Annoying Popular Phrases and Expressions

“My dude,” we just had a new thread on this topic like two months ago! That’s okay, we can do it again.

My dude.

Prayer warriors.

Bro!

Veggies

Fruit and veg

Artisanal

Curated

#instagay

#legacybuilder

#king

Bops

[x] is goals

#guncle

and, of course, “passed” instead of “died”?

Couples who refer to each other as "Babe"

Using “totes” instead of very

Saying you are “over the moon” the about something

"Friendly reminder that..."

"You got this" (never sounds sincere, sounds like the person saying it wants to be praised for thinking of others.)

“Come correct” on dating profiles

"No fucks to give."

Anyone who says this ought to be drawn and quartered.

“I love you to the moon and back”

[quote] Saying you are “over the moon” the about something

[quote] “I love you to the moon and back”

I love you to the moon and back, and I'm over the moon.

Can't get my head around it

I don't have the bandwidth

"My husbear"

“Come correct” is such an odd one; thank god it’s not used any more than it is. One of the first times I heard it was in the Brett Dennen song “Sydney” in 2011, which is very late. And I’m not a spring chicken, either.

Reaching out with literall violence.

"off the grid"

"sea change"

"double-down"

"starring The Kardashians"

"pandemic"

All of them.

Cartching the feels

"It's a Bop!"--Some dumb frau somewhere

I love you to the moon and back is white trash.

What does "come correct' mean? That one is new to me.

I see you.

I feel seen.

"We're" pregnant

Feeling “unsafe”

R20 Also some hideous moonfaced gaptoothed fat snow queen in Brooklyn who likes to say something is 🔥.

Lean in. Kween Because this. Because that. Sharing my journey Living my truth You do you

This things are all so... cringe.

Come correct = no bs

I hate when people are described as "folks".

R1 Let’s mix it with “Grammatical and spoken errors that make my blood boil”!

R4 “passed” instead of “past”: “He walked passed me.”

The world's greatest passed time.

Writing her truth.

Saying his truth.

Oh god R31, YES! Can't stand the whole "your truth" thing. People use it as an excuse to decide they can have their own facts, half the time.

An asshole comment followed by “Just sayin”.

No one really knows (usually describes facts that are)

Ya'll

Literally

Social distancing

[quote] and, of course, “passed” instead of “died”?

Ha! R4 This was one of the examples Paul Fussell used in "Class" to describe the different ways upper middle class and working class people spoke.

UMC said "died" "pregnant" etc., while middle class said "passed" "in a family way" and other euphemisms.

The book was written in the 1980s, but I am sure it is still true today.

People above me sound like they are on the path to severe depression and ketamine is their only hope.

“Because ___”

That may not be clear the way I wrote it, but you know it when you hear it - ie The LensCrafters commercial “Because sight.” Ughhhh that is by far the most annoying commercial slogan of all time, I get ragey (which I realize is another annoying term, but really nothing comes close).

“Unironically”. It’s the new “literally” esp. for Reddit users.

No joy.

[quote] "You got this" (never sounds sincere, sounds like the person saying it wants to be praised for thinking of others.)

Another fake concern phrase I can’t stand is “no one should have to/no one deserves ___”

The optics are bad.

Contradicting someone by starting the sentence with ‘Oh honey…’. So bloody patronising. Far too much of it on this site.

"deep dive"

“Build back better.” I support the intention but the phrasing is irritating.

I agree with R38 about the "because ___" nonsense, but I think Jimmy John's is worse with "Because Sandwich."

“Begs the question.”

I don’t know if I’ve ever heard it used correctly. It does NOT mean that a question is crying out to be asked.

"I don't disagree."

So...you agree? Or what? Are you fucking Switzerland?

R48 I can’t say I’m not guilty of that one.

For those of us who have seen our parents die in front of our eyes, the words die and death trigger the memory of those experiences. The phrase “passed” is easier to hear and doesn’t sting as much.

I am fucking sick of people who are unable to say anything without beginning with "I mean... "

When this start anyway??

R48 Litote Fields would not disapprove

Everything about "begs the question," including what r47 didn't tell us.

"This is not okay!"

"I get it"

Re: R53, I still don’t understand what that phrase means, which is why I never use it. Maybe it’s the brain fog from my sinus infection, but I’m having a really hard time discerning the difference between “a question is crying out to be asked” and what the phrase is actually supposed to be saying.

Ditto, r55. I have never heard anyone use "begs the question" except in the more common manner.

