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Gay Life in Birmingham AL.

Could one live there? Thinking of taking a job there

by Anonymousreply 10503/17/2015

Yes. Birmingham isn't as bad as you might think. It is the deep south, which involves humidity and occasionally arcane behavior patterns.

by Anonymousreply 106/09/2010

I'm here. I've been here five years. I'm out at work, went to the premiere of the gay and lesbian film festival tonight. I have a life. It is not a richly layered experience for the gay man, to be sure. But you won't be beaten in the streets, either. You're more likely to find a small circle of friends, private dinner parties, etc. than any gay bar scene you'd want to be a part of. Atlanta's a 2.5 hour drive, and you can go over there and get your gay on on the weekends. That's the best answer.

by Anonymousreply 206/09/2010

I went there to meet the author of 'To Kill A Mockingbird'. She was so nice.

by Anonymousreply 306/09/2010

OMG you can't just throw that out there r3. It needs its own thread!

by Anonymousreply 406/09/2010

I too came here for a job and intended to stay no more than five years. That was twelve years ago. Inexpensive. A much larger gay community than you might realize. Easy to use airport. Close to Atlanta. NOLA is a good weekend trip. Good cultural offerings - opera, symphony, ballet, theater. I'm perfectly out in a notoriously homophobic profession with no issues. Basically, it's fine to be gay as long as you don't bring it up in polite society. (I met Harper Lee as well - she's a doll)

by Anonymousreply 506/09/2010

I'd like to live there.

by Anonymousreply 606/09/2010

The Virginia Samford Theatre is Gay Central in B'ham.

by Anonymousreply 706/09/2010

I thought the name of that book was "To Kill A Blackbird."

by Anonymousreply 806/09/2010

I have relatives (straights) who moved to Huntsville and they like it. Nasa has a lot of offices there and is supposed to be one of the biggest employers. Alabama has been giving tax incentives to companies that relocate or start up new businesses.

by Anonymousreply 906/09/2010

r3, that is my next NetFlix. It is arriving today.

by Anonymousreply 1006/10/2010

It's one of the axes, r7, along with Rojo, Silvertron Cafe, Covenant, and pretty much all of Crestwood.

Been on stage there a dozen or so times in the last few years myself...

by Anonymousreply 1106/10/2010

I love when people in these minor cities talk about a scene. Have any of you ever been to NYC or London? If so, then the answer is that Birmingham is nothing more than a sad little back water with a gaggle of sad queens that have to travel 2.5 hours to get to a semi-decent bar. Sign me up!

by Anonymousreply 1206/10/2010

R12 = Lisa Douglas

by Anonymousreply 1306/10/2010

" Birmingham is nothing more than a sad little back water with a gaggle of sad queens that have to travel 2.5 hours to get to a semi-decent bar."

Because going to a bar is such a deeply meaningful part of life...

by Anonymousreply 1406/10/2010

Does R12 still get allergic smelling hay?

by Anonymousreply 1506/10/2010

What are all these jobs you have to move to Birmingham AL for? Klan Wizard?

by Anonymousreply 1606/10/2010

I don't know what kind of job the OP is taking, but the healthcare industry, and the legal communities are both huge in Birmingham, r16. I am a native (who has been to London, Paris, Munich, Moscow, etc.), gay, and liberal politically. As many posters noted above, Birmingham has a thriving gay community, including a MCC, central Alabama Pride, Alabama equality, and many cultural activities to be enjoyed (and bars too..."The Quest" has been here forever).

by Anonymousreply 1706/10/2010

Correction. Birmingham is a "real" city. It has a bar. My sincerest apologies.

by Anonymousreply 1806/10/2010

I love how some of you still cling to the stereotypes of Southern Life. So Untrue and often unfounded bad movie fodder.

by Anonymousreply 1906/10/2010

Uhhm...r18...there is more than one gay bar in B'ham (I just mentioned quest because it is the oldest, and ALWAYS open).

by Anonymousreply 2006/10/2010

Birmingham way not be the most exciting place to be, but it's a helluva lot better than some other places I could mention.

by Anonymousreply 2106/10/2010

How does it compare to Kansas City Mo.?

by Anonymousreply 2206/10/2010

Isn't that like comparing gonorrhea to syphilis?

by Anonymousreply 2306/10/2010

R12, for most gay men in this country, our lives stopped revolving around gay bars some years back. Just so you know...

by Anonymousreply 2406/10/2010

r22, you just reminded me about how awful the gay scene is in KC, MO!

by Anonymousreply 2506/10/2010

the key is to just live your life- do not get involved with the Gscene there-- They are an extremely sad group of nelly backstabbing queens but Southwest can fly you out of there and the best thing about Birmingham is it is DIRT Cheap.

by Anonymousreply 2606/10/2010

My gay cousin lives in Kansas City, MO and I've visited a few times. It's a right-wing Baptist shithole. I don't know how he can stand it there.

by Anonymousreply 2706/10/2010

I may be in the minority here, but I love Kansas City. I've never found it to be "Baptist" (Catholic, maybe) other than in black political circles. I've never had a problem being "out" here; I do LGBT volunteer work and have met a ton of interesting folks.

