Could one live there? Thinking of taking a job there
Gay Life in Birmingham AL.
|by Anonymous||reply 105||03/18/2015|
I'm here. I've been here five years. I'm out at work, went to the premiere of the gay and lesbian film festival tonight. I have a life. It is not a richly layered experience for the gay man, to be sure. But you won't be beaten in the streets, either. You're more likely to find a small circle of friends, private dinner parties, etc. than any gay bar scene you'd want to be a part of. Atlanta's a 2.5 hour drive, and you can go over there and get your gay on on the weekends. That's the best answer.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||06/10/2010|
I went there to meet the author of 'To Kill A Mockingbird'. She was so nice.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||06/10/2010|
OMG you can't just throw that out there r3. It needs its own thread!
|by Anonymous||reply 4||06/10/2010|
I too came here for a job and intended to stay no more than five years. That was twelve years ago. Inexpensive. A much larger gay community than you might realize. Easy to use airport. Close to Atlanta. NOLA is a good weekend trip. Good cultural offerings - opera, symphony, ballet, theater. I'm perfectly out in a notoriously homophobic profession with no issues. Basically, it's fine to be gay as long as you don't bring it up in polite society. (I met Harper Lee as well - she's a doll)
|by Anonymous||reply 5||06/10/2010|
I'd like to live there.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||06/10/2010|
I thought the name of that book was "To Kill A Blackbird."
|by Anonymous||reply 8||06/10/2010|
It's one of the axes, r7, along with Rojo, Silvertron Cafe, Covenant, and pretty much all of Crestwood.
Been on stage there a dozen or so times in the last few years myself...
|by Anonymous||reply 11||06/10/2010|
R12 = Lisa Douglas
|by Anonymous||reply 13||06/10/2010|
" Birmingham is nothing more than a sad little back water with a gaggle of sad queens that have to travel 2.5 hours to get to a semi-decent bar."
Because going to a bar is such a deeply meaningful part of life...
|by Anonymous||reply 14||06/10/2010|
Does R12 still get allergic smelling hay?
|by Anonymous||reply 15||06/10/2010|
I don't know what kind of job the OP is taking, but the healthcare industry, and the legal communities are both huge in Birmingham, r16. I am a native (who has been to London, Paris, Munich, Moscow, etc.), gay, and liberal politically. As many posters noted above, Birmingham has a thriving gay community, including a MCC, central Alabama Pride, Alabama equality, and many cultural activities to be enjoyed (and bars too..."The Quest" has been here forever).
|by Anonymous||reply 17||06/10/2010|
Correction. Birmingham is a "real" city. It has a bar. My sincerest apologies.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||06/10/2010|
I love how some of you still cling to the stereotypes of Southern Life. So Untrue and often unfounded bad movie fodder.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||06/10/2010|
Uhhm...r18...there is more than one gay bar in B'ham (I just mentioned quest because it is the oldest, and ALWAYS open).
|by Anonymous||reply 20||06/10/2010|
Birmingham way not be the most exciting place to be, but it's a helluva lot better than some other places I could mention.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||06/10/2010|
How does it compare to Kansas City Mo.?
|by Anonymous||reply 22||06/10/2010|
Isn't that like comparing gonorrhea to syphilis?
|by Anonymous||reply 23||06/10/2010|
r22, you just reminded me about how awful the gay scene is in KC, MO!
|by Anonymous||reply 25||06/10/2010|
the key is to just live your life- do not get involved with the Gscene there-- They are an extremely sad group of nelly backstabbing queens but Southwest can fly you out of there and the best thing about Birmingham is it is DIRT Cheap.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||06/10/2010|
My gay cousin lives in Kansas City, MO and I've visited a few times. It's a right-wing Baptist shithole. I don't know how he can stand it there.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||06/10/2010|
I may be in the minority here, but I love Kansas City. I've never found it to be "Baptist" (Catholic, maybe) other than in black political circles. I've never had a problem being "out" here; I do LGBT volunteer work and have met a ton of interesting folks.