Love, r53

"lived experience" "People experiencing homelessness" "People who menstruate"

^^^ Also: "unhoused." Sounds like they're trying to decide between the three-bedroom ranch and the four-bedroom Colonial.

Literally

Because goals

"So...this happened!"

R60 yes! And "So, I did a thing..." followed by something the person thinks is funny or creative or 'so out there!'

R11: this is terrible to share, but it’s also DL, so I will. When my sister was dying in the hospital (long story) and the plug was finally pulled, one of her kids, obviously and understandably in great trauma, kept repeating that phrase to her over and over and over. It went on for so long, the repetition of that goddamn phrase, that I finally had to leave the room to clear my head and re-evaluate my mood and actions. Anyway, I fucking HATE that phrase.

LMFAO, R62!

"y'all" when used by people who are neither southern nor black. You sound dumb!

R64: I’m guessing that the phrase “All y’all” would send you into an irrecoverable state of apoplexy.

But, you’ve stated your boundaries and we’ve all been told now so we don’t have to be told later, so I’ll drop the subject.

Awesome. I inwardly wince whenever anybody uses this by now trite word. Although I am not blameless, as I have used the word groovy for 50+ years. I tried using the word fab, but people heard 'fag' instead, wh. has an entirely different meaning. I didn't want to be known as somebody who was always talking about starting a fire.

"Contradicting someone by starting the sentence with ‘Oh honey…’. So bloody patronising. Far too much of it on this site."

Oh, honey. Did you ever pick the wrong site.

R62, if you are neither southern nor black, yes, that would send me into "an irrecoverable state of apoplexy." Thanks for checking in!

Content creator

Influencer

"Put food on the table." Less people eat that way now, the 50's are over.

[quote]Less people eat that way

Oh, dear!

“Have a blessed day.” I hate that phrase and I am religious.

Tighter than a two year old.

Tap a kidney.

Drain a vein.

R70 has worn grooves with her elbows into every table, counter or bar she's sat at.

A low person.

"The tea" is starting to annoy me. It seems everyone is desperate to jam that term into every possible sentence to sound like they know shit.

R68: what if I’m a former resident of the south? May I still use “y’all” in my every day vernacular, even if I never picked up a southern accent, never adapted in any way to southern culture, and recently realized that I never, ever think about, miss any part of, or yearn to go back to the south after living there for 25 long fucking years? Or is that frowned upon?

Thanks, sweetie, and enjoy this giant fetid bowl of boiled peanuts I brought you, while I prattle on about my church and how much you’d love it and how you really should go with me this Sunday because it’s incredible and it’s nothing like the 900 other churches that are in this lil town, even though you’ve told me several times you aren’t religious and absolutely aren’t interested.

R77, then yes, you are permitted to use it.

R76, I can no longer stand the image of people sipping on drinks like they're so above whatever it is they are talking about/is going on around them.

This behaviour, like "yas kween!" and things of that ilk I just find so obnoxious.

"y'all", makes me laugh

I kinda think "y'all" or something like it, is necessary. We got rid of our second person singular and use the plural for everything. I think the fact so many people use words like "y'all" or "youse" etc show a need to have a singular and a plural.

[quote] "The tea"

I'll take things straight men never say for $400, please Mayim

[quote] [R76], I can no longer stand the image of people sipping on drinks like they're so above whatever it is they are talking about/is going on around them.

I know what you mean, and I’d also add that pouty, quasi-Debbie Downer look that people use to signal disapproval/dismissal of something. Especially when used by young SJWs online who are reacting to some microaggression.

I think y'all and folks (ugh) are on the increase because it's oh so very sexist to say "you guys." The horror.

“Step up”, “Stepping down”, “due diligence” “

I hate when people do the " ,no? " thing. It's usually idiots who are trying to sound smart. Like Kyle Richards did it a couple of times this season.

Anything that involves spilling tea.

Am I wrong, or does a lot of what is annoying people above come from drag culture? I would say drag culture is pretty obnoxious at the best of times. Maybe tolerable for 20 minutes on a Saturday night at a show, but outside in real life?

Also, it seems to have made so many people so cruel to each other; everyone desperate to get in a "clever" line and tear someone else down. Who can be bothered?

I really cannot fathom why “folks” (or its heinous cousin, “folx”) is on the increase. Who exactly is it meant to include instead of exclude? Because you know damn well it’s about “inclusivity” somehow. You can tell because you see it in the online activist communities.

Folx might be meant in an attempt to be inclusive way, but folks has been used for years.