Here's a recent NY Times piece that gives you a snapshot:

by Anonymousreply 2806/10/2010

OP, no matter what people say here, it's still Alabama. Unless I'm mistaken, there are few if any gay rights in that state. God help you if you want any legal protections in your life - you won't find them in AL.

by Anonymousreply 2906/10/2010

get prepared to be thought of like someone with a contagious illness- Have a weatlthy friend from Tuscaloosa in a private Birmingham law school who would not get off the elevator in a hotel bar downtown Bham because he saw a "gay" and there might be "gay people in the bar." "The gays are going to burn in hell!" you will ruin your life if you move here!!

by Anonymousreply 3006/10/2010

I'm sure that Blacks and Whites there live in perfect harmony, now that we're a post-racial country.

by Anonymousreply 3106/10/2010

The Episcopal Church The ADVENT in Donwtown Birmingham flew Black Flags when the National Episcopal church announced they would allow a Gay Priest

by Anonymousreply 3206/10/2010

[quote]I'm sure that Blacks and Whites there live in perfect harmony, now that we're a post-racial country.

You bet, just like they do in NYC.

by Anonymousreply 3306/10/2010

[quote]How does it compare to Kansas City Mo.?

They've gone about as far as they can go.

by Anonymousreply 3406/10/2010

There are Hundreds ff closeted married men in Birmingham--That is how it is still Done here. I am invited to a Huge married man orgy next Tuesday Night - It should be really fun and alot of hot married guys--

by Anonymousreply 3506/10/2010

Kansas City is a city with a large population but is also very very boring. They're trying to make the city happen but it just isn't going to stick.

by Anonymousreply 3606/10/2010

I love 33's fractured logic. NYC is racially segregated, too. So why not move to Alabama!

Do they bottle delusion down there, or do they just give it away?

by Anonymousreply 3706/10/2010

It's not delusion. It's a veiled suggestion that you should clean up your own act before you point your finger at others.

by Anonymousreply 3806/10/2010

Inside the city limits is mostly liberal and vibrant; the suburbs (aka "over the mountain") are provincial, churchy, and bland.

by Anonymousreply 3906/10/2010

[quote]do not get involved with the Gscene there-- They are an extremely sad group of nelly backstabbing queens

Mystic Krewe of Apollo, anyone?

by Anonymousreply 4006/10/2010

Oh, dear. More ridiculous (ir)rationalization.

Tell us about all the lynchings that happened in NYC, Buford. Do tell.

by Anonymousreply 4106/10/2010

Veiled suggestion? Oh, Mary. That's just flatulence under your muumuu.

I'll trash Alabama and every Dixie racist hateful kudzu-infested Southern Confederate-lovin' backwater state that I want.

The U.S. South is a pustule.

by Anonymousreply 4206/10/2010

Re: the bar scene, it's indeed nothing to write home about, but you haven't lived until you've clapped eyes on the toothless drag fossil that is Miss Libertee Belle.

by Anonymousreply 4306/10/2010

The Mayor of Birmingham, county commisioner and head of the democratic party are in Federal prison for orchestrating what is about to be the Largest Backrupcy in national history of a County- Jeferson Count is Five BIllion in Debt- Condo/ Loft values in downtown Birmingham have just plummeted 40% in the last 12 months. Stay away for you own good. It is a DYING city!

by Anonymousreply 4406/10/2010

Are there plenty of gorgeous black studs in Alabama?

by Anonymousreply 4506/10/2010

"Miss Libertee Belle."

