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Are some people just natural bottoms?

For me Anal has never hurt, My first time was with a pretty well-endwed guy and I kept waiting for the pain but all I wanted was him to go deeper. He told me I had the perfect hole, which I assumed was just BS, but he called me up for years as FwB. I soon learned he was right. Every top would tell me how tight I was, how good it felt and would never last as long as they claimed. The other thing is I tend to eat a clean diet and don't have problems with "being ready" so to speak. I'm not a total bottom and can flip if the mood is right but nine times out of ten I am. Is anyone else just a natural at it?

by Anonymousreply 46June 22, 2022 12:49 PM

OP- Yes. Just like there are some people - especially on the datalounge- that are naturally BITCHY.

by Anonymousreply 1May 19, 2022 2:51 PM

You're a natural OCD. Miss your medications, OP?

by Anonymousreply 2May 19, 2022 2:59 PM

I don't understand how this is possible, honestly.

The anal passage is designed to be tight...not to welcome entry from the other direction.

Did you "train" before your first time, with dildos or something?

I just can't picture it not being painful the first few times.

by Anonymousreply 3May 19, 2022 3:03 PM

It wasn't painful for me either and the first few guys I was with were huge. The first time it was uncomfortable was with a guy with about 4.5 who had trouble getting it in.

by Anonymousreply 4May 19, 2022 4:52 PM

r3 never. Honestly, my first time the guy was like "are you okay?" because I was not crying out in pain and it went in nice and easy. He kept doubting I was a virgin lol.

by Anonymousreply 5May 22, 2022 3:07 PM

OP is a slut!

by Anonymousreply 6May 22, 2022 3:18 PM

The pain is only during the first entry anyway. If you don't do it right in the beginning, then yes, the pain can be excruciating. But once the asshole relaxes, it can take a good pounding without any discomfort or pain. Lube's a must though.

by Anonymousreply 7May 22, 2022 3:20 PM

OP, some people are just born with bottomless holes.

by Anonymousreply 8May 22, 2022 5:29 PM

Well OP, hot dogs do go down hallways without any resistance.

by Anonymousreply 9May 22, 2022 5:35 PM

R3, that's bullshit about the anus being a one-way muscle. Total homophobe BS.

by Anonymousreply 10May 22, 2022 5:50 PM

Dad, get off the computer.

by Anonymousreply 11May 22, 2022 6:23 PM

R10 You seem unnecessarily angry about that comment

by Anonymousreply 12May 22, 2022 6:25 PM

🎵Before the day I bottomed,

I worried it would be unkind,

But then I learn the powers of my behind,

'cuz I learned that I--

I learned that I--

I learned that I am a nat-u-ral bottom🎵

by Anonymousreply 13May 22, 2022 7:19 PM

I don’t know WHAT you are speaking about! The very idea!

by Anonymousreply 14May 22, 2022 7:22 PM

Proud Bottoms UNITE!

by Anonymousreply 15May 22, 2022 7:27 PM

I haven’t bottomed too often, not because of pain, but because I generally don’t enjoy it overall — However, the few times I have really enjoyed it there wasn’t any pain either. The tops I have enjoyed have ranged from very skillful to more average (in my admittedly limited opinion) but the one thing they all had in common was they were beyond extremely attractive to me - I wanted not only sex with them, but very much for them to fuck me.

So I know the mental component for me is paramount - I need to be incredibly turned on in a few specific ways for bottoming to work. The range of guys who I’m turned on enough to want to top, or just have some fun in bed with is much, much wider than that.

by Anonymousreply 16May 22, 2022 7:32 PM

OP sits on and swallows fire hydrants when he's bored so keep that in mind.

by Anonymousreply 17May 22, 2022 7:34 PM

All the 'clean diet' trolls I have ever met were filthy. Douche or forget it.

However there are a lot of natural bottoms. It is a good thing.

by Anonymousreply 18May 22, 2022 7:38 PM

I’ve enjoyed it with a few guys. However, I’ve had some really bad experiences. Girth is the issue. That’s when it really hurts for me. I was really shocked when I finally enjoyed it. I realized it depends on the dick and how horny I am. Two times I didn’t use lube. Somehow the guy triggered my mucus gland with his dick and I was ready to go. Still though, lube can really make anal feel good. Having a hairy hole doesn’t hurt as friction can cause the hair to be pulled. Ouch!

by Anonymousreply 19May 22, 2022 7:40 PM

This thread is useless without pics.

by Anonymousreply 20May 22, 2022 8:10 PM

Agreed, R20

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by Anonymousreply 21May 22, 2022 8:39 PM

[quote]I just can't picture it not being painful the first few times.