I fucking hate "folks" too. I can't explain why though. It's too frendly a term to describe people in general I guess. I have no idea why the woke brigade uses it so often.

“In these trying times”

This ☝️

Latinx. Anyone who uses that loses points.

[quote] Folx might be meant in an attempt to be inclusive way, but folks has been used for years.

Right, but why has, as R91 called them, the woke brigade started using “folks” like it’s the new, more inclusive form of “people”? “Folks,” not even “folx.”

[quote] Latinx. Anyone who uses that loses points.

Any time you see someone use that term, it is imperative that you respond with “Okay, COLONIZER.”

Yeah, I can't answer that R95. I'm progressive and believe in social justice as I term it, but I'm not really part of that gang at the same time, and find a bit to criticise about the movement as it currently stands too.

R96 haha, please let that take off. There is something so insulting about Americans thinking they need to fix other languages because of their own poor understanding of what grammatical gender actually is.

There are some expressions that are undoubtedly annoying but I still use quite a bit because they’re just important for me. Like “being present” - I think that’s something a lot of us need to do a hell of a lot more, so even if a lot of annoying people say it, I’m glad it’s part of our lexicon.

The hashtag #fact.

As a hispanic guy, I cringe everytime I hear latinx. It's just some bullshit made up word by some ivy leaguer who knows maybe 4 words in spanish and wants to coin the term so people can pat themselves on the back for using it. Hispanic is already geneder neutral anyway, but nope, they have to have their fancy little word that stands out like a rotten thumb from the spanish language.

Yes—agree. Latinx is a solution to a problem thar doesn’t exist.

Anyone watch Emily in Paris? They had their own "latinx" moment when Emily declared "Le vagin n'est pas masculin!" and got heaps of praise (hilariously from Brigitte Macron and Carla Bruni! Hahaha, what the fuck, was Carla like: Oh Brigitte, quelqu'un m'a dit que le vagin n'est pas masculin! and Brigitte was like: Ouais! Super!). But it was such an American idea of what grammatical gender is. Emily was so proud of herself though!

Getting the jab. Really annoying term for vaccination.

Writ large. Every pundit on the air these days uses it at least once per interview. Sometimes I think pundits are more like sheep than the general public (or, as the pundits would say, the public writ large)

This is probably over 10 years ago but whenever I hear "win-win situation" I just want to punch them in the throat.

R89, it's because it's "gender neutral" and doesn't offend anyone. Don't forget, there is that .000001% chance that the person you talk to is not part of the gender binary.

I do wonder how much latinx is used in Spanish speaking countries. My friends from other Spanish speaking countries think it’s dumb as fuck. Seems like mostly a thing amongst people of Hispanic descent, but English is their primarily language. Most Spanish speakers from a Hispanic countriy don’t consider the masculine gender neutral sexist.

R103, I am from a Latin American country and I don't think people know of the Latinx term here. Though we do have some crazy wahoo feminists trying to de gender the language by changing the masculine "o" ending of words to the gender neutral "e". For example, niño to niñe , etc. What's hilarious is that they only change the masculine words, not the feminine ones. Cuz men don't deserve a gender apparently.

Nut/nuttin'.

As in, "I'm nuttin' in your butt."

Nut seems to be a term particular to Americans, we don't use it here, but I find it kind of cute. I saw a video with a guy jerking off another guy and being amazed at the "size of his nut" after he helped him shoot it all over the ground. I saw another video with a guy fucking a girl and his mates messing with him and he yelled: "I'm trying to get my nut here!"

Seems to have a few various ways it can be used.

"Winner, Winner Chicken Dinner!" and "All The Feels".

R108 i feel like it’s people who speak the language, but done have the cultural awareness/connection to grasp the neutral masculine is just that.

Going forward

As well

Because…all the feels!

“Manifest”-used all the time, ugh.

“Do life together”.

“Mama Bear”

^Ugh! Good one R116! Also translated as: "This is my excuse to do whatever I want without thinking of others!"

"Curate," meaning, I'm gonna shop and add another ___ to my collection of whatever.

"Vet," meaning, I'm gonna Google this guy's name and look at the first two pages of hits.

“Fur baby.”

I too am with R55. The phrase makes no sense to me no matter how many definitions I read. I think it's still in use because pretentious twats love to use it. Incorrectly, I suspect.

"over the rainbow bridge" to describe the death of a pet

LGBTQ or any variations like LGBTQIA++

I am a gay male. I am not LGBTQ. I am not lesbian, bi, trans, or queer.

#

I mean...some of you are reaching, no?