Here's a recent NY Times piece that gives you a snapshot:
|by Anonymous||reply 28||06/10/2010|
OP, no matter what people say here, it's still Alabama. Unless I'm mistaken, there are few if any gay rights in that state. God help you if you want any legal protections in your life - you won't find them in AL.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||06/10/2010|
get prepared to be thought of like someone with a contagious illness- Have a weatlthy friend from Tuscaloosa in a private Birmingham law school who would not get off the elevator in a hotel bar downtown Bham because he saw a "gay" and there might be "gay people in the bar." "The gays are going to burn in hell!" you will ruin your life if you move here!!
|by Anonymous||reply 30||06/10/2010|
I'm sure that Blacks and Whites there live in perfect harmony, now that we're a post-racial country.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||06/10/2010|
The Episcopal Church The ADVENT in Donwtown Birmingham flew Black Flags when the National Episcopal church announced they would allow a Gay Priest
|by Anonymous||reply 32||06/10/2010|
[quote]How does it compare to Kansas City Mo.?
They've gone about as far as they can go.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||06/10/2010|
There are Hundreds ff closeted married men in Birmingham--That is how it is still Done here. I am invited to a Huge married man orgy next Tuesday Night - It should be really fun and alot of hot married guys--
|by Anonymous||reply 35||06/10/2010|
Kansas City is a city with a large population but is also very very boring. They're trying to make the city happen but it just isn't going to stick.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||06/10/2010|
I love 33's fractured logic. NYC is racially segregated, too. So why not move to Alabama!
Do they bottle delusion down there, or do they just give it away?
|by Anonymous||reply 37||06/10/2010|
Inside the city limits is mostly liberal and vibrant; the suburbs (aka "over the mountain") are provincial, churchy, and bland.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||06/10/2010|
[quote]do not get involved with the Gscene there-- They are an extremely sad group of nelly backstabbing queens
Mystic Krewe of Apollo, anyone?
|by Anonymous||reply 40||06/10/2010|
Oh, dear. More ridiculous (ir)rationalization.
Tell us about all the lynchings that happened in NYC, Buford. Do tell.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||06/10/2010|
Veiled suggestion? Oh, Mary. That's just flatulence under your muumuu.
I'll trash Alabama and every Dixie racist hateful kudzu-infested Southern Confederate-lovin' backwater state that I want.
The U.S. South is a pustule.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||06/10/2010|
Re: the bar scene, it's indeed nothing to write home about, but you haven't lived until you've clapped eyes on the toothless drag fossil that is Miss Libertee Belle.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||06/10/2010|
The Mayor of Birmingham, county commisioner and head of the democratic party are in Federal prison for orchestrating what is about to be the Largest Backrupcy in national history of a County- Jeferson Count is Five BIllion in Debt- Condo/ Loft values in downtown Birmingham have just plummeted 40% in the last 12 months. Stay away for you own good. It is a DYING city!
|by Anonymous||reply 44||06/10/2010|
Are there plenty of gorgeous black studs in Alabama?
|by Anonymous||reply 45||06/10/2010|
"Miss Libertee Belle."
Madame came to life, just like Pinocchio!
|by Anonymous||reply 46||06/10/2010|
There are two very SAD Gay bars in Birmingham --Most people go to New Orleans or Atlanta for the weekend!
|by Anonymous||reply 47||06/10/2010|
Most of the great looking Black smart people leave as quickly as the can get out of here! Atlanta is very Black-tastic!
|by Anonymous||reply 48||06/10/2010|
Highlands has been ranked among America's top restaurants for years. The Birmingham Museum of Art is the largest city museum in the South; if you're into the decorative arts, it's got the largest collection of Wedgwood outside of England.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||06/10/2010|
These hot and sexy guys that come into Birmingham for the big softball weekend. You know what they do when the games are over? THEY LEAVE!! They go back to Nashville, Dallas, and Atlanta! but you are right r50 we have ONE count them ONE nationally ranked restaurant! op you will make a horrible mistake if you move to Birmingham
|by Anonymous||reply 52||06/10/2010|
Well, there is gay possum eating...
|by Anonymous||reply 53||06/10/2010|
I can't get over the person whose 'wealthy friend' from Tuscaloosa wouldn't go into a bar "because there was a gay"...I am a Birmingham native who lived in Tuscaloosa for awhile and if the 'friend' hasn't seen any 'gays in Tuscaloosa, his name must be HELEN KELLER!