Ironically it's only painful if the guy's dick is skinny (sharp). If it's thick (round) then it doesn't hurt at all; it's all pleasure.

by Anonymousreply 22May 22, 2022 11:17 PM

OP, you're a whore and you're not especially darlin'.

by Anonymousreply 23May 22, 2022 11:24 PM

I'm not oriented that way so much, but there are guys who have me singing, "You make me feel like a nat. ur. al. bottommmmm."

by Anonymousreply 24May 22, 2022 11:31 PM

The Op is a deluded bottom tranny! Your hole aint special it’s shitty and the guys who have fucked it would fuck any random hole!

by Anonymousreply 25May 22, 2022 11:35 PM

OP baby, you sound sexy...tell me more about your tight pink hole

by Anonymousreply 26May 22, 2022 11:42 PM

OP's hole is neither pink nor tight. And there's no way he's "flip fucking" with that puny cocklet.

by Anonymousreply 27May 23, 2022 6:53 AM

Pink?! Are holes supposed to be pink?

by Anonymousreply 28May 23, 2022 6:55 AM

Nothing less than 9 thick inches is allowed entrance to our Gates of Paradise!

by Anonymousreply 29May 23, 2022 7:04 AM

OP: that means you’re a natural at breath control and muscle relaxation.

I bet you’re very good at things like stretching, yoga [if you did it], qigong et al

by Anonymousreply 30May 23, 2022 7:37 AM

There are definitely natural bottoms just as there are natural tops, although with a bit of practice guys can get better at either role. However, there are also some natural anti-bottoms - guys whose internal geometry is simply inhospitable for the typical shape/size of a dick, which makes it uncomfortable/painful for both the top and the bottom - and some guys just don't have a sensitive enough prostate to experience pleasure through bottoming.

There are what I would call anti-tops as well, men who in theory would like to top but when it comes down to it they can't maintain an erection.

by Anonymousreply 31May 23, 2022 9:14 AM

Yes, some people are bottoms and should just embrace that instead of trying to top. Leave topping to the tops.

by Anonymousreply 32May 23, 2022 4:46 PM

r23 such vitriol. I am quite happy with the size of my dick. Just prefer to bottom. Not sure why that is a problem.

by Anonymousreply 33May 24, 2022 1:33 PM

"Natural" bottoms/tops, mucus gland "triggering".....too much science for me there.

by Anonymousreply 34May 24, 2022 2:29 PM

Tell me about this clean diet

by Anonymousreply 35May 24, 2022 2:34 PM

My husband is very well endowed and we have been fucking at least a few times a month for almost twenty years. Somehow my hole is still as tight as it was twenty years ago. Not sure how or why. I don’t do any exercises or anything to keep it that way; it just snaps back.

by Anonymousreply 36May 24, 2022 2:37 PM

r35 google eating clean. There are about 20 books on it.

by Anonymousreply 37May 24, 2022 2:38 PM

r36 same here. Maybe just great muscle control.

by Anonymousreply 38May 24, 2022 2:40 PM

I’m a 90% top, but the couple times I bottomed were for boyfriends with huge dicks. 8+ inches. And twice I came handsfeee from bottoming and then had the all over body quakes that lasted about half an hour. I’ve been chasing that dragon for 30 years.

Most guys I’m with don’t want to top and I’m not into letting a rando off the internet fuck me.

In general, I like shorty Latino guys that are about 5’9” and they’re always bottoms so I’m always the top. But man, what I wouldn’t do to hook up with one of my boyfriends from my 20s that knew what they were doing. But they’re all old and married now.

by Anonymousreply 39May 24, 2022 2:52 PM

My favourite Aretha song, but, personally, I favour the Aaron Tveit cover.

by Anonymousreply 40May 24, 2022 3:59 PM

Sex is dirty!

by Anonymousreply 41May 24, 2022 4:07 PM

Yes, I'd say I'm a natural bottom.

by Anonymousreply 42June 22, 2022 11:53 AM

psychological question here: But I've wondered why some huge musclebound quote "masculine" men who are gay CRAVE being bottoms? Even when the top is half their size? Why is this? Do they crave being "submissive" in the bedroom when they are in charge everywhere else in life due to their size and strength? Is it inherent behavior somehow or learned?...Is it a form of wanting to please their lover and knowing their lover would get a "kick out of it" by taking and conquering them?

I find it hotter than hot in porn to see this, I just wonder what is the psyche of a big powerful "straight looking/acting" man who bottoms..

by Anonymousreply 43June 22, 2022 12:00 PM

I love reading these but I’m having slut envy. I can’t get past the pain.

by Anonymousreply 44June 22, 2022 12:06 PM

I don't care about the psychology behind it R43, I just love that so many very muscular/masculine men are absolute bottoms. The biggest guys I've known in real life, some of whom were also well-hung enough to be 'pigeon-holed' as tops, were the most voracious bottoms. I don't question why, I just enjoy.

by Anonymousreply 45June 22, 2022 12:43 PM

Me too R44

by Anonymousreply 46June 22, 2022 12:49 PM
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