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In this thread, ask an inappropriate question and hopefully, one of DL's resident experts on the topic will respond. Here's mine: Other than the specific time of the month, how do women know when their period is coming? For instance, I know when I'm getting a cold. Does your body send you some kind of alert, other than the blood thing, to let you know your period is on the way?

by Anonymousreply 42909/23/2013

I'll take this. OP, I get cramps and bloat. Sometimes I spot a little. It's that simple.

by Anonymousreply 105/17/2010

I forgot to include a question. I'm a gold star lesbian who's curious about penis size. Specifically, what is considered small, average, large, etc.?

by Anonymousreply 205/17/2010

It depends, a really big guy can have a large member yet it can seem smaller. 5.8 inches is average.

by Anonymousreply 305/17/2010

OP, I get extra sleepy before my period. I'm usually a morning person who doesn't need an alarm clock but I often oversleep on the day my period comes. Also, some women say they get cravings for sweets before their periods.

by Anonymousreply 405/17/2010

How long does a period (the actual flow) last?

by Anonymousreply 505/17/2010

Does blood just seep out or do you bleed like you have a wound?

by Anonymousreply 605/17/2010

To our posters with HIV: How did you know you were positive? Did you know something was wrong and went to get a test or was it just a random checkup?

by Anonymousreply 705/17/2010


by Anonymousreply 805/17/2010

5-7 days.

by Anonymousreply 905/17/2010

my breasts get quite tender the day or two before....

by Anonymousreply 1005/17/2010

R6, Mostly blood trickles very slowly, and not the whole time. I think I read they only lose about 1/4 a cup over the entire period.

by Anonymousreply 1105/17/2010

Going with the original question, what is sex like when you're on the period? Or is that taboo? Or what? Does blood get on the dick? Does it feel different for you if you're on the period?

by Anonymousreply 1205/17/2010

[quote]Specifically, what is considered small, average, large, etc.?

Average is 5-6 inches. Small is 4.5 and below. 8 is pretty damn big. 10 is rarely seen outside of porn.

by Anonymousreply 1305/17/2010

R12, I believe most women avoid vaginal sex when they're menstruating.

by Anonymousreply 1405/17/2010

R6, we shed uterine lining (endometrium) during the period with a little blood. Flow is mostly the lining.

by Anonymousreply 1505/17/2010

Males: how do you control orgasms. I now it's an aquired skill, one we women don't have to attain since we are much slower to reach climax (usually). By the time you "get there" you just let it happen, plus many women can keep going and have more. I can't imagine feeling like I have to "hold it back" and don't know if I could. LOL. You never hear about "pre-mature orgasm" with women.

by Anonymousreply 1605/17/2010

If I'm getting my period, I become a raging angry bitch the day before with an insatiable craving for chocolate. I am, unfortunately, the stereotype. It only lasts a day, though, it's literally the day before I get my period. R12, I love having sex during my period. It's obviously messy and disgusting, so therefore best done in the shower, but it makes the cramps go away. I'm also extra-sensitive, so it's very enjoyable. I've known guys who found it a turn-on to have sex when I had my period, I think that's kind of weird. R5, depends on the woman, mine lasts about 3-4 days. R6, also depends on the woman. Mine currently is pretty heavy for the first day and a half, then very light for the rest.

by Anonymousreply 1705/17/2010

...i'm shedding as i type!...

by Anonymousreply 1805/17/2010

If I skip a period, the first day or two of the next one can be like a crime scene.

Yuck, no sex during periods. It would be painful for me. Blood is not like natural lube, it's very watery.

by Anonymousreply 1905/17/2010

R19 - use lubricated condoms (or just lubricant) if you're having sex during your period. Works for lubrication and to keep the guy a little cleaner.

by Anonymousreply 2005/17/2010

[quote]Males: how do you control orgasms.

It's not all that hard. You can tell pretty easily when you're approaching orgasm, and you can stop it in one of two ways: clenching the muscle that releases semen and/or stop fucking or wanking. You can also do it by shifting your imagination to an extremely unsexy thought like your grandmother or your cat.

by Anonymousreply 2105/17/2010

I will be, say, in an elevator--and suddenly have an urge to weep over something I said to Brian Blank in 9th grade.

That's how I realize "Oh, about to get my period."

And I'll want to chew the legs off those motherfuckers who slowly walk in a diagonal direction on the sidewalk.

by Anonymousreply 2205/17/2010

Oh, and another thing: I really like getting my period. For some reason it feels like I'm cleaning house, plus I get to eat chocolate for a few days and still lose 3 lbs.

Inappropriate question for men: when you were teenagers, were you embarrassed by that horrible jizz smell your rooms suddenly had, did you not notice it, or did you think it was kind of hot? My brothers rooms always suddenly had THAT smell for a couple of years--I felt bad for them and never mentioned it.

by Anonymousreply 2305/17/2010

why am I reading this while I eat....

by Anonymousreply 2405/17/2010

R23, How is it that you lose weight? Most women gain.

by Anonymousreply 2505/17/2010

[quote]Inappropriate question for men: when you were teenagers, were you embarrassed by that horrible jizz smell your rooms suddenly had, did you not notice it, or did you think it was kind of hot?

I didn't notice it. Did your brothers have cum rags they left out in an unenclosed space, e.g. under their beds? I kept mine in a drawer in my closet, so it didn't stink up the place.

by Anonymousreply 2605/17/2010

[quote]Does blood just seep out or do you bleed like you have a wound?

It seeps out, but very slowly, unless it's the first day and then I need to change my tampon between urninations. Normally, I only need to change my tampon before I pee and insert a clean one after. I can't feel the tampon when it's in me. When I look down, a see a bright white soft string. Sometimes I forget I'm having a period, until it's time to pee and see the white mouse tail down there.

by Anonymousreply 2705/17/2010

[quote]I think most women here have sex with other women. We've been over this before: there are roughly an equal number of straight and gay women on DL.

by Anonymousreply 3005/17/2010

To bottoms: have you ever had a really bad "accident" during sex? How did you handle it? Did you just ignore it? Clean up and go right back to it? Or did it totally spoil the mood?

by Anonymousreply 3205/17/2010

Is Daddy/Son sex for S/M?

by Anonymousreply 3305/17/2010

R32, I'm versatile but the only "accidents" I've ever had during sex are periodic farts. No, I do not "douche" before sex, though I do clean inside a few inches with soapy fingers.

by Anonymousreply 3405/17/2010

[quote]I didn't notice it. Did your brothers have cum rags they left out in an unenclosed space, e.g. under their beds? I kept mine in a drawer in my closet, so it didn't stink up the place.

Ew, I didnt know semen smelled if you let in congregate like that. But your cum doesnt smell immediately right? mine doesnt.

by Anonymousreply 3505/17/2010

Oh, please. I have two teenage boys and their rooms reek of lots of things....least of all cum. Sweaty clothes, half eaten whatever that they forgot they shoved under the bed, smelly sneakers. That's normal for a teenager. It's not a "cum" smell.

by Anonymousreply 3605/17/2010

r36=Mama Frau in denial.

by Anonymousreply 3705/17/2010

Different for everyone. Mine lasts 3 days and it usually stops for a while at night. My breasts get really sore and swollen around a couple of days before it happens. I used to get really dizzy right before it happened. I also get insanely horny from the last day for about 4 or 5 days after.

I had sex the 3rd night of my period last month and the guy never knew.

by Anonymousreply 3805/17/2010

I'm assertive before my period, and take no bullshit. It's almost like I become a guy.

I feel so much better when Aunt Flo appears... I can be my calm, nurturing sweet self. Unfortunately, some people interpret that as "doormat," but 28 days later I set them straight.

I lose weight, too. My appetite decreases, and I no longer retain as much water. Sex is very enjoyable. As posted upthread, it cures cramps and I'm more sensitive.

by Anonymousreply 3905/17/2010

Not to try gross anyone out (and apologies to those that are), but I get loose bowels a few hours before my period hits and also feel as though the ligaments in my legs and hips are looser. Have been told it is all about the hormones flooding the body, and the bowel is sensitive to them. The other way I know is that a couple of days before that I feel turned on by pretty much anything. The actual period used to last up to a week when I was 14, but now is over in 2-3 days. As to my question: Does having an erection in and of itself feel good or is it the thoughts and activity that go with it that make it pleasurable? Ta.

by Anonymousreply 4005/17/2010

I know my monthly gift is coming when I being to feel homcidal (or suicidal). PMS is a blast!

by Anonymousreply 4105/17/2010

Since we're asking inappropriate questions, what does a clit feel like and have you ever hurt yourself masturbating? They look like they could break right off if you get too furious with it.

by Anonymousreply 4205/17/2010

I love this thread, you rarely get to answer these questions. My question to men is: When you're having sex does it feel good the whole time? Sometimes I'm watching porn (which include m/m and m/f), I wonder what they're actually feeling. I bet guys wonder the same about women (homo and hetero)?

by Anonymousreply 4305/17/2010

A clit is so incredibly sensitive that you would never go at it furiously--it'd hurt like hell and I'd literally kick someone out of bed who tried it. Ve-ry gentle is the way to go--you've just got to hit the right angle and maintain it.

It always surprised me to see how rough men are with their cocks. Makes me think -Ouch!

by Anonymousreply 4505/17/2010

[quote]Does having an erection in and of itself feel good or is it the thoughts and activity that go with it that make it pleasurable?

I can't speak for everyone else, but its the thoughts and activities and the thought of the eventual conclusion of the erection that is pleasurable. Think of the erection as the 84-85 season of "Dynasty" and cumming is the shocking Moldavian Massacre Season Finale.

by Anonymousreply 4605/17/2010

R42, the clit doesn't hang free like a dick. It looks like a mini-dick, with a head and all, but it's trapped/buried under skin. When it's aroused, you can feel the engorgement.

Put your pinkie finger on your thigh or your tummy or whatever and tightly cover the pinkie with your tee shirt. If you touch your pinkie it will feel like an engorged clit that is trapped/buried in the mons veneres.

When we masturbate, we move our fingers up and down the top and the sides of the buried clit, we can't grasp it like you guys grab your dicks.

Clits are way more sensitive than dicks. It is often painful to receive direct, forceful attention.

by Anonymousreply 4705/17/2010

Tops: does it hurt to take someone's anal cherry? Seems like it would be like putting your dick in a vice.

by Anonymousreply 4805/17/2010

I'm loving this thread too!

Ladies, it's the time thing that I wonder about. I know they can vary, because you hear of sorority girls who all start having their periods at the same time. When does the clock start ticking each month? Is it the day you think of cramps, chocolate and murder? Is it the day after Aunt Flo leaves? How many days after Aunt Flo leaves do you start the process again.

As far as pleasure and erections, I can remember touching myself when I was five and it would get hard. It felt good for I moment, but I was more easily distracted back then.

by Anonymousreply 4905/17/2010

I've noticed that a lot of women are klutzier and are more sensitive to eyebrow plucking and brushing hair 1-7 days before their period. Probably not a good time to get a tattoo, since the pain threshold is lowered.

by Anonymousreply 5005/17/2010

Can someone who's had one, explain what exactly happens during an abortion? Do you feel anything? Does it hurt? Do all the symptoms of pregnancy, like morning sickness, just go away after the procedure? How long does it take? Can your partner be with you?

by Anonymousreply 5105/17/2010

I'm a guy and I always feel like I have my "time of the month". I don't have a period but anywhere between the 17th-25th of every month I get somewhat aggressive, kinda moody and ultra-horny. I feel like I could fuck anything all day long.

Any other guys feel like this?

by Anonymousreply 5205/17/2010

You're supposed to count your period from the first day after it starts. So if mine is every 33 days, and I get my period on a Wednesday, I'd count 33 starting on Thursday.

Mine is not anywhere near that regular, and never has been, though. I've never skipped a month, but I get it at anywhere from 3 weeks to 6...even managed to only go 2 a few months ago. That sucked.

I hate getting it, it's not a relief to me like others have described, although I wish I could look at it that way. But I gain 5 lbs, I hurt, and I'm a bitch. I could do without it.

by Anonymousreply 5305/17/2010

This period information is quite fascinating. My friend had a period so bad she pulled over her car and tossed her biscuits in traffic. I think you ladies should get period days off. You wont have to hurl in traffic and the world can be spared from the bitchiness.

by Anonymousreply 5405/17/2010

There is new birth control you an take that elimnates periods altogether or limites them to 2-3 per year. I think it's a great idea. There is a theory that modern women are having way too many over a lifetime anyway and it's causing health problems for us in our later years. Generations ago, women had far fewer periods because they spent a large part of their adult life either pregnant or nursing.

by Anonymousreply 5505/17/2010

Here's one for the guys - how do you keep your dick & balls out of the way when you walk or sit?

It seems to me like if, wearing boxers or loose briefs, it'd always bounce around...and doesn't that feel good? that why you're always adjusting? We DO notice. But we understand, I'd want to always play with my penis too if I had one.

by Anonymousreply 5605/17/2010

Since I'm allowed to ask, would someone educate me on thongs/g-strings? Does the string go all the way up your crack? Doesn't the string absorb a foul odor or get stained? All I can think of when I see someone wearing a thong is what a smelly stained stringy thing they have to pull out of their crack to wash. And are they comfortable? Especially for women I would think the string would ride up their labia as well as their behinds. Ouch! Enlighten me, please.

On a humorous note, they might work well for the fellow who uses the "butt tampon" on the 'Things your partner does that gross you out" thread. Let the string absorb your waste.

by Anonymousreply 5705/17/2010

Also, why are they called "G" strings?

by Anonymousreply 5805/17/2010

R56 - in response to how you keep your dick and balls "out of the way". Underwear will usually keep everything in one direction.

And I KNOW I'll get shit for this - but men who wear regular boxers are nasty. There's no pee guard and a few drops of urine can sometimes go down your pants leg. Or your junk will fall out the front gap and rub against the zipper or the hair will get caught.

I will never understand boxers. Boxer briefs? Yes. Regular boxers are badly designed relics of old underwear styles.

by Anonymousreply 5905/17/2010

I had to look up in wikipedia where the name g-string comes from, it seems like nobody knows.

I call wear thongs, to me, g-strings, to me, are stringy things accompany feathers and pasties in Las Vegas. And they're crazy uncomfortable.

I wear thongs most of the time (not when I have my period) because it is the only 100% sure way to avoid underwear lines, which I despise. They do go up your butt, but have more fabric around front and the sides. Good ones that fit right are actually very comfortable. There is the occasional moment where it feels like the worst wedgie on earth because it shifted, but that doesn't happen often.