Madame came to life, just like Pinocchio!

by Anonymousreply 4606/10/2010

There are two very SAD Gay bars in Birmingham --Most people go to New Orleans or Atlanta for the weekend!

by Anonymousreply 4706/10/2010

Most of the great looking Black smart people leave as quickly as the can get out of here! Atlanta is very Black-tastic!

by Anonymousreply 4806/10/2010

People still go to gay bars? If I were moving to Birmingham, I'd be more interested in knowing about the cuisine, the museums, the theatre scene, and the gay sport/hobby leagues.

by Anonymousreply 4906/10/2010

Highlands has been ranked among America's top restaurants for years. The Birmingham Museum of Art is the largest city museum in the South; if you're into the decorative arts, it's got the largest collection of Wedgwood outside of England.

by Anonymousreply 5006/10/2010

I go to the big softball tournament in Birmingham every Easter weekend and we always have a great time. The people are friendly and at least that weekend, the bars are fun.

Ignore the bitches who aren't happy unless they piss on everything, OP.

by Anonymousreply 5106/10/2010

These hot and sexy guys that come into Birmingham for the big softball weekend. You know what they do when the games are over? THEY LEAVE!! They go back to Nashville, Dallas, and Atlanta! but you are right r50 we have ONE count them ONE nationally ranked restaurant! op you will make a horrible mistake if you move to Birmingham

by Anonymousreply 5206/10/2010

Well, there is gay possum eating...

by Anonymousreply 5306/10/2010

I can't get over the person whose 'wealthy friend' from Tuscaloosa wouldn't go into a bar "because there was a gay"...I am a Birmingham native who lived in Tuscaloosa for awhile and if the 'friend' hasn't seen any 'gays in Tuscaloosa, his name must be HELEN KELLER!

by Anonymousreply 5406/10/2010

r54 It is called HOMOPHOBIA-- It runs rampant in every church and on every golf course in Alabama

by Anonymousreply 5506/10/2010

I lived in Birmingham and it was that BAD!

by Anonymousreply 5606/10/2010

[quote]Tell us about all the lynchings that happened in NYC, Buford. Do tell.

Well, we do know that the NYC police love them black people. Anyone sodomized with a broom handle this week? Or grooms shot on the way to their weddings?

by Anonymousreply 5706/10/2010

The Catholic Propaganda Network (EWTN) is headquartered there.

by Anonymousreply 5806/10/2010

Isn't this the city where the mayor hired the gay porn star to, um, install computer networks?

by Anonymousreply 5906/10/2010

Oh, it's even better than I remembered. It's DL Legend Ryan Idol!

by Anonymousreply 6006/10/2010

I live in Birmingham because in my relatively specialized medical field, I have a well paying job with an institution (UAB) that has supported me.

There are a number of very good restaurants. The art museum, symphony, and ballet are all nationally prominent. The theater scene is vibrant.

I've lived in Seattle, I've lived in San Francisco and I'm perfectly happy here.

by Anonymousreply 6106/10/2010

Restaurants are not a problem. They're superb.

The oppressive, regressive, backwater mentality - that's a problem. I've endured it five years. My solution was finally to buy a weekend condo in Atlanta, where for two days a week, I feel comfortable in my own skin.

The people are super nice in BHM. I feel very... tolerated here.

by Anonymousreply 6206/11/2010

Most people that live in Birmingham Leave Every weekend--either to Nashville, Atlanta, Beaches, Lakes--It will be absolutely dead this weekend here- Scotts Antique show in the ATL this weekend!--

by Anonymousreply 6306/11/2010

All this gossamer 'weekend fleeing' talk is hilarious. Are some of you so sad and Chihuahua-eyed that you have to routinely flee to Atlanta or Nashville to calm your delicate pearly nerves?

by Anonymousreply 6406/11/2010

Stop with all the bar bashing. It's really not about going to the bars. The number of bars reflect the depth of the gay population (i.e. the more bars, the bigger the "scene".) You may not choose to partake in the scene, but there is more likely a greater depth to other outlets (i.e. theater, music, food, etc.)

So yes, when people say that there are only one or two gay bars in the city, it totally is reflective of how sad that city really is.

The fact that people keep saying that you just need to get on a plane or drive to another city for a little action speaks VOLUMES!

by Anonymousreply 6506/11/2010

I've lived in Birmingham, Miami, Philadelphia, Chicago, NYC, Los Angeles, Seattle, And Atlanta.

If I could move back anywhere, it would be Birmingham. The people were nice, the pace relaxed, has an art scene, history, beautiful homes, hot guys, and a giant Thor who lets you know if there has been any traffic deaths.

