I have not dealt with this for a long time, and slowly some family members have “gotten over it.” Recently, I realized that some elderly members have passed the shunning along to the next generation, which has been a shock. I will survive, as I have gotten used to it. I am older, wiser, and less vulnerable to their hate. I’m surprised I even have an emotional response, but I do. There is a lot of wisdom and humor on the DL, which is why I love it here. I am genuinely curious, and hope to get some new insights. Thanks in advance…
Have you been shunned by family for being gay? How did you deal with it?
by Anonymous | reply 7 | January 18, 2022 11:49 AM |
As I have often said---and OP proves it---DL can be like a nosy neighbor or lousy date. Some guys want a "sorrow" thread to give themselves a thrill...
by Anonymous | reply 1 | January 18, 2022 7:20 AM |
Lol @ R1
by Anonymous | reply 2 | January 18, 2022 7:24 AM |
I was pretty sure my aunt and I had fallen out because I was gay. Or is it because she’s a raging, hypocritical Evangelical cunt?
Either way, it wasn’t until she recently tried to rope me back into family drama and explain that she hadn’t excised me “because (I’m) a homosexual. I have met many lovely homosexuals” that I realized, nope… I was right.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | January 18, 2022 7:57 AM |
They decided i was damned by the age of six. They didn't want me to influence their children's non-femmy behavior.
Then, one cousin transitioned, one went to prison for statutory rape, another cousin married her best army girlfriend after a tour in Iraq, and the rest of the family has opiate issues.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | January 18, 2022 8:57 AM |
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by Anonymous | reply 5 | January 18, 2022 9:03 AM |
Thank you, R5, that was perfect, and exactly what I was hoping for…
by Anonymous | reply 6 | January 18, 2022 10:27 AM |
I wasted too much of my life not seeing my sisters as homophobic. I finally couldn't deny it anymore after one of them made me realize they had been gossipping about me for years. I realized I wasn't close to my nieces and nephews because my sisters equated being gay with being a pedophile. When you finally see people for who they really are it's amazing how easy it is to no longer care what they think or say. I told them I forgave them but never wanted to see or hear from them ever again. That was 13 years ago and my life is so much better without them in it.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | January 18, 2022 11:49 AM |