When was the las time you got laid?

Mind yo business, OP.

And the last two options seem redundant.

Tonight!

It’s been over a year. I’m becoming a lot more choosy as I get older and also I changed jobs and no longer come into contact with a lot of different men on a day to day basis. I used to hook up with any guy who crossed my path and was passably hot but I’ve turned down the last few guys because I want to fuck somebody with more substance.

This is one poll that really needed that slut Vivian Vance as an option.

[QUOTE] I used to hook up with any guy who crossed my path and was passably hot but I’ve turned down the last few guys because I want to fuck somebody with more substance.

Gained some weight have we, dear?

So according to that poll over half the respondents haven't been laid in over a year. Now I understand the welcome acceptance of some bullshit thread about "Gay Bowel Syndrome". when I first started posting. The heterosexist establishment has done a real number on y'all.

You queens are fools. Hit a tearoom at least and get some action. Hahaha.

JFC what happened to our proud legacy of wanton promiscuity?

Before the pandemic. It was a mistake to give it up. Now I'm 60 and my fuckbuddies have forgotten me and I've lost my mojo.My dance card was full when I turned 50 and then it tragically dwindled down to about 6 reliables, pre-pandemic. Getting old isn't for wussies.

Pre-COVID. I want to say 2019.

I have a couple of long-term fuck buddies, and I could have gotten laid if I wanted. But the pandemic changed me in some ways.

I currently fancy a colleague, but he is partnered.

R7, what are you talking about with "heterosexist establishment"? Have you not noticed that many DLers are old? Do you think old heteros are getting laid more often? I don't know why you need to make this about gay victimhood.

Sexual activity slows down as we age, and for many people of all sexual orientations, it stops altogether after 60, especially for single people who no longer want to be bothered with hookups or dating. That's normal. "Wanton promiscuity" is for the young.

You one day and 'one week' gals are whores, darlin'. (I'm only kidding, but am I? hmm)

Been nearly a year since I lost my virginity and honestly, after the few times I've had sex since then, I'm not very interested to continue. Sex truly is overrated.

Twice tonight. :)

Let’s hear from the over 10 years crowd.

[quote] what are you talking about with "heterosexist establishment"?

I'm talking about the majority society which called HIV "The Gay Plague", and propels even Datalounge to post threads about some "Gay Bowel Syndrome" which gets 20 likes from dumb queens. I'm talking about the society which insists we all marry and ape heterosexual monogamy and sexual exclusivity.

Sex is a normal part of life for almost everyone even into old age. And men without females don't need all the hoopla or even "love" just to fuck. It's the male nature to have sex with many and varied partners. That's driven by evolution.

[quote]Have you not noticed that many DLers are old?

r10 I have no reason to believe that. I was told about Datalounge by a twink. Lol.

So far, 30% haven’t had sex in over a decade. That explains so, so much.

So saf, so many unfuckables who haven't had it in over a decade

R16 don’t scare them away. I want to know why someone hasn’t had sex in that long. Very interesting to me.

Or even 5 years.

From the distaff side, I lost my sex drive completely after menopause, and having just come out of a bad relationship (with a gorgeous Brazillian and hot sex galore), I was not anxious to find another woman. Time marches on, and without a sex drive, lo and behold, I haven't had sex since 2008. I hardly ever masturbate, even -- maybe every 3-4 months or so.

I'm incredibly grateful for this development. When I was young, I got accused of "processing sexually like a man" (I answered, "Is that an insult or a compliment?") and I really was a pig, just like you guys. Many was the time I wished I were a gay man! You guys have it easy! It's really hard to get most lesbians into bed. The problem always was, with lesbians, the next day they want to marry you. Even when I told them ahead of time it was just for the night!

I was in four LTRs over the years, with all ending badly -- so I am very happy to report that I left the dyke drama behind many years ago. I don't miss the sex at all, but I'm happy I had as much of it as I did when I was young and really enjoyed it. But I see things a lot more clearly now that my pre-menopausal sex drive is no longer leading me to beautiful women I should have run from at the get go.

R17 between 16-25 I didn’t have sex because of severe mental health struggles and family issues. I had lost my virginity at 14 and was hooking up with one guy but he moved when I was 16. I was too stressed to think about being with somebody else.

R18, the solution is to fuck married women

The results on the last option is no shocker.

I'm a virgin.

R20, do the words "no sex drive" mean anything to you?

R23, sorry, what I meant to say was, the solution in your youth was to fuck married women so they wouldn’t want to move in with you afterwards.

Now the solution, apparently, is to be celibate

I haven’t had sex in so long, I’m waiting for my v-card to come in the mail.

I’ve apparently matured into a hot daddy, which is a bit of a surprise.

