Grandson has a probably covid related illness and daughter's ASSHOLE boyfriend doesn't wear a mask

OP Probably stress related rather than COVID If his mother is anything like you sound, it's stress.

Sorry to hear this OP.

I know there are young (otherwise healthy) people who have been personally affected by Covid - through no fault of their own. It is sad.

May your grandson improve soon.

Nope, it's called this. it's an actual illness that kids are getting. my grandson is 6 and he can't walk right now, among other symptoms. They wouldn't be transferring him down to SF Childrens Hospital if it was minor.

Thanks r2. i just needed a little bit of encouragement. he's not doing well after 2 days and being transferred, on oxygen.

I would actually blame your daughter. She should have done more to protect her kid.

OMG! OP, I am so sorry. Your poor, sweet grandchildren. I am glad he is getting good medical care now.

r5 i do, but right now that's not helpful. she has been so very careful but she puts up with his shit and i don't know why. she must be dickamatized is all i can figure why she tolerates this stupid blowhard. i hate him.

hopefully this asshole drops dead. Fucking hate him and people like him too.

I am so glad you sweet grandchild is getting the medical care he needs. He can get better. Let's just focus on this. He is getting good medical care. Are you in contact with the medical doctors?

Your daughter should have drawn a line in the sand, sure, but the blame goes all on the boyfriend.

I'm assuming the boyfriend is not your grandson's father.

hopefully you grand son recovers. And she comes to her senses and kick this guy to the curb. OR drops dead.

I guess I'm going to be the dick of the thread. Sorry, because I feel bad for the OP and what he's going through. But the Mom chose the boyfriend over her kid, there is just no other way to look at this. I hope the kid gets better, but if the Mom doesn't leave the boyfriend after this then Grandpa you should sue for custody.

[R11] SHUT THE FUCK UP!

He is not the father, thankfully. i'm not in contact with the docs but my daughter keeps in constant contact with me because she knows i'm a fucking hardass on shit like this. She wouldn't have gone back to the hospital today if i hadn't told her to. Then they told her, again, for the second time, that maybe she should go home...and then all of a sudden they told her he needed to be transferred to the Children's Hospital an hour away in SF and on oxygen. This 6 year old can't walk and is very sick. I swear i want to kill her bf. this is not the first time he's put the family in danger because of his assholery.

Are you in contact with the medical doctors at SF CH? What are they saying? This is scary, but they are great doctors. Your sweet grandson will recover. This is most likely outcome.

[quote]She wouldn't have gone back to the hospital today if i hadn't told her to.

Is your daughter special or something? Seriously, what is wrong with her? I don't mean that rhetorically, I am asking a direct question.

This is everyone worst nightmare. I am so sorry for you, and also your grandson. SF CH is a great hospital.

i have no way to have contact with the docs unless she asks me to come down, which i would do in a minute. i have a good feeling all will be right but i want to fucking kill this boyfriend. my daughter has been so careful because she's a doula and has to have weekly testing to make sure she's covid-free. it's this ASSHAT that refuses to wear a mask and i KNOW this is why my grandpup has been exposed. i guess maybe she really though that kids were kind of exempt from covid.

I would plan on going there.

No, she's actually quite intelligent, but one of those new agey people that don't always listen to the actual evidence. that said, she's been masking throughout all this especially because of her trade, but allows this blowhard that helps her with her kids and grows pot but doesn't mask to be her boyfriend. it's fucking frustrating as hell.

You're totally enabling your daughter. Blaming the boyfriend is not going to fix what's broken in her.

Thanks [R2]. i just needed a little bit of encouragement. he's not doing well after 2 days and being transferred, on oxygen.

Certainly, OP.

Are you able to communicate with your daughter? How old is your grandson?

Perhaps the fact that your grandson is being transferred to SF Children’s will give her pause for thought: this is significant and your grandson is precious.

As another poster mentioned, perhaps the boyfriend is not the child’s father and does not prioritize the child?

In either case, that’s water under the bridge atm. What is important is your care/compassion for your grandson: being there in any way possible.

SF Children’s has a great reputation, and I am confident they will provide special care to the child,

Wishing you all the very best.