|by Anonymous||reply 54||06/10/2010|
r54 It is called HOMOPHOBIA-- It runs rampant in every church and on every golf course in Alabama
|by Anonymous||reply 55||06/10/2010|
I lived in Birmingham and it was that BAD!
|by Anonymous||reply 56||06/10/2010|
The Catholic Propaganda Network (EWTN) is headquartered there.
|by Anonymous||reply 58||06/10/2010|
Isn't this the city where the mayor hired the gay porn star to, um, install computer networks?
|by Anonymous||reply 59||06/10/2010|
Oh, it's even better than I remembered. It's DL Legend Ryan Idol!
|by Anonymous||reply 60||06/10/2010|
I live in Birmingham because in my relatively specialized medical field, I have a well paying job with an institution (UAB) that has supported me.
There are a number of very good restaurants. The art museum, symphony, and ballet are all nationally prominent. The theater scene is vibrant.
I've lived in Seattle, I've lived in San Francisco and I'm perfectly happy here.
|by Anonymous||reply 61||06/10/2010|
Restaurants are not a problem. They're superb.
The oppressive, regressive, backwater mentality - that's a problem. I've endured it five years. My solution was finally to buy a weekend condo in Atlanta, where for two days a week, I feel comfortable in my own skin.
The people are super nice in BHM. I feel very... tolerated here.
|by Anonymous||reply 62||06/11/2010|
Most people that live in Birmingham Leave Every weekend--either to Nashville, Atlanta, Beaches, Lakes--It will be absolutely dead this weekend here- Scotts Antique show in the ATL this weekend!--
|by Anonymous||reply 63||06/11/2010|
All this gossamer 'weekend fleeing' talk is hilarious. Are some of you so sad and Chihuahua-eyed that you have to routinely flee to Atlanta or Nashville to calm your delicate pearly nerves?
|by Anonymous||reply 64||06/11/2010|
Stop with all the bar bashing. It's really not about going to the bars. The number of bars reflect the depth of the gay population (i.e. the more bars, the bigger the "scene".) You may not choose to partake in the scene, but there is more likely a greater depth to other outlets (i.e. theater, music, food, etc.)
So yes, when people say that there are only one or two gay bars in the city, it totally is reflective of how sad that city really is.
The fact that people keep saying that you just need to get on a plane or drive to another city for a little action speaks VOLUMES!
|by Anonymous||reply 65||06/11/2010|
I've lived in Birmingham, Miami, Philadelphia, Chicago, NYC, Los Angeles, Seattle, And Atlanta.
If I could move back anywhere, it would be Birmingham. The people were nice, the pace relaxed, has an art scene, history, beautiful homes, hot guys, and a giant Thor who lets you know if there has been any traffic deaths.
The one bad thing, It does have really bad traffic.
|by Anonymous||reply 66||06/11/2010|
The land of the boll weevil
Where the laws are medieval
|by Anonymous||reply 67||06/11/2010|
Birmingham is made of approximately 35 different and distinct municipalities. Birmingham is really pretty horrible except for the Redmont and Forest Park neighborhoods. Downtown Loft District is DEAD. Otherwise Mountain Brook is the place to invest your money.
|by Anonymous||reply 68||06/12/2010|
Bump for Bham
|by Anonymous||reply 69||02/13/2011|
Anyone else from Bham?
|by Anonymous||reply 70||03/11/2012|
Isn't Colton from Birmingham too?
|by Anonymous||reply 71||03/12/2012|
[quote] I am invited to a Huge married man orgy next Tuesday Night - It should be really fun and alot of hot married guys--
I bet you ran into at least 2 acquaintances of mine from college who were gay in college, moved back to Birmingham, got married to women and had kids (who themselves are college age now).
|by Anonymous||reply 72||03/12/2012|
Friends of mine moved there not long ago. They said the first question they get asked whenever they meet someone (even just chit chatting on line at Starbucks) is "What church to you go to?"
Since moving there, their idea of a nice dinner out is Brio, which is like an upscale version of Olive Garden.
