Hooking up with a personal trainer

[quote]He is a really good trainer, I would like to keep working with him.

Then don't shit where you eat. It's such a simple and solid bit of wisdom, yet people keep ignoring it constantly.

Keep your paws off him, you lech. He's doing a job.

Personal trainers flirt for the same reason bartenders do. Don't be an idiot, OP, he's not into you. It's his job.

Why not? Stop thinking too much. Enjoy.

Mine is the opposite. He won’t even touch me. He is like a mime/contortionists in his efforts to avoid contact while still explaining for positioning.

Just show me already! Place me/my limbs in that position and I will memorize it.

But otherwise he is an excellent trainer.

R4 Why not? See R1 and R3. 🙄

You don’t know his situation. OP, go for whatever you feel. Report back.

BILL TAYLOR have you not learnt your lesson!

What R3 said, he wants you to continue using his services plus recommending him to others. It’s business and only business.

"There is a bit of an age difference." You don't say who is older but I'm guessing you are. As R3 says, he's flirting with you just enough to keep you coming back. Do not follow through..

I hooked up with mine. It happens.

R11 Fun fantasy, but untrue

OP, you were so bored, you copied this fantasy from another thread? Weird.

Not if you want to continue training with him.

How many other elder care trainers have you made bestest friends with, Poppa?

No OP.

Your 20 something personal trainer is not interested in little 'ol 50 something you.

Of course, he's going to flirt with you. It's good for business.

Probably flirts with everybody, it doesn't mean he wants YOU.

What r3 said. Personal trainer, a waiter, a bartender. They all night be friendly and flirtatious. They are trying to make money off you.

Are you actually hot? Be honest, you would know whether you are the type of person your trainer actually wants to sleep with.

That said, it isn't rare for someone to be both a trainer and a escort. But that's paying them, not for free.

Thanks Boys, I appreciate the advice. I really like him as a trainer (he is rough on me and gets me results) and I do enjoy his sunny personality. So I won’t spoil it. I don’t have delusions that he could become a BF. But inviting him to a party I throw is OK, no?

OP / R19 I befriended my trainer years ago and we've become friends. Initially, sure, I found him attractive (never told him this). Over time though, my attraction to him has faded since I see him as nothing more than a good friend. Even back in the early days with him 15+ years ago, if there were the remote chance that we could have hooked up (there wasn't), I would have viewed it as an "either/or" situation: What do I want more -- to have sex with him, or to keep training with him. This is your situation. Assume it's a binary choice. If you want to keep training with him, enjoy the flirting and know that it's just that, friendly flirting that he probably does with all his clients. Let him help you get into fantastic shape, then go out and score some dick the good old fashioned way. Good luck.

Honestly, I wouldn't invite him to a party, either. You wouldn't invite your plumber or your dentist to a party, correct? These people work for you in a sense, and you don't want them to feel an obligation to do extra things for you, even in truth you wouldn't "punish" them in any way for declining. If you become friends after you are through using his services, then it's totally fine.

"But inviting him to a party I throw is OK, no? "

Your atrocious writing skills indicate that he wouldn't be interested in that.

Is ok no

The personal trainer would have a sense of 'professional boundaries' with clients and would not attend any even with any client. Slippery slope and obligations start to impose. He would only attend an event with a client for personal gain and networking and nothing to do with liking the client.

You already know it’d be a mistake to make any moves on him. You have a brilliant opportunity to accept flirtatious attention and work out to stay healthy. Don’t fuck it up.

-10/10

If it is a gay gym he might escort as well. Check the local sites.

OP, he sounds hot. The holding and stretching. You sound hot. DO IT. He's into you. Go for it. Life is short. Maybe you can teach each other new positions.

I've had sex with a AAA tow truck driver -- we were both having bad days that suddenly got better, and my radiologist, who at one point shoved a barium enema up my ass (we had a date on a different day, months later. It led to a long relationship that ended over a drunken political argument, but was more about his controlling mother). No regrets.

R27 No, my mother was not controlling. She loved me and just wanted the best.

Why do you need a trainer for 15 years?

Do people have trainers that long?

Look at the prissy pants on Miss Prissy Pants @r1. Having hot man-to-man sex is hardly "shitting" unless you're doing it wrong. Personal trainers are easily replaced; it's not like OP is trying to fuck a co-worker. Time to unclench that string of fake pearls you're wearing.

R30 Get help

Are you that desperate for sex r30? Finding sex is a lot easier than finding a good personal trainer that you mesh with.

Lord. If you can't fuck your personal trainer, who can you fuck?

No, R29. I have not been continuously training with my trainer for 15+ years. I first started with him 15+ years ago, have returned off & on over the years for specific goals, but the friendship has been continuous once that came about. Are you relieved now? 🙄

I want to workout when I'm at the gym, which is why my personal trainer is a butch lumberjack lesbian for obvious reasons. I want no part of anything she's packing.

Lol r35

Update

What would Prudie say?

I like going to gyms with hot trainers and personal. Gymspiration Matters

R37 The update is: You're still an idiot.