ETA : While writing, other posts provided helpful info. If the child has been duly impacted by Covid and said boyfriend (and Mum?) has/have been negligent there may be merit in addressing the child’s future well-being.

Focussing the family now on the health of the child; yet if the Mum continues in the pattern of elevating the preferences of the boyfriend over the needs of the child, perhaps you could seek out a larger role in the child’s life?

[quote]my grandpup

Oh boy.

Okay, so this daughter of yours has been tested regularly and never tested positive, but you think the boyfriend had it? She would have caught it, too.

You're also implying they were not vaxxed, even though she's a doula.

I'm out. Enjoy the EST, everybody.

If your daughter is a doula, then she’s also putting her livelihood and clients at risk. My brother married and had children with a woman that nobody likes (except him). That was his choice. I feel like I lost him as a family member, almost.

Wait a second, you have a grandson and (I assume) you're gay?

How? Why?

i couldn't agree with you all more. i hate her choices. i can't force them though. i just voice my opinion.

i really hope she re-evaluates her choices/life.

I would make plans to go there. But to focus on your grandson.

[quote][[R11]] SHUT THE FUCK UP!

I don't know why you're coming for me. It's an awful situation, that could have been avoided.

First thing first, focus on your grandson in the hospital. Can you take care of him when he is discharged?

as i said, she takes weekly rapid covid tests as per her job requires. she has been negative. however, as we all know, there are many false negs out there.

NOT THE POINT. the point is, i want to kill the BF. and i wish my daughter would just fucking realize he is a total loser that exposed her son to this. there are no winners here. i just want my grandson to live. :(

I’m so so sorry op. There is some good advice in this thread

was the boyfriend tested for covid? Do you know for sure it was him? Maybe recommend that he is tested (nicely)? So you know.

Oh, and yes, she was vaxxed far before i was as a frontline worker.

This is exhausting.

If she's vaxxed why does she do weekly testing? Is that a requirement for medical people? This thread is starting to wobble.

of course the asshole bf hasn't been tested. he doesn't believe in all of it. i have NO FUCKING CLUE why she keeps with this guy except he must have a huge dick. maybe now she'll see the error of her ways. he is a fucking idiot. i really want to find someway to kidnap him and scare him to shit so he will leave her, but he won't because she is his fucking meal ticket and he takes care of shit she feels like she can't handle.

the hospital should do contract tracing, esp since children are effected. Also, would not they have to be tested to get into the hospital. If i were you, I would go there.

yes, she needs to do weekly testing as a part of her job and because she is contact with babies/mamas...she needs to prove she's not a typhoid mary.

I blame YOU OP. You raised a daughter who had no common sense to the point of letting some infected Covid lowlife put your grandchild in harms way. You didn't teach her about making good choices, boundaries or putting a child first.

You raised a child that thinks getting a good fuck is more important than her own child. You taught her that.

[quote]he must have a huge dick.

Okay, you've had your fun OP. You got me.

OP, happy kid is ok. Think about how you may alienate yourself away from this kid if you keep being angry about dickheads. You don't have control over that situation

Know a person in your situation, hasn't seen the grandkid in 2 years due to disagreement with daughters husband.

At the same time, keep an eye out for serious child neglect or abuse. It doesn't sound like any of that here. Mind your own business and stay in the lives of your daughter and grandchild, fuck that guy. Be realistic.

thanks r38. that's helpful right now.

thanks, r40. that's what i've been trying to do because i'm a person who believes kids have to make their own mistakes (DESPITE WHAT YOU TAUGHT THEM). But this is a bridge too far. Once this is all over, i'm going out of my way to remove this jackass from my daughter's life. if she doesn't see it, i'll need to help her lol. it's starting to sound like the plot for "Cuckoo."

Update: he's not on oxygen. they are resting in a little pod for the night. hopefully, this will blow over with some fluids and whatever else. Going to bed.

Mary!

My suggestion is simpler, try to relax your anger and eagerness to assign blame — all to your daughter's boyfriend and none to your daughter, it would seem. The same way you overlook imperfections and in your daughter and the things she might have done differently, turn some of that toward to the boyfriend and more importantly to their relationship. Your seething hatred for for him doesn't make it easier on your daughter. I realize we are seeing things as you've drawn them and that you may be more guarded with your opinions around your daughter, still if she is smart as you say she will see through at least some of this.