I came in to take advantage of the DL hive mind wisdom and find out which tired and annoying phrases I should stop using. Now I see if I listen to you bitches, I won't be able to open my mouth at all! Y'all so tired and annoying.

“Baby Bump”

"It is what it is."

"My Bad"

"Bouji"

I find the use of " My bad" Instead of an apology to be very sneaky.

Using "gross" to describe someone or someon's behavior that you don't like--"her views on racial equity are just gross!."1000 fraus have probably posted that on reddit alone.

[quote] 1000 fraus have probably posted that on reddit alone.

Gross!

[quote] because it's oh so very sexist to say "you guys."

Fuck that. Guys, I'll keep saying "you guys" as long as I want to.

[quote] "Bouji"

First of all, it's "bougie", and I love it.

I don't hear "My bad" that much anymore.

Regarding baby bump and other loathsome phrases, ever watch the movie Sensitivity Training? One of the main characters tirades on her least favorite expressions, and it's hilarious...

I'd like to get "y'alls opinion".

Or even worse: I'd like to get "your guy'ses" opinion.

I hear this from newscasters!

R110, "nut" is black American slang. I've never heard a white guy say it except humorously.

It is not as ubiquitous among African Americans, however, as "Shit," which is almost universal at the moment of impending orgasm. Well, ejaculation, because withholding overt signs of pleasure also is nearly ubiquitous among my brothers.

R135, I think "spunk" is even worse than "nut".

[quote]"nut" is black American slang.

I thought it was gay American porn slang.

Those videos I mentioned above, it was all white guys using the word nut.

Bougie is the most ironic thing. Used by people thinking they're meaning fancy, when bourgeois means 'belonging to or characteristic of the middle class, typically with reference to its perceived materialistic values or conventional attitudes.'

Deep Dive

So cringe

Some of these are reaching - “gross” is a suddenly annoying popular phrase? I’m pretty sure my grandmother used it.

Beyond, as in “I am beyond grateful” Humbled and honoured My, your, her, his truth Lived experience (is there another kind?) Ask as a noun Trans-competent

R137, not in my experience, but of course your sample size probably is larger than mine and therefore more accurate.

"Nut" is used by straight black guys, I know, but I've heard it only with conversations among men, not with how they speak in sexual situations. And nothing is meant pejoratively here. I've just found it "annoying" in my own experience.

"internet sleuths"

[quote] Some of these are reaching - “gross” is a suddenly annoying popular phrase? I’m pretty sure my grandmother used it.

Annoying only when used in certain ways. E.g., "I find his views on ____ to be very gross."

I doubt that it's only fraus who use the word "gross" in this way.

"Have a good rest of your day!"

When did we become so literal that "have a good day" doesn't suffice?

How are you?

Did you shit?

Can I have your baked potato?

Narrative

Unpack

To drop an album or movie (always makes me think of turds)

"sis"

My album drops next Friday

"I'm just going to leave this here..."

I can’t even

What does that even mean???!!

"I'm humbled ..."

I don't think people really know what it means to be humbled.

"No problem" rather than, "You're welcome" when used by anyone in a service-type position responding to a customer saying, "Thank you". It's your fucking JOB. 'No problem' sounds like a trite, stupid response.

"No problem" is the American way of saying :"Thanks are not needed".

You're the reason there is a labor shortage. Yes. You personally.

[quote] Well, ejaculation, because withholding overt signs of pleasure also is nearly ubiquitous among my brothers.

It was quite strange learning of this phenomenon. All of a sudden and without any sign a brother will just finish. No O-face whatsoever.

I’ve noticed black guys being basically expressionless during orgasms, too. Not sure how I feel about that, when I’m getting off with them. It almost “begs the question”… “So, was that good for you, or …?”

I remember when it was primarily black guys who would say it, but it spread to white guys, like so much of black culture does, and now it’s just mainstream among young people. I’ve even seen motherfucking GIRLS use it to refer to their own orgasms. WTF?! You have no “nut,” nor “nuts”, and you’re not “nutting,” you ignorant sluts. I’ve also seen them say they’re participating in “No-Nut November.” Which, first of all, fuck anyone who declares they’re gonna hold off on orgasming for a whole goddamn month — what is the point? If anything, it has a deleterious effect on one’s health to not cum. But girls doing it? Huh? Fuck off!

“Creamy nut” (or “that creamy nut”) is the absolute worst iteration of all.

[quote] I remember when it was primarily black guys who would say it,

Sorry, this was supposed to read “who would say ‘nut’” — which you probably surmised from the rest of the rant.

