Are some people just natural bottoms?

OP- Yes. Just like there are some people - especially on the datalounge- that are naturally BITCHY.

You're a natural OCD. Miss your medications, OP?

I don't understand how this is possible, honestly.

The anal passage is designed to be tight...not to welcome entry from the other direction.

Did you "train" before your first time, with dildos or something?

I just can't picture it not being painful the first few times.

It wasn't painful for me either and the first few guys I was with were huge. The first time it was uncomfortable was with a guy with about 4.5 who had trouble getting it in.

r3 never. Honestly, my first time the guy was like "are you okay?" because I was not crying out in pain and it went in nice and easy. He kept doubting I was a virgin lol.

OP is a slut!

The pain is only during the first entry anyway. If you don't do it right in the beginning, then yes, the pain can be excruciating. But once the asshole relaxes, it can take a good pounding without any discomfort or pain. Lube's a must though.

OP, some people are just born with bottomless holes.

Well OP, hot dogs do go down hallways without any resistance.

R3, that's bullshit about the anus being a one-way muscle. Total homophobe BS.

Dad, get off the computer.

R10 You seem unnecessarily angry about that comment

🎵Before the day I bottomed,

I worried it would be unkind,

But then I learn the powers of my behind,

'cuz I learned that I--

I learned that I--

I learned that I am a nat-u-ral bottom🎵

I don’t know WHAT you are speaking about! The very idea!

Proud Bottoms UNITE!

I haven’t bottomed too often, not because of pain, but because I generally don’t enjoy it overall — However, the few times I have really enjoyed it there wasn’t any pain either. The tops I have enjoyed have ranged from very skillful to more average (in my admittedly limited opinion) but the one thing they all had in common was they were beyond extremely attractive to me - I wanted not only sex with them, but very much for them to fuck me.

So I know the mental component for me is paramount - I need to be incredibly turned on in a few specific ways for bottoming to work. The range of guys who I’m turned on enough to want to top, or just have some fun in bed with is much, much wider than that.

OP sits on and swallows fire hydrants when he's bored so keep that in mind.

All the 'clean diet' trolls I have ever met were filthy. Douche or forget it.

However there are a lot of natural bottoms. It is a good thing.

I’ve enjoyed it with a few guys. However, I’ve had some really bad experiences. Girth is the issue. That’s when it really hurts for me. I was really shocked when I finally enjoyed it. I realized it depends on the dick and how horny I am. Two times I didn’t use lube. Somehow the guy triggered my mucus gland with his dick and I was ready to go. Still though, lube can really make anal feel good. Having a hairy hole doesn’t hurt as friction can cause the hair to be pulled. Ouch!

This thread is useless without pics.

Agreed, R20

[quote]I just can't picture it not being painful the first few times.

Ironically it's only painful if the guy's dick is skinny (sharp). If it's thick (round) then it doesn't hurt at all; it's all pleasure.

OP, you're a whore and you're not especially darlin'.

I'm not oriented that way so much, but there are guys who have me singing, "You make me feel like a nat. ur. al. bottommmmm."

The Op is a deluded bottom tranny! Your hole aint special it’s shitty and the guys who have fucked it would fuck any random hole!

OP baby, you sound sexy...tell me more about your tight pink hole

OP's hole is neither pink nor tight. And there's no way he's "flip fucking" with that puny cocklet.

Pink?! Are holes supposed to be pink?

Nothing less than 9 thick inches is allowed entrance to our Gates of Paradise!

OP: that means you’re a natural at breath control and muscle relaxation.

I bet you’re very good at things like stretching, yoga [if you did it], qigong et al

There are definitely natural bottoms just as there are natural tops, although with a bit of practice guys can get better at either role. However, there are also some natural anti-bottoms - guys whose internal geometry is simply inhospitable for the typical shape/size of a dick, which makes it uncomfortable/painful for both the top and the bottom - and some guys just don't have a sensitive enough prostate to experience pleasure through bottoming.

There are what I would call anti-tops as well, men who in theory would like to top but when it comes down to it they can't maintain an erection.

Yes, some people are bottoms and should just embrace that instead of trying to top. Leave topping to the tops.

r23 such vitriol. I am quite happy with the size of my dick. Just prefer to bottom. Not sure why that is a problem.