Granny panties are also simply not fun, and I like pretty underwear.

by Anonymousreply 6005/17/2010

Are odors an issue, R60? Not to be gross. Thanks for your post.

by Anonymousreply 6105/17/2010

This may be the most civilized thread ever on DL. No hateful, angry responses. Just pleasant replies with informative answers. I've learned alot. Let's keep it going. See, we can behave civiliy towards each other.

by Anonymousreply 6205/17/2010

I wear mostly thongs and G-strings. I use wet wipes when I go to the bathroom to keep everything fairly clean and odorless, but you're almost always going to gather a bit of a musk in certain spots. In the G-string, for me, it's normally around the taint. It's nothing you can smell outside your clothes, or even if you're only wearing the underwear. The longer you wear it and the more you move around in it, the more a g-string or thong is likely to accrue a scent.

by Anonymousreply 6305/17/2010

Now you're going to spoil it R62. Those types of responses always awake the beasts.

Oh well - it was fun while it lasted.

by Anonymousreply 6405/17/2010

BTW, I'm not r60. Just another woman who had an answer. Are any of you men self-conscious of your come? Do you ever worry about the way it smells and tastes, or its color, consistency and amount? Why are men so often fascinated with coming on people's faces and in their mouths?

by Anonymousreply 6505/17/2010

Okay I've got one for the ladies . . . wiping. When you pee do you always have to wipe? Is it a full on WIPE or is it a pat-dry? When you go poo and you have a slash, do you, I'm assuming, address wiping as a separate issue for both areas? I can't imagine someone just taking, err, broad strokes as it were.

by Anonymousreply 6605/17/2010

If I get lower back pain, I know it's coming.

I check the calendar and sure enough it's time(every 26 days, from beginning to beginning).

Luckily, I only have the back pain for that 1 day.

by Anonymousreply 6705/17/2010

I do a pat dry/mini wipe combo. If #2 is going down, a separate, clean tissue is used. You do not want to swirl that around.

by Anonymousreply 6805/17/2010

Question for the boys: when you cum, does it feel the same as urinating? I always guessed it did since it's coming out of the same place essentially.

by Anonymousreply 6905/17/2010

Here's a tidbit that most women would even know to ask...after a guy cums and cleans up there is still cum that will leak out after he's put his undies back on. If he sits in the same position for a while and his penis is right up against the undies and the cum dries it hurts like HELLLLL separating the urethra from the underwear. Imagine gluing your tits to a chalkboard and trying to walk away.

My question is: is it really that difficult to NOT get pregnant? There are so many unwanted pregnancies you'd think women would know how to not get pregnant.

A funny little story about birth control: I worked with a woman who had previously worked at a clinic and she said there was this one woman who would come in every once in a while saying that she kept getting pregnant even though she said she was using the the birth control they gave her...after some probing questions it was revealed that she was eating the diaphragms!

P.S. I was mortified when one day after I masturbated and had a bit of cum, post-jerking off musky smell on me that I realized my parents probably knew what cum smelled like (tissues in my garbage can).

by Anonymousreply 7005/17/2010

Okay, help me out. I'm probably way off base about the period stuff.

Basically, doesn't your body prepare itself for pregnancy each month? Then, when you don't become pregnant it sloughs off the egg and the extra stuff and all of the hormones that prepares your body for pregnancy and childbirth. Is that where the pain and bloating comes from?

by Anonymousreply 7105/17/2010


I do a double/triple wipe with clean tissue - never broad strokes under any circumstances, treat each area separately

by Anonymousreply 7205/17/2010

For the person who asked about abortions: I had one in 1979, so things have probably changed. But the day before the procedure, the doctor inserted what looked like a piece of cork in my cervix. It was about the size of a pencil in diameter. As it absorbed moisture, it expanded and dilated my cervix. This was necessary so the doctor could get his vacuum or scalpel or whatever in there next morning. There is always some moisture in the vaginal canal, but not much unless you're excited. Anyway, it hurt like hell when he inserted it and the cramps were horrible all night long as it expanded. Like terrible gas pains, for you guys.

Before the abortion, (I was 10 weeks along), I got an IV going of Demerol, so I didn't feel anything.

by Anonymousreply 7305/17/2010

r69 if it did there wouldn't be a free urinal on the planet. Cumming feels a thousand tiny feelers passing through your paynus. Peeing just feels like relief. Rubbing the paynus after a long exhausting pee feels great, but for me its a completely different feeling than masturbating. More like digging a qtip in your ear. I think its the prostate contracting, or something.

by Anonymousreply 7405/17/2010

Okay, I've seen diaphragms, and I don't know how the fuck you'd be able to eat one. They're not exactly edible.

As for my period, I'm seriously irregular, and the only time I was regular was when I was living with a roommate whose cycle was like clockwork. But, I get seriously exhausted when I'm about to menstruate, and I have absolutely no patience for any sort of annoyance or bullshit. I've managed as I got older to not lash out like I did as a teenager, but seriously, you could always tell when I was about to hit the rag by how cranky and obnoxious I'd get.

And yeah, you don't pull or rub directly on a clit like you do a penis, it's more like you put friction on the hood around it, and then that in turn puts friction on the clit. As to what it feels like -- awesome, when the person stimulating it knows what they're doing.

Also, when I was in elementary school, I was doing an obstacle course during field day, and being the uncoordinated clutz that I am, I managed to fall straight down on a hurdle, in such a way that I landed with the bar between my labia and it actually hit my clit. So boys, when you talk about getting kneed in the balls, I can truly say that I feel your pain.

by Anonymousreply 7505/17/2010

More non sexual questions, please.

by Anonymousreply 7605/17/2010

Yes, R71. Actually when I get the first bit of blood, there is a tiny bit of mucuos or membrane also. I always assumed that's part of the endometrium or even the egg. It's very small...about the size of a pencil eraser.

And I think about what it is. My period never ceases to remind me of my creative power, and the potential in me to bring forth life.

My periods are very regular. I always start on the 30th day. And yes, my bowels are a little looser on the first day, but not like diarrhea. Sorry to be so graphic.

Also, after a few months of living together., my periods coincide with my gf's, or hers with mine.

by Anonymousreply 7705/17/2010

Queefing. Go.

by Anonymousreply 7805/17/2010

New question: I'm curious about cock rings. Straight girl here, never tried one with my bf but curious. Does it keep a guy hard? Or just keep him from finishing? Does it hurt to have something squeezed around there like that? How does it feel to be arroused with that thing on?

I've seen porn where a guy is tied up and has a cock ring on it just looks rather unpleasant for the guy...

by Anonymousreply 7905/17/2010

I think G stands for genitals in G string. Just a wild guess.

by Anonymousreply 8005/17/2010


Just a pat-dry can leave a woman with sort of a "diaper rash." We have to wipe each time.

For the other, I always take care of the backside 1st and then a fresh tissue to wipe the front.

by Anonymousreply 8105/17/2010

[quote]P.S. I was mortified when one day after I masturbated and had a bit of cum, post-jerking off musky smell on me that I realized my parents probably knew what cum smelled like (tissues in my garbage can).

Wait, what?

by Anonymousreply 8205/17/2010

r69: For me, the pleasure in cumming is the feeling of the muscles at the base of the penis contracting as they shoot the cum out. It's a very powerful feeling, especially when the cum is thick, copious, or shoots far. Afterward, there's a satisfaction feeling which is a bit like the feeling after a particularly satisfying dump.

Urinating has almost no sensation coming out. There can be a "relief" feeling during or afterward if we're talking Austin Powers levels of pee, but it's very short lived.

by Anonymousreply 8305/17/2010

[quote]the cum dries it hurts like HELLLLL separating the urethra from the underwear

sing it sistah. damn, feels like a thousand ripped band-aids.

by Anonymousreply 8405/17/2010

R74, I didn't word my question right. I kind of meant the sensation of ejaculating, as in fluid exiting the penis (not the feeling of orgasm itself).

by Anonymousreply 8505/17/2010

How stretchy is a scrotum? If you wanted to, could you stretch your scrotum upwards and cover your penis?

by Anonymousreply 8605/17/2010

I do the separate wipes as well, and yeah, the thong can get a little musky. But if I'm working out or doing anything where I'm going to sweat I wear normal underwear.

Awesome question about whether or not peeing feels like cumming, I've always wondered that too.

R71, the uterus contracts to get rid of the excess blood that has built up to protect a potential baby, that's what's believed to be painful. The weight and emotional changes are most likely hormonal, and women can also cramp if they have uterine fibroids (little cysts) that pop. Those bring on what I call the Evil Death Cramps from Hell, which fortunately only happens a few times a year, and nothing short of narcotics will help.

I find it very funny that I posted on here earlier about my irregular cycle, started cramping, thought it was entirely psychosomatic because of this thread, and nope...look what I got!

by Anonymousreply 8705/17/2010

By the way, I'd like to suggest that we call the mirror site, "Databitches"

by Anonymousreply 8805/17/2010

This is a great thread. Like brothers and sisters who are very close having a conversation. Thanks, OP.

by Anonymousreply 8905/17/2010

Straight girls who are sexually active; don't irregular periods lead to serious panic attacks every month? Aren't you in constant am I pregnant mode?

by Anonymousreply 9005/17/2010

R86 a scrotum and the skin on your elbow are about equally as "stretchy" but there's more of it on the ole scrote. Depending on the size of the penis, you could do what you're suggesting there.

by Anonymousreply 9105/17/2010

Cum does have a foul odor when it starts to decompose. women who don't clean themselves after sex with a man can testify.

by Anonymousreply 9205/17/2010

R90, Yes. I was 6 days late last month and thought maybe my number was up since I'm never late. I'm at that point now in my life though that if it happens, it happens. C'est la vie!

by Anonymousreply 9305/17/2010

An ex-boyfriend of mine had a problem with premature ejaculation, and would pretty much cum without warning. One time he managed to get cum on my face, the ceiling, and the cat halfway across the room all at once. But I've never seen that since, most of the time it's only a few inches up. Then again, he's the only guy I've ever been with where it would just happen with no time to aim or anything.

Is distance-spurting common?

OH, and I can't help but ask - was it really "not his fault" that he would cum in 2 seconds? And I'm not exaggerating. If we actually had sex, which was rare, he would cum before I even realized it was in.

by Anonymousreply 9505/17/2010

[quote]Also, after a few months of living together., my periods coincide with my gf's, or hers with mine.

That, more than *anything*, is was freaks me out about periods. How is it that even possible? I feel I need to take a shower.

by Anonymousreply 9605/17/2010

Okay ladies, help us guys understand what you go through to cure some of the things you can get going on down there. Like Monistat and Vagisil etc . . . are those treatments as horrible as they seem?

by Anonymousreply 9705/17/2010

This isn't necessarily inappropriate, but do other people do a 180 degree turn of their desires right after an orgasm? As I'm approaching climax I'll think "Oh yeah, baybay, this feels so good, I'm going to keep going once I cum, I'm gonna go to an adult bookstore and suck a bunch of cocks, I'm gonna commit a crime so I can go to jail and by the boytoy of a gangstar named Tyrone, I'm gonna go into the woods and get gangbanged by 12 old men named Harold..." and then 3 seconds after I cum I think "Fuck that! I'm not doing any of that, I'm going to sleep...Harold?!"

by Anonymousreply 9805/17/2010

R97... Monistat One works pretty good. Its basically like large syringe looking thing (kinda like a tampon with a plunger) filled with cream. Ya shove it up there and thats it. I had to do that one and didn't think it was that bad.

I had an ex who claimed he got a yeast infection. Can that actually happen to men too?

by Anonymousreply 9905/17/2010

No idea, r98, but thank you for the laugh.

by Anonymousreply 10005/17/2010

I have to say, this is beyond what I talk to my brother about. It's fun, though!

R97, Monostat and vagisil are like douching with a tube of toothpaste. They're DISGUSTING and leak everywhere. I haven't touched them in years, and don't intend to. However, 1 diflucan pill will stop a yeast infection in it tracks, or prevent you from getting one at all if you're on antibiotics. I only get yeast infections when I'm on antibiotics, so these days I just get both prescriptions at once.

by Anonymousreply 10105/17/2010

R99, unfortunately I know the answer to that one - my mother used to give them to my father.

by Anonymousreply 10205/17/2010

Is breast milk really blue-ish?

by Anonymousreply 10305/17/2010

R101... eat yogurt or take acidophilus when you take anti-biotics and you won't get a yeast infection.

by Anonymousreply 10405/17/2010

[quote]Going with the original question, what is sex like when you're on the period? Or is that taboo? Or what? Does blood get on the dick? Does it feel different for you if you're on the period?

It feels very good for me because it's wetter. Yes, blood gets on the dick. I find that incredibly erotic. Never had a man refrain during my period.

by Anonymousreply 10505/17/2010

r99, candidiasis, which is the technical name for a yeast infection, can occur on a number of places on the body, including the throat (thrush) and in the perianal region. So yes, men can get yeast infections.

They're especially common in people who are immunocompromised, including people with AIDS. I also knew a woman whose son was a quadriplegic, and he would get candidiasis infections, which were fairly dangerous in his case.

And yes, Monistat One is awesome. So much easier than the seven day, or even the three day versions.

by Anonymousreply 10605/17/2010

R98 I know exactly what you're talking about. In the heat of it all you could go for days or take on ten partners or do the filthiest, raunchiest things. Then the moment you cum it's like you're a different person and all you want is to be left alone for a minute.

My partner got really into the idea of snowballing and wanted me to cum first and then lick it up and kiss him with it while he got off.

I was SO into it but then I licked it up and instantly gagged. What, 30 seconds before, sounded like the hottest idea ever was suddenly repulsive. Totally ruined the moment.

by Anonymousreply 10705/17/2010

Ladies: horseback riding, idling motorcycles, and washing machines on the spin cycle . . . are they really that amazing, or is that just an old construct of Hollywood/old wives tales, etc?

by Anonymousreply 10805/17/2010

Could someone please answer my clit licking question? I know it's not an entirely inappropriate question but I'm clueless...

by Anonymousreply 10905/17/2010

R108 None of those do it for me, but there is a roller coaster at King's Dominion in Virgina that my friends and refer to as the "O Machine" Not sure if they built it that way purposely, but looking at other women exiting the coaster, I can tell ya we aren't the only ones.

by Anonymousreply 11005/17/2010

For women who have orgasms: Is there something, a particular feeling, that tells you when you've crossed over from just feeling really good to orgasming? And on the other end, how do you know an orgasm is over--is it abrupt or a slow comedown? And if you're capable of multiple orgasms, is there a sort of plateau period between #1 and #2 or do you feel good the whole way?