But they are happy there. They bought a HUGE house for about 1/5th of what it would cost in NY, NJ, CT.
|by Anonymous||reply 73||03/12/2012|
I think I know who R62 is. Do you work in advertising?
|by Anonymous||reply 74||03/12/2012|
The gay scene in Birmingham is not bad and is still growing. There is an LGBT Film Festival, many gay social organizations, a gay pride with a parade, LGBT meetup groups, and of course the bars. I have recently started an LGBT social blog for the area which will include news, blog posts, and a directory for the area. Check out bhamrainbowpages.com for more info.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||05/10/2012|
I bet Birmingham is all a-twitter with the prospect of having another 'mo in their town.
That'll make like what? Three of you?
|by Anonymous||reply 76||05/13/2012|
Looking for Libertee Belle. If he is alive and well or otherwise. Please let me know.
|by Anonymous||reply 77||07/06/2012|
I know some real freaks who live there. Omnisexual s&m circus people, but they are ot the norm and stay there mostly because they'd be totally ignored in a city full of actual artists and are "special" in their small fish bowl. And one would be completely ignored and shunned for her dead eye and the other likely arrested for rape which doesn't seem to be illegal in Alabama.
|by Anonymous||reply 78||07/06/2012|
I am the Grand Dame of Birmingham - And I think your a twit . . . Not my first choice of wordage - But I didn't wanna seem rude.
Libertee Belle The Oldest Queen in Captivity
|by Anonymous||reply 79||07/29/2013|
Great to hear from the true the one and only queen Bell long live the queen met u many years ago in Altoona al
|by Anonymous||reply 80||08/18/2013|
Any more people from Birmingham?
|by Anonymous||reply 81||08/18/2013|
Just moved to over the mountain really like the bhm area sofa far
|by Anonymous||reply 82||08/18/2013|
I visited there briefly and am of split opinion on the place. It's an interesting city, with some fine residential neighborhoods and good architecture and restaurants and amenities. In many ways, it would be an easy and enjoyable place to live and live rather well.
A weekday night gay bar tour, however, might have been wrapped up tidily in a half hour, tops. The places were rather sad at best and worn down and rough at worst; all were time warps. The majority of the clientele seemed to come from a very small gene pool: round heads sitting directly on shoulders (without benefit of a neck), narrow slit eyes, self-administered haircuts, shoddy clothes, and a general slouchiness and lack of confidence -- the sort seen in a beaten dog. Even against my checked expectations of having lived in the South and having traveled throughout it a good deal, Birmingham's gay bars were a deep disappointment. Granted, it was a mid-week night, but I've been other places that were slow --very slow even-- without smelling of sad desperation and such dim expectations on the part of both bars and clientele.
I would go back to Birmingham, but its gay bars would not be a draw -- not at all.
|by Anonymous||reply 83||08/19/2013|
I thought I would like living there but last time I was there there was some kind of emergency curfew and regular people were no supposed to be on the street. Also, the county went bankrupt. So I really think this may be one place so misgoverned that it might be wise to give it a pass.
|by Anonymous||reply 84||08/20/2013|
The BF's ma and pa are leaving him a house in Birmingham. Tuscaloosa. He actually asked me if I wanted to move there after they've passed away.
|by Anonymous||reply 85||08/20/2013|
I live here and I love it. Contrary to popular belief - I am not dead. As a matter of fact was the Grand Marshall for the 25th GLBT Pride Parade in the city . . . I've also lived all over. But am happy to call The Magic (often Tragic) City my home . . . Libertee Belle - The Oldest Living Drag Queen in Captivity
|by Anonymous||reply 86||09/30/2013|
I'm from the South and doubt I'll ever live there again. While Bham may be lovely, it's in a state and a region that are backward.
I'm glad there is some sort of gay scene there. You can also be fired from your job in Alabama and the rest of the South for being gay, because anti-discrimination laws there don't include gays and lesbians. You will never be able to marry there.
You are living in a place where people are nice to your face -- but routinely vote in ways that indicate they hate you.