The one bad thing, It does have really bad traffic.

by Anonymousreply 6606/11/2010

The land of the boll weevil

Where the laws are medieval

by Anonymousreply 6706/11/2010

Birmingham is made of approximately 35 different and distinct municipalities. Birmingham is really pretty horrible except for the Redmont and Forest Park neighborhoods. Downtown Loft District is DEAD. Otherwise Mountain Brook is the place to invest your money.

by Anonymousreply 6806/12/2010

Bump for Bham

by Anonymousreply 6902/13/2011

Anyone else from Bham?

by Anonymousreply 7003/11/2012

Isn't Colton from Birmingham too?

by Anonymousreply 7103/12/2012

[quote] I am invited to a Huge married man orgy next Tuesday Night - It should be really fun and alot of hot married guys--

I bet you ran into at least 2 acquaintances of mine from college who were gay in college, moved back to Birmingham, got married to women and had kids (who themselves are college age now).

by Anonymousreply 7203/12/2012

Friends of mine moved there not long ago. They said the first question they get asked whenever they meet someone (even just chit chatting on line at Starbucks) is "What church to you go to?"

Since moving there, their idea of a nice dinner out is Brio, which is like an upscale version of Olive Garden.

But they are happy there. They bought a HUGE house for about 1/5th of what it would cost in NY, NJ, CT.

by Anonymousreply 7303/12/2012

I think I know who R62 is. Do you work in advertising?

by Anonymousreply 7403/12/2012

The gay scene in Birmingham is not bad and is still growing. There is an LGBT Film Festival, many gay social organizations, a gay pride with a parade, LGBT meetup groups, and of course the bars. I have recently started an LGBT social blog for the area which will include news, blog posts, and a directory for the area. Check out for more info.

by Anonymousreply 7505/10/2012

I bet Birmingham is all a-twitter with the prospect of having another 'mo in their town.

That'll make like what? Three of you?

by Anonymousreply 7605/12/2012

Looking for Libertee Belle. If he is alive and well or otherwise. Please let me know.

by Anonymousreply 7707/05/2012

I know some real freaks who live there. Omnisexual s&m circus people, but they are ot the norm and stay there mostly because they'd be totally ignored in a city full of actual artists and are "special" in their small fish bowl. And one would be completely ignored and shunned for her dead eye and the other likely arrested for rape which doesn't seem to be illegal in Alabama.

by Anonymousreply 7807/06/2012

I am the Grand Dame of Birmingham - And I think your a twit . . . Not my first choice of wordage - But I didn't wanna seem rude.

Libertee Belle The Oldest Queen in Captivity

by Anonymousreply 7907/29/2013

Great to hear from the true the one and only queen Bell long live the queen met u many years ago in Altoona al

by Anonymousreply 8008/17/2013

Any more people from Birmingham?

by Anonymousreply 8108/17/2013

Just moved to over the mountain really like the bhm area sofa far

by Anonymousreply 8208/18/2013

I visited there briefly and am of split opinion on the place. It's an interesting city, with some fine residential neighborhoods and good architecture and restaurants and amenities. In many ways, it would be an easy and enjoyable place to live and live rather well.

A weekday night gay bar tour, however, might have been wrapped up tidily in a half hour, tops. The places were rather sad at best and worn down and rough at worst; all were time warps. The majority of the clientele seemed to come from a very small gene pool: round heads sitting directly on shoulders (without benefit of a neck), narrow slit eyes, self-administered haircuts, shoddy clothes, and a general slouchiness and lack of confidence -- the sort seen in a beaten dog. Even against my checked expectations of having lived in the South and having traveled throughout it a good deal, Birmingham's gay bars were a deep disappointment. Granted, it was a mid-week night, but I've been other places that were slow --very slow even-- without smelling of sad desperation and such dim expectations on the part of both bars and clientele.

I would go back to Birmingham, but its gay bars would not be a draw -- not at all.

by Anonymousreply 8308/19/2013

I thought I would like living there but last time I was there there was some kind of emergency curfew and regular people were no supposed to be on the street. Also, the county went bankrupt. So I really think this may be one place so misgoverned that it might be wise to give it a pass.

by Anonymousreply 8408/20/2013

The BF's ma and pa are leaving him a house in Birmingham. Tuscaloosa. He actually asked me if I wanted to move there after they've passed away.

by Anonymousreply 8508/20/2013

I live here and I love it. Contrary to popular belief - I am not dead. As a matter of fact was the Grand Marshall for the 25th GLBT Pride Parade in the city . . . I've also lived all over. But am happy to call The Magic (often Tragic) City my home . . . Libertee Belle - The Oldest Living Drag Queen in Captivity

by Anonymousreply 8609/30/2013

I'm from the South and doubt I'll ever live there again. While Bham may be lovely, it's in a state and a region that are backward.