"Fam" instead of "family."

The man-children on reddit occasionally use "my friend" in the same context as my dude. It's infuriating. I hate the faux-casual way the bros communicate on that site.

“I can’t even.”

When people use the word “literally” when they literally mean figuratively.

I'm not bothered by the misuse of literally because language is flexible and always changing. If you understood someone then it shouldn't matter if they're using the word properly.

R165, wrong thread.

suck it up, buttercup

it sounds so stupid, and the most white trashy people use it

R143 is correct. "Nut" is one of many words from the world of hip-hop that have slipped its way into the American zeitgeist.

Also? ZEITGEIST

[quote]I’ve noticed black guys being basically expressionless during orgasms, too.

Oh, man, this is a real shame.

I still hope to put in some good hours doing my own research in this area sometime, though.

[quote]Also? ZEITGEIST

r168 I first saw the word "zeitgeist" in print in one of Erica Jong's first two novels, "Fear of Flying" or "How to Save Your Own Life," in which she called a character "amanuensis to the zeitgeist." HTSYOL was published in 1977, which date may precede its use in hip-hop.

"for shits and giggles"

r154 That one drives me crazy too! People use "humbled" when they're actually tooting their own horn.

"Cool beans". I use it sometimes too and I hate myself for it.

“Language is flexible and always changing”

Common defense of the grammatically challenged.

Jab sounds barbaric. And stupid. Having a wee sounds stupid, too. I also hate the prayer warriors and their 'prayers going up' bullshit. As if they are manning a giant catapult.

[quote] I'm not bothered by the misuse of literally because language is flexible and always changing.

I'm not bothered by it either and basically view it as a form of hyperbole. I'm reminded that MadTv used to have a running comedy sketch on the use of the word.

Some things aren’t worth worrying about, but when someone trots out the pathetic “language always evolves” excuse, it just makes me think they have no standards or tastes.

Not ALL change is good, for fuck’s sake.

From a big white boy, for the nut dispute.

“Teasing” a new movie, TV show or album.

I think that Mail Online is responsible for this atrocity.

"Varieties of English are as old as the language itself. In fact, the idea of a correct or proper way of to speak is surprisingly recent."

Robert MacNeil - The Story of English, Part 1.

Both you and Robert MacNeil can lick my butthole, R180.

Is that really a threat on a gay site, R181? Hehehe.

I was at a course today and all I could think of was eating ass. There were some gorgeous blokes sitting at the next table. And I don't even particularly like to do it!

R170 WAIT... Do you think they actually use "Zeitgeist" in hip-hop? HA.

"I mean..."

“Nom” instead of “nomination”. Especially “Oscar nom”.

Bump.

“Hate on”.

Good one.

“The right side of history”.

To tick up. Covid infection are now “ticking up”

My truth

An existential threat

That's a lot to unpack

Snowflake

"You keep on doing you...."

"I was gonna say....!!"

"THIS...."

"...You're welcome!"

"We been knew"

"It's a BOP!!!"

[quote] "We been knew"

What does this mean?

R197, it's basically black slang for "we knew".. But now, I'm seeing this all over twitter, even from people in developing countries.

R174, you are correct. The Ignorant Prevail

....

I find the total dependence on spellcheck annoying.

“Apart” and “a part” are not the same “Everyday” and “every day” are not the same “Eachother”, “atleast” and “asmuch” are not words.

Tell me about it.

“Hard pass”

"Woke" whether used ironically, unironically, as an insult or as a good thing.

R201. I will freely admit that my spelling has gotten so much worse with spellcheck. I used to be an excellent speller but not anymore.

You know you can turn spellcheck off, don’t you?

"louder for those in the back" "I don't know who needs to hear this but..." "....and we're here for it"

Kitchen table issues.

Punching down.

This will put money in their pockets.

A lot of YouTube self-improvement influencers" (AKA social climbers) are saying "level up." Mainly used in video games/RPGs, but now applied to real life. Ugh.

Other stupid expressions (some of which have already been mentioned):

"It's vintage ____." No bitch, we're not talking about wine. It's just [italic]used[/italic].

"____ is goals, yo!"

"gave me all the feels"

"I'm shook."

"that sounds sus"

"clout chaser"

"my bae"

"my fam"

"glow up"

"on fleek"

"beat by the gods"

"that wig is snatched"

"not gonna lie"

This implies that the speaker usually lies, but is making an exception here.

"Have a blessed day." Used most often in the south.

R72, see you already posted that. Missed it earlier.