I have bravely survived cancer, but I am going through a severe mental health crisis right now.

We all have our troubles, don’t we?

Bitte, hoits doch afoch zamm.

Fuck off.

R2 You should write in English, so that all DLers know what a horrible Mensch you are.

Und du solltest afoch de Pappn hoidn, du wandelnder Kropf.

have you tried seeking any help besides here on DL where you know you won't get any?

I would choose "and" not "but" as the conjunction.

You will get through this. There are people that know how strong you are.

We’ll, I don’t want to upset you further, but according to the DL homepage, Ann He he has died.

Good move, G3, this is where I come for all my mental health needs. You probably don’t have any stuff, so…

We on DL can help you locate a tall building OP.

[quote] You probably don’t have any stuff

ARE U SHITTING US?!!!

NO STUFF?!!

WHAT - IS - HIS - POINT?!!!!!

Is he one those crazed Huns with shattered glass blue eyes who renounce all their worldly goods and start communes in the jungle of South America?!!

And what is it Germany and cancer? The place is RIDDLED. Is it all those Mercedes emissions?

R12 You seem more unhinged than even OP.

OP, I'm sorry. Cancer sucks and can do a number on your mental health. It's very isolating, even if you have friends/family to help. My advice is to look into some mediations to do. I'm sure there are many online. Helped me tremendously.

Meditations.

Understandable after all you’ve been through, GGG. Keeping you in my thoughts.

I do have a 20-25 cm scar across my body, I have lost one testicle, I probably will never be able to ejaculate again and the doctor said that the swelling of my body could only subside in a year, but it could also be permanent.

I feel worse than when I got diagnosed or when I received cancer treatment. If you have permanent damage, then what is the point of surviving cancer.

I will probably not go on holiday at all, because I can't enjoy it anyway and I need to wear those thrombosis stockings. I almost felt healthier than when I had cancer. I thought it would end with the operation, but it didn't. I thought I could start dating or meet some guys, but gay men are the shallowest group there is, so nobody will want me. I also don't want to have sex when I look like this.

[quote]Thankfully I am not living in a high-rise building.

Being German, surely you have an oven.

You seem very needy, GGG.

I will probably go into a clinic soon.

Into the nuthouse, just like Neely O'Hara.

I need some compassion from Dataloungers.

You should talk to an oncology support group and counselor. Your doctor’s office or hospital can help you with that. Cancer is a terrible experience, and you need meaningful support.

[quote]I need some compassion from Dataloungers.

Send me your address and I'll ship you some Heavy-Duty Easy Off. God only knows what you've been baking in your oven.

[Quote] I also don't want to have sex when I look like this.

Beauty is on the inside, GGG.

Oh, wait...

Be nice!

Can we get back to talking about me? My problems are WAY WORSE!

Miss, with all due respect, I have my own problems.

[quote]I need some compassion from Dataloungers.

No, you don’t. What you need would be in the real world.

OP, you have value. Not sure how old you are but you are still here and kicking. Maybe it's time to stop worrying about potential partners and just find your passions now. Take a creative writing class, an art class, music lessons, martial arts...anything to enrich your life beyond thinking your dick is your only value. I'm sure you have friends. Let them know that you are struggling. Be gentle with yourself. Learn how to meditate and maybe take a yoga class to keep your body moving.

I say this as a cancer survivor. I was terrified of the treatment for a lot of the same reasons and I have some swelling in my body from all I've been through but you know what? I've never been more grateful to be alive than I am now. We all have worth and you do too.

^^ What she said.

R30 OP is a deeply boring and criminally unfunny invented persona.

Do we still think GGG and Defacto are the same person?

OP /R4, etc. making up stupid stories is even worse. So ein Misthaufen.

With all due respect, Miss, I have troubles of my own.

(and I would say that to a real poster as well.)

GGG isn’t real?

I feel duped!

What kind of cancer did you have? Mine wasn't that bad. Over in 6 weeks.

Consider the opposite of surviving cancer, it will make every minute seem great. Quit wallowing in self pity. Thats the best advice i got.

DO NOT post during schizo breaks or either end of the bipolar swoop.

I know medication is right for everyone, but getting my medication for depression/anxiety right has helped me get to a good place in life. Nothing is perfect. I have my days. But I'm doing fine. I hope you get there soon. You will.

Keep your head up OP.

Take solace in the fact that you're not a German gay guy continually typing in German on multiple threads in an English-geared forum. That guy doesn't seem like he's all there. But, you are. And, you're a survivor.

R40 here. Isn't right.

I am real!

You're not good or real. You're evil and imaginary.

We love you GGG, please get up!

You could be Anne Heche.

Oh my! I feel so bad for you.

Are you still alive?

Fuck you defacto, for getting our hopes up that you had cancer.

[quote] Do we still think GGG and Defacto are the same person?

We know it

GGG, I haven't seen you on here in quite some time. I am glad to hear you're still with us, yet I'm gutted to hear about your health issues. You've always been a delightful member of this group of catty gays and I only wish you the best. Be sure to seek professional mental assistance and don't hesitate to call a friend or even a hotline if the darkness is overtaking you.

You're a beating heart, a human being with love, decency, and memories as the rest of us. As we are. Your scars may limit what you can do intimately, and perhaps disable you, but your mind and spirit appear intact and in good form.

My dad, in his early 60s, has already gone extensive cancer treatment. He maintains stability, but so much of him has done. He told me many times during his treatment "dying is better." Of course, I was going through Hurricane Ida with my parents. Cancer really changes someone and tests their inner strength. Be stronger than my hesitant parents and seek help.

Therapists are a crap shoot: either they are something so valuable and meaningful, who give you tools to spoon you out of the darkness, or they are literally a hired friend. If that happens to you, a hired friend, don't hesitate, and be sure to find another therapist who might actually give you the assistance you may need.

One thing I have learned in my personal grievances regarding my previous partner is that LGBT+ bereavement is something not spoken of yet. It is a true controversy and the psychiatric world does not know how to go around it yet. Take care of yourself.

WHET Pornchick and Cinesnatch?

Just change your name to German One Nut (GON) or change your date of birth so you’re not a Cancer. Try Libra maybe?