"Natural" bottoms/tops, mucus gland "triggering".....too much science for me there.

Tell me about this clean diet

My husband is very well endowed and we have been fucking at least a few times a month for almost twenty years. Somehow my hole is still as tight as it was twenty years ago. Not sure how or why. I don’t do any exercises or anything to keep it that way; it just snaps back.

r35 google eating clean. There are about 20 books on it.

r36 same here. Maybe just great muscle control.

I’m a 90% top, but the couple times I bottomed were for boyfriends with huge dicks. 8+ inches. And twice I came handsfeee from bottoming and then had the all over body quakes that lasted about half an hour. I’ve been chasing that dragon for 30 years.

Most guys I’m with don’t want to top and I’m not into letting a rando off the internet fuck me.

In general, I like shorty Latino guys that are about 5’9” and they’re always bottoms so I’m always the top. But man, what I wouldn’t do to hook up with one of my boyfriends from my 20s that knew what they were doing. But they’re all old and married now.

My favourite Aretha song, but, personally, I favour the Aaron Tveit cover.

Sex is dirty!

Yes, I'd say I'm a natural bottom.

psychological question here: But I've wondered why some huge musclebound quote "masculine" men who are gay CRAVE being bottoms? Even when the top is half their size? Why is this? Do they crave being "submissive" in the bedroom when they are in charge everywhere else in life due to their size and strength? Is it inherent behavior somehow or learned?...Is it a form of wanting to please their lover and knowing their lover would get a "kick out of it" by taking and conquering them?

I find it hotter than hot in porn to see this, I just wonder what is the psyche of a big powerful "straight looking/acting" man who bottoms..

I love reading these but I’m having slut envy. I can’t get past the pain.

I don't care about the psychology behind it R43, I just love that so many very muscular/masculine men are absolute bottoms. The biggest guys I've known in real life, some of whom were also well-hung enough to be 'pigeon-holed' as tops, were the most voracious bottoms. I don't question why, I just enjoy.

Me too R44

any advice for first time anal?

I am!!!

My bottoming haiku:

Take it slow to start,

Lubrication is a must,

Relax and it’s in.

Yeah, R47, you have to force that part of your body to relax. And avoid skinny long dick. It's the most painful and dangerous.

Do some exits become entrances?

Yeah, I reckon so, I was in this guy for a couple of hours the other day, , skinny fem Asian bottom and and he was damn good, a master of the art

r49, add another haiku about douching out with a shower enema attachment. Nothing says "I'm ready" like a clean rectum.

For R49:

Bottoms plan ahead,

Take the time to clean your hole,

Douche water runs clear.

Some people are naturally bottomless pits.

When a natural bottom farts, does it make a sound?

It sounds like the tintinnabulation of tiny little bells.

Bottoming was always painful for me at first, and entry was always difficult. After I relaxed though it could be very pleasurable. The advice, (and it's accurate advice) that one always reads is that you need to push out - basically using the same muscles as when you're having a BM. It's extremely counterintuitive, because the body's first instinct is to tighten the sphincter muscle against anything trying to enter. Obviously foreplay, such as licking and lubed fingers, can help too. I've been with people who seemed to be able to take dick without effort and without pain, but I could never figure out how. One of my friends swears by poppers. He bottomed occasionally for years before trying them, but he says that the difference in being able to relax is like night and day.

No, OP. There are no natural bottoms. Every bottom is an artificial bottom who was engineered in a factory.

What kind of bullshit is this dumb thread?

You have been blessed, OP. Be thankful.

so gross

When I was in high school, I loved shoving a baseball bat up my ass while jacking off. No lube no pain.

I just relaxed and it slid right in. Can't everybody do that?

Sure Troye Siivan

OP? You have to want the D.

Erm, R58? Let me advise you that if you PUSH while going to the bathroom, that is a great way to insure that you'll have hemorrhoids the rest of your life. You should never push.

The key to bottoming is:

1. You have to want to do it 2. You have to want to do it with the sexual partner you have 3. You have to train your sexual partner not to push on your anus but rather provide proper foreplay and when you're both ready, if they just rest the head of their penis on your anus and wait a moment for your anus to relax, they should be able to penetrate you painlessly

Again, you have to want it.