That's three questions so I am happy to barter three answers about my middle-aged dick in return. Thanks.

by Anonymousreply 11105/17/2010

It's ALL about the clit licking/sucking, R94--first slowly, then more intensely. Tongue-fucking does not do a thing for me, although it's very pleasurable to have her fingers inside me as she's tonguing my clit.

My partner likes pressure in circles; I prefer back-and-forth. Go with whatever works for her.

by Anonymousreply 11205/17/2010

[quote]Do you focus on the clit and lick it hard non-stop or tongue fuck them and flick it when your tongue comes out?

Glad you asked! Go from the general to the specific.

I start with long laps, from the vaginal up to the clit. Not too much pressure at first. Just defining the field so to speak. Swirl your tongue around the entrance to the vagina and then a long lap upwards...move your head, not just your tongue until she gets really really excited.

Work a finger in and out of her after you lapped for a few minutes, no, you dont' get to stop licking. Just add the finger, in and out.

When your licks get to the clit, it should be hard by now.

Now you can focus more on the clit. Lick the head gently.and carry through to the top of the shaft.

VERY gently at first, suck the tiny little clit bud. Remember, chicks are WAY more sensitive there than men. If you suck too hard, you'll hurt her. Let her guide you.

As she gets more and more excited, finger fuck her faster...she'll tell you how fast.

Eventually, the fucking should be really fast. The faster the better. I do it with my palm facing upward and as she gets close, I curl my finger(s) upward, to massage the roof of her vagine as I thrust in and out of her.

Whew! I need a cigarette.

by Anonymousreply 11305/17/2010

Holy shit R113... I need a cigarette too!

I have to show that post to my bf!

by Anonymousreply 11405/18/2010

R94, directly tonguing the vagina isn't going to do much. It feels good, but it won't make a woman cum. Focus on the clit and the area around it.

R108, a motorcycle can totally make me horny, but that's the excitement of being on a motorcycle as well as the movement. One of my girlfriends swears that NASCAR is the greatest thing on earth, that the cars shake the stands "just right."

by Anonymousreply 11505/18/2010

Here's one, is squirting real? You see it porn all the time. Do real women squirt?

Also, in your opinion what percentage of women have had a real orgasm from getting fucked?

by Anonymousreply 11605/18/2010

R111, for me, it feels like a giant build up and then an explosion of ecstasy. My comedown is somewhat quick, but my clit will continue pulsing and shooting bursts of Happy down to my toes.. sometimes for 5 minutes after. I almost always keep going though, while taking on solo efforts. The most multiple orgasms I've ever had in one shot was 14 within a span of 15 minutes. I do hit a point though where I realize it's just not going to happen again and call it a night.

by Anonymousreply 11705/18/2010

r83, I my relief feeling during and after peeing is really pleasurable, Im weird. I often hear guys moaning while they pee in public restrooms at the urinal. I mean I know they could be jacking off but maybe they are enjoying peeing as much a I do?

r98, I also have that FUCK OFF time after, its kind of severe lol. Do women experience that too? I wouldnt think so if you can have multiple orgasms one after the other.

by Anonymousreply 11805/18/2010

R79 here. Seriously wondering about the cock ring thing. What does it feel like?

by Anonymousreply 11905/18/2010

Women squirting is real. My gf squirts every time she cums. I love it! Only had 2 women who squirted, apparently it's unusual.

I can only cum from getting fucked if the guy has a really thick dick. I think it's because the female equivalent of a foreskin gets pulled down every time a thick dicked man thrusts.

by Anonymousreply 12005/18/2010


I always like full strokes on my pussy while kissing and undies are still on (gets me extremely wet) and then fingers on clit (hand in panties), but occasional stroking is still a must in order to keep the juices flowing and then tongue on clit... and a finger or 2 in the hole also feels good.

I also like my gf to sit behind me on the couch or a chair and play with me that same way. Until her 1 hand is on my clit and her other fingers are in my hole, she can also tease my tits.

Kisses on the side of the face and back of the neck also add mucho pleasure.

by Anonymousreply 12105/18/2010

I can have an orgasm while having sex if it's in a position where the front of my vagina is being hit...that's where the g-spot is. Any position from behind or with me on top can work if the guy is a decent size, just takes some maneuvering to find the right spot.

That said, I've only had one boyfriend who actually paid attention to positions like that, and he's the only reason I know that. Most guys tend to just plow on in until they're done.

I can only have multiple orgasms with a vibrator, but it's fun...I don't really come fully down from one orgasm, it just goes right back up again, can happen a few times in a row. That's different from having more than one orgasm, which is fully coming down, getting crazy hypersensitive (stop touching my clit right now!), and working your way back up again, which happens to me much more often.

I think I have to be in some kind of ultra-horny hormonal mood to do the multi-orgasmic thing, it always surprises me when it happens.

by Anonymousreply 12305/18/2010

is DP even pleasurable for a lady?

by Anonymousreply 12405/18/2010

I think those are Hollywood bullshit, r108...

but ask me about those underwater whirlpool jet things.

by Anonymousreply 12505/18/2010

R118, I don't have a "fuck off time" after I cum. I have a "let me catch my breath time". After a glass of water or sip of wine, I'm ready to resume. But the activity will be different. Tribbing after an orgasm is the way to get me back to speed in a hurry.

by Anonymousreply 12605/18/2010

Period: apparently shortens with age for some of us. Mine was never a problem but starting in my late 20s-30s I developed endometriosis, which hurts like hell. I would have these pains that felt like I was being sodomized by the Chrysler Building.

Of course, when you're female you have to accept the fact that it will take 10 years for something so straightforward as that to be 1) diagnosed and 2) properly treated. After surgery, we're down to 1-2 days of period and pain totally manageable with Advil and NO PMS.

I have never synched with a girlfriend, or her with me. After now 4 years with my SO, we are not on the same schedule. She has a week long period. Ha! We fight over who has to buy tampons. She always uses them all.

I also rarely wear underwear. I hate it, always have. I'm lucky in that I am not messy. Actually, I've found that if you don't have clothing touching you down there all the time, you don't lubricate that clothing.

Oral sex for ladies: a guy I knew in high school actually said it best. Your face should look like a glazed doughnut. He's still married to his high school sweetheart 20 years later.

by Anonymousreply 12705/18/2010

For me it is, if anal and vaginal. But I think vaginal only DP would be a bit too much. Hm, good thing childbirth is unlikely to be on the agenda.

by Anonymousreply 12805/18/2010

Does your cum change consistency, such as if dehydrated, or it is pretty standard? Is it ever too thick to come out properly?

by Anonymousreply 12905/18/2010

"Of course, when you're female you have to accept the fact that it will take 10 years for something so straightforward as that to be 1) diagnosed and 2) properly treated."

How is that possible with so many female doctors around now?

by Anonymousreply 13005/18/2010

About cockrings-

You put your balls through, then pull your dick through. It should be slightly loose, but not slipping off. It should feel good.

When he gets an erection, it will cause the ring to tighten a bit, slowing the flow of blood out of the penis therefore enhancing the erection.

by Anonymousreply 13105/18/2010

[quote]Why are men so often fascinated with coming on people's faces and in their mouths?

I like knowing that I got a guy off with my mouth so I love it when he comes in my mouth or on my face. I don't see it as degrading, just savoring another guy's most personal essence. I can understand how others might not feel the same and some men do try to make it degrading, but if it's consensual it's extremely intimate.

(Weirdly or not, snowballing is a completely gross concept to me.)

by Anonymousreply 13205/18/2010

(R95), totally not his fault. I can relate to his predicament completely.

by Anonymousreply 13305/18/2010

I also want to know about HIV positive people, and how they learned about their status.

Is it usually just the routine testing that gets an occasional poz status, or is it some kind of sickness that makes the doctor think to recommend a test?

by Anonymousreply 13405/18/2010

For whomever asked, my cum is always the same...and other guys that I've been with...their cum is always the same...but no two guys really have the same cum, it seems.

And if I haven't cum in like 4 days or more, I shoot over my head. It's a lot of fun. Once I went 3 weeks, and it was an insane gusher!

by Anonymousreply 13505/18/2010

Squirting is real. I do it nearly everytime we have sex, although the amount of liquid varies. Sometimes, it's a gush around her fingers, other times it's a squirt of several inches. A squirting orgasm is much stronger than a normal one and comes in two parts: the "oh, wooooww" moment and the internal "dam breaking" feeling that is even better than the first part.

I'm also multi-orgasmic with very little downtime. My clit can get large, although not Chyna-large. The trade-off is that it is very sensitive to direct pressure unless I'm super wet/lubed. My gf doesn't seem to understand that (her clit is much more "hidden" than mine), but since the rest of what she does is awesome, I let it go. I can come from nearly any kind of stimulation, although I've got a fairly small vagina. Anything more than two fingers or 5 inch vibe really hurts. Most sex toys aren't sized for girls like me, so finding toys we can both play with is a little difficult.

by Anonymousreply 13605/18/2010

I forgot my question-

Everyone knows that gravity acts on women's breasts in a negative fashion over time. Does the same thing happen to guys' balls?

by Anonymousreply 13705/18/2010

For some reason since I turned 25 my cycle has become very "talkative", like I don't ever have to check a calendar, I know exactly where I'm at in my cycle.

Exactly a week before my period, I start being hungry all the time, I eat everything I see and it's never enough. It's annoying but it's okay since I lose the weight, and more, as soon as the period starts.

A few hours before it actually starts I can feel it because I suddently lose my appetite, get very tired, and get this lingering headache (behind the eyes, it's a bitch). The first day is a pain, I'm useless and just uncomfortable.

During my period my sense of taste changes drastically. I become disgusted with everything too salty, too sweet, too this, too that. Everything tastes too strong. Basically I have no appetite. Even coffee in the morning is sometimes too strong, just the smell. The good thing is that it's very easy to lose weight during your period. I can lose 5 kilos in a week.

Same with ovulation, hungry like hell a couple of days before, and no appetite at all after it starts.

My sex drive during my period ovulation is crazy. The rest of the time I need motivation, sadly.

I'm multi-orgasmic and need no time off. I know it's over when stimulation stops doing anything. Generally it's after 4 or 5 if I'm with somebody. If I'm alone it can be much more. Record must be 11.

by Anonymousreply 13905/18/2010

R138 it's not a matter of laziness. I wipe really well and check the TP to make sure there isn't anymore poo left. Then, for some reason, a little while later some extra slips out and on my underwear. Doesn't always happen but usually when it seams as though my bowels are aittle loose (after a big night out, for instance). A least that's how it works for me...

by Anonymousreply 14005/18/2010

Are men's nipples generally not terribly sensitive? Generally, the men I've been with can do without sucking/playing with their nipples. I can practically be brought to orgasm with the right type and sequence of stimulation. It's almost as pleasurable as the orgasm itself. Unfortunately, I've only had two boyfriends who have been responsive; the others not so much or not at all despite asking.

by Anonymousreply 14105/18/2010

Basically, I delay cumming for as long as possible, because I know the minute that I cum, I will be disgusted with myself for all of the filthy things I've just done. In that minute before shooting a load, a cum could get me to take on the entire Yankees Starting Lineup or shove a baseball bat up their. Afterwards, no thank you.

by Anonymousreply 14205/18/2010

Yes, I'm a R98er.

I find it astonishing that my desires completely disappear after I cum.

by Anonymousreply 14305/18/2010

[quote]but ask me about those underwater whirlpool jet things.

I also get good results from a handheld shower massager's water stream.

by Anonymousreply 14405/18/2010

Can women have "wet" dreams like guys do?

by Anonymousreply 14505/18/2010

My question:

Does the force of ejaculation equate with the strength of orgasm?

When watching porn, sometimes a guy just dribbles and others shoot a good distance. Is the guy whose cum just lazily drips out, having a mild orgasm?

by Anonymousreply 14605/18/2010

R145, I have had orgasms in my dreams but it is rare. More often I have near orgasms, not quite going over the edge.

by Anonymousreply 14705/18/2010

R145, yes I have had orgasms while sleeping. It's rare but it does happen and it's usually very intense. I don't know the mechanics of it because I've never been able to orgasm w/o direct stimulation in my awake state. But while sleeping if a dream is EXTREMELY erotic, I can cum without anyone touching me (or at least the "real" me---I'm obviously getting it good in the dream).

Those dreams are awesome. When I wake up I always try to go back to sleep so I can get back into the dream, but it never works.

by Anonymousreply 14805/18/2010

That's interesting, R148. I used to have occasional wet dreams as a teenager, and the orgasms were the most intense I've ever had, powerful enough to wake me up in the middle of them. And as you said, there was no stimulation except the dream itself. Unfortunately, though I still sometimes have very pleasurable and arousing erotic dreams, they don't lead to orgasm.

by Anonymousreply 14905/18/2010

My sister once told me that she had an orgasm while she was dreaming.

by Anonymousreply 15005/18/2010

Do the ladies have to wear deodorant or antiperspirant under their breasts? I would imagine those with larger chests would, no? If so, why is there no company that makes a product for this?? We've got ball sweat powders and sprays . . . surely someone could market that.

by Anonymousreply 15105/18/2010

That made me laugh, R151. But I'm the wrong girl to answer, I barely fit in a B cup, I don't even have cleavage, there's no way anything's sweating.

They do make sprays and powders for use in/around the vagina to deal with issues, those are probably like your ball-sweat stuff, but I've never used them.

by Anonymousreply 15205/18/2010

I am exactly the same way, R98 and R143. All desire is gone and I just go about my business.

by Anonymousreply 15305/18/2010

R151, I have C cups and although I sweat under there, I never have an odor as I do in other locations. Pits and crotch are hairy places, maybe that's the difference.

Festie females with folds might have disagree.

by Anonymousreply 15405/18/2010

I know Orthodox Jewish women have to wear long skirts, but do they HAVE to be so drab? Can't the gals spice them up with some fringe or something? Or is it just not allowed?

by Anonymousreply 15505/18/2010

"might disagree"

by Anonymousreply 15605/18/2010

r155, from the Orthodox Jewish people I've known, I've gathered that part of modest dress is to not call too much attention to yourself, so there are probably limits on how much they can spice it up.

Also, some observant Jews won't wear clothes made with blended fabrics, so that might also have something to do with it.