I also have a very suckable cock that still shoots big loads. So I’ve been making a lot of cocksuckers happy lately.

[quote]I'm talking about the majority society which called HIV "The Gay Plague", and propels even Datalounge to post threads about some "Gay Bowel Syndrome" which gets 20 likes from dumb queens.

But ... wasn't it? I mean, AIDS vastly disproportionately affected gay men and is spread by anal sex. Why are you in denial about the fact that sex practices unique to or much more common among gay men might have sexual consequences? Are you similar shocked to learn that STDs are more common among prostitutes or straight porn performers. I'm sure your heart is in the right place, but you're in denial about the reality of epidemiology.

[quote]Sex is a normal part of life for almost everyone even into old age.

Says who? Since when? Until Viagra et al., most men developed difficulties with achieving and maintaining erections by the time they were in their 60s. Sexual activity over 70 was regarded with some degree of awe. I don't think anyone before the 1960s though sex "was a normal part of life for almost everyone even into old age". That's a Sexual Revolution concept.

[quote]I'm talking about the society which insists we all marry and ape heterosexual monogamy and sexual exclusivity.

Most of the people advocating for that are gay men, not straight people. (Many are "do as I say, not as I do" couples who fool around on the side, openly or otherwise, but that's a different story.)

Op here was going to put virgin as one of the options but I didn’t want to use up the space because I didn’t think there would be any.

Would love to hear why you’re a virgin.

Also more from the sex-dormant posters.

From someone who can’t fathom the notion of being either.

This is interesting. Over 55% haven’t been laid in over six months.

That seems surprising to me.

I don’t put Vivian Vance or jokes into my polls because I don’t want it to be skewed.

Pre-Pandemic! And then just as I was easing up on my Covid behavior, monkey pox took over NY....

I have sex with myself many times a day...doesn't count, does it...

The Covid and Monkey pox stuff is really just an excuse at this point. Unless you’re seriously compromised but even then you can have sex and not with a high risk of getting Covid. Sometimes we need to hear these things. It comes from a place of caring and not judgement.

If there are other reasons I’m all ears.

I wonder if some of you need some encouragement from a friend or an ex who can hook you up with a safe date or maybe some of you need to just put some effort into it because 55% is way too much. Is that the norm? I don’t think so.

I think it’s all this tech that is prevent normal mating patterns and we need to break out of it an go back to meeting in person and going to work functions and traveling and socializing.

Getting laid the old fashioned way.

When I start back at the gym after not working out for a while I start to feel more aroused and get more focused on closing the deal. I think it’s related to working out some how.

[quote]When was the las time you got laid?

What century is this again?

We all need to hang up the caftans and put on our dancing shoes. A lot of the country is starting to get cold but we need to try to get to some warm places and loosen up a little. Maybe for a vacation.

The results of this thread poll have opened my eyes.

It’s nice to see that 30% are getting some monthly or more.

And that 20% is getting it weekly.

About a week ago. I hooked up with a guy I met through Scruff - went to his place and was pleasantly surprised when he opened the door - hot, bearded bear who looked like a construction worker - totally masculine, I actually thought maybe it was a set-up. He proceeded to deep throat me voraciously and then I ate his ass and he was moaning so loudly. I then fucked him so hard with all kinds of dirty talk. It was so hot!

They are really into the dirty talk these days. That was a bit of a niche thing at one point but it seems a bit more standard now to be more vocal.

Also you have to keep it moving. You have to keep it hot and fluid. Not too much stagnation nor doing the same thing for too long. I guess it’s the add. But you got to keep it moving.

R33, your sympathy is to your credit, but you are talking this poll way too seriously. First of all, it’s the Datalounge. The audience skews older, so naturally you’ll see less sex. Secondly, who answers polls like this? In most places, it will be the braggarts who may or may not really get laid 7 days a week, but here it will be the humble braggarts who show off their lack of sex.

Secondly, you are not reading the room. There are people here telling you they are quite satisfied with not having sex. You and the other “sex positive” people in the thread are like inveterate travelers. You just don’t get that some people are OK with not doing what you think is essential to life.

If you’re 55 and single and not interested in a hookup, so what? What, exactly, are you missing?

Getting laid is good for all sorts of things but it’s so relaxing and good for the body to release stress.

Last weekend. Wow it looks like 10+ years got the most votes. Maybe it's the elder of the elder gays?

How long ago was the Millard Fillmore administration?

[quote]Sexual activity slows down as we age, and for many people of all sexual orientations, it stops altogether after 60...

I would say, "You're fucking joking" but the numbers here are in your favor, not mine.

