreply 2609/29/2013

R26 It depends which e-mail address I use. My gmail account gets hundreds of spams a day. My hotmail account, which I've had longer, gets no more than five a day.

by Anonymousreply 2709/29/2013

I'm not signed up for any of these and I get these sites contacting my work email (which is a city name, not even a person) all the time.

by Anonymousreply 2809/29/2013

Here's an idea. Instead of spying on your BF - talk to him.

If that doesn't work, withhold sex until he talks to you. If he doesn't seem to care that you're not having sex with him - than you know something is wrong.

by Anonymousreply 2909/29/2013 haahah so fucking funny im gay now :)

by Anonymousreply 3004/30/2014

I am a gay male never been with a woman or on any straight dating site, I get spam from Brittney who has been looking all over for me and wants to reconnect, I know no one named Brittney. I get spam from Christine who wants to show me her pussy on cam. I get spam from eharmony, Christian singles and other dating services I have never heard of.

If your boyfriend got emails from a Nigerian prince would you suspect him of doing anything with Nigerian Princes?

Forget about it. It is spam.

by Anonymousreply 3105/01/2014

[quote]I never get Spam

How is that possible? I call bullshit.

by Anonymousreply 3205/01/2014

OP he is most assuredly cheating on you. I think everyone would agree that you need to buy a wig, trench coat & dark sunglasses & follow him.

by Anonymousreply 3305/01/2014

This can end in three ways, OP, and none of them are good.

1. You find out he is cheating.

2. You find nothing, but that doesn't satisfy you, so you keep snooping and get more and more invasive hacking his voicemail, etc. until it either drives you nuts that you can't find anything or ...

3. He figures out you've invaded his privacy, and even though he wasn't cheating, he no longer trusts you and dumps you.

If you don't trust him, either talk to him about your jealousy and insecurity or break up. Mentally healthy people don't spy on their partners.

If this relationship matters at all to you, stop now. If he is cheating it will come out eventually but currently you are the only one in the wrong.

by Anonymousreply 3405/01/2014

Are you a Scorpio, OP?

by Anonymousreply 3505/01/2014

Sign him up for Christian Mingle. They have the gayest guys on their commercials.

by Anonymousreply 3605/01/2014

Tell him to stop going to to win a million dollars a year for life.

by Anonymousreply 3705/01/2014
Need more help? Click Here.

Follow theDL catch up on what you missed

recent threads by topic delivered to your email

follow popular threads on twitter

follow us on facebook

Become a contributor - post when you want with no ads!