This website sells frum (observant of the Mitzvot) skirts that seem a little more stylish than the typical stuff. I'd actually wear some of those skirts.

by Anonymousreply 15705/18/2010

How is the dick positioned inside of tighty whities? Does it point up or down?

Also, why is it considered embarrassing to have a boner out in public (like at school)? Shouldn't it be more like a show-offy, virility thing to be proud of?

by Anonymousreply 15805/18/2010

R158 because our culture makes sex shameful instead of natural.

As for the dick position, I truly believe someone could write a thesis. Mine, down and to the right most of the time.

by Anonymousreply 15905/18/2010

Ladies, how old were you when you first starting shaving your legs and pits? Did your mom show you how to do it? What about makeup? When is the right age to let your daughter go out of the house looking all made up?

by Anonymousreply 16005/18/2010

R160: I think I started shaving at around 11-12, mostly because I thought it was cool. And it is a nicely sensuous feeling to have very smooth oiled legs, so I got hooked on it right away. Armpits? I basically just do that in the summer, when they show. But I get very little hair there; it'd be different if I was sporting some bacteria-filled brillos.

Make-up: well, I had to be subtle about it, or my brothers would make fun of me. Just a little mascara at first, aged 14, and then lip gloss once I was out of the house. Then my mom got me a book written by a make-up artist, and I learned how to really do it properly. My aunt took my cousin to the Clinique counter at Saks and said, "Show her what to do." I was envious; I had to use all these cheap ass Cover Girl products. I do think American women use too much make-up (English women, too). Europeans are much more refrained and look much better--just a little lipstick and eyeshadow. I try to do that now but sometimes I want some SCHMAKE-UP on my face!

by Anonymousreply 16205/18/2010

For you girl squirters, what exactly is getting squirted out? Is it clear or milky white like male cum?

by Anonymousreply 16305/18/2010

Jew girl here. I do follow ortho-dress 98% of the time but I do actually wear colors and have been complimented on my wardrobe many times. Basically it's skirt to knee length, chest & arms covered. Do I accentuate it with 4" heels? Ab-so-lutely. Most people just think I love skirts (which I do.. makes sex on a whim waaaaaay too easy hehe)

by Anonymousreply 16405/18/2010

R163 I only have experienced female ejaculation once and I was on a mission to experience it. There was a lot of fluid but it was clear and had no smell, so it definitely was not urine. If you google it, it's really up for debate as to what the fluid is. It was certainly in my top 5 orgasms of all time though!

by Anonymousreply 16505/18/2010

"When is the right age to let your daughter go out of the house looking all made up?"

Sometime around 2 1/2 and 3 years old.

by Anonymousreply 16605/18/2010

R165, did you, um, taste it??

by Anonymousreply 16705/18/2010

I taste my gf's cum when she squirts, it doesn't taste like urine.

by Anonymousreply 16805/18/2010

Str8 girl here- when giving oral to a girl, keep going until she says OK. Most guys quit after the first "Oooooh" and we girls have about 30 seconds more to go that gets killed when the guy stops.

Guys, when getting head, should we blow or suck the cock? Also, slow, medium or fast and should we be consistent or change the pace up?

by Anonymousreply 16905/18/2010

Regarding female ejaculation: Study has shown that the fluid comes from the "female prostate", more properly known as the paraurethralglands, and often referred to as the G-Spot. During gestation the male and female start with the same tissues, it's only after sex differentiation at about 40 days that the genitals begin to look different in the male and female fetus. The tissue which becomes the prostate in the male does not just disappear in the female, it becomes the paraurethral glands which surround the urethra. Based on postmortem dissections, we know that the amount of glandular tissue varies from woman to woman, and some women have no discernible glandular tissue in their G-spot.

by Anonymousreply 17005/18/2010

R146, no. I can have a hell of an orgasm, and just a little dribbles out, and I can have a nice orgasm, and surprise gusher occurs.

There is no correlation.

by Anonymousreply 17105/19/2010

R140 is right. It's not really lazy when you have wet fecal matter up inside the sphincter grooves, that slowly expels itself out of the anus. This is true for women too...

That said, for that reason, I tend to go a little nutso on my anus, poking a wet finger up there repeatedly, and circling the area, and then a final wipe of the whole area. That works well, and I almost never get skidmarks.

by Anonymousreply 17205/19/2010

"Wet fecal matter"? Are you ill?

by Anonymousreply 17305/19/2010

Something that many men might not know is that ovulation can be just as bad for a woman as her period. Any other women experience this? I get cramps, bloating, headaches, and just about everything else that accompanies PMS/my period. I hate ovulating!

by Anonymousreply 17405/19/2010

r49 here. Thanks ladies, I've always wondered about the time line.

by Anonymousreply 17505/19/2010

R174, I definitely know when I am ovulating. I even feel when the egg is released, a sharp twinge. Painful but it is soon over. I also get lower back pain, heat flashes and sometimes headaches. Nothing too severe but overall discomfort.

by Anonymousreply 17605/19/2010

IIRC, men are hairier, in general, than women in the anal area.

by Anonymousreply 17705/19/2010

I have another question. Don't women pee out of different hole then the one that is reserved for sex? I thought I had heard that, but am unsure.

by Anonymousreply 17805/21/2010

Yes, r178, the urethra and the vagina are two different openings.

If you spread the labia open, from top to bottom, it is the clitoris, the urethra, and then the vagina.

Link is to a drawing of the vulva, labeling all the parts. If you want to see photos, the wikipedia entry for vulva has a bunch.

by Anonymousreply 17905/21/2010

Oh I don't want to have to see THAT!

by Anonymousreply 18005/21/2010

Bump! for more questions!

by Anonymousreply 18105/23/2010

Yes, after I cum there's a shut off - it's as if a video game has just displayed GAME OVER on the screen.

A cock ring works like a tourniquet --keeps blood in any other part of the body (the part tied off below the tourniquet.

Cum consistency and volume: if I go without cumming for a while, there will be more and it will be thicker, even chunky. If I am dehydrated, it will be less liquid, and usually thick.

Distance: Yes, I shoot further when I'm more aroused. Even when masturbating--the longer I delay it, the further I shoot. If I'm on my back and I shoot past my own nipples, that's commonly referred to as a "touchdown".

I have never tasted my own cum, and when I cum it spurts only 1-3 times. Yes, the cum that dribbles out after you clean up can stick your cock to your undies, but my solution is to "clean out" by having a good post-cumming pee. Then put the undies back on. No cum still coming out after I've peed.

My nipples are no more sensitive than my arms, legs, or chest--yes, you get a response if they are bitten, but that's about it. Some guys claim to have "wired nips" on Manhunt and such, so I think some guys are sensitive in the nipple area. I always think gay guys who have those hardened eraser nips from too much play are just kind of...high mileage/used looking.

by Anonymousreply 18205/23/2010

Thanks R182!

About the cockring? Is it painful? Annoying? Hot?

I kinda want to try it with my bf but not if its painful (he's not into pain).


by Anonymousreply 18305/23/2010

Ladies, does it bother you that people can smell you when you are having a period (I'm used to it but it's distracting in the office.), or is it just something you shrug off?

by Anonymousreply 18405/23/2010

R182 gay male here - my nipples are the most sensitive parts on my body. I can get sooo fuckin' aroused that I almost cum just from nipple play.

A lot of guys have been with aren't that way. Pity - I feel lucky.

However, whenever I tell someone I love to have my nips played with, THEY ALWAYS GO TOO DAMN FAR! Rub them and suck them - don't titty-twist them and bite them. A couple of times people have done it so hard that they bled.

Who do you know likes to have bloody nipples? I guess these guys are so used to doing weird shit to them so that they are like rubber bands. Not me though.

by Anonymousreply 18505/23/2010

How did it feel to have sexual intercourse for the first time? did it hurt? what did it feel like?

by Anonymousreply 18605/23/2010

R186, gay butt sex is gonna involve at least a little pain the first time, even with the best partner in the world. The trick is to just be careful and keep going at it, to not give up and let it all get "swollen shut" again.

R183, try a cockring with a little give to it, or easy escape--the elastic ones, or one that has snaps on it so it can be quickly released if it gets too uncomfortable. Do not use a metal one at first.

by Anonymousreply 18705/23/2010

What on earth do you mean that you can "smell when I'm having my period?"

That's bull, any smell is kept inside, that's what tampons are for. You can't smell a thing.

by Anonymousreply 18805/23/2010

I thought women peed out of the clit! What is it there for?

by Anonymousreply 18905/24/2010

The clit is there purely for sexual satisfaction and serves no other purpose but that. Yay!

by Anonymousreply 19005/24/2010

The clitoris is the most sensitive spot in a woman's genitalia, and its sole purpose is for sexual pleasure and arousal.

It's actually a lot bigger than just the little nub that sticks out at the top of the vulva, the 'g-spot' is really an internal extension of it.

Basically it's there for us to get off. No other reason.

by Anonymousreply 19105/24/2010

Is r186 male?

by Anonymousreply 19205/24/2010

r151, my grandmother used to put baby powder under her breasts when they reeeeally started to sag.

by Anonymousreply 19305/24/2010

Can anyone answer my question at r65? It's completely earnest:

Are any of you men self-conscious of your come? Do you ever worry about the way it smells and tastes, or its color, consistency and amount?

And why are men so often fascinated with coming on people's faces?

by Anonymousreply 19405/24/2010

[quote]I have never tasted my own cum

Not even once out of curiosity before you were ever with someone?

[quote]Some guys claim to have "wired nips" on Manhunt and such, so I think some guys are sensitive in the nipple area.

Totaly true. I can flick mine and be hard in ten seconds. Amazing amount of pleasure from them. I was shocked to learn not everybody is "wired".

[quote]And why are men so often fascinated with coming on people's faces?

Purely living a porn fantasy.

by Anonymousreply 19505/24/2010

For another topic: menopause.

How do you first know you're going through "the change"?

Does calling it "the change" annoy you?

What's a hot flash like?

Are you relieved when menopause hits?

by Anonymousreply 19605/24/2010

A few months ago, I was taking massive amounts of antibiotics for a tooth infection which resulted in a yeast infection. I used one of the OTC products but unlike R101, I didn't have a problem with it leaking everywhere, thankfully.

I can tell my period is coming because mt breasts get extremely sensitive or I get crampy.

My question for the guys. When giving a handjob, does it feel better to use soft hand action up and down the shaft or harder, rougher?

by Anonymousreply 19705/24/2010

R196, calling it "the change" doesn't annoy me. It's an old timey "the curse".

I was 53 when I had my last period. At 46, I started feeling a little strange. Heart palpitations, mental and physical fatigue. My doctor put me on a very low dose of hormone, and I felt much better immediately. I discontinued the hormone, but started applying a hormone-precursor cream.

We women go thru lots of changes on a monthly basis, and when peri-menopause started I definitely felt a difference. Also, my PMS went nuts..I was a homicidal maniac a couple of days a month.

I also started getting flashes...felt as if the thermostat had been turned WAY up for about 10 minutes.

When menopause hit, I felt fantastic. No more mood swings, no more PMS. Still got a sex drive.

I take Black Cohosh as a precautionary measure to ward off hot flashes, but I hear that menopausal symptoms disappear gradually after a few years of period-free life.

by Anonymousreply 19805/24/2010

should have said "BUT when perimenopause started". Women definitely know something in their systems is changing.

by Anonymousreply 19905/24/2010

I'm peri-menopausal and I get horrible migranes and nausea for one day each month. It's dibilitating---like having the worst hang over you can imagine for a full day. Nothing helps but staying in bed. I can't wait for menopause. I just hope I still want to have sex.

by Anonymousreply 20005/24/2010

R194 - I have yet to meet a man who gives a shit about the quantity, look or feel of their come.

You may get a high-five if it shoots really far or if there's a lot of it - but nobody really cares, just as long as it happens.

Strange - but the result of the climax is actually the least worried about part of sex.

Now - straight men may feel differently - particularly if a couple is trying to get pregnant. But that's a whole other situation.

by Anonymousreply 20105/24/2010

Thanks, r201. So interesting ... and so different from women. I wonder if most men are similar to what you described.

In terms of sex, do men feel anxiety or self-conscious about anything other then the size of their penises?

Breath? Body odor? Toilet paper rolls in the ass hairs? Anything?

by Anonymousreply 20205/24/2010

R201 here - actually, let me clarify one thing. There are times when guys can "screw up" their orgasm - the rhythm gets off or they don't hold it long enough and then the cum doesn't time well with the orgasm.

It's hard to describe, but you know it when it happens and it pisses men off - and they invariably blame themselves. The partners just look on with pity, because they know what just happened.

Usually the two happen together - but not 100% of the time - and it totally sucks.

by Anonymousreply 20305/24/2010

R203, if you cum before you orgasm, do you lose your erection or do you just keep going until you orgasm? I thought cumming and orgasming were always simultaneous. This is fascinating.

by Anonymousreply 20405/24/2010

R204 I thought they always go together. Do you orgasm and then cum or is the other way around?

And I've also heard that men can orgasm without cumming? Is this true?

by Anonymousreply 20505/24/2010

I'm with R201. As long as I shoot, I'm not that worried about the cum itself. If I'm a bit dehydrated, there isn't that much of it, but as for the taste or the consistency...well, I don't expect my partner to swallow and if I shoot on him, I'm expecting we're just wiping it off. The SPLAT! and volume is nice, but really, I'm hoping he's more into ME then my actual cum.

by Anonymousreply 20605/25/2010 I worry about other stuff? Sure! Breathe is particularly import as for me kissing is way up on the list of what makes sex good. I want to taste good. I also worry if I've not had a chance to shower before hand. I can be a stinky sweat pig so I worry about that. Toilet paper on the butt? Man, I hope I don't have that problem! Ha-ha!

by Anonymousreply 20705/25/2010

What is a man's labido really like? How often do you think about sex? Are your horny all the time or more so certain times of the month, morning or evening? What about with age?

by Anonymousreply 20805/25/2010

R208- I think there's a huge myth that men think of sex like every 8 minutes.

Never been that way with me - maybe once a day.

R205 - it's more like you cum without the orgasm not the other way around. Sure, when you come there is a release, but the orgasm can be anywhere from a 1 to a 10. When you screw up the timing, the orgasm is like a 2 and you come, so you then have to deal with the aftereffects of coming: tired, listless, etc. You just know you you're not going to be able to go again for awhile - so it's like, ALL THAT HARD WORK for NOTHING!

by Anonymousreply 20905/25/2010

R209 That sounds a lot like when I don't achieve orgasm. Tired from expending all the energy and it was kinda for nothing.

