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I have decided I hate that phrase.

Please stop using it.

by Anonymousreply 83January 13, 2022 6:37 PM

Ok, Rug muncher.

by Anonymousreply 1January 12, 2022 5:22 AM

I like it.

by Anonymousreply 2January 12, 2022 5:22 AM

Fuck you Eldergay, I’ll use any phrase I want, queen

by Anonymousreply 3January 12, 2022 5:23 AM

Sorry, couldn't hear you through all the hissing, OP.

by Anonymousreply 4January 12, 2022 5:23 AM

Too bad it stuck. Are you sane one who made the post a few weeks ago wanting to be called “Mantique”? Oh dear me.

by Anonymousreply 5January 12, 2022 5:27 AM

^^ Same** not sane

by Anonymousreply 6January 12, 2022 5:27 AM


by Anonymousreply 7January 12, 2022 5:30 AM

it sounds so queer!

by Anonymousreply 8January 12, 2022 5:33 AM

Oh the things he would do with that long skinny mic, r7

by Anonymousreply 9January 12, 2022 5:33 AM

Your wish is our command, OP. We shall now just call you cuntface.

by Anonymousreply 10January 12, 2022 5:37 AM

Fuck off OP. I am 55 and have earned the right to be an eldergay.

by Anonymousreply 11January 12, 2022 5:41 AM

Some queen on here was trying to be witty and referred to herself as a priceless "Mantique". First of all that is like the word name ever, it makes cringe and if someone called me a mantique, those would be fighting words.

by Anonymousreply 12January 12, 2022 5:43 AM

'Eldergay' is an awesome term.

by Anonymousreply 13January 12, 2022 5:51 AM

I’m sure op is tired of alcoholic and rightwinger too. And tired of not being able to bump threads.

by Anonymousreply 14January 12, 2022 5:59 AM

We are part of the Jungian archetype of Wise Old Man

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by Anonymousreply 15January 12, 2022 6:16 AM

The original Basement Dweller

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by Anonymousreply 16January 12, 2022 6:17 AM

OLD GAY is better. ElderGay is an obnoxious term, but Datalounge classifies everyone. And most of them are elderly. Over 70 years old. White. Gay.

This term comes from many gay mens lifelong obsession of dividing people into who they desire and who they don't. It's sad to be carry that kind of superficiality so far into maturity. So now they are proud to be "elder." Because they no longer get fucked.

If you're truly woke R16 - you should rebel against ANYONE being sidelined just because they are older.

by Anonymousreply 17January 12, 2022 6:29 AM

I’m an eldergay, but look 25. Ok, 27…

by Anonymousreply 18January 12, 2022 6:40 AM

I used to dislike it a lot, but I’ve grown to accept it.

by Anonymousreply 19January 12, 2022 6:48 AM

Oh, FFS. I’m 67. I came out in 1972 (before most folks on this board were born.). I was a “gay activist” I’m proud of the things I did that pushed acceptance of LGTBQ persons forward. So, yes, I’m an eldergay. I don’t mind the term (it’s kinda cute). I just wish we eldergays would get more credit for the things we did that makes life better today for our younger brothers and sisters.

by Anonymousreply 20January 12, 2022 6:52 AM

[quote] OLD GAY

R17 are you kidding here? no one likes to be called OLD, older maybe, but not OLD!

by Anonymousreply 21January 12, 2022 6:53 AM

I prefer SeniorQueer.

by Anonymousreply 22January 12, 2022 6:57 AM

I have a feeling, those who use "Eldergay" on DL are already eldergay adjacent themselves, really young guys are simply not in the loop yet.

by Anonymousreply 23January 12, 2022 6:58 AM
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by Anonymousreply 24January 12, 2022 7:07 AM

I do like gayling, though. Can we keep that at least?

by Anonymousreply 25January 12, 2022 7:14 AM

I prefer Éminence grise

by Anonymousreply 26January 12, 2022 7:16 AM

r11 must be Carrie from "And Just Like That"--she says that phrase in almost every episode.

by Anonymousreply 27January 12, 2022 7:22 AM

Oh fuck off Miss Karen @ r17, and die in a grease fire. I've fought for your rights and did AIDS research since before you were born. Am sadly now finding myself leading a team of scientists who are working on anti-viral therapies for COVID at a late time in my life and career when I should be playing bridge with other Eldergays in Palm Springs by the pool, or tenuously driving a Winnebago too slowly on mountain roads. We are all damned lucky to be alive, let alone enjoy certain civil rights that left some of of us with permanent scars after endless battles. You do not get to tell me what to call myself; I will tell you what time it is and will wipe my floors with your ass before your ageist shitbrain assumes that someone as old as I am is not being fucked regularly at age 61 by my Hot N' Flabby(tm) husbear (age 64) and tries to preach what vocabulary we use. It is YOU who is dividing people into categories and it is you who is falling into "superficiality" due to your insecurities about approaching age 40. Oh, the horrors, lol! Accusing people of being "woke" is a right-wing fool's errand. Am recommending that you stop watching Fox network propaganda. I am not "proud" to be an Eldergay who has severe back pain and can't find his car keys, just grateful to be alive -- despite having to share life on this planet with bigots like you.

