To the obnoxious dolts who attacked the OP & partner, you are wrong, wrong, wrong.
As I suspected, the "smoky neighbors" were rude, uncivilized trash who ultimately had to move. Appears that they could not pay their mortgage, but had money to buy liquor & cigarettes -- typical American behavior.
I still want to address the big issue & a few others regarding the DL, the "gay community" & our society that concern me.
In college & during my career, a landmark 1962 U.S. Supreme Court decision involving the environment & property rights was often cited. In summary, the ruling was: Property owners not only own the terra firma upon which they're situated, they also "own" their property's airspace including that overheard to a specific altitude.
In the OP's case, the neighbors had the right to smoke on their property, but not to infringe upon the airspace belonging to the OP & partner.
Americans generally have an improper attitude about holding a deed. Small-minded, militant home owners who believe that they have the right to do just about anything they choose on their property are mistaken.
Annually, Americans instill over one billion tons of agricultural chemicals in their lawns & gardens. The adverse consequences are not restricted to their individual properties. Although it's legal, it's not OK to pollute everyone's water supply.
Smoke (especially tobacco) also makes me terribly ill, so I sympathize with the OP's former situation. My internist & allergist (both an MD) can attest to allergic & other adverse reactions caused by smoke exposure.
If smoke from burning modern materials did not contain toxic irritants & allergens, incinerators might still be legal & common. The modern human immune system is poorly understood & under constant assault. Obviously, most of you did not grow up next to a farm like I did and are unaware of what a toxic weed tobacco is, intact or burned.
How dare uneducated idiots mock experienced medical doctors with your vitriolic insults coupled with internet links to silliness, as if everything on the wasteland known as the internet is trustworthy. Any moron or idiot-backed organization can post their "research" on the internet & make it appear legitimate. The concept reminds me of other "faux education" such as home- schooling & college degrees via computer.
R265, barebackers are the reason that HIV/AIDS is a pandemic instead of the isolated disease in Africa it originated as & should be; I want nothing to do with those ignoramuses. Making a joke about them demonstrates your ignorance. I wouldn't be surprised if you believe in "sexual freedom" that includes unprotected sex, spreading disease, and accusing me of being uptight & homophobic. Responsible gays like me can never have sex without fear because of selfish, promiscuous 1970s queers who refused to use condoms & common sense.
R278, bravo, you are a genius & I admire your mind. People like you are one reason why I continue to participate in the DL!
OP, I respectfully suggest that you never consult the Data Lounge for advice, especially about issues regarding etiquette, social interaction, or personal matters.
The nature of replies in this thread clearly demonstrates that just as with many gay men I've met, the majority of DL participants is one or more of: immature; vindictive; superficial; uneducated; socially inept; narrow-minded; insensitive; self-centered; hedonistic; emotionally unbalanced.
A guy recently posted on here that he's mystified why he's single and listed the following attributes: young; big dick; and works out regularly. I'm sort of mystified why his type doesn't understand that if those are his best offerings, he's not relationship material to genuine men.