I guess I'm a lucky girl though... I usually orgasm, sometimes multiples :)

by Anonymousreply 21005/25/2010

To me, cut and uncut penises look about the same WHEN they are engaged and ready for action. Other thoughts on this?

by Anonymousreply 21105/25/2010

[quote]I thought they always go together. Do you orgasm and then cum or is the other way around? And I've also heard that men can orgasm without cumming? Is this true?

OK, Orgasm , the amazing shuddering feeling and ejaculation, the expelling of semen are two different things. In a perfect world, they almost always happen at the same time. It is possible to have an ejaculation without an orgasm. It's kinda a crappy cum. Not ideal. I have never heard anyone having an orgasm without ejaculating. If that happened I would assume something is wrong with the plumbing.

by Anonymousreply 21205/25/2010

So what causes men to like coming on people's faces?

by Anonymousreply 21305/25/2010

This is difficult to put into words...

Are most women terrified of child birth at some point in life? I mean I know the obvious reasons, the baby's health, the body not being as tight as it was, the pain. I hear a lot of women say they fear it a lot, but is there a reason to fear with medicine these days? Do you value a tight snatch above all else? Is it fear of being a mother? What is really behind the fear of child birth?

It makes me wonder how the world would be if men gave birth, if we would process this fear the same way.

by Anonymousreply 21405/25/2010

" . . . is there a reason to fear with medicine these days? Do you value a tight snatch above all else? Is it fear of being a mother? What is really behind the fear of child birth? "

Yes, there is fear even with medicine as the pain is excruciating regardless. For me, I fear the pain itself - There really isn't a fear of not being a good mother or having a loose snatch, as you so eloquently put it. The thought of pushing out an 8 pound squirmy, bloody human is so painfully frightening I can't allow myself to think about it. When such thoughts enter my mind I consciously make myself think about something else.

I also worry about birth defects, autism, psychological disorders, the ethics of bringing another human into this world/overpopulation, etc.

by Anonymousreply 21505/25/2010

[quote]Do you value a tight snatch above all else? Is it fear of being a mother? What is really behind the fear of child birth?

God, why the emphasis on a "tight snatch"? You must be a whorish bottom with a gaping anus if you think that's what a woman fears most about childbirth. For fuck's sake---it is the worst pain on earth. You only get the drugs at the end.

And FYI---the vage is pure muscle and it snaps back nice and tight, thank you very much.

by Anonymousreply 21605/25/2010

My sister had a quick delivery with one of my nieces. She was too far along when she got to the hospital, so she couldn't get any drugs. She told me it was the absolute worse pain she has ever been in and thought about wanting to die while it was going on. And my sister is no wimp.

by Anonymousreply 21705/25/2010

r216, sorry, but this a thread for inappropriate questions. So there is no need to call me a whore with a gaping anus! My sister gave birth twice. And of all the things she talked about, she never mentioned the pain, even though I know she experienced it.

I also realize that the vagina is remarkable in that it goes back to how it was after such a severe event. But for SOME women, that IS why they do not want give birth the traditional way, or at all, for fear that their vagina will not be how it was. But it sounds like the pain is main reason for the fear of child birth.

by Anonymousreply 21805/25/2010

Sorry, but the "worst pain on earth" is reserved for hemorrhoids that have been removed, and you try to shit.

Mothers have confirmed this.

by Anonymousreply 21905/25/2010

R219 Sometimes childbirth can cause hemroids...

by Anonymousreply 22005/25/2010

The most frightening thing about childbirth is that there is absolutely no way out of it. Most scary things in life you can opt out of -- bad marriage, bad job, bad car trip, etc.

Once you climb up on that table, there's only one way to get down off it. And after a certain point in labor you cannot change your mind and ask for an epidural. It's too late and it won't work. And your entire body is SEIZED by forces stronger than you've ever felt in your life. It's not under your control anymore.

THAT is very, very scary.

by Anonymousreply 22105/25/2010

[quote]She told me it was the absolute worse pain she has ever been in and thought about wanting to die while it was going on.

I know many mothers say the same thing but add, that they'd do it again in a heart beat. There must be some euphoria that is immediate and pronounced once you have the baby that the pain of delivery is just a memory.

by Anonymousreply 22205/26/2010

Childbirth was painful, no doubt about it, but passing a kidney stone made childbirth feel like a walk in the park.

by Anonymousreply 22305/26/2010

I once asked my Mother what child birth felt like. She said "take your forefingers and thumbs, pull out your bottom lip. Now take your bottom lip and pull it over your head. Times that pain by ten and you might get the gist.

by Anonymousreply 22405/26/2010

R224, that's Bill Cosby, not your mom.

by Anonymousreply 22505/26/2010

Many women are now opting for the C-section/Tummy Tuck method of childbirth. Very little pain and your girlish figure is back in minutes.

Also, I've heard that women produce a hormone that helps them forget the pain of childbirth.

by Anonymousreply 22605/27/2010

Question about niples... I've never used niple clamps, they seem painful. Anyone use them? Does it hurt or feel good?

by Anonymousreply 22705/28/2010

I have another question for the ladies concerning "beef curtains". Are you born with them or do they develop over time? I'm talking about the ones that hang out and look all ragged and stuff.

by Anonymousreply 22805/28/2010

Everybody was playing nicely in the pool, then someone has to mention beef curtains.

Every time.

by Anonymousreply 22905/28/2010

Well R208, I wouldn't say that I think of sex all the time, but it's always there just barely under the surface. If I see a hot guy then it's all RIGHT there. I probably really think about sex maybe a dozen times a day. Sometimes it's just "Damn, he has an amazing ass / chest / nips." or a full on porno loop in my head. I wank pretty much twice a day, each morning and each evening. I'm in my 40's now so it's slowed down and used to be far more often. I still have "on" times when I just can't seem to get enough and will jerk off 5 or 6 times in a day. On the other hand I'll have "off" times where I won't have any interest for days at a time. I think it's a testosterone thing. When I'm having a testosterone rush I'll be extremely horny (also more aggressive and more easily angered) but when it seems low I'll have low energy and little or no libido.

by Anonymousreply 23005/29/2010

R227 - I've used various types of nipple clamps and generally enjoyed them all. I have rather tough, but wired nipples, so for me they are a major erogenous zone.

Can nipple clamps hurt. Most definitely! But I like that...playing with the border between pleasure and pain.

I prefer the type that are like alligator clamps with teeth. They come with rubber / plastic guards, but I take those off. I like the play of seeing how much of a bite I can take.

I don't really care for extreme pressure though. It just plain hurts and doesn't work for me.

by Anonymousreply 23105/29/2010

R228, I think you are born with that. I'm in my 40's, have had 2 kids and everything looks pretty much the same as when I was younger. I've seen pics of what you're talking about and it looks deformed to me. I don't think it's common. If I had that I'd want to get it fixed.

by Anonymousreply 23305/29/2010

A few days before I get my period, I start cleaning my house. I clean everything..even my car! Maybe it is me nesting. Does anyone else do this?

by Anonymousreply 23405/29/2010

Sorry, R235. You're right. Admittedly I have not seen a lot of vaginas.

by Anonymousreply 23605/29/2010

I'll go as far as saying the labia is very similar to the foreskin where some guys have foreskins that hang really low and some are up closer to the head.

by Anonymousreply 23705/29/2010

Thanks, R235.

by Anonymousreply 23805/29/2010

I watched an interesting documentary about the porn industry and their photoshopping of women's genitals. There's some archaic rule about what is flatout obscene and what is acceptable in girly mags, and the woman are not allowed to be "open." A byproduct of this is that labia are routinely neatened in post-production to remove any labia minora from peaking out.

So, even if you HAVE seen a lot of vulva in magazines or other print media, you're not seeing what they really look like.

Sorry for being snippy, r233. Female genitals are so casually and commonly referred to as gross and smelly on the DL that I over-reacted to your comments.

by Anonymousreply 23905/29/2010

I don't think you did, R239.

by Anonymousreply 24005/29/2010

Having worked in health care I saw many vulvae and in my experience I would say prominent labia minora was more common.

by Anonymousreply 24105/29/2010

When my brother and I used to look through my dad's Penthouse mags we were under the impression that those women that had the big inner labia were that way because they had had a lot of sex.

Being an "innie" myself I didn't encounter an "outie" until I was well into my 20's. I was surprised but very curious, but how the hell do you ask a woman "has your twat always look used?".

I finally stumbled into a conversation with a group of friends that revolved around innies and outies. Learned a lot in that 10 minutes and found that more in the room had outies than innies. Now I have experienced more outies than innies. It's as random as the belly button inny/outie.

I still have a very vivid memory of one Penthouse girl in particular. She was called the knotty girl because she could tie her labia into a "knot". I wonder if I could ever find that picture again...would love to send it to my brother just so we can laugh at how naive we were.

by Anonymousreply 24206/01/2010

[quote]You wont have to hurl in traffic and the world can be spared from the bitchiness.

That wouldn't work for me. Bitchy and irritable describes my regular personality. I actually become nicer and more mellow and sensitive around my period.

by Anonymousreply 24306/01/2010

[quote]I've heard that women produce a hormone that helps them forget the pain of childbirth.

True. Women release Oxytocin (AKA the 'cuddle chemical' or bonding hormone} during labor. It has several functions - inducing labor, triggering the production of breastmilk, preparing mother for bonding with baby, etc. It also has an amnesic effect, suppressing memories of the most painful moments.

That's why you can't ever trust women who tell you childbirth wasn't that bad. And the ones who DO say it was bad - that means it was even WORSE.

by Anonymousreply 24406/01/2010

Somebody back there was wondering about breast milk. Yes, it does look kind of very pale bluish white, like skim. The colostrum, the stuff that breasts produce before the milk comes in on the third or fourth day, is clear. Colostrum is a little tart, like grapefruit juice. Breast milk is very, very sweet.

I was only scared to give birth while I was in labor before the drugs kicked in. I was terrified and in pain. After that I was high and happy.

by Anonymousreply 24506/01/2010

Does any one else laugh during sex? I get the giggles, which squeezes my boyfriend's penis, and then he gets the giggles and then we're, literally, rolling around laughing.

by Anonymousreply 24606/01/2010

About fathers in newborns. Has anyone else heard this. That a newborn child will always favor his or her father, no matter what the child will eventually look like. This is nature's way of helping the father bond with the child, because otherwise men wouldn't automatically bond with their children. Don't know if it's truth or an old wives tale.

by Anonymousreply 24706/01/2010

Echoing r224, and will add that I am turned off by outies.

by Anonymousreply 24806/01/2010

R246 OMG! I totally get the giggles sometimes during sex!

R247 yes, I've heard that too and with the friends of mine who had kids that was totally true.

by Anonymousreply 24906/01/2010

I've heard that r247. I don't know how "true" it is. R98, I totally get that feeling after I've cum, a sort of "get me the hell out of here" feeling.

by Anonymousreply 25006/01/2010

So, R250, if you cum first is your bf out of luck?

by Anonymousreply 25106/01/2010

R250, I get that feeling only worse.

In day to day life I'm pretty repressed but in the bedroom I can get kinda kiny and like to be submissive and controled (not a slave/master thing. Its more like light kink - handcuffed to the bed, or being told to "suck it bitch"... stuff like that)

Anyway, as soon as I cum I feel mortified and embarassed. Its horrible.

by Anonymousreply 25206/01/2010

I have a question about anal sex. If we ingest fecal matter, we get very sick. Why doesn't getting fecal matter in a dick make us sick?

by Anonymousreply 25306/01/2010

r253 has shitting dick nipples.

by Anonymousreply 25406/01/2010

What exactly do you like about eating you snot? Do you especially like the crunchy little nuggets that you pick out? Does it irritate you when a booger sticks to your teeth?

by Anonymousreply 25506/01/2010

What does a case of blue balls feel like?

by Anonymousreply 25606/01/2010

If guys don't masturbate on a regular basis, do they go back to having "wet dreams"? I have a straight female friend who claims her boyfriend doesn't masturbate (yeah I know), and they don't have sex on a regular basis (it's long distance).

by Anonymousreply 25706/01/2010

You know lesbian @R257 - I have to say I've never had a wet dream. I'm always curious about guys who do, as well - that is, do you have them if you don't masturbate or have regular sex?

by Anonymousreply 25806/01/2010

R257, if a guy doesn't cum in a long time, most will be absorbed by the body, but some will eventually "come" out.

by Anonymousreply 25906/01/2010

Other lesbians here: How often to you encounter some hair growth up, well, the ass crack? I know it's pretty common for men, but I've always felt like a freak for having some as a female.

I shave it off when I'm sexually active. I shave everything else at all times, but the stubble in the crack is annoying, so I shave there only when another person is going to see it.

I haven't had too many sexual partners so it's difficult for me to gauge.

by Anonymousreply 26006/01/2010

R260, you're not alone. I'm a woman and I'm hairy there, too. But I'm not into anal play, so I don't shave (plus, I'm a little afraid of the stubble factor.)

by Anonymousreply 26106/02/2010

Thanks to everyone who posted about the post-orgasm "leave me alone" feeling.

My ex used to be crazy wild up until she had an orgasm (or 2 or 3, lol). Then she sometimes acted like she couldn't stand what we had done. I never asked her about it, but what you guys said would explain a lot. Now I know what to ask her the next time we hook up and she does that.

I'm a huge cuddler and never feel that way.

by Anonymousreply 26206/02/2010

r260, this is more a treatment than a razor, to lessen hair growth over time.

I just saw an infomercial on it this morning, hosted by country music star, One Life to Live heroine and (apparently) hair beast Kassie DePaiva.

by Anonymousreply 26306/02/2010

Snot has a nice taste, salty like tears. It has interestingly different textures and it's so much easier to eat it than find something to wipe it off your fingernail onto. If it stuck to my teeth I'd run my tongue over it savouring the taste until it was all gone. Apparently snot-eating is good for the immune system, so perhaps it's instinctive.

by Anonymousreply 26406/02/2010

Guy here with a question about ass wiping. How would you wipe in such a way as to leave "crumbs" on the back of the toilet seat? I had a roommate who did this and recently encountered it in a stall at work. It's little rolled up bits of toilet paper, not shit pieces. I just can't even imagine how that would happen.

by Anonymousreply 26506/02/2010

R265 - I think that happens when you use the really soft toilet paper, like Charmin.

by Anonymousreply 26606/02/2010

R11 1/4 of a cup my Ass!

by Anonymousreply 26706/02/2010

r260 why don't you wax or get electroylsis

by Anonymousreply 26806/02/2010

R268, I could, although I just find shaving when I'm planning to have sex to be more convenient. Thank you though (thanks to R263 too)!