by Anonymousreply 28January 12, 2022 7:54 AM

^ OLD GAY, whiny and WHITE. ^

I'll thank you later R28. What is it you've done again? You are far too defensive. My name ain't Karen and you don't understand a man. Maybe you never met one?

by Anonymousreply 29January 12, 2022 8:05 AM

Mantique is the best word invented in the last 5 years.

by Anonymousreply 30January 12, 2022 8:09 AM

Mantique reminds us of the old man stench!

by Anonymousreply 31January 12, 2022 8:13 AM

The old white gay men on Datalounge always sound drunk and enraged - just like R28. That's the lesson they teach us younger men. Don't be like you. Sorry.

I hope you're feeling better soon, gramps.

R17 IS woke. Not a bigot. That's exactly his point. Datalounge is site specific for bitter, racist OLD WHITE F@Gs who survived AIDS. They live in a more distant past than my 89 year old grandmother. It's not a normal way of looking at aging. Nobody is elder at 55 years old. Except on this site. DL is a bitter and superficial alternate universe. Misognist, Racist and Ageist.

Wake up, get woke.

by Anonymousreply 32January 12, 2022 8:18 AM

[quote]Datalounge is site specific for bitter, racist OLD WHITE F@Gs who survived AIDS.

[quote]DL is a bitter and superficial alternate universe. Misognist, Racist and Ageist.

On the basis of your being here R32, I will take that to mean that this applies to you.

by Anonymousreply 33January 12, 2022 1:10 PM

I like the regal tone of Eldergay.

by Anonymousreply 34January 12, 2022 1:31 PM

It’s overused. Jokes here become old fast.

by Anonymousreply 35January 12, 2022 2:15 PM

It is not a joke and has been adopted by DL.

Lots of gay men hate the word gay.

Use what you like, but please do not criticize other people's choices.

Life goes on.

by Anonymousreply 36January 12, 2022 2:25 PM

[quote]Lots of gay men hate the word gay.


by Anonymousreply 37January 12, 2022 2:26 PM

[quote]Use what you like, but please do not criticize other people's choices.

Except for ex-gays.

by Anonymousreply 38January 12, 2022 2:27 PM

Aww, are the babygays upset?

by Anonymousreply 39January 12, 2022 2:41 PM

OK we shall call you "Ohomos"

O for Old

Homos for Homosexuals

by Anonymousreply 40January 12, 2022 2:42 PM

^ Yeah, um, we got it... but thanks for the breakdown

by Anonymousreply 41January 12, 2022 2:47 PM


You didn't did you? If you did you wouldn't care, but by saying you got it, it shows that you didn't.

by Anonymousreply 42January 12, 2022 3:01 PM

“I came out in 1972 (before most folks on this board were born.)“

Gurl, most folks on this board had already sucked cock by 1972.

by Anonymousreply 43January 12, 2022 3:05 PM

[quote]I came out in 1972 (before most folks on this board were born.)

Gurl, most folks on this board had already sucked cock by 1972.

by Anonymousreply 44January 12, 2022 3:07 PM

Well, I never used it before. But now that I know you hate it, I'll make sure to.

by Anonymousreply 45January 12, 2022 3:08 PM

'Eldergay' trips off the tongue well, and is rhythmically pleasing. Seems as established now as the equally pleasing 'gayling.'

'Mantique' isn't nearly so appealing. Sounds like a try-too-hard beauty product or would-be pleasure resort.

by Anonymousreply 46January 12, 2022 3:18 PM

Gays are yas kweens, young and old.

by Anonymousreply 47January 12, 2022 3:20 PM

My eldergay loves it, so that's what I call him.

by Anonymousreply 48January 12, 2022 4:57 PM

But you are Blanche. You are!

by Anonymousreply 49January 12, 2022 5:16 PM

@r42, Yeah, we really did get it, babygay

by Anonymousreply 50January 12, 2022 5:39 PM

I'm triggered.

by Anonymousreply 51January 12, 2022 6:43 PM

Miss OP has stated her boundaries, and is telling you NOW so she won't have to tell you LATER!!!!

by Anonymousreply 52January 12, 2022 6:49 PM

"I'm triggered. "

I'm tired

by Anonymousreply 53January 12, 2022 6:53 PM

The wise old gay , that would make us wizards

by Anonymousreply 54January 12, 2022 8:51 PM

R36- The word I DON'T like is


by Anonymousreply 55January 12, 2022 8:56 PM

R43- I did not have sex with another guy until I was 23 years old- Is that late?

by Anonymousreply 56January 12, 2022 8:57 PM

^ Depends, if you die tomorrow, yeah

by Anonymousreply 57January 12, 2022 9:17 PM

R57- That was in the summer of 1989.

by Anonymousreply 58January 12, 2022 9:41 PM

^ You've been fucking for 33 years and you're worried about when you started?

by Anonymousreply 59January 12, 2022 9:48 PM

R59- I did not fuck a guy until the winter of 1997. I wasn't even attracted to him.

