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Would you hire an escort?

We had a debate about it over dinner Sunday night - a bunch of guys... edging (no pun intended) toward our Golden Girls years. Opinion was split between why not, why ever and I could see it but then again...

Personally I have no moral problem with it - maybe I should, but I don't. These days it's like Uber to me. My only consideration against the idea were practical... who needs herpes etc. Counter opinion was STI, D, whatever you call it can be caught anywhere but I counter with volume increases risk.

It was, nonetheless, a spirited discussion... so throwing it out here (again, recognizing it's not a new topic.)

by Anonymousreply 13October 18, 2021 8:31 PM

Who voted have and regret it? Why? Now that's interesting.

I don't know how escorts do it. Getting it up on demand instead of out of interest.

by Anonymousreply 1October 4, 2021 8:04 PM

I have no problem with people who do and guys who make bank off of it, but personally I want whoever I'm having sex with to want to be having sex with me. I know some people like the dynamic of paying for it and the person having to do it regardless of whether they want to, but if the dude I'm with isn't into me then I'm not into it.

by Anonymousreply 2October 4, 2021 8:08 PM

For me as a 56 year old, it’s appealing as a means for accessing physical beauty I couldn’t otherwise obtain. That said I think the idea of it is usually better than the actual encounter. I’ve hired escorts about 7 times over 18 years. Of those hires, I think I’d categorize two as being fully sexually hot and worth it. The worst was with a couple of guys who basically jerked me off ASAP and tried to show me the door without engaging in much of anything. Got the sense afterward they were straight dude scammers. The most disappointing was a super handsome and incredibly built closeted American bi guy who had just returned to the States after a short career as a basketball pro in China. He was just starting out supplementing his income with escorting. He hadn’t invested in viagra and was not attracted to me so he couldn’t get hard. When I was his age I wouldn’t have wanted to fuck me either.

by Anonymousreply 3October 4, 2021 8:19 PM

"It was, nonetheless, a spirited discussion."

Miss OP and her friends make up a modern-day Algonquin Round Table.

by Anonymousreply 4October 4, 2021 9:43 PM

[quote]I have no problem with people who do and guys who make bank off of it, but personally I want whoever I'm having sex with to want to be having sex with me.

I'm with R2. Nothing against it but it's not for me. I want the connection of knowing we both want to do this same thing, whether it's five hours of wild sex or a furtive five minute blowjob. It's not a romantic need for an emotional connection, it's more a need a crude, mutual, animal desire.

by Anonymousreply 5October 4, 2021 9:59 PM

What’s the fine in the U.S. for soliciting a male prostitute?

by Anonymousreply 6October 4, 2021 10:03 PM

Is it unreasonable to ask an escort if he's on prep or what his testing frequency is?

by Anonymousreply 7October 18, 2021 7:28 PM

I find the dynamic weird. You have someone who is pretending that they want to have sex with you. A good vibrating dildo and decent lube is better. At least I can keep my self esteem.

by Anonymousreply 8October 18, 2021 7:46 PM

[quote]I want the connection of knowing we both want to do this same thing, whether it's five hours of wild sex or a furtive five minute blowjob.

That's the thing. What qualifies for satisfying sex for gay men varies so greatly. After reading the total top thread that is rolling around here somewhere, you can see that some guys only want to be servile and give head, others want get fucked, some people need romance etc. Some of these transactions are easier than others. So in regards to easily paying someone to get what you need, there is no one answer, it totally depends on the person.

by Anonymousreply 9October 18, 2021 7:57 PM

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by Anonymousreply 10October 18, 2021 8:20 PM

I paid for sex under some maybe unusual circumstances. The transactional nature of the encounter was liberating and made me feel more powerful and "in control" than I have felt in more spontaneous situations.

But paying for it just isn't the same. He wasn't a guy I would have been drawn to IRL. He was just there to satisfy a need. Once and only once. After it was over, I was done being curious.

by Anonymousreply 11October 18, 2021 8:30 PM

The pickings are slim, even though I'm nestled between a Big Ten college town and major city. I'd consider finding a good one if I visited Miami/Ft. Lauderdale area. HOT LATIN MEN!

by Anonymousreply 12October 18, 2021 8:31 PM

“but I counter with volume increases risk.”

Maybe, but I think the average paying client is probably more healthy overall than your average grindr slore.

by Anonymousreply 13October 18, 2021 8:31 PM
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