Anyway, I was more just trying to figure out how common it is for females to have some hair "up there" than figure out a better removal method...

by Anonymousreply 26906/02/2010

For numbnuts @ R267

"How Much Blood Loss is Normal during Menstruation?"

"You might be surprised to learn that, while it might often seem like much more, the total amount of blood lost during menstruation is only a few tablespoons."

by Anonymousreply 27006/02/2010

Can you urinate when you have an erection?

by Anonymousreply 27106/05/2010

Yep, a guy can urinate with an erection. It's not so much a problem now but when I was younger, it was not uncommon to wake up with 'morning wood' and of course the first thing you want to do when you wake up is pee. I remember almost having to stand on my head trying to pee because you can only push a teenage erection down so far before it starts to hurt so I had to lean over a bit too. I do remember a couple of times when I'd lose my grip and pee on the curtains.

by Anonymousreply 27206/05/2010

Yes R271 - you can - but not that easily or pleasantly. As R272 states, it's hard to lose an erection sometimes (particularly with inexplicable morning wood) and you HAVE TO GO.

It's not something most guys look forward to or do on purpose. It's a pain in the ass and can be very painful due to having to push it down.

by Anonymousreply 27306/05/2010

The girlfriends I've had sex with during their periods say that everything is more sensitive and the feelings heightened. The flow actually stops while they are excited and being stimulated. Once they orgasm the flow can start again, sometimes there is a rush of blood and they said orgasms are more intense during that time.

by Anonymousreply 27406/05/2010

Lesbians, does finger size matter. Like is a girl with long fingers more appealing that short, small ones.

by Anonymousreply 27506/05/2010

R275, not one bit. (Same for the tongue, btw)

As they say, it's not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean.

by Anonymousreply 27606/05/2010

I get super horny 3 or so days before my period - I think about sex constantly and I want to jump just about every man I see.

I also get really hungry a few days before then during my period I don't eat much at all.

Unfortuntately, I only get it once every 4 months or so and when I do get it I literally have to sleep in the bathtub naked because I bleed so much. We're talking a super-plus tampon change every half hour.

My question is how often do most guys masturbate?

by Anonymousreply 27706/05/2010

Do women have a circle jerk equivalent? Did they compare private parts growing up?

by Anonymousreply 27806/05/2010

278...I can only speak for myself, but no. Circle jerks seem like an exclusively male thing.

You would've been thought of as a class A lesbo if you asked other girls to compare their private parts. Some women have never even looked at their own vajayjays.

by Anonymousreply 27906/05/2010

I also get the "get away from me" and "oh god I feel dirty" thing after sex.

I like to be tied up and I have most spectacular orgasms (yes, plural). Being tied to the bed while getting fucked is amazing but then afterward, post orgasm its hits me - "I'm naked, tied to the bed" and get mortified.

Fortunately my fiance kinda gets this so he immediately unties me and goes to the bathroom to "clean up"

I get over it in a few minutes and we cuddle then.

by Anonymousreply 28006/06/2010

Sorry, 270, but I drench my pads for 4-5 days. If I were to squeeze them out far more than 2 TBSP of blood would be juiced.

by Anonymousreply 28106/06/2010

This is a dumb question for men, but how do you pee standing up without deficating.

Periodwise-when wearing a napkin while sitting down, when you stand up you can get a sudden rush of blood...sometimes so much you have to rush to the restroom to change your stuff. This can be more pronounced for women in perimenopause (flooding).

I once had a female boss I hated but still our periods synced together (along with other co-worker women)...fascinating phenomena.

by Anonymousreply 28206/06/2010

No way is blood loss just a few tablespoons, I've had to use a super plus tampon, and heavy duty napkin (changing every two hours) for five straight days, for years of periods!

by Anonymousreply 28306/06/2010

R282 have you never peed without defecating? You think this has something to do with posture?

by Anonymousreply 28406/06/2010

*Normal* loss averages 1/4 cup or so.

It varies. And then there are disorders like endometriosis, which usually account for heavier flow.

by Anonymousreply 28506/06/2010

To gay guys who used to be in the closet. Did you ever fuck women? Did you have any trouble getting it up? What did it feel like?

by Anonymousreply 28606/06/2010

Oh, gawd, 15 fuckin pages and they're still about their fuckin periods. Happy now, op?

by Anonymousreply 28706/06/2010

I would love to replies to R286's question.

by Anonymousreply 28806/06/2010

Me too R288

by Anonymousreply 28906/06/2010


As a woman, sometimes when you're peeing a turd urge will suddenly come upon you. From what I understand, when men start to pee, it's hard to stop so I wondered if the urge to turd also comes upon you when peeing and how do you handle it.

by Anonymousreply 29006/06/2010

[quote]To gay guys who used to be in the closet. Did you ever fuck women? Did you have any trouble getting it up? What did it feel like?

Yes. No. It felt quite nice, but a bit like comparing Black & White to Technicolor. It lacked electricity. I also felt guilty because I knew it was a charade and the (few) females I was with liked me a lot. I wanted her to go away afterwards. Immediately, in fact.

by Anonymousreply 29106/06/2010

R291 Part 2...I also remember I hated the smell of a woman and hated the smell she left in my bed.

I was young and still living at home, didn't even know how to work the washing machine. It's a long time since I thought about this & it's not like something nice that you play over & over as years go by, so the memory fades.

It was also depressing and I had no one to talk to about it. I had one friend (another closet case) who I discussed the smell with and he agreed.

I feel very sorry for people who are in the closet and understand why people will go through so much in order to be out.

by Anonymousreply 29206/06/2010

Is the thing about corn & poo true? I've never once seen a kernel in mine and used to think it was just a joke. Now I wonder if maybe I just have a really good digestive system.

by Anonymousreply 29306/06/2010

Yes, it's true, R293. Corn, carrots, greens - I see it all. Not sure why it doesn't digest. It's only vegetables, though.

by Anonymousreply 29406/06/2010

Question for the ladies, answers appreciated:

When I was younger - starting around puberty - (and even now to a lesser extent) I could curl up in the fetal with my face on the bed and make myself have a quasi-orgasm. It only happened when I had to pee. I would have overwheling urges to do it (and the urges were definitely different than just being horny)

Has anyone ever had this or even heard of it? Or am I just a total freak?

by Anonymousreply 29506/06/2010

A "turd urge"


by Anonymousreply 29606/06/2010

Speaking of orgasams, am I the only one who can give myself a mental orgasms?

or are there others like me out there?

by Anonymousreply 29706/06/2010

297, are you M or F?

The brain is the biggest organ involved in orgasms, so it makes sense. (For example, I sometimes orgasm in my sleep without touching myself whatsoever).

Care to detail your process for us?

by Anonymousreply 29806/06/2010

[quote]Oh, gawd, 15 fuckin pages and they're still about their fuckin periods. Happy now, op?

Obviously reply 287, you're still on yours.

by Anonymousreply 29906/06/2010

Question to the women: Do you really have the kind of friendships they show on Sex at the City when you get together and analyze everyone in your lives and every move you make and do the he says she says and read into things (if she didn't call at 5:00 but called at 5:15 it means ...)? I just can't believe real people relate to each other in such a codependent way and yet I know women who made a special trip to NYC with hotel reservations and the works just to see this movie together. It must mean something to them. I just know that if my friendships were as whiney I would shoot myself.

by Anonymousreply 30006/06/2010

R302, doesn't the pantyliner kinda of negate or ruin the whole point of a thong?

by Anonymousreply 30306/07/2010

I've never used one, but my understanding is that a diaphragm works pretty simply.

It works by blocking sperm from entering the uterus. Imagine a little latex helmet that keeps the little guys from reaching the egg. (It looks like a small cup from one of your underwire bras)

A user puts a spermicide on the inside and slips the diaphragm inside to where it fits securely over the cervix. It's left in for 6-24 hours max. It works about 95% of the time to prevent pregnancy.

by Anonymousreply 30406/07/2010

What black people, r305? They have British, Algerian, Cuban, Australian, American, Nigerian, Canadian and South African accents as just a sample.

by Anonymousreply 30606/07/2010

That is not inappropriate, r300, just stupid.

by Anonymousreply 30706/07/2010

I had a diapraghm for a bit. You squeeze it into a long oval and put it in like a tampon, then it springs open to a circle and stays in place by the pressure on the vagina walls (but you can't feel it). The one I had was supposed to fit in almost lengthways, but there are other designs that just fit over the cervix. You put spermicide on the side that's in contact with the cervix - if you don't do this it's very unreliable as a contraceptive. The guy isn't supposed to be able to feel it during sex, but in my case he could, so I soon gave up on it.

by Anonymousreply 30806/07/2010

I'm a lesbian and I've never been with a woman who wasn't like me - once I have the first orgasm, if stimulation continues, I can continue having them indefinitely, though somewhere between the 4th and 6th ones, they start to get less intense until they feel kind of rubbery and barely register. I usually only have to wait an hour or so and can start all over again.

As I understand it: guys only have one orgasm and then have to wait to re-sensitize and have another one? Is that right? If so, how intense would you guys among us describe a male orgasm? I'm kind of wondering if guys get gypped in the orgasm department, or if it all averages out between the genders, or what.

by Anonymousreply 30906/07/2010

For male tops...what does it feel like when you're inside another guy when he orgasms?

by Anonymousreply 31006/07/2010

[quote]What does a case of blue balls feel like?

I'm curious too. Also, how long after you orgasms can you go again?

by Anonymousreply 31106/07/2010

I can have another orgasm about 5 minutes after I have the first one, R309 and R311; my refractory period is very short compared to most men. I was once able to have a third orgasm about 12 minutes after the first one, but I've never been able to duplicate it.

No other man that I've personally been with has been able to have an orgasm without recharging for about 30 minutes or so; I have heard from friends, though, that there are a few other men with refractory periods as short as mine. It seems like most, though, need several hours before they can go again.

R301 - I love rimming. I actually enjoy the musky smell that a man has when he's been sweating and working for most of the day. As most gay men will tell you, this is not the same smell as shit; it's a different smell, and more similar to the musky smell that comes out of a man's underarms when he's gone jogging or has been mowing the lawn.

by Anonymousreply 31206/08/2010

Some more information on the male and female refractory periods, which appears to confirm my anecdotal information... According to the article, some women can't have multiple orgasms?

by Anonymousreply 31306/08/2010

Thanks, R312.

It's rare, R313. Among women who can orgasm at all, I've never met one who wasn't multiple orgasmic.

by Anonymousreply 31406/08/2010

R295 here. Anybody relate to my post? Anybody? I really am wondering if this whole non-touching self-orgasm thing is just me...

by Anonymousreply 31506/08/2010

I'm a woman who can only have one - I rarely have more than one. Also I'm like a guy afterwards - don't really want to be touched. I read somewhere that female orgasms is like eating your favorite meal at a restaurant - some women eat a whole plateful and get full at once (I guess like me) and other women take smaller amounts, over and over again. I hope it's true because I don't want to be missing out!

by Anonymousreply 31806/08/2010

Fuck off R316

R295, I can't totally relate, but I remember one of my friends talking about this in hs. We were drunk one night and were talking about sex and she mentioned this thing were she can curl up into a ball and spontaneously have a quasi orgasm. We all just laughed and said she was nuts.

I hadn't heard about it anything like that since, but I guess it means you're not alone.

by Anonymousreply 31906/08/2010

i too have a weird relationship with my period.

I get EXTREMELY horny the night before it starts.

I use two super plus tampons inserted side-by-sde at same time on the first night bc it is so heavy.

by Anonymousreply 32006/09/2010

do you people ever get pimples on your labia?

i wish they did vaginal facials.

by Anonymousreply 32106/09/2010

R300, I have never known women like those in SATC, BUT, we do behave like they do to a much less intense degree. Analyzing every little thing our dates say or do with our least in the very beginning of relationships.

by Anonymousreply 32206/09/2010

[quote]I also remember I hated the smell of a woman and hated the smell she left in my bed.

I was young and still living at home, didn't even know how to work the washing machine. It's a long time since I thought about this & it's not like something nice that you play over & over as years go by, so the memory fades.

[quote]It was also depressing and I had no one to talk to about it. I had one friend (another closet case) who I discussed the smell with and he agreed.

This post gives me the creeps.

by Anonymousreply 32306/09/2010

[quote]Anybody relate to my post? Anybody? I really am wondering if this whole non-touching self-orgasm thing is just me...

I'm female and don't know if you are also but, the urethra is close to the clitoris. If you need to urinate and are holding it, pressure builds in that general area and it may stimulate you sexually.

When I have a sexual dream, it is usually because I need to pee.

Also, in the fetal position, you are likely exerting some kind of pressure on your clitoris.

by Anonymousreply 32406/09/2010

PS to my post at r324, ever heard of "Spanish Fly"? Was a supposed aphrodisiac that irritated the urethra in human females (not its intended use, it was used in veterinary medicine) causing them to feel sexually stimulated. Unfortunately, it was fatal if given in sufficient doses.

When I was a kid, there were urban legends of females who died as a result of internal hemorrhage sustained when they mounted stick shifts, in attempts to alleviate their unbearable horniness.

by Anonymousreply 32506/09/2010

[quote]If you need to urinate and are holding it, pressure builds in that general area and it may stimulate you sexually.

The UTIs are worth it.

by Anonymousreply 32606/09/2010

It gave me the creeps too, r323.

by Anonymousreply 32706/09/2010

[quote] I was young and still living at home, didn't even know how to work the washing machine.

Old enough to have sex but too young to know how to use the washing machine?? Thats the odd creepy part which makes me think that post is fake.

by Anonymousreply 32806/09/2010


Yes, I get it some times and it goes away in about two days.

by Anonymousreply 32906/09/2010

[quote]do you people ever get pimples on your labia?