In the summer of 1989 before my impending FIRST time, I went to CVS and bought condoms. Just before I had sex with this butch guy from Long Island I said- I'm not into anything unsafe. I had common sense even at 23 years old. The only thing I've ever got from a guys is CRABS- twice.

by Anonymousreply 60January 12, 2022 9:52 PM

The Eldergays theme song.

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by Anonymousreply 61January 12, 2022 10:52 PM

"The only thing I've ever got from a guys is CRABS- twice. "

I hear ya, pass the A-200

by Anonymousreply 62January 12, 2022 10:56 PM

Would you prefer: Cum-belching whore?

by Anonymousreply 63January 12, 2022 11:06 PM

I like eldergay, so my opinion cancels out OP's and you're all free to use it again.

by Anonymousreply 64January 12, 2022 11:40 PM

r55, that is interesting because n the 70s the ancient Aunties who held court in their parlors and gay bars, HATED gay and asked people to call them HOMOSEXUAL. And it must be heard, as said by Quentin Crisp in the Naked Civil Servant, Overly pronouncing each syllable. Ho.Mo...Sek.shul

by Anonymousreply 65January 12, 2022 11:59 PM

^ Well, those guys are all dead now

by Anonymousreply 66January 13, 2022 12:02 AM

Would 'Broken Down Old Queen' suffice?

by Anonymousreply 67January 13, 2022 12:07 AM

I'm all in favor of certain people having their own, you know, lifestyle, but...why did they have to take the word "gay"? It's such a lovely word! They've...they've robbed the English language of a beautiful word. I...they have. I mean, now if I say to one of my friends, or one of my friends asks me, "How is your son or daughter feeling?", and I say "Oh, they're feeling gay"...it's a scandal. I've had to stop using the word altogether. Oh. So they've taken "gay" away from us. What was wrong with "pervert"?

And you can't use the word "faggot" anymore either, you...it used to be a lovely bundle of sticks. On cold winters' nights you'd throw another faggot on the fire. But now they work in restaurants, making your salads, being snotty and still expecting fifteen percent.

"Cunnilingus"? My grandfather drove one across America. With pride. He bought the first one off the lot in 1923. Oh, but now they're all gone, forgotten - the Cunnilingus, the Rambler. Oh. I suppose "Rambler" means something filthy now too, does it, does it mean something...?

Can't use the word "fisting" anymore either, oh no. No, no. But back in the forties the girls and I used to fist every Sunday afternoon. It was a knitting stitch, and a very difficult one. I made a lovely yellow afghan full of tiny, intricate fistings, that won a, that won a grand prize at a, at a jamboree. Yeah. Gave up knitting altogether, though, in 1979, finally found out what the word meant, oh no. No, no. I took that afghan with all that lovely fisting and put it up the poop-hole. Oh, that's, that's what we used to call attic. Now they're all gone, locked away, like those beautiful words.

Well, I guess I'm just supposed to fade away, in silence...or be modern and accept it. Fine. I guess I'll just have a Fuck Off.

Oh, that used to be a summer drink, you know.

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by Anonymousreply 68January 13, 2022 12:08 AM

^ It's funny now, but people were really mad that we "stole" the word "Gay"

... As if

by Anonymousreply 69January 13, 2022 12:13 AM

I like it better than Faggasaurus.

by Anonymousreply 70January 13, 2022 12:23 AM

As a teenager working in fast food, my gorgeous co-worker Connor used to whisper to me, "he's obviously a member of the faggotry".

by Anonymousreply 71January 13, 2022 12:40 AM


by Anonymousreply 72January 13, 2022 2:39 AM

OP is your name Brandon?

by Anonymousreply 73January 13, 2022 3:22 AM

I like to pronounce homosexual as homo-SEK-syoo-ul.

by Anonymousreply 74January 13, 2022 4:35 AM

You young 'uns should look up to the Eldergays and pay respects to them for creating for you a better world than the one they were born into. So every time you meet an eldergay fold your hand and say Namaste and thank you. Then lift your caftan and present hole.

by Anonymousreply 75January 13, 2022 7:41 AM

^ Yeah, that's ok... Just buy US a drink for a change

by Anonymousreply 76January 13, 2022 12:22 PM

I prefer "Granny Fag"

by Anonymousreply 77January 13, 2022 12:25 PM

I like "homosexualist."

Sounds klassy.

by Anonymousreply 78January 13, 2022 3:03 PM

Maybe we should start using British terms like Nancy Boy and Poofter

by Anonymousreply 79January 13, 2022 3:06 PM

I find its use charming in this environment.

by Anonymousreply 80January 13, 2022 3:18 PM

[quote]Maybe we should start using British terms like Nancy Boy and Poofter

Such a charming accompaniment to good old-fashioned queer-bashing, verbal and physical.

by Anonymousreply 81January 13, 2022 3:24 PM

At least it’s not ‘Old Queen!’

by Anonymousreply 82January 13, 2022 3:29 PM

The only people who hate the term are under 40 and living in desperate fear of that number.

by Anonymousreply 83January 13, 2022 6:37 PM
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