You can't undo the past, you can't make your daughter see things as you do, you can't understand their relationship except from your perspective. The boyfriend suddenly putting on a mask isn't going to make things right (and I doubt you know with any certainty that the boyfriend, though he is the most visible and unpopular suspect, is in fact the cause of anything.)

Scolding and shaming and pinning blame are easy (and sometimes even fun, look around at where we are discussing this), but like jealousy they produce a good result only with extraordinary rarity. A parent's kindness when they are in a relationship with an asshole is something the child realizes and will often cite as important after they have broken off with said asshole. Being helpful and supportive to your daughter is something she can benefit from, seething under the surface about her boyfriend (and she knows that you do) and blaming him isn't helpful to her in the short term and may not be remembered as well as kindness in the long term.

Best of luck with your family.

ya'll fall for anything.

R5 Yes, again blame the woman. Cut the guy some slack, he's only a father, he shouldn't be that responsible. It's the women's job, right?

r45 thank you for your words, they are very perceptive. i have tried to do this, although, i have actually told my daughter she should limit his exposure to my grandson and have told her that BF needs to mask up from now on. i've also posted on FB without mentioning his name that people need to be responsible to others with regards to this disease.

at the same time, i haven't attacked him personally via text or social media or messaging. i'm disappointed in him as a human being. i wish there was an emoji for that or a way i could convey that he's a shit being.

for now, i care only about my grandson and my daughter. i hope he gets better. i am scared and angry and that's why i posted.

Story sounds sus, as the kids say.

Stopping a virus with a mask is like stopping mosquitos with a chainlink fence.

And then what happened was...

....they are asleep. I am staying awake all night just in case.

So are we agreed that OP is a Frau?

I mean, I hope the kid gets better and all. I'm just saying.

You are correct, r53. Along with most other posts. That's what you get when there are threads about white gurl murders.

The OP is a Frau who didnt teach her daughter how to make good decisions. Her daughter would much rather put her child at risk to boink some guy than tell him to mask up or get out. Too late now. You reap what you sow.

OP, you have no way to *know* that it was the boyfriend who infected the kid, you just really *want* it to be the boyfriend because you dislike him and think he's irresponsible.

If the boyfriend isn't sick or positive himself it's likely he wasn't the vector, it could just as easily have been someone at the kid's school or daycare, or at the park or the grocery store or at a little friend's house or wherever a child goes these days. And the fact that the boyfriend doesn't wear a mask doesn't make him automatically contagious, sometimes the disease is spread by indirect contact - touching something that someone else has coughed on and then eating food with the contaminated hand, that sort of thing. That's why hand hygiene is as important as covering faces, and why there's no certainty that it was the boyfriend's carelessness about face coverings that infected the kid.

Hopefully, the boyfriend won't want to share a home with a contagious child and will bugger off rather than risk his own health, but there's no guarantee that he'll think of that on his own (hint hint).

OP/frau here. they have ruled out a COVID-related illness and called in an Infectious Disease Specialist.

Still hate the boyfriend. Grandson is in good spirits and in the best hands.

Thanks to all that have given words of encouragement. I've come here for many years to spend time, given others encouragement. I just needed some help when it felt like I had nowhere/no one else to turn to.

Sorry if i offended anyone.

I guess nobody cares now that i've revealed i'm frau, but i was wrong...they haven't ruled out MIS-C. His WBC is low and he is still weak. :(

OP, it does not bother me that you are a frau. I still care, but a few things need to be cleared up to help determine why your daughter is still with this man. Is he handsome? Does he have BDF? When you have looked down at his crotch (and I know you have), does an inviting bulge appear? How often do you fantasize about him making love to you? Please be honest with your answers.

Why is it the boyfriend's fault? Does he have COVID? If the kid is 6 he goes to school and schools are a cesspool of childhood covid. Why blame the hung boyfriend? This thread is full of shit.

Glad to hear they ruled out covid. Hopefully, your grandson is resting and recovering. What a nightmare for you? Poor sweet baby.

Grandson licks daughter’s asshole?

Is she a drug addict? Why did you have to tell her to go visit her child in the hospital? Poor child, I’m sorry for you and your grandson OP.