You sure they're not cysts? Or worse, like herpes?

by Anonymousreply 33006/09/2010

I get mild cramps, bloating, sore breasts and irritable about a week before my period. Why do you want to know?

by Anonymousreply 33206/12/2010

R332, the whole point of this thread is asking questions. What is your problem and why did you answer, if you have that attitude?

by Anonymousreply 33406/12/2010

r306 good point. I meant north American Blacks. I've met black Canadians and Americans who were both rich and poor and they have all had a slightly different sounding voice.

by Anonymousreply 33506/12/2010

R335, it's called an "accent."

by Anonymousreply 33606/12/2010

Yes, but why do blacks who have nothing in common other than their skin color share this accent?

by Anonymousreply 33706/12/2010

A question for the guys: does the dick rest on the scrotum? Or is there a space between where air can circulate?

by Anonymousreply 33806/12/2010

Why do white people who have nothing in common but their skin color all have the same accent?

by Anonymousreply 33906/12/2010

This is a great thread.

Racist trolls, please leave now.

Thank you.

by Anonymousreply 34006/12/2010

bump for the evening shift

by Anonymousreply 34106/12/2010

Here's one.

How long did you deny to yourself that you were gay, before you totally embraced it?

I want to hear other guy's experiences.

by Anonymousreply 34206/12/2010

How is that an inappropriate question, r342? Oh I see, you are a non-subscriber.

by Anonymousreply 34306/13/2010

It's actually called a "dialect" not an "accent". Dialects are unique to various geographical regions.

by Anonymousreply 34406/13/2010

R338, no there is no space for air to circulate between the frank and beans.

However, sometimes we curve to one side or the other depending on clothing, so some circulation tends to happen.

I actually think that the resting of the dick on the balls increases horniness.

by Anonymousreply 34506/13/2010

"I actually think that the resting of the dick on the balls increases horniness"

That's interesting (to me, a lesbian). Is it the increased heat?

by Anonymousreply 34606/13/2010

I think it's because the dick is very sensitive to touch, and the fact that it's touching other skin of mine increases the general sense of horniness. Nothing to do with heat. Just the skin on skin contact.

by Anonymousreply 34706/13/2010

I used to get "pimples" on my labia when I lived in very hot humid climates. They turned out to be ingrown pubic hairs caused by the extra chafing and heat. I always got them in the summer-time. Painful as hell, not to mention terribly disconcerting. One of the many reasons I hated summer.

by Anonymousreply 34806/13/2010


by Anonymousreply 34906/19/2010

This is a very inappropriate question i would never ask in public: For the HIV positive people, how did you contract HIV? Do you know the person you got it from? Or did you get fucked a lot and you have no idea?

I ask it only because i would like to know what's really going on. I'm not advocating unsafe sex, but it seems like it's pretty hard to contract. We're all supposed to be so afraid of bare condomless sex but i wonder if that might be a little misguided. We should be equally or more worried about sex with strangers and drug/alcohol abuse. But the party line is: as long as you wear a condom, you're all set.

I would never ever ask the few guys i know who got HIV recently but we all know how it spreads so i'm left wondering. 25 years ago nobody really knew much about how HIV spreads. Now we all know, yet it keeps happening.

by Anonymousreply 35006/19/2010

I have not read all responses in this post yet, but R45 / R47 I saw on PBS one time that the way a man should masturbate a woman is to use his non-dominate hand. With the palm side up insert the middle finger into the vagina and with the index and ring finger slightly caress the clit. The non-dominate hand doesn't have as much strength as the other hand so caressing the clit isn't as forceful.

This is a big difference than to giving a guy a handjob. You need to apply a certain amount of pressure to a guy's cock to get him to spurt.

by Anonymousreply 35106/19/2010

Regarding cock rings (someone earlier in the thread asked) I'm a female and I was wondering what would happen if a guy was wearing one and really wanted to cum.

Could it happen? Or would it just be painful?

by Anonymousreply 35206/19/2010

For the guys who have Prince Alberts: Is it supposed to make you feel good, or if you're fucking someone is it supposed to better for the bottom guy?

And when you pee/cum, doesn't it just dribble out the pierced hole? Do you have to cover that with a finger to piss at a urinal so the urine comes out in one steady stream?

by Anonymousreply 35306/19/2010

R352, it has no effect on cumming. The cock ring goes around all your junk, i.e., over the top side of the dick and under the balls. The underside of the dick, where the urethra is, is not blocked at all so cumming's no problem. On the top side of the dick, the vein that returns the blood from the dick to the body is constricted by the cock ring to help maintain a raging hard on.

by Anonymousreply 35406/20/2010

"I saw on PBS one time that the way a man should masturbate a woman is to use his non-dominate hand"

This is stupid. You need dexterity to hit it right.

Who takes sex advice from PBS?

by Anonymousreply 35506/20/2010

Not that most here would care, but a lot of str8 women complain that men touch them too hard (both when they touch their nipples and when they touch their clit).

And since some str8 guys can figure out how to soften the touch, telling them to use their non dominant hand might actually help.

by Anonymousreply 35606/20/2010

[quote] Who takes sex advice from PBS?

Since when did PBS start giving sex advice?

"If you liked this program, please donate to keep quality shows like this on the air. For a $25 donation, we'll send you this PBS vibrator..."

by Anonymousreply 35706/20/2010

What does a case of blue balls feel like?

by Anonymousreply 35806/22/2010

R358, how would these guys know what a case of blue balls feels like? They're never more than 20 minutes away from an work, in the gym, on the subway, etc.

by Anonymousreply 35906/22/2010

Any women here who find Viagra works for them for orgasm? I haven't had one without a vibrator for years and it's pissing me off...

by Anonymousreply 36006/22/2010

How often do you use sex toys (dildos, strap-ons, vibrators etc) when having sex?

by Anonymousreply 36106/23/2010

[quote] I haven't had one without a vibrator for years and it's pissing me off...

I've NEVER had one without a vibrator. Well, ok, maybe little ones. I should say I've never had a DECENT one without a vibrator.

by Anonymousreply 36206/23/2010

me too, r362

by Anonymousreply 36306/23/2010

R113, I just went through this whole thread, and when I read your post I threw up a little bit in my mouth

by Anonymousreply 36406/23/2010

351 watches the Pubic Broadcasting System, not our PBS.

by Anonymousreply 36506/23/2010

R365 Whats the difference?

by Anonymousreply 36606/23/2010

So far, I have heard one inappropriate question. To me an inappropriate question would be "how much you pay for that"?

by Anonymousreply 36706/23/2010

r364=a very proud effeminate with bowed legs.

by Anonymousreply 36806/23/2010

What's wrong with watching PBS?

by Anonymousreply 36907/19/2012

Ok, i've never had sex before and i'm gay. My questions are:

Do we instinctevly know what to do when in comes down to having sex? It seems that st8 people, no matter if they are just stupid redneck teenagers, they just know what to do?

What are your suggestions (tips&tricks) for the first time for both, gays and lesbians?

by Anonymousreply 37107/21/2012

[quote]Did your brothers have cum rags they left out in an unenclosed space, e.g. under their beds? I kept mine in a drawer in my closet, so it didn't stink up the place.

This reminds me of one of my favorite lines from Bridesmaids. Wendy McClendon Covey was talking about her teen sons masturbating in their rooms and the smell. And she said she literally cracked a blanket in half. I thought that was hilarious when you consider how hard something gets with dried cum in it.

Most guys that age are not aware of the smell. It's not like anyone tells them. It's only when you are older that you think, Oh My God, my room must have smelled like baked brie for four years.

by Anonymousreply 37207/21/2012

And here is a PSA about cocks ladies:

Men's cocks can be very different from each other. Some men's dicks are really sensitive. Some men's cocks you can squeeze to just about pulling it off before thery can get off. Some guys nuts can't be touched, and other guys you could beat their nuts with a crowbar. Uncut guys seem more sensitive, but even that can very. The best way to find out what kind of cock your guy has is to watch him masturbate. He will tell you what he likes just by watching him.

For the most part, guys don't like their cocks touched after they cum. And I know I personally turn off pretty quickly after I cum. I can be the whore of Babylon seconds before then right after it's lights out.

Oh, one last thing. There is a difference between playing with a cock and making a guy cum. You can do several things to make a guy feel good while playing with his dick - sucking head, squeezing balls, stroking, etc... But to make a guy cum, you need to do one thing that feels good for an extended period of time. Once you get to that point of making a guy cum and you switch up your technique, it's like a reset button and the build up starts all over again.

by Anonymousreply 37307/21/2012

A question for other women:

Do you get orgasms by crossing your legs tightly together and moving your hips back and forth? The muscles of upper thighs indirectly squeeze the clit and all the area around it, and the orgasm depends on the pressure's strength, speed of tightening the muscles and releasing them, frequency of the pulsing action and so on. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, feels that good. The usual clit stimulation often feels too 'sharp' for me, if that makes any sense, it's so strong, like tickling, you sometimes even wanna get away from it, but when you use this method, it feels completely different. The orgasm lasts up to about 8 seconds (you reach it when you stop pulsing the muscles and just leave them as tight as there's no tomorrow). I can get the first one in TEN seconds, and get another in like five. It works better while laying on your back or side. My record was about 40 orgasms in 2 hours, it's sooo addictive. But it's extremely exhausting, as you need to put a lot of energy in squeezing your legs.

Just wondered if I'm the only one doing that.

by Anonymousreply 37407/21/2012

R374, I can give myself an orgasm just by undulating what I guess are the kegel muscles in a particular way. And I always come from penetration and don't enjoy oral.

by Anonymousreply 37507/21/2012

It's so weird. I was on the subway and this little girl was in her stroller and squirming about. At first it looked like she was trying to get out. But this went on entirely too long. She kept tensing her legs and hitting herself in the crotch. I know this sounds insane, and I am as gay as the day is long, but it looks like she was really getting into rubbing her privates against the strap and slapping herself, tensing he legs. This literally went on for a good 10 minutes of the train ride.

Which brings me to the question. Most guys start masturbating around 11-14 years of age and never stop. Do girls start around then too?

by Anonymousreply 37607/21/2012

Question, do guys going commando chafe the end of their penises when it rubs against their pants?

by Anonymousreply 37707/21/2012

R376, masturbation is a self-calming behavior. I remember getting in trouble in pre-school for masturbating during nap time.

by Anonymousreply 37807/22/2012

Hemorrhoids - do they affect anal sex?

Someone mentioned pain in removing them. I thought they cleared up on their own? Or fell off on their own?

by Anonymousreply 37907/22/2012

R379, I think it depends on how severe they are. I have a friend who gets them really badly when under stress but when things are going well they pretty much disappear. He's tried a thousand different creams and I think mentholated chapstick actually wound up working best. Clearly, we're too close for me to even know this.

by Anonymousreply 38007/22/2012

R373 - Damn right about the differences between the two. I've learned in many of my dalliances, sometimes it takes a long time for me to cum (up to an hour one time), and it's because some people like to switch technique way too damn much. When I tell someone don't stop, I fucking mean it!

by Anonymousreply 38107/22/2012

Periods...I can tell it's about to arrive when I'm inexplicably hungry for salty foods, which I don't usually eat. It's like my body is craving sodium to make up for a mineral loss. I can't lose weight at all during that time, due to water retention, so I give up on dieting until the 5 days have passed.

My question for men: do you ever sit to pee? if you go to the bathroom and have to eliminate both front and back, for efficiency do you sit to do both? Or, do you stand to pee, then sit to continue for the next duty?

by Anonymousreply 38207/22/2012

There have been a few questions about HIV and i'll bite:

I tested negative in 1990 and afterwards my fuck buddy (who had a partner) told me, "OK, now we don't have to use condoms anymore." We ended up with him cumming in my ass about 3-4 times a week. I moved away and I kinda/sorta kept in touch with him, when one time I called him to say hello, and he told me his partner had just died of AIDS. That's how I figure I got it, because I *never* let anybody cum in my ass other than him.

I was in denial for several years, mainly because I didn't really have a support network (having moved cross-country), so I just told myself, "as long as I'm not getting sick, I must be ok."

The problem was I kept getting all these weird rashes on the back of my legs, plus on my face (thinking it was rosacea). This started about 10 years after the last time I had sex with him. Finally i get a case of pneumonia that wouldn't go away, and I'm talking about merely getting up out of bed would make me extremely out of breath. This from someone who rarely got sick at all.

I lost about 40 lbs in one month because I was so sick....couldn't keep any food down whatsoever. Truly, the only thing I could take was hot tea (which is why I can't drink hot tea to this day). My doctor said, "Look you need to get an HIV test," so I went to Planned Parenthood, which offered anonymous HIV testing, and of course two weeks later it came back positive.

I got all the genotype/phenotype testing immediately and found out my CD4 (T-cell) count was 13, which is extremely low. I started meds immediately (HIV cocktail plus hi-dose Zithromax and Bactrim) to prevent any other opportunistic infections.

I've rarely gotten above 400 CD4 cells since then (around 500 is considered low end of a normal immune system) and my doctor says I might never get back to normal. I don't "look" like I have AIDS, even though technically i'll always have an AIDS diagnosis since my initial CD4 count was below 200. I'm trying to get disability because i can't work as an ICU nurse anymore, as being around all those sick people was making ME sick.

by Anonymousreply 38307/22/2012

You see a lot of insults of the 'sloppy hole' variety flung around here.

But has anyone ever encountered such a thing (presumably acquired from too much slutting around)?

by Anonymousreply 38407/22/2012

Some guys have and some don't have hairy nipples. Do some women have hair there?

by Anonymousreply 38507/23/2012

Question to the bisexual females/ lesbians. If you were blind-folded, could you tell the difference between a cock and a strap on fuck? I dont get these females who are 'tricked' by transexuals. Doesnt the texture and temprature feel different?

by Anonymousreply 38604/26/2013

Some women have a a few hairs that grow around their nipples. Some have 2-3. Others have 5-6. Usually women pluck these hairs as soon as they arrive. Otherwise they can grow quite long and it's disgusting to see. Obviously brunettes have darker hair and it's more visible.

Here's my question:

Men - when you need to scratch your balls, are you at all self-consciuos that people will see you scratching your crotch? Do you wait until no one is looking? Or does it an automatic reflex that you aren't conscious of?

by Anonymousreply 38704/26/2013

[quote]Men - when you need to scratch your balls, are you at all self-consciuos that people will see you scratching your crotch? Do you wait until no one is looking? Or does it an automatic reflex that you aren't conscious of?

