How to develop thicker skin for sensitive types?

Harden My Heart by Quarterflash

Avoid people who make you feel bad, OP.

I get it op. Sometimes I can be sensitive too. I just try to step back from my feelings when it happens and TRY to re-evaluate the situation or distract myself until the feelings fade.

Work on not caring so much about what other people think of you. That goes especially for people who only see one facet of you like coworkers, casual acquaintances, etc. Easier said than done but it’s so easy to become a prisoner to what we believe we should be to others.

I’ve often asked myself this very question, OP. I’m slowly finding being more confident helps. I’ve started exercising and meditating more to achieve this. Best of luck.

exposure

embrace your inner wangsty teen

surround yourself with bitter sarcastic queens and fraus.. start judging people a little more everyday!

set yourself up for a roast!

take up boxing!

Or whatever... you know you, so you come up with the recipe

I read this too fast. I thought you were asking to develop thicker skin for sensitive nips.

For starters, avoid Datalounge? Maybe this is not the place for sensitive people?

Sweetie, I love sensitive kind.

What R8 said.

I’m a sensitive person. Tbh I get around it by having very limited expectations of others. I don’t let my guard down unless it’s someone I truly trust, and they are quite few. When people really do hurt me, more than once, I sever ties; no drama, but a door closes that will never reopen.

You need to get out more OP. Literally. The more you interact with a wide range of people, the less sensitive you become. I was a quiet, shy guy until I was reluctantly thrust into a very public-facing job where I had to deal with strangers face-to-face and be assertive. Within 6 months I found was no longer as sensitive and afraid of confrontation.

OP, become a good listener and take interest in others. Laugh more. Take more things with a grain of salt.

Lose weight and get surgery, darling.

vicious face slaps

Dialectal Behavior Therapy might help, OP. You're sensitivity is probably deep-rooted, stemming from some type of childhood trauma that was unaddressed by your parents, or perhaps caused by them.

[Quote]Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) provides clients with new skills to manage painful emotions and decrease conflict in relationships. DBT specifically focuses on providing therapeutic skills in four key areas. First, mindfulness focuses on improving an individual's ability to accept and be present in the current moment. Second, distress tolerance is geared toward increasing a person’s tolerance of negative emotion, rather than trying to escape from it. Third, emotion regulation covers strategies to manage and change intense emotions that are causing problems in a person’s life. Fourth, interpersonal effectiveness consists of techniques that allow a person to communicate with others in a way that is assertive, maintains self-respect, and strengthens relationships.

OP ultimately it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks or says to you (except your very close loved ones and on practical terms maybe your boss so you don’t get fired). But in general - who fucking cares? I used to get worked up and worried about what people would say to me and what other people thought and then I just started to realize none of it really matters. We are here for such a short amount of time. Why make the bullshit a bigger part of our narrative than it needs to be?

Also people’s behavior has very little to do with you. People act out because of their own problems and ultimately they only care about themselves. Hence the saying don’t take it personally.

Being sensitive isn’t a bad thing - it likely means you are empathetic and kind. Maybe reframe and consider it a good quality that you don’t need to change - just manage differently.

OP, if you are who I think you are, I apologize if I have hurt you feelings. Never meant to, was just frustrated that you ignored me.

I'm the same, OP. I am an introvert. I am very awkward in social situations and I am terrified of making a fool of myself, but I usually do. I get nervous a lot.

Simple don't give a fuck what people who don't matter to you say. Marie Kondo them. - if they don't bring you joy, throw them out.

There’s a time and a place for that, R21, but that’s not necessarily the best answer in this case. Many people run away from difficult people or situations without using them as opportunities to learn about their own weaknesses, and therefore will usually face the same scenarios again later. In particular, if certain events keep repeating themselves, the person may want to ask himself if there a grain of truth or wisdom in them. Better for the person to trust himself, face the situation and see what there is to learn in order to make a measured response, whether that be bolstering self-worth, setting boundaries or becoming more adept in his responses. In my view, he’ll then be better equipped to decide who and what should fuck off.

if there *is* a grain of truth

Allow cute guys to advise and inspire you.

I am a very sensitive type OP. I also suffer from self esteem issues, and have spent most of my life trying to please others- this will make you hurt even more. I've been doing better the past few years though. Things got so bad, lying awake at night because I didn't send an email to someone on time etc. I eventually said enough, and started saying no, no, no to people and invitations I didn't want. The first one or two are hard. Then you have the harsh realization that you were only ever solving someone else's headache or problem. The world is cold and it won't ever change. Be good to yourself OP, you deserve it.

OP, rub avocado oil over your skin before bed.

AVOID datalounge