OP - my thoughts and heat go out to you.

Hang in there and listen to yourself (via conscience/intuition). Do what is possible and you think is best.

Your grandson will appreciate you for this even as things seem difficult at the moment.

Keep us posted.

^*heart❤️*

Hysterical oversharing on an anonymous site requires responsible English usage, including capitalizations and punctuation.

Otherwise it's all a troll thread, OP. And who cares who in the story dies, since the story is told so poorly.

[quote] Hysterical oversharing on an anonymous site requires responsible English usage, including capitalizations and punctuation.

Funny, you sound like the hysteric, R66. Punctuation? Capitalizations? Plllleeeeaaaasssseeee.

[quote] Otherwise it's all a troll thread, OP. And who cares who in the story dies, since the story is told so poorly.

Look in the mirror, R66. You sound like a Troll: flippant about a child’s death.

Take a break. You need it.

I got bored reading this fraufest, but it sounds like the daughter wasn't vaccinated.

Who died?

R62 Kill yourself

The boyfriend will soon marry the girlfriend. The tragic events of late will have brought them, and his alleged giant cock, closer together.

OP you will not be invited to the wedding. It sounds like they are tolerating you and waiting for you to perish to be sure that they are in the will. I suggest not leaving anything to them and I certainly wouldn't want to be alone with either of them unless you have some sort of Life Alert and security cameras everywhere in your home. Don't accept any food gifts, either.

[quote]What are the chances?!

Not as high as the chances of the bf spreading the disease by touching stuff and then never washing his hands e.g. AFTER BLOWING HIS NOSE OR GOING TO THE BATHROOM EVEN IF IT'S FOR A PISS.

OP/R72, none of that will spread COVID unless he has it himself.

Has he been tested?

op how is your grandson?

Thanks for asking r74. He is still in the hospital as of tonight and his mother has been with him the entire time since they both took the ambulance transfer ride on Friday night and she hasn't left his side. I thought he was at Children's in SF, but he is at one of the CPMC skilled pediatric facilities in the City. I guess he had kind of a bad/painful night and they think it's because he did some walking around last night. We still have no diagnosis, but they've ruled a lot of things out. Earlier today, they were considering starting him on treatment for Kawasaki disease, but i guess that's been temporarily tabled and they will be trying high dose IV antibiotics first to see if that helps.

And for those that haven't read all the posts, he does NOT have COVID, his mom (my daughter) HAS had the vaccine (she got it even before i did because she's a healthcare worker), she's not infected, and she gets tested weekly because of her job.

So not much change. Thank you for checking on us.

OP, I can’t imagine how frantic you feel. Please know that many of us are sending love and hope that you’ll keep us updated.

r76 thank you for your good wishes. We are hoping for the best. Most of the tests have been great, the only thing they are really seeing in his bloodwork are all the markers for inflammation. Apparently a rash he has been presenting with is lessening, but he is still in pain which they are keeping on top of with pain meds.

Best of luck to the kid and his whole family, OP!

BTW, have you stopped being convinced this is all the boyfriend's fault? I mean, I'm perfectly willing to believe he's a dirtbag, but that doesn't mean he made the kid sick.

Yeah, I stopped blaming him and am glad that he has been ferrying back and forth between the city (we live about an hour and a half north of city), bringing my daughter clean clothes, etc. There's no way I can prove anything anyways, especially since we don't even know have a diagnosis yet. If it turns out that he has MIS-C (multisystem inflammatory syndrome in children), I might end up back to being annoyed with him for his lack of appropriate masking etc.

But right now, i'm just focusing on the positive.

If the boyfriend is hot, then we must forgive him for his trespasses.

Did he lick your asshole?

OP, ignore the shitstains on this thread. Please do keep us updated. Glad it's not COVID, and glad the boyfriend is being helpful.

Maybe after the dust clears both he and your daughter will realize they need to take responsible precautions to protect the child in their care. Especially with some kind of inflammatory disorder, that will mean ensuring he doesn't get COVID, which any competent medical professional will agree means getting all adults in the home vaccinated. Good luck.

You all die anyway. Six or 86, who cares about some rando crotchfruit?

Thanks, r82 :)