For me, it's less scratching and more an occasional adjustment if things have gotten pinched down there. And either I excuse myself to the men's room (and adjust in a stall) or else wait until I'm sure no one is watching.

by Anonymousreply 38904/26/2013

For women ( or wymyn) with REALLY big boobs---do they get heavy? A lady I work with has ENORMOUS boobs, and to me they would seem like having a pair of bowling balls on your chest. Do you like your big boobs, or wish they were smaller?

by Anonymousreply 39004/26/2013

A question for the women: if something strikes you as hilariously funny, has it ever made you pee your pants? I am a male and have had two women tell me that they had this reaction at various times, and I was wondering how common this is.

by Anonymousreply 39104/26/2013

No, never, R391. The only time I've ever come close to peeing in my underwear was when I car spun out on a ice patch in front of me on the highway. I wasn't very close and was driving slowly, but it was a moment of split second, abject terror. I also had a feeling that my guts would have come spilling out were they not held in place.

by Anonymousreply 39204/26/2013

R390? I think carrying a dick and balls around must be disgusting. Plus, guys have to squish it all into a pair of pants! Maybe if guys wore skirts I could see it, but tucking all your 'nads into the crotch of a pair of pants must be horrible. I mean, you guys touch there enough, moving around and adjusting.

OTOH, my (big) tits never bother me. Get a good bra that fits you and you're set.

by Anonymousreply 39304/26/2013

I have a question for male DL'ers. Are you offended when straight women refer to you as her gay? Or in the case of Kathy Griffith her gays?

I don't like it myself, and as much as I want a gay male companion to escort me to event which require such, I would never marginalize a person in that manner. Is the term "walker" now considered offensive? Is there a term other than confirmed bachelor which you do not find offensive? (other than the obvious which would be calling you gay)? But even that doesn't sit well with me, because I would never identify a companion as my "straight friend". Anyone willing to help an old bird with her PC identifications?

by Anonymousreply 39404/27/2013

[quote]Hard-ons don't in an [sic] of themselves feel good to have, but you're more sensitive at that point. When you're hard for no reason (like when you wake up sometimes) it's more annoying than pleasurable.

…until you’ve had enough pleasant sexual experiences under your belt, at which point different types of hard-ons - including morning wood - will rekindle different past titillations …and then you become a raging horn dog.

I truly believe this is the reason men become “dirty old men” – all it takes is your dick rubbing against something in some specific way, and a good memory of a good episode, along with the good feeling that accompanies it, will awaken in you.

As a teen, hard-ons were mostly a source of embarrassment and handled with awkward inexperience. At age 50, they are sensual, and physically and mentally stimulating.

It’s all psychological, of course.

by Anonymousreply 39604/29/2013

Reading the thread about sexual activity at gyms makes me wonder how guys can stand it, since general society says that after men have sex, they immediately choose/have to roll over and fall asleep!

I've masturbated with the shower nozzle at home (and at the gym once or twice), and both times I was exhausted afterwards and could barely use my legs. Isn't it that way for guys?

by Anonymousreply 39709/04/2013

[quote]Which brings me to the question. Most guys start masturbating around 11-14 years of age and never stop. Do girls start around then too?

Actually, R376, most children (both male and female) start masturbating in the womb!

Then, once they get about 2-3 years old and can access their genitals (no diaper in the way), most kids again begin fondling themselves. Boys, in particular, tend to just walk around holding on to their weenies, kind of like Al Bundy with his hand down his pants.

As far as masturbating to orgasm, that usually starts at puberty (of course) for both boys and girls.

Girls, however, are MUCH less likely to admit it.

by Anonymousreply 39809/04/2013

[quote]Question to the bisexual females/ lesbians. If you were blind-folded, could you tell the difference between a cock and a strap on fuck? I dont get these females who are 'tricked' by transexuals. Doesnt the texture and temprature feel different?

Many dildos are realistically textured, and the inside of the vagina isn't as sensitive to details in the same way a penis is.

However, a penis is hot [temperature-wise] in the way a dildo could never be (except for a few ones that can be filled with warm water for that reason).

In the time it takes me to close the cap on the lube, put the bottle away, and move my dildo or vibrator to my pussy, the lube is already shockingly cold, no matter how warm the bedroom. It's not like that with a real dick.

by Anonymousreply 39909/04/2013

[quote] A question for the women: if something strikes you as hilariously funny, has it ever made you pee your pants?

Some middle-aged women who have given natural childbirth (when younger) tend to have mild urinary incontinence.

There are prescription drugs for this.

by Anonymousreply 40009/04/2013

[quote]A question for the women: if something strikes you as hilariously funny, has it ever made you pee your pants?

Hell yeah!

Not often, I mean it's not something that happens on a regular basis, but yes, it has happened a few times in my life (including twice when I was a kid).

I even still remember the jokes that caused it to happen!

One was by Steve Martin: "Have you ever wondered where farts go?" Christ, I literally laughed for over two hours at that joke.

The second was a silly definition: bread = raw toast. My young cousin and I laughed ourselves silly at that one, and I peed a little bit because I couldn't stop laughing enough to get up and go to the bathroom.

by Anonymousreply 40109/04/2013

[quote]For women ( or wymyn) with REALLY big boobs---do they get heavy? A lady I work with has ENORMOUS boobs, and to me they would seem like having a pair of bowling balls on your chest. Do you like your big boobs, or wish they were smaller?

Fat chick here, and my latest bra is sized 54H.

I'll give you a moment to realize that yes, bras really do come in such sizes.

As you can imagine, my boobs are freaking huge. Yes, they are very heavy, and extremely uncomfortable most of the time.

Try to imagine if you had a 10-lb sack of sugar taped to each of your nipples. Sound comfy?

Otoh, str8 men I hook up with tend to be absolutely obsessed with my tits, and love getting smothered by them. Lol, one guy had me repeatedly smack him in the head with them!

by Anonymousreply 40209/04/2013

[quote]I often hear how vaginal orgasm isn't that common, is that true? Wouldn't that mean that straight women are rarely coming if they men don't do oral?

Most women can't experience orgasms through vaginal stimulation only. When you have sex with a man, however, if they angle their hips at just the right degree, the man's pubis rubs up or presses up against your clit. Then you get the combination of both vaginal and clitoral stimulation, which for some women leads to an extra intense orgasm. You can also have a clitoris-only orgasm. But if it's just something going in and out of your vagina with nothing touching your clit, you're probably not going to come.

[quote]And what's the difference between vaginal and clit orgasm in therms of sensations?

Many women report having much stronger/deeper orgasms when reached by simultaneous clitoral and vaginal stimulation. But really, there isn't always much difference between those and just plain clit-stimulated ones.

[quote]Oh, and for gay women and straight men: what does it taste down there?

Pretty bland, slightly sweet. A lot like precum on a guy.

And yes, big boobs can hurt - can cause back pain and migraines, and they start to sag very early on.

by Anonymousreply 40309/04/2013

Why would a lesbian get a period? I don't get it.

by Anonymousreply 40409/04/2013

[quote]Regarding cock rings...what would happen if a guy was wearing one and really wanted to cum. Could it happen? Or would it just be painful?

The ring doesn't restrict coming. There's no pain, unless it's illfitted.

[quote] For the guys who have Prince Alberts: Is it supposed to make you feel good, or if you're fucking someone is it supposed to better for the bottom guy?

Both. The larger/thicker and heavier they are the better they feel for both parties.

[quote] When you pee/cum, doesn't it just dribble out the pierced hole? Do you have to cover that with a finger to piss at a urinal so the urine comes out in one steady stream?

PAs work best with a foreskin... which naturally channels piss. Without a foreskin the pisser has to pull what skin they have foreword to create the channel or sit down.

by Anonymousreply 40509/04/2013

For the guys and gals who enjoy rimming, don't you worry about e-coli? Do you ever get sick from it? I wouldn't think washing could get rid of *all* the germs down there.

(Maybe I'm just extra-sensitive, but I get a raging UTI whenever my guy switches from anal to vaginal sex without changing condoms or whatever. I can't even imagine putting my *mouth* anywhere near that area/)

by Anonymousreply 40609/04/2013

I'd like to understand foot fetishes. What is it exactly about feet that do it for you? What kind of feet are the sexiest and are nice feet a dealbreaker? How hard is it to find local guys that share your fetish or are willing to at least tolerate it? Tell me all about it.

by Anonymousreply 40709/04/2013

I have a very mild foot fetish. It probably stems from the fact that I have "nice feet" and they're very sensitive. I enjoy having them rubbed, and I am extra-careful about the socks I pick. It's comfort and sensation above all, and I like them looking simple.

I like nice feet in others (I also have reasonably nice hands, sort of "pianist"-like if you will although I've seen much nicer in terms of hands) and tend to notice if women/girls have nice feet. I like natural feet (no nail polish).

I think it was all revealed when I first saw the picture below, I must have been 15 or 16.

Other than that I don't choose lover based on their feet, although I know i'll have a much sexier time if they have nice feet.

Nicest feet are "Greek" feet (mine), the second toe is longer than the others. When the big toe is the longest, those are tolerable, especially as most people have those feet. Square feet are horrendous. That said, my girlfriend has square feet. The sex isn't great but we've been together 5 years, so I guess there's more to a relationship than sex.

When I see a girl with nice feet/hands I'm always interested, but never in a conscious manner. I always gravitate towards those for a sexy moment, don't think much about it though.

About the picture, it's not the feet themselves, it's the freedom of being barefoot and not have anything on them. That picture represented a casual freedom to me.

by Anonymousreply 40809/04/2013


"Pianist" hands are one of my favorite features.

by Anonymousreply 40909/04/2013

I misread the post on the accent that black people have. I read it as black SCENT. Which prompts my question: You(men AND women) who have had sex with black men, have you ever noticed the particular/peculiar scent that only black men seem to have? It's a pheromone extravaganza, and naturally, more concentrated in their underarms and 'taints? I find it incredibly erotic and stimulating, and have never noticed it with non-black men. Who's with me?

by Anonymousreply 41009/04/2013

I always feared the pain of childbirth and tried not to think about it even during labor. Women have different tolerances for pain and no two labors are the same but I can tell you that the pain is significantly worse after your water has broken, most women still have their bag of water in tact until the very end and then the dr. breaks it at the end which helps deal with the pain.

Once the labor is over the body releases bonding hormones that help you bond with your baby and help you to look back on the experience without shriveling up in horror.

I know I'm getting my period a week before because I get very hungry and crave carbs, my boobs become more sensitive and I feel tired and cranky. I also notice that my periods are shorter and lighter as I get older.

Female orgasms are incredible and we can keep going and going but after 3 or 4 in a row the intensity begins to decrease and I quit, but not always it really depends.

A question for the men, for those of you that do not prefer anal sex do you feel less satisfied then those who have anal sex? I ask because in hetero relationships men would not be satisfied by just oral or masturbation, they need to stick it in to really feel fulfilled, on the flip side gay men have more sex and sex partners, does this make up for it?

by Anonymousreply 41109/04/2013

[quote]A question for the women: if something strikes you as hilariously funny, has it ever made you pee your pants?

I went through 2 phases of this. First when I hit puberty and the second was just before menopause. Thankfully I outgrew both phases.

I do love the memories of my friends and I pissing ourselves laughing in junior high school days.

by Anonymousreply 41209/04/2013

Never have peed my pants.

Never have had issues with being premenstrual, except for being extra-hungry and craving red meat, B-vitamins, and carbs.

Believe many myths men have about females are just exaggerated stories and jokes.

by Anonymousreply 41309/04/2013

r407 Where to begin? Feet are incredibly erotic, whether bare or lovingly encased in some almost-nothing-there footwear: sandals, flipflops, etc. I have always had very large feet(currently 16EEE) and I don't know if that had/has anything to do with my fondness for feet. I DO prefer well-groomed feet, smooth, soft, supple, fleshy(boing!) with well-trimmed nails. Summertime makes me nuts, love looking down at all the handsome feet I see, and wondering what it'd be like to hook up with their owners. The most sensual a man can be, for me, is wearing jeans and sandals/flipflops, nothing else. Kissing, licking, sniffing, mouthing, caressing feet puts me in a heightened state of pleasure. Damn shame most men don't even want their feet touched, let alone talked about. Footies are very much looked down on, IMHO-no pun intended. I enjoy one-sided footplay, but mutual is much more preferred. Having a guy cum on my feet, especially after making a "sandwich" with his dick between my soles, is one of the most erotic pleasures I can imagine. Ladies: Have any of you married a man who you thought was straight, but was in reality gay? Who knew it at the time, yet married you just the same.

by Anonymousreply 41409/04/2013

[quote]Why would a lesbian get a period? I don't get it.

Wtf? Why WOULDN'T a lesbian get a period?

What, you think women DECIDE to have our periods, and so lesbians can just turn theirs off?

I'm trying not to be judgemental, but wtf!

by Anonymousreply 41509/07/2013

If I want to hold off cumming, R16, R21, I relax my butt muscles. Otherwise I have to pause. That's for fucking. For JO I apply pressure on my taint as I'm cumming and that makes me good for another round. But usually my JO are to get me there and not so much to extend it.

by Anonymousreply 41609/07/2013

R405: I'm uncut and always pull back my foreskin to pee. Maybe not all the way. Otherwise it's messy and the pee stream cannot be directed.

by Anonymousreply 41709/07/2013

R415 I think that person was referring to reproductive evolution.

by Anonymousreply 41909/08/2013

The dick rests on the scrotum, gentle reader R338, when it is, um, at rest. The vale in the scrotal sac caused by the pendulant testicles hanging side by side creates the nestling nook. The hairs on the scrotum prevent it from getting sticky in this warm arrangement as anyone who has shaved his balls will tell you.

by Anonymousreply 42009/08/2013

To lesbians, have you ever made your partner squirt? If yes, did you taste it? What did it taste like?

by Anonymousreply 42109/08/2013

Nutjob alert@R422. Psycho thinks he's a doctor. Quick, get the Rx and restraints.

by Anonymousreply 42309/17/2013

[quote]Why would a lesbian get a period? I don't get it.

This is like asking why a gay man would produce semen, since he doesn't need it for reproduction.

by Anonymousreply 42409/17/2013

[quote]The female orgasm does not exist. It is a myth invented by jealous fantasy writers like Judy Blume and Gloria Steinam.

Along with everything else that's idiotic about this statement, do you really think female orgasms were never acknowledged or discussed in writing prior to the 1970s?

by Anonymousreply 42509/17/2013

R422, if you're a man, you don't know shit about women's bodies. If you're a woman who has never had an orgasm, you're doing it wrong. Either way you're a moron.

by Anonymousreply 42609/17/2013

R422, well played. I laughed.

R421, I have never made my partners squirt. I granted, I haven't had that many. Just judging anecdotally, I think it's like an anal-only orgasm for men - it happens, but it's pretty rare, and not everyone can do it.

by Anonymousreply 42709/17/2013

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