What are some inconsiderate things, major or minor, that your friends have done to really make you stop and consider of the relationship should continue?
I have a friend that has on two occasions left me high and dry at events he’s invited me too.
First event was a pop up bar. He said be there at 6:30( (little early) for drinks, he’ll be there with 2-3 acquaintances he’s introduced me to before. Lovely guys but just a friend of a friend with ion form my POV. I’m alway late but decided to be on time since it’s a personal invite. Took an uber, looked cute, still running 10min behind. Get there and the bar is dead, with no sign of my friend or his friends. I text my friend and he tells me, at 6:40 that he’s not feeling well and can’t make it. He also said his friends are having dinner first and he’s sorry he forgot to tell me. They’ll be there in half an hour. I’m out of the money for the Uber and have to finish a stupid “specialty” drink so I wait. Couldn’t even make it though half an hour of conversation with his friends because they and I all had nothing of note to talk about. So I respectfully left. There was literally silence for 5 minutes at one point. It was dreadful.
Second issue, same guy. He invited me to a friend’s home for a movie night. I’ve only met them once but my core friends were out of town and I figured I could use a change of pace. I agree to attend. My friend says to arrive at 7:30 pm. It’s been a few months so I let the first slight pass. I arrive early, grab a light dinner, bring alcohol, wonder the neighborhood to kill time, it’s a beautiful night. My friend text me that he’ll be there at 8. I ask why. He says he’s just always late. I tell him I’m arrive as your plus one and don’t know them so what should I do? I guess He tells me to just show up. I refuse and wait ti 5 min till 8 to arrive because that’s just awkward to me.
Now I’m not in elementary school, I can handle new people and places but all of this instances make it crystal clear that my friend is too inconsiderate. And I feel like a fool for putting in so much effort. It sounds crazy but his lack of consideration annoyed me enough to reconsider if I want to really be associate with this person.
What are your experiences?