I'm glad there is some sort of gay scene there. You can also be fired from your job in Alabama and the rest of the South for being gay, because anti-discrimination laws there don't include gays and lesbians. You will never be able to marry there.

You are living in a place where people are nice to your face -- but routinely vote in ways that indicate they hate you.

But the houses are cheap, so yay.

by Anonymousreply 8709/30/2013

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by Anonymousreply 8812/02/2013

Interviewed at Saks' hq in B-ham. They seemed stupid and incompetent.

by Anonymousreply 8912/02/2013

I was born and raised about 55 miles from Birmingham (Jasper). Everyone, except me, knew I was gay. In high school, I was popular in that everybody knew who I was. I always heard talk of queers, fags, and others. As I was an insider, I was never threatened or hurt.

The South really can't be described, but has to be experienced. It's complicated and simple, at the same time. Simple, all you need are good manners and good ethics. Show up to work/appointments on time, use "yes sir, no mam, please, thank you", and the biggest of red necks will soon respect you. You have to adjust to the South. The South does not adjust to you. And don't let them hick accents lure you into the false sense of someone who is dumb. They've got you all figured out the moment you walk in the door!

Ahhhh, Kansas City. Not the same since I lived there in the 70s. Loved the Dover Fox. Last time I was there, it was a parking lot.


by Anonymousreply 9012/02/2013

It really is the worst governed locality in the U.S. Serious police curfews are a frequent occurrence.

by Anonymousreply 9112/03/2013

It's too bad because they have a nice infrastructure and fairly scenic location. But cities are made by people, and people in Bham are ... well, don't turn your back on them.

by Anonymousreply 9212/03/2013

[quote]It really is the worst governed locality in the U.S.

At least Larry Langford is out of our hair.

by Anonymousreply 9312/03/2013

The folks in Birmingham make the folks in Detroit look smart. I'm just sayin'.

by Anonymousreply 9412/03/2013

I live in Manhattan and am looking at an opportunity in Birmingham for a company that has its US headquarters in NYC. I'm entertaining the idea because: a) it's a great career move, and; b) the housing is dirt cheap compared to NYC and I can save a lot of money.

Reading about "police curfews" sends up some serious red flags. They're something I've only heard about.

Taken altogether, this makes me wonder why large, successful companies are moving profitable brands to Birmingham if the government there is a mess.

by Anonymousreply 9501/02/2014

R95. I've lived in Alabama 32 years and Birmingham 8 years. I have never heard of a police curfew. It ain't no Manhattan (yes, language intended for effect), but what is? There are many beautiful areas and a very nice quality of life. It's all about what you're looking for but it's never as bad as my Manhattan friends assume. Recently asked with a little reservation...."do you have Starbucks in Alabama?" There are 5 within 1.5 miles of my home. Again, not like one on every corner in Manhattan, but, enough.

by Anonymousreply 9603/17/2015

We have Starbucks and Saks and an opera company and a ballet and a vibrant theater scene. Yeah, the bar scene sucks but who needs it.

by Anonymousreply 9703/17/2015

$500 of your child is on the street at 9:01 p.m. Even if they are with you. Jail time for both children and parents if they repeat.

by Anonymousreply 9803/17/2015

Police "sweeps" where they stop everyone looking for violations are a regular feature of life in Birmingham

by Anonymousreply 9903/17/2015

I was threatened by some rednecks at a motel in Jasper in 2004.

by Anonymousreply 10003/17/2015

Nope. sorry. it was 2002.

by Anonymousreply 10103/17/2015

[quote]I love how some of you still cling to the stereotypes of Southern Life. So Untrue and often unfounded bad movie fodder.

Just shut your mouth now!

OP may be dinge, but I need a driver.

by Anonymousreply 10203/17/2015

[quote]They said the first question they get asked whenever they meet someone (even just chit chatting on line at Starbucks) is "What church to you go to?"

How do they respond when you answer 'The Chapel Of The Eternally Damned Sodomites Of Beelzebub'?

by Anonymousreply 10303/17/2015

Can't speak for the city of Birmingham itself, but the gay men and women I know there are wonderful. Salt of the earth, intelligent and good looking. They made me think, for a minute, that maybe I could live there.

And God, don't I miss Publix.

by Anonymousreply 10403/17/2015

"I would walk all the way

From Boulder to Birmingham,

If I thought I could sit,

I could sit on your face."

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