It's easy to think that the stereotypes of DL are from a noisy few, but not to judge by this poll. The Venn diagram showing overlap with 1.) old gay men who care for their ancient Mothers, and 2.) the gay men who are still at home afraid to step out in the world because of Covid, still with the package disinfection stations for everything ordered from Amazon, still with the double-masking and the constant application of alcohol-based gels, still happy separated from society and with an excuse to go nowhere and do nothing and forsake all risk forever.

I am 50 and my boyfriend is 64 and he still is horny every night. So not everybody slows down at 60.

Hopefully it’s not incels that had no choice but to choose 10+ because virgin was not an option.

So much wasted sock and hole. Just sitting there unused. I will concede on some ways it’s harder than ever to get laid but you have to know your place in the market and then try to maximize that. You can improve your position over time but knowing where you are at any one time is key.

Then you can narrow in on closing the deal. Don’t over think it. Just try to put yourself in the proximity to willing takers. Don’t close yourself off. And don’t create a digital wall. Cyber relations are no substitute.

If you do t want to have sex though then more power to you. That’s a different story. I can’t relate but do you.

I don't mind if I never get laid again. I have sufficient.

I’m really into natural bushes right now but not windy unkept but naturally modest bushes. And just the swag and confidence of my last few dates.

I was in a big city and they just have a different vibe and and dtf and know what do to and not to do. Then you go to small town and they all have no swag and makes you appreciate the city boys, With their headphones and train passes. They have a plan. They are busy but make time for sex. Always. They have a system for sex. They are ready and willing. And practiced.

My friend was all but celibate, hopelessly depressed but managed to snag this young stud for a long weekend (another long story). Well the kid had a bmw so my friend went out and got his haircut, went on a crash diet and traded in his own car for a brand new one..(not a beemer but expensive and flashy nonetheless.)

Ok so it didn’t work out with the weekend stud but my friend looks great and is getting dick left and right and has had a complete 180. Even I had to tell him that he has become an attractive catch and if we went friends I would not turn down a date myself.

But anyway it’s just good to see somebody stand up straighter and feel good about themselves after a long drought.

So don’t give up hope.

I would love to have sec with a virgin especially if they were a bit older and just needed the right person. I think I would be good at it.

I would go real slow at first but get a a tad bit naughty if they were up for it but really I guess that comes much later. You got to walk before you can run.

You have to watch it because a lot of these guys don’t really kiss anymore or not at least the first time. They will suck your dick and ride you in the front seat but no kissing. I just wait to see if they kiss me first then I then go for it. I can take it or leave it. Especially with this and that going around.

The car helps by the way. 50 % of his tricks come from striking up car talk.

Nixon had just been impeached.

When I don’t have sex my dick hangs real long and fat and and it’s hard to hide after a day or two and it sticks to my leg. I don’t know how anyone can’t stand it. It makes my nuts ache.

Here's a study of the general population concerning sex among people over 65. It shows a wide range of activity and desire. It's not all unusual to be sexually active over 65, but neither is it unusual not to be sexually active or not want to be sexually active.

It's a mistake to assume that not wanting sex means not being horny. Some people are satisfied to have a wank and get back to whatever else they'd rather be doing than the eternal chase. (The situation is different for those with partners, and I'll bet most of the "no sex for a long time" responders are single.)

Another mistake is to assume that older men who aren't having sex now are some sort of "incel" - a phrase that makes no sense for an old man - or are nearly virginal. Quite a few old guys who now can take or leave, and mostly leave, sex had pretty wild sex lives when they were young. Maybe they just don't want to bother anymore.

^^^ Oops, forgot the link.

…cumming as I type this…

This Poll indicates 8% of DLers are whores and 15% are sluts. That's ridiculously low. Some of you are lying.

About 10:00 last night and then I had to make him a sandwich. Peanut butter and banana.

[quote]JFC what happened to our proud legacy of wanton promiscuity?

R7 I'm doing my best to maintain it, last sex was this afternoon, but I clicked next option "between a day and a week" by accident

I dont drink, smoke or do drugs. But I like to fuck

Literally never in all my 30 years. But I'm depressive and reclusive and a weird lazy asocial girl who needs my space and already has to content with needy selfish boring family, so.

I always think this about people in serial relationships or who spend a lot of time fucking and chasing down sex/dates; how do you ever get anything done that you actually want to do, or find time to destress, when you’re balancing working 40 hours a week and then spending another 30+ dealing with or taking care of other people? I need like seven hours a day to be alone and do nothing, or I go fucking apeshit (why I'm only employed parttime). The thought of having to find, schedule, prep for and then execute even a quick hookup sounds like a high-stress crisis situation to me. No fucking thanks. I'll just read my books and sleep in and try to eke a little fucking private dreamworld happiness out of this life.