This is absolutely not a trolling thread. I'm in a genuine dilemma with a friend of mine.
He has very bad mental health, attention deficit disorder. He's forever starting projects and then abandoning them. He's meant to have been writing several non-fiction books for goodness how many years and they never get finished, that's if they ever get started in the first place. He posts constantly on social media about the latest thing he's working on, which invariably comes to nothing before something new catches his eye instead.
He's always been bisexual, and I've known he's had relationships with men and women.
Now of course I don't know what is going on inside his head but in the last year he's declared he's a "demi boy", then a "demi girl" and now he's "failed as a man" and wants to transition in his mid-40s.
I can just see this is heading for a huge car crash - if anyone was ever going to regret going down this path it's him. I can't believe for one second that this is going to make him any happier. As I say, I can't know what is really going on inside his head so I'm questioning if I need to intervene or try to talk him out of it or just leave well alone. But it really feels like he's latched on to declaring he's trans as just the latest diversion in trying to 'fix' himself.
He's already set up a go-fund-me to start treatment early next year (which mercifully few people have contributed to).
If it does make him happy then all power to him...but there are so many red flags I just think he's going to fuck himself up even more.