But the houses are cheap, so yay.
|by Anonymous||reply 87||09/30/2013|
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|by Anonymous||reply 88||12/02/2013|
Interviewed at Saks' hq in B-ham. They seemed stupid and incompetent.
|by Anonymous||reply 89||12/02/2013|
I was born and raised about 55 miles from Birmingham (Jasper). Everyone, except me, knew I was gay. In high school, I was popular in that everybody knew who I was. I always heard talk of queers, fags, and others. As I was an insider, I was never threatened or hurt.
The South really can't be described, but has to be experienced. It's complicated and simple, at the same time. Simple, all you need are good manners and good ethics. Show up to work/appointments on time, use "yes sir, no mam, please, thank you", and the biggest of red necks will soon respect you. You have to adjust to the South. The South does not adjust to you. And don't let them hick accents lure you into the false sense of someone who is dumb. They've got you all figured out the moment you walk in the door!
Ahhhh, Kansas City. Not the same since I lived there in the 70s. Loved the Dover Fox. Last time I was there, it was a parking lot.
|by Anonymous||reply 90||12/02/2013|
It really is the worst governed locality in the U.S. Serious police curfews are a frequent occurrence.
|by Anonymous||reply 91||12/03/2013|
It's too bad because they have a nice infrastructure and fairly scenic location. But cities are made by people, and people in Bham are ... well, don't turn your back on them.
|by Anonymous||reply 92||12/03/2013|
[quote]It really is the worst governed locality in the U.S.
At least Larry Langford is out of our hair.
|by Anonymous||reply 93||12/03/2013|
The folks in Birmingham make the folks in Detroit look smart. I'm just sayin'.
|by Anonymous||reply 94||12/03/2013|
I live in Manhattan and am looking at an opportunity in Birmingham for a company that has its US headquarters in NYC. I'm entertaining the idea because: a) it's a great career move, and; b) the housing is dirt cheap compared to NYC and I can save a lot of money.
Reading about "police curfews" sends up some serious red flags. They're something I've only heard about.
Taken altogether, this makes me wonder why large, successful companies are moving profitable brands to Birmingham if the government there is a mess.
|by Anonymous||reply 95||01/02/2014|
R95. I've lived in Alabama 32 years and Birmingham 8 years. I have never heard of a police curfew. It ain't no Manhattan (yes, language intended for effect), but what is? There are many beautiful areas and a very nice quality of life. It's all about what you're looking for but it's never as bad as my Manhattan friends assume. Recently asked with a little reservation...."do you have Starbucks in Alabama?" There are 5 within 1.5 miles of my home. Again, not like one on every corner in Manhattan, but, enough.
|by Anonymous||reply 96||03/17/2015|
We have Starbucks and Saks and an opera company and a ballet and a vibrant theater scene. Yeah, the bar scene sucks but who needs it.
|by Anonymous||reply 97||03/17/2015|
$500 of your child is on the street at 9:01 p.m. Even if they are with you. Jail time for both children and parents if they repeat.
|by Anonymous||reply 98||03/18/2015|
Police "sweeps" where they stop everyone looking for violations are a regular feature of life in Birmingham
|by Anonymous||reply 99||03/18/2015|
I was threatened by some rednecks at a motel in Jasper in 2004.
|by Anonymous||reply 100||03/18/2015|
Nope. sorry. it was 2002.
|by Anonymous||reply 101||03/18/2015|
[quote]I love how some of you still cling to the stereotypes of Southern Life. So Untrue and often unfounded bad movie fodder.
Just shut your mouth now!
OP may be dinge, but I need a driver.
|by Anonymous||reply 102||03/18/2015|
[quote]They said the first question they get asked whenever they meet someone (even just chit chatting on line at Starbucks) is "What church to you go to?"
How do they respond when you answer 'The Chapel Of The Eternally Damned Sodomites Of Beelzebub'?
|by Anonymous||reply 103||03/18/2015|
Can't speak for the city of Birmingham itself, but the gay men and women I know there are wonderful. Salt of the earth, intelligent and good looking. They made me think, for a minute, that maybe I could live there.
And God, don't I miss Publix.
|by Anonymous||reply 104||03/18/2015|
"I would walk all the way
From Boulder to Birmingham,
If I thought I could sit,
I could sit on your face."
|by Anonymous||reply 105||03/18/2015|